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Nine Positive Autistic traits. Nine Traits of autism that  you may not already know. Autistic people tend to break all the stereotypes,   but there are some traits that  almost all of us have in common. Some may be familiar to you,  others may surprise you. Just wait till we get to number seven and eight. Welcome to today's Patron's Choice  video from Asperger's from the Inside. You're here with Paul and I make weekly  videos sharing the human side of autism,   so make sure you hit Subscribe  to get the latest content. So ever since discovering I was on the  spectrum a couple of years ago, I've met   lots and lots of other autistic people. And what I've noticed is that there are some  traits that almost all of us have in common. So I really don't like to exaggerate, but it's  no exaggeration to say that most, if not all,   autistic people I've ever met have most, if not  all, of the traits we're about to talk about. So exactly how these traits are expressed  are uniquely different for every person,   and that's part of what makes the  beautiful diversity of our community. But there are some strengths  that a lot of us have. So this video is based on strength and positives. There are also downsides to being autistic,   as you may know, but this video  really focuses on those positives. Okay, trait number one, attention to detail. This is probably the autistic trait that  is most well known, most well understood. There are billion dollar companies around  the world trying to leverage the strengths of   autistic people in the workplace by looking  for those unique individuals that have a   fantastic attention to detail  and can really bring a lot to   the company and see things  that other people don't see. So part of this means that we tend  to have specialised skill sets. So rather than being having our  attention everywhere and being   able to do everything equally, we  tend to focus on one or 2 things. Sometimes they're called special interests,   and our attention to detail in those areas means  that we have specialised skills in those areas. This does not mean we all fall  into the autistic savant category. Most of us are nowhere near that. We  have the entire range of intelligence. Some of us are above average. Some of us are below average. Some of us have incredible memory. Some of us have incredible memory for some things,  and incredibly poor memory for other things. So our special skills range across the whole  spectrum of all of the traits of humanity. But we do often focus our attention on the  detail missing the rest of the picture. So this brings us to the second positive  autistic trait, which is being persistent. And this relates to hyper focus   and sticking on one thing and not being very good  at letting it go and moving on to the next thing. So I know for myself it takes a lot of energy   to change gears from doing one  thing to doing the next thing. So that means that once I get into  the groove of doing one thing,   letting it go, putting it down  becomes really, really difficult. So this links back into the  attention to detail that if I'm   focused on one thing, I might be called  stubborn, I might be called rigid. People might say that my interests are  very narrow and I'm not willing to look   outside that. This often looks like being very  passionate and having extremely high standards. So I know for myself before I can feel  confident with something I need to have   about a 99% confidence level before I think  that I know something and what I've noticed that   the neurotypicals around me, if they're about  60 to 70% sure, then they go with that decision. Whereas I feel like I need to keep looking,  keep asking the question, and be very, very,   very sure before I'm happy to say, yep, that's  done and actually move on to the next step. This might have something to do with having a  lifetime of rejection and having the internal   message that, well, maybe if I succeed then finally, people might accept me. So the next positive autistic trait is  being creative, thinking outside the box,   ignoring social expectations, being  innovative, creating new things. And this could be in any area of  life, it might be art or music or   dancing or writing or philosophy, you name it. I guarantee you can find an autistic  person who's creative in that area. So this is really fantastic  from a work perspective. When you couple this with our attention to  detail, we can think outside the box from   a fresh perspective and bring something to  a team that would otherwise not be there. And this is one of the reasons that  there are so many really big companies   looking explicitly for autistic  people to join their teams. The next trait is being honest, straightforward,   direct, requiring - and giving - really, really clear communication. So some people say that the reason they do  this is that it's just way too hard to lie. The kind of social skills that you need to  try and figure that out is really difficult. So we don't like unspoken things. It's so much simpler if we just speak something  out loud and then everyone is on the same page. So again, in a work situation, this can  be really beneficial for the whole team,   because instead of making assumptions, I  would much rather see those things written   out and check my assumptions to make  sure that everyone is on the same page. And we have extremely clear communication  between all of the team members. So this often takes more time because we  need to go back and