Cera Imani on her relationship with Khalif Kairo and why her past does not define her| LNN

just because your partner has money uh it's not that you're after the money of someone maybe some do that for the money but in our case is our relationship uh I love him because of how he respectful is how prayerful he is that's the aspect that drew me towards him that was a friend of mine and we we had gone as a squad to dance actually I remember the guy who was holding a phone to record cuz we all have our public life and it's what I show you and we have our private life which we do our own things I am also a human being and I am entitled to my private life and people putting it out there is not okay yes did that scare you though that more things about you will come out is this girl who says you guys were lovers I know her she was a good friend of mine why wait till right now when I'm elevated by God I'm getting opportunities what is your aim do you want to gain Fame via me or do you just want to put me down when women know quote on quote they've messed up when they know then they come now to this side of I love God God Has Changed me you know I'm a spiritual being what do you see what I say is God's grace is new every morning and God is a forgiving heart and that's why each day I would also recommend people to pray to have a heart like God a heart that doesn't look at negativity a heart that's loving that's forgiving that looks at the god of people doesn't keep records exactly Cyro I appreciate you and I thank God for bringing you into my life and you're beautiful in and out and I don't care what people say about you you're the most amazing person I know and I've come across oh [Music] very good morning to you and a warm welcome to elns rebuilding restoration series my name is LIN GOI I know majority of you have wanted to know about my guest there's what is being said out there and then there's the real definition of herself and I feel like in life one of the most important things to do is to be able to Define you for you because whether you like it or not the world is going to Define you but I'm really interested in knowing who really is she what does she do and exactly how does she deal with what people say out there I'm about to let her introduce herself so that she can be able to walk us through her story but before I do that you know a girl has to pay a couple of bills I want to say thank you so much to our partners of today's conversation Kings developers limited and of course Mar daddy motos we appreciate you for always coming through and right now you all know about Kings and you know where to go and get your self beautiful apartment with an ISO certified company and you can always walk to their building at prism Towers a fif floor H Upper Hill and tell them team Sheila team Moy what do you have for me remember they don't just have upper End Apartments they have medium range lower range now and of course Mar daddy Motors thank you so much sir Eric and team for always coming through so if you want to import story so guys go get 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so much you look lovely as well let me just say one thing we are I think 3 or 4 hours behind schedule black fls and I was just staring at you and how patient you were with us you know because our shoots are just like s of the lights but you've been very patient with us so I appreciate that and I was like does the world really get to see this part of you you know for the people who are maybe catching you for the very first time looking at that camera could you please introduce yourself and tell us what you do okay my name is faway therea known as Sarah imman on the internet well I'm a business developer I'm a marketing manager for brokerage insurance which is called orates bangan and also influencer out there get to influence and work with other brands know comes from am fa in SW fa sah that is very beautiful let me ask you if there's one thing you are proud of as as yourself what is it is the fact I'm a god-seeking woman that's one thing I'm proud of uh cuz it's been washed out in this generation not seeking God is now a flex and everything but the fact I remain steadfast with God is one thing I'm very very proud of talk to me about your relationship with God because I know right now there's that conversation out there where you hear someone saying I'm not religious I'm spiritual you know which one are you and how is your relationship with God and how where did it stem from um one thing I can say I'm not religious also I'm spiritual religion can tend to mislead people and all I won't dive into that but I am spiritual I understand my Bible I read my Bible I pray I have my relationship with God as much as I go to church and I listen to uh the pastors and all uh where it stemed from is family been brought up in church um gotap around and all um but I went back to Protestant and all uh as human nature they point you your faith stumbles and all uh became worldly but then I went back to God cuz the end of the day is the one who keeps us yes at the end of the day we go back to our roots and uh there's always that part where you are so you know you know God this is what I'm supposed to be doing in my life and then of course the pressure and you want to do this and that and that how do you know it's time for me to leave this and go back to God and what pushes someone to want to go back to the roots what I can say my mom is like it's not it's not intuition it's not your stomach it's the Holy Spirit we all have the Holy Spirit within us and the Holy Spirit is the one that gives us conviction when you're doing something that's the Holy Spirit listening to you and when my mother told me is the holy spirit I learned to listen to it and when I feel no cuz I think three instances I was going out of my comfort zone and not and you feel no but you go and then it just goes southwards Thrice and at the point I was like you know what I really need to listen I should stop ignoring it and doing according to my will and listen when the Holy Spirit speaks yes you know talk to me about you know growing up cuz one thing I love about this show we get to really know you for you so from a place you're comfortable in could you talk to us about life growing up and how that was like I grew up in nakuru nakuru yes it's like a very small City now yes and uh that's where I grew up uh got to grow up with also my grandmother before she moved into NRI when she moved [Music] in studied in King Academy still a very good school it was a stou school at the moment and high school I did Christ the King Academy yes sisters truly sisters way strict strict yes and I also campus did nakuru kabarak University Andi is work I got a job application love Nairobi it looks fun it has a lot of things nakuru is very reserved nakuru come there's nothing else you can do it doesn't have activities as much as Nai straight up in Republic I just watch and I'm fascinated about Nairobi how people are living life and there's so much and I used to say so when I got the opportunity uh that I think was at 22 that's when I moved in to Nairobi and I started working now in Nairobi yes what are you coming to do in Nairobi at that time I was coming to do sales for an Agricultural company it's called iconic agricultural company I hope you guys are still thriving out there yes you're still good people yes yes we still good uh we have a good relationship with the CEO Charles kiru yes no Bridges BN no no none BN okay so you entered nirobi in 2022 yes I no 2020 November 2020 