- So do you remember
learning how to swim? I do, it was terrifying which is probably
why I remember it. I remember teaching or trying
to teach my kids how to swim, terrifying as well for them. I specifically remember
Andrew my oldest clinging, clinging to the arm
of his swim instructor screaming at the
top of his lungs, "I wanna be on the land. "I wanna be on the land." Now, if you know how to
swim, it's so natural, if you don't, nothing
could be more unnatural except perhaps flying, and the earlier we
learn to swim the better and the longer we wait,
the more difficult it is. But regardless learning
to swim requires something that we all naturally resist, and what we all naturally
resist is surrender, surrender. Surrender to an
instructor, to a parent, to an older brother and sister. We resist and when we resist, well, if we resist we'll
never learn to swim. In fact, if you resisted you may have never even
gotten in the water. Those of us who
eventually learned to swim eventually let go of
the side of the pool, we surrendered to
a trusted adult, and in doing so and we probably haven't
thought about this, in doing so, we were
introduced to a world we would have never known
or experienced otherwise, a world I would have
watched other people enjoy from a safe distance,
wakeboarding, surfing, skiing, canoeing, whitewater rafting,
scuba diving, high diving, maybe cliff diving, not to mention living
without the fear of water. As long as the child
insist on having their way, they get in the way
of learning to swim and their childhood fear
of water has the potential to sentence them to a
lifetime of fear of the water. So good parents when
they have the opportunity they insist that their
kids learn to swim even when they prefer
to be on the land. More on that in just a bit. Today we are in part two of
our series, grown-up prayers. Many of us, probably most
of us grew up praying, but our prayers didn't
grow up with us, we pretty much pray the same
way we've always prayed, the way we were taught
to pray as children. Some of that's good, but some of that as
we discovered last
time is not so good. And speaking of last time,
in part one of this series we discovered that we are not
the first group of grown-ups who never learned to
pray grown-up prayers. Apparently many of
Jesus' closest followers they never learned to pray
grown-up prayers either something they became
acutely aware of when they listened
to Jesus pray. Here's how it went, if Jesus was praying correctly, then perhaps they were
praying incorrectly. If Jesus was doing it right,
they had a lot to learn. So they finally mustered
up the nerve to ask Jesus. And so one day they come to Him and I guess they appointed
a spokesperson who said, Jesus, Lord, teach
us how to pray. "Lord, teach us to pray." Now like most of us they'd been
praying their entire lives. In fact in some cases
they'd been praying the same prayers
their entire lives, and watching Jesus
pray it dawned on them, maybe it was time to move on. Maybe it was time to learn
some grown-up prayers or learn how to pray
like a grown-up. Now I would imagine and we talked a little
bit about this last time, I would imagine this
is something that
you've never done, you've never asked someone
to teach you how to pray. In fact, if someone
after hearing you pray suggested that you
should learn how to pray, you would be offended
and rightly so. And last time as we
began this lesson of learning how to
pray from Jesus, some of us were
actually offended by
what Jesus had to say because it turns out
like the disciples some of us have not
been praying correctly, or to be more specific, we haven't been praying
the way Jesus prayed and the way He instructed
His followers to pray. Now, if you're not
a Jesus follower, but you pray, you may pick up a few tips
from what Jesus has to say, but if you are a
Jesus follower, then, well, if you're a
Jesus follower, you
really have no choice, but to follow Jesus
instructions regarding prayer, and He's very
specific, He says this, "But when you pray," And then He tells
us how to pray. And as we discovered last time He also tells us
how not to pray. He says, don't pray to
impress other people because, well, God's not impressed, and don't keep
repeating the same thing over and over and over as
if the volume of your words will somehow move God to action. Besides He says, in fact
what He says next assures us that He knew why we think prayer is so perplexing to
begin with, He said, you don't need to
go on and on and on about what you need or
want or wish for because "Your Father knows what
you need before you ask." To which we respond, well, if that's the case,
well then, why pray? And now Jesus has us
right where He wants us, asking the question
He wants us to ask. His disciples wanted
to know how to pray, Jesus wanted them to
understand why we should pray. And isn't it true? Come on, isn't it true
that for the most part we reduce prayer to
basically informing God of our needs, wants, and wishes, or perhaps the needs
wants and wishes of someone we cared
deeply for, right? That's why we pray. That's why we were
taught to pray, but maybe, maybe we've
