Hello Counselor - Kim Eungsoo, Kim Minkyoung, Cha Eunwoo, Moonbin [ENG/THA/2017.07.17]

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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns. National Competition on Worries! Here are our guests. He's a great actor who always leaves an impression. Actor Kim Eungsoo. She's a cute comedian. Kim Minkyoung. They are part of the handsome boy group. ASTRO's Moonbin and Cha Eunwoo. (Oh yeah) They're so handsome. You two are so handsome. Just sit here and look pretty, okay? (I'll take care of broadcasting) Kim Eungsoo and I go way back. We've known each other well for over 20 years. How does it feel to be here for the first time? You said you watched the past episodes. Yes. I watched the past episodes. (Savoring it?) I enjoyed watching them. We dealt with many interesting stories. I enjoyed watching the program because I'm a man with many concerns, too. What kind of concerns did you have? I hate hearing this comment. It's because I've played a villain quite often. I went to a temple and the monk said, "Oh geez. I really wanted to kill you." (An honest Buddhist monk) I asked, "Who are you talking to?" It was because I was a really bad villain in a drama. You must want to play a nice role for a change. I've played many nice roles. (Glare) We can't tell. (You have a thousand faces) By the way, I was surprised to hear this from the production staff. They said Moonbin's mom wrote her concern about her son to Hello Counselor. For real. I was surprised to get the call, too. Since I am often curt with her, she told me she'd send in her concern to this program, and she did. Didn't she do it to make your name known? A concern about Moonbin. Like this? She had a big picture in mind. I sleep a lot, too. How much do you sleep? He never wakes up when we tell him to. We have to wake him up for over an hour. He would doze off like this on buses or subways. I had a friend like that, too. You have to say, "Whoa, check out that girl." (He will wake up 100%) "Whoa, that girl." He'll wake up. Minkyoung, do you have any concerns? People ask me when I will get married. I've been single for all my life of 37 years. You've never been in a relationship? Never. This is so embarrassing. I guess I'm better off than Minkyoung is. I've done it once or twice at least. I've at least kissed. (Ha ha ha ha ha) I've kissed, too. We really didn't have to hear that. - I've kissed before. / - How many times? Please stop! (We'd like to turn back time) Three concerns are here. Let's look at the keywords. "Non-communicating brothers." "An embarrassing concern." "My husband is addicted!" I don't think anyone here could live like this. Hello. I'm a housewife in her 50s who is heartbroken. I have two grown up sons. They're 22 and 25 years old. They don't speak to each other at all. (Younger son) Mom, have you seen my shirt? Did he take it? Could you please ask him for me, mom? (Mother) You can ask him yourself. (Ring, ring) (Older son) Mom. There's a package. Tell Yongju to take it. (Mother) You can tell him yourself. What is wrong with you two? They haven't spoken to each other for 8 years already. - Unbelievable. / - They're brothers. The problem is that my husband and I live in Yeongju, Gyeongsangbuk-do. My two sons live together in Bundang. They live together and don't speak to each other? Unbelievable. But whenever something happens I must be the one to deliver the messages from Yeongju. She's the messenger. That's not all. (Mother) Hello? Yongju. I think your brother had a fever yesterday. How is he doing now? (Younger son) I don't know! How can they be worse than being strangers? They are my most precious sons. Please help me get them to speak to each other. They live together... But how do they not speak to each other? I think this is due to the problem of nature. The problem of nature means that their house is located in a bad area. (Ha!) (The new prospect of solving concerns?) Let's talk to the mother first. Please come on out. (Kim Yeongmi) (Welcome!) So they haven't spoken to each other for 8 years. Your older son is 25, and the younger one is 22. 8 years ago, the older one was in high school and the younger one was in middle school. They live at home like they are strangers. If one comes out of his room, the other one goes in. They do that even now as they live on their own. So one comes out and the other always goes in? Then if the other comes out, the first goes back in? (They are like night and day) Do you know when they became like this? I don't know. I think they started to drift apart as they went through puberty. - You don't know what caused this. / - No. They were like that when they lived with you, too? Yes. Then how did you decide to leave the two and live away from the city to do farming? At first, I was worried about the two, so my husband went to live in Yeongju first. But he couldn't do all the work by himself so I had to move, too. But even when I'm in Yeongju, I must become the middleman between the two. If one can't find something, he calls me. "Mom, have you seen a hat that looks like this?" Then I have to call my other son. "Have you seen a hat that looks like this?" "No." Then I have to call back my son and tell him, "He hasn't seen it. Look for it again." This is how they converse to each other. They don't know each other's phone numbers? No, they don't. They don't? They could ask, but they aren't interested. They're not interested. I gave them the numbers. But they don't want to know each other's number. I think you are the one to blame. You shouldn't let them put you in the middle like that. You should tell them to take care of it and hang up. That's what I did at first. I told them to take care of it. A registered mail came. They didn't tell each other about it, so the mail was returned to the sender. This went on for months. Since this repeatedly happened, I couldn't hurt others in the process. So I decided to become the middleman. From what I've heard I think there was an incident that started this. What could it be? Hello, sons. (Who are the sons that don't communicate?) Starting with the older brother. He's such a bright person. He's so handsome. Please introduce yourself. Hello. I'm the older son. So you're the older one. Hello. I'm 22-year-old Gwon Yongju. I'm from Bundang, Gyeonggi-do. That's how you introduce yourself. (Wasn't I good?) You really haven't talked to him for 8 years? No. Isn't it inconvenient? It is, but I feel more awkward with him than with strangers. He's a stranger to me. It's been too long. (I'm a stranger to you?) You don't make any noise at him? (Hey! Ha! Ah!) How do you call him? I don't. Let's say you're out of toilet paper. Your brother is at home. That has never happened to me. Why hasn't that happened to you? Darn. It should've happened. Let's say it happened. There's no toilet paper. What would you do? Your brother is