(calm upbeat music) (eye chimes) - [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers, and welcome back to our channel. Thank you so much for all
the love you've given us. Your ongoing support has
helped us make psychology and mental health more
accessible to everyone. Now let's continue. We've all done something self-destructive at some point in our lives. Most of the time, it's not intentional and doesn't become a habit. Self-destructive behaviors are those that are bound to harm you
physically or mentally. It may be unintentional or you may know exactly what you're doing but the urge is too strong to control. Problems can eventually arise when this type of
behavior becomes habitual. So here are seven common behaviors of a self-destructive person. One, you hold onto a
self-defeating mindset. Do you struggle with thoughts like, I won't be able to make it or
I'm not good enough for this? Do these thoughts plague you before heading into any kind of situation? A self-defeating mindset is
when you have a constant stream of negative thoughts about yourself or your relationship with others and this swirly impacts your self-esteem. A self-defeating mindset can
become a self-destructive habit because it does not allow you to be the best version of yourself and it's caused by no one other than you. Two, you hide from your emotions. When you are hiding from your emotions, you fail to acknowledge both your positive and negative emotions. This results in a forced
deception of your emotional state, leading to both physical
and mental health issues that impose additional
stress on your body. You are at risk of having
an outburst of emotions. This is all most likely due
to deep emotional scarring, like dealing with the
death of a loved one. You feel like it's better
to not feel anything, to relieve the pain of grief. Over time, these emotions
start to build up and could be much more harmful when they burst out during a meltdown. Three, you fail to take action. Do you overindulge in playing video games instead of finding a much needed job? Do you feel like things just aren't worth trying for in the first place? When you fail to take action, you are setting yourself up
for failure from the start. You might cost yourself
relationships, jobs and other opportunities that
require you to take some risk. This kind of behavior can
be a very difficult habit to overcome and bars
you from future attempts at being successful in your goals. Four, you hold on to forced incompetence. Do you sell yourself short
when you tell yourself, I'm just not good at
math and don't even try to understand the material
better in your math class? Forced incompetence is a mindset where you won't try to learn and practice if you believe that you do not
have an innate talent for it. This thinking can also
be a coping mechanism if you aren't confident in your abilities. Unfortunately, this mindset
can only set you up for failure and keep you from trying new things and broadening your horizons. Five, you are socially isolated. Do your friends and family
no longer wanna talk to you? Did you pick a fight and insult them? Or maybe they don't
reach out to you anymore because you've simply ignored
all their texts, calls and invitations to hang out. Isolating yourself from friends and family can be an active or a subconscious choice. You might think you are
doing the world a favor, figuring, everyone
would just be better off if they just stayed away from you. In reality, all you are
doing is harming yourself and the people close to you
by damaging your relationships and stirring up depression
and anxiety for yourself. Six, you are unnecessarily
self-sacrificial. Are you so focused on making others happy that you forgot to look
for your own happiness? When you're being self-sacrificial, you feel noble and maybe you've
tried to convince yourself that you are doing the
right thing, truthfully, this behavior can actually
be more self-sabotage. Maybe you decided to follow a professional career path
only because your parents wanted that particular path for you. But it's now left you mentally
and physically exhausted because your heart's
never truly been in it. Seven, you have problems
with alcohol and drug abuse. Abusing the use of alcohol and drugs is much more evident in
people who are not happy. By reaching for these substances, you might be using them to
escape from your situation. Meanwhile, the world
around you keeps going and you will keep falling
behind and then find yourself in an even worse situation
than the one before. This can turn into a cycle
that negatively affects your physical and mental health. Do you relate to any of these habits? We hope this video helped you to recognize some
self-destructive behaviors. These kinds of behaviors
are common in all of us and the importance of
bringing awareness to them and being able to identify these negative behaviors is important. Go ahead and like and share this video if it helped you and you think
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