Clay Lomakayu Miller - Buddha at the Gas Pump Interview

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>>RICK: Welcome to Buddha at the  Gas Pump. My name is Rick Archer.   Buddha at the Gas Pump is an ongoing series of  conversations with spiritually Awakening people.   I've done about 610 or 12 of them now. If this is  new to you and you'd like to check out some of the   previous ones, go to batgap.com and look under  the past interviews menu. This program is made   possible through the support of appreciative  listeners and viewers. If you appreciate it   and would like to help support it, there's a  PayPal button on every page of the website.   My guest today is Clay Lomakayu Miler. Clay lives  in Cottonwood, Arizona, just outside of Sedona,   where he has been serving clients from all over  the world to assist them in living at the center   of the circle of who they are. Medicine  of One is the outcome of this service.   It's also the name of a book that I just finished  reading. It is a non-dual shamanic path that has   formed from his work with clients for 25  years and his time in the ancient sacred   land of the Southwest. He uses a unique form  of healing called Soul dreaming to help free   people from the stories from their past, so  they may give the world their true presence.   He is also the creator of primordial movements for  trauma and emotional integration. He considers his   primary service is the sharing of Medicine  of One. At his side or his wolf dog helpers,   in other words, his dogs, assisting  people with their presence and love.   Medicine of One is summed up in the one noble  truth, which is to live at the center, where,   from true being, comes our true doing. The  first action is the true action of self-love.   That last thing I just read reminds me of a verse  from the Bhagavad Gita which is, established   in being, perform action. Welcome, Clay. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Welcome. I'm just doing   the Bhagavad Gita, according to Gandhi. >>RICK: Did he do a commentary on it or something?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: He did his short  commentary while he was in jail.  >>RICK: Nice. When you say doing what you're  alluding to here is that you make your living   these days by reading audiobooks and putting  them up on Audible.com. You were just telling   me you get to choose the books, so you choose  all these cool books you'd like to read,   and you read them out loud, and get paid for it. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: And I have fun. That s the main   thing. I don't read the book, I live it. >>RICK: I know what you mean. You just kind of   tune into the wavelength of that book. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I never look ahead. I   never read ahead. I don't know what's ahead.  I just jump in and let it come through   and try to imagine that there's somebody  there that I'm talking to. That I'm connecting   with. That's my main way that I do it. I  make a lot of mistakes that way though.  >>RICK: Then you just have to redo a passage? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I have to do a lot of editing.  >>RICK: That's okay. That's the way I read your  book, the Medicine of One, I listened to it while   I was walking around in the park or washing  dishes and things like that. That's how I read   most every book I read these days, kind of kill  two birds with one stone, get some exercise and   listen to a book. You were referred to  us by the Reverend Bill McDonald, who's a   good friend that we've interviewed a couple of  times. I guess you got to know him because you   did an audio recording of one of his books. When  we announced that we were going to interview you,   a couple people got in touch and they said, wow,  I really love this guy's YouTube channel. He has   all these cool videos on it. I actually haven't  even much looked at your YouTube channel because I   was so busy listening to your book We actually did  get a question here. Might as well start with it,   from Mike Kappeler in Chilliwack, British  Columbia, which is outside of Vancouver.   He said, I really value your YouTube channel. It  was my first introduction to Nisargadatta Maharaj   s teachings. Thank you so much. I'm very grateful  for the time you took to make those audiobooks.   I ll keep reading his question here. Even though  this is a little bit premature to ask, I ll ask   it. What is your experience with Nisargadatta  Maharaj? How were you influenced by him?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That s where the whole  aspect of shamanic non-duality comes from   because very often, shamanism  actually can easily invoke duality,   different levels of worlds, different  spirits. It's that, it's the whole,   I use a circle to talk about what is very  difficult to talk about, which is, who you really   are, your true presence. A circle is actually a  sphere. It s you just here, quiet, not thinking.   It s space essentially; it's spaciousness.  That is, I am , essentially. Nisargadatta,   unlike a lot of people actually, talks  about going beyond I am , beyond the circle.   He discusses a lot of things. To me,  I take in these books, I don't try to   gather information or concepts. I absorb  the teachings by living them, so to speak,   and then they find their way into my work. I  also have done a lot of the Ramana Maharshi.   He doesn't talk as much about what's  beyond I am . I am is the circle.   As you read in the introduction, for me, to  live at the center of the circle, whose center   is nowhere and circumference is everywhere,  is the one noble truth. For me, many people   read Nisargadatta, and they stay on that level of  just reading or listening and gathering concepts.   Then there are some people that try very hard  to do what he suggests you do. They have a   very difficult time doing it because it means  you need to live at the center of the circle.   Basically, Medicine of One is how to  help people move to that center point.   In a way, Medicine of One is everything  that Nisaragatta does not talk about,   which is life, psychology, normal problems. What  do I want to do with my life? Those types of   things. Trauma. He, especially as he got older,  had no patience for anything but the absolute.,  >>RICK: There was also a quote that I had from him  someplace if I want to take a minute to pull that   up. Basically, he said, forget I Am That. That  was the name of his book. He said it goes so much   deeper than that. I've realized so much more since  then. He said that towards the end of his life.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yeah, and the thing is, to  me, the only thing you can practice or occupy   is that experience of being that, the presence,  the circle. Beyond that you can't do anything.   I look at it like dropping a pebble in the water,  and your sense of I Am is your separate nest   within that pool of water. But the absolute is  beyond that. It dissolves, so you can't talk about   it because there's nobody there to talk about it. >>RICK: When you use the circle metaphor, could   we envision, let's say, a bicycle wheel, where  there's the hub of the wheel, and then there's all   the spokes. Most people are kind of stuck out on  one spoke or another or they're kind of scattered   among a bunch of spokes that, in other words, the  attention is fragmented and outer-directed. You're   advocating getting down to the hub from which all  the spokes emerge. If you could live at the hub,   then you'd kind of be at the center of everything  rather than, and therefore not at the mercy of,   the relative world. You'd kind of have a  silent center or foundation from which to live.   Would that be a fair description? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yes, that's it. The   difficulty is I look at those spokes of the wheel.  The way I look at them as they're our stories.   They re our tendencies, they re our habits,  and so they're what I call little eyes.   As we move through life, because everybody's  surviving from the time they're little people.   Within the story our emotions, and the way we  survive, is not to let them move. They create a   force of spin. That is what pulls you out of the  center. Most people's habit to survive is to get   rid of that. If I can get rid of that, then I'll  be at the center. Everybody tries to throw out of   the circle what they don't like within themselves,  which sometimes could be I want to be loved , or   their anger at not being loved, or all kinds of  feelings that we try to get rid of. What they do   by the pressure of pushing them out, you  actually allow them to pull you toward them.   The Medicine of One, by becoming the circle,  which is that spacious presence. Nisargadatta   only infrequently uses that sense of awareness. He  uses the word affection, affectionate awareness.   To me, that's what the circle  is. It's affectionate awareness   to everything that moves in the circle. It  lets it move and allows you then to free   the energies that are trapped and liberate  your gifts, which then by living at the   center can come through you into the world. >>RICK: Sounds good. I often think of people   trying to push things out as being like people  trying to push beach balls under the water,   and you have to apply all this effort, and they  keep trying to pop up. It becomes a full-time   occupation, trying to keep them under the water.  What you're saying I think, is allow yourself to   experience these things and process them, and then  you won't expend all that energy trying to repress   them, and then you'll have tons more energy  because they will have been resolved hopefully.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Also, what it does is when you  push them away, they own you. You become them.   