Hate Your Job? Laid Off? Reimagine Your Future & Take the Next Right Step | The Mel Robbins Podcast

foreign has had some kind of reset button hit where you've gotten very clear that maybe the way that you've been doing life it's not really what you want anymore and so we're going to focus today on your ability to Be Your Own Boss my guest today is a dear friend of mine her name is Amy Porterfield I wanted to give you a zero cost Master Class how to think totally differently about what's possible for you and that's the invitation of this episode hey it's your friend Mel and welcome to an eye-opening an incredibly empowering episode of the Mel Robbins podcast I am so excited for the conversation today because we're going to be talking about big themes themes like freedom taking control of your life and most importantly it is my mission today to drop literally like a grenade in your head and blow open your thinking about what's possible for you and I've been wanting to do this show for a while because I see in the news all these people getting laid off I myself have someone graduating from college who does not currently have a job and the anxiety is starting to ramp up and I also know that almost every single human being in the past three years has had some kind of reset button hit where you've gotten very clear that maybe the way that you've been doing life it's not really what you want anymore you have values that aren't aligned with the kind of work that you're doing or the way that you spend your time and so I am on a mission to open your eyes to a whole different reality because whatever move you're going to make next when it comes to your career your finances and your life I want it to be the greatest move of your life and I believe that you have the ability to do that and so we're going to focus today on um your ability to truly Be Your Own Boss and you might not have ever thought about that because of how old you are or how young you are or the fact that you have a really crappy mindset and you're constantly beating yourself down I am here to tell you I am living proof that absolutely anybody can take control of their life you can design it how you want and you can do the work to yes you control your destiny and launch your own business and has nothing to do with your skill set it has nothing to do with your qualifications it has nothing to do with your age it has to do with your willingness to lean into what you deserve and what you deserve is freedom you deserve to be able to be at home at night with your family for dinner you deserve to be able to have savings so that you can sleep at night you deserve to be able to do work that's meaningful for you and I want to wake you up today and make you realize that you are one decision away from having that happen and so if you're new my name is Mel Robbins I'm a New York Times bestselling author I am also one of the world's leading experts on motivation Behavior change habits and I and kind of startled when I sit here and think about this but I only started making money online five years ago as a 49 year old woman so if I can figure this out you can figure this out and I wanted to give you a zero cost Master Class with a woman who has taught more than 50 000 people how to Pivot from as young as 19 to as old as somebody in her late 60s how to think totally differently about what's possible for you and that's the invitation of this episode that by the end of this episode you're going to think very differently about what your next move might be in your career you're going to think very differently about what you're capable of and you're going to have a small taste of what Freedom could be and the next right steps to take to start walking toward it so my guest today is a dear friend of mine her name is Amy Porterfield she is an entrepreneur who is one of the world's leading experts in launching an online business she has taught this to literally millions of people more than 50 000 paying students what you're going to learn today I mean normally to take one of her classes or to have one of her coaches coach you we're talking more than ten thousand dollars you're going to get this at zero cost thanks to our sponsors and thanks to Amy's generosity today she is here she has a brand new book called two weeks notice but the book is really about the step-by-step blueprint for making a major pivot and creating freedom in your life I'm so excited that you're here Amy thank you so much for being here I am so thrilled to be here thanks for having me you're welcome and so here's where I want to start so Amy you and I have reinvented ourselves yes and in the past 14 years we have both gone from working for somebody else to figuring out how to launch your own business and I'm going to get to your story in a minute but I want to put something into context for everybody guys I first started making money online five years ago five years ago that was like yesterday and I was 49 years old Amy okay I love to hear this if this old dog can figure out how this internet thing works and how to like March toward my curiosity about it and how to learn this stuff yeah I mean there are people everybody out there who are way stupider than you making way more money than you because they stopped and they paid attention to what we're about to tell you today you can do this and Amy is living proof she has taught 50 000 students more than fifty thousand students how to take even like you even start with people who are like I have no idea what I want to do absolutely no idea yes and it's crazy they figure it out and create incredible businesses they blow their own minds without any business experience absolutely and what is the why did you why did you want to help people do this and what do you want the person listening right now is they're driving to a job that they hate or their take taking a walk in a neighborhood that they wish they didn't live in or they are unemployed they've been laid off they're beating themselves up what do you want to tell them they're going to get out of this conversation today I want them to know that there's an entirely New World waiting for them they don't even know what's possible yet for their future and it's not inside a cubicle or commuting to a nine-to-five job there's a whole other world out there that you can take as your own and the reason I know that is because that is my own story 14 years ago so because it was a new world to me and I ran with it now I help other people do the same okay so you've got a world-class expert here that has held the hands of 50 000 people and these fifty thousand plus students that she has taught everybody they are no more smarter than you they are no more qualified than you they simply were in the position that you're in right now where they bumped into this conversation and it had them experience a whole different possibility for their life yes and that's my mission my mission is to wake your ass up my mission is to have you flush that stupid [ __ ] you're telling yourself that you're too young oh I'm just great I don't have anything to offer anybody how can I make money online [ __ ] you're actually Tech native of course you could do this if you change your mindset oh but Mel I'm not 49 I'm 60. how am I gonna do this you're gonna do this by stopping that [ __ ] that's spewing out of your mouth and getting serious about listening to two women she has made 85 million dollars in the past 14 years teaching people how to do this and you want to know why I'm saying that number because I'm damn proud of her and I also think if you put your head down and you listen to what some expert like Amy is about to tell you and you pick up her book and you read the blueprint you can figure this out too this is about teaching yourself something new it's about telling yourself something different and that's what we're going to do and I want to tell you a quick story about how perspective changing things can be and then we're going to hear your story Amy so I remember when I was in law school right yeah I grew up in a teeny tiny town in Michigan and then I go to college in a teeny tiny town in New Hampshire okay and I was sort of like your meat and potatoes kind of gal I was not the biggest experimental eater uh like I am now and I remember one of my really good friends shout out to Sydney uh she was a super cool lady and she grew up in Providence Rhode Island and she uh was Multicultural family like super cool and I remember she invited me to leave the campus the law school campus and go into Boston okay to this restaurant called Jay's and her boyfriend who was older was going to take the two uh you know call or law school students with no money out and it was a Thai restaurant and I had never been in a Thai restaurant before and so we sit down I had no idea what to order and so they just ordered the pad thai when this thing arrived in front of my you know plate there when this is what I think when you saw that pad thai that you'd never seen before I was like what the hell is the eggs and chicken and shrimp and these noodles and it's like pasty Tacky weird texture and peanuts and bean sprouts so I just shoveled a fork in and I just took a bite it was like a unicorn in my mouth it was the most delicious thing I had ever and I had this thought there is an entire world I have been missing out on because I just didn't know I just didn't know yes and that is what this conversation's about it's like a pad tie for your career there is a whole