Called The Cops On My Brother For Stealing My $3k Engagement Ring To Propose To His GF... AITA

[Music] for not waiting and reporting my brother and his fiancee for taking my ring i mail 26 been planning on proposing to my girlfriend of three years who just graduated college she studied overseas and is returning home soon we both came from the same town so our families know each other too well i work in construction is a very demanding job but i was able to save up for new furniture i still parent and i was so happy to afford the ring i was planning to propose to my girlfriend with i paid three thousand and my girlfriend didn't pressure me to pay that much but i really think she deserves nothing less my brother saw the ring and liked it even said that he'd proposed to his girlfriend with a similar ring but complaint didn't have three thousand i told him about less expensive rings that were just as nice but he constantly kept holding it and looking at it a week ago i got home from work and discovered the ring was not in my room my brother said he borrowed it to show it to his girlfriend but forgot to bring it back turned out to propose with it i went off on him and told him to go get it back he wanted me to chill but i called his girlfriend's number and all calls were directed back to him i called my parents but they wanted to stay out of it i told my brother to give it back the same day it begged me to give him two days so he could get a similar but cheaper won't sort of like copy it so his now fiance won't notice for days he kept stalling saying tomorrow no the day after know the day after i finally took a stand and told him i'd call the police and i did he wasn't with his fiance when the police showed up and his fiance called him from the station when he was at my parents house he and my parents started cussing me out when i came and my parents freaked out when i told my brother who needed to go to the station or the police would come get him he cussed me out for getting his fiance involved and said that i'm not a man to do this to a woman but i told him the ring was in her possession and that it's his fault his fiancee was involved i got kicked out of my parents house after a huge argument and i got nasty texts from my mom when the police kept my brother at the station for two nights she guilted me about what happened to my brother and said i went too far my dad helped get him out and i got to ring back now more of my family heard of what happened and only few took my side while others repeated my parents statement saying i should have never done that because he had other ways but i went too far what's worse is that my girlfriend criticized me as well and said that i caused a lasting issue in our relationship with my brother and his fiancee and i haven't seen my mom after those usually she's supportive of me so this got me worried am i home now for the top comments yo what did i just read your brother stole and proposed with an engagement ring you bought and your family is mad at you nah bro ain't nobody need family like that not stay home edit the duet i just want to share like so many others my mother did this exact same thing i once texted her because i needed her to talk to my sister about something incredibly important and she just didn't answer my mother said stop texting me about your sisters i'm not getting in the middle of it i kid you not less than five minutes later i get a text from my sister saying it's not her problem and parroting what i told my mom i called mother out on it and this psycho said i didn't get in the middle of it it's not my fault she was sitting here while i read a text out loud i haven't gone home in 7 years and man i'm so much happier for real my heart breaks for opie family can be challenging but this is next level gas lighting and messed up good luck goopy honestly i feel so sorry for the brother's girlfriend too her fiance proposed to her with a ring stolen from his brother and refused to give it back even after he was threatened with the police resulting in her being picked up and held at the station i can't even imagine how humiliating that must have been the only silver lining is that she found out he's a gigantic a-hole before the wedding not a-hole your brother stole an item worth over three thousand while i would never put my sister in jail personally my sister would also never put me in a position where i'd have to consider it screw your family maybe even the girlfriend too that family's bad crap if they think everything is obi's fault that's the part i'm stuck on he tried to talk to fiance she wouldn't respond and brother wouldn't do anything what was his option that this girlfriend suggests legit he was in a no-win situation and that is over felony theft greater than 500 us dollars legit opie if your girlfriend is against you and there's no easy way to say this you may have picked out a significant other unconsciously because she exhibits the same toxic traits as your family that you are used to not they home everyone is missing or skipping that you were the victim of a felony theft let things settle with your family as for your girlfriend she might prefer another ring and your jewelry might exchange it for a fee your relationship with your brother is damaged because he committed a serious crime against you if he doesn't face consequences for it this is likely to happen again you cannot be close with a teeth now for the next story a marty a hull for not inviting my dad's wife bridal shopping because of conflict with her and my mom i have an idea where this might go but i wanted to ask my parents divorced when i 26 female was eight i'm the youngest of three two