November okay was it did it meet your expectation because go on it was overwhelming it was raining and you know how naobi is chaotic it was just up and about but I thank my Aunt Liz she has a salon there in town she's the one who made it very warm for me when I came to Nairobi as much as it was overwhelming commuting from Don home that's where I started staying and kazil so and back and all she made it very warm for me for the first month when I stayed with her before yes Miss Independence yes so I found it very overwhelming and then when I came I think I had a very small circle back in a I didn't have so many people I knew in Nairobi so it was quite lonely so it was work just back home work back home no one to talk to no one to engage with a weekend I can't do anything as much as I new Nairobi has a lot to do I know where to start from who to start with yeah so it was quite a bit lonely uh to start for but being an introvert we can Sur yes okay and you know of course one of the things that you do right now I love how you influence even for Brands and I'm not even saying this because you're on this platform you know how did you know or did you ever want to become an influencer and when we talk about an influencer what does influencing mean for you because now you find like everybody is an influenc I'm an influencer I'm an influencer for you how did you you know you said this is what I'm going to do and how did you tellor make that journey to get where you are so I can say began in 2017 yeah Tik Tok so I found it and oh wait yes yes way back yes M so musically it was a lot of just transitions purely music and I started having fun with the application Tik to so it had a lot of comedy and all so people who know me from way back because I used to do a lot of funny lip speaking and dancing so that's how it began so people were like you're really good at this why don't you push it f for me I was doing it for me for fun cuz I like making fun skits I love dancing and doing transitions so it never occurred to my mind to push it further then you know nakuru is very reserved so like you know was really exps your mind and then came 2019 that's the first time I trended wait during the co time when was doing it too exactly Twitter the comments started coming through and I was like please take it down I can't take it anymore I was very young what were these how old were you there um 20 think 20 I can't fig B but 20 yeah 20 or 21 between the two so yeah that's the first time I trended and took at all yeah so I took a break from Tik Tok cuz I was like e this is not me I feel so bad about it what was it what was so you posted the clip on Tik Tok yes and then you see how people take and post on other social Med Twitter and stuff exactly yes and it was just a very innocent dancing exactly so yeah it just it was flipped on another level told the person who had posted it to kind of take it down cuz it was really overwhelming on my end that made me pose from social media and reink at how people are telling me to push further yeah in regards to content so and part time at safaricom uh so fast forward doing my corporate life I still admire the influencing life cuz getting to do what you really love and who you are is really nice I also enjoy the corporate side but day and night and um was it last year yeah last year January that's when I was like uh I think the year before I'd consult friends and all who are familiar with marketing IDE I didn't know where to start from so I was like can we like partner up I really don't know how to go about it you're really good in marketing can you teach me be my manager I think people that time were like you're really dreaming too big you know for a lady like you over stretching so comes January and I was like will I keep on waiting on people to start let me start with what I have see where it goes make my mistakes and learn from them that's how you grow yeah and that's why I started putting out images just try record a nice video post it up tag the brand the brand would appreciate and with that I got sight to other brands you actually working with his Brands they don't know you're doing it out of Goodwill and that's how they started reaching out and oh yeah an opportunity finds you really prepared you know yes exactly so I pushed pushed can't say it was the best Journey like two three months felt like giving up cuz the gig wasn't pushing through and everything so I'm like I'm putting a lot of effort a lot of work I'm not getting returns should I just quit it it's not maybe my thing and all but my mom is like keep on pushing but she's my stronghold she's my everything keep pushing and she she's like you've not made content there's a nice restaurant here dress nicely I could take you nice photos you post and all that's how we went about it with my mom kept on pushing here and there doors open doors open and now people want to relate with you when they see you growing and the when Brands and all now they started coming in plenty yes and then the money starts coming in yes yeah it's good keeps on pushing you but uh all in all is don't forget who you are cuz it's easy to get caught up in all of this and forget who you are so balance to that life and who you are cuz sometimes in aaka imposter syndrome when you're content creating and who you are so I try make it who I am you know get out of hand yes and you've said you know you are bound to Lose Yourself talk to me about you losing yourself have you ever lost yourself I think the fact I have God he keeps on holding me stronger there times i' break down in the house CU I'm like you social media influenc what am I not doing get that aspect you're supposed to be better than someone and I realized you are you they are them and people love them as we love you as you you might not look like but there's a you hold that spreads onto people and there's a hold that spreads on people and it can you knowa exactly and I was like let me stop and focus on me grow me if you love me well if you don't it's okay but let me do it cuz I love it and I want to do it not do it for people cuz when you do it for people pressure PR but when you do it CU you love it you can take a break when you want to proceed when you want to but when you're doing it for people I'm just like just do you be you yeah mhm you know and there's always that misconception you know uh pretty women like you quote unquote you you you finances are not okay so there's always a man somewhere doing a a to A to Z for you you're just a pretty face but a pretty face needs someone to take care of it was that a thing for you yeah it's happened even uh people who know my mother and know me quoted that Al like talk to money and my mom is like do you know how hard working this lady is cuz I started working when I was still in campus second year back inarf there's a guy called that's what I did and it paid the second time aita now we were doing it in safaricom and and the manager the regional manager who's that lady would like to have her since she's really made the sales Spike so much so that's how I got to now start working with techno without papers you know fav not my grace and I started pushing while still studying so you see if I can do it and I'm in the place to do it let me do it let me push and I pushed and I pushed and that's the same when I came here and did sales for the agricultural company pushing pushing so you see people came and saw me on social media as an influencer they didn't know who I am cuz people who know me from way back I will work I will work and all