If I want to have kids I have to do it
by the time that I turn 35. Ah, yes, 35. The age when
the media tells us a woman's fertility rate
supposedly plummets. You got to get pretty serious
about having kids before 35. You're getting older, and you know that clock
is ticking. By the time we're 35, fertility has
decreased by 50% (Emily)
Gah! Whew. See? I got to get baking now
before this oven breaks down. I mean, they have
done studies. Sure, but where
those studies got their data from
is real weird. Was is it from a large, well-conducted sample
of modern women? Nope. It came from rural
French census records from the 1600s. (women coughing) Ohh... ohh... (speaking French) Wait, seriously?
I have been getting
fertility advice from a bunch of 400-year-old
French farmers? (woman)
Unfortunately, yes. Oh! Emily,
this is Jean Twenge, the author of
"The Impatient Woman's
Guide to Getting Pregnant" and the researcher
who discovered the truth
about this data. You know, when I wanted
to have kids in my late 30s, I was as freaked out
about these studies as anyone. But I'm researcher,
so I looked into it. And I found out that nobody
really noticed that these claims were based
on such old data. And that's a problem, because that means
they come from a time before fertility treatment,
antibiotics, or modern medicine. Yeah, there could've been
a lot of reasons these women weren't getting pregnant
after 35. Maybe their husbands
had gone to war. Maybe they had diseases. Or, I don't know, maybe they just
stopped having sex. Um.... They truth is,
in modern data, average woman age 27
who's healthy has an 86% chance of getting
pregnant within a year. And that same woman
at age 37, her chances are to 82%. That's like
barely a difference. You know, if you don't have
fertility problems already, you can have a baby
later than you think. Age doesn't really
affect fertility that much until you're in your 40s. Take it from me,
I had three kids-- one at 35, another at 38,
and then at 40. Whew, congratulations. Honestly,
it was no sweat. Okay, farmers,
let's get you back to the past
where you belong. Thanks, Jean. Yeah, au revoir, everyone,
au revoir. Yeah, merci very much. But I read
that by the age of 40, your chances
of birth defects double. (woman screams) You know, the hen house
may be workin', but the eggs are goin' sour. Not quite. Miscarriages do become
more common, but your chances of having
a baby with a birth defect only "double" from .5%...
to 1%. That's like nothing. Yeah, exactly. But if they say it doubles,
it sounds way scarier and sells more magazines. All this fear-mongering
has caused a generation of women to panic that they're going
infertile in their 30s. And if you've seen
this show before, you know what happens
when people get scared-- corporate America swoops in
to take advantage. ♪♪ (wind whipping) Egg freezing industry,
"ice" to meet you. Egg freezing began
as a way for women to save their eggs before
undergoing chemotherapy. But today, it's grown into
vanity industry that preys
on fertility fear. Your eggs
are rotting, fast. So we're gonna freeze some now
and thaw them out later when you're ready
to have a baby. What she failed to mention is that each of those eggs
only has a 2% to 12% chance of resulting in a baby, and the whole shebang
is gonna cost you upwards of $20,000. 20 grand?
Yeah. And all that money
is usually wasted. The vast majority of women
who freeze their eggs never actually use them
because, again, you can get pregnant in life
later than you think. You scammer. Oh, oh, "snow." (wind whipping) That was awesome! Truth is, Emily, if you're in good health
through your early 40s, you don't really need to stress
that much about fertility. I've been planning my
whole life around the idea that we have to have
a baby soon. Well, you don't. If you're not ready
to have a kid now, that's okay...
you've got time. Man, I feel
so much better. You know what?
Why rush this? We should just
wait to get... pregnant? We're gonna be parents!
Rates diminish over time. Miscarriage rates increase. Birth defects increase.
This vid uses the fighting method where you pick out one of the 100 things said, prove it wrong, and trot off smug. The overall idea that older women have a harder time is correct. The real question: Why does this upset us culturally?
This video is fairly bullshit, and while general fertility might not decrease virtually all risks associated with childbirth absolutely do.
source: wife was in high-risk ward and spoke a lot with nurses and doctors. The older you get, the higher the risks are.
oh boy, i hope he's really smug and dismissive of people who disagree with him
"Loot at me, I had kids at 35, 37 and 40"
Yes, lets refute research with an anecdote...
That said, I think most people arne't concerned about infertility after 35 I think most are concerned with legitimate issues: birth defects are ~4x at 35 compared to the 20s. And at 40 its 17x.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advanced_maternal_age
And the best part about waiting to have kids until you're 40-mom and 48-dad (Like my wife's parents) is that by the time the kid is in their mid to late TWENTIES they're burying their father and putting their mother in a HOME... oh happy times.
I'd just rather not be old and frail before my children get to fully grow up. Just seems unfair to them.
I've heard risk of autism skyrockets after 30, is this true?
sorry bud, but you can't fight the second law of thermodynamics. Entropy affects you too, woman.
leans into mic
WRONG