Ep 180: Things I No Longer Do As A Christian Woman 🙅🏻‍♀️ Living for Jesus! // Biblical Womanhood

hey friends I'm Heidi with Heavenly minded  home and today I want to share with you   something very very important but it would  be the top 12 things I've quit doing since   truly coming to see what scripture  says about being a woman who claims   to follow Christ so come hang out with  me today let's chat about this [Music]   hey ladies I'm so excited you guys are here to  hang out with me today yes we put out videos   each and every day all things homie homemaking  homeschooling home discipleship homesteading   a little bit of all of it it happens right  here including our Saturday podcast Heavenly   minded home has a podcast so be sure to tap the  little subscribe button and turn on those Bell   notification so that way you get these videos as  they come out each and every day now you guys know   I love sharing about all the homey things but one  of my favorite things in the whole wide world to   share about is biblical Womanhood and I know for  me I grew up as a professing Christian my entire   life Christian Home Christian schooling all the  church services you name it went to a mall and   I never understood biblical Womanhood I don't  remember it ever being taught I don't remember   it ever being really a topic of focus in any  way shape or form and that is a shame that's   definitely a real sad point to see in in just the  world the the professing church today and I think   that we love having women's studies and women's  topics and all of these women-y things people are   listening to Heretics like Joyce Meyer and Beth  Moore and Priscilla schreier like you wouldn't   believe but yet we're not getting to the root  of scripture and the more I really started to   dig in to really pursue scripture and what God  says right not all these things that we've made   it up to be but but what does it say when you  strip it all down and you just go to the word   because his word is living it is alive and active  and it is completely sufficient and the more that   I learned about biblical Womanhood the more I was  like oh my gosh where has this been all my life I   believed all of the stuff that us girls are taught  to believe strong independent woman and girl power   and we're so special and you know all the things  and you start to see what a cheap lie that is   when you get it from the world because  women are special and their role is   very specific and it is a just amazing  honor to be able to live in this way   but we cheapen it by this whole worldly way that  we go about it instead of seeing and glorifying   God for his truth of what it means to be a  Biblical woman so I will just say I'm going   to tell you the top 12 things that I no longer  do anymore but if you want to dig in you really   want to look at this you want to learn more you  want to search scripture right God's word and   see what it says about these different topics I  completely invite you guys to come and join us   for our Biblical Womanhood study every summer  we're in our fifth year now we go through and   study biblical Womanhood so we have a free series  it was exclusive to our membership a few years ago   I'm posting it every week for you for all of you  guys we have a companion study walk in faith that   we are doing in the membership right now you guys  are totally welcome to come join us I will link a   video down below if you want to learn more details  get all the insights scoop go and check that out   when you're done watching this come and join us  regardless of when you find this right they're all   stored online that's the cool part about it we are  in week four right now but it's amazing it's just   the most amazing study in the whole wide world  and nothing makes me feel like more empowered   more just like built you know specifically for  this role than really understanding what God's   word says so anyways it's super amazing let's  talk about those 12 things that I'm not doing   no more the first thing that I no longer do since  understanding what God's design and role for my   life as a Biblical woman is I no longer live for  myself I think that you know so often we feel like   we don't want to do these things because why do I  want to sign up for just a big list of you know no   no no can't do this can't do that but that's not  it at all and I think the more that I really came   to understand God's design God's will for my life  and I started going okay you're right right that's   that whole pick up your cross die to self you know  when you listen you're like oh but what if I don't   want to do those things what if that's not what  I like you know what if it means I can't you know   hang out with the same people and listen to the  same music and whatever um I kind of always had   this idea from church that like the real Christian  people were like the ones who did all the boring   stuff when like I just wanted to party and have a  good time and like apparently you couldn't do that   but we have it so backwards and so as we start  to realize truly the propitiation of Christ and   what it's all about and what matters and where  our sights are to be set and you know you start   all of this comes together and you're like oh  my gosh I'm not living for myself anymore I'm   so done with that that's just such it feels good  in the moment