it's not just about influencing so you see a pretty lady you assume exactly not everyone is like that some might have which falls down to us so if someone Sayes a pretty lady they just assume that's that's her life but uh we should stop judging cuz I'm also a victim of judging people like I'll see on social media and judge and I'm like until I interact with you then that's when I'll judge yes cuz I hear how you speak you can really judge someone from how they speak how they reason that's how you'll tell what kind of a person this is and um yeah judgment pass as like it's okay at the end of the day the people who are close to me cuz I really had a small circle are the ones who matter they know me better they know who I am and that's okay I'm content with that yes do you think you have pretty privilege in terms of you know you are so pretty so people might assume you get the gigs because of how you look you get the gigs because of your glass shape do you think you have pretty privilege uh pretty privilege is a thing cuz I'd say at instances we'd go to a restaurant with a friend and someone may be like it's cuz you're pretty but what I can say what has put me forth front of everything that I have done is not cuz I'm pretty it's cuz I have God's favor there's someone who's uttermost Beauty naturally hanu sometimes beautiful people owe you something you get it's it's a very bad mentality instead pray for God's favor when you have God's favor enter those doors and you'll wonder how you got to penetrate those doors and be in such places and access those good things it's because you have God's favor with you okay how do you define beautiful as yourself as a woman how do you define beautiful how I Define beautiful is how you speak what comes you know as much as we have the outside appearance of pretty and all what come from you is what is 90% of beauty how do you speak to people you know you might be pretty we go to a restaurant how you handle the guard or the waiter just say a lot about you yeah but if you're polite to people if you're respectful if you honor people now that's atmost beauty that can't be stolen yes you know there's this now you of course you have the you have the brain even the way you speaking you know you know how to have a conversation you know where we are going with this conversation and then you know there's this you also there's this part of you that people wake up and see on social media know you so sometimes when we watch this thing even you know the thing is people will be like look at her deep down people are practicing in secret how to do so we know we wake up and this there and she's like let me you know what I'm talking about what was that uh that was my period last year when I used to go out I think around January that was a friend of mine and we we had gone as a squad to dance actually I remember the guy who was holding a phone to record cuz we all have our public life and it's what I show you and we have our private life which we do our own things I am also a human and I am entitled to my private life and people putting it out there is not okay just because I'm a public figure doesn't mean I can't get to have my private life and enjoy myself and uh we all have our times times out and all and that's one of the times I was having fun last yeara you know actually we were having a conversation with my friend yesterday I'm like I know longer enjoy going out cuz I used to dance a lot and all and that was then and you dragging that right now just shows my my mother was like how bitter is this person video when she's in a stable relationship you put it out for what purposes you know did you want to date me refuse to date you so you want to drag me down or what's the essence of you doing that and also let people who are out there who have their life on public just because it's their work don't go on exposing their private life let them be entitled to private life they're also human beings just like you and also you you never know 2 3 years to come you'll also be in the same spot she is so don't forget that good and also just to clear the guy CU there's a guy was that there's those say people saying that's Baba was that your baba guy is the same age as me 25 par that guy please he's not a baba he's a friend of mine he's a he's a good production manager i w his and but he's a 25 old guy we were in a talking stage at the moment we are good friends right now you are almost having a thing going on uh not precisely but on a friendly basis but we realized we are better off as friends and all so just went out danced yes okay LS no no no friend haven't you seen women grind on their fellow women I've seen so when people go out women do it very innocently like we just stand and dance on your friend innocently at the back of your mind there's nothing grind or something is hey we're dancing come we dance you get so you just caught up in the moment of the music and you're dancing after the music and all there's no big deal to it but now you know Kenyans and all they they they want to formulate stories where there's none yeah but you love dancing yeah you a good dancer no twerking only dancing I used to actually dance in high school danced prayers day to like proper dancing so talk to me about that part because you're here you partying with friends and you know these people are my friends I know who is recording how does that clip get to the public knowing you did it among friends actually the guy but I think he knew one person in the table and he was recording and I was very uncomfortable I was like why are you recording you've gone out somewhere and someone cuz you just feel very intrusive and you look very malicious why are you recording for what purposes it just seems weap and I just like take it St sh so I never knew he did De with it so or who he was I just remember a figure of a man it was actually a man lady yeah so good so between you being in that kind of environment and you knowing you have God in you where do you draw the line now between what you can do when you in God and what you can't do uh at that moment I can say I at a point I became a Lifest that was the two three months when I was feeling overwhelmed with content creation my life there's a point you even ask God what am I doing what am I supposed to be doing you know and that's when I think I used to go out a lot with my friends just to have fun and you know sometimes we go out and party uh it's not cuz we are worldly but you want to lose it's been HEC so just go have fun and forget what is going on and all but in life I've learned you know when you're feeling overwhelmed but it's not bad to go out you can go out sit Hees and we'll just sit and enjoy music and yeah so it's okay to go out and all and uh being a Christian I know like going out so it's okay but what you do is what now defines you more so you can't be exposing yourself and dancing ratchet here and there or doing this and that and it's okay to have a stage and no one should judge you for that we all have a stage and I don't regret uh the stages that I've had CU it's built me to who I am right now if I didn't go through that I I wouldn't know better yes did that scare you though that more things about you will come out because it's like the person was on a vendetta to make sure that everything about you comes out and as we can see even right now there are people who are claiming they in a relationship with you they they were in a relationship I think there's this girl who says you guys were lovers do you want to comment on that that you guys