You think that's who you are, because  they have a point of view and a story   that they believe that's what happened. Part of  being the circle is to give up what you believe   mostly - except hang on to the essential ones  that believe I'm greater than these spins,   so to speak, or the desire to. I avoid using  the word self-realization, but it's just to be,   to live at the center, and everything  that comes from that. It's this thing of,   we invoke the circle, to become the circle.  With an emotion, many people try to process   them mentally even though they're working  with them, they're trying to allow them to   move. The big thing for me is the vibration  has to be brought into the physical presence,   the vibration of the emotion  that isn't just general.  >>RICK: In the soul dreaming that you mentioned... >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It's a dream of, first I want to   know what people want. What do you want? How  do you want to feel in the world? Do you want   to feel more trust? Do you want to have  freedom? Do you want to speak your truth?   Love. That s a feeling. Once I know what they want  that's the only thing I know. I'm going to - a   dream is going to come through me, a journey, that  will help carry them to that. The dream is full of   vibrations that can be places, objects, people.  Frequently sort of psychic material comes in   where it looks like something that happened. I'm  actually channeling it like a musical instrument.   That's where my voice comes in. Again,  that's where the use of my voice came from.   Because I cry, I yell, I scream, I hit on  words. It's a journey through the vibrations.   If they can live the journey with me, they will  arrive at the end. Basically, it's by being the   sort of quiet affectionate presence and allowing  themselves to be affected by the vibrations,   so they might shake, cry, tremble, laugh, but it's  effortless. They're not trying to do anything.   That's a passive way. The active way is I use a  person's body and voice which I call, for want   of a better description, primordial movements. >>RICK: Can you think of an example as a case   in point of someone you worked with where you  did the soul dreaming and how that went? Also,   when you say it's a dream,  do you mean a dream that you,   Clay, have during sleep at night? Or is it more of  an altered state, in the waking state, where you   channel some kind of knowledge that comes through? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That s a good question.   The person is present. >>RICK: You're sitting   with a person in a room or something like that? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, basically the best places   for me to do it is in my home because nature  becomes different, nature becomes part of it then.   It's more inward rather than nature-oriented.  I use music too because it's another vibration.   Practically speaking, what happens is once  I establish what they want, in which case,   I actually use a circle, and in this case,  the spokes are just the four directions.   We establish what they want. A person could use  animals to describe those, because those are just   qualities that you want to bring in. Then, I take  them into a deep state for about five minutes,   slowly taking them down. I start the music,  put my hands on them, whatever presents itself,   that's what I go with. I'm trusting that it will,  that what will come through me will be the right   thing that will lead them to where we want to  arrive at. Frequently, when that happens, it   doesn't make any sense to my mind. It's not like  it comes from something they told me. That's why   it is dreamlike. It can have sometimes a linear  storyline, but it can often be very dreamlike.   I could start out, I could say, I could put my  hands on somebody, and what comes through is mom ,   and that's the beginning of a story right there.  That's a big story, mom . Okay, so suddenly,   I sweep them back to a moment that somehow is  sitting in them. If they can let it move toward   them, and they can move toward it, then it will  cause a reaction in them as they just be with it.   Some of the time, most of the time,  perhaps they know what it's about.   It's like hitting the nail on the head.  Sometimes, not always, they don't know,   but sometimes they don't really have to  know. Then by my letting it come through me,   that's like grabbing a thread, and I follow  the thread. I follow the thread by feeling each   moment. It leads me to the next moment. Sometimes  what comes in is a stubbornness inside them.   There's always a part of many people that they're  there because they want something, and they   want to grow, but there's another stubborn part  that's connected to their survival and control,   and it doesn't want to. That s really the  problem. That part, because it sort of   controls, it keeps them away from the  emotion it causes them to think all the time.   That s sort of what we're trying  to do is, these unmoved emotions   energize the thinking. Rather than trying to  grapple with the thinking, and show that mind   a different point of view, and talk it out of what  it feels, I go down below it to what's driving it,   to dissipate that, so that it's no longer  energizing it. At the same time, I always tell   people, but you must give up what you believe,  which many times is you must give up being right.  >>RICK: I presume you're meaning things like,  not that you shouldn't believe the earth is   a globe and not flat, but rather someone  might think, well, I'm a loser, I'm a jerk,   I'm a bad person - that kind of negative  stuff about themselves, and you're asking   them to give up those sorts of things. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That's more on the surface.   Take somebody that's been traumatized, victimized.  They have to give up the belief in their   victimhood even though it looks like that. >>RICK: I know you have this whole   victim/warrior polarity that >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: The way I look at it is   those are the two ways that we survive, or  people sort of jump back and forth. The victim   becomes completely owned by the energy so  frequently they can't stop talking about it.   They don't like the feeling. They also want  to get rid of it. The warrior in a sense,   the true warrior, never talks about it. They  make a good soldier, but they don't make a good   husband when they come back home though because  they're so disconnected from that world. They're   very difficult people to work with because  emotion is a language they don't even know.   I'm trying to tell them, look, I know everything  you've done to survive is not letting this in,   but now if you want to go beyond that,  you must let this in. Here's the core,   the most difficult, is the relationship to  powerlessness. If you can actually soften and feel   the energy of powerlessness, but remember,  you're the circle feeling it, you're not the   powerlessness. That's where you give up your  belief. You give up by identifying yourself   as the circle, as spaciousness, as presence, which  is as simple as when I go, mom , that energy comes   into me. I just do it. Then, I suddenly just  step into feeling the space around me. I go mom ,   and I take a breath, and I feel the space. I just  let it come in. It rushes through me. And, to me,   it's always opposites. There's always an opposite.  Well, everything exists because of opposites.   If there's a mom , that mom is like,  could even go as far back as an infant   laying on their back in a crib, and  it's dark and cold, and nobody's there.   That story plays out for their whole life,  and they grew up and they might even be 50   years old. And still, that mom is inside of them.  They're still angry with mom, and they still play   out the dynamic. Because what they believe  about the story is, mom didn't love them.   The mom is one movement, but the other movement is  the rage. It's like contraction is the mom . Then   there's an expansive, usually explosive part  that can be different. But it's specific   when I go, mom , that's very specific. It can't  even completely describe it. Which is why it's   beyond just taking generally emotions like  anger and go beat on the bed with a racket   and blow off steam. That doesn't work. It doesn't.  You blow off steam, and you sort of let it out,   and then it comes back. This can happen in five  seconds. I've had many people that were ready,   and it happened very quickly, although it  can take some time to get them to that point.  >>RICK: You ve been doing this stuff  for 20 years or something, right?   You've probably met with hundreds of people  over that time. I think we'll gain a clearer   understanding of what exactly you do as we go  along, but do you find that a fairly significant   percentage of people undergo quite a radical  transformation in a short amount of time? I don   t know how long they spend with you, but does it  last? I mean, do they really resolve something,   and then five years later, it's still resolved. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yes,   if they give up what they believe. >>RICK: That might be easier said than done.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It is. It s very difficult to  give up being right. But right invokes wrong.   If you're right, you're going to be wrong, too.  That's the circle. It's like, okay, right and   wrong are there. Or, in my circle, I have one  that feels they re right. It talks sometimes,   and the thought is there, but I just don't  accept it. I don't take it in and completely   believe it. That's what I mean by giving up being  right. It isn't that you won't have the thought,   or it won't make its appearance, or you're in  an argument, and you can feel yourself doing it,   ultimately to just sort of practice realizing that  if everybody's right, I mean, that can't be truth.  >>RICK: I think it was the Buffalo Springfield  who sang, nobody's right if everybody's wrong.   