Haram Relationships & Marriage

[Music] the sahabas they used to make the Hallel easy so what became hard the haram when we make the halal hard the Haram becomes easy mark my words brothers and sisters I'm talking to the parents when you make the halal hard the Haram becomes easy when you make the halal easy the Haram becomes hard open the doors for marriage and share Allah and lower the dowry and go in accordance with the Quran and the Sunnah there is a culture among the youth which I feel and that is that they are turning away from marriage and if they get married they divorce very quickly brothers and sisters in Islam do not let the idea of Haram relationships get the better of you a lot of youth they come to me and they say brother I want to get married but I need to meet like I need to get to know the girl and the girl says I need to get to know the guy how am I meant to get to know them if I don't go out with them if I don't have coffee together like the West teachers brothers and sisters let me inform you about something very important you will never know your future wife or your future husband if you just go out together you'll never know them take it from a person who's lived in or in a country where people do this all the time because when you go out together you are on your best behavior you are on your best looks the best cologne the c/k perfume is on you and she's got Versace and she's come out ready to meet you she's probably looked at them at the mirror and spent about half an hour practicing how to talk to you and you as well looking at every little hair on your forehead every little hair on your cheek this all fades away within about six months of your marriage the only thing that's left is the character you will never know the true character of this person until you meet them in their home you go to the Islamic way and you go and ask for their hand in marriage to their father first a lot of youth they come to me and they say I need to get to know the girl first and subhanAllah how quick they are to jump on where where did I jump on to get to know them the Internet and messaging text they start conversing are you interested in marriage she's on the other side she's got a username first right let's chat how did you know as a sister I now looked at your profile and you had some really good I'm interested in that too and it let's get into this conversation and comes up to me and says brother brother it's an inch it's it's in the interest of marriage you know my intentions are pure your intentions are pure you're doing this for Allah Spano to Allah but you're doing it your way what do you think they're making up your own religion now so they chit chat and they chit chat and they chit chat right first they attract each other then they meet each other then they look at each other it's all good to know right they haven't touched then they want to touch then the touch turns into something else and then finally they fall in love in love if you only knew brother and sisters you don't know what love is this is not love this is lust lust the girl is thinking oh how romantic he is he's like that movie I watched the other day Twilight Saga [Music] the boy he thinks his Rambo walking in are tensing his muscles she's thinking how romantic he is walking me through the garden and the roses and the butterflies he's got one thing on his mind and he's thinking I will tolerate all of this until I get to what I want he's a Muslim you ask him about his sister he will say I'll kill any guy who looks at her if you want to marry someone then you go in the right way insha'Allah go through her father first before you go through the girl why my sisters I'm talking to you now sisters you've never been a man before you don't understand how men think let your father do the work insha'Allah and obviously the father's I encourage you to be a bit more courageous and find husbands for your daughters don't sit there and you know make it difficult open the doors for marriage insha'Allah and lower the dowry and go in accordance with the Quran and the Sunnah so the brother comes to the Father and the father likes him then you meet the daughter and if you fall in love with her al-hamdu in there but the other way if you fall in love with each other you come to ask for her hand in marriage and then the father says over my dead body what are you going to do then you've fallen for each other what are you going to do hmm the boy is dreaming about her she's dreaming about him he's the love of her life she's the love of his life that's what the Shaitaan tells you what are you going to do they start to cry they started this they want to commit suicide they so they elope they run away together so he goes and marries her for two months that's what happens my sisters and that's one of the reasons why divorces happen he doesn't want you anymore there are brothers who get married and then when I marry a second wife in culture you know in Arab culture for example marrying a second wife it's difficult so what do they do they go for converts to Islam they marry them two months three months down the track and then they divorce them this is Haram Haram to use and abuse there are married couples who are stricken by this internet business and Facebook and the allah samantha has given you this halal for you at home and there are sisters Allah has given you this halal man at home but for some reason curiosity gets the better of you and you go to search the world and divorces occur as a result fear allah subhanahu wata'ala my brothers and sisters you are only putting yourselves in to harm and our children are being neglected our children are being taken away by others where they are building and they are being raised by other people while the husband and wife are too busy with their desires [Music]

Channel: MercifulServant

Views: 2,658,585

Rating: 4.9215646 out of 5

Keywords: Islam, Muslim, Allah, lecture, Reminder, merciful, servant, themercifulservant, islamic, relationship, haram, love, halal, singlemuslim, dating, girlfriend, boyfriend, married, problems, divorce, second wife, children, third wife, fourth wife

Id: GvoH9VLtJNk

Length: 6min 52sec (412 seconds)

Published: Tue Aug 11 2015

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[u/shadowlightfox]

Wait a minute. A thread on /r/islam where dating is getting upvotes? I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone right now!