been doing it wrong, and maybe we've been praying
for all the wrong reasons. Jesus gets very
specific, He says, "But when you pray go into
your room and close the door." In other words, find a
place and isolate yourself. This was very difficult for
1st century followers to do, homes were small, if
they had doors at all they were generally made out
of leather or even cloth. We have bedrooms and
closets with wooden doors, we don't find it
difficult to pray because we don't have room, we find it difficult to
pray because we're so busy, we're so distracted. And then He said this, "And pray to your
Father who is unseen." Again, we talked
about this last week and this was a little offensive. Jesus says, don't pray to me. In other words, we don't
begin our prayers, dear Jesus. He says, I want you to pray
to your Father in heaven. We begin our prayers,
heavenly Father. And then last time
we briefly discussed the tension that this
creates for some of us, the tension of trying
to view God as a Father, and that's a legitimate tension. And if that's something you
struggle with, you're not alone. And if it's attention
you're struggling with, here's the amazing thing, you are invited to
take that tension to your heavenly Father. In fact Peter who knew
Jesus intimately said this, you can cast your cares on Him because you can rest assured
that He cares for you. Then Jesus gets down to business
and gives us the specifics, He told us exactly how to pray,
and He told us what to pray. Here's what He said, He said, "This then is how
you should pray, "'Our father in heaven,
hallowed be your name.'" That is we're to
pause and recognize who it is we're addressing, the great God who has
no equal, no rival, the uncreated Creator who is
both infinite and intimate. When we pause to
reflect on who God is, what happen is we gain
a better understanding of who we are and why we're
here, what's going on around us. This the part of prayer
where we regain our bearings, we remember the
context of our lives. This we said last time,
if you rush by that, if you rush by that you
will resist what follows, and what follows is why we pray, what follows is the
purpose of prayer. Here it is. "Your kingdom come, "your will be done on
earth as it is in heaven." Your kingdom come, your will be done right
here, right now in my life, in my relationships
with my resources, with my plans, with my schedule. Which point we're all tempted
to join with Andrew and say, I wanna be on the land,
I wanna be on the land because I wanna be in control,
that is just too open-ended. I mean, I want God
to do my bidding. Honestly, I'm afraid of
what He might require of me if I just let go of
the side of the pool and trust myself fully
to Him, I may drown. But here's the thing, Peter, you know,
Peter like the Peter the fisherman who
followed Jesus, James the brother of Jesus, John, Mary, Martha,
the Apostle Paul, perhaps some folks you
know they would assure you, they would assure you that
embracing thy will be done will introduce you to a world
that you will never know and never experience otherwise. This is the part we skip, but according to Jesus,
this is why we pray. Come on, lemme ask you this, if you're a Christian,
do you wanna be deep? I mean, we talk about
being a deep Christian, do you wanna
experience deep faith? Did you know that deep has very
little to do what you know, it has everything to
do with letting go of the side of the
pool and praying, before I even know what it is, thy will be done right
here, right now in my life. And let's be honest, that
rarely shows up in our prayers because it stands in contrast
to why most of us pray. We don't come to
God to surrender, we usually come to
God to be rescued often from something
we would have avoided if we had in fact surrendered. So the purpose of prayer. The purpose of prayer we
talked about this last time is to align our wills
with God's will, the purpose of prayer
is to surrender our will not impose it. And this becomes even more
evident in what follows. So in part one I challenged you to begin your prayers
this week this way, I said, begin by
declaring his greatness and then surrender your will. Declare His greatness,
hallowed be your name, and surrender your will. And, and this is important, and if there is
something in you, if there's something in you
that fears or hesitates to pray, your will be done, if you're afraid to let go
of the side of the pool, which is understandable,
pay attention to that. Honestly, honestly,
there's no point in continuing with Jesus
lesson on how to pray until we're willing
to prioritize His
will over our own, His kingdom over our own. And the reason I say that is everything that
follows assumes surrender. Jesus is doing more
than simply teaching us how to pray properly, He's actually inviting us
to experience the world in a way that we will
never experience it unless we surrender. Then from there Jesus pivots, He pivots to the place where
we generally begin our prayers. He says, and now pray
this, when you pray, pray "And give us today." To which we say,
finally, it is our turn, but Jesus is not
taking prayer requests, He's actually requesting that we pray three