it's like that cheap quick thing   right like I know that I could go to some fast  food place and eat something that's gonna oh   my gosh it's gonna be so good right now right but  if I eat that all the time that's what I'm always   consuming I'm not getting any nutrients I'm gonna  start gaining weight I'm not gonna feel good and   then at the end of the road I'm I'm gonna have  some health problems right and I feel like it's   the same thing we want this cheap quick you  know feel good worldly thing I want to live   for myself and what I want but it leaves us empty  and sad and depressed and anxious and discontent   and all these other things and so the first thing  that I stopped doing is living for myself no more   I am an ambassador of Christ right I am to be  reverent to be living as one who is Holy it's   not about me it's about bringing glory to God and  that's amazing the second thing I no longer do   curse gossip run my mouth anything spewing out  crudeness even things that I'm like it's just   a joke you know whatever the things coming out  of my mouth taming my tongue that's a big one   to just saying whatever you know whatever  whatever's on our mind or whatever you know   I think of things that I used to say and you  go back and you're like gosh that was stupid   why did I say that let alone the way I used to  talk and just having a foul mouth or being crude   or you know just scripture literally says in our  Biblical Womanhood passage of Titus 2 that we're   going over this summer the word use the original  Greek word is literally giving your tongue to   Satan and letting him use it as a tool right it's  literally like handing your tongue over accusing   others being a gossip having that thing to say  about everyone just you know you think of just the   things that are even so acceptable in our culture  even our like church culture today and that's not   the type of mouth we are to have especially when  you look and cross-reference all through scripture   like that's not how we talk and then you realize  that our words that we let out that's just like   a little window into our hearts right the words  have to come from somewhere so then you're like   gosh what do I have in me what is influencing me  that I'm okay with talking like that absolutely   not like that that's got to stop that's number two  for me the third thing that I have completely quit   since truly understanding what Christ's will for  my life is is consuming whatever I want um that I   mean literally from drinking in excess don't do  that anymore eating in excess that's a big one   we gotta check but even things like shopping  and excess being on social media in excess   um just being consumed by all of these things it's  that disciplining of our appetites and not just   the things we're eating right but the things that  we prioritize that we're obsessed with we just   can't get enough of I remember this was oh gosh  15 years ago or whatever but I was obsessed with   celebrity news it was literally an addiction where  I could tell you everything there was to know   about everyone it's not that I like their movies  or I listen to their music or anything else I just   knew knew what there was about everyone like  I had Perez Hilton's website I don't even know   if that's still a thing honestly it was so long  ago probably still is and it's probably complete   garbage there's complete garbage then I had  ever every single article like I knew all of it   I would refresh it thousands of times per day and  I remember hitting this point and being like this   is stupid I cannot talk to you about any other  thing but I can tell you all there is to know   about celebrity news what is wrong with me and I  remember hitting this point and being like I have   to stop this so I don't look anymore I don't read  I say I mean Ed's been this way for a long time I   don't even care but it was really this difficult  process at the time to discipline my appetite   but look at how many areas of Our Lives that we  are just consuming or prioritizing or just just   feeding on stuff that what are we doing we're not  being disciplined in our appetites I think of how   I used to drink soda and even you know coffee and  all these different things and you're like what   am I doing this is crazy and so something that  I don't do anymore is just consume whatever I   want to consume I disciplined my appetites and  I continue to do that it's not just a one-time   thing that you do it's something you continuously  do or I take it to prayer and I say Lord once   you focused on this am I doing too much here  like I want to make sure that I'm disciplined   the fourth thing that I no longer do is just keep  to myself you know I think it's so much easier in   our world today to to see someone struggling or  to know this or you know to kind of be in these   situations and you just go it's a lot easier to  just keep to myself they'll figure it out sure   there's a time and a place where maybe you need  to just let stuff work itself out but so often   we don't see especially the older women  volunteering their time to the younger women   to help out right to be that Community to come  alongside scripture calls it to a demonish to   literally bring someone up under your  wing and be like let me help you out   I think even we don't see this oftentimes in  in parenting right we're