- [Voiceover] You may
now kiss the bride. (applause) - [Voiceover] Today, more
than two million couples will marry for love. But half of these marriages
will end in divorce. What happens if you don't
choose the one you marry? - Arranged marriages are
expected in our family. - [Voiceover] Can an old
tradition that's alive and well in America be the answer? - My parents were arranged, all
of their friends were arranged, and that's just
kind of how it is. - Tradition and culture
are very important. - I couldn't be more
excited to be arranged. - [Voiceover] Three
American couples. - David's brother
arranged David and I. Yeah, I couldn't have
orchestrated it better myself. - [Voiceover] From three
different cultures. - God made the man
to take the lead. - [Voiceover] All arranged
by their families. - I'm gonna miss my family. I really am. - [Voiceover] For
better or for worse. - I regret marrying you. - [Voiceover] Through
marriage, can they find love? - This relationship's
never gonna work. - Only time will
tell whether or not he is the right one for me. (upbeat music) (upbeat music) - In traditional
arranged marriages, in the Orthodox
Jewish community, there are very strict rules. There is the, what they
call Shomer negiah, which means that they
are not allowed to touch, which is certainly why they're
interested in getting married when they're 23 years old. You know, you get to a point
where you need to be together. - Woah, I mean yeah. (laughter) - [Vicki's Friend] Oh, do
you wanna look at the menu? - [Vicki] Yeah, I'm starving. - It's probably
not Kosher though. - Yeah. - Remember that time in Israel
where everything was Kosher and you never had
to worry about it? - Skittles, Doritos, all the
things we can't eat here. - Yeah, bacon. Not gonna happen. Let's go. - Yeah. I'm Vicki Anderson. I'm 21 years old. I live on the Upper West Side. Very fun, happening
neighborhood. Oh, I never wanna move. Living on the Upper West
Side kind of feels like I'm living in a TV show like
"Friends" or "Sex in the City." It's a little surreal. - It's so crazy. Like, if you weren't religious, we would not be here right now. - We would not be
at this restaurant. I was raised in a
secular Jewish family. My family definitely didn't
follow all of the rules, but I made the choice
to become Orthodox, because the more I
learned about it, the more meaning and purpose
I found within my own life. But it's a big commitment, and when I get married, it's gonna change a
huge aspect of my life. Did you think five years
ago we'd be sitting here and I'd be engaged to Ben Spear from the golf team? (laughter) I grew up in Seattle, and me and Ben knew
each other as kids. We went to middle
school together, but we definitely
weren't friends. So I got to New York and
I went to a charity event, where I saw Ben. And in Modern Orthodox
culture, you can be arranged by matchmakers or your friends. So I let people know
that I was interested, and not long after
that, we were arranged. - [All] Hi.
- [Friend] Hey, hey girls. Long time, no see. - Hi.
- I'm Ben. - This is Chana, my roommate. And then this is Zack. - Just so you know, she's
very easy to live with. - Oh, yeah. I gotta hit
up your old roommates. - Does she snore? - I know I do. I know I snore! - As soon as I knew that I
was ready to get married, I wanted to be arranged. After running into Vicki, I noticed that she
was dressed modestly. And she was dressed like
someone who was Orthodox. And that instantly set off
a lightbulb in my head, because I always had
this interest in her. And so I was just waiting. I was waiting for the moment when someone would
suggest her to me. I was so excited. - So, have you thought about covering your hair
when you're married? - I mean, I've definitely
thought about it. I haven't fully decided yet.