For What It's Worth was the name of  that song. Are you still doing this or   has COVID kind of put the brakes on it? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Somewhat, but   starting when I started writing my book in  2013 I sort of let go working the internet,   the websites. It became a whole different  ballgame. Back in the beginning, you could   manipulate the search engines to end up on a  front desk. That no longer became possible in   that way. You had to have a lot of the  social platforms, and it just isn't my   thing. I started to just let that go and focused  on my book. Then I started doing audiobooks. So,   I can have a busy month, or I can have a  month free. The nice thing is that's not how I   make my living anymore. I have no attachment to  it. But I feel, I don't know, I feel I'm supposed   to keep doing it. I feel that there's a service  there; that this is important for me as a person   too because in a way, it's my social life. >>RICK: Can you do it online with people,   or do they have to come to be with you physically? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: No, actually, the sort of   primordial movement one I often do online. Or  sometimes it can be just kind of a counseling   session. Usually, I can make an impact on  somebody, if I can get them to do something   like mom with me and do it. But it can be very  difficult because I encountered the stubborn one.   They might go instead of mom , they'll go, mom,  mom. The mind s very clever. Also, when I use the   body when I say that mom , it's like I'm reaching  with my hands facing toward the sky. It's more of   a helpless position. One way they can change the  vibration is they move the hands facing down,   or to the sides. Your hands are so important in  bringing in emotion to your body, it's dance.   Even by a little, this (hand mudra) >>RICK: You know about mudras, right? In Indian   dance, the hands are so expressive,   and they're doing all these things. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yeah, and I'm sort of   invoking that by using these different  positions in places of the body, and the   voice is like music, and you have to hit the  right note. If you don't hit the right note,   it won't move, it won't energize it, so to  speak. We re trying to energize what people have   basically tried not to energize. By doing that,  we are owning it rather than it owning us. But   we are owning it with love, which is just  space, which is just the sky to the wind.  >>RICK: There was another part to Mike's  question, let me ask that he said,   with talking about your YouTube channel,  with having so many different teachers and   traditions on your channel from Advaita  Vedanta, Buddhism, kriya yoga, etc.   Is there one specifically that you  practiced? Do you ever get confused with   such a variety of different spiritual things  that you're putting your attention into?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: With most religions or -isms, I  always try to look for what they have in common,   rather than what they don't have  in common, or where they conflict.   I ended up with my own. That's what Medicine of  One is basically. I don't particularly consider   myself a follower of any of them. I'm a  follower of Medicine of One which uses,   I feel I m just taking the knowledge that's been  out there in many different forms, and I'm just   allowing it to come through me in a circle in  the desert the way that it wants to. It comes   through me through my interaction with people. >>RICK: I could describe my own experience   that way in terms of not being an  adherent of any particular religion,   but kind of respecting them all by recognizing  that they all have the same fundamental   source. Many people, the deepest people in all  the religions, I think realize that. Other people   don't, and they're out on one of the spokes,  and they see all the other religions as being in   conflict with theirs and so on. Somebody else sent  in a question. I think, actually, it was Irene.   Irene Archer from Fairfield, Iowa, wants to  know, I want to hear all about your greatest   teachers and helpers. How many are currently in  your pack? You have some cool stories about your   dogs in your book, by the way. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU:   Yeah, they're difficult stories.  They're my stories of loss.  >>RICK: One got bit by a  rattlesnake and other things.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, I had dogs when I was very  young. Then when I moved and lived in Sedona, and   did archaeological tours and stuff, I got a wolf.  I actually got an 80% wolf, as a pup. That was my   way back into that. That was also just about the  time that I started doing what I do. He just; they   aren't at all; I mean, I can yell and scream  like crazy when I'm doing a session. If   somebody went by the house, they  would think some kind of form of   domestic violence is going on [laughing]  probably, but my dogs, they just lay there.  >>RICK: That s just dad doing his thing again. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That dog was Dakota.   The thing is with these types of dogs, which I  call wolf dogs, because they're very close to that   breed, species, that they don't often  get along with other dogs because they're   so territorial or protective. It always adds  an extra component to taking care of them.   That was Dakota, and he died of  cancer, and I wrote a song for him.   The chorus goes, I am what I am, always spirit  again. And I'll be with you always my friend,   in our life, I was free, you just let me  be, wild, wooly, and free. Now it's all up   to you to be wild and free, to be the soul  that you are. It goes something like that.  >>RICK: In your book, you actually  sing some of these songs, it's sweet.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Then there was a dog named Wolf.  A very similar type of dog. He would lay next to   people. The dogs would lay next to people,  oftentimes when I'm actually doing the session.   I sometimes get people that are afraid of dogs.  I just use that because fear, of course, is   one of the main things to be the circle to -- the  vibration of it. It can be a way to sort of relax   to that. I always look at it as well, there's  a reason, and sometimes the dogs are laying   on either side of these people at the end, and  it's been an important part of their experience.   Or, somebody is afraid of a height, and  they're walking along this cliff and the dog   is right there with them. They feel that  the dog was consciously helping them.   There are many dogs, but I've had some bad  traumas with the dogs. I had my face ripped   open by one when I broke up a flight, and  the other one was bit by a rattlesnake.  >>RICK: You almost lost a couple of them  in the desert, but they showed up again.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yeah, they ve run away,  and I used to chase them. In more recent   years when they run away, I just wait. >>RICK: For them to come back. We have   a dog that's kind of psychic actually. We  can't say (geez, it's kind of nice) maybe we   should take a walk because that would be too  blatant. So, we resorted to language such as   well, it's pretty cool out and looks like it's  not going to rain. The dog will actually come   running in from the other room, ears perked  up, tail wagging like, okay, okay, let's do it.   He actually picks up on the thought, if we  practically even just have the thought that we   might take a walk. He comes running in. There's a  guy named Rupert Sheldrake who wrote a book called   Dogs That Know When Their Owners Are Coming Home . >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: The one I know is the mor?  >>RICK: Morphogenetic fields. Anyway, we're  getting a little off. But actually, it's nice.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, actually  morphogenic fields is in a way sort of   related to the way you can look at what  I'm tapping into when I dream with people.  >>RICK: Let's talk about your own life  a little bit. You've been through some   stuff. You had this horrific car accident  when you were 25 and various other things.   I got the impression in reading your  book that you look on it all now as   learning experiences, and you wouldn't be who you  were had you not gone through all those things as   traumatic and as injurious as they may have been. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yeah, it s another way for me   that without my difficulties Medicine of One  would no more exist either because it's what's   brought me through it because I still have  a lot of difficulties from that accident.   On every level, I have to every day be that  love to myself to feelings of powerlessness, and   helplessness, and frustration, and all the things  that most normal people have going on in our life.   It s really through using it myself, even with  all the stories with my dogs, and how to move   through the traumas quickly, rather than  have them own me so I can keep loving dogs.   For me, there was a period where it was  my sort of journey in the underworld in   San Francisco, and somewhat in  New York, I was a bartender.   It was back in the early 70s, it was North Beach  and all the poets and musicians. I used to go   to a place called the Coffee Gary and play my  guitar and sang. Janis Joplin used to sing there.   Drops of LSD in the eyes. [laughing] >>RICK: I heard you mention that.   People actually did it that way? I had never  heard of doing that. Why would you do that   rather than up your nose or something? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It's very quick.  >>RICK: Gets it into the bloodstream >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I wouldn't recommend it.  >>RICK: This car accident, you  were 25. You got an Aston Healey.   