AITA For Refusing To Stop Calling My Daughter 'My Love' [Reddit Relationships Advice]

hi welcome to the video make sure to like and subscribe if you enjoy and comment your thoughts and opinions on the stories let's get started am i the antagonist for refusing to let my neighbors use my internet okay so this is a stupid topic but i need some assurance i got into the sterlink beta in my rural area kind of an area where everyone knows everyone and our internet options are terrible to say the least so when my dish finally came i was overjoyed and decided to share with my community now i had two simple rules no torrents no porn so enter the family who ruined it for everyone they were city folk who decided to buy property and didn't check how bad internet was out here so i was nice and made a public hot spot i warned of the rules and they said no problem not one day later i noticed the bandwidth being drained amongst the kids now i used to be it i know when someone is running a torrent the problem is so does spacex and oh boy do they not like it when you pirate so i down at the hot spot told the kids to leave and not five minutes later the angry mother comes pounding on my door demanding internet access i told them one rule break especially the no torrent one would result in the internet being lost she argued he was grabbing some movies for the family but i stood firm the kids come by and beg and i hold my ground my wife thinks i'm overreacting but doesn't understand that her new love of streaming tv would poof if they cancelled our service so read it am i the antagonist now for the top comments nta your internet your rules you are trying to make sure you can keep internet access for the community going by not having anyone break the rules totally fair explain once and grey rock from then on you are very generous to share and ensure the common good is preserved it's also starlink's internet and starlink's rules which almost certainly don't allow sharing with your neighbors this is a standard clause for residential internet service starlink doesn't allow any porn i think the porn rule is for rob so he doesn't end up with parents up his but about what their kids are viewing on his internet and or to prevent downloading slash viewing illegal porn the illegal pawn is probably the big one no one wants their right connected with small children in bdsm or something nta you offered to do something nice they abused your trust he was grabbing some movies yep just admitting to it let their own word judge them no need to enable these movie pirates not the a-hole nta you're sharing something with them for free if they don't like that you are no longer sharing it for free they can purchase their own you're sharing something with them for free if they don't like that you are no longer sharing it for free they can purchase their own to be fair to the neighbors it's not as simple as just ordering a starlink i guess they should have thought of that before betraying ops trust am i the antagonist for locking my friend's boyfriend out so he can't have a midnight bath at my house to give a small background on my friend f23 and her boyfriend m22 they have been together for three years and none of our friends particularly like him he's a peculiar guy and none of us really are able to hold a conversation with him he has also been extremely irresponsible before when he has been in our home when we are not in leaving the front door unlocked and leaving bottom floor windows open in our household it is me f23 my housemate m24 and my friend my friend went on holiday for two weeks she told us she left a key and that he might pop in when she told us this we presumed he might come over to eat the rest of her food or pick some stuff up my housemate works night so when i come back from work it's just me and on my own i'm really cautious about keeping everything locked i also went on my own walk naked too and from the bathroom my housemate and i both started to notice things moving around the house during the period our friend was away so we felt really confused as to whether he was still in the house or not on one of the evenings i was on my own and it was about 20 to 12 and i was getting ready for bed and suddenly i hear the door open i freaked out and thought a [ __ ] stranger was my home it was her boyfriend i asked him why he was here and why he hadn't told us he was coming over and he just said he wanted a bath i told him it was late and he should have messaged me he sort of chuckled about being in our house the other day and none of us knew which made me feel furious when my housemate came in from his night shift he told me the front door had been unlocked all night which made him panic and check if everything was okay in our house only to find the boyfriend wandering around the last night he came over i was on my own again and i chose to deadbolt the door i wanted to be left alone feel safe in my house so again but this time at midnight i heard him trying the door he texted me asking if i was but i just ignored him we then received a text from our friend asking us not to lock him out i replied saying we didn't mind him coming over but he should tell us and not do it so late he left the front door unlocked etc she said she would talk to him but to just let him in i lied that we wouldn't be in so it was all locked and he wouldn't be able to get in and to tell him she then just said she understands it's probably annoying him coming over but we obviously want our place to be somewhere our boyfriends can turn to when they need it i went back that night locked myself in played sims and got drunk safe in the knowledge he couldn't get him now i can imagine you're probably wondering why he felt the need to come over his heating and water was fine he said it was because he didn't like his neighbors to clarify he also has another home but chooses to illegally