- Mm hmm. - It's a big decision. In our Modern Orthodox culture, there's a lot of rules
you have to follow. And according to a Torah law, women are supposed
to cover their heads after they get married. A married woman's hair
is meant to be private, in between a husband and wife, not for everyone to see. - [Chana] You should
go try some on, no? - Yeah, I don't really even
know who I would go to. I like my hair a lot,
and covering it would be, you know, I would miss my hair. I look at married women, and they look so happy
with their husbands And they have their
beautiful sheitels. But then when I actually think about having to start
doing that myself, I'm like, "Woah,
what?" (laughter) I don't know, the whole
thing really freaks me out. - When I first started
looking to be arranged, I would not have
gone out with girls who weren't planning
on covering their hair. That is definitely
seen as a big mitzvah, a big commandment that
is really important. (twangy music) - I think there's a world of
difference between a Baptist and a Southern Baptist. A Southern Baptist, the man
runs and controls the family. Let me be the first to tell you, we are not a Southern
Baptist family. A Baptist family is we pray together, eat
together, argue together, but in the end, I'm
always right. (laughs) - Go get 'em, tiger. - [Minister] We are gathered
together to honor one name, the name of Jesus. We shout to God with great joy, we honor you and thank you in the precious name of Jesus. Hallelujah. - My faith is something that's really near
and dear to my heart. But my personality is larger
than the state of Texas. I'm four-foot eleven, but my attitude makes me
feel like I'm ten feet tall. - Book of Genesis, Chapter One. - I've always gone to church
with my family, every Sunday, for as long as I can remember. And the fact that this
is my last one with them as Taylor Grub, it's
really bittersweet for me. My fiancé, David, and
I are getting married in less than a week. David is my best friend,
Jordan's, older brother. And Jordan arranged
David and I together. - [Minister] We give you
praise, in Jesus' name. Everybody said, "Amen." God bless you.
- [Congregation] Amen. - [Taylor] Traditionally,
in the South, it's important that
our families get along and they approve of
this whole arrangement. And on paper, it's perfect. But the reality is our
families just hate each other. (rhythmic music) - So going into
this last week here, we've got pretty much
everything kind of tied and controlled together
and everything. I think the only loose end
that we have to watch all week is just Melba. - My relationship with
my future mother-in-law, my Melba-in-law, at the
moment is non-existent. It started off well enough. Everyone was happy and excited about all the wedding planning, but Melba was struggling with "There's another female
in my son's life." And the more we planned,
the uglier she became. And really, the last
straw was an email Melba's husband sent to David. - After that letter
that kind of came out-- - That email? - What are the
emails and letters? - The letter pretty much said that you're gonna be
miserable your entire life if you're married to her. And I doubt y'all will
make it five years. - You're kidding. - Oh no. - From there, it just became
a big blown-up battle. It came a point where Melba
was pointing at me in the face, saying, "You are not the person "that should be
marrying my son." - David probably shoulda
never let us read it, just 'cause it pissed
us off so much. - No, the letter
said, "Go ahead." - Melba and Ken have
all but made it clear that we're beneath them. We're just a prior
military family. We don't have what they have. We don't live the way they live. It's kind of disgusting. - So, given all this, how are you gonna
deal with Melba? - Not my job. That's
what Mom's for. - Who's your Mama? Can she handle it? I'll handle it. - You scare me sometimes. - As it should be. (laughter) Taylor absolutely loves David,
and that's what matters most. So, at some particular point, I have to accept the
fact she's gonna be my daughter's mother-in-law, but in the South, I can be nice to you, but
you're still on my hit-list. So we're having the bridesmaids'
party before the wedding, so what do you think
about inviting Melba? - No, that's like right
before the wedding. I can't-- - [Trisha] I think
she should be invited. It's customary.
- [Taylor] I can't. - [Trisha] It's tradition that
both the mother of the bride and the mother of
the groom be there. The flower girls'
moms are coming, so I don't see why
not invite her too. - Well, I get what you're
saying, and I understand it. It's me reaching out to her. It's like extending
the olive branch that she keeps trying
to shove down my throat. - Well then I will extend
the invitation to her. - Okay, if she comes and she
tries to instigate anything-- - Then you'll know
where she stands. - Then I'll know
where she stands. - Because she shows her own
true colors, so to speak. - [Taylor] Exactly. (lively music) - So in our culture, a big
family is also very important. He wanted to have twins. - I wanted 11 children,
because, remember, I wanted to make a cricket team. - Yes. (laughter) (lively music) - I am a traditional
Hindu Indian girl. I live with, what, seven
members of the family? I'm home. (family greetings) - It's never quiet at home. It is a very fun, yet
chaotic household. - [Dolly] Today I'm making your
favorite beet salad. - [Maneka] Really?