were in a relationship do you know her uh yeah I know her she was a good friend of mine but I do not want to comment on that don't comment on what she saiding but how does that make you feel that she's saying what she's saying definitely why wait till right now when I'm elevated by God I'm getting opportunities what is your aim do you want to gain Fame bya me or do you just want to put me down what is what make me understand about it but some things I always say you can't fight everyone why you get but my mother is like you can't fight everyone so many people hate so many people will try to ride on this wave but what do you do go on your knees pray to God and tell him to fight your battles let fight your own battles but what I do is I get on my knees and I'm like Lord you know me better you know the journey I am you are who makes me and for these people are trying to fight me I don't know why you know and you know what you have for me and this this preaching I was listening to John John Salon or something and he was saying we we as Christians or when you get elevated and it gets to a point you're like God why why why me and demons don't fight you CU you're lean they fight what you have and that's what is happening God has seen you know and I believe God has greater things and I've already started seeing it manifest in my life he's elevating me and will work people yeah have you tried reaching out have you tried calling her just asking those questions what are you doing why and does it hurt it's coming from someone you once called a friend yeah definitely it hurts secondly you're a human being you know better and definitely you doing that uh I don't know where it stems from and all definitely I think that's a video 20212 you post put something out like that uh requesting for something and all you have an agenda at the end of the day I don't know what agenda you have you can't convince everyone to do right by you you can't and the lady have you tried calling her no would you call her no mm yeah I prayed to God and I told God fight my battles so what I did is I let God do it for me yes you've said God has elevated you yes and I know one of the aspects is of but how has God elevated you when you talk of elevation what do you mean what I mean by elevation is my Christian journey I am more firm more stound proudly I can sit somewhere like here and speak about him the knowledge of God spirituality is deep and I no longer know God in the now I understand understand him spiritually now I can sit and feel what plans he has for me and what he doesn't want me to do and that's what I mean when I say God is elevating me and also his opening doors you know uh since I started influencing definitely I've been praying to God and open this open this open this and another preaching johnman he was saying um sometimes God and you go back you're like why God why are you not opening sometimes you're not ready spiritually to fight those battles I think I would have crumbled but right now I've grown spiritually so when he elevates me and open those doors I can be able to fight those fights that are coming my way cuz now I'm have him yes how do you how do you lean on God when you have other people saying this is the sh of the street you know Street you know how how then do you where do you get the strength to lean on God when they are saying this and when you hear people say you are that sh of the street what do you tell yourself one thing I don't understand and I will never understand why are youting on me you don't even know you get and I'm not bound to understand it's been there people have been bullied it will continue being there it won't stop right now cuz I'm in the Limelight I know who I am and God knows who I am so whatever opinion you have over my life doesn't Define who I am and it won't make me that person just because you called me that yes as long as I am content the initial stages cuz we were saying sometimes we like to say you'll develop a thick skin when it com to online bullies social media bullies but you never really develop that thick skin the initial stages when you woke up and you are trending Countrywide how was that like and how did you find out and psychologically how did that affect you I think at that time also my faith has really grown this year and uh towards the end of the year so I've been having God by my side I think that's why God felt it was the right moment to position me where he's positioned me he just doesn't do things like M he does it in his own knowledge and uh when I was put out there I knew it would come a time they will love you they will hate you it's normal I've seen it with other people out there other successful women and just I think I live by ignoring I just ignore I can't ex yeah I can justify block you now if it's somewhere else I don't go looking for it but if it's in my page I remove you cuz I have positive people and I think as human beings I don't know why we inclined and I love using this example from 7 a.m. L 5 p.m. of your day it's been positive between 6 and 5 p.m. as a human exactly but why but from to has been 10 minutes of Badness so I've taught myself as a human being uh if something bad happens it's just a passing wave it doesn't Define the whole day cuz there are positive things that happen and that's how you learn to have a good spirit you're teaching H something a bad wave when it comes it doesn't Define your whole life or who you are or your day has been ruined because just the same way with a lot of haters on the internet why do we always focus on the haters do this or that no so I'm like people who love me and who look up to me and admire me so much more than those people are hating but Society has taught us to focus on those negative people and I want to change that mentality that as much as people are hating focus on the positive focus on that stop being a human being who's inclined to negativity don't be drawn to that focus on the posi coms and focus on that remove those negative comments remove them cuz either ways they'll always be there they always come and why do these people hate and all as like I think my theory is these people you'll never find someone on your level or above you being a hater true story it's always those people who are below number one it's CU maybe they've given up on life cuz they can't push further or number two they're just people who don't have the stamina to push further so had being loved in a very successful relationship successful relationship so what she wants to do she wants to they have no difference exactly so I take them as those human beings who operate like that good you know you just reminded me of a quote it says elevation requires separation there are people who will not want to see you elevated there are people who would think as long as to we are good but the moment I start elevating then even the energy changes you know but you know there's also people who say that when women know quote unquote they've messed up when they know Street then they come now to this side of I love God God Has Changed me you know I'm a spiritual being what do you say uh what I say is God's grace is new every morning and God is a forgiving heart and that's why each day I would also recommend people to pray to have a heart like God a heart that doesn't look at negativity a heart that's loving that's forgiving that looks at the god of people doesn't keep records exactly cuz people will fall even you you're quick to look at the spe at your brother's eye but you have a huge log in yours everyone has their