Empire: 10 Tips to Build Discipline Into Your Life

after watching or listening to this episode if you're in your 20s and you think that role right now is the time for you to party and to go nuts and be short-sighted but you feel this 9 this gnawing inside you that says hey maybe I ought to be a little more disciplined you ought to have a little more structure you ought to do things differently than all your friends after this episode you're gonna realize it's okay to do that [Music] I think we all know that discipline is important discipline is freedom discipline gives you opportunities that you otherwise could not have but most of us don't know how to have discipline so today we're going to talk about the ten ways to build discipline into your life in business with my buddy Craig Valentine what's up dude ah my man I'm gonna tell people how I was once a very undisciplined person you know drinking partying all the time sleeping in hitting the snooze button the world's most undisciplined man that's crazy because I only know you as the world's most disciplined man well here's the thing is is it isn't discipline isn't about what you do some of the times it's very much like in anything in life it's about what you don't do and so I realized as much as I wanted to eat chocolate cake for breakfast I wanted to be successful in life more and so I thought okay well how can I make discipline systematic automatic automatic and systematic where it was easy where it kept me out of trouble and I was thinking about this a lot recently because people are always asking how do I build this one how can I be more disciplined I keep and or they bring like all these things I'm sure you hear this all the time oh man I screwed up again or you know I got drunk or you know lots of young man like too much porn all that stuff and they're like how can I get disciplining overcome these bad habits and we want to download that stuff today because we certainly both were not the most disciplined guys in the world but now we have all the structure in the systems in place that makes a success systematic and automatic hey so to that point before we start let me ask you this do you think that it's more challenging near impossible for people in their 20s to be disciplined and structured or is it just lack of knowledge and information I give you tonight what you know now would you have been more disciplined back then yes because here's the thing is that when you're that age that's the age where you like want to impress other people where you're finding yourself quote-unquote so I think that was the the reason like I wish if I could go back in time I would have lived as my best self back then I would have made decisions that were not influenced by other people I would have been more comfortable in my own skin I like that phrase I once had a personal training very successful Guyanese and his brother was even more successful who's like a lawyer down on Canadians vision of Wall Street and he said yeah my brother rides his bicycle to work and this is back in the day like before people wrote riding their bike was cool to work right and he is a successful learner he's just he's really comfortable in his own skin and I think that that's one of my regrets I think probably a lot of people probably regret you know I wish I would have done things my way earlier rather than you know whether it's going out and partying when you don't want to or doing certain things or maybe you want to be serious maybe you want to settle down but all your friends are like oh man you can't get married now or whatever it is just go and live your life that way and I think that that's why it's difficult for younger people plus all the social media stuff you know if you're going down you're doing the right things and all of a sudden you're like man look at all these people on social media doing all this stuff and you know they're traveling around maybe I shouldn't get that serious job now maybe I should go to Thailand for like six months but that's not really what you were meant to do and so I think they're very short-sighted which is what young people generally are you know it's not like this generation is any worse than any other generation the short-sighted and they're gonna do things that they'll regret later even if it's just like man I just should have you know smarten up and been disciplined or you make some really bad mistake right so for the young people that are listening and I love it when somebody is dialed in and focused like a lot of jason capital's students you know email me and DM me all the time and I love the influence he's having on those guys because they're getting their act together a little bit earlier and so if if you want to get it together get it together and live without apology and without regrets and live your best life that's a really good way to put it and the reason I asked you that is because after watching or listening to this episode if you're in your 20s and you think that role right now is the time for you to party and to go nuts and be short-sighted but you feel this 9 this nying inside you that says hey maybe I ought to be a little more disciplined you got to have a little more structure you ought to do things differently than all your friends after this episode you're gonna realize it's okay to do that so let's dive into it what's number one all right so the first thing that every single person doesn't matter if you're in your nuttier 20s 60s 70s if you want to improve discipline if you want to stop making