sublet it for extra income now for the top comments nta frankly what this all comes down to for me is it is absolutely not okay to have guests over if you yourself are not there that just seems really wrong to me like sure she has a right to have her bf over when she is there but if she isn't there he shouldn't be either barring emergencies of course and a bath isn't an emergency who gives out a [ __ ] key to a shared house was that discussed anywhere what's that told adage it's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission yay definitely reads like it was an afterthought after the rumor already left like a row btw boyfriend has the key and he may pop in something like that should for sure be discussed before leaving and hopefully it was but just reads like the rumor just did it and informed after she was already gone i'd demand the key back from the boyfriend he shouldn't be there without room at being there and if he needed something he could just text opus nta sounds like he's enjoying the power and the effect he has on you and is deliberately creeping you out keep locking him out it's not his place check your lease to see if it's allowed to let other people have keys to the space consider finding a new place to live as it's clear your friend doesn't understand the impact her boyfriend is having totally agree he is doing this deliberately because he finds her uneasiness amusing if it was me i would be concerned that his creepy behavior might escalate and i would argue that he shouldn't be allowed in their home even when his girlfriend is with him the fact that he came over in the middle of the night when he knew what was there alone i'm assuming he's familiar with their schedules is very unsettling and what he's doing seems violating yeah this guy definitely gets a kick out of being a creep maybe tell him the locks are getting changed they are not and get him to swap the key he has for a useless one this only works as long as your rumi is out of town and can't get him a new copy but it will definitely get across how much you dislike him i would also get a camera at the front door am i the antagonist for locking myself and my newborn in the guest bedroom so that i could finally spend some time with her away from my wife hello rudit my daughter is two weeks old i have barely held her since she was born my wife constantly has her when i do get to hold her my wife just starts crying hysterically until i give her back i asked her why and she said she was anxious that something would happen to our daughter and that's why she felt the need to hold her so close no matter how much i tried to reassure her she just wouldn't let up i practically begged her just to let me hold her so that my wife could shower eat and care for herself but nothing worked i felt like i was losing precious bonding time with my daughter so i did what i thought i had to do my wife fell asleep on the sofa with our child i took her went to the guest bedroom and locked the door my wife woke up shortly after very upset of course that our daughter wasn't with her she soon realized i was in the guest room and begged me to open the door she was crying kicking and screaming i didn't open it though and spent a good couple hours with our daughter in there apparently my wife had called her mom because i got a call from my mill cussing me out saying how i shouldn't be taking a newborn from her postpartum mother and other things like that my wife has been furious with me and won't speak and i'm just so frustrated because i really just wanted to spend quality time with my child but maybe that wasn't the way to do it am i the antagonist now for the top comments the amount of armchair diagnosis happening in this thread often and really cruel ways it's irresponsible and untenable locked no judgment this is an emergency and she needs treatment for her postpartum depression slash anxiety immediately you need to contact her obgyn immediately edit i want to be especially clear when i say emergency i mean emergency do not wait if a new mom especially a very new mom is displaying distressing or unusual behaviors it's much better to check in with the ob gyn than play let's wait and see if it is possible go to the emergency room upon re-reading this it's clear her distress was even greater than i originally thought this no judgements just get her to the hospital now she's having severe anxiety attacks whenever the baby's taken away from her and literally can't care for herself this is already extremely serious slash you slash new dad throw away 8003 i'm tagging you to make sure you see and get her to a hospital take your wife to a psychiatrist as soon as possible postpartum depression slash anxiety is so much more common than people think having high emotions is totally normal after giving birth but her crying outbursts seem extreme going to the psychiatrist loses you nothing if her behavior is normal but gain zip everything if it's not i work directly with people in the postpartum period and i'm trained to be able to find the signs for these things she is absolutely having either severe postpartum depression anxiety or i might even venture to say postpartum psychosis some of the symptoms of postpartum psychosis include delusions paranoia suspiciousness rapid mood swings difficulty communicating irritability etc and in my opinion from what i've read i feel quite a few of those line up here she needs help yesterday a strong attachment to baby can be normal but this is past that op needs to get her to a mental health specialist with experience with postpartum mood disorders immediately am i the antagonist for refusing to stop calling my daughter my love some background my 28 28f older sister 33f has a habit of making everything about her has done our whole lives we are two of four siblings another sister and a brother for example my wedding four years ago she