Was that what James Bond drove? Or was  that an Aston Martin that he drove?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Probably an Austin Martin. The  Austin Healey had a huge six-cylinder engine.   It could go back then, in 1960 or 65, I think. It  had an overdrive. I had actually bought the car.   My father died. I drove the car back to Michigan  to go to my father's funeral, and it broke down.   No, actually, the car broke down before that,  and I left it there. When my father died, I went   back to Michigan, and my uncle helped me rebuild  this whole car for six weeks from the bottom up.   We actually filed down the cylinders to make  it because we couldn't get new ones and things.   I was driving back with a friend from Michigan  to California, and still doing stupid things.  >>RICK: You mentioned you  had a Quaalude and a beer.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: A friend handed me a Quaalude,  I said, okay, and then we drank a half a beer,   and I got too relaxed. At the same time,  I had taken it up, the engine was broken,   so I took it up to 120, and as I was coming down,  I looked off the side of the road for a minute,   and then all of a sudden, I'm at one  of these marker posts. I hit head-on,   and I overreacted, turned the  wheel, and apparently it flipped.   But did not keep flipping. It flipped  and landed on the top. This was a ragtop;   all they had was a piece of cloth on the top. It  actually shaved off part of the steering wheel.   These are teeny cars, and there's no room in  them when you're in them. There's no place to go.   The seats are on the floor as it is. Your feet  are straight out in front of you, but somehow,   I got away from the pavement, almost. It did  hit my head and my shoulder. I slid for 330 feet   underneath it. I was knocked out for 15 minutes,  but the friend that came out with me managed to   stop a doctor. The two of them flipped the car,  and I walked out, and I went to the Justice of the   Peace the next day for reckless driving. I just  left the car. It's actually a perfect example   of what you don't want to do. If  something happens, and you just walk away.  >>RICK: What else could you have done? I guess  they gave you a fine for reckless driving.   The car was probably totaled. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: What I mean is emotionally,   and I'm also talking these days, somebody might  at least go to a chiropractor or something or   get things checked. I didn't do anything. It's  like a cowboy falls off the horse, and just,   I'm okay. On a physical level, these  sorts of things collect in us too.  >>RICK: Yes, as traumas and as physical  injuries. So, you've had problems all   your life because of that accident. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yeah, actually,   without my knowing it. I did not know exactly  what happened. In fact, I'm still learning,   but probably only within the last 15 years of how  it basically drove my head, down into my spine,  >>RICK: Kind of compressed  your vertebrae or something.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It caused all the soft  tissues to, it's like, I got stuck in   the reaction to curling up into a ball to  get away from the pavement and stayed there.   The first effects were pressure in  the head on the sides of my head   about six months later. It started to affect  the brain because of the blood flow, basically.   I went through all kinds of stuff for closed  head injuries; football players, biofeedback,   looking at the brain, the brain waves, and I  went to many specialists. When they looked at   my brain, it looked like I had closed head  injuries, slow places in the brain, which,   some of this perhaps I don't know, could have  resulted in allowing me to do some of what I do.  >>RICK: That's interesting. There are stories of  people having brain injuries, and then suddenly,   they become an expert pianist, having never  played piano before. Some kind of gift,   some kind of ability, I forget what the name is,  but I interviewed a lady who studies these people.   It s like Rain Man or something; some kind  of ability will blossom all of a sudden after   the brain is injured in some way. Some scientists  theorize that the brain is like a filter   that actually shuts down a lot of the input that  we would otherwise get. In some cases, some injury   to the brain can diminish its filtering ability,  so we're suddenly flooded with information or   abilities that we didn't have before. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Right. Maybe   it's like with the morphic field thing,  you're now resonating with another field   that you couldn't resonate with before,  and all that talent comes through.  >>RICK: There is this guy who actually  performs concerts. Now he does this   amazing improvisational piano stuff. He  just kind of makes it up on the spot.   He wasn't really a piano player before that. It  just kind of started happening after he had this,   I forget whether it was some kind of stroke or  injury to his brain. It's not something you'd want   to have happen necessarily, but sometimes these  things happen. It raises intriguing questions.  >>RICK: Obviously, you did all kinds of other  things, various educational experiences, traveling   all over the world, and all over the country and  everything else. At what point do you feel like   spirituality became sort of an explicit  motivation, like in your mind, you began to really   question, in a spiritual sense. Maybe you'd always  been doing that or, or maybe you had and didn't   know it, and at a certain point you knew it? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, I guess the line I would   draw would be between when it became part of  my work in the world. Before that, it was just   when I was really young, I just had this sense of  wanting to live an aware life. I studied acting,   but when I studied acting, it was a spiritual  discipline for me because to me it's the study of   the human heart. Why do we do things, and early  on, I learned that the best acting of course,   is those who are able to, I remember this  phrase, your point of power is in the present.   It is really an actor's ability to be present  that allows the best actors to do what they do.   The only difference is they're creating an  imaginary present to react to and believing   it. They have to be very present because otherwise  the mind gets in there. The stakes are very high   when you're being filmed or performing to be good.  The mind wants to get in there and make sure that   you say things right and all that. It's the same  thing with the audiobooks. A lot of people read   the book, and try to do it without making any  mistakes, so that becomes what it sounds like.  >>RICK: Too tentative? Too tentative while they're  doing it because they're trying to be too careful.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: There's too much attention  placed on being perfect, so to speak,   not making any mistakes, as opposed to having fun  and just being kind of a channel. I like to sort   of take on the persona of whoever wrote the book. >>RICK: You kind of mind-meld with them, I guess.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Which is for me  interesting because with Nisargadatta,   he's very unique, he's got a real edge. >>RICK: He was a real character.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: He was like a sharp knife. Ramana  is like a butter knife. He's got a choppiness,   a staccato next to him. That's why in a lot of his  books, especially I am That and his earlier books,   that's the way I read it. I'm trying to, I'm  taking him in. It s like this sharpness. It s by   my taking him in that I take in those learnings  on a certain unconscious level. Later on,   newer translations put his words together in  a different way that didn't have that, so I   didn't read them that way. I read them slower.  Sometimes, I actually have a lot of wonderful   people that give me a lot of compliments, but  I also have some people that almost hate me.  >>RICK: Me too! [laughing] >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It's like, I hate that voice,   but I guess if you work to have everybody  like you, you're not going to be very good.  >>RICK: I don't think it's possible. It's  funny, I mean, you look at any YouTube video,   and there's always some thumbs down. I've never  seen a YouTube video that has only thumbs up.   Actually, I can put you in touch with a guy,  if you're interested, who spent time with   Nisargadatta. He's been on BatGap a couple times,  is a friend of mine. Timothy Conway is his name.   He lives in Phoenix, as a matter of fact. He'd be  happy to tell you some anecdotes about what it was   like being with Nisargadatta. He's a great guy. In  fact, I think he's talking about moving to Sedona,   so that'd be interesting. You don't seem like  the kind of guy who would have done a regimented   daily spiritual practice. It seems like your  whole orientation is more fluid than that, and   kind of more earth-oriented, or  something or other? Am I right?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yes, and no. I've  done a very easy, not stringent,   every morning yoga practice for 35 years. >>RICK: Must be a must help with your body too.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It just sort of gets me so I can  think a little bit, and I know my body needs that,   especially as we get older. It s not like I go and  sit for two hours starting at 4 am in the morning.   My thing would be just to go out in the circle,  where it's beautiful, and I'm in a powerful place,   and just be. Sit there at the center and just keep  bringing myself back to that. At the same time,   my body-mind self gets to enjoy the elements.  I just use that to bring myself back.  >>RICK: When you say go out and sit in a circle,   do you mean like you've created a circle  of rocks or something out in your yard,   and it's like a power spot that you've  created for yourself where you go and sit?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Most of these are actually  circles out in the national forest.  >>RICK: That you've created,  or they're just out there?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That I have created.  I have a whole webpage that's   on medicine circles in medicine wheels. My first  one was up on this mountain where Jerome is,   in a rock called rhyolite. For me, it is a place  I don't really promote as they are sacred power   spots for me. Most people feel that they are too,  but I don't say much more about it than that.   People that do my form of vision quest,  that's where they sleep, in the circle.   Part of their reason to be out there is to gather  what's out there that they've tried to throw out.   We use objects like maybe their anger could  be a cactus that's been broken off somewhere,   or maybe their innocence as a  child is a little white flower,   or maybe they're rocks. The whole thing is to work  with themselves and bring them into the circle.   I help them work through that. But the circle I  use as a way to talk about your I Am , physical,   true presence. It's also a place on the  land that, when you stand out there,   the circle makes the feeling of the spaciousness  of the sky. It takes you into it. It is circles   within circles on to infinity. The circle  is both a physical place that has an energy,   but it helps take you into the circle itself,   and you get to enjoy it too. >>RICK: I ll tell you a funny story. About   30 years ago, Irene and I were on our way out  to Parker, Arizona to visit her mother, and we   did our first camping trip. We spent the night  in Sedona, and I guess it's north of town,   there's a stream that comes down. We camped there.  We went into town the next day. We actually went   to the Chamber of Commerce and said, we hear about  all the power spots in Sedona. How do you find the   power spots? They actually gave us a map. Here are  the power spots. We went to some trail head, and   we were hiking along looking for the power spot.  We kept running into all these other people. We   sort of would sheepishly ask each other, have you  found the power spot? [laughing] I don t know.   I did once have a really profound experience in  Sedona one time. I was with some friends. I went   to that Slide Rock State Park, and we were  swimming and sliding down through the water.   As it began to get dark, we just kind of sat in  a circle actually. I was drawn inwardly so deeply   that I couldn't talk or anything else. I was just  gone for a while, and I could hear them talking,   but I really couldn't interact. Maybe that  was the influence of Sedona. I don't know.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, I think  that's the fact that the earth   has places that have particular energies.  Just on a very almost superficial level,   magnetic and electrical, and fault lines and  water under the earth creates as it flows.   I do think that these places help us. They  help us go to what's already within us.   I guess some people get too attached to the  outside of it to think that they need that   then. I have places that are this bone rock. It's  a bone-white rock, it creates these smooth washes.   To me, it's got the highest resonance. It's  much more high for me than the red rock.   Different colors, that's one of the  things. Sedona is a place of color,   its color, the green, junipers and cypress, and  the red rocks. I live on the other side. Sedona   for me is the masculine, the red fiery rock. I  live on the feminine side, which is more rolling.   Mingus Mountain is a kind of feminine mountain  because it's very soft and flowing. Some circles   I have are right in the middle. They sort of are  the connection between the two forces or sides.  >>RICK: This thing about picking up objects.  There was an interesting story in your book,   Medicine of One, where you were with this guy,  and you're down by some stream, and you asked him   to just sort of go along the stream and pick  up anything that might be meaningful to him.   One of the things he picked up was a  dirty sock, something that most of us   wouldn't really want to pick up. It turned  out that it had significance to him because   when he was little, his mother had  made him wear socks on his hands,   instead of gloves when he went to school,  and the kids ridiculed him for it.   It turned out this ended up being a very cathartic  experience for him with your help and interaction.   Maybe you could talk a little bit about  either that specifically, or about that   whole thing you do, where people find particular  little objects, and somehow it helps to bring   about a healing for them with your assistance. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I've had times where actually   there's a place, sometimes there's  places out in the middle of nowhere,   where people like to dump their trash. All forms,  not just garbage from food, but mattresses,   electronic devices, cans, flat tires. I  found it an interesting place to take people   for them to gather what they've thrown out of  the circle of themselves in order to have peace.   One way to look at that is you could pick a theme  of, to gather all the people who've hurt you.   Now, you're not really, what you're doing  is, perhaps you're picking something that   reminds you of that person, but what you're  really picking up is everything you feel in   relationship to that person. That's what you bring  into the circle, all your feelings. So that sock,   it's clearly not something you pick up that you  like; in fact, the more it would be better to say   that you probably don't like them because  that's what you're pushing away. The sock   was about this story, and his mother  shaming him, making him feel this shame.   So, there's the vibration of shame for  one. Then there's the rage with his mother,   which is really the one that needs to move,  to just sort of energize it all. That's what   I'm trying to get him, rather than to  tense around it, to get away from it.   Think about it, I'm actually bringing in all the  vibrations in relation that that sock could have   anything to do with, and if he can, and he's  doing it in the circle. The circle helps him be   the circle to that vibration. Then it can  move that story out of him, in a sense,   so he is no longer carrying that with him. It  happens really, ultimately, in a few seconds.   There are sometimes people who have  been to therapy their whole life,   but a lot of therapy is just talk. Or, if  they do take people into their feelings,   oftentimes there's regions the  therapists aren't comfortable going,   so they stay away from them. Rage is probably  one of them. I mean, how do you love rage?   How do you honor that? It can actually be  quite simple. One thing about when you bring in   a violent feeling, is when you bring it  in, you take a breath and you let it move,   what comes in is its opposite. The  tears, the sobbing, the weeping,   because that's what's  energizing that rage, the hurt.  >>RICK: Have you found that there are people who  have come to you who had done a lot of therapy and   hadn't made much progress, but then when  they work with you, they have breakthroughs?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Absolutely. I actually get  psychologists and psychiatrists that come.   The only problem with that type is they can  be so analytically minded. It can get in   the way. They know too much already, so to speak. >>RICK: I was going to say, are there other people   who just come work with you, and they think,  it's not working for me? Nothing's happening.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Of course. I get fewer of those  people because my website is pretty straight on.   I try not to attract anybody that's not right for  me, so I probably scare away a lot of people. But   that's my intention in a way. Most of the people  I get these days; they're ready. But I still get   some people that say, no, I can't do that. It's  like they can't do it. It's like, I can't do that.  >>RICK: You mean, they don't want to do what  you would recommend that they do? Is that   what you're saying? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU:   They don't want to engage the field. >>RICK: But you've kind of warned them   ahead of time. That s what you ll want them to do. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I actually had a couple of women   towards the beginning of the year.  Two doctors, two women doctors,   and one was completely on board, but the  other one, actually, when I did a session,   part of her session was this wall, the dominance  of this wall. It was a wall to me as well and   that actually comes into the session. When we were  out in a circle working, I worked with her friend   who participated fully, and then after,  this other woman watching that, it was like,   I don't think I can do that. I said that's fine.  You don't have to do anything. I don't have an   agenda. That's really my point with everybody.  It's like, you don't have to do anything.  >>RICK: I picked that up about the way you work.  It's like you're not forcing anybody. There was   that guy who was in The Secret who ended up  going to jail because he kind of forces people   to be in a sweat lodge much hotter and longer  than they should have been. Some people died.   There s other people who were getting people  to do stuff that's potentially dangerous,   like walking on hot coals or doing really  scary things. I didn't get the sense that you   try to put people through anything like that. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, I think that most people   are hard on themselves. They have a pusher.  That's part of the problem, so even when   somebody does my form of a vision quest, it's  not about suffering. It's not about severity.   