mistakes it's destroyed distractions and toss the temptations and this goes for everything from the smallest thing like I eat too many potato chips at night great what's the simplest thing what is the obvious answer to not eating potato chips don't have them in the house so if you drink too much like I had this friend Eric he was like you know a battled alcohol all the time he's like fine I'm sick of this he poured every single bottle of alcohol down the drain yeah I mean he could have done other stuff away the but he you know put it down the drain got it all out of the house and now you can't make the freakin mistakes and this comes from there's a lot of actually diet research by this guy up in in New York State this guy Brian Wansink he's done all these studies and you know he has his obvious conclusions if you have a bowl of M&Ms on the table you have a really great chance you can eat a whole bunch though yeah all right if they're across the room you're going to eat less if they're in a jar in the cupboard do you need less if they're not in the house you're not going to eat any so we can apply that to every single thing in our lives and I actually I tell people like listen if you are not focused in your work if you're checking your phone you're checking your email and all this stuff do this little test take your arms out to your side rotate around and I call that your local environment you got to have great control over your local environment so every single thing within arm's length it is a distraction when you're like man I've got to write this sales letter I got to write this email I got to write this book chapter oh there's that book I wanted to read for so long let me just read five pages of it let me let me just check my phone one more time let me just do all this stuff if you destroy those things if you destroy everything around you and you build a fence around yourself then it's automatic and systematic you will get those things done if I put you in a room with absolutely nothing but the one thing you had to do and I came back eight hours later it's gonna be done yeah you would have probably found a way to somehow procrastinate a little bit but eventually you would have gotten that thing done and so there's a great Bruce Lee quote it says it's not about the daily increase it's about the day decrease hack away at the UH nacelle which means get rid of the stuff that you don't need in your local environment in your habits so that you then become that person who can't fail you can't fail because you got nothing else to do but succeed that's the first one a brilliant way to look at yeah and so that was me right that was me like back in the day you know I used to wake up and play video games like back in teenage years and you know drink and party and all this stuff I'm like I just got to the point where sick of it I remember I played video games this is like way back when it's 13 or 14 I played video games for an entire Sunday afternoon and the way that I felt after I could can't believe I wasted this Sunday afternoon and I really decided like at that age I'm not gonna be that person who plays video games I just hate it so it got rid of the video games and now you can't get sucked back into playing the video games and a lot of people you know we talk about the people in their 20s I don't think anybody's gonna you know and then they're 80 years old or when they're 180 years old thanks to medical stuff you know they're sitting there and they're looking back and they're like oh I wish I played more video games you know like everybody says no one ever says I wish I spent more time in the office which is not true but no one's gonna sit there and say I wish I you know played more video games I wish I watch more NFL football like you're not gonna say that you're gonna say you wish you had done so many more things whether it's in your 20s or your 40s and so you've got to destroy the distractions and toss the temptations and make the success systematic automatic sassy to that point the the biggest distractions and temptations that I find that people are experiencing now is this the iPhone for sure iPhone their phone I mean this keeps you so connected to Instagram Facebook YouTube and all that if everything is on there what is not on there that's the problem and that's also the solution right because you can also go turn off those notifications I can't I can't believe when somebody shows me their phone and there's a red oh yeah whoa are you an idiot why is any notification on here there should be zero notifications on your phone you can turn them all off and in fact well I'm a big fan of so many of the big thought leaders out there the thing I can't stand is when you see a post from them where they're pointing over their shoulder and they say hey turn on your notifications you know look at the end of the day they're telling you that turn the notifications on so that you can hear from me my message is more important than your path of dominating life and that's not true the number one notification you need to turn on is a notification to your life like your to your destiny and you got to turn off all their other direct the distractions and you could do that with the off button on your iPhone man yes that's right house and here's the thing about the phones is the way that I like to describe it is it's it is this is a cheesy phrase or classic phrase it's not your fault it truly isn't your fault so every single day in Silicon Valley 10,000 a hundred thousand engineers go to