- [Dolly] Yeah. - [Maneka] Yum yum yum. My brother, Chirag,
is arranged with Renu. That's kind of
expected in our family. But about ten years
ago I was married. I kind of went out of the norm, and instead of getting arranged, I married for love, and it ended up in a
disastrous divorce. And so this time, I'm
going with tradition, and I'm entering into an
arranged marriage with Mayur. Renu, my wedding is in like
less than three weeks now. - [Renu] I know. I met Mayur when he
hired me as a realtor at Keller-Williams,
Newport Beach. The very first month, he told
me that he wanted to marry me. I didn't really see him
as a potential for future, because he was
very Americanized. He had a tattoo. He always dated American girls. But after a couple months, I really started
to respect Mayur, and the way he dressed
was phenomenal. And I started, you know, finding
him even more attractive. Remember when you were
like two months away from getting married to Chirag, you called me up,
and you were like, "Maneka, I'm so
nervous right now. "I don't know if I
want to marry him yet." What made you realize
"Okay, he's the one." - I wanted to have
sisters, mom, dad, like whole family
package, right? And Chirag had that. - See that's a lot of trust, because my first relationship, when I got married, I
thought the same thing, that I'm gonna be taken care of, financially,
emotionally, everything. And, you know, it was a huge
shock to me that it wasn't. My first husband, he seemed to be the
right one at that time, but I was really young, and
I was lied to quite often, and he pretty much
used me for a Visa. It really hurt my entire family. - It's really very embarassing, you know, because we had
to face the whole society. And emotionally, we
are getting hurt too. - It's still overwhelming. You're starting a new
life with a new person. You know, Mayur's assured
me that he's different, and he would never hurt me, and you know, I'm
putting my trust in him. I swear, if this one fails... I don't know, I'm
just gonna be single, because I don't wanna
go through it again. I'm done. It's time for me to be happy. - You will be. He's such a nice guy, I know. - Yeah, he is. - I decided to have my mom
extend the invitation to Melba, to come to my
bachelorette party. It's the proper thing to do. But the thing is, if she does not behave, there is a whole
mess of my girls that are all going to be there, watching her derrière. I just hope she knows
exactly what's gonna happen if she shows up and decides
to act like a crazy person. (cheering) I'm not nearly drunk
enough for this yet. Melba was texting David
pictures of the stripper. That's a bitch move
and a half there. - The bride becomes the
property of her husband. - So, you're my
property now, right? - No. - Talk to the priest. (lively music) - Wow, I can't believe
we're here, together, you know, arranged, when before we were just,
you know, in high school. - I'm totally ready to
just finally be married. When you are not married,
the prohibition of touch is just like a safeguard.
- [Vicki] Safeguard. - [Ben] It's something
which is supposed to prevent sexual relations from occurring. - So tough. - It is really, really difficult
not to touch the person you're about to get married to. Um (sighs) um. Neither of us has
had sex with anyone. (laughs) - There's another word for that. I don't like saying it. It's a little hard with
everyone back home, who's maybe not as
religious as us, keeps saying to me, "You're really young. "Do you really feel like
you're doing the right thing?" Does it, like, place any
doubt in your mind? - No, not at all. You? Does it do that for you? - No. I am driven to, you know,
really committing myself to this Orthodox lifestyle. I believe that the
right thing to do, even if it's difficult. But there are a
lot of expectations for what a Jewish wife
is supposed to do. I have this image of myself
being this happy, smiling wife you know, that takes care
of her husband, and I want that. But it scares me a little bit, because I'm not sure if I can
live up to those expectations. Right now it just seems
completely out of my league. ♪ Baby, don't you know ♪ ♪ What you mean to me ♪ - Ready, Sketti? - I'm starving. - I know you are. You're always starving. - Hey, I forgot something. Hold on. I'm your typical
guy from Fort Worth. I love football. My family's very
important to me, and now that
Taylor's in my life, she's just my world right now. - Thank you. - But the fact that my mom
and Taylor don't get along, it bothers me. I have to deal with that
in the back of my mind every day at work, that the day of my wedding
is supposed to be a great day of my life, and nobody's
gonna get along. How much more do we have left? - Catering's done,
venue, church, all that. It's just a matter of
getting everything together. I need to finish the table
decorations, find linens. - I really wish
that we had eloped or actually gone to Vegas. You know, our honeymoon
would've been taken care of, I would've had fun, you would not have had fun. - No, ma'am. The only other thing
that's on my mind is the bachelorette party. I want things to be better
between your mother and I. I'm not sure that
they will be though. So, this could be
a total disaster. - Did I happen to say
you look beautiful? - Quit sucking up. (light music) - So you know, according
to our tradition, arranged marriage is
the boy's family comes and talks to the girl's family. - When Maneka came to us, she comes home and she says, "You know, Mayur