world that you have not considered as seriously as I want you to because you just didn't know I I didn't know you could make money online you know Amy's the kind of person that knows how to tap into that confidence that is inside you to make a pivot and I know that reinvention is a Hot Topic our project on Audible reinvent your life with Mel Robbins is number one on Audible everybody is feeling this need to change something about their lives and when you take your career and your ability to make money into an entirely different level it's extraordinary how that impacts your life and Amy has been able to not only teach yourself how to do that but to teach so many other people how to do that how to find Financial Freedom how to get control of your time how to create a life where you get to work when and where and with whomever you want to work and it and do not tune this out this is possible for you I don't care what your life like looks like right now this is possible for you and that's why I wanted Amy to sit here and give you a zero cost master class and thinking differently and taking control of your freaking life starting today so Amy what was your pad thai moment in your career my pad thai moment was 14 years ago I was working for Peak Performance coach Tony Robbins and I had made an amazing job I was the director of content traveling the world working on the content that he did on stage however I didn't realize in that moment that I had never been free and here's what happened Tony brought in a bunch of business owners to the San Diego office they happen to be all men and they were making money online and so we brought him into this office it was this big oak table and I was called in to take notes so now okay so first of all were you annoyed by that uh well it was kind of common for the content Department to take notes but yeah there's a little bit of me like I want to be in the action I want to be doing the things but yeah I was on a side table oh so you were not even at the big table with the boys you were on the side taking the notes okay so here I came into this meeting but thank God I did because here's what happened I started to take notes and these guys started to talk about their businesses what they do what life looks like what their lifestyle is what their family life looks like like they were really talking about their whole experience as business owners and all of a sudden I realized wait a second they're working when they want where they want how they want they're creating these amazing products they're being as creative as they want to be they're on their own time and on their own dime and I realized I have never been free I have never been my own boss I will always hit a glass ceiling I will always have to ask for a raise always has to have to ask if I could take vacation I was not the boss of my own life or my business and in that moment a light bulb went off and I thought I want it I have no idea what they're doing I don't know how to do any of it but I want it and so that was the moment for me but the next thing that happened was this flood of doubt and I looked to my friend who was in the meeting with me and I said I have no skill or I could be My Own Boss I I know nothing that I could be My Own Boss I want to stop right there because I think this moment where you're sitting in a meeting and you experience something yeah this like wake-up call happens in your body and I've had a moment like that it's way bigger than a pad thai moment yeah I was sitting in an audience and I was at an Oprah Winfrey like kind of one of these live your best life tours this would have been a decade ago decades ago actually probably two decades ago at this point and I was there because I was networking to try to get clients for my life coaching business I had just started this on the side I was working full-time uh doing business development for a advertising agency in the big Tech uh kind of bubble that happened in the early 2000 time frame and on the side I was trying to build a business as a life coach full of Doubt so I go to this Oprah Winfrey concert concert it was actually a like me it was like an event that she held a one-day Summit to like live your best life and so I'm sitting in the big audience and Oprah's on stage and then she introduces this woman that I have I'd never heard of her name was Martha Beck and Martha Beck walks out and I don't even remember what the hell she said I had never heard of her I had no clue what she had what she did but she started talking and there was something inside of me that was like I want that and it was the same thing you're talking about which is this taste of of I I've never thought about the word free because there I was I was actually I'd lied to my employer I had taken the day and I had told them I was somewhere else and I had gone to this thing for myself yeah and so here I am completely out of Integrity getting paid by somebody else to sit in a place where I'm prospecting for my side hustle that hasn't even launched yet and I realized when she walks on the stage holy [ __ ] that's what I want and I didn't even know what that meant I just knew that I wanted the freedom that she seemed to had she was writing books she was clearly writing for Oprah she had written her first book she was now talking about that first book on a stage I didn't know what I would write about I didn't know what I would speak about I was scared to think about being on that stage that is the moment and so I want to hit pause and I want to talk to the person you right now listening to us I want to talk to you because I need you to start to pay attention to those moments you don't have to have the answers to change your life you have to have that moment where you go I want something more for myself and what I wanted is I wanted to be able to go to an event without lying to my boss well I could have just not lied but you know what I mean I wanted to be able to go to an event because I was going to go to event I wanted to be able to work when I wanted to work but I did not know how the hell do you go from that moment to knowing what the hell the right next step is because you're right what happens next is well you're dumb you got nothing to offer you're this you're that like how did you go from okay there's all these dudes sitting around the table I'm basically the secretary no offense to secretaries in the corner and I am sitting here being exposed to something that I'm not part of this club yes so the first thing I all those doubts came rushing in and then I learned something a long time ago that if you're watching someone do something and you feel a little bit jealous like look what they have or angst around it which I had like I wanted what they had even though I didn't totally get it whenever you have a feeling of jealousy or angst or you want it ask yourself what do they have that you want like get really clear what is it about their life that you think is so attractive or you'd like to go through it because I had to get clear about what I wanted and in that moment I thought they get to be their own boss like that's what they have that I have never had so I think Clarity uh in terms of what you want is the first big step you talk about that a lot what do you want and so once I got clear on I don't want a job anymore I want to call the shots then I had to start thinking what would I do because I had no clue so for the next few months I kind of went through this process that now I teach called The Sweet Spot which is figuring out what might you want to do wow okay I am so excited to go through this with you I cannot wait to send this to approximately 100 people because I feel like I have those kind of epiphanies probably once a week yes even if you look at me or you look at Amy you're like they got it all figured out I still have these wake-up calls all the time okay we just had one yesterday where we were talking about wouldn't it be nice to be able to support other female entrepreneurs with investment money like maybe we should step into like starting an investment funnel we both looked at each other and we're like well I don't know how to do that I don't either but we kind of feel interested so that's sort of the moment we're talking about and I want to give I want to give the audience a real range okay of scenarios where you could have this wake-up call because I feel like for those of you that are in your 20s and 30s that listen to this podcast you're probably part of the demographic that looks at everybody that is an influencer or a YouTuber or they are travel bloggers or they are uh now starting their line of supplements or they are doing exercise video and you're now streaming exercise videos from somebody who's largely your age and you have this thing where you're like wow I'd really like to do that what Amy and I are here to tell you is that is the power moment that is the eye-opening moment that's it that Awakening is the only thing you need in order to Pivot your life in a New Direction because we are lucky enough and Amy's going to talk about this to live in a world where if you want to create an online exercise Studio if you want to take your catering business or your grandmother's tomato sauce that everybody compliments and start selling it you can figure out how to do it but you have to honor the wake-up call yes you have to honor this thing inside you because Amy's right how many times have you seen somebody you're jealous of or you've had this moment of