work some of the smartest minds not only in America but in the world go to work very much like the Dorito scientists who whose entire job is to make you addicted to Doritos like America's smartest food scientists making you addicted to junk the smartest PhDs from MIT are going to Instagram to Facebook to make you addicted to your phone which is a sad shame but if you think that you're gonna wake up and you're gonna go me against 10,000 PhDs from MIT I'm gonna win that battle you're gonna lose that battle every single day so they're gonna get you to download another app they're gonna get you to have the notifications on they're gonna get to do this that or the other thing you're never gonna win that battle if you play by their rules so that's why you got to change the game you changed the game by turning off the notifications first of all then what I do I have four levels so that I protect myself so airplane mode then turn the phone off literally off then put it in another room and put in a desk drawer and there'll be days where that call of that phone gets me all the way to like almost taking out airplane mode before I hit my hand put it back in there and get back to work but you got to play by different rules and this doesn't just go for your phone goes for every single thing in life if you get the world to play by your rules that's when you can build an empire that's true number two public accountability yeah so public accountability is such a game-changer because you know most people are too afraid to admit that they have a big goal or they want to make a change but what I found back in the weight loss world you see this all the time too is CEO of one of the biggest you know transformation companies in the world is that when people were coming into my turbulence training transformations back in the day when they said when they put their before photo up so I had a 12-week contest and I said hey you know posterior before photo tell us what you want to achieve the people that did that were the ones that finished you know they might have had everything going against them might have been a single mom who worked two jobs and then she did that and then the person who had all the time in the world and had a personal trainer but didn't do that they quit but the other person had public accountability even to total strangers and so back in 2011 I used this to quit swearing so I said to my entire email list 150 1000 people in 2011 after I was running intervals intervals one day I said you know what I tell people what to do all day maybe maybe I should you know stop swearing or something I just thought so you're really right yeah exactly yeah yeah don't worry you swear that enough for three of us so I thought listen I tell people what to do all day how to change their lives and live better and Here I am I'm always person in swearnet but I don't curse around my mom and I never curse onstage so if I can control my mouth then I'm gonna do that I'm gonna say I'm not gonna curse anymore so I said that and within four days I stopped swearing because I had public accountability now I will once in awhile slack especially when were driving in your truck but one day it was we were with Joel Marion and I swore because it was like I you know I'm just with Joel and pedro's and you know he called me out on I'm like I got to get back on track man back on track so that accountability is key because accountability is so important in every area of life because if you say something in public and then you act a different way behind the scenes and you feel like a hypocrite and like hypocrite is here and like person who stole old lady's purse is here and hypocrite is underneath it yeah in in so many people's eyes I'll tell you why that's so powerful to is so I just got done doing my one of my most recent six-week challenges where I hired a black belt jiu-jitsu coach instructor and BJJ yeah BJJ PJ not to be confused with BJ BJJ that one J makes the big difference and dude I not only paid him for all six weeks up front but I told everybody here at the HQ that hey guys I'm gonna start doing a six week challenge with coach P at BK strength and the reason I told him that was not because I was excited about it but because I was afraid of doing it these six-week challenges that I take on are things that kind of put me out of my comfort zone that make me they're a little scary like the six weeks and the random marathon six weeks rock climbing right and so I knew that if I told my co-workers here and I paid in full for all six weeks that I couldn't negotiate my way out of it because at some point my coworkers are gonna be asking like wow so you're four weeks then how is it and I'm gonna have to either lie to them or tell them the truth and so that public accountability is massive man there's so much science behind it what's number three all right so the next one is going to be the systematic and automatic right decisions which is kind of like a combination of the first two things okay so listen you got public accountability and you've removed all the temptations now you wake up and it's like oh well this is all I can do this is all I can do here and it's also that planning and preparation the night before so that you wake up and you're already going on the thing so just make the path super smooth we've all probably heard the story like hey listen if you want to exercise in the morning make sure that you put your your workout clothes beside the bed and then as Mary Poppins says you have begun is half done and