Father's Day | Micah Burns | June 20, 2021

good morning beach trouble good morning good morning good morning and especially a good morning to all you dads if you're a dad would you raise your hand wave your hand in the air we celebrate you today we celebrate you guys so let's find our seats right now [Music] hugging is amazing we got a good morning planned for you guys welcome to beach chapel my name is osil and i am one of the leaders here at beach chapel and i am so excited to welcome you today if you guys can just make your way in one two three eyes on me yeah there you go good listening good listening find your way in we have an amazing morning we have amazing worship we're going to do some prophetic we're gonna do some dad jokes for you guys today so while we get started and precision ourselves for worship would you just stand with me this morning um we got a new song that we're going to be introduced to that's amazing and in the flavor of that song i just want to read this verse over you guys as we prepare our hearts to worship jesus this is from ephesians 3. so i kneel humbly in awe before the father of our lord jesus the messiah the perfect father of every father and child in heaven and on earth and i pray that he would unveil within you the unlimited riches of his glory and favor so right now holy spirit we welcome you we welcome you here right now and we just pray and proclaim that you're going to reveal a whole new aspect of god the father to us this morning as we worship again i pray that he would unveil holy spirit unveil within us the unlimited riches of your glory and favor right now as we worship we thank you jesus and we worship you [Music] as the spirit was moving over the water spirit come move over us come rest on us come rest on us as the spirit was moving over the waters come rest on us come rest on us [Music] you're [Music] me on us come rest on us and fire and win come and do it again open up the gates come rest on us come i know i know [Music] holy [Applause] [Music] holy spirit [Music] holy spirit [Music] [Applause] holy spirit [Applause] [Music] when you fill you're here and i know you are moving i'm here [Applause] [Music] so [Music] you're all [Music] you're all we want [Music] and fire and wind come and do it again open up the gate that heaven on it come rest on us [Music] come rest on come us do it again open up [Music] come rest on us [Music] holy you're all we want you [Music] so [Music] the king is here the king is here [Music] hallelujah you're here the king is here the king is here [Applause] [Music] you're hallelujah the king is here the king is here [Music] yeah come up hallelujah front and celebrate our king is here [Music] the king is here [Music] is [Music] you're on us [Applause] [Music] um [Music] [Music] [Applause] hey [Music] oh [Music] when you walk into the room everything changes darkness starts to tremble at the light that you bring when you walk into the room every heart starts burning and nothing matters more than just to sit here at your feet [Music] saying we love you we love you we'll never stop we can't live without you [Music] and jesus can't get enough all dances for you [Music] [Applause] [Music] jesus [Music] [Applause] [Music] sickness starts to vanish every hopeless situation ceases to exist when you walk into the room the day began to rise [Music] we love you and we'll never stop we love you and we can't get in there this is for you [Music] jesus [Music] tell him [Music] we give you permission our hearts are yours we want you we want you come and consume god all we are we give you permission our hearts are yours we want you oh we want [Music] our hearts are yours [Music] we want you we'll never stop [Music] we love you [Music] [Applause] [Music] me we'll never stop we can't live without you jesus sing we love you we just can't get enough all this is for you [Music] jesus so [Music] so [Music] [Music] [Music] give me vision to see things you know just [Music] overwhelmed give me vision [Music] to see things like you do god i look to you you're where my health comes from give me wisdom you know just what to do [Music] and i will love you i will love you [Music] is i will love you [Music] i will love [Music] and hallelujah hallelujah our god reigns forever all my [Music] [Music] [Music] hallelujah [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Music] hallelujah [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] no [Music] i see you dancing over my iniquities [Music] i see you dancing over everything i see you dancing over my iniquities because you rain [Music] i see you dancing over everything [Music] i see you dancing over anything that separates me because you ate [Music] [Music] hallelujah [Music] hallelujah [Music] hallelujah there's not one thing he can't touch [Music] hallelujah [Music] hallelujah [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] uh [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] hallelujah [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] sure [Music] okay so i we're gonna continue worship but i i really i had something this the first service that that i want to share again so you guys here's the deal you are seated in the heavenlies right now right so when we're saying hallelujah our god reigns that means that you also reign that means that you reign with him that you are queer with christ you're seated in christ in the heavenlies right now and so if there's an area in your life i just felt like in the spirit just this anxiety right now and i felt i looked around and it was almost like a like a fog like a sleepy fog like um in the wizard of oz like the poppy fields uh and i want to snap you out of that because we are gonna do some more worship and i want you to worship from the place where you are truly seated which is with christ in heaven from a victorious standpoint so whatever you came in here with today if there's an area in your life where you need peace like the song said give me wisdom you know just what to do and i'm here to tell you that you know just what to do you know just what to do because you are in christ and his wisdom is your wisdom and so right now i want you to hold out whatever that area is that you need peace in right hold it out and the next song we're gonna sing you're gonna sing over that item you're gonna sing you're gonna give that over to god and you're gonna say i am seated with you you have given me wisdom in this situation and i have complete peace because wisdom and peace go hand in hand right so you know exactly what area i'm talking about or maybe you don't but you're feeling it lift it up to god through this next song and ask him for wisdom and you will receive peace right so let's worship and i want you to celebrate that celebrate your victory we've come to join [Music] to raise our voice [Music] we've seen your faith [Music] the king who bled [Music] generation you are worthy [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] worthy [Music] and onto [Music] [Music] our endlessly [Music] jesus [Music] is [Music] [Applause] is generations you are worthy [Music] [Applause] is [Music] wow [Music] lord [Music] is [Music] is [Music] is [Music] yes [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] is [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] is [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Music] glory and power be unto the lamb who sits on the throne blessing and honor glory and power be unto the lamb who sits