inspiration and you've been like nope not gonna happen for me and so I want you to know that that's takeaway number one that takeaway number one is that wake-up call is going to change your life if you're willing to look for it and if you're willing to hit the pause button when it happens now for those of you they're like yeah okay so I don't want my what my life currently looks like that's enough yes so talk to me about this thing that you walk people through yes so it's called The Sweet Spot formula okay and I developed it because it's essentially what I did to leave my last nine to five job and start this business and it has four quadrants we'll walk them through the four quadrants okay this first quadrant of The Sweet Spot is what are you good at what do people always say like how do you do that that comes so easy to you because what comes easy to you does not come easy to everybody else where have you gotten results what do you where have you gotten results in your personal life or your business life so maybe you're an accountant and you do really good in your job so you have all these skills that could absolutely translate into your own business but maybe you don't want to be an accountant but at home you're really good at getting your picky eater your toddler to eat everything and other moms are like how do you get your kids to eat all these vegetables what are you doing and you have all these little secret things you do that could be a business so start looking around but here's the beauty you only need a 10 Edge when people start to think about what might I do in a business oh I need more education I need certification I need more time you don't need any of that you already have a business in you 10 Edge you need to be 10 ahead of those that you want to help and serve so funny I just talked to my husband about this yeah so Chris is uh you know the founder of this men's Retreat Soul degree and he's starting this online huddle a nine month long program and he's like I don't think I'm ready I don't have it all figured I said dude you need to be one training ahead of everybody else exactly all that you need to be and I think that that's kind of one of those things that gets us in the way I want to back up a minute though can you tell the story of how you went from taking notes in the corner yeah to figuring out what to do yes how did you do that so for me what it looked like was I started to think okay what what am I doing right now in my business that could maybe translate and I was doing marketing and some social media and a little bit of like online education kind of stuff so I started to look at that and I liked what I did I didn't like the fact that I wasn't free but I liked the work that I did so I started to think maybe I could teach social media online it wasn't my end-all be-all you just need a starter idea I just needed something to get me okay let's stop there you just need a starter idea everybody I'm literally gonna baby step everybody because every single thing that Amy's going to talk about in her own journey is one of those obstacles that you're going to have to remove because you know if you think about what you currently do for somebody else whether it's project management or what you studied in school maybe you were a marketing major and you spend your life on social media because you don't have a job yet guess what you probably understand a lot about social media yeah you seem to like it a lot like there are things that you do naturally maybe your house is super insanely clean and every everybody constantly remarks about how clean it is and how good it smells maybe that's what you just do naturally maybe it's something you used to do a long time ago but you know starting with well what are you good at what are other people say that you like and so that was your process so here you are you're still at your job still at my job and for somebody who's unemployed right now listening or they're a student about to graduate like what are you suggesting do you suggest they do this process while they're unemployed or while they're looking for a different job absolutely this is something that no matter where you are in your journey if you have that desire that calling that there's got to be something better for me something different this is what you do you start to think about what am I good at what could be a starter idea and then what I did is I started to look online on social media and started to go for like total immersion around what kind of business I'd want to create so I wanted to teach social media or do social media that's so I wanted to start so I started to follow all these accounts on social media that were doing what I wanted to do these other women and men that were had the businesses I wanted so I the first step I did I call it this process of unboxing which is learning or believing that you could lead yourself and you don't need someone else to lead you so I thought I've got to emboss myself which is I have to think like a boss okay now everybody stop because I want to make sure that you have this because this is another tool yes I don't care if you're trying to get ahead in your career or if you want to figure out what to do next in your career or you truly do want to start something and grow it into a business unboxing yourself is a tool that you can use to change the way that you think yes because most of us grow up in households where we see our caregivers going to work for somebody else so you already have a mindset where you think safety comes from being somebody's employee you already have a mindset where you believe that oh those benefits owe that salary oh that you know kind of savings account all that stuff that I saw my parents chip away and try to do you think that that is the way to Financial Freedom and what I'm here to open your eyes to is this idea what if you had a different mindset what if you started to think like somebody who has their own business and what I will tell you being somebody that has my own business and that has has a great team it's that our team our people who think like bosses yes because a boss means you take responsibility for what you're doing a boss means you figure [ __ ] out instead of sitting around and licking your wounds and feeling sorry for yourself that this unboxing is a process that you have to go through in order to get yourself to think differently about how you're showing up and so what are the components of unboxing your mindset and your actions I love what you said about no matter if you plan on staying for your in your nine to five job or looking for another job if you get laid off or starting your own business if you adopt the mentality of unboxing yourself and you actually start thinking like a business owner you're going to show up so much better in every area of your life because someone who is unbossed they're not looking for everyone's approval they're not asking everyone how to make a decision they're not coming to the table and saying I'm stuck what do I do they might come to the table and say I'm stuck what do I do I've got these two options what do you think is best that kind of thing so it's changing your mindset and and really stepping into more confidence I've got this I'll figure this out watch me kind of mentality so I want to take a question real quick from one of our listeners okay because I think particularly for those of you that are in the situation where you've been laid off or you know somebody who has been fired or laid off um that's a real kick in the teeth and so it can be very hard to muster up the confidence and so I want to take a quick question from a listener named himena hi Mel I'm Ximena from Spain I'm being laid off some weeks ago how do you overcome feeling disposable and also I feel ashamed about telling people that I'm being laid off how can I overcome this feeling thank you so much love you okay him enough first of all I want you to understand something um it is normal to feel punched in the face when you get laid off it it is even if you hated the job it's normal because it's a rejection and I can tell you a million things about how it's for the best and it is for the best but I will also tell you I've been fired twice not laid off fired I have been told that you are not a fit for this job and the first time was uh the job right before I decided to start a life coaching business oh wow yeah I was working in a in a tech startup and I'd basically talked my way into the job I'm sure none of you can can imagine that happening but I had talked myself into the head of like like the director of content you know what you used to be and I had no [ __ ] clue what I was doing I mean I just was desperate I talked my way into that job and within I don't know it was clearer than six weeks but the gig was up within six months and they called me in and I knew I would literally sit at that job all day and pretend that I was working because I did not know what I was doing I had no understanding of engineering I had no idea how all the tech worked I just bullshitted my way in I know that I'm painting a wonderful picture of myself and they fired me and they should have fired me and it's a hard thing to grasp that it actually isn't personal it's always a business decision you're not a fit for where the business is going you're not a fit for where the business needs to go you're not a fit in terms of your skill set that's it that's all that it is and it always is a a really positive thing when you