away you go it's just systematic and automatic so look at your life where are you struggling where are you stuck and struggling on improving something and then how can you make that so much easier well you know I'm really I'm really not doing well with my diet okay great let's go to your house let's toss all the junk let's put good food in going back to that Brian Wansink guy he found that if you put fruits and vegetables at eye level in your fridge you're more likely to eat them than if they're hidden down okay also if you put fruits and vegetables on your kitchen counter you're more likely to eat them whatever is available you're gonna go to we're like animals yeah whatever is in front of us is what we're gonna go for exactly so make the path to success smoother no matter what it is that you're trying to improve I love that and talked about going systemic and automatic if you can make it a priority because you always find time for things that are a priority for you and well you make time I like this is very important or like like words are important you make time for what matters and you try and find time and you never are able to find it's not like it's under the bed with your ab rocker you can't find time you can only make time for what matters well set so if you plan the night before this is what time I'm gonna work out and it's added to your calendar you're not gonna miss it but if you say today sometime I'm gonna work out well I could keep pushing that along until it's 10 p.m. and I go why I've lost a date I'll start working up right if it's on the calendar and you've told somebody or you have a workout partner waiting for you you not gonna disappoint them that's why the boot camps the Fit Body Boot camps are so powerful because you know mrs. Jones doesn't want to disappoint all those other ladies who she said I'm gonna lose 10 pounds I may be here to support you and I'm not and then you don't show up on Wednesday morning no mrs. Smith is gonna be a little bit cranky that's true yes that's really injure number 4 no more waiting hesitating or procrastinating success loves speed and delays kill dreams yeah yeah you got to get the momentum and motivation so you need to get quick victories if you get quick victories in a change like okay listen I'm gonna say I'm gonna go and do this well go and do something right away all right listen I want to you know join that I wanted I want to lose 20 pounds in 12 weeks great what's the first thing you can do right now okay and sign up a Fit Body Boot Camp I can buy the clothes I can go for a walk right now even though I don't start my workout till tomorrow I can hire that trainer I can do something right now because if you go you know what I'll start tomorrow then that thing happens where you wake up and the next thing you know it's 10 o'clock at night I didn't do that so I'll start tomorrow oh it's 10 o'clock I'll start tomorrow yeah and you just can't do that you absolutely positively have to get those quick victories and that's the power of having great morning routine you figure out what's the most important thing that you want to achieve in your life and you make that the thing you attack first thing in the morning because there's an old Mark Twain quote and it says if you have to eat a frog the best thing to do is eat it first thing in the morning and if you have to eat two frogs the best thing to do is eat the biggest frog first which means listen there's all there's always going to be something in our lives we don't want to avoid maybe it's you know preparing the speech or maybe it's writing the book that's gonna be so hard just check my email no listen you write the book chapter you do the workout whatever it is that you want to avoid you've got a into it and that's how you're gonna get better every day you know it's funny dude about this is uh about a month ago I started no to months ago now I started doing these morning hikes at 5:00 a.m. Oh everybody told me that yeah every other morning there's this place called eucalyptus loop it's three very big hills and when you finish it it's like a four mile hike and I'm trying to you know constantly chip away at my time now I'm under under doing it in under an hour and the first couple times I did it you know just regular tennis shoes whatever and so I said all right now I'm gonna make this routine it's not gonna be in the afternoon anymore I was just doing it on a weekend sure in the afternoon so I'm gonna do it as part of my morning routine at 5:00 a.m. before it really heats up in Chino Hills and so instantly my brain wanted to procrastination mode because as humans that's what we do no matter how disciplined you are in life you still go towards procrastination first because I think it's self-preservation or something and so I go all right but I can't start tomorrow because I really don't have hiking shoes so I've been hiking this thing on weekends for like several months in tennis shoes and it's fine but now that I want to do it during the weekdays at 5:00 a.m. like well I got to get the proper hiking shoes so I started going to amazon.com and you bought a pair of chucks interestingly about another pair of chucks leather uppers this time no that's that's because people who don't know that's what he started when he started training for the marathon he started training in chucks yeah I didn't know any better I didn't realize there was actual running shoes right here we go why were my knees and ankles silly foreigner so that said I realized very quickly dude you don't have