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[Music] do you have any kids yes i do i have too so in other words marriage but i don't have kids um it wasn't really that me and their father was together as teenagers and just by the time we got to uh the marian age i would say by the time we were 23 24 looking towards marriage i was done with the relationship um he cheated a lot but you already had the kids yes we already had children yes so this one so i've said this before and i said again black women it seems like being a being a wife is more of a big deal than being a mother for some people it was never that type of thing to me and maybe because of what i saw as far as being a wife you know okay so so why don't you okay so i don't want to just assume but how do you kids 14 and i 14 and 9 and how do you 33 33 yes so you had a kid at 18 or 19 years old and then another one at 24 25 23 24 yes all right so why was marriage no big deal to you um marriage was never a big deal on my i i would say because i personally never um i think i have like commitment phobia almost you know what like i have a thing with commitment i just don't personally believe you know the vibe but you that you made a baby with something i don't see people live their lifestyle basically so so another so what see this doesn't make sense to me is man cause like phobias and commitment you committed to being somebody's mama until you die yes what is it with women like yourself that don't seem to realize that that's crazy to us meaning that you it's all right to be a mama and struggle or try to make try to do the job of two people as one person well actually i've never had to do the job as far as their dad by myself because their dad has always been present however um in a single mom aspect of you know us living apart i live you know in my separate state and you live in yours we get it confused just because a child can be maintained a roof over here food owners on the plate and clothes on the back does not mean a child is being arranged the job trying to do the job of two people means you're one person in the house correct that means there's a deficit that means you're one side you are unbalanced it's a female's way of looking at things with no man in the house and as somebody who has had to try to do things on the weekend that's not the same no that's not the same however that doesn't mean every woman i don't you get what i'm saying some women look at marriage or being a wife as a pivotal point to success and in life that just never been you sometimes so it's all right so it's basically okay to walk around with you and kids and no no structure no not me and my kids and no structure yes we probably should have more structure with having a father in the home absolutely it's more structured but it's okay for me to not be to be committed to being a mother but not being committed to being a wife no it's not what i'm saying no no the results are really clear that's why the black community is at the bottom because there's so many women that like yourself think all right i'll i'll commit to being a mother this is the listen your child is 14-9 you don't know what it's going to be yet you don't know until they're out of your house and realize every 18 what kind of people do we make so you really don't know yet but what we do know is the woman that came before you that have children and don't worry about marriage do you have boys or girls i have a son and a daughter so you don't want your daughter to be married either no not that i don't want my daughter to be married if that's what she wants to do she can but i've never made it a priority or a thing for myself that's just me i don't think it was all right i have not met the man that i feel that i can commit to did you feel like to me you could do what that i could commit to with the way that he actually just like perfect example i couldn't walk see ma'am all this stuff will make sense if you wouldn't decide to make it become a mother once or twice and this is what i need you ladies to start listening to close your mouth listen listen listen this is what's wrong for the parliament community we got women making stand this stuff and y'all don't listen to the rep this is why communities jacked up we got so many individual women talking about well you know i don't need to i don't i don't know a man who can do this or that it's like well who cares you you're somebody's mother and we need families yes we do need families but i do not support being a family with a male just because you have a penis does not mean you can leave but then why have this babies we were in love we had children just like people get married and they get divorced it's the same thing no it's not it is not it is it is not the same thing and that's the what's the difference there's another jacked up part of you don't even know what you basically what you're saying is like so many women whether you're married or not man it don't matter because people can divorce with marriages whether we get married now relationships can break up it's this all things are equal it's always relative and the problem is in our community this is this is how women think it's no big deal whether you're married or not just make the babies and and have fractured broken homes because no nobody else we've been set up to have a fractured or broken home because we have not left the relationship had i not left the relationship we would still be together to this day so you broke it like okay i you can't talk and that's not going to work i've been trying to be cool but when i start talking you start talking you can do that with your man but you can't do that but you do it to her you want to wreck your moment but this is why i'm getting suggested because you women don't even listen to another point of view you're not listening you don't