older brothers and pretty much from day one we knew our dad left our mom for another woman and that the other woman was the person we were staying with when we saw our dad there was always tension between our mom and them and we always chose our mom our relationship with our dad was impacted by his decision to leave our mom for another woman and for throwing us into a situation like that immediately knowing our family was broke and sucked and then we were supposed to give this new chick a chance knowing what we knew in the fight we have always sided with mom not that we were asked to but we would prefer to just keep things separate where possible or not include at all i'm getting married booked an appointment at a bridal boutique and invited my mom brother's girlfriends and my future mother-in-law and sister-in-laws daddy's wife found out about it and are pissed i didn't invite her she said she expected to be included after 18 years as my stepmom and my dad's significant other dad said he wanted us to let go of the past and treat them as family of equal worth to mom i said i didn't want her there and it should be my choice as the person getting married a marie hall not today hall i just tell her sweetly that you think it's a bad omen to have someone there who has such little respect for marriage vows that should sleep with a married man and that she's lucky that change your adulterer father allowed at the wedding at all but i mean boom this is the way not today hall 100 agree opie is going to need to carry some ice upon delivery of this burn not today hall if you don't have much of a relationship with her why does she need to be there simply serving time as a stepmother doesn't actually make her a stepmother or someone you want or need there on a special day use covid oh sorry we can only have four guests at the bridal salon exactly it sounds like opie and stepmom have no relationship except the fact she's opie's father's wife opie shouldn't be forced to pretend it's something that doesn't exist opi is not deja agreed also if your mom knows your dad left her for that woman that is awkward i think giving your mom that respect if not including your stepmom is fine maybe to appease your dad once you pick your dress go to the salon with your stepmom try on the dress for her and have lunch or something after but if the relationship isn't there it's not something either of them should be sweating they have to have some empathy towards the original situation of how they got together and how that could be awkward for you and your mom yeah this stepmom has been in your life for 18 years but your mom has been there since the beginning and you have the relationship with her not the stepmom not today hull i personally wouldn't want a homewrecker at my wedding let alone weighing in on what dress i'm going to wear dad she's not invited to this bridal shopping thing and that's final i'm already inviting her to the wedding itself despite the fact that i feel uncomfortable about it because mom will be there if she can't appreciate that then i'm afraid she'll just have to live with it and if you or her push it any further you'll find yourselves uninvited to my wedding [Music] now for the next story a marie hall for an inviting my bridesmaid for my wedding after her husband was disrespectful i 24 female went out for drinks with two other couples 24 to 26. one married the other in a relationship unfortunately my fiance couldn't make it due to her commitment my best friend and bridesmaid eve's husband met made everyone uncomfortable all night suggesting me and his wife's other friend larry be intimate together with him in front of his wife and describing to me in detail what he wanted to do in bed to larry's girlfriend's sister kate later in the night he told me i was settling for my fiance was clearly unhappy and shouldn't just marry him because they had his child he said a similar thing to larry's girlfriend and they actually ended up splitting up after those i left shortly after and after speaking to my fiance who considered matt a friend he doesn't want him at our wedding understandable considering he proposed to be intimate with a bride and also told her not to settle for the groom so i had an awkward phone call with eve ahead of me i then heard from larry that he took it a step further that night he cornered kate outside the bathroom at the bar and told her to her face the explicit things he wanted to do to her including getting his friends involved once i heard this i knew i had to tell her which i did it was awful and we both cried but she said she was grateful to me for telling her ten minutes later me and larry get an apology call for matt which was him claiming he was blackout drunk couldn't remember anything from getting it sexy despite him cornering kate's being before this andy's sorry if he said slash did those things taking no actual responsibility next day eve says it's all fine and is sorry and said he wants to do it again so she forgives him fine her marriage her choice even if this is the third time he's done something like this i thought it was sorted but a week later she messages me to ask if matt is 100 not invited to the wedding i reply hundred percent all of a sudden i get a barrage of i can't believe you do those he's my husband you're my best friend you can't make me choose i would always choose my husband there's going to be so much tension from now on if you claim you've never said anything you regret whilst drunk you're lying it gets to a point where i've told her not to come either losing a bridesmaid and friended process i didn't want her to choose i just didn't want him at my wedding and marie