wrongs everyone has failed everyone has exactly they still have their own it's just because you're not on people's faces for yours to be du up but if it were the case so what I want to remind people is going back to God faces and it's not limited who are you to limit my access to God if he doesn't limit my access to him sotion and no matter who I know there are people who are on the right now and they just feel like they've sin so much they so unclean but just know God is not like human he doesn't look at your wrongs or what you've done and for God Sin is Sin so you can go back to him and he can renew you and it's okay and no matter what people say always focus on what God has to say about you yes I love that you know Sin is Sin and he doesn't look at like you came back to me and I am so happy is happy you leave the 9 to go look for the one and God is content he's more happy beautiful so always feel you can come back to him and Limitless time you will fall not once not twice but he will always pick you up he's not like human being always remember that do you think we should extend Grace to people because once again everyone has a past yes we should learn that's why I say Seek a heart like God stop having a human heart when you ask God to be like him you learn you more forgiving you're more understanding you're more patient as you claim cuz things will Happ and all so let's just learn God's grace is new every morning it doesn't end today when one year and all so it's Limitless God's love is Limitless forgiveness is Limitless soar is sufficient exactly let's learn to be more like God and you will have peace and that's why I think at the midest of all this I also appreciate for defending me so much like that's really huge cuz it's so hard to find that and I appreciate it so much from him he's gone out of his way his strength despite anything he still fights for me and I appreciate that so so so much about him and also the thing that's carried me is God give me peace that surpasses human understanding and that's the peace I have and that's what carried me through this journey not or anything is good yes did you know it was going to be him um how did you guys meet uh we met on the internet actually conversation here and there request for a date and all and that's how we ended up meeting and having conversation and he's a very Godly Man as well and I'm a Godly woman and we pray a lot and in the process but what I believe uh God's process is never wrong uh sometimes it might be happy or a painful but that person always has a part to play your life if you look closely even the people who did you wrong they had a part to play in your life in elevating you in putting you in such a position that you are so I I tell our relationship as that God knows where he's leading us and his will for us I I don't know any better and that's why I trust upon him how long have you guys been together um it's been since August last year that's how we started speaking a friendship yeah and there on and off yeah and then we've been dating now for 6 months okay do you know he's the one uh I think when you're inclined to God God really speaks to you in a lot of terms so in the midst of everything you pray and may he be like this like this and that's when you start told us even know I saw people like which prayer did sah make to God you know but you had your list you knew this is the kind of man I I think uh before my relationship sometimes doesn't answer you according to what you want it's his will so I think before I used to do it in the terms of [Music] me and you know so it got to a point I started my prayer point was no longer CU I'm a woman who really dates for marriage not cuz honestly if you're not dating for marriage what what are you doing why should we be together grow each other's emotion if I know I'm just going to live in the midst of it all so uh I inclined my prayer to stop seeking cuz God says seek me and I'll give you the rest so so I stopped praying in regards to that and I was like let your will be done upon my life and the right man you know my heart you know my desires and you know what I want and I believe if I Seek You you will present to me what is Right according to you and uh during that moment when I was praying towards and inclined towards that that's when God brought Kyo along yes you see your blush yes he brought him along and you get quite fine yes we get along yes were you were you okay with it all being on social media how did that happen and if you were to go back do you think you would put your relationship out there yes I would still put my relationship out there yeah uh what happens is I was all also someone who was publicly out there already he's publicly out there we just came together so there's no way we could hide our relationship you know and whether we post it or not people will will always have an opinion and they'll always comment you know so we did our relationship not according to how people wanted it to be but according to us we are not doing it for the likes and all we are just enjoying our relationship we are just like any other relationship yeah maybe those people don't have so many followers but their followers watch their relationship and all cuz n just enjoying your partner and putting your partner out there and how you love every woman wants that and every man wants that I think society and a lot of heart uh that has been in relationships make people have the of do the relationship according to what feels right to you guys not what Society wants for your relationship cuz at the end of the day if you try for the society that's how you end up being depressed that's how you end up committing suicide cuz you're doing it for the society but if you're doing it for you and you and is your partner okay are you okay that's that's fine whatever other people have to say doesn't have to count or add on to it people will talk whether you're doing bad or good so so you do it you do it and I know you had briefly mentioned how he came through for you but amist all these things did you expect that did you expect him to go so hard for you apparently I didn't expect you know just let it be but apparently he's someone he's a fighter and I really love that about him like he'll fight for what he loves for what he terms us right he will go above and beyond for it and that's what makes him very amazing yeah yes you know and so he was there telling you be don't got this he went to war yeah he's been like let me fight this battles for you has it affected him though you know men as we were saying they are very strong but deep down has it has it caught up with him has it affected him according to my knowledge uh I'm not aware if it has or it hasn't but one thing I always reassure him is there's room to sit and talk always just know I'm not a lady will jump into defense mode when something is put on the table or if you feel there's a concern I'm a lady who listens I practice active listening yes I'll sit and I'll listen what do you feel and I feel a lot of men don't get that room and that's why it's brought a lot of scaffolding relationships cuz sometimes I feel relationships and just CA of communication and communication English back in campus I appreciate they teach people communication it's actually a unit communication yeah so uh communication needs a lot of understanding and active listening so that's one thing I try to practice and show him that I know you might be strong and all but if at any point you feel you can't hold it or you have questions just know his room to