on the throne blessing in honor glory and power be unto the lamb who sits on the throne blessing and honor glory and power be unto the lamb who sits on the throne blessing and honor glory and power beyond to the lamb who sits on his throne blessing and honor glory and power glory and power [Music] glory of power who sits on the throne [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] wow [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] do that chorus one last time a thousand generations you are worthy lord of all and unto you the slain and risen king we lift our voice with heaven singing [Music] well um i don't know about you but i totally had a throne room encounter just now when we were singing blessing and honor glory and power belongs to the lamb sits on the throne and i felt like it was more like a like a warrior chant like that's our warrior that's our war cry right there and i would love it if we have time to go back into just that part and and dads you guys you guys are the ones setting the standard for this generation right you are the ones that are upholding this generation and i want you to come forward if if you're a dad or if you're not a dad come forward and i want us to go into that and i want us to declare that as a war cry for this generation for the world right now blessing and honor glory and power so make your way up here and i want you to sing it out as if you're warring over your family as if you're warring over your neighborhood like don't hold back come up here let's get together i saw just this like this like row of warriors come up women too come up women and stand behind them stand behind your men yeah come on everybody come on up every one of you is the lamb who sits on the throne blessing in honor glory and power [Music] who sits on the throne blessing and honor glory and power glory and power [Music] who sits on the throne who sits on the ground [Applause] [Music] you [Music] glory in power who sits on the ground [Music] oh [Music] oh come on [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Applause] [Music] right [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] come on [Music] [Music] who sits on the throne and power [Music] glory beyonce power [Music] [Applause] a thousand generations you are worthy lord of all and unto you the slain and risen king we lift our voice with heaven singing worthy yeah wow we love you guys we love you guys i just want to hear one more thing can we just have all the men just give like a giant roar right now like on the count of three can we do that are you ready cleanse your throats all right here we go ready one two three give me god [Music] thank you guys so much your voices are needed your voices are needed right now for this generation so would you guys give it up for the worship team oh my gosh that was legit that was legitness [Laughter] oh okay where do we go from here [Laughter] i was roaring i was trying to roar like a man you know i think i did a pretty good job okay everybody catch your breath well done well done being brave and being warriors well done um we have some announcements to go through before we do that high five somebody air high five happy father's day say happy father's day it is wonderful to see you guys today i'm so excited to have you guys here so we're going to start with some announcements beach chapel woohoo let's see what our first are you ready amanda okay okay so we have dr micah haney teaching another inductive bible study uh it's going to be on tuesdays starting july 6th going through august 31st there is a small fee i believe for this right victoria's thirty dollars and where can they find that information just on the website and of course on the app app app did i say app get the app okay if you don't know how to get the app come and find me and i'll help you because we want you on the app it's going to be amazing if you didn't do the first round it's okay you can still come to this one and it's gonna be great um next sunday we have a good friend of the house brian orm coming brian orm is incredibly funny he's a mystic and just an overall great person so come next sunday and you'll be you'll have your mind blown july 4th we are having an amazing comeback party um and it's not just any kind of fourth of july party we're gonna have bouncers that's still catching my breath we're gonna have bouncers bouncies bow and bouncers i'm norwegian okay so don't speak though it's my second language but we're gonna have bounces we're gonna have a kona kona koa kona ice shaved ice truck and i think it was at the first 100 that's free or something i don't know but come here and get your shaved eyes we're gonna have not phil's barbecue but bill's barbecue because phil's barbecue is no more bill's barbecue is up and running on fourth of july so please come it's gonna be fun celebrating getting back together bible fastpass happens every sunday during first service with larry where are you dr mr larry peltier colonel larry [Laughter] it's amazing you can jump in there it's been it's the third week today it was but you can still come and again you can find that on the app or you can text bubble fastpass to 9400 zero three zeros at least my eyes are good i don't have glasses all right and then uh on july 11th for for two services this whole weekend actually we have a good friend of mine and of our of the house and a mentor of mine actually ivan roman he's going to be here he's going to be july 9th with the young adults over at the brooks then july 10th we're going to have a night with ivan roman that's going to be super fun it's always fun when ivan's here and july 11th he'll be here for both services so come don't miss it he's amazing and do we have any more oh last but not least if you are new to beach chapel text bc newbie to 9400 uh or you can use your camera to get that little qr code right there and it'll take you right to the website and i think that's it for announcements was it yes that was a lot we need to get those videos again so we don't have to do these um the last thing we're going to talk about is that we get to honor the lord in our giving and so we have a slide for that there's three ways to give you can uh cash or check you can text or you can use the app again the app is amazing for that um where you can use you can pay by credit card or the envelope cash and the receptacles up here and and so before micah comes up i want to give a quick testimony about provision and then i'll pray for your for your offering um so i think it was in end of march i believe it was end of march i made a little pact with god he said how much more money would you like to make for april and i said fifteen hundred dollars would be nice i know i should ask for a lot more but [Laughter] i'm learning to trust right so like fifteen hundred dollars would be great and he's like okay what is ten percent of fifteen hundred dollars and i'm like uh hundred and fifty dollars lord and so what happened is he challenged me to split that hundred and fifty dollars and add it to my tithes uh for that month for april and i actually stood up here the sunday after i made that pact and i heard the words come out of my mouth that i'm gonna stand up here and i'm gonna tell you that that happened and then i was like oh okay lord it's all up to you now but i'm here to tell you that it did happen i actually uh made a uh 1836 dollars and i think it was ian that pointed out that god even paid the tithe [Laughter] so it was