hall edit when i first told her what had done slash said she told me she understood us not wanting him there and that she would still be attending she then went back on this nearly week after now for the top comments just repeat sorry see it this way due to matt's repeated inappropriate behavior neither i nor my fiance are comfortable with his presence at our wedding it has nothing to do with you and i'm sorry you're caught in the middle it didn't have to mean you had to cut her as a bridesmaid but if she continued steering up drama then you know best not dehull unfortunately i said this multiple times she kept saying he'd done nothing wrong and apologized and refused to accept that he couldn't come she turned me to the bad guy and that's when i had enough yep justified and necessary it's on her not deja a wedding is supposed to be a time of joy and good vibes and this guy mads is probably going to get black out drunk and try this on others it's unfortunate that you are losing your best friend in the fallout but that's on her thank you part of me worries that i was too excessive and inviting her too but i was just worried should salker cause a scene at either hindu or wedding if she brought it up and tried to fight it just a week later i doubt she would bring it up again not today hull honestly he sounds like a predator i can't wrap my mind around how she's okay with all of that it's really sad you don't think he's abusive towards her do you i'm not saying he is but just the way she sees nothing wrong with everything he said just bothers me i'm sorry you're going through this though losing a friend especially over something like this sucks i hope everything works out for you i definitely don't think there's mistreatment i think he's just played a victim each time and she cares a lot about what others think of her she has said previously when i've confronted her about his behavior that she doesn't want to be that divorcee at 24. last story amari hall for not supporting my brother's engagement hello all this is my first post here and i need an outside opinion my brother 26 has never had great luck in the dating scene he tends to only date women who treat him like garbage in 2020 he met a girl online and she was definitely not his type and even said himself he wasn't attracted to her they dated for about 3 months and he decides to ask her to marry him she accepted and they got engaged about one month in they have a big fight and breakup i was very supportive of him even though it was cleared wouldn't last come to find out she had a substance dependency and was only using him for his money he looked over all her flaws and knew that she was taking his money but he insisted she was the one fast forward to 2021 back in april he meets a new girl 21. she is admittedly a much better partner than his last but still a very new relationship she still lives at home and has been severely sheltered her entire life by super fundamentalist christian parents we are christian as well but like the cool christians lol so yesterday he announced that they got engaged needless to say i was shocked i have only met her once and i have never heard her speak he doesn't act like his true self around her tries to put on a glossy sheen and of course she thinks he is perfect when i found out i approached him and said why don't you wait longer you don't really even know each other yet he has never been in a long-term relationship and neither has she i got married on my one-year anniversary and if i'm being honest i think we should have waited longer we are five years in and we feel we are just hitting our stride i told him about my experience and what my wife and i went through that was met with a massive why can't you just be supportive and happy for me that's what a good brother would do i then brought up my concerns to my parents and their response was in this family we support each other's decisions no matter what i then said i have to blindly support every single decision every family member makes even if that decision could possibly hurt them in the long run i feel it is more loving and it would be better to say hey i know you really want this i want that for you too but i really don't think this is a good idea and i love you enough to tell you this am i ahal for not blindly supporting his decisions not they hole but you will be if you keep pressing you have given him good advice and he is a grown man who can't take it in or reject it you have only met her once and if you never even heard her speak then your brother likely thinks your opinion of her doesn't hold much weight maybe you should try to get to know her better before discussing this further with him not today hull tough love over blind support always i lost a relationship with my sister for basically this exact thing long story turns out she's a narcissist so she treats me disgustingly for years as punishment for sharing my concern with her that one time even if their relationship progressed swimmingly it didn't i wouldn't change my stance in a do-over it's the principle not today hole but please encourage them to do pre-marital counseling with a licensed professional not someone from the soon to be wife's church some of the crap that religious leaders say in premarital counseling is appalling not the whole too many people feel that family means you blindly have to support every stupid thing they do i think you've said your peace you're not going to change anyone's minds but it's not your fault if your brother's relationship crashes and burns he is making his bed and he'll have to lay in it so

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Published: Mon May 31 2021