look back because if it's not a fit for your employer it's not a fit for you either but I want to say something quickly because I know that you have so many women as students and that is that based on the research everyone women in particular take getting laid off so personally that we typically see a decrease in our salaries of 24 after we've been laid off men typically bounce back stronger they typically earn an average of 1.3 percent more when they get the new job and I'll tell you why because of what you're talking about we think we did something wrong right we think it's our fault and the truth is it's just not a match and I need you to understand that it's normal to feel this way Jimena but it's why I want you to listen to this episode because you're not meant to be in a job where it's not a match for your skills you're not meant to be in a job where you feel trapped and you're not meant to be in a job that you know deep in your heart because we all know deep in our heart that it's not a fit you can feel it's off you can and it doesn't matter how good of a person you are we've had to um you know lay off people that we love because the company's headed in a New Direction and the skills are not a fit absolutely one of my students recently got laid off after 20 years of being in the job that she was in so tell me the story and so she was she's now in her 50s and working at this job for 20 years doing a great job wakes up one morning and they lay her off and she was totally surprised by it never thought it would happen to her and in that moment she felt the shame and the embarrassment and what did I do but then the very next thought and this is what's so powerful she thought I didn't even like this job anyway I have been staying in a job that I don't even like because it pays the bills it is secure and I always remind people there's no growth in security that is not where you're going to shine when you're just always safe and secure you've got to get out of that in order to shake things up and she realized I need to shake things up and her next thought wasn't let me dust off my resume and a lot of people that are going to get laid off this year or something's going to happen they think I gotta go look for my next job no but if they just took a beat what do you really want and that's the part that's where I want to grab people right there and say wait a second what do you really want is it really to go back to a nine to five job or have you been dreaming about doing your own thing but you're just too scared to take the leap wow what do you really want that's a huge question and I want you to contemplate that what do you really want and here's the secret you start with the life you want so when I teach people how to go out and get their own build their own business I always say first of all let's talk about what life style you want because when I was in my nine to five job one night I was rushing home to make dinner on time I wanted to be home with my family to sit at the table and have dinner and I was running late I stayed in a meeting late I had some things to get done it was now like 6 30. I knew it was going to be too late but I was bound and determined to get home so I was racing to get home and got pulled over and this female cop came up to my car and already I felt flush in the face like I was just so upset now I'm getting pulled over and she says Ma'am why are you driving so fast and I looked at her and I said I'm trying to get home to dinner with my family because I haven't been home all week and I don't want to miss another chance to be with my family and she said go just go oh and it's like she understood that when you are in a nine-to-five job that you no longer want everything else seems to Fall by the wayside like you're not living the life that you want so that was just one moment like I wanted to be home with my family I wanted to actually make more money so I could invest in things that I wanted to invest in there was so much that I didn't have that I wanted that I kind of just started there so you got to just ask yourself what kind of lifestyle you want and then build your career around that well I think a lot of people got a huge wake-up call these past three years if if the pandemic did nothing else it certainly made you reflect on your values it made you reflect on where you wanted to live it made you reflect on what was important to you and this mindless chasing of more and more and more it became very clear for a lot of us that that is not the lifestyle yeah we want you had a huge move I had a huge move all beginning with the question what do I actually want my life to look like yes all right well I want you to pause right there because we're going to take a word from our sponsors but when we come back we're going to take a few more questions from listeners and we're going to continue to hold your hand and walk you step by step through this process of starting to embrace the wake-up call ask these big questions and get freaking serious about your ability of making it happen welcome back it's your friend Mel Robbins I am here with Amy Porterfield and we're asking the big questions today of you what do you want your life to look like how nice would it be if you had freedom you were free to work when you wanted where you wanted that you took the time to design your life to work for you and for those of you that have never thought about this before you always thought okay I just got to get a job I got to get a job we're unpacking a concept called unboxing yourself because I personally believe this is all mindset it's all mindset and you've got two strategies to emboss yourself but before we get to those I want to go back to the story because you had this wake-up call you're like what are these dudes are doing to make money online I'm figuring this out yeah because I am not free if I work for somebody else and I really see and have a taste of what they have and now I want to figure it out and so take away number one everybody pay attention to the wake-up call takeaway number two yes you can sort this stuff out and take away number three is what did you do next so that's when I started to think what could I possibly do how do I need to emboss myself how do I need to think in order to step into what I want got it so I really did start with my mindset so this concept of embossing really understanding that you could lead yourself and you do not need anybody else to tell you what to do make the decisions for you or Lead You So once you start to think okay how can I lead myself I had to take I had to take some steps to get me there the first thing was again I talked about what do I want and I went on social media and started following a bunch of people that had the kind of businesses that I wanted total immersion I wanted you know and you did an episode a while ago that you talked about when you let's say got a new car and you started to see that car everywhere yes it's the same concept when I decided I want to start my own business I started to see bosses everywhere doing what I wanted but I was intentional about it and I cleaned up my social media okay so take away number one yeah you have this wake-up call what do you want your life to look like get serious about curating your social media right now so that you are immersed in the world that you want to step into that is step one that is what a leader does that's what you're gonna do we all have Boards of advisors we all call experts like I call Amy on speed dial when I need help with marketing you're going to do social media and you're going to use social media and in a very intentional way to start to create that community and that mindset around you what's the second thing you can do to change your mindset and unboss yourself start asking for advice okay find the people who are doing what you want and find out how they did it and I actually have a great story about it okay okay so when I was still at Tony Robbins I knew I wanted to create courses and help people do their marketing and build businesses down the road I wasn't ready for it yet but I knew I wanted that kind of business so I went online and I found a bunch of people doing what I wanted and there's this one woman who absolutely had the kind of business I wanted I did not know her at all but I watched her online and I thought that's the kind of business I want so I went to her contact page on her website wrote her a little email and said listen I know you don't offer this but can I pay you for an hour of your time I just want to ask you all about how you built your business I'm new to all of this I I don't even know where to start will you share some insight with me if I pay you and she said yes wow yep so you you gotta ask you gotta ask and here's another way you can do it because you're probably sitting there notice you have a employee mindset yes we're like but I don't have any money to pay Amy's got money because she works at Johnny Rapids no no no no no no no no that is not the mindset you are not a loser you're a winner uh all of these people that you follow have likely done a podcast interview or a YouTube video or they've written a blog post and all the advice is in there and another way that you can get people to respond to you is you can present them with some challenge that you're facing and say could you could you give me like I need some help making a decision I'm facing this challenge here are two or three things that I'm thinking about doing which would you