always sit down and I'll listen to you and I'll explain myself I won't defend I will explain what is happening and if I have gone wrong I will take account to my mistakes and I will apologize and if it's a misunderstanding I will let you know it's a misunderstanding but still I will also apologize for putting you in a bad position I know there are people there they are like yeah also someone it's a process I think it doesn't happen it's actually hard it's easy easily said than done cuz also it takes for the other party how you communicate voice and you're shouting and you expect me to come down and communicate yeah so we must all meet at a good level you also must be wanting if you politely come and ask 1 2 three please explain to me want to understand then iate but what yes but one thing my mom tells me is women we are taught to submit so I know it's it's a hard pain cuz we're in this mis Independence I can do and all yeah so teach yourself submission so much how do you sub still still practicing I'm still practicing I'm still practicing that's but it comes into terms of if there's misunderstanding and all and you know you're right you also feel like sometimes we shout and it's not we want to show them we are better but you know we feel like we need to raise our voice to be heard and all but my mom taught me submit on theong the submit submit to your husband submit to your M beautiful and I love that you've spoken about mom because you know when all this came out there's your mom's side and then there's kyo's family how did the family handled this uh did you get calls from no no no I've not had calls from the side of the family but my mom my mom very concerned for me my mom is my ch I love you so much mother and she was like I was like yeah Mom we we okay she was concerned she was like just know people go out people have fun people dance even till right now Frid you did it it's your past you did it at that moment probably it's not a good picture right now but it's not not who it doesn't Define who you are you left it behind and she loves saying when people can't access the present you they start digging the past you and you already left there I am not that person I don't live there anymore I don't live there that's so profound when they can't access the present you they go for the past you but we don't live there anymore very profound beautiful why do you think the timing what what what do you think influenced the timing of you know just coming out and throwing Clips there receipt there what do you think influenced that decision from other people okay at the beginning people I think a lot of celebrities or how social media is positioned when you see two opposite sex together it's something they want to Market it's just drama music release exactly so I think when uh it began it was probably something we're marketing together probably it's a brand we're pushing so people weren't inclined or bothered by it but I think when serious okay and I don't know why people don't have beautiful things out here I don't understand the bitterness towards Something Beautiful me too yeah when people are happy it just doesn't sit well with Kenyans yeah they must unravel something to ensure they Shake It Up good do you think the fact that you know for example Kyo gifts you a lot you were gifted a no no no I wasn't 350,000 I no no I wasn't gifted I wasn't gifted okay yeah so where is the jealous coming like I really don't understand but he gifts you quite he really he's a he's a he has that love language you're gifting yes and I appreciate that about him so much cuz I know a lot of women love that yes good do you think that robbed people the wrong way just seeing you being you know him loving on you like that gifting you like I don't know like do you think him loving on you like that robbed people the wrong way um I think uh our male people deserve softness so much uh cuz I think and when a man goes into a relationship and gives his all and his heart broken he comes out very bitter pressure society and so qu I don't know who is these people who are Def and these people don't treat women well you do this to a woman you shouldn't so during that heart period feel Justified gu that's how I always say at your weakest Point whatever comes and captivates you that will really roll over your life so I feel uh when men are vulnerable and it goes south and they end up getting a negative perspective or now a toxic perspective that seems like a comforter at the moment that builds them to be don't be good to women don't do this play women y y so I think it may corrupt Society again it brings back circles back to society it's given this perception so cuz there other men out there also doing so good and right by their women it's just that they are not on social media or out there to be seen by people but what I like I want to remind men is at not men only but women is the heart that you've gone through in your past relationship doesn't need to Define I know we have walls you'll feel like I need to guard myself more it was hurtful but don't love someone less or give your experience imagine if everyone behaved in that way how will this world be right now CU everyone has been hurt if we handle each other with that type of Hur and pain we wouldn't have beautiful kids out here beautiful marriages and actually they're beautiful marriages and we should learn to preach that they are beautiful relationships and marriages let's stop focusing on the negative aspect of it no deep down a man wants a family and a beautiful family beautiful marriage but Society yeah which is very wrong cuz I always say right now it seems very okay it's it's okay to follow those people it's okay to negativity but 10 years years come you'll be Al you won't be there your friends will be in marriages how do you start feeling about yourself now that's when you start being bit about life you get yeah that's profound so you don't think at all your your partner KY you don't think he's sing no he's not sing that's how women should be treated and I am glad he was raised right and also he taught himself right and he knows that's the right way to go about a woman you love they shouldn't get less and to people who will say you know they know out there I mean his um business he doing great I've had a conversation with him on this particular platform and you can see the even his the way the way he goes around his business he's really successful in what he does when people assume you after him because there's good money in there what do you see ah people will have your perception each time a woman is with someone has money that's the statement that happens no but just because your partner has money uh it's not that you're after the money of someone maybe some do that for the money but in our case is our relationship uh I love him because of how he respectful is how open-minded he is how he focused he is towards his goals how he pushes himself day and night how prayerful he is that's the aspect that drew me towards him you guys see the relationship carnally but you don't see it in the inside as we know best of what pull me towards him in the relationship so let's stop always assuming a woman who with a guy who has money to clarify doesn't mean anything generosity is what is key you might be with someone who has a lot of money but they don't do anything true story it's happened and women I know they can back that up but I am with a generous man and have you ever seen a relationship there's a Time living in upstairs it's not a fancy apartment but they were