above and beyond what i needed it included a brand new macbook pro which was awesome to get so so i just want to forward that testimony the power of the testimony and the trust that god is creating in me to trust him for provision no matter what no matter what i'm learning to trust so lord every family that's represented here right now i just pray abundance and blessing over the finances i pray that bills would be paid i pray that unexpected income would come into the mailboxes even tomorrow checks in the mail finding money rebates and returns i declare that over each and every family represented here this morning that we are a church and that we are a family that will steward your money the money that you give as well so that we can advance the kingdom right and so that we can help people so in jesus name i pray bless us all in this area including me [Laughter] okay and so we had a little bit if you guys didn't see the the couple of graphics that we had for father's day donuts with dads and donuts donuts with dads donuts with dad i made the graphion remember what it said donuts with dads we are uh doing a little bit of a funny thing this morning it's really really funny for service if you missed it so we're gonna do some dad jokes who likes dad jokes i know micah does mike is the king of dad jokes sometimes he tells me actually the other day i was like that is not funny and and he actually literally pushed me [Laughter] didn't you you're like yes it is i know it's not funny i'm european so i'm more like advanced in my jokes ah true right ian rachel yeah yeah so anyway i want to challenge you guys so so micah had some amazing jokes for service and he's got some today i want to see if you can outdo him okay we even have a prize we have a prize so who wants to come and do some dad jokes we told you for weeks johnny come on up all right so i wrote down some of my favorites singing in the shower is fun so you get soap in your mouth then it becomes a soap opera how do you follow will smith in the snow you follow the fresh prince i thought the dryer was shrinking my clothes but it turns out this whole time it was my refrigerator i was eating too much get it it's okay what do you call a factory that makes okay products a satisfactory what did the janitor say when he jumped out of the closet supplies this weekend i went to the new restaurant they had on the moon the food was amazing but it had zero atmosphere that was funny you got some too paul come up here paul come and get it beach chapel a great crowd great crowd i'm telling you right here you know anton yeah yeah you know if you got a life answer that you want god they'll speak through pastor borney they'll speak through micah you get kids oh man the children's church leadership here they reach the kids the kids remember the things that they say they they become children of god you know like take my son for instance you know he's all right now but wednesday he was in rough shape rough shape i'm telling you you know i came home and i'm walking in and there he is on the ground and he's going oh god no oh god no oh yeah what parent does go zoom what's going on it says well you know pastor sandy taught this lesson about the garden of eden you know adam's job to name everything and god made eve out of a rib in his side and and he's holding his side and my side really hurts dad i think i'm getting a wife that's it why can't a nose be 12 inches long because then it'd be a foot this graveyard looks overcrowded people must be dying to get in okay what time did the man go to the dentist 2 30 2 30 or whatever my daughter sent me some of these did you hear about the cheese factory that was blown up debris was everywhere i i just invented a car that runs on herbs i think i invented time travel time time got it okay swimming with the sharks is so expensive it cost me an arm on a leg where does a sheep go to get a haircut the bar bar shop i think watermelons i'm afraid for the calendar its days are numbered hi i'm mike i got a couple okay we're renovating the house and the first floor is going great but the second floor is another story i was going to go on an expensive vacation with a classical pianist but he was too broke most people can't tell the difference between entomology and etymology i can't find the words for how much this bugs me every time i take my dog to the park the duck tries to bite him that's what i get for buying a purebred dog all right come on there we go teeth all right so the other oh so the other day so the other day i had to hire a limo service to come pick me up and take me to a special event so the day of the event the driver pulls up with the limo and he hops out and he just starts walking away and i go hey driver aren't you going to take me to my event he goes oh i'm sorry sir the the driver is not included in your fee so i spent three hundred dollars and i have nothing to show for about it i figured we need one good joke in here so the dad was walking to school with his little boy and he said daddy is it true that god makes people out of dirt and dust and the dad said yes son that's true why do you ask goes because i think he's making somebody under my bed i think he's making somebody under my bed [Applause] anyone else you already went [Laughter] all right last one better be good all right come on d all right i'll let you run so there was a husband knocking on the door of the fridge so the wife asked him so why are you knocking on the door and he said just in case the salad is dressing so i get to choose who is the winner decision is up to me johnny you don't win because you stole mine [Laughter] but because i love the debris joke let's go ahead and just give it up for dee as the winner take a bow my friend well done open it up will you tell them what it's tell them what it says i keep all my dad jokes in a database oh my gosh so good what do you call now with no body and no nose nobody knows [Laughter] you're welcome finishing it off strong actually i have a couple of slides for you i think that'll get a couple more laughs just for you oh what do you call what do you get when you pick a pig's nose hamburgers yum it's not funny if you can't read that that is the best i love this one missing it spent our entire life savings on dogs they're called retrievers karen they retrieve gold i did it for us ah the deep thoughts that go through men's minds if you wear cowboy clothes are you ranch dressing if you can't read this the guy on a diving board says i'm not diving until moses goes away get it yeah part okay i'm just making sure good i had to explain it to a few people first service so ah yes love this one it was unprecedented i think i have a couple more this is my favorite if you didn't know the t-rex cafe needs help because they're short-handed all right all right all right i know d was the winner we should have finished with d but i love those so much so happy father's day to all you fathers i forgot about that one these are the best how long will the ambulance be 17 feet 6 inches i don't think that's what she meant is that it i forgot about that thanks amanda hey get out for amanda she worked so hard serving all morning love it so uh if you know me i'm paying attention to what the padres are doing yes yes yes yeah um giants fan over here boo this man boo this man so they have gone over the past week on this downward spiral it is so terrible and it totally isn't in alignment with like the expectations and the hopes of the city