has told me that, "'I wanna get married to you.'" So we were all like-- - I was like, wait a
minute. What's going on? (laughs) Wait, wait, wait. Let's see whatever guy he is. - Yeah, we gave Mayur
quite a hard time. - Okay, guys, can you come seat? Mom, food's really good. - [Dolly] Yeah? - [Chirag] I have a
whole 'nother plate I couldn't even get to. - So Chirag, I was kind
of questioning Renu about when you
guys got arranged. - [Raju] Was it love
at first sight, or no? - [Charig] For her, it was. (laughter) For me, I thought about it. - Well, I mean, it
was arranged, right? How do you just fall
in love that second? What if it doesn't
work out, you know? I'm a little nervous. - You just know. When you know, you know. - Oh, you did? - [Mayur] Hi, guys. (family greeting) - [Maneka] Hey, babe. - Success is everything to me. I'm extremely passionate
about carving out a big piece of this world for myself. When you want something,
you go after it, which is a clear example
of what I did with Maneka. - In our culture, it is
mandatory to ask permission to the father for the
bride's hand in marriage. And so, Mayur had to
talk to my dad first. Come sit here. - When I asked Maneka's
dad to marry Maneka, he immediately said, "No," and it lit a fire in me. I was very passionate
about being with her, and I actually told him that, "I will take your 'no'
today, but respectfully, "I'm telling you, I'll
never stop pursuing her." - [Raju] You don't
need anything? - No, no. I ate before. - She made buttered
chicken especially for you. - As a dad, Raju is
emotional about Maneka and wants to makes sure
that the man she marries is the one who will take
care of his daughter. - Yeah, exactly. So, are you ready to be
a part of this family in less than three weeks? - Yeah. - [Charig] Trick question. - My parents were arranged
in a very traditional sense, so I'm not at all nervous
about this marriage. Do I wish I was
Maneka's first husband? I mean, absolutely. Does that discount
my feelings for her? Absolutely not. You know, I found
the lotto ticket. I found the winning
lotto ticket, and just 'cause somebody's
won the lotto a long time ago, doesn't mean that my winnings
are not gonna be just as good. To be honest, marrying
her saves me money, 'cause when we file
jointly, (laughs) it's actually pretty good. - I trust my dad, and
I trust my family, and what they say
really does matter. But you know, honestly, I
don't know Mayur very well, and it's only natural to kind
of feel not 100 percent as yet, and only time will
tell whether or not he is the right one for me. (announcer speaking
and crowd cheering) - I love my mom to death, and she supports me. And it's real important
to have that person that you can rely
on and count on. And I'm extremely blessed
to have her in my life. But she can be crazy sometimes. - [Melba] You see my new boots? - Why are they all shiny? - They're patent leather. I got new boots. - These are boots, Mom. You ready for the
wedding to be over? - No, I'm excited. I can't wait to see what
you guys have put together. - This whole, our families
not getting along, I am a little
nervous about that. - (sighs) I just wanted to come and enjoy some time
with you, David. In the South,
family is important. And what I want for my
sons and their future wives are loyal, supportive, smart,
and lady-like young women, and that's not Taylor. The drama comes from the fact
that your wife says things that I feel are not appropriate
to a future mother-in-law. Taylor is threatened by the relationship
that David and I have, and so she is disrespectful in
ways that I am just appalled, and it's because she
wasn't raised correctly. We are different kinds
of people, she and I, but sometimes it rubs
me the wrong way, and I struggle with it. - I hate feeling conflict
between the two families. It's extremely frustrating. I really don't know what,
I'm stuck in the middle. A lot of hurtful things
were said in the past by both sides, and let's move past
that and move forward. - Okay. Sounds like a good plan to me. I want David to be happy, but I'm not gonna change. If you do something
to offend me, I will say something,
whether you like it or not. - In Orthodox Judaism,
married women wear wigs. WIth Victoria becoming
more observant, I have a hard time with the wig, and I don't know why. It, for some reason,
makes me sad. The first time I
see her in the wig, it'll be very strange for me. I might yank it off. I'll go to therapy
over that one. - I think the wig store is
around the corner over there. I'm not sure, actually. Today we're going
to Gali's Wigs. I feel like I need
Rebecca to come with me, and to support me emotionally, because this is such
a big commitment. Rebecca's one of
my best friends. We met in summer camp, and we've been
really, really close. - I can't believe you're
gonna cover your hair. - I don't know. I'm not
so sold on it yet. I'm still kind of
thinking about it. Covering your hair is actually
an Orthodox Jewish law. It's like a constant
reminder that you're married, and that that's
what your life is. - Is Ben pressuring you to? - It's more like
everyone in his community covers their hair,
so I feel pressure, because I would be like a
black sheep if I didn't do it. If I decided not to wear
a wig in the first place, I think people
might talk about it or make their own judgements, assume that I'm not as
religious as other people, which isn't true. I mean, it's just something
that's very prominent in the Jewish community. Hi.
