Bisexual VS Demisexual dating advice || With Evan Edinger

even focus oh oh you're in focus that's fine yeah we're light now I mean it's your channel hey guys how's it going my name is harmony nice and today this is my first ever actual real-life collab this is my room as well as basically as most of you guys may know me and Evan have different sexualities so we were thinking the in relationships we will probably have a different kind of opinions I guess on stuff probably but it's just kind of interesting big creatures you don't have to do this no I do I do it everybody then I'll edit out you like giving yourself like an hour per day I'm like what's the title called is it called you King hour you do like a really long intro and then like you'll start talking but then you'll bring back stuff from the intro again and do that by the way like me I'm a rubbish Ujima compared to you I'm dating advice yeah basically dating advice dating advice harmony not so quick as well so hey guys welcome to my channel this is called the harmony nice Channel today we're gonna be doing some dating advice my friend how many nice from Norwich and I'm from New Jersey America I'm demisexual but she sends out to be a bit more of a bisexual might be can we just talk about our advice not necessarily as from our sexuality but possibly just you know from ourselves as humans and we'll see what happens that's perfect so let's just start with that on yourself now and as well as going to happen okay so these are just questions that I've kind of taken from previous like YouTube videos that I've seen himself with people just asked me for advice previous Q news I probably never was the first one this going with a deep one would you sleep with somebody on the first day no never like the fastest no it's like something that I think I I would if it was something that I think went really really well and I was like almost sure that I was gonna probably it was gonna go somewhere do you go I'm saying um or just going somewhere for you mean um I mean like more than possibly add more like long-term or if it was something that I knew was just going to be one thing and that's what I wanted mmm-hmm if you go I'm saying I don't think I'd do it if it was somebody that I went on to obviously I'm over stay with and then just thought I might see a Shack I don't know it's kind of like a gray area I think it really really depends on how I go yeah I wouldn't even consider out no I for me it would just have to be multiple multiple multiple multiple just to find out if I really vibe with them if everything I don't know I feel like I have so many red flags that I'll throw up I don't know I make up red flags it's a mental thing I'm I'm like no I'm the I'm the bad decision the other way I don't even let myself half the decision because I find so many things wrong like I don't know she doesn't like to drink and I can't imagine dating someone that doesn't drink at all cuz like that's pretty boring I wanna make sure I got a drink so I want a god if they're not gonna do that ever how we gonna last forever see we like completely yeah going like after the first date like do I could I marry her eventually if I can't choose the point to be bad in that might like in relationships that in some ways like a long time going if I just want to be with somebody just for like two months cuz that's just that's just heading a bad way I think yeah cause your partner's sexuality matter um not really no like as long as they're into me and I'm into them and don't really think it matters what else you're into because that's just cool yeah well unless they're not yet in my section well I don't like men I'm like well oh my god if I have anything that interests you with my ten bucks I meant like as like is that and because I know some people I've initially met people wife date bisexual guys I think that's pretty weird but maybe it's just there isn't it but then like oh it's fine it's like those people it's like guys that are like oh I'll let my girlfriends you know make out with other girls because hey oh my god I'm like well my that's yet again it's one of those biphobic things where people just are silly but if she made out with a guy oh no three hands up it's the same thing kinda I absolutely hate that like one thing about being like a bisexual girl is there a constant question that we get asked is will we have a threesome with another girl them and it's like well do you want to just cheat on me like what I'm glad that we lost basically I've never been interested in the idea of a threesome because I'm not interested in much and anything but to me I'd much rather have something close and personal with one person so the fact would be another person would make me so uncomfortable even if I cared for both of them I'm like but I only want to share this with one person I'm very I'm a Tory I think I have like a huge like sense of like no I'm not like is a bad trait of mine is jealousy I think when it comes to like relationships and started I think everyone will have that as much trust and communication though we don't think jealousy will really do exactly this once you lose that like have you ever like if you go on a date with someone would you split the bill in the first date yeah I always do that and that you happen