we're we're like anticipating finally the padres will be the winner this week was not so good however this weekend is awesome because the cincinnati reds have come to town and they have turned things around the padres are re-emerging and last night was an incredible game victoria and keith were at the game last night and i'm so jealous that you were there because it was so awesome it was such a fun game to watch but as i was watching it on tv the lord spoke to me as the padres are re-emerging as contenders again that um you know what happens in the physical what happens with what you see is a reflection of what's happening in the spirit and he was like hey what's happening with the padres is what's happening in the spirit as the fathers are re-emerging the fathers are re-emerging and so i just i thank you father for the re-emergence of the fathers that the malachi 4-6 promise of fathers hearts turning to the children and the children's hearts turning to the fathers and the parents that that would become reality in san diego that we would see the reality the truth and the and the prophetic declaration of malachi 4 6 in this house and in this city to see the emergence of the fathers rise like never before to see the sons of god arise as the world is crying out for them to show up and so i just say show up kids show up children of god and we thank you for the emergence and the re-emergence of the fathers in the faith to see the kingdom continue to expand and grow in jesus name amen yes so good oh i just love it love baseball season it's my favorite he speaks to me through the baseball team i'm just telling you and so i'm studying i'm actually like being ministered to while i watch baseball yeah it's not a waste of time it is not yes exactly so we're in 2nd samuel chapter 11. i'm sure some of you are familiar with this passage it's david and bathsheba and uriah and uh i love this chapter some of you are very familiar with it because you've heard it preached on a thousand times but i'm hoping that you'll still receive some edification some revelation today as we unpack what the lord has shown me through this bit of scripture and you know last year i think it was in the beginning of july heather's sister bethany so bethany came down she was on staff at the mission in vacaville and she shared a word as her new book came out the book was called own your assignment it was a book written to mothers it was a book written i hear that chicken i hear that chicken it's another dad joke another dad joke what you're trying to say man anyways it's a it's a book written on the assignments for motherhood and when she unpacked the book she didn't just speak to the mothers she spoke to the fathers also and i wrote down what she said and just i i titled it fatherhood assignments and she gave us three things she said there's three things that are assigned to fathers one is call out call out identity two is celebrate the vision and three is champion who they are becoming and i love that i thought it was a powerful word i thought it added a lot to this house but i wanted to add a couple more things to it so i'm not replacing what i'm doing is just bringing more more to it that i felt like i needed to bring and so the three things that i wanted to add to fatherhood assignments is one fathers are assigned to protect two fathers are assigned to provide three fathers are assigned to promote and there's this there's this saying i don't know who said it but i'm quoting someone else so the only reason i say that is so you know i didn't come up with this okay oh hi osil good to see you um and the quote was hard times create strong men strong men create good times and good times create weak men and then weak men create hard times and i thought that was such a profound statement i thought it was such a profound quote and i felt like it was super i felt like it lined up with what was happening with david and uriah in this story and if you're familiar with this story david sends his boy out to war and as they're out there fighting he's staying home and he's as he's home he goes out to his balcony he sees bathsheba who is married to a guy who was out to war he sees her goes ooh i like what i see and brought her in he sleeps with her and finds out after he slept with her he knocked her up so he finds out that she's pregnant and immediately he's going oh no how can i cover up what i've done how can i cover up my tracks how can i cover my tracks and make sure that i can protect myself despite the bad choices that i made i know what i can do i can send in a messenger to the battlefield and have uriah come back home make sure that he's sleeping with his wife and then the pregnancy is going to look like uriah is the one that knocked her up good to go so uriah comes in and he will not go sleep with his wife david tries everything he tries to get him drunk he's like hey come in i'll throw a party with you we'll eat drink i'm going to get you drunk and then go home your wife and amazing night buddy a promise he still doesn't go home he still doesn't go home and david immediately is like oh my gosh what am i gonna do i know what i'm gonna do i'm gonna send him back out to battle and i'm gonna make sure that my boy who's in charge of my army puts him on the front lines so that i can ensure that he's going to be killed so he's covering up his tracks first off manipulating the situation with uriah so that his mess is covered up but that didn't work plan a didn't work so he moved on to plan b which was even lower than the first form i'm just going to kill you i'm going to kill you i'm going to go to the extent of killing you to cover up my mess i'm going to manipulate the situation i'm going to manipulate you i'm gonna i'm gonna manipulate the leader of my army just so no one will see the choices or the results of the choices i made and sure enough uriah is dead phew david's like oh now no one's gonna know no one's gonna know that she's pregnant uh because of your because of your riot like it's all good what i'm gonna do now is i'm just gonna pretend like we're good to go and just go about our business and then you know nathan shows up nathan shows up and says i know what you did man i know what you did you killed uriah and david repents right the reason why i'm bringing that up is i don't think david understood the assignment he had to protect to provide and to promote he was really good at self-protection he wasn't good at protecting the people that were fighting for him the people that were running alongside him the people that he was assigned to protect he was not doing that but he was really good at protecting himself in fact i feel like it's important for us to go back to what i was saying about what's happening in the physical is always a reflection of what's happening in the spirit i think over the last year as we've been wearing masks as we've been social distancing i feel like it's a reflection of what has been happening in the spirit for so long because we come here and we want to pretend like everything's all good put on our good face but in reality where no one sees it we're over here making sure to put on the mask and say everything's fine over here i'm going to make sure you're social distanced so you can't come in and see i'm going to put on the master when you see me it looks like everything's fine but it's not we've become experts at making sure that our mess over here is not seen and it's not seen by wearing masks and