home. I would just walk out of the bathroom. He would just walk out as if nothing happened. You would walk on all fours without wiping? On all fours? Your brother is at home. You could just ask him to get you some toilet paper. I can just open the door and get it myself. But wouldn't it look weird to your brother if you crawl out of the bathroom like this? That's not a good look. (How can you laugh?) What about you, Yongju? We don't greet each other when we meet outside. Even when you run into each other outside? I didn't even know he got a job. - You found out today? / - Because they don't talk. On the way here he said he's been working for 2, 3 years. I don't even know what kind of company it is. But I'm not curious at all. For example, someone is about to attack your brother from behind. He's facing you so only you can see. Then I would call out to him. - How would you call out to him? / - How? Are you going to say, "Excuse me, sir?" Excuse me, sir. Sir, you're in danger. Get out of the way. How would you call him? By his name? Hey. What else would you tell him? I would say, "Hey! Behind you!" He would notify his brother. What about you, Yongju? I would just point. What if he didn't see it? There's fire and you would just point? I wouldn't call out his name. You wouldn't? The building is on fire and you've evacuated. But your brother is still asleep in his room. Then I would call mom. What? The building is on fire. How could this be? (Things are so cold between them) How do you feel listening to them, ma'am? It's upsetting. I think this is more than upsetting. I can't come over to help right away. I would die if something like that really happened. I think the conflict between them is too deep. What is it? What led to this? You say you two are like strangers. Then why do you call mom to relay your messages? I'm afraid that things will be awkward if I talk to him directly. I thought it would be better for both of us to relay the message through mom. That's from your perspectives. Imagine how your mom must feel hearing it. There's nothing worse you could do to her. I realize that. That's why I only call her when it's urgent. Where is my hat? That's an urgent matter? You two really don't know each other's numbers? No, we don't. No, we don't. You can't ask him, "Where is my hat?" I don't want to converse with him at all. Isn't it inconvenient for you to do this? It must be very inconvenient. It's inconvenient when he brings his friends home and I'm at home, too. They eat and drink in the living room. He also brings his girlfriend home often, too. It's a girl problem. What do you mean? He brings his girlfriend over. They both must've liked the same girl. Why are you writing a novel? That's why he's upset when she comes over. She comes over when I'm naked at home. I can't go to the living room, so I stay in my room. I feel uncomfortable taking a shower or eating. Do you bring your girlfriend home? I've never done that. Then you should tell your brother not to bring over his girlfriend. Well, talking to him is like talking to my ex-girlfriend. It's very awkward. So you're living with your ex-girlfriend? (You're like a brother to me, but not really) Yongju. You and your brother aren't speaking. Isn't it harsh for you to bring your friends over? Is it on purpose to make him feel uncomfortable? I didn't know he felt uncomfortable. When my friends or my girlfriend come over, they politely say hello to my brother. But he just goes to his room without saying anything. So you've never had a meal together? Never. Even when we eat out as family, he and I sit far apart and don't talk to each other. We've never eaten just the two of us. What about you, Yongju? We've never eaten just the two of us. When he buys fried chicken, he could share with me. But he eats the whole thing by himself in his room. It's because of chicken. It's because of chicken. It was because of chicken. What do you do about daily necessities? We buy whatever we need at the time, or our parents buy them for us. No, I buy everything we need. It wasn't your mother? When we run out of something we need... But he doesn't seem to care much. So you thought it was your mom who bought them. Is that right? I thought it was mom. I've never seen him buy them. He said it's always been him. Why don't you thank him? (It's too awkward for him to just look) (He just won't do it) Who does the chores? Like throwing out garbage. I do the dishes and laundry. I clean, too. You do your brother's laundry, too? He puts his clothes out and I do the laundry. You wash your brother's clothes? I got too tired doing everything by myself so I told mom about it. She told my brother to take turns every week. But he didn't clean no matter how dirty the place got. I like to let things pile up and clean it all at once. But things got clean on their own before piling up. You've been enjoying that. Do you wish to move out and be on your own? I moved out for about 6 months when I was 20 years old. But it was too tough by myself and cost a lot of money to be on my own. But once I earn enough money, I will move out. How did you feel when your brother moved out? I thought he was in the army then. The army? I thought he went to the army. But he came back home after 6 months. What did you think then? I just wondered, "Why is he back so soon?" Unbelievable. He never asked what happened. (What is wrong with them?) Let's find out why this happened. Do you think it's more your fault that things have gotten so bad with your brother? Or more his fault? Both of us. I was waiting for him to speak to me first. It just happened. But you could've spoken to him first. I thought our relationship would get worse if I did. I thought it'd be more awkward if he rejected me. Whose fault do you think it is? I don't know why we've ended up this way. You don't know? I have a brother who is 4 years older than I am. We didn't get along too well. And we stopped communicating as he went abroad. I talked to him after he came back from the army. What angered me is that he didn't remember it. He didn't remember harassing me at all. So I wanted to end my ties with him. Then we briefly lived together. That's when we became closer. I don't know how you don't talk to each other. Yongju! Was there an incident that started this? It was when my brother was in middle school. I bought some jellies to take to school. (Jellies?) You bought some jellies? He took them without asking for my permission. He took them without asking for your permission. I was going through puberty. I got so angry that I cursed at him through a text message. You cursed at him? But instead of talking to me about it, he told mom on me. Mom yelled at me and beat me for that. He's upset about that. Do you remember him cursing at you? Yes, he sent me a text message full of swearing. I was going to beat him up when I got home. But then I thought