outside with their husband they doing laundry and I was just like God this is beautiful like I want this for myself and my mom I know I'm quoting my mom a lot go on go on go on go on was like sometimes the beauty of life is not having it all is having it all in your relationship your man might be earning 50,000 but he puts you in a good position you know simple mayo and contentment I tell people to learn the art of contentment because there's a lot of billionaires who feel they don't have it all and that's how you find people going to extreme of doing different different weird things contentment but learn to be content and the Art of gratitude CU we always ask ask but we forget to p and thank for what we have and all so the art of contentment makes you guys happy I'm content my guy takes me to CES on dates get he might not be driving the fanciest car or we living in the fanciest apartment but he gives me attention and I'm content you know he does this contentment contentment so it's not about oh money chasing a money it's the contentment that comes with the relationship that we have beautiful I love that that's so beautiful honestly I love that you genz right yeah you are you are 25 turning 26 actually birthday 12 happy birthday in advance you know you JZ I'm a millennial what do you think has changed in the way your generation dates hey from when you look at us what are some of the things you can't I can't this Millennial thing what do you like about our generation and what do you dislike about our generation in the way you guys are dating right now actually how old are you again cuz you'll find me listening to old schoolar and Bea 90s okay and I I always ask for an a 90s type of love that's what I've always miss j i forever wanted those polite men those gentlemen that's what I've Seck so I do not know what you ask about this dating cuz I think uh one two three talking stages I've had I'm like I can't it's not giving 90s love so I'm out of here yes so I think in all aspects I admire the in love faite uh you know we belong together all end of the road yes yes end of the road is a good classic one this one they did with marari oh I loved it sweet One One Sweet Day and I know me from Heaven that's what I love I love those on yeah so you'll find me sinking myself into those kind of songs and all quiz I love that old school that soft love I love soft love I'm a soft girl baby girl and also and there's nothing wrong with that there's nothing wrong with being in your soft era you know nothing wrong with it but what do you think people are not getting about your generation though um okay I I rarely interact with them even friend group you is mature people since I was a kid I think where I've been exposed to uh think I've always interacted with Millennials from places of work yeah you guys are so cool I know I know I know I've interacted with Millennials sometimes I always wonder where do I fit in cuz when I go to genes I'm like I don't fit in yes Millennials maybe they feel I'm a kid or something but I blame but don't so just do it and do this day two do this just do it according to what your heart feels like don't limit yourself it's hard you'll have some walls but what I say instead of having walls have boundaries you know makes it easier yes you know and you know sometimes we take for granted being trolled or being Cyber Bullied and coming out strong on the other side because I know there are some people who don't don't have the strength for it if someone is actually going through what you went through and they are still stuck they don't know how to come out of it what would you tell them honestly I will just tell you God cuz no human being no therapist can take you out of it yes they may talk is good but down it also takes that step are you willing to get out of that state you knowbe being in that sad state but exactly are you ready to step out of it yes I am ready to step out of it as much as you go for therapy also seek God honestly mean I will preach about God any day any if I get the chance to speak about cuz that's where I get my peace from peace that surpasses human understanding you will never get it from anywhere or any words that are given to you or any motivations or Ted Talks you only get it from God yeah I think you were dragged for so long until people started saying leave alone you know to those people who are just coming out and they were like please let this girl rest leave alone how did that make you feel I I felt it's God's protection God sent those people to fight for me where I couldn't fight for myself he so best to send Defenders and I appreciate them so so so much and I love them and in the midst of me pushing myself forward and all I'm doing it for those people who love me those who are defending me those who are cheering me on each day I wake up I'm doing it for you [Laughter] good there were so manyema coms and I'm I'm also grateful that people have sweet words to WR for I still appreciate that that's very sweet that means people can actually gather and be sweet on the internet and be kind you see works one do you think that's what K was trying to prove that we can actually be kind and sweet on the same platform that we using to destroy each other yes I think that's the agenda I was trying to push and also to chaff this cuz you can't hate me today and come love me today wow yeah so for the haters exactly but I think it was an opportunity show people can actually love people can actually spread positivity here and there and it was unch everywhere their host is like you know so we can actually spread love so much okay I'm wishing you all the best honestly I I I I feel like sometimes no before I go there the keyboard Warrior the people who type the people who want to join the thread the people who have no idea of who you are but they always want to join in and say something about you even though they don't know who you are what would you want to tell them the keyboard Warriors the bullies I think for those who have is always remember I'm like your sister I'm like your family I'm like your cousin just because you're not related like blood I'm your maybe your closest friend you know when it's happening to someone else out there it doesn't affect you until so let's keep that in mind just because it's happening to someone who's very Untouchable from you it doesn't mean it's not like someone who's close to you so by the time you write something like that as I say you ask about beauty it begins within so let what you say reflect who you are not even about me or spread love as you write something let it reflect who you are if you want to reflect you're a bad person well and good but if you know you're a good person you preach positivity out here you're respectful let it also reflect in how you just because you're in a account people think they can escape you can run but not as fast everything catches up that's one thing I've learned with life you can't so from life so just always remember what might be beautiful but you remove ugly words so we end up seeing you as but have you ever seen someone who looks arant but how they speak it gives them Beauty so let it also reflect in your social medias where us 001 let it also reflect you think you're hiding behind the at the end of the day with your thoughts and who you are let it reflect if you're a beautiful person and you want to be termed as that and you want us to respect you out here let it also come out in the words and then what you type when no one is watching good yes what is your take home from all this all the