check our understanding. But it leads to a culture of transparency   where everyone can be genuine  and actually say what they mean   rather than saying what they think is socially  appropriate or acceptable in the situation. So that means that we'll often put a hand  up and say "something's not right here" and this, again, can be a real asset   to a Corporation where you need people  to actually say what they think. And I think one of the reasons for this that  I've observed is that autistic people tend to   have this need to be really genuine  and authentic to themselves,   which means that rather than just  following along with other people   and doing what is socially expected, we tend  to be more comfortable going out on our own. And this goes back to the creativity point. I would much rather create something  entirely new and do it by myself   than just go along with what is already happening  and say and do what everyone around me is doing. So that makes it easier for me to  say what I think because I'm less   concerned about saying the right thing or  saying the same thing as everyone else. And as you may also see, sometimes  this means that I might come across   as blunt or possibly socially inappropriate  because I actually named the elephant in   the room that everyone else knew  wasn't supposed to be talked about. Trait number five is being non-judgmental, and  what this looks like is just having no clue   that one thing is supposed to  be good or supposed to be bad. I just look at things and think that's a thing. I remember I was on a business trip  to camera speaking to all of the   ministers and senators about autism advocacy,  and we were sitting in the canteen and there   were a couple of women who were dressed  as if they were going to the horse races. So I don't know if this is across every  culture, but especially Melbourne in Australia,   people, especially women, really dress  up and go and watch horse racing. So this is really elaborate, colorful  costumes, big hats and feathers and things. When I saw these two,   I didn't really think anything of it  because it didn't mean anything to me. It wasn't even out of place. It took one of my neurotypical colleagues  to say, "Oh, that's a bit weird I wonder what they're doing". Whereas for me I was so out of place,   everything didn't make sense that I  didn't even question what was going on. It was just fine. It was just a thing. Why would I judge it as good or  bad, or even notice that it was   different? So how this plays out is a lot of  us tend to be radically accepting of diversity,   especially within the autism community,  because we're all so different from each other. The only way we can coexist is to  be radically accepting of diversity,   especially within our own community. The other thing this means is that I often  forget to respect hierarchical power structures,   which means that I will talk to a  CEO the same as I might talk to the   person, you know, begging for money on the street. And I forget that I'm supposed to treat these  two people differently, because in my mind,   aren't we all just human anyway, so that  it can be a real strength, and it can also   come across as a little bit weird  and sometimes socially inappropriate. In some situation,   the next trait is being loyal. It's hard to make friends,  it's hard to find friends. It's hard to build the kind of relationship  that is actually worthwhile having. So a lot of autistic people  prefer to spend time alone, and   sometimes that's because finding other  people to spend time with who actually,   like doing the same thing, or it's a genuinely  positive experience can be quite difficult. So when you find a person or an  organisation or your employer   or someone that treats you really well and it's  a really good relationship, we can work really,   really hard to keep that because it's so  hard to find another solution that fits. Unfortunately, intense loyalty also  means that we might not be so good   at ending relationships that we probably should. So that could mean going along with  a dysfunctional relationship or   staying in a situation longer than we should,   because someone else would have just left  because we're not being treated properly. So trait number seven is being highly empathic. Now you might think, Wait, what  aren't autistic people supposed   to lack empathy? Isn't that what everyone  says? Actually, we know that that's a myth. There was an online survey run by Chris Bonello  from Autistic Not Weird not that long ago,   and he actually found that a lot of people  say that they feel like they have too much   empathy, and that is actually a problem  compared to not having enough empathy. So another way to think about  this is that we can be really   sensitive to some things, and this  makes sense when you think about it through the frame of attention to  detail, we notice small things we can get affected by small things. One of the reasons that people think we  lack empathy is something called the double   empathy problem, that it's hard to relate to  someone who's very, very different to you. But on the other hand, think  about someone like Temple Grandin. So she had this amazing ability to  understand and connect with cows that the   neurotypicals around her just  couldn't really understand. But at the same time, if you're relating to  cows as much as you are relating to humans,   then that probably says that you're not really as  close to your fellow human beings as you could be. In fact, this was why sometimes, Asperger's  