Has Toxic Masculinity Become Toxic Femininity?

welcome back to the comments section I'm Brett Cooper women I am coming for you today there is a tick tock Trend that has really been irking me and rubbing me the wrong way over the last couple of weeks and it is just a perfect example of how feminism has gone way too far and I kind of wanted to smush it all together and have a broader conversation about that and what I am calling toxic femininity but before we get into that make sure that you like this video subscribe to the channel if you have not already and ring that notification Bell so that you never miss a comment section or off the clock episode this trend started popping up a couple of weeks ago I saw a few videos and then recently I clicked on the sound and saw how many women were making videos like this and it was just shocking to me and then I saw other things that were kind of relating to it so that's kind of how this episode came about but anyway let's just dive in and watch some of these and obviously when I say I'm talking to women I'm coming after women most of my audience like you guys are smart you're not going to feed into this stuff but still we're talking to women today okay here we go [Music] so that's the Trenton is basically I'm better than your vanilla wife and you're going to be thinking about me when you're married to some other girl you're still going to be thinking about how much fun you had with me and how much better I am than her so like this one it might not be the one you marry but I'll be the one you're thinking about while driving home to your high maintenance vanilla wife here's another one [Music] I mean the sound on this one is perfect can't make a wife out of a hoe that's very socially true in many ways and the girls leaning into that but this one says I might not be the girl you marry but I'll be the one you're thinking about 20 years from now when you engage in polite sex with your boring wife who fakes her orgasm to make you feel better about your receding hairline and then this girl is basically saying that she's the hoe who he could not keep and now he's dealing with the consequences with his stupid vanilla wife here's another one [Music] so trashy and what is the point why you're getting clout for saying you're the hoe for insinuating that men are thinking about you while being with their wife we have fallen so far in our society that that is like morally acceptable to Post online to like be proud of yourself that a guy is emotionally cheating on his wife with you and you're proud of that [ __ ] that's wrong all right we have more I'm telling you there's so many of these [Music] God okay here's another one driving the point home everybody [Music] at least you put a different song on here and I know I showed you a lot of these but there are so many of these videos under different songs but if you search like a vanilla wife boring wife they all come up and it's all of these women that are so proud to not be traditional to not be married but they're still being thought about by married men and on almost all of these videos the comments are turned off in all of the videos I showed you only one of them kept the comments on everybody else is turning them off and I wonder why you had to turn off those comments I wonder if it's because you are shaming wives and entire population traditional women now my first thought is just like the Absurd ego on these women to think that you are every man's girl who got away that everybody is just sitting around thinking about you newsflash the world does not revolve around you people are not sitting around thinking about you every single day they are too caught up in their own business get a grip you think you're too cool for school you're probably just trying to cover this deep insecurity that you are not married or settle down and you are still walking around thinking about sex you've had with random guys years ago that's probably why you're posting this anyway like I said only one of the girls had her comments still on this person said oh girl trust me they always reach back out always another girl said yep yep manifesting for him to never forget me ever why why are you so hell-bent on having a guy think about you forever but not actually be with you it's weird somebody else said we might not be the one they choose we're going to be the one they regret not choosing smirky face like what is these are they're all clapping like girl boss seals I appreciated this man though in the comment section inadvertently humbling them I don't think that was his intention but I read the comment like that his name is Dan he said I wish I could remember some women I had been with genuinely bugs me when I can't recall how they were it's like yeah sorry I literally don't remember you um so sorry you're sitting around making all of these videos about how everybody's thinking about you and we literally can't even remember thankfully though a lot of wives and husbands jumped in and started defending their marriages and their relationships and this one just hits the nail on the head and it went viral and it's just I think she sums it up well she said hi I'm the vanilla wife I couldn't care less what my husband did before we met who his exes are and what he experienced with them he proposed to me after 10 months and we got married a year later please go on with your life don't be so bitter I'm sure you'll find someone being obsessed with a happily married man and creating obscure scenarios is not good for your mental health no it is not like literally you are obsessing over people that you do not have because you are insecure and you are probably alone that is not healthy none of it is so I did like seeing how a lot of women turned the trend around and didn't allow these women to slander them and like that girl started doubling down and being like yeah I am the vanilla wife and I'm proud of it I have a great relationship I'm super happy I get to be a stay-at-home mom like what's wrong with that like that is the way you handle this sort of thing you don't apologize and you double down because that makes them squirm that is the reason why all of those women turned off the comments on those stupid videos moving on because obviously I wanted to talk about more than just that Trend this is not the first of this kind of attitude that I have seen there are so many women online who are hell-bent on taking down traditional women for their own gain and trying to dominate men like this one I also cannot tell if this person is a man or a woman but either way the point is still the same because people love him her okay so aside from having amazing characteristics the reason why I plain jeans get wiped up a lot quicker than the conventionally attractive girl is because their maintenance cost less everyone knows it costs money to look good and when you appear high maintenance you're gonna be out of the tax bracket for most people as a pretty girl you're like a hot fudge chocolate sundae with rainbow sprinkles on top served in a waffle cone not a cup and as a plain Jane you're just a vanilla now nothing's wrong with vanilla I love vanilla we all love vanilla but vanilla is the average choice and since most people are average they're gonna opt for the average twizz you're just gonna have to accept that as a pretty girl you are in an acquired taste everyone can get access to McDonald's but not everyone has access to caviar yeah yeah [Music] um I'm gonna have to go ahead and sort of disagree with you there okay I'm so uncomfortable right now because it feels like we are back in high school and we are dealing with a mean girl like oh yeah it's so hard being this pretty it's just like guys you know they can't have him too expensive you know let me say oh I love vanilla everybody loves vanilla you sweet it's so condescending it's like the only reason you're getting married is because you're kind of ugly that's