advise because then you've done the work you've thought like a boss you haven't come to somebody to solve your problems so that's another way that even if you're working for somebody else unboxing yourself is a mentality don't expect your boss to solve your problems it's so it's not their job to solve your problems it's your job to come up with the solutions to recommend for the problems that you're facing in whatever your role is and so that's a way that you can take this philosophy into your current job while you figure out what you want to do yes so you stuck with this job and you chipped away at the job while you change social media and you started asking people for advice you started chipping away at learning things what else did you do in order to kind of Step by Step March toward building something you had no freaking skill or experience to do yes I had to get unreasonable and by the word unreasonable I mean I had to start thinking in ways that I had never done before and so like with the call with that woman that said yes like I was still at my office I had to crawl under my desk because the walls were thin I didn't want anyone to hear me at my lunch hour I'm whispering to her on the phone like how did you build your business what did you do and she's Whispering back to me and I'm sure she thinks that's weird that we're whispering but I needed to make it happen so I had to start putting myself in places that I was way out of my element because I wanted something bigger than my life at the moment now how do you keep that present because I think this is what separates people in life yes we all want it who doesn't want to make a million dollars who doesn't want freedom who doesn't want you know to to figure out how to make money online and and check their balances while they're they're sitting on the toilet I mean who doesn't want to make money while they're sleeping but what separates those of us who do and anybody who doesn't is literally the action that's exactly that is it like if you're willing to go one step further than the person that just quit you my friend have the secret formula or there is no [ __ ] secret formula yes you have to stop listening to the [ __ ] that is stopping you from taking action I mean this woman is sitting under her desk I'm literally at an event I'm not supposed to be at because we wanted something more for ourselves what did you do to keep that freedom which is this big ass word what did you do to keep that front and center other than having your social media feeds reminding you that this is the world you wanted to step into it's sort of like a kid who decides okay I'm gonna go to a call I'm going to go to this college and they're really into the first one that popped into mine is Michigan I'm from Michigan everybody loves either Michigan State or big blue and so kids would would wear the sweatshirts and they'd look at the school and they'd follow people and they'd buy the swag and they'd been wearing it all over and and so they're like immersing themselves in this world before they're there how the hell do you do this for yourself when it's about a side hustle or who you want to become because you're talking like recreate your whole damn life like stop stop getting a job and get serious about what you want your life to look like so I started to change my identity I'm going to be a business owner I'm going to be a boss what do bosses do they listen to podcasts about building businesses they buy the books about how to change your mindset how to start a business how to get things going they buy the digital courses I never bought a digital course in my life I bought my first digital course while I was still at my nine to five job it was all about how to do video marketing I had no idea how to make it can I give everybody a pro tip yes a lot of companies as a perk give a login to master class and some of these other places and so you can be use it yeah there is so much free education you're hearing Amy go bye bye bye Khan Academy YouTube all this stuff is free everybody so you got to be willing to look for it if you've gotten laid off the Harvard Extension school has free resume templates if you're willing to freaking Google it so you know we have to get out of this mode of stuff's being done to you and you know damn that job and I'm embarrassed [ __ ] that job was not a fit and you know what why you want to know why it wasn't a fit because you got fired because you got laid off and yes it sucks but you get to decide now what it means are you going to Pivot and are you going to take this as a wake-up call or are you going to sit there and feel sorry for yourself it's so true so yes get resourceful you don't have to pay for any of this there's tons of free resources out there even more so now than there were when I even left but I started to again total immersion fuel my mind with the right things but here's another thing I did I started a side hustle and I think this is an important conversation for people right now if you're afraid of getting fired laid off or you're just not making enough money a lot of people listening they think they're staying in their nine to five job but they know they're not getting paid enough they know they're undervalued so the best next thing you can do is start your own thing in the mornings nights weekends to bring in a little extra money let me tell you about a student yeah give me give me an example so one of my students her name was Rachel she was a pharmacist and she did this job as a pharmacist because her parents wanted her to have that job it looked good it sounded good and here she is as a pharmacist during covid and hates every minute of it like her life was miserable what she went through and so on the side she decided I'm going to learn how to buy real estate she didn't have a lot of money but she said I'm going to learn how to just buy a little bit of real estate and turn it into an Airbnb and see if I can make a little extra money doing that so she researched she started saving she started she bought her first piece of real estate and it did really well and she told her husband one day I want to be my full-time thing and he laughed at her like the no you're a pharmacist you're not going to do that but she kept at it and she kept at it she made 300 000 last year when she figured out how to get this real estate and get the money to invest and all of that quit her Pharmacy job and never has looked back so is this somebody with a trust fund no not at all like this woman was Scrappy let me tell you another story of someone who didn't have a lot of money okay because I know because most people don't have a lot of money like most people are paycheck to paycheck most people are like that sounds great but I've got no money for a course I you know I'm definitely gonna pick up the book two weeks notice that you just wrote Amy for the step-by-step guide but I don't like I don't have my real estate what are you talking about okay let me give you a better one so this one is from my student Tara and she I was an accountant for 15 years in a very small town and she's a single mom and she said I need a raise I'm not making enough money she went to the company and said I'd like a raise and they looked at her with blank stares like that's not even in your future at all and she realized I've got to do something so she was she was really good at making wreaths she made these beautiful wreaths wreaths yeah like you mean those those round things that we hang on our doors yes okay so she's really going to read so I want to go back to something remember how Amy said you got to go through The Sweet Spot exercise by the way tons of resources linked all in the show notes on every single platform yes but I I want you to hear this this is a person who has been told by people forever that she does a good job making wreaths yes I know what you're thinking everybody you're thinking Mel I have a mortgage to pay Mel I have student debt Mel I am not starting a [ __ ] business making wreaths because I will not be able to pay my bills doing this here's what I want to tell you have no clue what you're capable of but what you're capable of right now is shooting down every single idea you're putting all your energy into coming up with reasons for why not why it's stupid why you can't what if you put half the amount of energy into why the [ __ ] not yeah why not make Grease why not see where this goes why not instead of flopping down in front of Netflix tonight because I'm my soul is sucked dry from my job search or my job that I go to or worrying about what why not invest that same time that I procrastinate at night into creating a little bit of a side hustle tasting a little bit of Freedom saying yes in a little way why not just a starter idea Justice that's all she had that's all she had yes so she wasn't saying I'm going to quit my job tomorrow because I'm making wreaths she just thought I gotta bring in some extra money I better get Scrappy yeah so she started making these wreaths selling them on Etsy and she was doing really well bringing in like a thousand dollars a month extras that's pretty good right that's like take the kids to Disney money exactly that's pay the bills money she's like feeling a little bit that's another thing you start to feel a little confident when you start to take some action and get some clarity like this is actually working so what happened was her friend started seeing her make money on Etsy and they were making crafts and they