The Narcissists' Code 452- What could happen if a Narcissist sees you happy after the discard phase

what is going on beautiful people welcome to another episode of the narcissist code i am your favorite self-aware narcissist mr lee hammock better known as mental healing across all social media platforms if this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice i'm a diagnosed narcissist i use my platform on social media to raise awareness for mpd get more people into therapy and also validate the victims survivors and thrivers of said disorder in today's episode we're going to be talking about what a narcissistic person will possibly do if they see you happy with someone else okay oh goodness gracious this is going to be pop my neck okay fingers pop nick pop let's get it because this is going to be a very green episode for me so narcissists don't want to see you happy with anybody else let me go and cry i'm gonna just go ahead and cross that up if you're dealing with a real true narcissist there is not one there is not i'm being rude i know i'm laughing but it's not funny they don't want to see you happy even sometimes they don't sometimes they don't even want to see you happy even with them so there is no way in hell they're going to want to see you happy with anybody else just think about think about from that perspective right there they don't sometimes they don't even want to see you happy with them sometimes they get pleasure from hurting you and putting you through pain so if they don't want to see you happy with them how do you think do you think they want to see you happy with anybody else of course not so typically if they know if y'all have been broken up it doesn't matter how long y'all been broken up if you can't if a nurse sees you happy on social media or whatever or y'all bump into each other in public or whatever typically they're other than trying to do a voodoo hex on you or whatever putting some magic you know putting some magic curse on you to get you to come back to them or before you overlook praying for your relationship downfall they're going to try to be an active participant and make you a new relationship or your new happiness be a downfall they're going to try to bring it down even if like even if you're not happy with anybody else even if they see you happy online posting stuff being happy by yourself they're going to want to disrupt your happiness so you know you don't even necessarily have to be in a new relationship for a narcissist to try to ruin your happiness you can be by yourself posting your happiness if they see your happiness they can they sense it you may if they like if it's like oh my ex is happy and they'll come back into your life it's like a sixth sense they're like you're happy aren't you i know it's been five four years without me they have spooked back into your life why did they why when i was happy they came back into my life and they ruined my life first of all don't shut you control access to your life you do you can shut the door of access to your life at any time you don't have to allow i don't care how long it's been i don't care how long it's been five years since we dated i thought they had changed but they didn't they they sensed that you were happy i was doing i was doing well i was peaking in life once i got out of that first tax relationship i was studying i would get my degree um i bought a house i bought some cars you know i was doing my thing i was doing i was by myself for a little bit i dated here and there i was just chilling i was happy i was sitting out of nowhere here comes my toxic ass ex back into my life to ruin my happiness i let them of course i let them back into my life and they just ruined my happiness they brought me back down the levels i didn't know they brought me down back down to the depths of my of unhappiness that's what they did for me they brought me back down to the depths of me being unhappy i was back to being unhappy again with in my life because i allowed this person to come back into my life they came back into my life and brought me back down to the depths of unhappiness i i met my i got back on my ex and they said i know a place and they took me to hell now stop allowing people back into your life to ruin your happiness y'all i'm just telling you they will come back until they will see that you're happy or let me tell you it's like a sixth sense either you're posting it online or they hear it through the grapevine or they sense it and they just get curious of what you're doing in life and they reach out to you they'll see that you're happy overall and they can't stand they can't fathom you being happy without them some of them couldn't fathom you being happy with them honestly to be real some of them couldn't fathom you being happy with them so what do i say again without them they don't want you being like y'all they don't want to see you happy if you're dealing with a narcissist or a tyson person you think you've been dealing with a narcissist or a type of person and they y'all break up and they're like i just want to see you happy even even if it's i just want to see you happy even if it's without me lie lie lie even if it's without me even if it's without me includes themselves they include themselves i want to make you happy somebody sometimes y'all they you give them the opportunity to make you happy and they make you sadder than you ever been in your life you don't mean well i tell people if you're dealing with nurses or types of people understand that this is it right here for you understandably so like they're going to mess with you they're going to convince you they're going to manipulate you and things like that they're going to convince you that they've changed if y'all if you're in a new relationship they're going to reach out and wish you the best sometimes they're going to be it's going to be some manipulation and this yeah i've talked to too many people over zoom and to let you know that this is true it happens all the time it happens more times you think not all the time it happens more time than you think that you will have moved on and you are in a seemingly happy new relationship your toxic ex reaches out and y'all leave the happy new relationship to