you're not listening get your little cackling friend check her check your calculator if you want to talk check your friend on bounce if this is crazy this is the we're talking i'm seriously listen what just happened i don't know a man that's good enough to do such and so forth and who wants to be dealing with some foolishness like that the only group of women that sit around and try to justify and make it make sense as to well you know i can go be a a young mother a teenage mother at 18 to 19 years old when you ain't got no business being a mother not married and then go do it again and then talk about the downsides of it ladies understand this is why so many men feel like you're done because listen to that little kaplan ass friend in the background this is it it's no big deal to be a single mama because relationships break up and see all of this is only an issue because you decided if you wanted to just if you just wanted to let me help you out i can overtalk anybody i want to on my show see who tastes something i don't have to over talk when i talk you shut up you be quiet you know i shouldn't have to over talk anybody on my show y'all do that with your men see the problem that you can't even come in here and have a conversation when it gets contentious with a man because the first thing so many of our sisters want to do is show your dick let me sit up let me argue back and forth other than just sit back and be quiet we already know what you think but to get a different point of view what it would do is would actually make her have to listen to another point of view and it might put some accountability and consequence and that's it that's it that's why when i walk around houston i got black men damn near tears saying thank you brother thank you thank you please keep saying what you say so y'all y'all can miss you with that i got too many men out here that are saying thank you for doing this because that is what they have to deal with you don't even want to hear another point of view that what why that why not try to be with a man that you want to be with and then make babies until then well i'll just talk about the man i chose to make a baby and then tell you why relationships are bad then stop being mothers are they done are you done and if you can't even have a conversation what is it bold like what what think about the energy in that house think about the energy in that house think about the energy in that house a mother that thinks like that do you think she's going to raise a daughter to be feminine beautiful inspirational cooperative or submissive the little catherine hyena beside her do you think their daughter a woman raised in that environment has a real chance in having a healthy world view regarding black men do you think her daughter is going to have a an opportunity to have a healthy worldview good faith positioning regarding black men or is it more likely that she is going to grow up with a toxic poisoned work view on men for that mother her friend then the boy the boy seeing how she interacts with her friend seeing what she tells her daughter seeing how he that she the mother interacts with the son what do you think he's going to grow up doing you think he's going to grow up to be a confident intelligent and assertive man or is he going to grow up to be a man who questions his masculinity questions this man who questions his position in the world question what men should even be able to do because all you've ever seen is women dominating see at least other races of women understand that whether you like men or don't like me or whatever they need to grow their men up to take their rightful place to lead to build and like it's been said before there's so many women today you raise the very men that you despise so we can't even have a conversation about it because we have a conversation about it it may end up making you look bad because let's be real it's all theoretical you can have sex with whatever you want to but why make the baby why do you have to have a kid with a dude that you ain't gonna marry marry before you carry this is why so many men find single mothers problematic because if you could not commit to the man you gave the highest honor in the world to then what chance do the rest of them have the same thing it's always it's always the same thing you can't cap cap cap kept loud out loud no so that just show shows that the panel idea likely won't work because all it takes is one person to get in their feelings and start over talking and that's what it is that's what it is but it's not going to change ladies because i don't know what you think what other group of men do you think are coming to run to you so now is to the point that now you you bring your friend back on here after dinner oh she apologized and she's living quiet wow but the thing is ma'am i'm coming back in about an hour and i will have the conversation with you but what i'm trying to get you to understand is why okay let me ask you this question aside from you aside from you is marriage a good idea for the raising of children or not yes okay actually i believe that yes but 80 of our children in our community are born outside of marriage correct and when we do have marriages our women are leaving or leaving 80 of the time right and i think you did say that if you hadn't left the relationship it'd still be going on correct okay so to out men on the outside looking in if you could have one child two children for a man why can't you stay there and figure it out i could not stay there because he was not only physically abusive towards me but he would constantly cheat on me and not only to the point that he would at least cheat and i wouldn't know about it he's going to be calling harassing coming to my home it was too much you know what i'm saying for me to be dealing with with a man for with two