sometimes they like push you to like yeah not do that I always offer it just because you always offer to split yeah I think that's good you also have I've been on a first date before where it went really really well and I was really excited but then it came down to the point where we had to split the bill and it felt like it just felt like so many eyes are on us during the same scene of our life and luckily she immediately went oh we can split and I felt so relieved because it felt like as a guy it's just my duty to pay for everything but the fact that she did that I was like oh that's great I would go another day yeah however if it was like the best date I've ever been on as well I want to pay I'm like thanks for this you can get me on the next one yeah something next time yeah yeah nice and also it's like kind of like mutual respect and I don't understand why it's a thing like loads of stuff is I get it's nice but then it's also nice for both science yeah it's nice for you to do it to me on a date with a girl once who was like uh we went to a Weatherspoon's first of all which is obviously you know she's cheap whatever and she had said do you mind paying and I was like like before we even ordered anything because I don't really have much money in a way oh okay and she went well you're a youtuber right you've got fun a lot of money and I was like yeah I'm sorry that pocalypse ma'am oh but also I was just like we're now assuming how much money I make did you have to come out about your sexuality do you feel like you needed to didn't need to I I made a video about it because I thought it would be helpful to other people that were similar to me like it genuinely was this is how I am and I felt so alone and like with no sense of it until I read something about it it made so much sense and I was like oh my god that is me and I felt like I owed it to other people similar to just share my experiences and just say hey this might be you cuz this is how I am and it did help so many people that's one of the most liked videos that people come to me about I didn't need to yeah I didn't she watched my video saying mom's good subscribe uh no I didn't really feel like I did because I'm a bit flamboyant doesn't really dad I'll see what youth fruit funny because then it's probably something I've done but like I never actually felt like I needed to come out I did have girlfriends that they definitely didn't know my girlfriend's I used to just bring round I didn't know they didn't they I don't well I was like yeah I'm just like oh right I never really I came out on YouTube and my mom was kind of just like yeah she's like this is great sweet wait Karen your girl my little since I came out my mom went oh that's cool be like that's it yeah I mean I was I was kind of just like alright I never really thought I never ever felt the need but when people were asking me like the loads be blasting on YouTube for ages they're like juice yeah like a bisexual vibe from her so though for I was like because I've known such a long time yeah I just you felt like you were in a glass closet yeah that expression basically everyone knew but you it was kind of like an odd thing where like when I did actually like come out and talk about it I don't know I think people last weathered when the judgment came I spoke about on YouTube yeah there's a lot of judgement inherently when you post anything personal like that yeah basically I didn't want to know this well then uh okay I wanted to say it oh my god who cares who cares just making videos and entertain me please be so stressful to me because I'm so nuk I don't wanna sit said that word I'm very loyal and if I'm with someone I love that one person and the fact that they would just be with anyone and I would also I wouldn't want to just want to be with me I don't understand I'm plus like I said I'm like I've got really like I feel every time I found out exactly and that's like again it's like people if you want that they could just be like oh yeah people that are like very heavily like I just wanna have sex with people I think that's great that fits you not me personally I could not do that so playing footsies under the eventually yeah once like get it covered the next day listen babe about the British citizenship so you know it's not for the past yeah oh yeah I think say a lot of friends of mine are very like never gonna have a baby in marriage and I'm like to me I just know that's what's gonna happen it yeah I think is I never used to you this is another thing changed my mind since I spoke about a previous video I never used to want to get married but now I kind of think of something that I might want to do I don't know it's kind of nice to have a life partner someone's always there conceptive marriage is quite nice to me um children if the time is right again yeah but like everywhere and whenever the time is right I feel like yeah I just want to help raise into the world and yeah things you know I'd like to yeah that'd be cool like actually be a good parent and make someone that can go on after I'm gone to improve the world in a better way it's like a selfish thing look I feel like I have some good morals and I'd like to instill them in someone else that can go on yeah I don't Sooni bet before getting in relationship