keeping distance and so what i'm saying to you is like there is cycles that we get into to try to make sure no one sees what we're doing because i am terrified that you are going to reject me you are going to judge me and all these things that start popping into our heads about what would happen if someone actually saw what was really going on then we're called to protect but we're not called to self-protect and i think it's super important for us to understand that you can make messes but you have the power to clean them up and not in a way through manipulation and hiding but just owning it and saying this is what i'm gonna do i'm sorry i hurt you i'm sorry i messed up but this is what i'm gonna do to clean up my mess you know shame is always if you're starting to use shame as a filter for any decisions that you're making as you're going through life oh my goodness i'm totally ashamed of what i just did if anyone knew what happened if anyone saw this mess i know for a fact they'll reject me i know for a fact that i'll be judged i know for a fact all these things that start running into our head you should look at that as a red flag like that is a red flag if you're starting to filter life choices through shame and you know shame shame really just says this is how you know you're filtering life through shame shame says i am something but self-awareness says i just did something right so so like say you're walking through a job site construction site and you're walking around you're not paying attention and you step on a nail ouch right when you step on that nail do you say oh i'm a nail no you don't you say ouch i just stepped on a nail that's a problem so the solution is to pull the nail out and then go get a tetanus shot you didn't become a nail you just stepped on a nail you see there's a difference between uh shame and self-awareness and so it's super important for us to understand that the red flags of shame are only stealing from us they're causing us to step into that cycle that we that i read earlier about the hard times uh create strong men and then strong men create good times and then good times create weak men and then weak men create hard times you see there's a cycle in society that happens that is being recognized and i feel like it's recognized right here in chapter of 11 of 2nd samuel that progressively happens and i feel like it's actually a cycle that is caused by a lack of value for masculinity a lack of value for healthy masculinity what is one thing that is being absolutely just attacked by society and culture right now masculinity and i'm just here to say yeah there's such thing as toxic masculinity a hundred percent i'm not saying that that isn't true what i am saying though is there's such thing as healthy masculinity and i feel like god is saying fathers rise up and put on display what to the world what it looks like to have healthy masculinity made manifest in the world like david put this on display for us right here you know um we're really good at self-protection and all these things but i feel like it's super uh it's emphasized and borney brought it up last week um in psalm 91. how many of you are familiar with psalm 91 i'm not going to read it today but i want to encourage you to read it today on your own and read it throughout the week because all it talks about is the protection that god provides for his children like throughout the entire psalm it's just talking about how the father protects his kids the father protects his kid this is how he does it this is how he does it and uh we get to emulate the father in that way we get to emulate the father by uh by protecting the ones that are that we're surrounded with you know the day the morning after bonnie and i's wedding we were eating breakfast on the patio we were on coronado so we were overlooking the skyline it's downtown san diego it was a beautiful morning we're really enjoying ourselves and i i knew one of the things that barney is afraid of is really big birds she's afraid of really big birds and we are sitting there eating i was enjoying myself and all of a sudden this huge pelican comes in and swoops in and lands on the banister and it's just sitting there like flapping his wings and he wants my breakfast and i look at boring and she's like [Music] and so i i reared back and i punched this pelican right in the head nailed them i i hit him hard and and he flew away right away i totally knocked that pelican out man it was awesome and i guess he flew away so he didn't knock him out but i hit him really good haven't you been able to say he hit a bird in the head close fish don't call peta on me but that but that bird that bird wanted to steal my bacon he also was scaring my wife i felt like i needed to protect both but it was my role to protect it was my role to protect her and really important to protect my bacon and you know i remember we went to seaworld my my 12 year old she was like two or three and uh at sea world they have this area called captain kids world and my parents used to bring me there all the time we had annual passes growing up and i was crawling on the nets and having so much fun and we brought um stella and maven there and she was like two or three and she was crawling around the nets and having fun and they had this new show it was like the sesame street show and we all sat down and waited for elmo and cookie monster to come out and as soon as they started walking out she started freaking out because that elmo was a lot bigger than the one she saw on tv and uh she was like and as soon as she as soon as she realized what was going on she turned around and ran and booked it to me and i was like yeah like oh and i was like hey barney see she ran to me see she ran to me and she was like well yeah of course she did you're her protector you're her protector and i haven't forgotten that i haven't forgotten that i'm i'm her protector and i've taken that assignment very seriously and i've realized like in the journey and in the process of learning to be a protector i have to make sure that i don't go to the extreme of being the controller so how many of you seen finding nemo right finding nemo you know the story mom dies tragic right and what does what does the dad do when he finds the one last egg from the attack that took out all the kids and the mom he made a vow i'll never let anything happen to this fish i'll never let anything happen to this kid and uh his whole life poor nemo has this dad who is constantly trying to control the environment that he's a part of so that nothing happens to him and there is like this revelation in his journey to go try to find nemo because guess what in having to release the kid to have some freedom and live life something happened and he got like brought over to the other side of the ocean he's on this journey and he's and he's talking with dory i i just i'm so i need to find nemo i told him i'd never find anything to happen and she said well that's dumb if if not if nothing ever happens to him then how is he going to live life and it was like this light bulb for the dad like oh my goodness i've been trying to control this fish this kid for his whole life and control his environment so that i can protect him from anything to harm him for protect him from anything to hurt him when in reality he really needed to just take the protection side and say i'm going to prepare him to live life so there's a difference between protection and preparation so growing up