mom would scold me so I just showed her the text message. Did you know why he sent you that message? No. I just read that he sent me swear words and I just put away my phone. Did you ever read that message again afterwards? No, I didn't. Weren't you curious why he sent you that message? He was going through puberty then. What? The reason why he cursed you... (That's wrong) (Absurd) What did he write? You... (Curse words that crossed the line) You bas... Animal swear words. How would you have felt if he cursed back at you and punched you? If we had fought, I would've realized that I was wrong and apologized to him. But he just went straight to mom. He said mom yelled at him for it. Ma'am. Did you know that this all started because of jellies? - It has finally been revealed. / - You didn't know? He didn't explain the situation. He just told me that Yongju cursed at him so I scolded Yongju for doing so. - You shouldn't do that... / - To your brother. I went through the same thing. I paid money to borrow some comic books. So it's natural for me to return them when I'm done. But my brother hit me for returning the books. Because he hadn't read them yet. But you borrowed the books. I got so mad. So I cursed at him, too. My brother also told my parents on me. It was very hurtful. You were mad because only you were scolded. But what I think is that there must be something else that started this. Am I right? It wasn't just about the jellies. I always thought my parents treated us differently. - They favored him. / - Why did you think that? For example, clothes. He always got new clothes and I wore his old ones. What? That's just natural. Kids don't think that way anymore. You two just keep blaming puberty. That's weird. Stop acting like an old geezer! (Good job, Dongyeob!) (Eungsoo is sad...) You normally eat good food before entering the army. My brother ate meat before going off to the army. But I just had a sandwich on the street. - Everything has piled up. / - That must be upsetting. What else? Tell us everything. When we moved 3, 4 years ago, I begged her to buy me a bed. But she didn't. Then I saw a bed in my brother's room. While you slept on the floor? Yes. So I was really hurt by that. (Whisper) What are you talking about? He's really an old geezer. - What did he say? / - I didn't hear it. Yongju said he didn't get a bed. Eungsoo asked her, "Did your younger son not get good grades?" (Ha ha ha ha) (Embarrassed) That's wrong. Sleeping on a bed and on the floor are quite different. Yongju did ask me to buy him a bed, but I just forgot about it. When my older son asked me for one... I don't know why, but I just bought it. (Oh my) This is even more upsetting. It's because of their grades. It's quite upsetting from Yongju's perspective. Things like beds are very important. One ate meat while the other ate a sandwich. Were you busy at the time? I think it's because whatever my older son goes through, it's my first experience. As a parent, I'm experiencing it for the first time. But with the Yongju, I've already gone through it. Yongju was joining the army for the first time. He didn't join it twice. You don't seem to realize that you're discriminating the two. Are your friends close with their brothers? How do you feel when you see them? It's amazing and envious that they get along so well. I get quite jealous when I see my friends getting along with their siblings and have drinks with them. Do you drink, Yongju? - Yes, I do. / - What about you? I don't. (Oh...) Why don't you drink? You can't? I can't. My body can't take it. I see. Are you a good drinker? Yes, I am. So you've never been cursed at by your younger brother since childhood? My brother went around talking badly about me to his friends. Since then? What did he say? Bad words. That he's better than me. I think the younger brother has a problem, too. You have no respect for your brother. But everything was oriented towards the older one. After puberty and his body got bigger, he'd feel like he can take his brother on. I think that's why he treated his brother harshly. I told my friends about what my brother said and they took my side. I talked to them about him because I was frustrated. Why did that friend tell your brother what you said? That's what I'm talking about. Where did you hear that from? I think from his friends. Why did your friends tell your older brother? (That's strange) I don't know. I told so many friends at the time. (It's a serious matter, but it's funny) Their father is here as well. Hello. That's their father? How do you feel after listening to them? At first, I didn't think much of it. I thought they were just going through puberty. I never imagined that they would have this much of a grudge inside them. I am quite surprised and perplexed right now. Did you ever think to talk to two of them and try to get them to make amends? When they were young, they relied on each other, cared for each other. We were really happy then. I thought they would resolve this after puberty so I was waiting for that day. How were they when they were young? They had so much to talk about. They talked and laughed all night. Whenever they went out and Yongju was struggling, his brother always looked after him. He did? They held hands and ran around. They never spent time apart. You're talking about your sons, right? They were so affectionate towards each other. My younger son loves to hug and kiss. Whenever he was around his brother, he would hug and kiss his brother. They were very close. In order to see how close they were in the past, we prepared some pictures from their childhood. They must've looked so cute. How cute. (How cute) They are really close together. Yongju is busy looking at his brother. In love with his brother. (So cute) - Look at them kissing. / - How cute. (So affectionate) - They were so close. / - They're always together. You two were so close in the past. How do you feel looking at these pictures? - It's amazing. / - Sure. How do you feel, Yongju? You even kissed your older brother. You two couldn't stay away from each other. Back then I loved him so much that I wanted to do everything that he did. - He was the best? / - He was the best. It's time to stop being bad sons. It's foolish to think that reaching out first, makes you a loser. Why don't you call out to your younger brother first? Like you used to as a child. Come up on stage and do it. That way you can get closer to each other. Yes! That will make the two of you get closer. Share that love you got from your mom. (Will these brothers make amends after 8 years?) The older one must go first. Hold his hand. Shake hands. Hold his hand. (Yongju feels awkward and refuses) Make eye contact. Look at each other. (So awkward) Look at each other. You two are brothers. Look at each other. Call out his name. You know his name, right? Maybe not his number, but his name, yes. Exchange