things in particular. In fact, all three things no
surprise assume surrender. Now, when I began
praying this prayer, I summarized the three
things Jesus asks us to pray with three words that helped
me remember what they are and they all begin with a P, provision, pardon
and protection. Provision, pardon
and protection. The provision part of the
prayer you're familiar with, Jesus says, and
when you pray, pray, "And give us today
our daily bread." Something that most of us really don't worry
too much about, right? In fact, some of us eat
more than our daily bread. But when Jesus' 1st century
audience heard Him say this is what we're to pray, what they thought of immediately was their ancestors hundreds
of years before crawling out of their tents every morning
in the middle of the desert and collecting just
enough bread for the day. And during that season in the
life of the nation of Israel, God was teaching the nation, the people of Israel
to recognize their
dependence on Him. And then He warned
them, He said this, look, the day will
come, the day will come when you will have more
than your daily bread. In fact, you're gonna
have so much bread, He said to the nation of Israel that other nations will
come to you to buy bread, but don't be deceived, even when you have plenty, you
are no less dependent on me than you are this very
day when you're crawling out of your tent collecting
your daily bread. And the same is true for
you, the same is true for us, this is the part of our prayer
when we remind ourselves that God is our
ultimate provider, not just what we
eat, everything. In fact, when you think about
it, when you think about it, many of the things
that we depend on most, we have little to
no control over. In fact, some of us
have faced seasons, you may be in one right
now or maybe circumstances where we're reminded
of just how dependent we really are on God. And if that day has
not come for you yet, I assure you it will come, whether it's your health,
your income, food, physical or mental health, maybe the physical or mental
health of someone you love, suddenly you will be reminded, you will be reminded of
just how dependent you are on your heavenly Father, how little control you
have over the things that are most valuable,
most important to you. And Jesus says, when we
pray, we are to pause and we are to declare
our dependence on Him for everything, every day, every single thing
lest we forget. Now, this is such a
big deal in a culture where we get in trouble
because of our excess rather than our
privation, right? I mean, in a culture of excess which is the culture we live in, we just take things
for granted, right? We expect things, we
feel entitled to things, consequently we become
ungrateful for things. So years ago when Sandra
and I were learning to pray through
the Lord's Prayer and kind of extrapolating out some of the insights
I've shared, we memorized an additional
prayer from the Book of Proverbs that we use to supplement this
portion of the Lord's Prayer so as not to rush
by it too quickly. And before I share it with you, I wanna go ahead and dare
you to pray this prayer. And the reason I wanna
dare you to pray it is because like it did for me, it will confront you
with a side of you that perhaps needs
some confrontation. You pray this prayer and you will feel your
fingers being pried away from the side of the pool. Here's what the writer of
Proverbs says, I love this. "Keep falsehood and
lies far from me." This is like a prayer. "Keep falsehood and
lies far from me, "give me neither poverty," Which we like that part. "Nor riches, but give
me only my daily bread." Heavenly Father, don't give
me more than I can handle, and don't give me so little that I'm tempted to sin
or to steal or to cheat, don't give me more than
you know I can handle. That is not a very American
or Western prayer, is it? But he continues and he explains why this is
such an important prayer. "Otherwise, otherwise
I might have too much, "I may have too much and
I may disown you and say, "'Who is the Lord?'" Or is there even a Lord? I don't think I
need God anymore, I don't think I
need faith anymore. "Or I might become
poor and steal, "and so dishonor
the name of my God." I dare you to memorize this,
and I dare you to pray it. Heavenly Father keep falsehood
and lies from far from me. I declare my dependence on you, give me neither
poverty nor riches, but give me only what
you know I can handle otherwise, otherwise
I might have too much and I might disown you
and say, who is the Lord? Who needs the Lord? I don't have time for faith,
I don't have time for God, or I might have such need that I would be tempted to steal. And just as I'm not
above abandoning God because I have too much, I'm not above stealing
if I have too little. "Give me neither
poverty nor riches, "but only my daily bread. "Otherwise I might
disown you and say, "'Who is the Lord?' "Or I might become
poor and steal "and so dishonor
the name of my God." I love this prayer
because it slows me down and it reminds me of
my dependence on God for everything
that comes my way, and it reminds me