- [Charlene] Hi - I'm Vicki. Nice to meet you. So it does feel overwhelming. - So, this is really exciting. - Wowza. - I don't want you to look
like a totally different Vicki. - I wanna feel like myself. That's really important to me. So, what do you think
of something like this? - Um, I don't know if
the bangs are for me. The curly ones are so weird. - Okay, how about
something like this? - I like that. - Yeah? - I really like
that, actually, yeah. - Why don't we try this on? - Okay.
- [Charlene] Perfect. - That's hot. (laughs) - Look all the way up for me. And now hold on to here. - [Rebecca] There it goes. - [Charlene] Here it goes. - Forever. Goodbye, hair. Oh, man. - Bangin'. It looks ridiculous on you. Just being honest. - I need you to be honest. - I think no bangs. - No bangs. Let's go with no bangs. So again, look all
the way up for me. The color on this is
actually not so bad. - [Vicki] It's a little darker. - But what we're gonna
do is kind of tease the front of your
hair a little bit. Take a look at that. That looks quite natural. - [Rebecca] Wow, subtle. - So we can cut the pieces
that we've selected. And if you love it, you take it, and if not, you don't
have to worry about it. What do you think? - That sounds like a
really good opportunity, but I don't know. I feel like I still have
so much to think about. - I can see you have a
lot goin' on in your mind. - I might just need a little
more time to think about it. - Absolutely. - I'm basically promising
that every single time I leave the house, I'm
gonna have my head covered, whether it be with
a hat or with a wig. It's not something
that is ever gonna end. And that's just a huge
commitment to take on and not an easy one. It's gonna be a huge
life adjustment for me. - You're gonna look
great no matter what. Don't worry about it. - I am a complete
mess inside right now. My dad wants to talk
to Mayur one more time. What if he doesn't approve, and then I would have
to say bye to Mayur. But I really hope it
doesn't come down to that. - In a Texas wedding, there's
gonna be a lot of gossip. Even when I go to a wedding, I'm gonna comment on the cake, or "What the hell was she
thinkin' decorating with that?" - I believe it's all women's, because men usually,
"Okay, it's food. "We'll eat it." (laughter) - [Trisha] Yay, dress time! - I can't wait to
see this dress. I'm doing my final
dress fitting today, and I'm actually
a little nervous. This dress better fit. The last fitting, the dress
was a little more snug than I care to admit. - And we're just gonna duct
tape you into the dress, like all the way around. Just duct tape ya. - [Taylor's Friend]
That's so funny. - Let's go! - [Taylor's Friend]
Hold on, let me see. Where's the--? - It was right there. Yeah. (zipper pulled up) Good. (cheers) - Suctioned in. - See? It's perfect. - [Taylor's Friend]
That's what you gotta do. - [Trisha] Oh my
God! I love that. - It just makes
you look flawless. - I can already tell you, Melba's gonna be
critical of the dress. Does it matter? I don't think
anybody's as high-class as they think they are, and I especially don't
think Melba's as high-class, high-society as
she thinks she is. I can smell a little white-trash on her every once in a while. Do you feel good in the dress? - I love this dress. - [Trisha] Then that's
the end of it. Just because you walk around
with a designer pair of jeans, doesn't make you a good person. And I think that that's a perceptions that
she tries to sell, is that she is
somebody she's not. Let's hope for the best, and you know what, if they do, I have a couple of
mimosas in me already. I can handle that. (laughs) - Mama needs a drink. (upbeat music) - [Trisha] Okay, Taylor,
this is the last night as a single woman. Are you ready for this? - I am ready for this. Tonight is very important
that there is no drama. - [Trisha] Here we go. Ready? (cork pops) (cheering) - With all the differences
we've had this last year-- - [Trisha] Mother of the groom. - I feel like there needs to
be an olive branch extended, and if tonight can start
that, then I'm all for it. (cheering) - [Melba] God,
they all look good. - [Trisha] I know.