weren't making any money on Etsy and they said teach us how you're doing that that's what I want to know and that's where it started to click for her her starter idea was not going to pay the bills however she took action got some clarity started to listen to what people were saying and they said teach us how you're doing that so she created a little mini course teaching other people how to put their Crafts online and make money with Etsy a hundred thousand dollars later this woman never in a million years thought she'd make a hundred thousand dollars teaching other women how to put their crafts on Etsy so how long of a period of time from the idea of oh I could because first it becomes I want everybody to pay attention because I'm trying to open your eyes to the fact that your whole life can change because of one wake-up moment and the willingness to lean into something that you naturally do well or you're naturally interested in I'm going to put an example into this in just a minute but this willingness to lean into what you're naturally good at and other people compliment you on I've never thought about it this way not so that it it pays your mortgage but so that it gives you a taste of freedom and it Taps into this power and res for resourcefulness and Moxie that is inside you yes because when you start feeling that you'll start thinking even bigger and so you know I'm thinking about this because and I'm going to offer up an example because it literally could be anything I think about my daughter Sawyer who constantly is complimented for her interior decorating style and skills no training and I keep thinking to myself boy she could do a whole Instagram strategy of Designing on a budget she could do a whole thing about how you design a killer dorm room for X number of dollars or how you design your first apartment I'm thinking about another kid I have a I have a neighbor whose son senior year of high school no joke made almost thirty thousand dollars you want to know how how I'll tell you how I saw one video One video he Googled how to make money online one video of this business where you advertise the service of picking up people's stuff like couches they don't want and then you list it for sale on Facebook Marketplace and you deliver it to somebody else brilliant brilliant and Scrappy I like Scrappy ideas and so I'm I'm not suggesting you'll make millions maybe you will because maybe you'll turn it into a junk removal business maybe you'll turn it into something else but you are limiting what's possible because you won't even lean into something like the wreath idea or the idea of starting an Instagram account that is about decorating on a budget because you tell yourself it's not possible I can't do it somebody else has already done it do you have another example of somebody who just like was either really old or really young that did this yes I have a great story one of my favorite students her name is Anne and Ann worked in corporate at Gap in Old Navy she was in her 50s at the time and she got laid off which is tends to be a theme we're hearing a lot so she's laid off and she thinks okay well I've been in this business for a while I'm going to dust off my resume get it back out there so she did months and months and months couldn't even get an interview and I hate to say this but I think it was her age probably right people are hiring younger so they're not they're just looking over her and all of her experience that she had and so one day her husband said you've got all of these different crafts up in our addict you love to do these why don't you just play around there for a while see if it Sparks anything and so she didn't have any other option at the time so she started to kind of get in there and she does this one thing really well surface pattern design what the hell is that right I'm not crafty at all so I really had to kind of dig in to understand it basically it's this idea of drawing your own Doodles and different graphics on let's say through a software and turning those drawings of yours into wallpaper into wrapping people into mud yes okay and so she did this really well and yet again people started to say how are you doing that that's why when you think of The Sweet Spot formula the first thing you do is pay attention to what people think you're good at because it's just a natural thing they're interested and so she did it well other people wanted to know how she did it so she started to teach them how she did it now this woman went from literally not getting anyone that wanted to hire her not even getting interviews wow to doing laundry inches of this this new program she created hundred thousand dollar launches over and over again but I want to point out she's in her 60s wait okay yeah you buried the lead yeah Amy she's in her 60s didn't know how to run a business didn't know how to do technology didn't know how to put up a website didn't know how to do a webinar she knew none of it but what she did know is she wanted a different kind of life and she got honest with herself I don't want to be begging for a job they think I'm too old watch me oh I love that that's what I want watch me watch me do this damn thing I I cannot wait to send this episode to my kids can you tell me about someone on the younger side that um went from nothing telling yourself no skills too young I can't do this miss the boat there's already too many people doing Fitness online or whatever the hell it is that you want to do too many interior designers no room for me tell me about somebody on the on the younger end of the sky I will and I want to say if you're looking around and you think I want to do this and you see so many other people doing it yes and they're doing it well like podcasts with me yes the first thought is there's no room for me I can't do that it's already been being done first of all there's over eight billion people in this world there's definitely an audience you can reach but the second thing is if it's being done and it's being done well that means there's money to be made there right it's a validation look at it and think oh great Mel's a great example that I can make money doing this let me try it okay did you hear that everybody it's important it's re really important because somebody else doing this is a validation that there is a business and money and more importantly people want this yes they want this in their lives and so I want to also say something um there are eight billion people Amy and often times the expert that my kids like like let's just take online exercise classes yes I feel demoralized when I'm looking at a 28 year old's rear end as she's doing like the donkey kicks thing and I'm like she like hasn't had kids yet I I'm in menopause I'm feeling like the stomach hanging down this is not great I want a different expert yes I want what my daughters have in that market but I want somebody that I feel represents me yes and so you have a unique take on things the 60 year old woman that you talked about that launched her first online course you know how empowering it is to see somebody teach you when you're in your 40s or 50s and they're older than you do you know how empowering it is when you see somebody that has your background your religion your skin color your body type your experience you are most qualified to help the person you used to be yes and you will most and Inspire the person who sees themselves in you and your story and so there are people out there like when I think about the podcast market and I saw there are five million podcasts on Spotify 5 million alone I'm like it's already taken what more what could I possibly contribute I know that's what everybody's thinking right now it's already been done [ __ ] you don't want to know why it hasn't been done by you amen that's it it hasn't been done by you you have lived experiences that nobody else has and you have stories and insights that you share that nobody else will and you only need a sliver of the internet to pay attention that's the wild thing here you don't need a hundred thousand customers to make money a sliver of the internet you get 10 customers let's say this Mel when I teach people how to create side hustles let's say you have a hundred dollar program and just 10 people buy that you just made a thousand dollars that you did not have 10 people that's all you need so when you start to think this is too big I'm too overwhelmed I don't know where to start you start with your starter idea and you just get into action you know I want to give a huge shout out to my kids guitar instructure Dave Wade so Dave Wade he has made a huge difference in our life and um he you know I was always barking about how he should do something more he was he's a session musician classical guitarist uh plays on all these major stages and he started a music school in Boston in the basement of a church and it's slowly grown and you know by just paying attention to that wake-up call inside him there's something more I could be doing I could be reaching more kids he figured out how to create an online course yes and he launched it before covid so all of a sudden covet hits and he's done this thing simply as a side hustle to an existing business a way to take something you're doing in real life and take that and put it online and he was positioned for covet and now he does nothing but virtual lessons with students all over the world like and in person in Boston but I mean it just changed his life why it's not because