Documentary on arranged marriage | "The Only Son" - by Simonka de Jong

[Music] this is where I was born and where my parents still live Karam village high in the Himalayas in Nepal but me and five of my sisters couldn't survive there my parents brought us to a children's home in Katmandu one by one first my elder sister voce she had a serious back problem and could go to the US for surgery she was raised by an American couple few years later my second sister some Joe was left in Katmandu she rolled into a fire and was seriously burned a Dutch woman adopted her [Music] then new Pema when I was eight I nearly died of measles my father brought me to Katmandu and left me in the children's home I was happy there I lived a different life in the big city I had to study hard at school the village and my parents we felt far away my two younger sisters dolma and Tara I convinced my parents they should have an education like me they missed our parents at first but soon I was like a father to them [Music] it's my dream to be a photographer travel around the world and meet new people I hope to live in the West like my two sisters work to make a career and follow my heart [Music] three years ago my parents came back with an unexpected message they wanted me to come back home and marry a local girl now that the girls happy Jupiter Daniela that's an Italian son included nothing did on the tortilla to cut the relative norm is a key under shelter so they thought the near time seven your particular me another Monday another reason love joins and that called the in your binding new princess attention according our Kevin okay what you don't you didn't so we enemy anything that mentally meet you will make you to tell the comecomecome to gonna come excitement on the dignity economy Danielle no but rather than the total not remember the medicine indented image remove your vegetable demanded they don't you watch it you thought you know open communicative member jundj independent discipline their children permit to don't get that in another no comment which emotivism toner after a visit it at 4:30 [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] I did not go back to the village and recently I got a chance to study in the Netherlands and live with my sister Sue Jo and her Dutch mom when I arrived my American sister daughter came over for a visit so that the three of us could spend some time together [Music] [Music] Dorthea some job and me always kept in touch through the internet but it's the first time we are together again we cannot speak the same language anymore we have to talk in English [Music] [Music] 3 3 in 58 3 3 for your faith oh that's nice now dorje had to go back to the US and I have started studying tourism management my new foster mother thinks it's the best option for me to make a career now when I'm finally living in Holland I feel homesick for okay panic can you please count the number of ways my sister some job is my only close friend sometimes we share the same room again like we did when we were small he partially really I feel farther away from my parents than ever but then I hear from them again there is a phone now in the village no Emma who she doing ballet manga Dylan did not achieve go nice achieve : not such evil huh the chance of nearly two trillion data to chance another terminology much chance I pull up or against either nobody down good night I can't escape my mom not even at the other end of the globe I have to decide if I will return to my village to help my parents or live in the West and follow my own dreams I must go back to Cara to find a solution some Chuck wants to come with me to support me and because she's longing for a family reunion we agree to take our two younger sisters as well although the data [Music] [Music] [Music] could they some Chuck doesn't have any memories of living here she was too young and only stayed here for a couple of months before she was adopted DOMA and sarin still live in the children's home we grew up here together but some jerk hardly knows them where's your bed this is my bed while this where did he took this place come on come on up there there no it started of the river this is in namo buddha namu who made good hotel bylaw there are dozens of their tower there - yeah I know they looked up what I love [Music] when my father brought me to Cartman he had to walk for a month carrying me on his back crossing countless mountain passes now we will cover most of the distance with two small airplanes and then we still have to walk for ten days we will do it like Westerners with a guide share part and wheels to carry our tents car analyzing upper dopa border area of Nepal where mostly Tibetans live I remember the spell of the mountain flowers in summer inventor our village would be covered in snow and I had to stay inside near the fire for weeks on end [Music] [Music] after a few days we have to stop to get used to the high altitude we still have to cross a pass of over 5000 meters when I am NOT around to translate some jerk can hardly understand our little sisters I speak English with some chalk nepalese with my younger sisters and Tibetan with my doctor he is such a cause of cause of it or anything sure what a mess you know I saw earlier yeah loser it's now only three more days walking to the village my sisters are getting excited they're looking forward to have a happy family reunion with our parents and the one sister who stayed behind for some job it's the first time she returns to her village she hasn't seen our parents for many years but I feel worthless to come [Music] [Music] [Music] my moon is around my oh my let the cool car water cap honey as a traditional Tibetan healer my father is used to travel by foot around oppa my mother spends most of the time alone in the village taking care of the land of our family you know your thing yeah taught to put them we never imagined dinner does not have internet [Laughter] Karin is now only a few hours away I wish I could feel excited like my sisters and I try to push away the thoughts about why I'm here but I know sometime in this coming week I will have to confront my parents [Music] how's Emma I went to where to buy because I think wearing that you looked very dirty so you have to reach over come live with you I'm attorney Michael I'm but I want to dad [Music] yeah okay where's my husband whisper music [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Laughter] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] yeah [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh I can do that Aki did I wear a quarterly Whistler's your this No the Philips comes mr Davies madam octa