- [Melba] This is pretty. I'm here to keep an eye open, because I don't think
Taylor knows how to behave and how to act like a lady. (cheering) - [Taylor] Oh my God!
(cheering) Oh, God.
(laughing) I was like, "Oh my God! "I have the best and the
worst Maid of Honor ever." Oh my. - The stripper came. The stripper did what
he was supposed to do. I wasn't comfortable with it. (uproarious laughter) Tacky? - Oh, I'm not nearly
drunk enough for this yet. - But then again, I
don't expect class. And so she didn't
surprise me at all. - Basically, my mom sent
a picture of a stripper on top of my future wife. Now I can't get
it out of my head. Is my future wife going
to be loyal to me? I really need to talk to
Taylor about this text, and before the wedding, because if I'm up at the altar and I'm still
thinking about this, it's gonna drive
me crazy that day, and it shouldn't happen. (light music) - What time are you
expecting him to come? - He's supposed to be here soon. - Okay, we'll wait. - I know you're gonna
talk to Mayur today. What are you gonna say, I mean? - Well I have to
ask him something, so I am comfortable. - Yeah, but like what? - Dad this time
is gonna make sure that, you know, you
marry the right guy. - Maneka's first husband, he
seemed to be very charming, and, you know,
very good-looking. Indian family, good job. On the face, everything
looked very good. So we just said, "Okay." Two years later, he
showed his true colors. - Hello! - So with Mayur, I wanna
make sure that she doesn't make
such mistake again. Can we have a little talk? - Yeah, let's go. - I don't want to
make a quick decision. Well, you know, there are so
many concerns which I have. I know you are a CEO
of a big company. I would like to know
how much you are making. - In terms of my income... of the population, I'm in
the top two, three percent. - Also, I hope you
know she is a Sindhi, and you are a Gujarati. Gujaratis are very
different than Sindhis. Food and culture and,
most importantly, the language is a problem, because Gujarati is
a different language, and my first preference
was always Sindhi, because, for our family, tradition and culture
is very important. - I love the Sindhi culture, and I don't think
that you should be exactly the same
as your partner. It adds different culture, different things to learn. - Of course, being my daughter,
and I love her too much, most important thing for me
is to make sure she is happy. I don't want her to get hurt. - I completely understand
all those concerns. You know, I believe life is
about being with a partner and being in love and
creating a family. And Maneka, she just is special. I believe that I'm here in
this world to take care of her. That's my only goal now in life. - You know, with
all my questions, of course he was
quite uncomfortable, but I had to do it to
make sure I'm comfortable. And Mayur convinced me that
he's very serious about Maneka. Even though Mayur is a Gujarati,
I gave them my blessing. - Learning about my religion, taking these steps to become
a more religious person has created this new path
that I'm so happy with, and the worst-case scenario nightmare situation for me would be losing my passion
and my drive for this. It does happen to some people, where they just don't
end up sticking with it. And I just hope that I
can continue to learn and to not mess this up, because we're trying
to build our lives around this philosophy. (country music) (whoops) - [Trisha] All right,
who needs champagne? - To David and Taylor, cheers. - [Taylor] Cheers. - My mom really messed up. I'm bothered by the text. I'm bothered that I
had to see the picture with the stripper
on top of Taylor. That's my future
wife right there. Seeing another man
on her is an image that I can't get out of my mind. Can I talk to you for a second? - Yeah. - I'm gonna tell her
that it bothered me, and that no matter what, I
don't want her to do that again. - What's up, babe? - Nothing. You having fun? - I am. So what's up? What you wanna talk about? - Just the other night. I know you had your little
champagne and dessert thing. - Mm hmm.