your numbers, too. Yongju. You're Yongju. That's a great name. Answer him. Yes, bro? Yes, bro? That's good. (Why was it so hard to call out his name?) Why don't you say what's on your mind? I'm sorry for acting so immature in the past. Wow. Now that we're older let's stop breaking our parents' hearts. Let's start being good sons to them. He's so mature. (His older brother sincerely speaks) I never hated you. I just felt awkward with you. Let's have a meal together. Give him a hug. - How great is this? / - Wait a minute. Put up that picture again. (This picture?) Pose just like the picture. It's not hard to pose like that. You have to go all the way when you can. This moment will never come back. Please dim the lights. (Answer us) This is it. Yes. Do it. (We should've stayed close) Look at your brother. (Quite similar) Next picture please. (Here's the real one) Kiss on his cheek. On his cheek. (They just spoke to each other for the first time...) This is a masterpiece. Give him a kiss. 1, 2, 3. (Will he do it?) (Stay close from now on) Please come up to the stage, sir. He's crying over there. The entire family is in tears. He's shedding tears. You've been apart for no great reason. What was so hard about that? He's really crying. (They've found happiness after 8 years) (Touched) (Please be happy from now on) How do you feel? I'm seeing something that I haven't seen for years. I hope the two of them become close from now on. I will do my best not to treat them differently and listen to my younger son more. Let's be happy and love each other more. I love you. - Eunwoo. / - Is it a concern or not? I paid more attention than anyone else did. My younger brother is studying abroad in China. Do you miss him? He came back today. I couldn't go greet him at the airport. He's getting emotional thinking about his brother. This is brotherly affection. Why? Did he forget how to speak Korean? (He's strange) I don't think she favors one son over the other. She can't help but put the older one first at times. Even if mom seems to favor the older brother, if he takes care of his younger brother more, I think they will become a harmonious family. Please tell your brother that you love him. - Where do I look? / - Whichever camera. It doesn't matter. It won't be aired anyway. Donghwi. I love you very much. As an older brother, I think it's a concern. I also think it's a concern, too. You don't think it's a concern. I was so scared of my older sister as a child. But now that we're older, no matter how many friends I have with me, none of them could replace my sister. I don't think it's a concern. If you understand her and think it's a concern, please press the button. (What does the audience think?) Time's up. Please show us the result! (Announcing the result) Did they get more than 100 votes? (Surpassed 100 votes!) They made amends in the end, but it's still a concern from mom's perspective. ("Non-communicating brothers" 128 votes) (They got 128 votes) Love shot! Love shot! (This is a video sent by their friends) Love shot. Love shot. Say something first. (They may still feel a bit awkward) (But we hope they love each other from now on!) "My husband is addicted!" Not evicted. You get addicted then evicted. That's life. Hello. I'm a housewife in her 30s from Busan. I'm so sick of life. She must really be tired of her life. It's because of my husband who only cares about one thing from the moment he wakes up. (Because of her husband?) I can't live without it. I'll die if I don't do it right now. It's part of my body. He has gone crazy. Crazy about what? Games. He is seriously addicted to games. (Why is our sad hunch never wrong?) He owns two smartphones, two tablet PCs. Oh my. And a game console. That's not all. Even when I was about to give birth to our first child. Honey. The baby is coming. The baby is coming. The baby is coming. Honey. Where are you? Honey? Where are you? (Hello?) He was, of course, playing a game. That's very upsetting. That'll last a lifetime. After I gave birth, he downloaded a game on the hospital computer. He played it the whole time I was there. (Unbelievable) He's a crazy fool. What should I do with him? Please stop him. This is her concern. What do you think, Minkyoung? You're not married. When we talk about men... Song Joongki who is addicted to games. Yoo Minsang who doesn't play any games. 1, 2, 3. Of course I would choose Song Joongki. (Song Joongki! You'll always be in our hearts) (Love that has surpassed game addiction) If my dad did that when my mom was giving birth, I would've yelled at him after my first cry. Let's see who sent in this concern. Please come on out. (Kim Bongseon) (She slid down well) Please introduce yourself. Hello. I'm Kim Bongseon. Kim Bongseon. Please tell us how addicted your husband is. I've watched guests here who were game addicts. Yes, there were many of them. For my husband, it's part of his body. He's always playing games except when he's asleep. - Always gaming? / - Yes. He checks on the game as soon as he wakes up. Then he goes to the bathroom to get ready. When he's on the toilet or when he's washing. He keeps checking on the game as he washes. Then he wouldn't be washing himself too well. How long has he been playing games? I would say a total of 10 years. You've put up with it for a long time. You said that he uses many devices. What game does he usually play? He must try out every game that comes out. He plays many games at once. He doesn't focus on just one game like others. He plays many different games. He played games even when his arm was in a cast. Even when his arm was in a cast? His arm was in a cast like this. But he could move his fingers so he kept playing. (I'm speechless) Since when did your husband get addicted? - Since we started dating. / - Since then. I knew it was serious when he bought a portable game console. He didn't have money to go to work, but he bought it. I thought he'd change once we got married with kids. - He didn't have money to go to work? / - No. Then you were together all night? Oh my. (Gotcha!) (If they were together that early in the morning...) (Their private life is unexpectedly revealed) Did he work the night shift? Oh no. (Oh my) He didn't change even after you two got married. Marrying him was the worst mistake of my life. Let's meet your husband. Hello. Nice to meet you. You've heard your wife's side of the story. Do you think it's a concern for her? I never thought that this is a concern. Really? Doesn't everyone play games these days? Like you? We play games, but not like you do. You're married and a father. There are people who are worse than I am. What games do you play? (Every popular game out there!) There are games that can run automatically. I've set up an alarm. I'm notified when new games are released. They give out free things when I play new games. I'm not asking you to find out how