How Emotionally Healthy Are You?

one way of assessing how emotionally damaged we might be is to identify a range of markers of emotional health and imagine how we fare in relation to them at least four central themes suggest themselves firstly self-love self-love is the quality that determines how much we can be friends with ourselves and day to day remain on our own side when we meet a stranger who has things we don't how quickly do we feel ourselves pitiful and how long can we remain assured by the decency of what we have and are when another person frustrates or humiliates us can we let the insult go able to perceive the senseless malice beneath the attack or we left a brooding and devastated implicitly identifying with the verdict of our enemies how much can the disapproval or neglect of public opinion be offset by the memory of the steady attention of a few significant people in the past in relationships do we have enough self-love to leave an abusive Union or are we so down on ourselves that we carry an implicit belief that harm is all we deserve in a different vein how good are we at apologizing to a lover for things that may be our fault how rigidly self-righteous do we need to be can we dare to admit mistakes or does an admission of guilt or error bring us too close to our background sense of nullity in the bedroom how clean and natural or alternatively disgusting and sinful to our desires feel might they be a little odd but not for that matter bad or dark since they emanate from within us and we are not wretches at work do we have a reasonable well grounded sense of our worth and so feel able to ask for and properly expect to get the rewards with jus can we resist the need to please others indiscriminately are we sufficiently aware of our genuine contribution to say sometimes no Kanda Kanda determines the extent to which difficult ideas and troubling facts can be consciously admitted into the mind soberly explore and accepted without denial how much can we admit to ourselves about who we are even if or especially when the matter is not especially pleasant how much do we need to insist on our own normality and wholehearted sanity can we explore our own minds and look into their darker and more troubled corners without flinching overly can we admit to folly Envy sadness and confusion around others how ready are we to learn do we need always take a criticism of one part of us as an attack on everything about us how ready are we to listen when valuable lessons come in painful guises communication can we patiently and reasonably put our disappointments into words that more or less enable others to see our point or do we internalize pain acted out symbolically or discharged it with counterproductive rage when other people upset us do we feel we have the right to communicate or must we slam doors and retreat into sulks when the desired response isn't forthcoming do we ask others to guess what we've been too angrily panicked to spell out or can we have a plausible second go and take seriously the thought that others are not merely being nasty in misunderstanding us do we have the inner resources to teach rather than insist trust how risky is the world how readily might we survive a challenge in the form of a speech a romantic rejection about a financial trouble a journey to another country or a common cold how close are we at anytime to catastrophe what material are we made of will new acquaintances like or wound us if we're a touch assertive will they take it or collapse will unfamiliar situations end in a debacle around love how tightly do we need to cling if they're distant for a while will they return how controlling do we need to be can we approach an interesting-looking stranger or move on from an unsatisfying person do we overall feel the world to be wide safe and reasonable enough for us to have a legitimate shot at a measure of can or must we settle resentfully for inauthenticity and misunderstanding it isn't our fault or in a sense anyone else's that many of these questions are so hard to answer in a positive direction but by entertaining them we are at least starting to know what kind of shape our psychological wounds have and so what kind of bandages might be most necessary if you liked this film please subscribe to our Channel and click the bell icon to turn on notifications if you want to learn more about self-knowledge follow the link on your screen now to see our range of books games and gifts all about self-knowledge

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Length: 5min 14sec (314 seconds)

Published: Tue Nov 21 2017