so busy just kind of   shipping our kids out we ship them out to school  we ship them out to activities to sports to clubs   to whatever to their friends houses and then we  wonder what's wrong we're no longer admonishing   them we're more so just kind of sending them  out hope everybody figures it out on their own   and then we wonder what's wrong with the world I  don't want to just keep to myself now it doesn't   mean that I'm nosy in a gossip and getting in  people's business we already touched on that one   but starting at home with my girls I want to bring  them up under my wing and say let me help you out   let's work on this with loving correction  with encouragement with equipping them to   be able to do better than I did and to see in  other instances that we can take others under   our wings as the Lord puts them in our lives and  say let me come alongside of you and help you out   let me serve you let me put you before myself  in my own comfort so that was a big one that I   think we really need to think about our role is  being able to admonish others the fifth thing   I no longer do is put my marriage on the back  burner I know for years I thought our marriage   was okay it was fine it's just going to keep on  keeping on and it wasn't a priority making sure   that our marriage was strong that my husband felt  loved that you know all of that was there it just   it wasn't a priority and we had plenty of seasons  of struggle and plenty of seasons of kind of just   flopping along and doing okay right but making  our marriage a priority is so important oh my   goodness whether your husband is a Believer or not  your conduct and how you carry yourself makes such   a huge impact to him and his walk with the Lord  and so making my marriage my priority our husbands   should be our number one human relationship that  we have not the kids first not friends first not   yourself first not your mom or your sister or  whoever first your husband and so making sure   that that is my number one priority knowing  that my husband feels respected feels loved   feels supported that is huge and the more that  I pour into him the more he pours into me the   more we pour into our family right it's just like  amazing cycle I don't want to just put my marriage   on the back burner and especially in this day  and age where marriage is looked down upon not   even though we don't care about it but marriage  is looked down upon so much in our culture today   husbands are belittled and disrespected all the  time I don't want to do that I want an amazing   marriage and I want my husband to feel this love  and respect and support from me that he deserves   number one and that the more I pour into him that  gets poured back into me it's a win-win I want   my marriage to be my priority number number six  thing that I don't do think poorly of my children   I had to really think about this one  because I was like well did I really do that   there's so many little ways in our culture today  that we be little children this attitude of oh   I can't wait to get you dropped off at school  I can't wait you like go do that just get out   of my hair you know this this constant attitude  that we have where we treat them like they are   an inconvenience I'm busy I have things to do  you're always getting into stuff you're always   you know there's just so much negativity that  is constantly poured out to our kids they're not   having home life modeled for them like they should  and then we wonder what's wrong with them and why   they're all a bunch of little brats let's just  be honest I don't want my kids to feel that way   I want my kids to feel loved and encourage I  want my kids to love being at home and love   being together with their parents and one another  I'm on our family unit to be tight and I want my   kids to grow up and look back on their childhood  and be like man wasn't always perfect but we had   a great time and we were always there for one  another and Mom and Dad were always bringing   it back and pointing it to the Lord that's what I  want to see for my kids and so realizing that and   really looking at how I talk to my kids how I talk  about my kids how I act around my kids every time   they need something or they want to talk or they  want to play do I act inconvenienced or bothered   sure sometimes it happens right I think Olivia  didn't go to bed till after 11 o'clock last   night she was so wound up and we all were like  please please go to bed there's a big difference   between just that constant belittling and just  annoyance that you treat your children with   and really giving them the space where they know  you are their number one person you've got their   back and you want to see the best for them that's  what I want my kids to remember our relationship   and their childhood number seven thing that I  don't do anymore is neglect my mental clarity   there is so much in our world today  about self-care and all the stuff and   honestly most of it is cheap garbage or maybe  a sweet little tidbit but really nothing else   when you get so focused on what you're supposed  to be doing and all the worldly whatnots or what   you think successes or enjoyment is or whatever  it is there's so much that we focus on that we do   and we really do neglect our mental Clarity we're  not really sure I don't really know what I believe   