Dad Demands I Donate My Kidney To Him After Disowning Me Decades Cos He Thought I Wasn't His... AITA

[Music] first store is titled am ida hall for refusing to help my dad with a kidney transplant after he spent years denying he's my father okay so like i'm sure this might seem like a not the whole thing because it's my body my choice but everyone is coming down on me hard over this backstory when i was eight my dad found out my mom cheated on him they tried to work it out and i remember for years after he just became a total jerk to me it's like a switch went off and he suddenly hated me which seriously hurt i have two older brothers and he always excluded me from everything he did with them for a long time i didn't get it my parents used to fight over this and i learned it was because my dad was convinced that i wasn't his yet he didn't want to get a paternity test his only argument was that i was the only son who didn't look like him i look more like my mom's side of the family they divorced and my dad only fought for custody of my brothers well my mom passed away when i was 13 and i was sent to live with my maternal grandparents by 17 i pretty much gave up and tried to have a relationship since he clearly didn't view me as a son that changed three years ago when my brother and i now 29 took a dna test that showed we were full siblings not half we even had my grandma his mom do two and confirmed he was wrong this whole time suddenly he was calling me non-stop but i told him to stay out of my life he basically showed me how easily he can drop his paternal love not didn't want him around i had to block him until he got the message but now my brothers are telling me he needs a kidney transplant and we should find out if i'm compatible when i said no my dad called me himself to ask he was pretty angry and upset when i told him the same and he said it's not his fault he didn't know i was his at the time but really needs to help now so he can live long enough to make it up we ended a conversation with me telling him i'd rather save my kidney for helping someone i actually care about and i hope he finds a donor soon but don't call me anymore you can't imagine the outrage i'm getting now not just my brother's my dad's family his new wife all this pressure has been put on me to help out what's hard is how my brothers have been acting they're not compatible like i'm this monster and i'm taking our dad away from us because i'm not willing to try helping him i don't know it's been very hard doing this and being told by everyone in my life that is very wrong when it's going to cost him his life now for the top judgment of this post not they whole if the pressure is too much go get screened and tell the doctor you are being coerced they should be able to just say you aren't a match you aren't permitted to donate under these pressures but they can do that even if i don't actually get screened i'm not positive i suggest you contact your primary doctor about this and explain see what your options are thanks for letting me know i'll try to find out he said it's not his fault he didn't know i was his at the time it's literally his fault he chose not to take a paternity test back then he chose to just abandon you despite raising you he chose to punish you for what your mother did it's his fault and it doesn't deserve your kidney and everyone else who's angry at you over this can also get lost they didn't do anything about his awful behavior either not a-hole this opie became a stranger to the dead and he did nothing after ropi's mom died dad being sorry that there were consequences to himself is not an apology the next door is titled am i the a-hall for not giving money to help out to my sister all right this might sound like a horrible thing from the title but please hear me out this is a hard topic for me and english isn't my native language so i apologize in advance i am an 18 year old man and my sister is 22. ever since we were young she was always the priority for my parents don't get me wrong they never treated me badly but she was obviously the one they put more effort in she would get better clothes a better room an allowance and other things while i was never treated badly things weren't as good for me i was never given any pocket money by my parents thus i started to work really early 14 as i've learned a few skills in programming and had a good portfolio by then github so it was easier for me to get freelancing jobs in my country there are some banks that allow people under rage to open accounts but they are still under supervision of their parents since i started to work i became somewhat of an introvert but that's not the point most of my adolescence i spent working on projects everything i got i used to help out with bills at my house and save the rest in my account the reason i did that was because it is my dream to go to a specific university it's my dream school as they have an extremely respected course in programming and while college itself is free in my country living isn't and that school is in one of the most expensive cities in my country now i'm finally 18 and we're in the middle of the entrance exams i already passed in the first test with flying marks and i believe the next one shouldn't be a problem as well however since i turned 18 i'm no longer suitable for the same kind of bank account i had which is only for underage and needed to change my mother and i went to the bank to change the account and during that time she saw the amount i had saved i won't put numbers but it's enough for me to live without working for the duration of the course though it would be a frugal life that day during dinner she and my father started to talk about what i want to do in the future and i explained to them however after a few moments they stopped me in my tracks they said that while it was all good that i had an objective right now my sister was in financial trouble as she just had her second kid and her husband and her could really use some help my mother asked me to give my sister my savings and i was really shocked i told her how much i worked for that and that it was my money and i didn't want to give it to my sister as that meant not going to my dream college since my parents couldn't support me living there my father said well you're still young and you can always earn more money your sister needs it we argued more and i went to my room however i'm being constantly harassed and called nahal by my family there's so much of this that i can't help but feeling like i'm a horrible person so am i the a-hall now for the top comments not they hall call your bank and make them aware of this and warn them of this make sure your account is in your name only and no one else can withdraw money all the best to you this and if possible some banks will even allow you to specifically put a list of people who are not allowed to be anywhere near the account and will call you if they try not ahol if your sister is old enough to have two children and a husband she's old enough