he's smarter than you it's not because he has more skills than you it's because he did one thing you're not doing he's saying what if it works out yes what if I just take this kernel of an idea and I lean into it and I don't do it overnight but I start chipping away at it sure look for a job sure work on your resume don't forget the fact that 85 percent of jobs aren't even listed anywhere and they're gotten by networking yeah so make sure you're out there talking to people there's another free tip I want to take another question from Louise in the UK hey Mel it's Lou from the UK um I have a question for you I am I'm no longer in my culprit career and after 25 years and I really want to use this time to do something that I'm really passionate about um coaching other people I've got the qualifications it's just the confidence um that's stopping me how can I get past the fear of Judgment of others to really put myself out there and follow my passion rather than making myself go back to a corporate career that doesn't light me up thanks oh Lou it's your lucky day man because you got Amy Porterfield in the hose so how do you deal with the fear of rejection what are people going to think if I'm selling my treats what are people gonna think if I like hold myself a coach okay so first of all notice in that question she said I'm qualified and then she just brushed right over it that's the thing and then she said how do I find the confidence you don't it does not start with confidence you have to tap into courage first and this is a mindset shift right here okay stop you don't tap into confidence everybody no you're not going to feel confident is what you're saying it's never going to show up in the beginning okay so you've got to tap into courage so please explain what that means to Lou or anybody listening who's like okay I got my idea I got the wreaths I got the streaming online I got the coaching business now I'm doubting myself yes I'm looking for confidence everywhere confidence comes from a proven track record of something you want to do you look and think oh I've done this so I can keep going you've never done this she doesn't want to do what she did in her nine-to-five job she wants to start something new that's Uncharted Territory yes there's no confidence in that so what she needs to do is first say I'm going to find the courage to do this courage is taking the leap of faith knowing everything I've done in my life I've literally gotten to this point I've overcome all of my obstacles I'm alive I'm here she has a proven track record of being resilient of showing up doing the work uh she said I have the experience I'm qualified so we're going to tap into urge saying well then I'm going to create something new based on the fact that my track record is I can figure this out you know what I love about this it's a way to basically just whack self-doubt away what you're saying is all right do this I've never done this before not feeling that confident imposter syndrome is kind of coming up I have the courage to try yes I have the courage to keep going I can tap into this thing inside me to say I know I'm nervous I know I'm this but I'm gonna [ __ ] do it I'm gonna do it yeah I'm gonna do it exactly and so that part is so important we're not going to chase confidence anymore the other thing is when I left my nine to five job I got home my first day on the job I'm in my kitchen at my kitchen table kind of typing away and freaked out thinking what did I do and I started to make videos and I would make these videos about marketing and funnels and all the stuff and publish them nowhere and my husband would say I see you making these videos but you're doing nothing with them why not and I said I'm so afraid what my old co-workers are going to think about me doing this they're going to see these videos where I'm not good on video yet so I look like a mess and they're going to think who is she she looks like a fool who does she think she is she doesn't know what she's doing so I didn't move forward in this dream I had because I was afraid of what they were thinking and here's the truth one they're not even paying that close of attention people are are into their own lives they're doing their own thing and any opinion they'd have of me making videos is a direct reflection of their opinion if they could do it as well they didn't leave their job yet they're not going after it so they're going to tell me all the reasons why I shouldn't or I am not going to make this work here's two pieces that I would add to that okay um Lou if you wouldn't trade your life with them why the [ __ ] would you listen to their advice yes number one uh because people who have not done what you want to do have no clue what it takes to get there so stop looking in the rearview mirror you're not heading in that direction second thing I want to say the second that you decide that you're going to Pivot your life your social media is not for your friends yes if you could get this concept into your head your social media is not for your friends your social media is for you and your dreams and your self-expression and it's meant to put something out in the world intentionally so that people who are looking for you and who need you can find you that is what social media is for if you want to share photos of your kids with your friends text them to them but when you get serious about making a pivot in your life the inbound of social media is your board of directors it's your board of advisors it's the way that you do total immersion as Amy just said into who you're becoming you're outbound what you post is meant to be something like a beacon that draws in the kind of people that are interested in this and when you can get clear it's not for your [ __ ] ex-co-workers it's not for your relatives it's not for your family it is not for your friends I think most of my long-term friends do not follow me because I post three times a day and it would choke their feed and you know if they want to catch up with me they'll text me and by the way they're not into what I do yes they're not into personal development and so why would they follow me I'm not putting it out there for anybody else but the people who find Value in it and when you can wrap that around your brain it'll change your freaking life I mean that's a great example of unboxing you have the courage to put out content that you know is no longer for your friends to see your kids or whatever but I'm going to put stuff out there that's going to attract people that I can serve yeah you think the CEO of Coca-Cola worries about what their ex-collees think about their new marketing campaign amen no we often say that about Beyonce do you think Beyonce or Oprah are sitting there thinking I don't know if I could do this what are people going to think about me if I put it out there they're not thinking that way and now she has the world's uh most Grammys of any recording artist ever to [ __ ] prove that if you just find the courage forget about confidence it'll come later find the courage to try make the damn wreaths yes say you're gonna do the online exercise thing say You're Gonna figure this thing out do it because you will not regret it I want to go to one more question and this one comes from Kerry and Scotland hi Mel my name is Kerry and I'm from Edinburgh Scotland um I recently got laid off from a job that I hated and I took it as a sign from the universe that I needed to find something else to do a new career um it was a great idea at first but now I have absolutely no idea how to go about finding the career that I love or finding my passion any tips on where to start oh I love this question congratulations Carrie I know it's scary but you're going to be just fine can you walk Carrie and everyone listening through your sweet spot exercise absolutely she's just been laid off no idea where to start how do you figure out what direction to move it so this is exactly what I did when I decided what I was going to do when I left my job and so I built it into a formula so there's four quadrants here's how you look at it the first quadrant is what are you good at so what do people always ask you about where have you gotten results in your personal life in your business life you might want to take what you know in your business life and bring it into your own business or you might look at your personal life and think you know what one year ago I was lazy on the couch watching Netflix eating all my snacks and I realized I want to run a marathon and so what you did is for three months you put together a plan to figure out how am I going to run an entire Marathon from couch to Marathon in three months you put together a plan and you freaking did it that's what you can sell other people want to know how you did it and they don't want to know from the leading experts in the marathon industry they want to learn from a girl that literally three months ago was sitting on the couch eating snacks yeah because that looks like me that yeah exactly so where have you gotten results in your personal life in your business life how can that translate into it so that's number one yes number two is think about who you might want as a customer and the reason why this is important is you want to start thinking about maybe some things you're struggling with Mel said it earlier the easiest way to find who your customer might be is who were you five years ago and how can you help them get to wherever they want to get that's one of the