good you are. I'm just really curious. What tier are you in? Diamond. How good is he? Let's play together. He's really good. (I can't believe he's happy about it) Playing RPG games cost a lot of money. Sure. You have to buy weapons and such. The game CDs are quite expensive. There are gears that you must buy. There's an equipment with motion sensors. You have to by a steering wheel for a racing game. I spent about $6,000 to $7,000. $6,000 to $7,000? - In a month? / - No. Not in a month. You should've bought books with that money. This is unbelievable. So why do you play these games? When I like something, I really get into it. I was influenced by my father. What do you mean? - He enjoys playing billiards. / - That's not bad. His father is a serious addict, too. - He is? / - Yes. He went to play billiards on his wife's birthday and on the day we had a housewarming party. It's a problem because you play too much. Even when you eat, you don't converse with family. You play games instead. Don't you think that's bad? I never thought of it that way. I don't feel guilty at all. If I don't check on the games, I feel like I'm falling behind. You're addicted. Let's say your wife always watches dramas all day. Whether you come home or you're eating together. How would you feel? I would be angry. So it's okay for you to do it, but not her? She and I are different. What do you do when you're at work? What do you mean you two are different? I work at a cell phone retail store. When I was working by myself and was playing a game, I made a mistake and had to reimburse a customer. $500. We worked together for about 2 years. He couldn't keep a game console with him so he would play with two smartphones. If he's like that at work, he would be worse on holidays or birthdays. He continues to play even with relatives there. He never stops playing even on holidays. At my parents', he finds an empty room to play. I was shocked when he went like this to my mother. (Not bowing sincerely to his mother-in-law) That was a bow? (Oh my...) I really wanted to smack him on the head. He would play games as he bows to his ancestors. What about at his parents' place? They don't say anything because he's their son. Do they dote on him? Well, he isn't all that adorable. He isn't all that adorable. I'm the oldest son-in-law. I believe that the oldest son-in-law must be taciturn. I must keep my place as the eldest son-in-law. You must keep your place, but not play games. That's why I go into an empty room to do so. - That's just an excuse. / - That's right. Can't you just stop playing in those moments? I tried, but it's not easy. He's addicted. I'm curious to find out how the game is proceeding. Are you playing games more than other people because you get stressed more easily? No, not really. Are you stressed about something else? I should actually be sitting up on stage. My wife loves to drink. She drinks 360 days in a year. When she was drinking water earlier... I got that feeling. Is it okay to drink it all? She has a nice personality. You drink quite a bit. Whenever she goes out, she gets completely wasted. I have to clean up after her. Why don't you two switch seats? You must be crazy. I do like to drink. But I am always stressed out. I don't stay at home. I have a job, too. My husband doesn't do anything at home. It's like I'm serving a king. I'm better at fixing things around the house. He wouldn't do it anyway. I move heavy furniture all by myself. Even when I'm sick, he's busy playing games. When our daughter was hospitalized from enteritis, he kept playing games in the hospital. A little after our daughter was born, I wanted to show him that I was suffering. So I ran away with our newborn baby. I went to spend the night at a motel, but the baby was crying too much. So I went back home and he was playing games. - He didn't go out to look for you? / - No. As soon as I saw the monitor, I got so angry and yelled at him. "How can you not look for me and your daughter? How can you be playing games?" What did he say? "You couldn't possibly go anywhere with a baby." She talked about when our daughter was sick. I was never sick as a child. I was never sick. So I don't understand it. You don't understand that a baby is sick? I can't understand that a baby is sick. A baby is sick when she's sick. What do you mean? Why is she sick? I don't understand. That's nonsense. What about when your wife was sick? She's always very healthy. - But she was ill. / - He thought she was faking it. - I thought she would recover quickly. / - See? You must've been so heartbroken by him. He doesn't care about his beautiful daughter there. Since I'm a woman, I just can't forget what I went through during pregnancy and childbirth. I was in so much pain when I was giving birth. I was in tears, but he was sitting next to me playing games. He didn't even mute it. I could hear the game beep as he played. He was playing games while I was in pain. While I was away taking a class on childrearing, he downloaded a game and was playing it. I suffered from mastitis severely after giving birth. - That's really painful. / - You know. My wife suffered from it severely, too. I asked him to get some towels from home so that I could steam myself with hot towels. He told me it was too late to go home. So I had to use his old socks instead of towels. - Sir. / - Yes? If you didn't want to go home, couldn't you have gotten towels from elsewhere? This is a misunderstanding. It was heavy snow then. I nearly got in an accident driving downhill. I told her I couldn't go anywhere because of that. You could've borrowed towels from other mothers. I was thoughtless. You could've talked to a nurse, too. You were thoughtless or loveless? I was thoughtless. Let me be clear about this. My wife is my first priority. I always tell my daughter that. I was very young. I didn't know what mastitis was. Men don't breastfeed. I didn't know what it was. I didn't either. But my wife was in so much pain. Don't you want to alleviate that pain somehow? I didn't know what that was at the time. He keeps saying that he didn't know. What do you mean you don't know? She's in pain. It doesn't make sense. Let me ask you this. You must've known about the pain of giving birth. You played games even when she gave birth. I was holding her hands the whole time. But I got bored so I played a little. He said he got bored. You must've heard her being in pain. So I told her to hang in there. What a jerk. (Soulless) But you heard him say it. He said, "My wife is my first priority." How do you feel when you hear that? It's rubbish. It's rubbish? It doesn't sound romantic? We're married. I'm a woman. I asked him to stop at least when he's in bed. Am I not a woman to him? He was all over me when we were dating. What do you mean by that? When I tell him that I can't sleep because of the light he pulls the blanket over his