like how how much time that's like so strange cuz like I never know like once I feel like yeah I really want to see them like multiple times and we've been going out for like a couple times at this point I'm like I'd feel comfortable hmm being in a relationship but it feels so long for me to do so you'd like just like as soon as you feel ready basically yeah there's no like two days I'd really have to feel them out and make sure that because you can scare someone where real fast it's like kind of like again it's like nice and you feel so strongly about somebody well I've rushed you but really really have to have that same level with you like if even a little bit one person likes you more it's it's gonna end badly get it exactly this thing you need to like establish where you are I think I think now I think I would have literally like from all my previous relationships like being single now as Ben you realize I think you need to leave it like a little longer especially Paul moving in together yeah most certainly commutations like final step oh my god even if I save money just like leave it as long as you like yeah one you really want to spend so much time with them that you're like we should spend a lot more time yeah I like how important is a physical part of a relationship I could never date someone that was super far away I used to think like long-distance was possible me but I'm so much oh I'm sorry I thought you meant just hugging you know you said that way I need to be able to hold hands with them at all times no I mean like sexual as in like so how important is like a sexual part of relationship if you didn't have sex with them like ever or like I just occasionally my thing is always just whatever would make them the happiest I'm very much like if I'm in a relationship with someone I want them to be happy so if this is gonna make them happy I will try and pleasure them there you go there's a nice expression I don't know how but it's not as into laughs yeah I just haven't been in a situation where I want it as much as them necessarily yeah so if I was to do something it would be primarily because I want them to be happy I want to see them enjoying the magic have you ever decided not to like I've been with I've been with people that like are very sexual and they've been like I you know don't even have to have sex at all if that's how you're interested and they were like super like chill about it like wow I think I'd have to quite literally be so in love with somebody to like decide not to do that it's very important to you you need to get but when you're in relationship if somebody was like quite literally like I don't want to have sex all the time as well because I like when sex is every so often it's like so much fun I mean yeah when you get used to people it can be a bit like I mean you have to come up with like different ID and it's like great so come up with an idea what's more about let's do the bird box challenge do me blindfolded basically the same thing sex is like YouTube yeah we don't make money on it unless you do what are your thoughts on in a relationship and porn oh I think pool is fine I don't know I feel like like I said I'm very loyal II committed to someone I'd rather focus on them and not even in my head thinking of other people that are in videos or pictures yeah but I don't think I think it's different when you like webcaming somebody's specific webcam like Paul oh okay dad's ah there's always creeped me out because they're always just like yeah and I'm like I wouldn't actually watching porn this is talk about it I don't actually think of the people in the video that's not about you so that's why I'm saying it like it's usually just like more of a thing to like get me going as opposed to like actually being like this person's hot because I don't really think anyone's like I don't actually look at people specifically really yeah you just have to get your brain to make a connection yeah basically no it's not weird um I don't really watch porn no I think it's very similar to your thing in which like it's that like speeds it along process like I've never really I don't really go out of my way to be like I can't wait to do this because a lot of asexuals don't but it's one of those things where like it is healthy to do and I do it every once in a while yeah but it's annoying it's only whenever I feel like oh well hmm do that I feel uncomfortable like so much like porn that I've seen it just grosses me out but it feels so like dirty and fluid and I don't know I'm pretty like there's a bit of repulsion happening as well which so it depends on what it is if it's like super duper like clean I'm that's not dirt either I don't know what it is I'm just genitals brush I don't know how people can look at people having sex and go personally I just go how do you face hate regarding your sexuality yeah I mean I would really call it hate because the thing is like people that are homosexual and people that are bisexual and those are much more like in historically hated and prejudiced against for just with their sexuality which is horrible but mine is more just invisible the hate I get is just not being acknowledged for being real which is so much nicer it's still upsetting because it's like hey you're not real but I I