I can't really stand firm in my faith I don't  know how to go about these huge worldly things   that are happening how do I feel about you know  gay marriage how do I feel about transgenderism   how do I feel about war how do I feel about our  financial situation right you look at any aspect   of life and it's like I don't know because you  hear people and they're making good arguments   but let me see this over here but then I see this  in scripture and I just I really don't know what   to think or how to respond I love and something  that was so amazing truly digging into scripture   truly looking at not what I've heard not what  people say it says not what anything else but   really looking at this getting an expository  preacher right like looking at these things and   being like a chapter by chapter verse by verse  everything in context what does it say here   and going through and going wow a biblical  worldview literally made all the difference   this this clarity now my worth my being  you know my relation to everything going on   right it's amazing that the clarity and the  freedom and the relief that I know I now have   that would be a huge reason a huge thing  a huge blessing that has come from this   the eighth thing that I no longer do is  disregard modesty um being able to have   that that change that that inner refinement where  I now very prayerfully consider my appearance   um that's a big one I think that really caused me  to look at a lot of deeper heart issues which is   amazing I think for so long you know I wouldn't  say that I was like I think of how a lot of my   friends used to dress I'm like okay I definitely  was not over there but then I think of a lot of   other things and I'm like oh my gosh like it's not  just how you dress right it's not just it's it's   the whole persona it's it's the whole billboard  that you walk around with and it's not that it's   all about you know what you're wearing or whatever  but the outward appearance is just a reflection of   what's actually inside and so when we start to  pay attention to that we start to look at that   what am I trying to portray to others we all  clearly look the way we look to some degree   because that is what we are portraying to others  it's what we want to portray is what we're trying   to portray we're frustrated because it's not  what we thought it would be or want it to be or   whatever it is but it does matter and then really  looking at scripturally modesty what it is and why   right you always got to get to that deeper root  right the heart of the matter and that was such a   refining process for me but it's one that left me  feeling so much better and I'm so thankful for it   and I wish of course I would have figured it out  sooner but thank the Lord I'm here today and so   now again prayerfully considering my appearance  be it is it too immodest am I way too focused   on how I look am I way too focused on you know  health because I have to be the skinnier I have   to be this or I have to be that I have to have  my hair dyed I have to have this makeup I have   to have my nails done right you start really  going through all those processes and going   this really does dig in and look at the heart  doesn't it I'm thankful for that I want to   be refined I want to be conformed to the Lord  and his will in his way because that's a great   place to be so that's the next big one the ninth  thing that I do not do anymore is neglect my home   I worked I was focused elsewhere I was doing all  the things the only thing I cared about was that   my home looked perfect right but inside our home  life was a shallow empty shell and I don't want   that I want home to be my first priority I want  my family to feel like our home is our refuge   it's our little Retreat here in this world I  want to open my home to others and for them   to feel like this is a little Retreat from chaos  and crazy and it's nurturing and cozy that's what   I want I want my home to be my first Ministry I  want to pour into my family with healthy foods   in a comforting environment in a place of just  laughter and love and then again to open that up   and let foot spread out to whoever else the Lord  might put in our path to come and partake in that   I want home to be my first priority I want it to  be the base of my Ministry I don't want to be so   stretch thin and so just warm ragged that I just  it's a burden and I just don't want to and it's   so frustrating right sure can things get to be  a lot sure they can but that's why we keep it   minimal we keep it simple it's a place of comfort  a place of nurturing and that is a huge blessing   10th thing I no longer do is waste my time  on nothingness oh my goodness how much of   our lives today is literally just a wasted time  that you know you can never get back and it's   literally gained you nothing I don't want to do  that I want to focus my time on the goodness for   God the things that are Eternal the things that  when they go before the Lord he goes yep that's   a great job we're going to talk about this  when you get up to see me you're getting   rewarded these things will last like way  to go you that's where I want to focus my   time we walk through this life like a store  and we're picking up things I'm selling this   from John Barnett you guys are my biblical woman  group you know what we're talking