of my propensity, my propensity to allow
God's blessing in my life to lead me astray. And you know this
is possible, right? I mean, certainly
you've met someone or you've heard about someone
who became so successful that they no longer
needed faith, they no longer needed God, they got too busy for church because they had
so many options, they no longer needed
to trust God because well, they were
able to take care of things themselves, right? I have the potential
for that, so do you. Keep falsehood and
lies far from me, don't allow me to be
deceived into thinking that I don't need you
every day, for everything. And once again, we
find ourselves back, you know, open handed
can't touch bottom, that place of surrender. So that's provision, provision, pardon,
and protection. Provision, pardon
and protection. This is the pardon
part of the prayer. You'll remember this, you probably memorized
this as a child. In fact, this is the part
of the prayer that probably all of us pray the most, "And forgive us our debts." I mean, I would imagine
if you grew up praying, somebody taught you to pray to ask God to forgive
you of your sin, "And forgive us our debts," but we perhaps were
not told or taught to pray the second half, "As we also have
forgiven our debtors." This is a prayer
request with a catch. Forgive me, here's
what Jesus is teaching, heavenly Father forgive
me in the same way and to the same degree
that I have forgiven the people who have wronged me. And again, the
assumption is surrender. It's like God says, you
need forgiveness from me? Yes, I need
forgiveness from you. So does that mean you're
surrendered to me? Or what do you mean? I mean, are you asking
something from me that you're unwilling
to extend to others? As Jesus followers
we are required. Listen, we don't have an option, we are required
to do unto others as God through Christ
has done unto us. We forgive because we've been? Forgiven. The Apostle Paul
comes along later and he reverses the
order of things, here's what he writes, he says to Christians,
1st century Christians, "Be kind and compassionate
to one another, "forgiving each other." Why? You don't even know my story, you don't know what
she said about me, you don't know
what He did to me. "Forgiving each other just as
in Christ God forgave you." Paul was saying what
Jesus was saying, what Jesus was alluding to. We don't forgive because other people deserve
to be forgiven, we forgive because
we've been forgiven and Jesus says when you pray, you forgive other people just
as you have been forgiven. When you pray, ask
for forgiveness as a reminder to
forgive other people. Declare your need
for forgiveness, but before you do,
before you move on, you do a quick 360 in your mind and you ask the question, am I withholding from someone the very thing I expect
God to grant to me? Forgiveness. You know this, to ask
God to forgive you while refusing to forgive
your brother-in-law, your ex husband or wife,
your manager, your neighbor, to ask God to do for you what you are unwilling
to do for someone else reduces God to, well, it kinda reduces God
to a cleaning product, right? It reduces God to a
conscious cleanser. I come to God and I pray and I ask Him to
forgive me of my sin, and He forgives me my
sin, He cancels my debt, in fact, if you were
raised the way I was, and then He forgets
all about my sin and I feel so much
better about me because I wanna
feel good about me, but I'm not willing
to forgive you. Now, contrary to what
you may have been told, prayer isn't a
Conscience Cleanse. The reason we confess
our sin is to restore and maintain fellowship with
God, our heavenly Father, and the reason we forgive
others is to ensure, this is important, is to
ensure the door is open to those who have
sinned against us, in case, and I know as
unlikely as it might be, in case they come
to their senses, they realize what they've done
and they ask for forgiveness. Not necessarily return
to the way things were, that may be impossible,
it may not even be safe, but by forgiving ahead of time, and this is what Jesus
is asking us to do, by forgiving ahead of time, you release them from the debt they may never be
able to pay anyway. When you forgive, come on, when you forgive you
are doing for them what your Father in
heaven did for you. As Philip Yancey famously wrote, "God announced forgive
ahead of time." And we should do the same. To refuse to forgive while
asking to be forgiven, do you know what it makes us? It makes us one of those
folks that Jesus talked about at the beginning of
this little lesson, it makes us a hypocrite, a
pretender, a user, a consumer. The invitation to forgive, this is part of a
posture of surrender. Heavenly Father, you
canceled my debt, so of course I'll cancel hers, so of course I'll cancel his. So we shouldn't be surprised
that Jesus connects our forgiveness by God
to forgiving others, after all, by this
all people will know that you're my disciples. If you ask for forgiveness? No, by this all people will
know that you're my followers if you love one another,
if you love as in forgive, as in serve, as in give,
as in put others first. So to refuse to forgive, to refuse to forgive