to get her finances in line not to mention it's your money you earned it and nobody should be forcing you to do anything you don't want to do with it the fact that they took one look at your bank account and said hmm this should all go to our daughter really does not sit right with me not today hall it is your money make sure to save hopi do not give her any now for the next story am i the a hall for not wanting my step sister to come stay with me my mom moved in with her husband when i 22 female was 17. i moved out when i was 18. at the time my mom's husband had his three daughters full time but last year his oldest 14 female started having issues due to trauma from some stuff that happened years before and they were advised to give her space with some other family she moved in with her grandparents but it didn't help then when she was asked where she would ideally like to live she said with me she said she didn't really get to spend any time with me but i was the older sister she always wanted so my mom called and explained what had happened she had said and the reason she gave her wanting to live with me and how all the professionals involved believed she needed to be comfortable and in a safe space where she felt capable of working through her trauma and she asked me would i let her come live with me she said before that she knew i would say no but she wanted to be the one to ask because she's worried her husband would be too forceful i told her she always knew me well and confirmed i was not okay with that her husband went nuclear on me he accused me of being selfish and abandoning my sister in her hour of need he told me you help family when they need you even if you don't think you can you do everything physically possible to help them then he started saying i was being unfair to my mom after maybe 20 minutes of him ranting on the phone to me he asked me what was the issue and i told him i'm 22 and i'm not sure i'm equipped to help a teenager who has the struggles his daughter has he said my choice of wording your daughter was not very kind he said at least call her my sister i said didn't have that kind of relationship with his girls then he said that's what it was all about i told him i know he needs to help his daughter but he does need to find someone else because i am not in the position to do it we almost had a repeat experience after i told my mom and she told him to stop and the second i answered the phone he started cussing at me so i hung up now i'm kind of wondering if i am in the wrong here because i know he's just trying to help his daughter and apparently she attached to me way more than i attached to her in the three to four months we lived together and a few times i was around them since am i the a-hall now for the top comments not the hall at all you were not obligated to let your step sister anyone else move in with you you are certainly not responsible for the mental health of a girl with whom you really don't have a relationship i don't know a therapist would suggest that a 14 year old with mental health issues should move into someone with whom they have virtually no relationship your stepfather is the a-hole for trying to force the responsibility of his daughter's mental health on you and adobe let him scream at her over the phone for 20 minutes that's what hanging up is for followed by blocking that number that kit is not opi's job and it sounds like a healthy job clearly not they hope well done for standing your ground and setting your boundaries and to your mom too for at least knowing you well enough to ask you herself first and predict your answer i feel desperately sorry though for your mom and step sisters your mom's husband seems grateful selfish and lacking in empathy i'm not surprised your stepsister is struggling so aside from many other trauma i hope she gets the help she needs not they hole good for you for knowing you can't help the kid out and saying so adding a kid to the household you run is hard enough adding a kid with trauma even more so my mom moved in with her husband when i 22 female was 17. i moved out when i was 18. stepsister said she didn't really get to spend any time with me but i was the older sister she always wanted she feels this way from one year spent in the same house less than one year yeah i'd say stepsister has built up a fantasy a few and how things would be if you shared a residence definitely not a good starting place for a kid with trauma now for the last story am i they hall for telling my mom it's her fault my sister got arrested my 23 female mother 41 female is the reason why i moved out at an early age she spent most of my childhood going out to clubs and drinking i spent most of my time at my grandmother's or my ends not to mention that she was constantly putting me down when i was a teenager and was taking most of my money when i got a job at age 16 to pay for gambling addiction her behavior did not get better and my sister 19 female came along my sister has been getting into trouble since she was around 14. my mom never really seemed to give a damn and i think my sister saw that as a permission to go and do whatever she wanted two days ago my mom called me and told me that my sister was arrested for substance possession and theft along with her boyfriend 27 male and that she needed me to lend her money to bail my sister out which i did i went over to my mom's house to check up on my sister and whilst i was there my mom started saying that she doesn't understand how my sister ended so left up her exact words and that she's about to kick my sister out because she's sick of her my mom was pretty much thrashing my sister continuously i got agitated and blatantly told my mom that it's her fault that my sister got arrested because she failed as a mother which i know sounds harsh but it's the truth my mom was furious told me that my sister and i are just ungrateful then she tried to blame me for moving out of home instead of staying and looking after my sister long story short i'm no longer allowed to go over my mom's house am i the a-hall now for the top comments long story short i'm no longer allowed to go over my mom's house long story short this is no loss not the whole this one it's a blessing not they home not ahol your mom sounds like an irresponsible narcissist yep too wrapped up in her own world to care that her 19 year old is off doing these and stealing with her 27 year old boyfriend throw a lot of them in the trash not they whole if you don't actually parent your child you can't be surprised or angry when they make bad choices maybe this will serve as a wake-up call for your sister and she can turn her life around [Music] and that's the end of this video folks as always leave a comment and hit like and subscribe and if you want more of this content turn your notification on to get updated on the latest videos and i'll catch you in the next one stay [Music] safe

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Length: 14min 29sec (869 seconds)

Published: Sat Jan 16 2021