events that have happened what has what have you learned um I think cing back to when we started is when God is elevating you uh your battles become more so when they become more Don't Be Shaken just pray about it CU God knows why he's putting you there more you know that's why I say sometimes God opens some doors holds some doors cuz maybe you're not spiritually inclined to be able to fight those battles cuz they're not easy I might stand here and smile and all and it's because of cont like how it happened in 2019 you see I drew back from everything so what I've taken out of this is when battles come your way they're not fighting you they're fighting what you have always recall that and that shouldn't stop you from being who you are continue pushing as long as you have people to support you support cuz I know some people don't have support system turn to God he's your greatest supporter and he'll guide you all the way through if you feel you don't have and don't break yeah don't don't break two people have stood out even as you talk about your story so I'm going to give you an opportunity to send them a message maybe we could start with Mom looking that camera and then KY Mom I love you so much you're my greatest cheer leader emotional and I willn't be who I am where I am without your support your home God because the makeup I just want to appreciate you so much momam I know I might not say it enough or straight enough but you play such a huge role in my life and I thank God for you each journey of my life I love you so so so much yeah and I know she loves you right back yes you know you've said some people don't have a support system been there means and she's actually been a huge support system to also other people out there I've seen I think by my mother cuz I've seen her host people carry through them through when they had nothing when theyed has a beautiful Grace to her grace to her yes to know Kyro I appreciate you and I thank God for bringing you into my life I look up to you and I just admire who you are as a human being how you push so much how Innovative you are how defensive you are how Godly you are and you're beautiful in and out and I don't care what people say about you you're the most amazing person I know and I've come across oh that's so beautiful and finally to you to Dear Sarah dear Sarah I love you and I love you for the journeys you've gone through it's been tough it's not been easy but I appreciate you for finding your way back to God for not taking what critics have to say for standing by your family and standing fir in faith and who you are and I know you're going places and this is not even a quarter of what God can do for you by the end of this year people will be speaking great massive things about you and you're going to influence a lot of women who are out there and when they look at you they will see themselves and they'll be elevated good and you are not your first yes Amen to that and you are not your first exactly I appreciate you mine is to encourage you I see you you for me it's your influencing Journey I think there this one photo seen about almost considered bu that it's like trackit outfit Eli yes yes outfit it's outfit and you look so amazing that and I remember saving it and I was like they have all kinds of wear even so you're going to fly out you know f are very comfortable yeah so their clothes are very warm and comfy and so soft and they're easy and nice to fly with I call them they should call them flying outfits good cuz they fly and F and they flying outfit I thatand but you made me love it I I was just talking about your influencing Journey Don't let the world Harden you and I'm glad to see you not the kind to be hardened of course there are moments even me sometimes I'm like oh I host this show I'm strong there moments I'll break down weating on solar and there are moments when I say by the way God no one will make me leave what I'm doing because someone told me I'm not worthy it as long as God says this is me I'm going to do it sometimes I listen to people and I'm like it's not okay for you to let people influence and that's what we do as a society we let people influence us so so much so I want to wind up guys it's good I don't like perfecting things but you see God has given us the grace to be able to finish it so again that's good so bye I love you guys so much uh on Instagram Sarah Tik Tok W verore and I'll be doing more content for you guys Partnerships are Brands out there for you guys and I'll keep on pushing and putting out positivity for you guys and more grace to you as you even do that me I want to see you win I want when you compare this when people guys it's flooding so I see T experience blackout left right and center but I hope we can get to be able to appreciate the opportunities God is giv us me I love that I get to sit with you and just Host this show and just have these conversations with you I don't take it for granted I'm happy I honestly get to host such incredible people and as I was saying do not let what people say out there Harden you this way you know sometimes people mess up they think they bringing you down but they helping in the elevision so I want to see what good will come out of this s and you're also a blessing to a lot of people out there just know that bless a lot of lives yes I receive so don't stop no I receive it so guys uh that's that's just it from us today I really hope you've taken something from today's conversation I really want to know what your take home is I honestly want to I for me it's extend Grace for me it's no matter what happens just because something is happening out there does not give you permission to say something about it if you don't understand it and I hope we can only ly learn a thing or two in today's conversation I've really loved hosting this show I've really loved knowing her I've really loved you know just having and I feel like this is what we should do sometimes we think we know people but we don't know people we don't know people at all and that's why it's always important for you to let just and this thing of perfection we all have a past by us going to be you know anys as I was saying so you know sometimes you people love going back to your past when they we can't access the present you L sitan tell me on the comment section and also follow our guest her handles are on the screen right now and I hope we can continue bringing You Beautiful Stories and learning one story at a time of course thank you to our beautiful sponsors who I spoke about at the beginning of this conversation Kings developers limited and also Mar daddy motos we don't take you for granted but I also have to throw that one there for my brother CYO you can also go get beautiful cards uh from him and also to thank the team that puts this work together uh muga and the rest of the team I appreciate you hopefully by the time you are watching this we'll be in Australia and I can't wait to be able to bring you those beautiful conversations it's been a beautiful Journey 900k subscribers we've walked this journey together press and I know we are doing exactly what what God said we should do on this Earth want to share your story info digital that's where you can always find us but in the meantime be kind let's extend Grace let's extend Grace we honestly don't know what people are dealing with so let's extend Grace So me hopefully I get to see you guys tomorrow at 10: a.m. because like anys guys bye o [Music]

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Published: Sat May 11 2024