had a massive fight with significant other and then announced a pregnancy two days later told us it was a false alarm and she was just late when i announced my pregnancy she announced she had broken up with her significant other less than a week after i gave birth to my daughter she announced she was engaged to a different guy that she has since broken up with as well she has also done similar with other family members including her own children she has three children from two different dads and has been engaged and broken up with three different guys in the last year we had a family video chat to catch up so everyone could see my daughter four months old no one has had a great deal of face-to-face contacts due to the restrictions and distance some family members have yet to meet her in person i use lots of nicknames for my daughter mainly bubble pop it or a shorthand version of her name think i see if her name was isabelle but occasionally use terms of endearment such as sweetheart my darling or my love while on the video chat my sister asked me not to use my love as her new boyfriend calls her that she's been talking to him for about a month and is now apparently moving in next week i apologized and said i wouldn't use it around her thinking this was reasonable she said no i had to never use it again i wasn't allowed to call my daughter that and she found it really inappropriate as it really should just be used in a romantic setting this confused me and i refused i said i could call my daughter whatever i pleased and i would simply avoid using the term in front of her she got very defensive and went on to insult my parenting skills here is where i maybe they are i told her just because her new guy couldn't remember her name long enough to use it and chances are nervous would put the effort into learning his doesn't mean i need to change what i call my daughter she flipped out and left the call some family members are on my side some say i was too harsh am i the r in this now for the top comments nta the elderly lady in the post office calls me my love all the time your sister is nuts i thought it was crazy to say it could only be romantic glad i'm not the only one she will demanding the baby not call her father daddy next this was my mother i will never forget being five jumping into the pool to my dad's outstretched arms and yelling daddy catch me and my mother pulling me to the side scolding me for talking like that omg i'm sorry that's awkward poor little you must have been so confused nta feel bad for this woman's poor kids congrats on the baby i hate to say it but she isn't a great mum to any of them something i've tried calling her out on but gets ignored thanks for commenting well [ __ ] i think noon surprised at that engaged to three different dudes in one year about to live with a fourth she's a train wreck maybe talk to your family about getting her therapy nta my love i've tried that route multiple times refusal at even the mention of it thank you then all you can do is sit back and watch the [ __ ] chow from afar and not indulge or partake in this insanity protect the children if you can but not at the expense of you and your family your sister made her choices and members of your family enabled her to the point where this is normal not the a-hole and a great line btw cutting into her long overdue and well deserved sounds like nta lol ignore her in the future don't engage just say that's ridiculous i'm not doing that and move on am i the antagonist for not letting my wife drive my m3 my wife and i have been together since we were teens we somehow have lasted till this long into our 20s over that time though my wife has gotten in some heavy car crashes that have made me terrified of actually riding with her i know it might seem touchy but i always drive her or i would much rather she take any other form of transportation when we were 16 my wife had just gotten her license and i was really tired from a baseball game i had played in our school that lasted way longer than it had to knowing my wife had her license i give her the keys and asked her if she could drive she said sure and off we went after dozing off a while i wake up to my lancer evolution i love this car man slamming into and sub my wife was going a bit fast and she was on her phone she saw a man crossing just turned left with no care and hit the sub next to us she fractured her forearm and i lost my evo after this i bought her 88 corolla low mileage from an old man who almost never used it and was passing away i knew him and he gave it to me for 300 bucks wasn't much but the little car grew on me sure it doesn't impress anyone but something about how old it was and how new it looked it only had 40k miles made me want to preserve it it felt like starting back at level one that is until my wife crashed it with a pole for which she had to pay and she also got hurt just going from my apartment to her friend's house which is like a 10 minute drive now that i have a male 3 she wants to drive it to show it off but i won't let her because of how she has a habit of texting and driving she always has to constantly change the music on her phone because she doesn't like it how she talks and doesn't look forward and has to be reminded to look at the road i don't want to see her crash and hurt herself or other people it's a fast car and i don't think she has shown to be responsible enough to like not text and drive and speak to your friends while driving now for the top comments she has a habit of texting and driving deal breaker never ride with anyone who does this nor allow them to drive your car several studies have shown that this is at least as dangerous as driving drunk nta my wife was going a bit fast and she was on her phone she saw a man crossing just turned left with no care and hit the sub next to us wife is an absolute piece of work she might