- How was that? - It was good. - Okay, so I wasn't
expecting this, but this is why I
wanted to talk to you. My mom sent a picture. - Yeah, and obviously-- - She gave me almost
like a play-by-play, and I could've done without
seeing that, but I mean-- - Yeah, I understand
your annoyance. I didn't set it up, but I don't understand why
she would take pictures, deliberately, of a bachelorette,
and send them to her son. - I-- - So is she trying
to instigate stuff? I thought we were trying to
put all this stuff behind us. That's a bitch move
and a half there. I don't understand
what kind of person would try to purposely
sabotage her child's wedding. That's just unfathomable to me. Is this what I'm gonna
have to deal with the entire marriage? Is it things like this from her? She's starting (bleep). - Better person. - I've had to be the
better person all year. At what point do I just tell
her to absolutely butt out? - We should focus on
that after tonight. Everyone's getting along. Nothing needs to
be said tonight. - [Taylor] I agree. - Getting married tomorrow, so-- - Well, as long as
you're not mad at me. You know I tell you
everything anyway. - And I tell you
everything, too. - I actually feel like I
really could cry right now. It's just really frustrating. (upbeat music) - As we all sit
together as a family, the traditional name for
this ceremony is Vagdanam. - Today's the very
first ceremony that is starting us off
on our wedding events. It's called a Puja. It's about my family
giving me away and blessing me on my journey. - So we pray that Lord Ganesha
gives you clear sailing, removes all
obstacles. (chanting) In traditional times,
the bride was considered the property of her parents, and then the bride becomes
the property of her husband. - So, you're my
property now, right? - And you keep saying that, and I'm not your
property. (laughs) - Our priest, ordained by God, said that you, after
we get married, are my property. - Okay, a woman shouldn't
be someone's property. We are goddesses. I'm not your property. - Not yet. - No. - You can talk to the
priest. (laughter) (Maneka sighs) - [Ben] Oh man, I hate winter. - [Vicki] Yeah. - [Ben] It's freezing, and I feel like it's
bedtime at seven. - You know, if you're tired,
we don't have to go tonight. We are going to Gali's wigs. I'm not exactly sure how I feel, and it's just a little, I guess "scary"
is the best word. - Why wouldn't we go? - I don't know. I just, I'm starting to
kind of get worried about a few different things. - [Ben] Okay. - Like the money. We need so many other
things right now. It's thousands of
dollars to buy one wig, and it's not only the
initial cost of the wigs. It's the upkeep of the wigs, washing them, styling them, and it's not like they
last forever, you know. You have to replace
them every few years. - Does it hurt to
go check it out? - [Vicki] I guess not. - [Ben] Let's do it. - Yeah. - If Vicki decided that she
didn't want to cover her hair, that's her decision. However, I definitely
will be disappointed. - Hi, Charlene. Nice
to see you again. - Nice to see you again. - This is Ben, my fiancé. - [Charlene] Hi, Ben.
- [Ben] Nice to meet you. - What I'm struggling
with the most is not feeling like myself. My hair is a really big
part of my identity, and putting on another set of
hair, it's still not the same. I'm not gonna feel like myself. Still have no idea
what I'm doing. - Looks exactly like her hair. - That's the point. It's really good
you're doing this. You just gotta be
really supportive. 'Cause remember,
it's harder for her than it is for you. - [Ben] Right. - [Charlene] Ben, what do
you think of your lady? - This is your wife. - This sort of just
(squelches) blends together. - Right? And to think that she
is doing this for you and for the sanctity
of your marriage, and for the holiness
of your home. Your approval means
a lot to Vicki. - I'm concerned that
maybe he won't like them as much as he likes
my actual hair. I want him to think I'm
beautiful all the time. So for him to not
like the way I look after we're married would
be a big problem for me. - That looks amazing. She looks beautiful. - [Vicki] Oh, thank you. - [Ben] She does. - I think I can do it. - [Ben] Yeah? - Yeah. Yeah. Let's do it. - Let's do it. - My life is really
changing right now. See you later. Bye. - Bye. - I wanna feel good about
this new life that I'm in, but I'm going to
have a whole huge set of responsibilities now. I have husband to take care of. I'm gonna be married and not
be the same Vicki I was before. The transition into Orthodox
married life scares me a lot. (slow twangy music) - [Taylor] Oh my God! My dress just busted. - [Trisha] Your zipper? - My zipper just busted. That whole, look at that. - [Trisha] Oh my God. - The back of it just busted. Oh my God. - Well, at least it happened after the rehearsal
dinner was over. - What if this happens in
my wedding dress tomorrow? - No, ma'am. No drama. No drama tonight,
no drama tomorrow. - Oh, no drama tonight? Oh, there was drama. - [Trisha] Tonight? - [Taylor] Tonight. - [Trisha] But it was quiet. - No, David came over and
asked me to just talk. Melba was texting him pictures, from the champagne
and desserts thing, of the stripper
the entire night. - Well I hope she got a
cheap thrill off that. It's probably more than
she's ever experienced. (laughs) - But seriously.