is to refuse to follow, and suddenly we're not so sure we really wanna know
how to pray, right? It just requires too much, it requires that we let go
of our well-rehearsed stories that justify our anger, our
prejudice, our resentment, we wanna go back to the land. And Jesus wants to
introduce us to a world that we will never know or
experience until we forgive because, because, because, because surrendering
to Jesus in this way, do you know what it does? It protects us from allowing
those who've hurt us, it protects us
from allowing those who hurt us from
becoming our lord. Surrendering to
Jesus in this way, it ensures that we don't
surrender to bitterness, resentment, anger, revenge,
those are not good masters, those are not good lords they
do not deserve your loyalty. They'll extend the
reach end of your enemy right into your future, right into future
generations, right? Now, again, you know people,
this isn't new for us. You know people who had
every reason in the world to hang onto their hurt, to
embrace their resentment, to hold a grudge, to
extract revenge, right? But they decided to let
go at the side of the pool and to be taken out
into the terrifying, somewhat irrational deep
waters of forgiveness, you know, people
like this, right? You know people
whose countenance doesn't reflect their past, whose countenance
actually reflects their freedom from their past. They learn to swim. learning to pray the way
that Jesus wants us to pray it's an invitation to follow, it's an invitation to surrender, it's invitation to a
better way of living. And this way, following
Jesus will in fact make your life better and it
will make you better at life because forgiving makes
you a better husband, forgiving makes
you a better wife, a better friend, a better
employer, a better employee. Now this was a really,
really big deal to Jesus. In fact, what I'm
about to read next you may have never read
before or heard before, here's how big a deal it was. Do you know how Jesus
concludes His lesson on prayer? Not the way it ends at weddings, you know, for thine
is the kingdom and the power and the
glory forever, you know, and the soprano holds that
note out forever, amen. I mean, that was added
later by a scribe perhaps because the way
Jesus ends His prayer is not very eloquent honestly, is not the way we would
like for Him to end it which is evidence
of the fact that this is actually what He said, He wasn't writing song lyrics, He was teaching us how to pray. And we're gonna
come back to the, lead us not into temptation
part in a minute, but at the end of
His lesson on prayer, here's what happens, to underscore how important it
is to Jesus that we forgive, this is how He ends
His lesson on prayer. And I'll just tell you up front, this is gonna create
some tension for you. And since Jesus doesn't
resolve the tension, I won't either. Here's what He says, "For if you forgive other people "when they sin against you, "your heavenly Father
will also forgive you." So far so good, "But if you do not
forgive others their sins, "your Father will not
forgive your sins." It's like, wait a minute, nobody ever told me
that before, right? That's not what they
taught us in Sunday school. But quick question,
come on, you're smart, what do you call someone
who expects other people to do something they're not
willing to do for themselves? Yeah, we just
covered that, right? We call those people hypocrites. Here's Jesus' point,
don't be a hypocrite. You expect to be forgiven,
so c'mon forgive. Not only does He know what
you need before you ask, He knows what's in your heart. Blessed are the pure in heart because according to
Jesus, they will see God. Blessed are the pure in heart they will recognize
what God is up to, they will be more attuned to
what God is up to in the world, to what God wants us
to participate in. So before we go any further, before you can go any further
with your prayers, come on, is there anyone you
have refused to forgive? And I know, I know if I
were to hear your story, you have every reason in
the world not to forgive. It fells like I understand this, it feels like you're rewarding
the person who hurt you, I get that. It's like you're letting
them off the hook. In fact, if I heard your story I might be tempted
to give you a pass, but Jesus wouldn't, Jesus wouldn't because
He knows like you know what a lack of forgiveness
does to the human heart. So because He loves you, because He's a perfect
heavenly Father, He coaxes you, He coaches you,
He invites you to forgive. Is there anyone you
have refused to forgive? If so, would you be
willing maybe not now, but soon would you be willing to decide to cancel their debt as you expect your heavenly
Father to cancel yours? Would you be willing to decide that they just don't
owe you anymore? If you're not
willing to do that, and if Jesus is correct, and I just always
assume Jesus is correct, that's as far as
prayer will take you. You should get
stuck right there, every morning, every
evening, until you forgive. Don't move on, don't
attempt to go around that, stay right there,
stay right there until you have