children that we have i'm in college i i moved out of state to meet with him i committed to our relationship the whole time we have danced again this is at the time we are discussing getting together getting married and i just refused to say hey i don't want to tolerate disrespect and i will not allow a man to disrespect me in front of my children i don't want my son to think that that is okay hold on hold up now i was all right with you until you start talking about i will allow a man to disrespect me and for my children they're not your children well there are children but that's but the thing is that's not what you women you women always say my children it becomes about you it's about me and me i'm not gonna let you do this to me in front of mine and that's the problem i have with so much of this position it's always about you because i'm gonna ask before your first child uh was there cheating and abuse no was that either no after the first i didn't i would tell you this i was not aware after the first child was born was there abuse yes was there cheating yes then did you require him to have any kind of therapy yes did he get it no he didn't okay so so ma'am you did not require it because you had another baby um i left him okay i left him for one year we broke up before a year we separated because i was that serious and after that unity separated you know he told me hey i got some help you know i'm a better person now did you verify get help yeah i fell for the okie dog no no no i'm asking did you verify that you got the help no i didn't okay i didn't man let me stop right here let me stop right here the man even if i give you the benefit of doubt you had one child you were young and the abuse and cheating started afterwards you did not require better treatment before you went back and had another baby so you knew what you were going back to suicide degree but no i thought we had enough time apart well that's called blissful ignorance you chose not to okay do you own a car yes would you go buy a new car just because it's shiny without test driving and doing the carfax no then why would you have another baby with a man who has an abusive pass without verifying that he actually got to help these city guys that is true but at the time i was probably 22. doesn't matter ma'am 22. 22 22 year olds what i'm saying is you ladies know how to make logical purchasing decisions but you don't choose men because see ultimately its relationships are reflected you picked your first your child's first you picked your child's father you chose to have a baby before you got married then after he acted up you this should have ended back then but it didn't but it didn't so everything that goes on from there is your fault you signed back no that is true well so yeah so listen so you don't get to go ahead and pull the plug later and say i'm not going to allow him to disrespect me so myself for because you allowed it you signed you volunteered to go back so you don't get to all of a sudden make the reason you're leaving the reason uh the reason you're leaving uh important now that's the reason you left the first time see that's why it doesn't make sense to us man it's like wait a minute if we give you the benefit of doubt so you went back again without verifying that you got the help you went back into that situation then you then you made another child with no legal marriage and then you say well it it continued to go on so i i left you left the first time because it was unacceptable right what then you shouldn't have come back i shouldn't have went back but yeah but that's the mistake but once you go back you should have stayed because see that's my that's the difference now i'm gonna tell you the difference you going back the second time if you didn't do your homework you should have stayed because now you got two children and nobody in nobody no single man out here deserves to have to deal with this situation do you understand at least that's how men are looking at this but i don't need them to be my children's father because they haven't okay what do you do for a living would you go to college who me you went to college yes i did what's your degree in computer science what do you do for luke um i work for turbo tax on the call center i own a few businesses okay you said you do work first i work for turbo tax turbo tax corps or you run your own business i run my own business do you make an excess of six figures over over 150 000 a year probably probably about right there what state do you live in ohio okay um well ma'am you could with two kids you know you know the prognosis and my question is this have you had therapy yes how long ago um probably up until last year oh and then you stopped you stopped oh okay how long were you in it um probably for a year prior to that okay and you only have one year there and your opinion about relationships and me marriage relationships are still disheartening um no not that is this hard i just feel like it's just gonna take a special man to deal with me um that can be understanding for one because for one i like to make six figures so i like to work like you however i can be submissive as well and it just takes like a dating regular men as far as dating regular guys that have nine to fives with josh they are sometimes a little intimidated so in other words you're going to want you're going to need a man who's earning about what you're earning a moral an entrepreneur yes okay then what does that kind of man who's mad to work to earn that kind of value typically want from a woman um i don't know they all require different things they're all vegans require the same similar things how tall are you five two good size your size of 12. how much you weigh last time you weighed yourself 206. okay so you're five foot two 200 pounds with two children man you do realize that