we had dinner at the table every night if you weren't at the dinner table when dinner started you were in trouble in fact i remember one time i was coming home was like the first day of school and i was like hanging out with my friends and we were having a good time and i looked at my watch and went oh my goodness it's past dinner time and i booked it i hopped on my bike and i went for it i was riding home so fast and as i was coming as i was coming up to the to the house i look i rolled past the window where the dining room table was and everyone was sitting at the table waiting for me and just looking at me as i cruise by how many of you remember those glaring looks as you like got in trouble and your parents are just like right i remember all eyes were on me and i came in and uh you know that's just fun but anyways i was just the table that we were sitting at for dinner every night there was a window to my left and it was right out you could see right out to the street see the sidewalk people walking down the street riding their bikes and i grew up in claremont so how many you know we saw a lot of tweakers walking past our front window all the time and as we were sitting there eating dinner my dad would say hey you see that guy yeah i see that guy i knew him before he was like that you want to know the reason why he was like that why he's like that now yeah well he made some choices to add something into his life that resulted in that and so when you are presented with those choices micah make sure that you're not saying yes to adding that in your life and so when i was when i was a teenager and i was hanging out with friends and those choices came my way i was able to say oh no i don't want to be like that guy that has fishing lures hanging in front of his face because his mind is fried and can't even function in society it was the preparation that my dad had at the dinner table to say don't make that choice it wasn't controlling my circumstances and situations so that i couldn't do that he gave me the freedom to go live life but he did a really good job in preparation so that i wouldn't make that choice do you do you understand the difference um you know currently bonnie and i are raising our first 15 year old our oldest daughter is 15 years old and in this process of learning how to be her protector but not her controller and trusting that boring and i have put in the work to prepare her to live life it's been difficult because we're giving her the freedom to make the choices that she makes and it's interesting because i'm like i wouldn't make that choice don't make that choice but what's cool is in allowing her to make that choice and trusting the preparation that we've that we put in she's been able now to start coming to us and saying hey i made a mess um can you help me clean this up and i'm like yes what are you gonna do because i'm not gonna clean it up for her i want to empower her to clean up the mess i want to continue to encourage her to not let shame keep her from letting us in and hiding it i don't want her to continue to partner with shame to say stay over there i want you to see this i want her to know that shame and rejection is not a factor in our connection and she can show me anything that she wants no matter what mess she made i'm still going to be there and connection is the most important piece and i'm going to say let's walk this out to clean up your mess and i'm here with you every step of the way while you do it yourself you know david had no concept of ownership or covenant in mind he didn't even he wasn't even aware of perfect protecting the covenant that uriah had with bathsheba like this is a dude who's out fighting a war for him he's fighting a war for him and he's saying i don't care what covenant or agreement you made with that woman this is what i want and so i think it's i think it's good for us to understand when people are choosing to be around us consider and be aware not only of yourself but what agreements and what things have they made so that you can protect that like you're called to protect people's hearts as they trust you and say here you go i trust you enough boom what are you gonna do with that are you gonna protect what they've given you are you gonna protect that relationship and connection it's more than just it's more than just you it's more than just about you it's about connection it's about relationship and if i'm the protector we also get to provide different opportunities for them to win like he did not set that dude up to win he set that dude up to die in our protection we're not setting people up to to be you know hung at the noose or whatever we're setting them up to win and you know that man who's the protector of the kids when i'm mavin's protector against giant elmo i'm that guy when something goes bump in the night in my house i don't say hey barney go go downstairs and find out what's going on down there no i'm going down there and i don't know what that dude has but i know what i got and this family is going to be protected right i know what i got and i'm going to protect this family because that's who i am that's my role as a husband that's my role as as a as a father but i'm also the one that's rolling around the ground playing with my kids and letting them pin me on the ground messing around so that i'm setting them up so they win like i'm that protector but i'm also that that play that playmate to where i'm just letting them win so that they understand and know that i got their back but i'm letting them know what it's like to win not to control them it's important for us to say when we're communicating to them in the context of protection that's funny you always say this is what's important to us not important to me this is what's important to us as our connection it's an us thing not a me thing because there it is again that would just be more self-protection so you got the protection piece you got the providing piece the second thing the providing piece you know i own a cat don't don't judge me but i actually love the cat i grew up not liking cats but over the last two years of having our cat honey she's growing on me i love her and she's a killer man she comes she comes home like every night or every morning depending on if she got locked out or locked in with a mouse and she brings it in whether it's half alive fully alive or dead and just drops it on the floor like look what i brought you just just for you little treat what's fun is when it's dead everyone's like ah gross i get the bag throw it away when it's half alive everyone's like oh and i got to be the one to put it out of its misery and then there's the time when it's fully alive and the house goes into absolute mania a couple weeks ago i was bringing trash cans out and and the garage door was open and i hear just screams out of out in the street and i was like what just happened and i run up and i'm like what what's going on it's a mouse that's behind the toilet [Music] i don't want to get this mouse oh it's so horrible i can't stand myself but i've devised i have a little i have a system i have a rhythm for how to get my mice now and the last time it didn't work out so well but i didn't i ended up getting it but i own a cat and uh you know that cat is not worried about me providing for its needs it knows that it's going to eat no it's going to get water and it knows that i'm going to open the door it knows that i'm going to close the door it knows i'm