to wait for hiking boots to show up for you to do a 5 a.m. hike I just set out my shorts and my t-shirt there I have my phone set for 4:15 in the morning so that by 5:00 a.m. I'm on that trail hiking yeah and I did it the shoe showed up three days later and they made the morning hikes a little better but I instantly went to procrastination first so just know that no matter how disciplined you are you're still gonna fall towards the trap of procrastination wake yourself up and go back to no I've got to stay disciplined and do this thing first because when you do it first it stacks on top of each other these little wins stack on top of each other cause if had I not done it that next morning I probably would have put it off until the following week well now the shoes came now let me break them in right and in the pornos it's been two weeks before I started the new in the morning hikes yeah and that leads perfectly into number five which is anchor routines so an anchor routine is the thing that can kick start you off like okay you get up at 4:15 a.m. maybe it's like okay I make the coffee and as soon as I make the coffee that puts me in hiking mode perfect or you know I always tell this famous story about John Carlton who talks about when he what he does is he walks around his desk three times and he's wearing like a certain sweatshirt and that signals his brain okay now it's time for me to write copy and I'm gonna sit here for three hours or whatever it is the Stephen King sits in the same old attic office like this tiny little office in his attic of his house where he's written all his books and he still sits there in this old computer and he goes in at nine o'clock and doesn't leave til he's written 2,000 words I mean this is just a guy he's consistent over and over and over again so you might have an anchor routine where you listen to a song or you you know you do some breathing or something that or you the plunge pool like Tony Robbins does but just get an anchor and as soon as that anchor happens it means boom all right go get same-day cards yeah time yeah routines and rituals man are so powerful for the human who wants to launch into something you know you look at every pro athlete they have a pregame routine and ritual they go through over and over again that's gonna increase their odds of winning yeah 100% all right number six is visualization so planting good things in your head I actually just read this crazy story about there's this 19 year old girl from Canadia who just won the US Open in tennis and when she was 15 years old she started writing herself a check for whatever the US Open prize money so it was in like the first time she wrote it it was 3.5 million and every year she would rewrite the cheque based on what the prize money was for that year and then this year she won and I guess she's 19 years old so just kind of like you know obviously not super mature and like her interviews and stuff you goes I guess this visualization stuff really works it's like so amazing right and and most people probably heard this story about how jim carrey wrote himself the million dollar check and all that sort of stuff and so visualization if you visualize yourself as that discipline or you create that identity that I am a discipline person I am the type of person who says what they're they does what they say they're gonna do I'm not a hypocrite I'm the type of person who follows through I'm a leader I show up on time I do all this stuff great great now you got that in your mind if you do that every single day you're planting good things in your mind plant good things in your mind and you will be able to improve in so many ways you know I once heard someone really smart say visualization alters your belief systems and your belief systems ultimately engage your actions right and so if you can just visualize clearly what you want over and over again like this young lady writing a check for herself obviously a check - she couldn't cash but when you write the check you begin to believe that you one day will get that check and that belief system leads to taking the actions that are required for you to win that 3.5 million dollars yeah she did in 19 good for her number seven proper goal-setting yeah so people often say you know how often or how long will it take for me to become disciplined and as I go back to that story about how I quit swearing in four days and what I did was I assure myself every time I swore and there was some self-awareness we're going to talk about that in a second it's like okay well if this happens then then I'm greater risk of that of doing the bad thing so I'm gonna make that you know contact and connection there and then every time I do something bad then there's gonna be a punishment that's significant the consequence has to be significant that'll stop me from doing it and it's like you know this can really change really really quickly so if you're hitting the snooze button okay great I'm gonna tell my friends said if I hit the snooze button or you know if yeah if you sleep with somebody like hey listen I'm not gonna hit the snooze button and if I hit the snooze button then that's 20 bucks that I'm gonna give you and you go buy shoes or you know I'm gonna donate it to something else great now there's consequences and now we are moving ahead so you just put in place some goal setting for it so my goal is to stop hitting the snooze button in seven days and then BOOM away you go off to the races you get that accountability you plan that in you plan it so