head and plays it. As a couple, you must have things to discuss. If I talk to him about our child's education, he says, "You do whatever you want." I ask him what he wants to eat, he says, "Whatever." We'll end up doing what she wants to do anyway. We talked about his values on children's education. I asked if he isn't worried that our girl plays games. He says, "All kids play with their phones these days. It's a dangerous world without smartphones." It's serious because our daughter plays games, too. On a smartphone? When they are home by themselves, she always plays games on a smartphone. When I get home, instead of greeting me, she says, "Mom, phone!" Whenever we go out to eat, "Mom, phone!" She's always playing with a smartphone. That's a serious problem. People say that children reflect their parents. Children learn from their parents' behaviors. Let's talk to their daughter. - Hello. / - Hi. Hello. - You're so beautiful. / - How old are you? I'm 7-year-old Lee Seoyeong. (Nice to meet you) Does your dad play games often? Yes. What do you think about that? - Do you want to join him? / - Yes. Do you like that he plays games or not? I don't like it. You don't? Why not? I want to go out and play, but I can't because he's busy playing games. You'd rather go out than play games? Yes. What would you like to tell your dad? Tell him what you want him to do. Look at him and tell him. I want you to play games less and smoke less. You want him to play games less and smoke less. Alright. You must smoke a lot, too. He smokes, too? I don't smoke that much. (Watch out!) How do you feel after what your daughter said? She told you what she wants to do with you. She has told me this a few times before. She told me not to smoke and not to play games. She asked me to spend more time with her. I always told her that I would do so. It wouldn't take too long to spend time with her. You can't spend that time with her? I feel uneasy if I don't play games. Do you think it's right that she does what you do? When I get home these days, I see her playing games like I do. I thought that was wrong. I've been thinking that these days. I want to change my behavior, but it isn't easy. I think he's seriously addicted to playing games. When do you feel he's too addicted? He once lost his phone. It was late at night. He kept looking for it in the same place. He even got suspicious of people stealing it. He thought someone stole it? He said, "I think he stole it, but I don't have proof." When he's driving, the game is turned on. He checks whenever he stops at a red light. That's dangerous. He bought a birthday cake for me once. He couldn't spend that brief time with me. "Happy birthday to you." Like this. (Chills) I think he bought the cake since my friend was over. - That's terrible. / - That's too harsh. He never pays attention to us. It's dangerous to play games while driving. Taekyun, please tell us. Tell us about game addicts. Anyone can tell he is quite addicted to games. If this continues, you may show anxiety or signs of depression. You may lose your self-esteem and end up playing more games. In particular, a child may lose self-control which is the largest function of the brain and may not grow up to be a stable child. A child may not be able to communicate with friends and lose learning abilities. Playing games could bring terrible consequences. We asked you earlier. Your daughter was sick. You said, "I was never sick as a child." "I don't suffer from mastitis." If you can't understand the pain of your loved ones, it would be worse when it comes to others. Also, if you play games while you're driving, not only would you hurt yourself, but you could hurt someone else who works hard and their families. Have you ever thought that because of that brief moment, you could hurt your wife and daughter who are most important to you? I never did, but I will start to do so now. You may not realize it, but he is very angry right now. He's very angry. Why don't you make a promise? A promise. It's hard to do so when you are by yourselves. I think that's why your wife wrote to us. Be a man and make a promise. Tell us how many hours a day you will play games. It'd be a lie if I said I would play less right away. You should. I will only play games 1 to 2 hours after work and spend more time with my family on my off-days. You will only play games 2 hours a day? Do you think he can keep his promise? To be honest, I don't think he can. He made a promise before and deleted the games. But his account was still there so everything was saved up. I want him to spend more time with us. I wish he would ask how our day was and spend more time with the family. He doesn't have time to look at his family. I will do my best to do so. That's not enough. I will do it. Let's start with the ASTRO members. Is it a concern or not? You're very angry, right? It takes a lot of time and effort to play a single game. If he uses that time and effort on his family, they could become the happiest family. I think it's a concern, too. He said there are people who are more addicted than he is. But if he continues to do this, he may become worse than those serious addicts. You said you didn't know before. Now that you know, you shouldn't do it anymore. - He is very angry. / - This is a serious concern. Just quit. You got that? Just quit from this moment. Instead of raising a game character, raise your child. Please press the button if you think it's a concern. (What does the audience think?) Are you addicted to pressing buttons? Please look into her eyes. You don't have a game console with you. - It's been a while, right? / - Yes. Please look into her eyes and talk to her. I got to know what I did wrong. I didn't know it was that serious. I may not be able to quit playing games immediately, but I will do my best to do so. Let's become a happy family. I love you. Bongseon. Seoyeong. How many votes did they get? Let's take a look. I'm sure they won. "My husband is addicted." The number is spinning with power. 63. 53. ("My husband is addicted!" 