Sometimes somebody could be out there one  night, and that s all they need, is one night.   They could sleep in town the next day. >>RICK: I see like, set up tents and   spend the night sleeping on the ground. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: No tent, just sleeping   in the circle on a sleeping bag pad. If it's  raining, there might be a tent, but no camping   gear. It's very minimal, and sometimes people  are unsure if they want to do that. I say,   well, we'll just figure it out, we'll see if  that's the right thing to do once you're here.   I always tell them, there's no right way or wrong  way. Sometimes if a person who generally pushes   themselves to do things like that, it's a positive  thing for them decide to be soft on themselves and   loving that. Okay, I don't need to do it another  night. That's really the essence to me. That's   what I'm trying to get have people to have, a  different relationship with their emotional being,   where they are the softness to themselves. >>RICK: Nice. And that note actually   segues us back to a thought that I had  towards the beginning of our conversation,   where we were talking about the beach ball  analogy of people trying to push beach balls under   the water; in other words, trying to stuff and  stifle one's emotions or, painful inner things.   I'm always reminded of the opioid epidemic,  which is so terrible in the United States.   That's an extreme example of a principle, which I  think is similar, in terms of people's addiction   to their cell phones or other things that they  use to kind of numb themselves out, but of course,   with opioids, it kills them. I don't know, maybe  you can just comment on that phenomenon on a   societal level, what we're doing to ourselves, and  what it might take, again, on a societal level,   to open up to the kind of sensitivity and honesty  that you're trying to inculcate in people.   You're working one on one, and you  help people kind of un-numb themselves,   and it seems like the whole society needs to get  un-numbed, a lot needs to be processed, so that   people aren't in these addictive behaviors. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, here's the way I look   at it; I always tell people, let's say that is a  person's mission, just what you describe, to help   have a positive effect on that societal addiction  to things like that, to run away from their pain.   That's where for me the one Noble Truth of  to live at the center. To live at the center   means first you have gone and been this true  action of self-love to what moves inside of you;   your gift is coming into the world, and it's the  golden rule, you treat everybody the way you want   to be treated. You become, it's that old thing,  you are the demonstration of what you want other   people to be. It sounds like what you're talking  about is perhaps more of an activist type of role   to affect people on that level. >>RICK: Not that you would necessarily   be the activist to transform society, but it  seems to me that society needs transformation.   One of the symptoms of its sickness is this  attempt by millions and millions of people   to numb out, to stifle and suppress  and not feel the things that are   uncomfortable to feel, and it's not working. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: No, but the thing is, the way   I look at it, people have always found ways to  avoid it, and now they just have a lot more toys   with which to do that. Unfortunately, to me, part  of the worst thing is that we don't go to stores   anymore and have connections with people, in the  local grocery store, or the little hardware shop,   and that's why, in the whole addiction to the  social platforms, that's in the illusion of it.   I guess that has to start when people  are children, they have to be sort of   educated. To me, I'm more of an individual,  as you said, deal with one-on-one,   affecting it on that level. Beyond its effect of  each individual's vibration, changing the whole,   I don't have an answer to that. >>RICK: That's what actually, I mean,   I remember hearing some parable about some  father giving his son a whole bundle of sticks   that was all bound together and saying break  it in half. The son couldn't do it, and then,   as it worked out, they had to untie the bundle,  and he could break each stick individually and get   the whole thing broken. I mean,  the point of the analogy is that   if society is going to change, then every  individual has to change in some fundamental way.   Another good example would be a forest of trees,  and if they're all kind of gray and withered,   you can't just spray paint the forest, you have to  water the roots of each tree, and then you'll have   eventually a green forest. Like you said a minute  ago it has to start when you're young, but most   of the people listening to this obviously are not  young. So, there must be a means, and you actually   help to provide a means. There are many means  whereby we can do some remedial work and heal   stuff that -- it would be nice if it hadn't  happened in the first place -- but it has. We   need to have as many efficient means as possible  for people to purge themselves of these things and   live the happiness that is really  ultimately their birthright, I would say.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: As you were talking, one  of the things that seems to be at the core   is that, in the sense of living at the center,  many of those types of people, whatever their   gift is to the world, it's not happening,  it's not able to come through them. They   don't have a sense of worth. That's part of the  pain they're coming up with -- this lack of worth,   of value. To me, it's one of the principal pains  that I have with people. To me, freeing up -- when   I move the emotional energies, I always look at  it as liberation. I never use words like let go   because when you liberate those energies,  it's like -- I brought my flute here.   It's like we're all born like a flute,  and we have these holes which you could   tie up with all the chakras. We all come  with a song (I don t play this much anymore),   it s in harmony, things happen to us, the  holes get gummed up. Then it's out of harmony,   we don't feel worth or value. Our song doesn't get  to come through, and we find ways to medicate that   core feeling. Of, of course, it goes down to that  question of who am I? Ultimately, you have to pass   through, I'm really not what I do . [laughing] >>RICK: As Deepak Chopra (or somebody) always   says, we're not human doings, we're human beings.  We have to get in touch with our innermost being.   That s nice -- a phrase you said a few minutes ago  -- that we all have some kind of gift to give to   the world. A few months ago, I interviewed a  guy named Steven Cope, who wrote a book about   dharma. His point was that everybody  does have some gift to give to the world,   which is not to say, we're all going to be  Einstein s or Mozart's or anything like that, but   in our own sphere of influence, there's something  precious that we alone can contribute. Most people   don't really find that groove in life. Many  people don't (I don't know the percentage), but   his effort in writing that book, and I think your  effort in saying a lot of things you're saying   here, is to help more people find it. There would  be a kind of a frustration, obviously, if we don't   find it, or can't find it, because whether we're  conscious of it or not, there's an urge to express   it. If it's not being expressed, we're going  to feel that as some kind of bottled-up-ness.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: A classic kind of situation is  a woman who married young and had children, and   is the type that does everything for everybody, so  she loses herself. She's 50, and now she doesn't   know who she is. She's tired of thinking about  everybody else, and nobody thinking about her.   In a way, unfortunately, there's a payoff for  giving too much. The payoff is that first of all,   you're in control when you're the giver, and  second of all, you want something, you want that   sort of positive feedback when you're doing these  things for other people. On an unconscious level,   it's sort of like you're constantly  earning your worth and value in that way,   but you realize that people take it for granted  eventually. So, they just take it for granted.   They expect you to do that. Anger builds up in  that person and all these other feelings, and   they don't know, who am I ? What am I here to do? >>RICK: Are you describing women that you actually   worked with? Or is this just a hypothetical? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I ve had many women like this.  >>RICK: What would you do to help such a person? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: First of all, I'd say what do   you want? How do you want to feel? When I say that  these are big feelings, so to speak, like freedom.   Maybe they don't trust themselves, maybe they  don't trust other people. You can't do much   if you don't trust because you get in the way.  There might be four of these things like trust,   freedom, maybe one of the things is love,  but more in the form of self-love. They   don't know what it is to love themselves.  To me, part of that is, it's such a cliche,   what does that really mean? To me, it really  means being this loving presence to everything   that moves in you. That's where it begins. There  might be another word like, worth. Just worth,   from within you, not coming to you  from the outside. Once we lay that out,   like in this circle with the four  directions, and they work with each other.   