a man is making that kind of money you're invisible to them not really for marriage yes oh maybe for marriage that's that's what we're talking about that's what i'm talking about that's what i'm talking about that's why i don't see nothing no i'm just saying i'm counting now you can't overturn you can overtalk we don't see we were doing good until it started to get tight then you went over top okay see i i i was very clear about relationships marriage and if you've had therapy and this and that okay you said you're gonna need a very special kind of man who's understanding check and because i want to make the kind of money i want to make he's going to need to be flexible and not be intimidated check that means you need a high value a high earning man check they got lots of options and the one thing they want is com they want cooperation number two fit three uh friendly fourth no children hit children cooperation don't seem to be on your on your range right now see what the reality is is there's a there's a finite shortage of high earning there's a plethora of u.n and that's what i'm saying if you if you need to have such a high-end man i'm sorry to tell you lifetime like i would talk all other women you get no higher than your baby daddy not for marriage because a man comes along and says i'm going to take on this child and i'm up here and he's down here no thank you i'll i'll take that and your friends and your girlfriends y'all can say whatever but this reason this platform works and this show works is because it is a tremendous amount of input from the very kind of men you say you want and that's just what i tell you ladies so if you're not finished with the therapy to the point to where your mindset about relationships have changed you're pretty much saying without saying that you're going to die alone meaning unmerely i didn't say unmarried or that i would die alone it was just that i'm not gonna settle well but that's the fact that but see either you marry and have somebody or you don't and the choice of who gets married is on the men's side so it's not a matter of settling ma'am somebody would be the kind of man you want would be settling for you what's that yeah you got two kids and 200 pounds when he can be what he is okay take it away from you but he is a hundred plus thousand dollar earner all women want him why else why else would he want to get a mid 30s 200 pound woman with two kids who has a problematic baby daddy when he a younger woman with no kids who's ready to go to this program so it comes down to this it comes down to this men choose women choose accent women control access to sex and who gets born men control access to relationships in marriage that's our truth that's what we control and without that if a man does not choose to make you his wife that means you will die unmarried i.e die alone and if you're making the kind of money you're talking about making you should be one of the few women that should be able to have your 1.6 to 2.4 million dollars you'll need to retire on to live from 65 to 85. that's the that's the one upside of your income is what you say it is my income is great and the guys that i usually date are usually six to eight figure guys so i don't know okay see i make the definitive distinction between dating and dealing with the marriage um it's me kevin it's me with the problem i've been so okay so i don't want to be clear i know so are you saying that you saying that you have these been in ohio these men are all over the country and they want to marry you i've had a few that wanted to marry me that i don't know how long is this person and they act the only way a man really says he wants to marry you is he actually drops to one knee in public and presents a ring with significant characters and proposes that's how man says he wants to marry not just i want to make you mean you had somebody dropped on me and proposed to you kevin i have had somebody drop to me and propose to me i have had somebody do i'm talking about i'm talking about one of these one of these sixes 26 i'm trying to tell you i'm telling you it's a yes or no different scenario yes or no i've had people drop to their knees i'm telling you about multiple times i've had people drop to their knees and propose in public i have had people also take me directly are we talking about it but i want to be clear the people are you talking about me no i'm the men we talk about we're talking about me and making six figures class cabin is that a yes or no that means that's like yes okay so you had how many how many how many how many of these 10 top 10 percent earning men have proposed to you so where'd the first one propose to you the first time was my kid's father was in atlanta it was just us and our children and it's not public that's not public no that was not public though it was just that it doesn't count it didn't count but even your child's father the guy so where's the next the next proposal was him again that one was not also not public so the same man proposed to you twice yes like that's what i'm trying to tell you you can't make this up you can't make the show y'all heard it don't be and do not upload my videos on stop uploading my content i will upload my videos when i get them edited the way i want to people what happened again see when you start getting specific i got all these high-value men earning all this money it turned out to be the same very baby daddy you say was whooping your ass and cheating on you now all of a sudden he's gone from being a deadbeat what it not a deadbeat uh uh a questionable guy to all of a sudden a six or eight figure earner ladies you need to understand that's what men are dealing with when they're out here dating [Music] finished

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Length: 29min 26sec (1766 seconds)

Published: Sun Apr 25 2021