about we walk   through the store and everything has a tag  on it it says good right it says worthless   and so much of what we pick up with our time with  our possessions with our worries with our whatever   is the worthless it doesn't matter it doesn't last  it just it's again just that cheap quick thing but   then it's gone I don't want to waste my life in  nothingness I want to invest my life in God's   Eternal good and when you start seeing that you  start making that shift in making those changes   the rewards are immeasurable because they are  eternal the 11th thing that I am not anymore   since truly coming to understand what Biblical  Womanhood in scripture to the Lord actually means   is I'm not rebellious and so many ways we  live in such a rebellious culture guys I   grew up in the late 80s early 90s and there  is nothing like a little bit of rebellion to   excite My Flesh right I've listened to think of  the music we used to listen to that kind of like   Fight Back Against the Machine I mean skater boys  the whole nine like I just I'd loved all of that   but then as I grow and I'm refined by the spirit  I go wow the world wants us to be in Rebellion   Rebellion to our husbands Rebellion to True  nurturing motherhood Rebellion to being a   homemaker Rebellion to living for Christ Rebellion  to God's very word we see it everywhere in this   world and where does it leave us angry frustrated  shallow discontent anxious hurting at me goes on   I want to pursue biblical submission because  biblical submission is a blessing and the way   that people have taught it that they  think of it that even you know hearing   those words people start getting like  oh submission no I don't want that I'm   gonna be my husband's slave blah blah  blah right we get all that nonsense   it's hot garbage you guys biblical submission  is one of the greatest blessings and honors   and stepping away from my rebellious flesh and  submitting to God's order is like a weight lifted   off your shoulders so that for me that's something  that I had to get rid of that rebellious spirit   the 12th and final thing that I no longer do is I  no longer live as a citizen of this world I don't   I think of politics I think of oh gosh all the  voting nonsense I think of getting wrapped up   and so consumed in what's going on in this world  we're so upset we're so fired up we're just so   I gotta hear the news I gotta do this I gotta  do that because why is this happening this way   I have to have the house I have to get  the things I have to you know look a   certain way and have a certain life I'm not  a citizen of this world a citizen of Heaven   and so that's where my focus and cares  and investment and everything goes here it's kind of like a layover I'm kind of  just hanging out my cares and Affairs aren't here   I want to pour into people I want to serve  people I want to love people I want to show   Christ and everything that I do because I am his  Ambassador right while I'm here in the slave over   like I am an ambassador I am here to literally  do a specific job I'll do that that's great   but as far as being wrapped up in all of it and  focused on all of it and worked up over all of   it a sinful World's Gonna Do sinful things that's  what it is and it's only going to get worse until   Christ returns it literally goes from bad to worse  scripture tells us that there's no making it great   again it's not possible but you know what I can  do I can invest in my home I can't invest in my   marriage or my children and in every person that  the Lord puts into my life because that's where   you make a difference that's where things can  change and that's where you can invest Heavenly   minded in an eternal Focus into other Souls and  so for me I'm not a worldly citizen anymore I'm   a citizen of Heaven so right there friends those  would be the top 12 things that I stopped doing   I quit they're done they're out of here since  truly understanding what God's Will and design   for my life is has a Biblical woman now there's  a lot to unpack here and that's why we spend all   summer studying through this again fifth year in  a row it's been amazing you guys have to come and   join us you guys can watch the videos you can  sign up to get our weekly emails with sermons   and discussions and applications and of course  you can join the collective to get our companion   study that's going on right now walk in faith  really digging in with my girls alongside of me   of what it means to live these things out we've  got over there in the membership group we've got   private class pages a group all kinds of cool  stuff so lots of resources that I pray can be   a blessing to help you I know how difficult it  was when I was going through all of this and   trying to dig in and understand and grow I just  wanted to know what does God's word say where do   I look what do I do that's what we are going to  be covering so I pray this can be a blessing for   you today of course share it with any other women  that you think this might help encourage as well   in their walk with the Lord otherwise you guys  can check this video out right up here and come   stop by tomorrow to hang out with us for our next  daily video see you all then bye ladies [Music]

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Length: 27min 54sec (1674 seconds)

Published: Thu Jun 29 2023