It's like we want to then find out their journey  through life, probably when you were already a   child, and I don't really necessarily go through  telling me their story. It comes through in the   dreaming aspect; frequently, that's how  I start to bring things into the circle,   I'm helping them do that. To me, they're stuck  in that story that they lived for 20 or 30 years,   because of an older story, probably that they're  stuck in. What s stuck is the emotional energies   that energize their need to do this in order to  have value, but it really doesn't have value.   You could get caught up in the psychology, but  if you can just get them to keep identifying   themselves as this presence to their emotional  being, and let them move, things just change. They   loosen up so that their gift is freed. Let's say  clarity was one of the things that they wanted,   then maybe they didn't know what they wanted,  maybe they didn't know what they were supposed   to do. Something loosens up, and now they know  because maybe an inclination that they had,   they trust it now. "Oh, I can do this". This  is that gift I call the spine of your life.  >>RICK: I wanted to ask you about that.  Go ahead and say more about that too.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That's sort of the last place I  end up with people when I'm in the circle. We've   sort of brought things into the circle; we've  moved them with the idea of them being at the   center. I help people find usually a stick, it  could be a flute, it could be a walking stick,   anything to sort of embody what I call the spine  of your life, which is this thrust. I use the   example of a theater, a drama, a play. They have  what they call a spine in them that everything   ties into. People's lives. Characters also  have their spines that everything comes out of.   It s this thrust in their life that is, most  people usually have always been doing it in a way,   it just hasn't allowed to express itself. Somebody  could work in a tech company, and really not want   to be there. Maybe they ve been doing Reiki,  and they want to work on people and help people   instead of work for this tech company. I ask them  well, what do you do? What do you like the most   about the tech company? What you find out is  what they like most is maybe they're actually   the tech person in the tech company that helps  people with problems. What they really liked   the most about it is helping people, and they're  helping people who come with a problem. They're   distressed, and they're helping them have peace.  The spine is a phrase. I had a musician once,   and they talked about being in this church and  playing music, and everybody just kind of calmed   down and felt really peaceful. Their spine was  to be the harmony that brings peace. They use the   musical instrument, but it's also you as a person.  You have to be it. That's why it's always to be   the harmony that brings peace, or it  starts with being and then from your being,   it comes into the world. It comes to you and  through you first. It's not something you   manufacture or do. For some people it is some form  of just love, to be a love that creates freedom   and empowers people. That love you resonate with  like that musical instrument you resonate with.   That's really how you affect the whole world  because you're that resonance. Not constantly by   doing you let it be done through you. >>RICK: That's good. There's a lot in what   you just said. Just to put it my own words to make  sure I understand. The spine of your life would be   your core purpose or that course of action through  which you can best contribute to the world.   Am I right so far? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU:   It could find its form through many types  of work, or even just being a mother.  >>RICK: It doesn't have to be some glorious thing,  although being a mother can be glorious. It s   the word dharma, that's the word that the Vedic  tradition has used for it. One thing about dharma   as I understand it is that not only is it the  thing that really kind of lights your fire, but   it's the thing that you're best suited  to perform, that you can perform it most   easily. Like you said, you don't do it, it does  you. If you find that channel, that groove, then   you kind of don't feel like you are doing a heck  of a lot. You might be dynamically active, and yet   you feel like it just flowing without resistance. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yeah; it's like with what I   do. To me, what I considered the main thing  that I do is get out of the way. [laughing]  >>RICK: Perfect. What is that  bumper sticker? Let go and let God.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That's a talent  that takes practice to get out of.   Because we're wired from the time  we're kids to get in the way.  >>RICK: It's true, the more the ego kind of  congealed as it has to at a certain stage   of our life. The more we know, we kind  of try to take over and run the show.   There's a Vedic saying, which is, Brahman  is the charioteer. In other words,   Brahman meaning the totality, the wholeness, the  oneness, and it is, but if you think you are,   then you really don't have the same vision as  the wholeness, and things would go more smoothly   if you let the wholeness take the reins. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Yeah, I had an interesting   conversation, an email exchange, with somebody  last night where it was around the word control.   To me, in control invokes exactly what it  is, there's tension usually in control.   Most all of us want to be in control.  We don't like feeling out of control.   That's where the whole core feeling of softening,  but let's face it, we're not (in control). We're   going to die, things happen, look at all the  flooding, and all the things that happen in   the world that we can't control. To me, it's the  difference between that whole thing of go with the   flow. It isn't as if you're just jumping in the  river and floating down wherever it takes you.   I use an example of a raven flying in the  air. The raven is having a lot of awareness   with the air currents and everything and is making  constant adjustments with its wings and stuff.   At the same time, it's riding the wind, so it's  trusting. It s these three things. It requires   will, so there is will, but it doesn't have to  have, to me, the energy of control. It s this   threesome of will, awareness, and trust. >>RICK: I like the nursery rhyme on this point,   Row, row, row your boat gently down the stream.   The stream is doing most of the work carrying  the boat, but you are just sort of gently making   adjustments like the Raven so that you don't  end up in the brambles or hitting the rocks.   You're doing something, but the  stream is really doing most of it.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: And you re experienced  to learn how to read the stream  >>RICK: Good point. CLAY LOMAKAYU Learn how where   there's, oh, that's probably a rock. >>RICK: Or some ripple you see.   Mark Twain talked about how  riverboat captains could   read little eddies and things in the river that  would indicate some snag that might damage the   boat. They just learned to read it, but there  too the Mississippi was doing most of the work.   Good. What haven't we covered? Is there anything  that, we're going to hang up and you're going   to think, golly, I wish I talked about that? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, probably not. I think I've   pretty much touched on most aspects. The only  aspect I would share perhaps is this sense of   to live at the center and the circle. I begin  one of my books with the story about the Hopi,   and some natives in South America, not  sure what group it is, but they believe by   their activity in a certain location  they keep the world in balance.   The Hopi story is that they believe we're  moving into the fifth world. Each world   was destroyed by man's greed essentially. If  you look at most things, it's greed for love   land power, which is driven by fear. >>RICK: We're talking chronologically or,   there might have been four other  civilizations that died out.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It s almost biblical. Destroyed  by fire, ice, and a flood. The last time they came   across the Pacific Ocean in reed boats on these  seven steppingstones, probably Hawaii was one,   landed in Central America, and they were  given instructions by their earth god Maasaw,   to migrate, to journey on the land in all the  four directions where the land meets the sea,   turn around and come back. It actually  creates kind of a swastika the way it swirls,   but they were ultimately to arrive at the center.   They look at all these abandoned settlements  throughout the Southwest as the migrations,   the footprints of the migration. >>RICK: The Anasazi and people like that?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Exactly. The settlement at  the center, by their spiritual practices,   which are forms of vibration, dance, thought,  behavior, they keep the world in balance. They   live on the top of the Colorado Plateau, which is  one of the most stable landmasses on the earth.   It's like plywood, as opposed to normal wood. It's  got these layers and stuff, so it's very stable.   It's got magnetic properties that are different.  Apparently, when all the cataclysms happen,   it's a safe spot. That's where they ended up.  That whole sense of when I first got here, the   influence of the southwest and the land and the  peoples that also has come into Medicine of One.   I just thought I d share that. >>RICK: It s interesting. Do you   have any opinion about cataclysms?  Do you have any opinion about,   what might come in the  coming decades for humanity?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I don't have my  own prophecy. But it's coming.  >>RICK: A lot of people feel it s coming. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I mean, nothing can last forever.   