- I'm just sayin'. She came solely
for the purpose of trying to sabotage the party
by sending David pictures. That kind of chaps my ass. I'll call her tonight, and
I'll tell her flat out, "I can't believe you
pulled this crap. "Don't come to
the damn wedding." - No. - I know Taylor told
me not to say anything, but, honest to God, if she does one thing
tomorrow to piss me off, I will chew her up one
side and down the other. And I really don't care that
it's the day of the wedding, because she walks out the door, what's the worst can happen? Two less people to feed? - It's the night
before our wedding. I need tomorrow to go well. I don't know if
Melba's intent was to try and stop the
wedding from happening, because there was a
stripper on my lap, but all this backstabbing, malicious intent needs to stop. We're getting married,
whether Melba likes it or not. - In Hindu culture, when a
girl goes through a divorce, it is like, "Oh, she's used." So having to
announce to the world that you're getting married
again with another big wedding. It's hard, you know. After my love marriage
didn't work out, I really need this arranged
marriage to be perfect. Hi, Mom. - [Dolly] Hi. - In addition to
working as a realtor, I'm a fashion designer, and my mom and I own a
clothing store together. Did the gowns come
in that I designed? - No, I think it's still
gonna take a little bit. - I'm a perfectionist when it
comes to planning my wedding. I have personally
designed all of my outfits for my six or seven
different events, and I'm really
overwhelmed right now, because we're about three
weeks away, 'til the wedding, and all my dresses
are still in India. - Do you want to meanwhile
have a look at something, even as a backup? - If the wedding outfits
don't get here on time, it's just not gonna
be the same for me. I do like it. I just-- - It's not again
what you envisioned. - No. This was supposed to be a
fairy tale wedding, you know? This could be an option. - You have all your shoes
and everything taken care of? - No, I don't have
anything ready. - Oh my God, Maneka. - I don't have any. That's what I'm saying. I just feel like
everything's so rushed. I rushed into my first
marriage really quickly, and I didn't get to
know him well enough. I believed everything he said. I'm a little smarter now. I'm not as naive. But still, having gone
through what I have, I'm scared. The last thing I ever
want is another divorce. Like, I think that
will just kill me. I don't think I can
go through that again. - Oh, I'm sure. I mean, I saw you cry. I saw you sob. Now, you don't need to cry now. Please don't, 'cause
I'll cry then. Listen-- - Well, you know, I just-- - [Dolly] No, no, no, I know. I know, I know. It's okay, it's okay. - Hey Taylor, it's raining. So, like, who's got your dress? - How heavy is it raining? - Like really bad. Like it's Noah's ark. - What's your version of
really bad, because mine-- - It's Noah's ark,
according to-- - Oh, well that's not too bad. This is an arrangement
that's gone horribly wrong. Our families still
aren't getting along, but what needs to happen is
they need to bite the bullet and deal with it. This day is about David
and I getting married, and, dammit, people
should be there for us. - [Hair Stylist]
Woo! There you go. Look at that! - We've got some height. - [Trisha] Now you're
five feet tall. - I am. And I don't even
have heels on yet. (knocking) - Mother of the groom is here. - Look at you! - Hi, Melba! (kissing) - If Melba decides
for some reason to start something
with me right now, the first chance there
is for her to be removed, she will be. - Melba, I love
your son to death. I will kill him before
the end of the day. Melba shouldn't cross me. - I forgive you
for wearing blue. Taylor should've said, "Mom, let's go out and find
you something special to wear." - Ben and I are
never gonna agree. - Getting married is gonna be
a big change no matter what. - I don't think it's
the most practical move. - Vicki's attitude
caught me off-guard. - I just think we should
keep our options open. - We are two weeks
away from the wedding. - Maneka, how's
those beers coming? (laughter) - Have you heard of the phrase "When you marry someone,
you marry their family?" You're marrying into this. - This is a side of Mayur I
haven't really seen before. (laughing)