easiest ways to look at who might my customer be maybe it was you just a few years ago remember you just need a 10 Edge 10 ahead of those you serve Okay the third thing is where are people spending money what books are being sold on the topic you want are there courses being sold a one-on-one coaching meaning will people spend money to get what you're going to teach them or what you're going to sell so it's important to do a little market research so you want to look for people who are doing something similar exactly got it because that's like a validate that you could actually do this yes so I want people to already be doing what you want to do it's a plus okay great fourth quadrant and it's the most important what lights you up not what's your passion you're going to go down a rabbit hole and never come back up we don't need to find your passion right now but what do you enjoy what will make you excited to get out of bed in the morning because if you're going to create a business around something you don't love watch it crash and burn if you if it lights you up and you're excited you're going to figure it out so what lights you up she's inviting you to create a life that you love yes instead of surviving the one that you can't stand and it does take courage it really does um I I'm so happy you're here tell me the story about you had a 19 year old yes so one of my favorite students 19 his name's Aiden and he dropped out of college you know it just wasn't for him and I can totally relate College isn't for everyone so he thought what am I going to do but he needed to make money really quickly and one thing he was really good at because everyone said how do you do that is training his dogs he he's not a professional dog trainer but talk about those jaw dogs not jumping on the couch not jumping on people when they walk through the door not barking like crazy he just had it down he had two dogs and trained him well so he thought well I'm gonna start making some videos I'm going to start posting on social I'm going to show people what I can do with these dogs and what happened was this is the scrappy part in his local neighborhood people started to hire him one-on-one teach my dogs come get my dogs teach teach them what you know okay so that was the first action the starter idea now it's bloomed into creating courses and memberships and teaching people all about dog training but it started in his local community you can't discount you can't say I want to make a million dollars tomorrow let's focus on the thousand dollars that you can make right away ding ding ding ding ding did you guys just hear that see this is a practical application of making it smaller yes how can you make a thousand dollars now doing something that you love because when you find the courage to do that and then post the photos of your wreaths or put up the little video of you teaching the neighbor's annoying yappy dog how to sit when you say sit you're not it doesn't matter what your friends think you're starting to see yourself doing something instead of thinking about it and that's going to create confidence in you to do more and more and more see it doesn't begin with a million dollars it begins with a hundred dollars or a thousand dollars and you're not gonna make that hundred dollars or that thousand dollars if you're not willing to have the wake-up call and then you're not willing to lean toward it and you're not willing to say to yourself why not me why not me if these two chicks Amy who's almost 50 and Muse 54 can figure out how to make a lot of money and build a business online with no prior experience no skill set the one thing that we have that we are inviting you step by step by step and Amy walks you through this in her book two weeks notice is to think differently to think differently to open your eyes up to a totally different possibility freedom Financial Freedom Freedom with your time the freedom and the power to create a life that really works for you this is not just for some people it's for everybody it's for people that are willing to say you know what I do want more for my life and I do want to feel in control and I can make money and I can learn how to pay for my benefits and my health care and I could take the power back if I'm willing to think differently Amy what are some final thoughts for people because I know what happens in an episode like this everyone's like holy [ __ ] okay first of all don't quit your job just yet I know she's written the book two weeks notice but when you put too much pressure on something it makes you freak out and so if you are working let's start with a side hustle let's start with a Runway and she's going to walk you through this in her new book if you are newly laid off or you somebody sent this to you because you're laid off or you're about to graduate from a program and you don't have a job and you're freaking out chill and what is the next right step for somebody to take is it to do The Sweet Spot exercise absolutely I think doing The Sweet Spot exercise could be really helpful and if you get stuck on what am I good at ask your friends and family I want you to send a text out to 10 people today and say if I were ever going to go out on my own and do my own thing what am I good at what do you think I should start because your family and friends will have lots of ideas for you so that's one thing you could do and I also think it's important you know in my book A lot of people will say I don't know where to start we just heard that one like I want to do my own thing but I have no idea where to start I wrote the book I wish I had 14 years ago when I was starting out I too had no idea what to do and I fumbled for two years and I don't think that's necessary so I wrote the step-by-step guidebook to give you everything you need to know to start your own side hustle or start your own business but here's what I want to say you have you've been out there on Tick Tock saying no one's coming to save you it's actually a really um popular Tick Tock that everyone is using like no one's coming to save you you're a tick tock sensation for the record and that is very true right now as well meaning you don't need anybody to save you you do not need anybody to tell you how worthy you are you do not need someone to approve how much money you can make or how you can spend your time there's a world out there that you literally are designing your own life by calling the shots everybody is welcome to explore that and the only people who will take us up on this today are those that will say all right I'll give it a shot I don't know how this would work out I don't know what this would look like I'm at least going to explore the possibility that I could have a different life that's all we're asking for people to do right now wow all right so the next right step you gotta follow Amy Porterfield yes make sure you're subscribed to both of our YouTube channels because we will pump you up and we will give you the next right steps and I want to congratulate you listening on one thing you took the time to listen to this you took the time to entertain it and if you feel something fluttering inside you take the next step pick up Amy's book it's two weeks notice we've linked to it in the contents and also check out some of the free resources yes we have linked to some of the videos that she has that are free that you can watch that are going to walk you through some of the next right steps and you know we're here to support you but the main thing that I wanted to do today this was my mission was to give you a wake-up call and to make you go I don't have to do what I've always done because if I continue to do what I've always done I'm gonna have what I've always had and I deserve to be happier and I deserve to have uh more time and I deserve to feel like I'm in control and I deserve to be doing something that makes me feel empowered and we are two living examples and Amy's track record is certainly much larger than mine having taught more than 50 000 people how to do this we are examples that you can change your life any moment you decide to it's never too late you're never too early for those of you who are just graduating never too early to take control and to Pivot and to do something entirely different just because you want to Amy Porterfield thank you my friend so happy to be here thank you and uh I just want to say that in case nobody else tells you I love you I know Amy does too I love you I believe in you and I believe in your ability to do this go create a side hustle go tap into this new economy go be smarter I want that for you and I know you want that for you too all right I'll talk to you in a few days oh one more thing it's the legal language this podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes it is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician professional coach psychotherapist or other qualified professionals [Music] [Music] foreign hey it's Mel thank you so much for being here if you enjoyed that video bye God please subscribe because I don't want you to miss a thing thank you so much for being here we've got so much amazing stuff coming thank you so much for sending this stuff to your friends and your family I love you we create these videos for you so make sure you subscribe

Channel: Mel Robbins

Views: 199,894

Keywords: Mel Robbins, Mel Robbins Motivation, Mel Robbins Advice, inspiration

Id: ZZ1GWfsz8Ic

Length: 78min 4sec (4684 seconds)

Published: Thu Feb 23 2023