The whole climate change thing, >>RICK: It's accelerating.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I don't want to be negative, but  I think those things are almost past the point of   no return. It s just something that  the world's going to have to adapt to.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I mean, look at  what just happened in New York City.  >>RICK: It's outrageous. Nothing had ever happened  like, the previous record of rainfall in Central   Park was one inch, and this time it was over  three inches. We can only speculate, but   I have an optimistic streak in me. Despite a  good many solid reasons why we might all be going   to hell in a handbasket, I feel like there's  this spiritual thing going on at the same time,   which is not maybe so obvious as hurricanes,  but it's providing this kind of counterbalancing   influence, which hopefully will grow and grow  and grow and eventually get the upper hand   and that we ll really undergo some very  beautiful transformation and not just   end up in some kind of dystopia. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I agree with that.   I don't know if it'll happen on this planet. >>RICK: It may not happen in our lifetimes.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I don t know. Some people believe  that the earth experience almost is what it is,   this is exactly what it is, all this experience  that we have. Once you move beyond the need to   have these, perhaps there's another level. >>RICK: There are a lot of   interesting teachings about that. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I would like to think   it could happen on this earth, and maybe it  will. Maybe it will have to be just communities.   I have that (optimism) too. It's sort of  like a balance between not pessimism, but,   sort of like, it's staring you in the face,  and man just doesn't, the whole greed thing is   what drives man. Money. >>RICK:   Well, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth  as it is in heaven. Let's hope that comes true.   One final point that has occurred to me a  number of times while I was listening to your   book and also while talking to you today is, I put  myself in the shoes of people who are listening.   You say certain things that sound great, like live  in the center, and find that quiet place within or   however we would phrase it, and I kind of hear  people saying, I want to, but I haven't quite   figured out how. What kind of advice do you have  that people can take with them, so to speak, to   make progress to achieving what you're advocating? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: It's interesting because it's all   I've been talking about. I sit in front of many  people who do exactly that, ask how do I, exactly?   And I go, that's what I'm telling you. [laughing] >>RICK: Let's say, a typical person working eight   hours or raising kids or whatever, a busy life,  how do they incorporate something into their life,   so this actually becomes an actuality? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Well, that's it. I think a   person has to find a space for themselves to have  some form of practice when they practice being,   what I call their big I , even if it's when  they're driving in the car so that it becomes   part of everyday life. The shift, the key,  is this shift between that most people have   with this relationship with their emotional  being. It's one of disconnect, rather than one of,   actually, let me say this. One of the things I do  at the end, once I get the spine of a person is I   have this ribbon of cloth that we write on, some  way to help them to move to the center. It s got   to begin with your breath because everything that  is the opposite of what people are stuck in, is   this upward controlling movement, where too much  thinking, holding the breath, and tension in the   body. The first thing you ve got to do is be able  to come down, feel the space and take a breath.   It sounds pretty simple. It's ridiculously  simple. To invoke that, in that moment,   when you have a feeling that you don't like, as  opposed to letting it sweep over you with tension,   that's the key switch. If you can learn that, then  you can undo the web. Most people try to undo the   web with their mind, and this is without the  mind. The key, the trick, is going to be, okay,   how do I bring in that vibration? Well, one of the  ways is using the body and voice and whatnot. When   a person might just sit there in front of me and  start telling a story. The feeling comes in when   it's a hurt feeling. You can literally  see their body starting to contract.   They sort of want to cry, but they're trying  to stop it, you got to do the exact opposite.   You let the story bring in the feeling and take  a big breath and step into the space around you   and just be love to that vibration. Whatever  it is. That's what moves you to the center.  >>RICK: Good. Very nice. Let's say  people want to work with you in some way.   What are the options? Let me show your  website here on the screen. Showing it now,   you won't be able to see it, but I'll link to your  website from your page on batgap.com. What can   they expect? What are some things that you might  do with people? I guess they can get in touch   with you through the website and so on, right? >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: The best way to get me is email.   If they need to talk on the  phone, that's fine, too.  >>RICK: Do you want me to put your email address  on your BatGap page for people to click on?  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: That s fine. I do Skype  sessions, but just read that page and see if   it's right for you. The main things I do aren't  that many, although it can look like it. It's   this soul journey that's called the soul  journey session. It s sort of dreaming.   Some people come to me just for that. If you have  a deep core problem you've been working on, then   I usually suggest what I call my bare-bones  retreat that spreads over three days.   What I do works quick, I don't spend a bunch,  it's not activity-oriented retreats, it's   very focused, and I fill up the person's cup  each day so to speak. I try not to overfill it,   and then they have space to go out and go on a  hike or whatever else they want to do. Then I have   a different version of that retreat, where they  actually stay in the circle. That's the vision   quest version. But basically, the soul journey  is usually where I start, the vision quest,   or the retreat because it gives me things that  we never figure out with our minds. Sometimes I   don't need that person to tell me anything about  themselves. All I do is I take that session, and   then before I see them the next day, I choreograph  it, look at the different movements in it,   and I try to see, how can I bring this into their  body more strongly. Usually a vocal element to it,   like mom . Okay, that's got a body movement,  and so I try it the next day. I may take   them through those without ever talking. Then  their story comes out as we do that, in a way.   It's as if to get them to a place where they feel  complete for now. Obviously, you're not going   to achieve everything, and sometimes it's just  giving people a sense of what they need to do,   and they have to be patient with themselves.  When you're dealing with people that have been   severely traumatized, it s going to take time.  The key thing I always say to people is what I   want them to go away with is that experience  of true action of self-love. That moment   of something like the feeling of terror; how  to be this circle to the feeling of terror.   A person that has that terror in them is a person  that's usually driven by a lot of anxiety. They   worry a lot. They're trying to constantly  think about what's going to happen at the   next stoplight. What's this person thinking? They  were probably terrorized when they were a kid.   Then I do just a straight sort of counseling and  see what's going to happen. Some people just make   an appointment. They don't know what they want  to do. I just say okay, we'll figure it out.  >>RICK: Great. I will put your website and  your email address on your page on BatGap.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: You might put a link, if  you feel like it, to my YouTube channel.  >>RICK: Yes, it's no problem. I'll link to it. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I have a lot of resources.   It's me in front of the cameras sitting  in front of a circle talking about   Medicine of One. It s a ton of audio. >>RICK: I was so busy listening to your   book that I didn't look much at your  YouTube channel. That sounds good.  >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: I gave you one link. I didn't  feel like overwhelming you with a bunch of stuff.  >>RICK: I like to take in as much as I  can during preparing for these things, but   I wanted to get through your book. Thanks,  Clay, I really appreciate your taking the time   to talk to me like this. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Thank you, Rick.  >>RICK: Thanks to those who have been listening  or watching beneath this video. If you're watching   it on YouTube, there will be a link to the page on  BatGap for Clay for this interview, and there will   be links to all things we've discussed, YouTube  channel, books, website, email address, and so on.   Thank you very much. Next week I will be interviewing a fella   named Jeff Vander Clute, who lives in Crestone,  Colorado, and seems like a very interesting guy.   We have an upcoming interviews page on BatGap  if you want to check out who we've got scheduled   for the next few months. Thanks  for listening or watching. I will   see you next week and thank you again, Clay. >>CLAY LOMAKAYU: Thank you. Have a good day.
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