be back with the toxic x and you get treated terribly i thought they had changed it we rekindled the flame and blah blah blah and i got treated terribly you left a good relationship but you said you were happy to be with your toxic ex because y'all had history i'm just telling you and then some a lot of people going to look at that situation well you kind of deserve that one did you not you left a happy relationship to be with your toxic acts who treated you terribly yes they can be convincing but stop entertaining toxicity from your past i don't give a damn how convincing they are if you're in a happy new relationship or you're happy by yourself i don't give them how convincing your toxic ex is when they reach out to you if they reach out to you i don't care how convincing they are you don't deserve them back and don't allow them back into your life because they see you at a peak and they want to take you down a notch oh you think you can be happy without me let me bring you back down to reality oh you put yourself on the pedestal let me knock you off the pedestal there don't they they don't want to see you happy y'all let me just be realistic a nurse is a real true authentic narcissist true authentic um does not want to see you happy and gallivanting and skipping alone by yourself they don't want to see that i'm just being real with you they don't want to see you happy with anybody else they don't some of them don't even want to see you happy with them again so if they see you happy in a new relationship sometimes they'll try to ruin your new relationship they might try to fight your new person they might try to embarrass you in public they might just keep they take care of this one this is a good one i can't believe i let this one go they'll they're going to try to sneak back into your life one way shape or form they're going to reach out to one of your friends or whatever uh your ex hey they're a mutual friend anybody if y'all have mutual friends i'm telling you they'll sometimes it won't be direct contact they'll reach out to one of y'all mutual friends hey your ex actually about you wow really lee acts about me what do you say he didn't say he saw you on facebook whatever you look happy he was happy he said he said you looked happy he was happy for you he regretted how he treated you and then here you go all you want to do is hear me say sorry so you really if i just happen to reach out or i send your friend request i'm meticulous i send your friend request a year a couple weeks later you accept my friend request because i wish you happy i wish you happiness through your friend right i wish you happiness through your dad or your mama whoever i reached out to your brother your sister whoever i reached out to through your co-worker i wish you happy with you nothing with nothing but happiness and i regretted how i treated you but guess what now i've sent your friend request a couple weeks later on purpose and you accept it because originally you wouldn't accepted it but now you do you accept it and now i'm back into your life i don't reach out immediately you might reach out to me and guess what i don't i just send you a friend request you you reach out to me hey how you doing now we're talking again because now you initiated the talking i didn't initiate the talking you did so now you're at my now you now you're you're in my will you're my backing call now i got now i have you under control you know my eyes got wide didn't i damn i was gonna control that uh have i done that before huh maybe maybe not memories but yeah they happen sometimes like that it happens exactly like that y'all is i have personal experience with the exact same thing that's how i know it happens i know it happens like that i'm just telling you people plan things out and i know you don't y'all look at the video like lee you're a social battle you playing that out like you playing something like that sometimes um but yeah you have to empower yourself to let you know that there were i there was no good will coming from me reaching out there is no good will come from coming from a narcissist reaching out there is absolutely no good will there is no good intentions there no there is no good nothing coming from that so you have to empower yourself you have to stay as strong as you possibly can you have to realize that your happiness is dependent upon you don't let that like if they if they're they they are this is so simplistic they are your ex for a reason they're your that's how they say they're your ex for a reason you mean they are your ex for a reason they they absolutely are don't allow them access to your life again don't just don't you you control access to your life i don't care how long it's been yeah i don't care it's been two three four five seven years ten years they're your ex for a reason tom does not look that's what that's how narcissists do nurses see tom past time t-i-m-e as an apology tom is not in the pot of jail the age is just not it's just not time past time is not an authentic apology it's just like well hopefully enough time has passed by for me to just reach back out to you got you and then they get you guys are gonna get you you know me so stay in power stand in your truth and don't allow them access to your life you control access to your life anyway let me wrap this thing up austin texas on the weekend of october the 15th we're aiming we're gunning for it you're going to see a little bit more information coming here soon i'm still doing one-on-ones over zoom if you're interested in the notes the link is in the bio austin texas might actually be a live in-person speaking event we might do we might be doing one-on-ones in person we're gonna do like a panel discussion live q a with limited access so that's gonna be a special you know live q a with limited access limited limited seating so it's gonna be yeah i'm telling you psychologist therapist me ben oh the group the whole group is gonna be there yeah it's gonna be it'll be a great event stay tuned for more details you know as always like and subscribe for more mental illness is out peace

Channel: Mental Healness

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Length: 10min 46sec (646 seconds)

Published: Sat Aug 06 2022