it's systematic automatic you move the alarm to the opposite side of the room you think about all the ways you can do it to make it easier to achieve your goal and if you think about things planning's gonna be simple you know what's funny is like that's I gotta get that everybody gets that proper goal-setting and if you make the thing that you don't want to do harder yeah well you're more likely to not do it right it's ironically it seems like everybody seems to want to stack the odds against themselves they make it easier they make it easier like your iPhone has a feature where you can turn off the snooze button feature oh the iPhone has a feature we can turn off the snooze that way this news feature doesn't even come up when your alarm goes off there's only off you can hit right there is no snooze button yet everyone seems to leave that on even after reading my book where I talk about hitting the snooze button is the curse of death turn that feature off go one further and then put the phone far enough away where you have to physically get up to reach it instead of putting it right on your nightstand so that you won't just change the time those little things are the proper goal-setting things because it's so easy to hit the snooze button go back to sleep and before you know it you've had a shitty day hey before we go on you said the snooze button is the kiss of death so I'm reading a book called why we sleep and in that book like hitting the snooze button he actually warns it could kill you because oh biggest think about this so when the alarm goes off like everybody's jolt out of bed your adrenalin goes up okay now you hit the snooze button and you set yourself up for another alarm that's gonna jolt your adrenaline up again and so like Monday morning heart attacks like there's a reason why you get on this because you slept poorly on the weekend and you need that alarm more than anything on Monday and then you hit the snooze button the hit C and the get the alarm again and it's a loud and annoying and all that stuff and you're angry at it stress that's like a double triple like the more times you hit it you're doubling tripling quadrupling your odds of a heart attack attack worse good lord yes so it really truly is a kiss of death alright so number eight boom ruthless self reflection and course correction so what we have here is we need to be able to look back and say alright I'm gonna watch the movie of my week as I describe it so I'm gonna look back and see what did what did I do this week what did I say I wanted to do what did I actually do and where were the discrepancies between the two and how can I fix those you're making cause and if so it's like man you know Tuesday night I watch the last episode of Game of Thrones it kept me up till midnight I wanted to get up at 6:00 I hit the snooze button didn't get up till 7 now it was late had to work late had to skip date nights this cascade this domino effect and so you need to look back and say all right listen if I'm truly committed to all of these things that I say I'm gonna do then I'm gonna have to remove the distractions and the temptations this is where you identify the things that throw you off track and I've always useless like here's an extreme example and you take somebody who's a recovering alcoholic who doesn't want to drink anymore and six and a half days a week they can be good you know say the serenity prayer and drink water and go to the meetings but then you put them in a pub on a Friday night everything goes out the window now of course they're not gonna look back and and be able to identify that but anybody can look back and identify that so it's the same with their own lives look back where'd you get off-track all right man I just can't watch Netflix on you know school nights quote-unquote cuz I say there's gonna be one episode in the next thing you know it's four not four episodes or I can't drink on school nights you know it's I say it's gonna be one glass of wine next thing you know it's four glasses of wine if these are the things that are totally destroying your life you got to go to the extremes and get rid of them so you can only do the right thing so that ruthless self-reflection and course correction is really important but don't be too hard on yourself you know it's funny it's talking about that earlier you talked about how like there's tens of thousands of people in Silicon Valley who are some of the world's most smartest coders programmers PhDs who spent their waking hours trying to figure out how we can get more engaged in our film how can i hooked on my app yeah great well as it turns out I don't know if you how much time you spend watching Netflix Hulu or Amazon shows but we watch a survivor at home okay Andrew and Chloe are just enamored by Survivor they love Jeff Probst the host we've watched every season and we're gone ours our second turn through every season now the way Amazon and Netflix have set it up now when the show was ending as its coming to it sending a little box will pop up and say the next episode starts in three two one and so normally used to be that it would end the credits would run and then there'd be commercials right like when we were growing up now it's set up where oh well the next episode starting and all of a sudden calling in Andrew on our school night mom dad can we watch another episode how it's just ten minutes if it habits of it and I realize very quickly these things are set up whether it's an app or Netflix they're set up to suck you in and eat away