surrendered your anger, your hurt, your resentment, until you say yes and forgive. And when you do, when
you do you know this, you've seen this
in other people, when you do, you will be
introduced to a world, to a peace, to a freedom, you will be
introduced to a world you will never know otherwise. So back to the question
we asked last week, does prayer work? Well, the Jesus' way
of praying works. It works on us, it works in us, it works to free us, but at times, yeah, it's
just so uncomfortable. We will feel so accountable, we feel too accountable, right? We will be tempted to
respond with Andrew, I wanna be on the land,
I don't like this, I don't like feeling
so accountable to God, I want God to be
accountable to me. I don't like thy will be
done, I like my will be done. And my will, my will is that things would be
good between God and me whether they're good
between me and you or not. By the way, there's
a name for that, that whole thing of I'm
good, I'm good with God, but I don't have to
be good with you. Do you know what the
word for that is? It's called religion. This is why, this may
solve a mystery for you, this is why so many
overtly religious people turn out to be hypocrites because religion is
simply an attempt, oftentimes an
attempt to use God, religion reduces faith to
magic and a good luck charm, but in the end, religion will leave you
empty and unchanged, safe but shallow, you will confuse
knowledge with depth, you'll you'll confuse
correct belief with, you know, correct belief
will become a substitute for loving other people. You will run the
risk of missing God. And here's something,
I've learned the hard way, I had to learn the hard
way that when I focus, when I focus on the work that
God is yet to complete in me, I am far less
concerned with the work He has yet to complete in you. In other words, if I allow
myself or I should say, when I allow myself to
get stuck in my prayers of God I'm not sure
I can let this go, God I'm not sure I
can cancel that debt, in that moment, I'm
reminded that I have focused more of my attention
on what they have done and where they stand with me, than where I stand with
my heavenly Father. And when I'm willing to focus on the work that God
has yet to do in me, I find it so much
easier to forgive you and to forgive others for the work that God
has yet to do in them. Jesus was, He was more
direct, here's how said it, first, first, first,
before you go any further, first take the plank. You've heard this, "take the plank out
of your own eyes, "and then you will see clearly." Do you wanna see clearly? Well, then embrace
the way Jesus prayed and you will see clearly. To what end? To feel superior to those
who don't see clearly? No, you'll see clearly
to remove the speck from your brother's eye. When I see me as I truly am, I am better
positioned to love you in spite of our differences, and in spite of what
you've done to me. I won't judge you,
I'll just serve you. I'll pray more like
a tax collector than
a religious leader. God have mercy on me, a sinner. That's the prayer, and that's the posture
that Jesus commended. This is where the
Jesus prayer takes us and leaves us surrendered,
dependent, forgiven. So I want you to find a place, I want you to choose a time, I want you to get alone, and I recommend that you choose the same place in the same time, I want you to make
this a priority and I want you to begin
your day this way, pray your way to surrender. Well, pray like this because, "This then, is how
you should pray. "'My Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name.'" You're the great
God who is infinite and because you've allowed
me to call you Father, you're intimate. "Your kingdom come." Your agenda is the priority. "Your will be done on
earth as it is in heaven." Right here, right
now in my world. This then, this then
is how you should pray, declare your dependence on God for your provision
lest you forget. "Give us, give me
today my daily bread." Even though I have
more bread than I need, and more bread
than I should eat, I am not gonna forget that
every single morsel of food, every beat of my heart
is a gift from you. "Give me neither
poverty nor riches, "but only give me what
you know I can handle, "otherwise I might have
too much and I might say, "'Who is the Lord?' "Or I might become
poor and steal "and so dishonor
the name of my God." This then is how
you should pray, declare your dependence
on God for your pardon, for forgiveness of
sin, and forgive us, "And forgive us our debts." As we also, "As we also have
given our debtors." Provision, pardon, and the third part of
the prayer is protection, protection from what? From temptation. Here's what Jesus
says we're to pray, "And lead us not
into temptation." Because we are more, we
are more than capable of finding it all
buy our selves. Of course He didn't say that. Now temptation is
a really big topic, in fact, it is so big, we're gonna save
it for next time. So don't miss next time, not because temptation
is an issue for you, but I don't know, maybe
you'll pick up some tips to share with a friend. Either way don't miss part
three of grown-up prayers.