finally get a wake-up call once she kills a kid but by then it'll be too late assuming she survives they always survive the people they hit aren't so lucky you're thinking of drunk drivers who it's theorized survive more because their body doesn't tense up anticipating a collision thus absorbing less impact i have an m3 she wants to drive it to show it off but i won't let her because of how she has a habit of texting and driving she always has to constantly change the music on her phone because she doesn't like it how she talks and doesn't look forward and has to be reminded to look at the road nta your wife is too self-absorbed and or egotistical to operate a motor vehicle responsibly or do pretty much any activity that requires adult supervision she doesn't even have the self-awareness or care to recognize her own actions are recklessly endangering the people around her i wouldn't trust this woman to supervise children she'll put her phone in personal bs first i don't think i would have married someone who crashed my evo driving dangerously e g comma texting and driving that's a total relationship deal breaker for me am i the antagonist for abandoning my sister my 19f boyfriend 20 and i are in a long-distance relationship and since he lives in a catholic country and i live in an orthodox country we don't have holidays at the same time for example i celebrate christmas on 78th of january so we get to see each other once or twice a year for about a week he stayed over at my house for a week in august i still live with my parents my sister 12f can be very clingy and openly says she hates it when i'm taken because that means she has to share me but i also then get too soft according to her for example i smile too much i hug her cuddle hurt too much i'm not mad at her for it she's a child so both my boyfriend and i try to include her as much as possible dedicating a day or two every time to take her somewhere so she doesn't feel abandoned example we were at the pool from opening until closing and then got her ice cream however she does not respect my privacy never knocks wakes us up waits for us in my room and demands that she spends every day with us one day my bf and i were home alone and decided to go out for dinner halfway to the restaurant i get a call from my sister demanding i come back and pick her up since she just came home and wants to join us i told her we are on a date and that i'll take her out in a couple of days because my boyfriend is flying back home soon moments later i get a phone call from my mother yelling at me for not taking my sister with us saying we promised that we'll take her out the day before and since that didn't happen bad weather we stayed inside we should have taken her today i think i'm a tar because technically we did promise to take her out and i probably made her feel abandoned so am i the antagonist now for the top comments nta i'm sorry but i don't find her behavior cute at all honestly for me it's a red flag of the start of extremely unhealthy behavior the fact that your mother encourages her behavior by calling you on your date to tell you to take your sister as if she is a rabid dog instead of telling your sister to behave because again she is 12 not 5 is worrisome in fact if i had acted that way my mom would have punished me and rightfully so like i'm all four siblings loving each other but she's 12. how long is this going to go on if you move out are you still going to be expected to drop everything for her if you were to move in with your bf would it be expected that he has to put his life on hold to a bite your sister's tantrums because that's what they are she also told my sister to spam me with messages which were just keyboard smashes and i had to turn my phone off because i got over 200 messages what the question mark yay okay so i want you to look through this subreddit history focus on the ones with sister or brother in the title i guarantee they you will find at least ten post with the title eight of four putting boundaries with my sister or eight before going non-contact with my brother or some variation on that all of those stories usually have a combination or all of the following my sibling is very spoiled we all spoiled the next event happened that i wanted to slash did a tent i got scolded slash punished slash shamed for wanting to slash attending event and not indulging siblings tantrum i moved away slash went no coke i get spammed by phone calls and or emails from family members for not indulging siblings tantrums still even though they are 25 plus years old just read some and see if you recognize the pattern it might not be too late to set down boundaries with both your mother and your sister also be aware of this your bf might be okay with this for the moment but he didn't sign up to be in a relationship with you and your sister i've tried setting down boundaries but that's not really respected in my family in general seeing as neither of my grandparents or aunts respect the boundaries my parents tried to sit down i've been planning on going no contact since i've been 11 to 12 unfortunately that might be the only solution nta it's cute your sister loves to be with you but at the same time you need space especially with your bf you need privacy and enjoy time together also your mom are for pushing you to spending time with her because what it seems like she is pushing the responsibility of you taking care of her while your mom gets free time exactly it's ops relationship not her little sisters and you're right about the mother too it's obvious she just uses up for free babysitting regardless of her personal life seriously the younger sister feels abandoned and yet her mother seems to be around it's almost as if their mother doesn't pay attention

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Length: 25min 13sec (1513 seconds)

Published: Sat Oct 16 2021