153 votes) (They got 153 votes) This is the hardest time in her life of 13 years. Oh my. "An embarrassing concern." Do you know counsel just one concern? I have so many concerns. Will you listen to them all? I am embarrassed by my father. (These fathers can relate to it) How do I look? What's wrong with your hair? What do you think? Don't I look like Gong Yoo? This is the popular hairstyle these days. He looks more like Oh Dalsu. You're going to work wearing that? Sure. I get more energy by wearing this. There's the Marine Corps symbol on his chest and the word "Marine Corps" written big on the back. He wears the shirt to work, to supermarkets and to Jeju-do on a family trip. - Wouldn't I be embarrassed? / - That is strange. Once I saw my dad downtown with my friends. Hey! Isn't that your dad? He's dressed peculiarly. He got a perm and is wearing a pink shirt. Isn't he wearing hot pants? Wouldn't I be embarrassed? This is just the beginning. I will tell you more in person. How would you feel if your daughter was embarrassed by you? I once went to a supermarket with my daughter. The cashier looked at my daughter and said, "You look just like your grandfather!" (Grandfather?) I was so angry. "Just hurry up and ring us up." I was really angry. But she didn't realize that I was angry. She asked, "You came shopping with your grandfather?" My daughter told me not to come to her school. (Such a busybody cashier!) She says she's facing the biggest crisis in her life. It's a concern of an elementary school student who is embarrassed by her father. Please come on out. (She says she's embarrassed by her dad) (Cute, cute) (Shin Minyeong) (How cute) Hello. I'm sixth grader Shin Minyeong and my concern is about my father. Why are you so embarrassed by your dad? My father went to get his hair done like Gong Yoo a month ago. But it turned out nothing like Gong Yoo's hair. He asks me, "Don't I look like Gong Yoo?" But he reminds me of my grandmother. Grandmother. He must look like his mother. He looks like my grandmother to me. My brother said he looks like Oh Dalsu. I don't really like his new hair. Why are you embarrassed by his Marines shirt? He wears it too often. He wears it when he goes to a supermarket. We went on a family trip to Jeju-do. He wore that shirt all day long. People who were in the Marine Corps love that shirt. It's their pride. I hate that he wears it when he goes downtown, too. It's because he was in the Marine Corps. (I don't like it...) She seems frustrated. She sighed when I kept defending her dad. (This guy is just like my dad) Do you hate that shirt that much? - Yes. / - Why? I think he's wearing it now. It doesn't look bad. (That shirt?) (Sigh) She has so much pent up inside her. Can't you just ignore him? But he stands out too much. He likes to wear colorful shirts. He even wears hot pants. - They're too short? / - Yes. They're too short. He wears them too often. I don't want to see that. - My friends laugh at him. / - They're sarcastic. "Your father is cool." Like that? That's right. I don't like that my friends talk about him. I think it's his personality. I don't think he would look that terrible. So what if he wears pink as long as he looks good? It doesn't look good on him. I could tell by her face. (He really doesn't look good in pink) He wears brown shoes with shorts. Brown shoes could look very fashionable. He got a perm, wears the Marine Corps shirt with short shorts and brown shoes. (What kind of fashion is that?) He isn't all that handsome either. He isn't that tall either. We're trying to counsel you on your concern, right? Why are you glaring at me? It must be his hairstyle. (She's quite scary) I'm supposed to look at the person I'm speaking to. - Make eye contact? / - She's right. What concerns you more? I'm afraid that my brother might copy my dad. You're afraid your brother might copy his dad. That's possible, right? You have a younger brother? But he is still too young. He won't be going to the Marine Corps for years. - He's already copying dad. / - Copying what? Dad comes out naked after taking a shower. He's naked? He comes out looking natural. So? When he comes out... He walks around like that? He just stands there like this. - He sits down? / - He stands like this. (The one who grabs everyone's attention) That may not be good to see for girls. That's true. Did you talk to dad about it? - I did. / - What did he say? He will do as he pleases because it's his home. Why do you throw away your daughter's things? I'm the queen of the house. He wears just his underwear and says, "I have to wear this because of you." (I have to be careful in my own house!) Let's meet her father. Nice to meet you. Hello. I'm Minyeong's dad. Nice to meet you. (He is wearing his Marine Corps shirt again) Did you know that she's embarrassed by you? I didn't know at all. You must not be too quick. I'm an ordinary person so it's quite a surprise that I'm sitting here. His hair doesn't look bad. His hairstyle doesn't look terrible. - Thank you. / - Why did you get a perm? It's a process of finding my identity. (He isn't so ordinary) It must be tough having a dad like that. I watched the drama "Goblin" in the winter and wanted to try Gong Yoo's hairstyle. Most people try copying celebrities' hairstyles. Then they realize they were wrong. Do you think that hairstyle suits you? In time, I could look like Gong Yoo and then I could look like prince charming. But your daughter doesn't like your hairstyle. Why do you insist on it? I'm the star of my own life. โ™ช I'm the star of my own life, it's me โ™ช That's right. (YOLO) (Ha!) Why do you always wear that Marine Corps shirt? I was in the Marine Corps in 2000. The world felt like mine and I was full of confidence. But while working for over a decade, I often felt less confident. Whenever I wear this shirt, I become confident again. It's like Superman or Batman's suit. I made this shirt myself. You made it? I cut out the symbol and sewed it on. I understand why you wear that shirt. But why do you wear hot pants? They are badminton shorts. They are short, but very comfortable. She said I wear them to markets and downtown. They are all in my jurisdiction. (It's not a problem!) (He goes out looking like this?) You go out dressed like this? You are dressed like a woman. But your daughter has gotten older now. After taking a shower and doing this. That's a bit strange. I watch sports news after taking a shower. I cheered when I watched something great. Your daughter was there though. I didn't know where to look. You should at least wear your underwear. We bathed together up until 2 years ago. She's still a baby to me. No, that's wrong. You should watch out for your daughter. Some professionals say that it could cause some side effects on daughters. I will try, but habits don't change easily. You don't think that you're causing any harm, right? You shouldn't try. You must change. I will do my best. Change your habit now. People who get naked at home may do the same thing out of habit somewhere else. What about your dad? On the balcony. He gets naked on the balcony? He gets changed there. He takes off his underwear, too. Can't people see him from outside? He says they can't see him but I once saw him scratching his belly on the way home. You don't enjoy exposing yourself in public, do you? I don't enjoy it. No. I was in the Marine Corps. Marine Corps soldiers are always discreet. - She says people can see you. / - They can't. I am sure of it. But she saw you. There are only detached houses around our building. I am sure that people can't see me. I looked up and saw him. You should've changed inside. Minyeong. Minyeong. You want to start a fight? What? (Marine Corps dad is