Confronting The Narcissist? They Will Do These 6 Things

hello here are six things that narcissists do when they're confronted number one is deny deny deny it's a good thing to remember that the core of the narcissistic personality disorder is a core of no it's a core of denial it was developed in an environment where the child was so traumatized that they couldn't accept what was happening to them and as a survival strategy they learned to push reality push facts push data away and exchange it for their delusional fantasy version of themselves and of reality so the first thing that will always be done is deny the second thing that will happen when you confront and assess the second stage will be to attack why would they attack well if you look at the cptsd model as outlined by Pete Walker of what narcissistic personality disorder is this is a fight aggression phone submission response whereas the submission the submission is in the fact that they're Charming they can be giving they actually can be quite codependent and can seem to be people Pleasers but then they switch then they become aggressive and they attack why do they attack because they've learned from a very very early age that attack is the best form of offense so when they're presented with the facts of what they have done that absolutely is seen through their perceptual filters as I'm being attacked it's not just that people are stating that water is wet and the sky is blue no no no no no I did not yet decree that water is wet and the sky is blue so therefore this is an attack an attack because of the fragility of the narcissists boundaries and the uh the scarcity the paucity of their boundaries they see it not just as an attack on their false self but as an attack on them in their Essence as a human being and because they're attacked in this way and they're very fragile this is called a narcissistic injury and the response that they will give to that is their counter-attack far more disproportionate far more aggressive than the original attack which wasn't an attack at all that they received and this is called narcissistic rage number three the third thing they're going to do is they're going to start switching reality around and then representing it to you this is also called reverse victim and offender so if they were guilty of having done a thing they will represent the situation they'll do some mental gymnastics they'll do some internal evil alchemical magic and they'll present up as down left and right left as right and right as wrong they inverse they invert everything they invert values they invert reality they invert perception so if it was them that did the thing to you it will be fed back to you as though you had done the thing that they had done to them so even though you are the victim and they are the offender you will be segued into strange bewildering conversations in which you end up apologizing for having attacked them for having exploited them for having used them in some way because such as the skill of the mental Jujitsu that they're using that they'll make you feel like this is something that you've done to them the other reason why this can work is because it's so traumatic and so confusing talking with somebody who really does have malignant narcissistic personality disorder that it generates trauma and one of the effects of that trauma is that we start to to dissociate so you will forget the sequence of events you will forget who was in what role you will forget what the context and the objectives of that scenario was they'll turn it upside down they'll present it back to you suddenly you'll be feeling all of their skills and shame and you'll feel a strong conscientious urge to apologize to be a peacekeeper and to make it better and what they've just done is they've just reversed victim and offender another thing that you will find the narcissist doing when they are confronted is that they will switch off and become very cold and detached this can take place on a spectrum you might get the full-scale silent treatment or at the very less you'll be met with a cool aloof indifference if they respond at all their responses will be very very withholding the desire here is to generate as much abandonment anxiety in the Target as possible that's you to make you feel a strong sense of stress a strong sense that you have brought um drama and guilt and shame into the relationship and that you're making things difficult just to get you to stop the end goal that they have is dominance and in order to achieve that dominance they need your submission another thing that you will find a narcissist doing when confronted with facts is the smear campaign they will go out and start to attack your reputation your name knowing that there are Revelations on the horizon about the things that they have done that include you know the receipts the text messages the emails the phone calls certificates Bank details everything they know there's raw hard data that's coming that proves that they absolutely are guilty of doing things that there was no justification for them today whatsoever they start to attack the reputation of the person or persons of those who will ultimately expose them why do they do this to discredit the source of the information they can't really discredit the information itself because it's there in black and white so they'll begin to weave a narrative that discredits the source of the information and they know what data is going to come to light so they try to recast it within a new narrative these things were completely innocent or these things were completely consensual or these things were part of some other game that was inside of a game that was inside of a game that you're not even aware of of course anybody with half a brain can see through the narcissistic smear campaign the first thing that I described to you was called davo deny attack and reverse victim and offender that's a good place to start from because that's what you're going to see a lot of when you confront a narcissist with the truth I would say for me personally if you are planning on confronting a narcissistic personality disorder a person with the truth of what they've done do it according to a schedule according to a plan and a good plan always has multiple contingencies inside of it make a good assessment of what they can and will do to you in response to what you have brought to light be careful protect yourself at all times ladies and gentlemen I hope that you found that video useful if you did I have an entire course that's available from here on overcoming narcissistically abusive relationships and escaping them forever as ever thank you very much for your time and for your attention and I look forward to being you again very soon cheers

Channel: RICHARD GRANNON

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Keywords: Abuse, CPTSD, Narcissistic Abuse, Abuse Recover, Narcisstic, Personality Disorder, Stop NPD, NPD, Emotional Abuse, Emotionally Abused, Stop Abuse, female narcissists, covert narcissism, narcissistic personality disorder, female narcissist, signs of a female narcissist, female narcissism, covert narcissist, traits of a female narcissist, female narcissist traits, vulnerable narcissist, dating a narcissist, who is a female narcissist?, what is narcissism?, how narcissists treat

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Length: 7min 15sec (435 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 28 2023