the only reason why no it's not it's probably because they're good people and they treat their husbands well and they're not sitting online shaming other women and saying I'm too good for you like this is actual pick me girl Behavior you are upset because some person did not choose you and so you're trying to rationalize why that didn't happen and in the midst of that you're tearing down Plain Jane women and saying oh you know he couldn't handle me he couldn't afford me that's why he had to settle for you again condescending and like I said it's probably because you sit on the internet making videos like this also making videos about how you manipulate men so a really good seduction tip is to slip the words I need you to through into sentences because that's going to be the command and it's going to go into their subconscious like a lot easy so for example Daniel gives me that glass of water Samuel I need you to zip this up for me it's kind of like programming their subconscious to become dependent on you now she started off this series by calling it seduction tips and then like six videos in they turn to manipulation and so now she doesn't even call them seduction that was kind of like a mask for it now this person makes videos about how to manipulate men oh you say this you can get them to do things oh if you don't want him to do this he'll you know he'll fall to his knees for this it's like I'm sorry news flash most men aren't looking for that they are not wanting to have a woman play games with them and manipulate them nobody wants that but women keep saying these things and acting like this again here's another one the whole time I was seeing him I was kind of just using it as a psychology experiment and I didn't really I didn't really like the guy I more just wanted to see if I could break his heart and it was fun so did you break his heart then just a wee bit I hope I did a little damage wow okay that is psychopath Behavior oh I just wanted to break his heart just a little bit I didn't even like him no wonder men are wary about long-term relationships when women are acting like this when you are saying things like this online like I guarantee a guy is going to see you now and be like oh yeah never mind do not want to go out with you because objectively you are a player and you care more about this fake made up idea that you need to dominate and screw over men in order to be an empowered woman in order to abolish the patriarchy that you need to adopt all of these you know toxic masculine traits and tear down men and be aggressive you actually don't we have to work together in harmony that is how men and women work there are things that both of us do better do differently we are biologically designed to work together that is natural we are supposed to find balance that is healthy that actually reminds me of balance of nature which actually helps you maintain a healthy lifestyle because you know I take care of myself I'm not an angry feminist I'm not hating men all the time you 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married for like 20 years is very successful in a happy relationship and posted this let's just read it if I had three lives I'd marry you in two the other perhaps in that life over there at Starbucks sitting alone writing a memoir maybe a novel or this poem no kids probably a small apartment with a view of the river and books lots of books and time to read friends to laugh with and a man sometimes for a weekend to remember what skin feels like when it's alive I'd be thinner in that life vegan I'd practice yoga I'd go to Art films farmers markets drink martinis and swingy skirts and big jewelry I'd vacation on the main coast and wear a flannel shirt weekend guy Left Behind loving the smell of sweat and aftershave more than I did him I'd walk the beach at Sunrise find perfect shell Spirals and study pockmarks water makes and sand and I'd wonder sometimes if I'd ever find you okay in this third life that this woman is talking about that all these women are posting up being like Oh I just I feel this so much you can literally do all of those things as a married person except cheat on them with some you know guy you have for the weekend like the writer the people posting this are insinuating that men totally hold you back and that you lose yourself and your Independence when you tether yourself to a husband that women are literally just objects who lose their freedom when they get married that is not true unless you marry an [ __ ] obviously there are exceptions in certain relationships but as a woman you are not stripping yourself entirely of what makes you an individual when you get married or you you know find somebody to spend your life with it's kind of the contrary you're supposed to be able to grow together build each other up do the things you love together but women are posting this acting like their autonomy is being totally Stripped Away by the men in their lives that last line actually is true though and sometimes I'd wonder if I'd ever find you because you can do all of those things and try to find meaning without love and family but in the end you are still going to want that kind of fulfillment you are still going to want that love in that family again because we are biologically designed to do so those superficial things vacationing on the main coast and looking at seashells and you know doing yoga and being vegan those are not going to sustain you in the end like emotionally in what we need I also want to know like what do men think about this like the women who are posting this they're Partners their boyfriends their husbands you see your girlfriend post this it's like what the hell again it's just ridiculous now all of this feels like toxic femininity to me that is the term that I use at the beginning of this segment women of shamed men for these toxically masculine behaviors and traits and then they've turned around and they've gone and adopted it not even just adopted it but have taken it on as a form of empowerment literally like think of all of the traits that make up toxic masculine Behavior I have some of them here I pulled them up on a list being stoic okay think about that girl who literally said that she was playing that guy wanted to break his heart and showed no remorse that's pretty stoic to me being promiscuous all of these girls literally thinking that they are just sexual objects and that that is empowering skipping over some of the ones that just don't make sense but like being dominant being violent sexual aggression towards women okay well we have sexual aggression towards men now not displaying emotion again same thing as being stoic not being a feminist Ally I mean I can sort of twist that to make my point because I don't think that feminism is healthy for women and actually empowering women so there you go not engaging in household chores and caregiving these women who are not married are obviously not doing this risk taking apparently that's toxically masculine that is just absurd anyway the point is we are being taught to do all of those behaviors while simultaneously shaming men for allegedly having similar behaviors there is no consistency you will not be treated better by men if you manipulate them and tell them that you hate them and that they are awful and that they're worth nothing you will not gain a man's Respect by treating him in that way or if you're you know trying to hang on to a past hookup when he has moved on with his life feminism has gone too far no wonder the two Sexes do not get along well like this is absurd okay that was fun and those people are crazy if you want to see more videos like that make sure you subscribe to this Channel and like that video and if you want even more content you can follow me on Instagram and I'm Brett Cooper

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Length: 15min 45sec (945 seconds)

Published: Thu Feb 09 2023