going to you know i'm going to change the litter in fact before we got the cat i was like i'm not doing anything for this cat you kids you want a cat you're not entitled to do nothing in fact you have a lot of responsibilities because you're gonna be doing everything for that cat you're going to feed it you're going to do the water you're going to do the litter box all that you want a cat enjoy turns out i'm feeding the cat i don't do the litter which is awesome but we've spoiled her and give her some wet food twice a day she's she doesn't even like eat her dry food anymore she's such a she's such a punk but but it's like hey you're not entitled to not do anything for this cat girls you have responsibility you have responsibility here you will tend to the cat and providing means that you're taking responsibility not only to adjust to the needs of others but you are going to take ownership of making sure that the needs of the other person are met will you adjust you know providing isn't always money sometimes when i'm in counseling sessions a lot of guys are like oh i'm doing my part i'm loving my wife i'm providing that's awesome i'm glad that you're doing that but what are you how are you providing for this you're you're working 60 70 hours a week great you're providing financially that's amazing but over here you're not providing jack in fact like there's nothing in your bank account over here you're providing nothing over here at all and it's up to you man to take responsibility take ownership to start putting deposits in that account yippee financially you're good but how are you doing relationally and providing for that account provision it's our role but it's not just money it's got to be more it's got to be deeper it's got to be the thing that doesn't get neglected you never really learn ownership if you believe it's always someone else's job and you know i heard a story about this this russian guy um he was driving a taxi cab and a communist regime it might have been russia i don't know might be east germany it doesn't matter some communist nation the communist regime fell country was free and open and people were able to travel in and out without getting harassed and whatnot and this guy goes in and goes hey so tell me how you like the the freedom that you have now that the communist government is is now gone and you have this this new system in place and his answer to the guy was i'm actually terrified i'm so scared of the freedom that i've been given because i don't know if i have what it takes to provide for myself and my family i've been so dependent upon everyone else giving me what i need i don't know if i can actually do this how many of you have been there like uh-oh i'm holding the bag at the end of the day and i don't know if i have what it takes to take ownership to take on this responsibility and i don't know if i want to answer for my inability to take ownership for what i've been entrusted with i've gone through that before i know what that's like and i've failed i've failed many times before i remember saying to myself i don't want the freedom i want to be this was after i got out of the military i don't know if i want the freedom to because then i'm responsible to take care of business like i remember people trying to talk me out of getting getting out of the military when i was getting out they said are you sure you want to do that like you don't know if you're going to get a steady paycheck you don't know what's coming as far as benefits go where you do for dental where you do for health i'm like that's a good point that's a really good point and those were four years of my life were taken care of i didn't have to think about it and those were thoughts that started like rolling through my mind and boring and i started talking about i was like no i'm not gonna do that like i'm gonna start building a lifestyle of ownership and responsibility to start building the things in my life that i want to see happen i'm going to make them happen i'm not i'm not dependent upon someone else doing it i'm dependent upon the self-control enough to actually go in and say this is what i'm going to do and then actually follow through and do it isn't that what self-control is fruit of the spirit right being able to tell yourself what to do and then actually fall through with it so there's protection there's provision and then there's promotion so when i was in the when i was in the air force um before i went to basic training the number one bit of advice that people were coming to me with was like don't stand out whatever you do don't stand out because if you do they're going to start picking on you you don't know you know and first day boot camp i get there oh i was so i always got in trouble for laughing i think drill instructors were like the funniest people ever that made me stand out um but i remember the first day we had to run the mile we had to do our sit-ups we had to do our push-ups and i was probably for six months i was training heavy i was in good shape and i ran the fastest mile in our squadron out of a few hundred guys i was the fastest one and if i remember correctly it was under five minutes i was flying i was good and uh of course standing out they said oh perfect fast guy you're gonna be the pc monitor which means i'm in charge every morning at whatever time they wake us up at like four in the morning to get up in front of the hundreds of guys out there and lead them in the physical conditioning all the calisthenics all the push-ups all the sit-ups and i had to make sure that i was better at the end of basic training than i was before and i was pushing myself hard and by the end of basic training um one morning i i felt it in my abdominal muscle i pulled muscle so bad in my in my abdominal muscle and i couldn't like even move without it hurting and i didn't tell anyone i just was like i'm gonna make it like i can do this and uh came to the last test that we had at the end of basic training and i had to do a certain amount of sit-ups crunches runs push-ups and all that and comes crunch time and i just couldn't do it i was in so much pain that i couldn't do the amount of sit-ups that i needed to do to graduate basic training and if any of you have ever failed in anything like that the amount of shame and embarrassment that comes with that is just like devastating and i remember having to just face the music of like oh my gosh i can't believe i didn't do the amount of sit-ups i needed to and i went into my drill instructor's office and he's like you're telling me you can squeeze out three more sit-ups my pc monitor the guy with the most sit-ups the guy with the most push-ups the fastest runner you couldn't squeeze out three more and i was like i couldn't do it and he goes why i was like i really hurt myself i pulled muscle and he's like why didn't you tell me why didn't you tell me like i would i would have helped you i was like i don't know i just figured i need to just keep moving forward i need to i need to just grin and bear it he's like well unfortunately that means you got to do another week at basic training and if you've been in the military that sucks that is not fun and he was like well go pack your bags you're moving to another flight and he's like you can call whoever need to call and the first person i called was my dad and i was trying to be strong like i was super bummed but first person i called was my dad and as soon as he answered the phone i just