upset!) Is the brother and mother embarrassed, too? Ask Minyeong. Look at Eunwoo and answer. She's shy. (Heartthrob) Is he handsome? You had no problem staring at Jung Chanwoo. That's right. I'm suddenly irritated. Tell us. Are others embarrassed by your dad, too? My brother is embarrassed by him. Mom said she has given up on him. She gave up? Let's meet the other family members. Hello. Hello. - Hello. / - He's so cute. Do you share the same concern as your sister? Yes. She can see dad's private parts. What are you concerned about? I went to a stationery store with dad one day. He was wearing a pink shirt and short shorts. I was embarrassed because I ran into kids I know. Kids feel this way because your shorts are too short and your shirt is too colorful. Don't you think you should wear pants now? Like I said earlier, that's my neighborhood. I don't think it's a problem! Have you ever talked to your father man to man and suggested that he wears something else? He's much older than I am so I can't yell at him. He's the one who earns money for our family. Did you teach him to say that? You taught him very well. (It's been a long day...) Now that your daughter has grown up, you must be concerned about him being naked. She began to show secondary sex characteristics. So she has talked to me about being uncomfortable with dad walking around naked. So I talked to my husband about it, too. I think he does it without realizing it. Are you embarrassed about anything else? My dad is easily frightened. He is? He was in the Marine Corps. My dad was in the bathroom late at night without turning the lights on. I was scared, too so I thought I would be less scared if I was with my dad. He screamed when he saw me. When he saw you? I thought there was something behind me so I ran towards him. He screamed even louder. He thought it was a ghost. (He mistook his daughter for a ghost) I don't understand. One time, he was watching TV in the dark. Mom came out and asked, "What are you doing?" He got scared and said, "Why do you have your hair down at night?" (Are you sure you were in the Marine Corps?) (He shut his eyes tight) Why are you like this when she's talking? He's closed his eyes. (Patience) If you get frightened so easily you shouldn't wear your Marine Corps shirt. I can't control being frightened. Do you believe that ghosts exist? No. I've caught all the ghosts. We'll give you a chance to defend yourself or tell us whether you are upset with your daughter. He did seem to have something to say. We used to hug and kiss a lot, but we've drifted apart recently. That upsets me. When I woke her up one morning, I jokingly poked her butt with my foot. She got mad and screamed at me. I write a diary whenever I have a hard day. - He's sensitive. / - You're like a woman. I wrote in my diary 3 days in a row... - To calm myself. / - He's so delicate. I know you're upset, but you must be careful. Poking her butt with your foot can be quite a shock to her. Girls around her age can get scared of men. That's what they say. Did you know that your dad felt this way? - Yes. / - You knew? He says he loves me, but he doesn't when we play games. His eyes change when we play games. If he loses, he locks himself up in his room. Because he's upset? - That's so immature. / - You're a Marine! You must feel like he's still a child. Yes. Mom and I talk about that often. What does she tell you? She says dad hasn't matured yet. Dad hasn't matured yet. You're closing your eyes quite often today. Sir. Sir. I think he'll be writing his diary for a whole week. I play with them on their level. Then why do you get upset and lock yourself up? I'm disappointed that they don't understand me. No father would get mad over playing games. You do. He really plays well with the kids on their level. He's a great dad. But I sometimes feel like I'm raising three kids. School violence is a serious issue these days. He tells the kids to be competitive and teaches them to curse. It's not just the curse. (This must be a dream) He tells them, "If a friend curses you, you curse him back." (We'll hold a family meeting today...) Open your eyes! He tells them about his experience in high school. This isn't really fair. What happened in high school is that I was eating lunch during lunch time and some bad students stole my lunch. So I told my kids to say this in situations like that. (Oh my.... Sir?) You shouldn't teach that to them. - Are you crazy? / - Sir. You shouldn't be closing your eyes right now. Don't open your eyes! Keep them closed for a long time! Kids laughed and enjoyed the story, too. It's because they thought you were being ridiculous. What other father would teach his kid to curse? Have you ever used those terms at school? No. With girls, if you curse, you've lost. That's right. It's better to speak softly and crush them. (She's quite a fierce girl) (That's my girl!) Do you... (Back to being a shy girl) Do you wish your dad to teach you something else? What do you want from him? I want him to dress normally like other people. I want us to be considerate of each other and respect each other. She's a grownup. If you have anything to say, why don't you say it? Always be dressed and don't curse. I love you, dad. (My children) He's a great dad. He's a good friend to them. - He's so smart. / - He is. Are you going to join the Marine Corps, too? I don't want to. Why not? I don't want to become like him. (He is toying with his dad) (He has learned a lot at age 11) (The Marine Corps pride has collapsed) (He will remember this day forever) I would like to say one thing. I think I've shown only negative sides of the Marine Corps soldiers. No, that's not true. I'm very sorry. You're a great father to them. He plays with you at your level. You should be happy that you have a father like him. Is it a concern or not? Being naked at home. Aren't you embarrassed by it? But they're my family. He must be dressed because I'm a girl. That's right. (Eungsoo thinks it's a concern!) I think it's a concern, too. I think if they learn to respect each other more, they can easily resolve this issue. I was somewhat jealous. You talked about what you're uncomfortable with, but you seemed like a happy family. If you can relate to Minyeong's concern, please press the button. (What does the audience think?) Please stop. Sir. Please say a word to Minyeong. I've finally realized how you feel. I will do my best to change my habits. I love you very much, Minyeong! (You're the best dad) Let's see the result. (Announcing the result) Did they get more than 100 votes? No. (They got 93 votes) "My husband is addicted!" won this week. Congratulations. Until the day we are all worry-free... Hello Counselor will continue to counsel you. ("Remember" by Nine Muses)
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Published: Mon Jul 17 2017
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