is called Wrong Planet Syndrome, because some   people literally asked the question, Am I the same  species as the people around me? Or was I somehow   accidentally dropped here by aliens? And now I  have to learn how to get along with the natives. So the other interesting thing that  happens when you're really empathic   is that you see the real  person that is talking to you. So if you're talking to me and you're sad,   but you're pretending to be happy because  that's the socially appropriate thing to do. Then I will respond to you as if you're sad,  and that makes people feel really uncomfortable sometimes. I was supposed to know that  if you're pretending to be happy,   I should treat you as if you're happy  and pretend I can't see the sad. So it took me a long time to learn that  just because someone is actually sad,   if they're saying they're happy,  I need to pretend they're happy. And that just blew my mind. But unfortunately, these kinds of complicated  social dynamics lead a lot of autistic people to   feel like we don't understand other people's  emotions because I thought you were sad but you're telling me that you're  happy and there's no congruence there. Actually, you're probably right. There is often no congruence between a  person's actual state and their actual actions. But this is just a really complicated  social thing that we need to learn. So number eight is that I have found that,  ironically, autistic people tend to be extremely   flexible which, again, this goes  completely against the common wisdom   that we're supposed to be rigid and not  liking change and all of these things. But again, if you think about  it, if we think outside the box,   find creative solutions, ignore the social  norms around us, then anything is possible. I'm not going to do something  because I'm supposed to I can do absolutely anything. So when especially when you combine this  with difficulty judging whether something   is a good idea or a bad idea, it's just  an idea, and I'm happy to think about it. This means that we need structure  and stability and routine   and order and all of these things so  that we can actually function in life. Otherwise anything is possible. And I have no idea where to start. So another positive that comes  out of flexibility is that it   means a lot of us have learned a  very systematic approach to life. So that means that I will get all the information   and put it through my system  and come up with an answer. And this has great benefit for problem  solving and rational thinking and   structure and organising things. And it actually comes from that need  for structure because I'm so flexible   that I need to make a structure  for myself so that I can function. So number nine is having a  very strong sense of Justice. Now, this might come from a  lifetime of being treated unfairly. Who knows? But I find that a lot of us  really get stuck on rules and fairness. Perhaps if you're a parent, you may  have come across this phenomenon. For me personally, it's really hard to let  things go when I know they could be better. So a personal value of mine  is continual improvement. This goes hand in hand with seeing society and  seeing how people work together and thinking   that is not okay in the future. We need to keep doing better. So the answer of 2it's just  because that's how we do it", "Because I said so" All of those kind of answers just  are not a good enough reason. I need to know that there's   a process and a fairness and a justice to what we're  doing and that we're getting better at doing that. So I guess the message with that  is, do not underestimate us. The autistic people I know are some of the  most hardworking, persistent, determined   people that I know, which means that we will keep  going and keep trying until things get better. And now for the most important lesson -  we've seen nine strengths, nine positive traits. It's important to realise that every strength  is in itself a weakness and vice versa. So the question then becomes, Which one do  you see? Do you see the strength or do you   see the corresponding weakness? Let's take  the positive traits we've just heard about. Attention to detail means that  I miss the bigger picture. Persistence equals stubbornness. Being creative means that I don't conform. Being honest and direct means  that I can be blunt and tactless. Being non-judgemental means that I can  have really poor social judgement. Being loyal means that I might not be  able to manage relationships properly and I'll cling to a relationship that's not  working instead of figuring out how to fix it. Being empathic also means  that I'm highly sensitive, being flexible means that I need  a lot of structure and stability and having a really strong sense of  justice means that I often rock the boat and not everyone likes that. So as you can see, black and white  both occur in the same picture. And the real question is, Which one are you going  to focus on? So we might leave it there for today. Thanks to our Patreon Community  for voting for this topic. If you'd like to have your say in  next month's Patron's Choice video,   you can become a Cup of coffee supporter of  this channel for less than a dollar a week. So thanks for watching. Make sure you leave a comment telling  us what your favourite autistic trait is,   and we'll see you again next week. Bye.
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Length: 17min 47sec (1067 seconds)
Published: Thu Jun 24 2021
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