lost it you know you're not the best mental state in basic training anyways they're building you back up but um i just lost them i failed and i just remember what he said to me after i confessed my failure and he said don't worry son promotion is coming and and i remember just being absolutely wrecked when he said that like it was an ugly cry after that because i felt championed i felt like i wasn't alone and the shame that i had about what had happened might have been devastating but letting someone see it let them get behind me and champion me and a week later i passed no problem you know in different flights there's different rules so you have to tie your shoes differently i found that out because it they make you go to bed at like nine o'clock or eight o'clock or something and then they woke me up at midnight yelling at me who thought y'all tired right right right [Music] that's how my old real instructor taught me don't give me excuses give me results right like oh um but what's interesting is this after i graduated from basic training we went into tech school where i'm learning my job and um i got to a point where i was being recognized i was i was killing it and they promoted me to be the leader of my group where we like marched to and from class and i was in charge of calling the cadence and i was i was leading and uh this one guy does in my tech school class just failed his tech school week and got recycled to my week happens to be that this kid was in my flight in basic training and he knew that i recycled because i hurt myself and couldn't do the sit-ups that i needed to do and i'm i'm calling the cadence one two three four right and he's out of line and we get to where we need to go and i was like dude you're going to get us in trouble if you don't get in step and if you don't get in line so i need you to listen to me and i need you to figure this out and immediately he got defensive and he said i don't have to listen to you you got recycled in basic training in front of everyone that i was leading and immediately i had a choice to partner with the shame that happened in the past or agree with the fact that i was already being promoted beyond what he was doing are you following me like i had a choice i had a choice to say oh you're right let me get back into my shame because i'm less than you no actually i'm being promoted let me just tell you what i need you to do again and do that and it was interesting because all the guys there were a few girls were sitting there and they listened to that guy say i don't have to listen to you and it wasn't until i said actually i need i said it again i need you to get in step i need you to do what you're called to do so everyone doesn't get in trouble that's when the favor came with everyone that i was leading because i didn't partner with the shame and back down and say oh you're right i'm a recycle lee actually i'm a promoted airman and now you need to follow my lead shame can steal from us shame can steal from the people that you're called to lead shame can steal from the people you're called to promote shame can steal from you being promoted shame can prevent you from protecting the people that you're called to protect shame can cause you to self-protect and actually end up losing your most important connections with the people in your life shame can make it to where you can't walk in the fullness of providing for the people because i don't want to take ownership of this i don't feel like i'm qualified i don't know if i have the confidence to do this because i'm ashamed of what's being being done over here and making sure that no one sees it i don't have the i don't have the wherewithal to put in the work to actually step into the promotion and the three things i'm called to because i'm putting all my effort over here because i'm desperately trying to make sure you don't see what's actually going on so a few things just to finish up quit blaming people take responsibility take ownership if you're pointing the finger at everyone else or your problems or your issues or whatever it's time to point your finger right back at yourself what did jesus say hey remove the plank from your eye before you start pulling out the splinter and the other's guy in the other guy's eye right take responsibility deal with your shame deal with your pain deal with your weakness face it and ask yourself constantly what am i going to do because you're never a victim ever you're always a powerful person equipped to make a powerful choice someone challenges you don't partner with shame come back at it and say no actually i'm receiving promotion and that's where i'm going to walk and that's why i'm going to stay so father i just bless i bless everyone in this room i thank you father for your goodness that is always being poured out on us that shame has no place in our life shame has no power in our life i declare that shame has no power in this place that shame has no power in our lives we come out of agreement with shame and you say you will not you will not have influence in our life anymore shame you will not steal from us we will walk in the fullness of everything that you've called us to to protect to provide and we receive the grace to walk in promotion that we're moving from glory to glory thank you holy spirit for an increase in the fruit of self-control that we can tell ourselves what to do and actually do it thank you that you've empowered us to be powerful people we receive grace from heaven right now in the name of jesus and i just want to finish this off because i feel like you don't have to raise your hand or stand or anything like that just position your heart to receive this if you can't say that you've had a earthly father that protected you i just asked i ask right now in the name of jesus father would you fill every spot that has been left empty empty by the lack of protection that you would fill every spot with the love of your protection with the with the comfort and the peace of your protection to any area of their life that hasn't been recognized or hasn't been brought into the fullness of christ so i just thank you lord for fullness released into the lives of your people here this morning jesus name amen amen that was so good give it up for micah you guys mike is such a good dad and such a good dad for for this house and for all of us so thank you micah um so we we're gonna do some prophetic ministry at the end but we actually it's 107. so i want uh the people that were supposed to come up here and give prophetic words you're going to come up and just call out the the ones you have a word for and and then when if they call your name come up and receive the word from from that person uh so johnny lynette uh heather trisha was there anyone else am i missing someone i think that's it so if you guys have someone to come up get just call out the person come up and get receive the word from that person um and then we will also be on the side here for anyone else who wants a prophetic word we'd love to to prophesy over you dads especially our men there's also going to be another ministry team over here for anyone that needs healing or any other prayer needs over in that side patricia's over that side but there's going to be so thank you guys so much for coming today and i'm going to let these guys call out the people preston i have a word for you micah i have a word for you [Music] uh [Music] you

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