can do with that it's fine I guess still just annoying yeah I've even had people be like that's that's not real no matter what your sexuality is I just don't think it matters to anyone else so like someone say I don't think that's real er I think you're pretending what does that have an effect on me it doesn't I'm still the same way you're still gonna like who you like no matter what someone wrote you know yeah I think with bisexuality like it is I think it's now like it is a natural sexuality but still there's still a lot of people especially like when I've been out with the girls there are lesbians that don't think it's legit and they're like well you obviously are just attracted to girls or like they don't like the fact that you're my secretary it's a really strange and stupid binary way of thinking or if you're dating a guy it's like oh she's straight again yeah and then you start dating a girl it's like damn she's lesbian Am I there's a one in the middle yes pretty easy oh my god yeah I was actually with a guy for like seven months like bye bye bye it should be like the the token song for whole bisexuals yeah I was with a guy for like seven months and we were speaking about my sexuality and he was like well you're not bisexual anymore because you're dating me and me and I was like you're like let me look up this definitely doesn't just stop like imagine if what you dated him you went Oh women are no just when you date guys and they instantly assume like they say like you can kiss girls or they'd be okay with you sleeping all night supply that's me completely like kind of devalue eyes your sexuality yeah like just saying that and it's like really it's like well you knew like well that's really hot I'm always just like okay you could think it's like but it's still like don't say anything weird like just don't do it like stop it Oh last question mm-hmm do you feel worried about telling your potential partners about your sexuality it's always like a weird thing because I don't want to just be like hey so it's nice to finally meet you like I don't really do the sexy time stuff much not something I immediately go off the back with no I don't do the thing it's one of those things were yeah I'm a bit concerned about when to talk about it but it's it is like a free straightaway absolutely not like very very very rarely if we can talk about relationships to talk about that I don't bring it up if it comes up naturally then that's fine if it doesn't it will eventually come up by like second or third day when they're like well why haven't you attempted anything like I don't really feel comfortable at that right now give me some time do you like leave it a wobbly kiss somebody no I've been I've been like my kissing's grades pretty good if I'm like very much attracted to someone and I feel like they are as well I make the move and it works out like I'm good at reading that yeah it just takes a while to get to that point and also I hate PDA so much so like I'm always like oh I really want to do this but there's a lot of people around and I don't want to be that guy that's just making out in the streets of London yeah that would be fighting against myself I'm trying to make myself you know as perfect of relationship partner as possible so then I'll be like by the way I'm broken not broken it's personally I don't like the way I'm necessarily but yeah but yeah most I've been I've been with people that are so accepting and nice good thing I think again same with you if it came up and conversation mm-hmm it would just be like well you're like bias buck touch yeah exactly like I don't know I feel like it's something then I like to know their opinions on it before we're in a relationship because of their opinions on it oh not good so you have to tell yeah you have to figure out the whole life so what are your thoughts oh I'm like girls kissing girls exactly and also some guys really hate the fact like girls of bisexual which is odd cuz I always thought of something it was either gonna be like I felt really hot I have had guys been on dates with guys that have just been like that's not real like all like that's weird weird just be like this is how I am so if you don't believe in it I'm still here and I still feel this way why would I be making this up and why would so many people be made what do we get out of this yeah yeah oh it's gone really like a wholesome ending to a really weird sexual video great thank you guys so much for watching I hope you enjoyed my first as a collab but I hope you enjoy I hope you don't hate on Evans channel we did a like a school game video where we did we did a bridge versus American video on my channel about school games we used to play as kids in the u.s. person even just do all my intros anyway thank you guys very much for watching this lovely harmony nice video if you enjoyed it you can give a big thumb and also subscribe because Harley actually new videos all the time about all this cool stuff also made a video on my channel wait today British versus American school games school games the differences in the u.s. in the UK pretty darn cool thank you guys so much for watching please share to buy her new book and that as well the DA

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Published: Sun Jan 20 2019