erotica Tom don't come on I know what I came here when I can't you didn't kill me just do communities cannot put it bonus check out with you I don't you know welcome home this chicken week at the visited yet I know city not chick communist they're going to talk and now so like what I want he told me how I said it was like a baby when I was about you know the colorful Samian teacher that and I need different after years but didn't the column did you think that not talking about what kind of image you didn't eat much it so and then they had to feed you from the mouth from their mouth to your mouth like some pie no who is it oh because of the excellent or is this a little beginning you would like that to motivate each other to systematic children didn't we get back with the tourists because the tire demanded their day imagine they didn't demand which a man judge it did much of charity yeah exactly max help with it yeah actually children deserve alleged doing chips taste of the food more children in a got a combat WA compete to be man like Rock Lakota hewlett combat piracy demanded the container will not you watch it le compte de la parte nublado con Babu rather than that welcomes anarchy [Music] AG you see and my sister Chungnam comes to visit for a day she's the only one in the family who did not go to the children's home she was the strongest and my parents kept her in the village she worked the land with my mother since my parents married her off to a local farmer in the next village my mom has to do all the work on her own again [Music] [Music] [Music] tell me tomorrow children teaching day who added the Hume here the trial carries totality intelligible yes I did commerce particular matter yeah sue wasn't well let me do that Sheila do you know that they drop acidity [Laughter] and the bottoms are only jell-o gelatin look at our right [Music] yes it's gonna kill [Music] [Music] [Music] sorry not son you didn't accidentally tell me knocks Richard ricotta sugar J chakra immediate response women checked up in the shaft over there did not sorry none can read over i'm not added mallet in early lead in a second i'm such a deal the kwik-e-mart engine and a sahaja yoga such a deal it's intoxicating how could I ever live in this isolated place it's the land of my ancestors but my world is so much bigger now how will I ever make my parents understand sukashi can 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matter somebody me this not a man I did i till I do but you pass me the sergeant who party money combustion money Matsunaga number two Gilson too much time on me patthamas hello gentlemen what happens walking on the Bulldog after cool walking down eating ham donut ensemble regarding what a night hike and I pick a decent round checkpoint addresses and diamond diamond diamond diamond - okay and kids are taking notes hi Donna okay no more time in the round let's each item okay about your money thank you Jaco go - did you love it no teach other world when you land isn't that a lenders of power there now make her look sunken out - you goddamn good notice in pendulum naughty job you're dead - you knew on polish Auckland who Tara Rocha meet of is destined to meet Miss booty at the point yet the daughter to tell miss Soto cadet Daniels our posters at the Athenians [Music] [Music] [Music] I feel trapped to get some air away from the tensions in the house I go with some job to visit our sister Chun Doong I hope she will understand he can help me find a way out me please watch you not so much things I thought of Donna come before Nietzsche mati she had a five baby five kids yeah that's it to pass away and I said do you want to have more I still want to have 20 kids she's kidding look in the source of support there Colin apart sir - Morgan tears of Commerce important jnanis shift you don't hold it do you run any undercutting maybe she la camisa the to get it super not bad combat antic keeping with this important hearing aid industry tinea yeah first weakly yeah we kept dude tell you what the calm down dude yeah anytime you meet Jeremy did it numerically come my dear if the honey how come yes dear Jeremy's got my dear a okay dear no an in killing you luck but there [Music] suddenly my brother-in-law comes home he went to China with his shocked two weeks walking away when the mountain passes are open in summer most men are away for months to buy supplies in order to survive the 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Kappa Jukka sisters in Kavala Gonzalez snowy true faith 50 Scalia bump few guys have made to nominator and I feel I played off your causal non-issue Lisbon aid and they dog just accept you you feel belong like my sister and her children have come to say goodbye we will be leaving early tomorrow [Music] we can go together the ninja [Music] [Music] [Music] [Music] father brings us to the airstrip ten days walking from Karen it will be our last days together for a long time to come [Music] [Music] looking at my little sisters I feel worried about what will become of them my head is full of confusing thoughts and I'll stick in it that I wanna get it I'm a good night honey oh yeah dance class like ABC go my iron is command teacher bunny Dido and still badly j-money didn't understand her even bigger in the coma - Mira pretend it's big and equality important in this and as I said it designed all the my sinuses I live in the Tigre have Nikita pre-order column somebody already warned you do just BC good decisions and their worst enemies the Ramirez on logic unit I know they live they live in either st. even are okay keep on a very particular mama a dragon dear Amanda Tariq humans didn't wanna keep on stomach no you got any money you Krishna Tillman italic given to did Monaco could assume your mother decide them [Music] [Music] I know now I have to live my own life I will return to Holland and stay there maybe for good I know dolma is considering going back to the village like me she can't stand the feeling of guilt [Music] [Music] I'm still waiting for a miracle [Music] [Music] you [Music]

Channel: wocomoHUMANITY

Views: 2,160,862

Rating: 4.8487778 out of 5

Keywords: First Hand Films, Himalaya, Travelling, people, marriage, couple, Nepal, Family, traditions, family bonds, Nepalese village, PLAY_EN, different cultures, traditional wedding, traditional marriage, parents, Nepali Himalayan village, Kathmandu, modernity, family home, love, Dorje Dolma, Pema Gurung, Tibet Village, forced marriage documentary, child marriage, Tibet traditions, Nepal documentary, arranged marriage in tibet, Simon de Jong

Id: fCOWKsAaDbo

Length: 77min 49sec (4669 seconds)

Published: Tue Dec 11 2018