your time in this case time away from my kids sleep which is then gonna affect your school and their attitude etc so then we have to like crack the whip them like no mother go to sleep right but it's nuts that if you don't allow yourself to turn that thing off in three two one the next episode is about to start and then there's another one after that and before you know it it's like 4:00 in the morning I just binge watch the whole season and trying to figure out what the just happened yeah especially when you got 28 20 years of Survivor yeah yeah a keep action now here's the 39 there well there are 39 episodes there nine seasons there the 39 season not our thirteen years okay and it's the same thing with the food you know so when we were kids there was one size of everything yeah now and my friend this Vicks guy who was at the empire summit Frank Frank damn big Frank yeah big Frank danblank and from the Netherlands he always sends me pictures of like the biggest bag of mm so you can find like a five kilo bag of M&Ms like okay that's engineered so you stick your hand in there and you you know 5,000 calories later mmm compared to what we had back in the day and it's just it's crazy so you have to build the fence around yourself you know keep those things out of your life that really leads us into number nine which is stop self-sabotage now there's a bunch of ways you can self-sabotage there's the physical way which is crowding your local environment with junk and crowding your global environment with toxic people and toxic environments but then there's also your mental environment which you can really screw up by saying oh I can't do this or I'm I can never be late or I can never be on time I'm always late I can never lose weight I can never do this I'm I'm an introvert I have anxiety I I can't speak in public I can't do this I'm not elite like if you say it you will become he will become it right and I share a little story to that point indeed this is gonna highlight this so well this stopping self-sabotage you want to become disciplined stop saying you can't do something so on October 14th so here we are we're filming this today is what September 23rd 2019 on October 14th Rea care our Navy SEAL friend there's gonna be running this this team training thing at my house Oh core basically he runs people through all types of workouts that they do in the Navy SEAL program while teaching leadership problem solving communication and teamwork those four things and so I've got a bunch of Fit Body Boot Camp owners who are gonna be in town for the Fit Body Boot Camp mastermind so I invited them to my house to do that there's also a local husband and wife out here in chino hills' who owned a small business i've become friends with them and i figured you know what they could use some of this Shan work and leadership skills and problem-solving etc I said hey guys why don't you come to my house on the 14th and learn this stuff right now the wife the other day she text me week ago she texts me she goes hey my husband and I are are in Northern California and we're visiting a friend and we're getting a rental car and the rental car company was out of the mid-level cars that they wanted to rent us that we wanted so they upgraded us to a Tesla and I'm sad this is a text I'm getting they upgraded us to a Tesla and I'm sad well that was the perfect hook so I responded with wait they upgraded you to a Tesla and you're sad can you explain why she was yeah I realized that we'll never be able to afford this car like we'd never be able to afford to buy this kind of car and then she goes but I hope that that made me seal in the training that we do there can help me can help me out can help me overcome that and I just called her and I just let her have it and I let her have it with love and I was like listen there is no one thing there's no one Navy SEAL there is no one training there is no one night on a on a white horse that's gonna gallop in to save the day like you're you're going into this negative self-talk of literally they're gifted they're upgraded for free no additional charge a Tesla instead of saying BAM this is the universe telling me that I belong in a car like this and that I can have a car like this she went to the negative self-talk to the sabotage talk of I'll never be able to afford a car like this and I hope that this outside thing that's gonna happen there's training with the seal can help me get there it's the training of the mind that's gonna help her get there so I just like let her have it and said look there is no one outside element that's gonna be more powerful than the inside self-talk that you have that's just like holy I get it I go it's not navy seal it's not God it's not Jesus there is no one thing that's gonna come down unless it's one call from Pedro school Ian right yeah yeah and I'm hoping that landed on the ears that actually pay the tension but man self-sabotage that negative self-talk something good happens to you don't go I could never do this like if you go visit someone's house and it's a mansion no look at it as this is a sign from above that I belong in a mansion not man thank God they invited me because I'd never see the inside of a mansion you know it's funny I'm just going a little side thing here is that I recently was telling all my clients if you want to understand how to sell higher ticket stuff and you have to go in experienced seven-figure lifestyle stuff so you know one person who is at the Empire at the Empire summit they read that right that