How to Process Your Emotions

it's a quirk of our minds that not every emotion we carry is fully acknowledged understood or even truly felt there are feelings that exist in an unprocessed form within us a great many worries may for example remain disavowed and uninterpreted and manifests themselves as powerful directionless anxiety under their sway we may feel a compulsive need to remain busy fear spending any time on our own or cling to activities that ensure we don't meet what scares us head-on these activities might include internet pornography tracking the news or exercising compulsively a similar kind of disavowal can go on around hurt someone may have abused our trust made us doubt their kindness or violated our self-esteem but we're driven to flee a frank recognition of an appalling degree of exposure and vulnerability the hurt is somewhere inside us but on the surface we are dropped a brittle good cheer jolliness being sadness that doesn't know itself we numb ourselves chemically or else we adopt a carefully nonspecific tone of cynicism which masks the very specific wound that's been inflicted on us we pay dearly for our failure to process our feelings our minds grow unoriginal from a background fear about their contents we grow depressed about everything because we cannot be sad about something we can no longer sleep insomnia being the Revenge of all the many thoughts we've omitted to process in the day we need compassion for ourselves we avoid processing emotions because what we feel is so contrary to our self-image so threatening to our society's ideas of normality and so at odds with who we would really like to be an atmosphere conducive to processing emotions would be one in which the difficulties of being human were warmly recognized and charitably accepted we fail to know ourselves not out of laziness or casual neglect it simply hurts a lot processing emotions requires good friends two deft therapists and ritual moments like philosophical meditation in which our normal defenses can safely be put aside an unfamiliar material ring-fenced for investigation the outcome of processing our emotions is always an alleviation in our general mood but first we must pay for our self-awareness with a period of mourning in which we gradually acknowledge that in some area or other life is simply a lot sadder than we would want it to be we publish new thought-provoking films every week be sure to subscribe to our Channel and take a look at more of what we have to offer at the link on your screen now

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Length: 3min 24sec (204 seconds)

Published: Thu Sep 07 2017

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I needed this today. Thank you

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In social life, we can feel the presence of Emotional Intelligence in a sensitivity to the moods of others and in a readiness to grasp the surprising things that may be going on for them beneath the surface. What is Emotional Intelligence? -5:28

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The bad first draft that's the most valuable thing and so that's what you need a bad first draft of yourself and there's an idea that Young developed about the trickster and the Jester, the commedian right that the trickster is the precursor to the savior. Jordan Peterson - Start By Doing It Badly! -6:55

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He's able to attain what he does because he's become an expert of sorts at observing. He's become an expert at person perception. So for him the mind is like an attic, and what that means is you can store only so much in it, the space is finite. And what you store and how you store it is incredibly important as you try to figure out, how do I optimize my mental resources? Maria Konnikova: Unclutter Your Brain Attic Like Sherlock Holmes -4:50

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What we need is critical thinking; we need to respect evidence, we need to respect the fact that the only reason to believe anything about the real world is evidence. The evidence must be asscessed critically, preferably statistically and logically. Richard Dawkins Reveals How Science Really Works: Imagination, Intuition, Evidence, and Truth -4:17

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Bayes' Rule is a formalization of how to change your mind when you learn new information about the world or have new experiences. Julia Galef: Think Rationally via Bayes' Rule -3:22

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"that stupid idea has to die instead of us" Jordan Peterson -6:12

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Exodus 13 - 15

13 Moses said to God, “Suppose I go to the Israelites and say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you,’ and they ask me, ‘What is his name?’ Then what shall I tell them?”

14 God said to Moses, “I am who I am. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I am has sent me to you.’”

15 God also said to Moses, “Say to the Israelites, ‘The Lord, the God of your fathers — the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac and the God of Jacob — has sent me to you.’

“This is my name forever, the name you shall call me from generation to generation."