Madame Noire recently posed
an interesting question. Is breaking up with friends harder
than breaking up with your man? >> [LAUGH] >> Writer Brande Victorian says, one thing that makes it difficult breaking
up with friends is is that sometimes it doesn't feel quite right to tell a friend,
I don't want to mess with you anymore. Unlike romantic relationships where you
can often pinpoint some concrete violation of trust, that renders
the person no longer dateable. So do you guys think it's harder to
break up with someone you're dating or someone who's your friend. What has been your experience?
>> It's way harder to break up with someone you're dating, cuz when you break
up with a friend, you don't need to tell them, you just stop calling back.
>> [LAUGH] >> [APPLAUSE] >> For real, come on now. >> [APPLAUSE] >> Okay, I'm at my later thirties now, and I'm getting to a place where my
squad is getting real minimal now. I have quality over quantity. And I don't think you owe somebody
a reason to just start kind of distancing yourself. I don't know if it's something I'm just
going through, but I don't think I need to tell you officially that I think-
>> I don't have to tell that to a man if I'm dating him.
>> [CROSSTALK] >> I'm no ghost. >> Okay, there probably are partners you can do that with, but with a girlfriend,
I think girls get up to in their feelings. >> So what do you do if the person keeps calling you, or texting you?
>> Have you heard of the Irish goodbye?
>> No, what's that? >> Where you leave a party and you don't tell anybody? You do it in real life, goodbye.
>> I don't cut it off, like that. I kinda slowly ease them out.
>> That's an Irish goodbye.
>> They start missing the birthday parties, they don't get an invite.
>> Yes, or if they keep calling or texting, sometimes they ask,
well, are we gonna hang out? I feel like I'm stalking you or
whatever, and I nicely say, I'm just busy.
>> But do you feel at some point in time, sometimes you have to eventually say,
hey, guys- >> It's not working out. >> Is not working out, like, I am just moving on.
>> If they honestly, for me, because I think I'm naturally
a very considerate human being. If I feel like it is hurting them
that I'm not their friend anymore, then I will say listen, look,
we've just grown apart, I have my family. I'm so sorry,
I'm not able to spend that time with you. If, if they really need that answer, because there are some people out there
that don't like unfinished business. And I would've to be honest-
>> And you're one of them. >> I'm one of them. >> Okay.