weekend they were like okay great we were we were gonna rent a car and drive up you know the PCH to somewhere we actually went and rented a Tesla so it's the totally opposite mindset they were like oh well we should go and do this because if we can experience this then we get used to it we understand what it's like to experience great things first of all it'll help us get used to it but second of all it'll also help us understand oh this is what somebody who's affluent expects in you know an arrangement and so we have to up our game and our selling and our marketing our delivery so that we know what it's like like if you're trying to run a hotel to affluent people and you've never stayed at a ritz-carlton there are four seasons you're never gonna succeed you got to go and have those seven-figure experiences whether it's going to a restaurant or whether its buying a really great thing or something like yesterday I bought a new iPad like I don't even know how to I don't know how to use an iPad did you ever have an iPad ever I haven't a long long time ago and you know it's like how it's like ah you know the 12.9 I don't know why we need a screen this big and you know the 11 looks fine oh my god I'm gonna regret it if I don't buy the 12.9 so you know I bought it and I don't know when if for I'll ever learn how to use it but I bought one because I just wanted to go through the experience going to the Apple store so you know how they were running all this stuff and it was worthwhile so anyways last thing there and change your identity you know like I used to be a cheap guy now I'm you know not the cheap guy anymore I'm not gonna be the cheap guy and it's the same like the hook got a whole little phrase here no more snoozing scrolling porn pot drinking doping cursing cheating etc never let those floodgates open never let those into your life and the other thing is if if something goes off and you do lose your discipline we're all gonna lose our hands aplenty you know you need chocolate cake for breakfast one day relax don't hit the panic button you need to have something that you put in your Instagram the other day without SPAC ability ounce bash about legit back don't beat yourself up just bounce back baby yeah sassy you know bounce back ability and and so that's anti fragile be anti fragile so when you get stressed you know when stress is applied to things a lot of things break but some things become stronger under stress like your bones so you need to be like your bones become anti fragile so you don't break down if you do screw up if you get drunk you say man I'm never gonna get drunk again and yet get drunk okay you know what every single minute you move to becoming sober again and then from there you figure out okay what got me drunk you know self self-reflection course correction what got me drunk well is these people that I was spending my time with influenced me it's still my decision I'm to blame but I need to spend time with these people in non drinking environments you have to cut people out unless they're really really negative but just change the environment change the situation and through that self-reflection you get better at everything and become that discipline machine and the next thing you know people are gonna want wow how do you do it and so really to sum up here you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with and if you spend time with people that are really disciplined really successful it's gonna be systemic automatic that you're gonna be disciplined to you're the product of your environment if you spend time in bad places doing bad things you create bad habits I guess what's gonna happen to you and you're the product of your self-talk and your self belief so that's that's why you need to make those changes and anybody can do it anybody can do it and really that's why you need to be at the perfect life retreat yes and the perfect life retreat happens in San Diego on November 8th and 9th Nathan nuts yeah Pedro's is gonna be speaking Jason capital again a young guy very self disciplined amazing guy amazing product of our environments he spent a lot of time with us he's growing up and seeing what it's like to be a high-performing entrepreneur we're gonna have surance rubato very very disciplined entrepreneur you know the king of the real estate world king of scale as you call them English scale and then we have this woman Keri Shull who is a real estate agent in Washington DC has a team of 80 agents and is also a mom a very couple of young kids she's gonna show how she does it all through her self-discipline so yes perfect life retreat calm we'll see you down in San Diego it's not gonna take much self-discipline to get you there right that's it all right guys and gals if you like this episode we want you to give it a five star review leave a comment and of course take a screenshot and share it on your Instagram profile whether it's in your stories or the main timeline we would greatly appreciate it we'll see you later

Channel: Bedros Keuilian

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Keywords: entrepreneur, business, ceo, success, decide, leadership, mindset, entrepreneurship, motivation, businessstips, personaldevelopment, productivity, hustle, how to build self discipline, self discipline motivation, self discipline, self control, develop discipline, how to be disciplined, how to become more disciplined, tony robbins, self discipline techniques

Id: Zz0kPBY0v_s

Length: 39min 44sec (2384 seconds)

Published: Mon Dec 02 2019