7 Deadly Distractions | Part 1| mildred kingsley-okonkwo

hey people so if i have never invited you to be a part of praying pastor m let me apologize officially and let me take this opportunity to invite you to be a part of a very growing family on instagram so if you're on instagram please follow me at passportmildred and join me 3pm every day west african time to be a part of what we do it's just a time where we get to learn about the word of god have fun talk about real life issues and just connect with each other so please be a part of it every day of the week monday to saturday 3 p.m with pm praying with pastor m god bless you [Music] [Applause] [Music] [Applause] [Music] hi everyone welcome to mentoring sessions with pastor m um today i'm going to be talking about something that i think everyone needs to pay attention to even though i'm going to be speaking mostly to the women but i think anyone can take advantage of this one of the things i found out about life is that the things that come into your life or things that you encounter or things that um happen that can turn out to be a major distraction um to where you're going to or the things that god wants to do in your life so today i want to teach you about the seven deadly distractions and possibly what you can do about them [Music] okay so seven deadly distractions so number one i like to get straight into it you know how we do so the first thing i think can be a major distraction in your life is marriage yes marriage can be a major distraction now don't get me wrong i must say marriage is bad after all i teach you love dating at marriage but um if you marry the wrong person chances are your life will never remain the same and i don't mean that in a good way your life will never remain the same if you marry the wrong person you are halfway down the path to destruction it's usually hard to recover from that ask people all over the bible look at something for instance something my delilah and his life turned around i mean you know what it's like to remind you someone who is consistently trying to destroy you all under the guise of love so mind the wrong person can be a major distraction in your life for women especially i remember this is mostly for women for women especially marrying there's some kind of men that you will marry that your life can never turn out the way it was meant to turn out so imagine a woman who was supposed to be great uh maybe run multiple businesses um or run a major organization or even just rise to the top in her career and she's my to an insecure man you know how hard it would be for her to even reach the top because she has so much pressure from home so if she does anything a husband would say oh it's because you're doing well oh it's because you're the one paying for this or imagine a woman who's richer than her husband and her husband is an insecure man she's going to struggle with a lot of things she's not going to be able to be herself she's probably going to be shadow of herself she's not going to be able to run after her dreams and her goals and tackle them the way she really would want to because she would want to suppress herself and dim her light so she doesn't shine too bright so that her husband doesn't get upset so that he doesn't get jealous it is such a hard life to be married to the wrong person or if you were to worry a lazy person i had a video training a couple of months ago years ago i don't know and i just kept saying to the ladies i cannot marry a lazy man i can't marry a lazy man camera a man who has plans but has no drive to fulfill them come a man who can't chase his dreams doesn't have the energy too or a man that just decides to rely on me because he knows i can be hard-working i can't deal with that i've seen women who've been married to lazy men and their lives have turned out worse because what happens is that they are working for two people so the man realizes that oh my wife is doing well and he relaxes he has dreams he's all he's thinking about is planning how to spend your money someone told me a story of a woman who was my some guy and she was doing really well um he wasn't doing so well he was trying to get on his feet they got married the first year he was still trying to get on his feet the second year was trying to get on his feet third year 40 or 50. fifth year she was doing so well in her organization but because she was the only one paying all the bills they had to live in an area of lagos where um rent was really low and all that and very far from the island so just for the sake of um example i'll say they were living in perhaps you go to and she was working on the island and her husband was home literally all the time at home all the time doing nothing and then one day she was at the office and her phone was ringing she was at meetings that day her phone was ringing she was so scared and uh she picked the phone and her husband was on the phone and he was like i need to come home now i need to come home now she left everything left the island got into her car drove all the way down to korea when she got there so her husband sitting in front of the tv you know just sitting there and she was like wow she rushed into the house what happened what happened and he said oh that dstv was out she wanted her to sort it out true live story when i heard the story i know someone who knows her i was so upset on her behalf but you see the truth is that this is what a lot of women encounter the woman ran all the way from the island thinking something was wrong with her husband or her kids she was paying the house rent paying school fees paying even dstv bills bills that you know someone should be helping her or rather let me even put it this way bills that she should be helping someone with she didn't even get help so she was so frustrated i don't know if that might survive probably did i don't know but i'm just saying that if you marry the wrong person it can totally via you of course imagine that woman was married to someone who was doing great someone who was sharing the bills sharing the responsibilities so that she could focus on other things imagine how her life would turn out but she was settling for less because she had she somehow and she was working herself to the bone because she had to pay bills there was school fees and her husband wasn't doing it you know so marrying the wrong person can be a major distraction in your life you'll be able to achieve the things you shoot because you're worried about him you're worried about how will he feel if i get another award you're worried about how would you feel if i get another promotion or you're worried about the fact that even if i make all this money he's just going to waste it on another scheme that he has come up with another plan that he's not going to have the energy to execute so marrying the wrong person can be a major distraction in your life where you where you should be focused on thinking about more important things you're focused on thinking about how does he feel am i making him feel if i do anything once he says because i'm the one paying the bills if i buy this won't he feel this way if i you in fact i know young girls today let me deal with this i think i need to deal with this i know young girls today who can afford to buy a car can afford to travel all over the world but they've heard that if you do this if you buy a car if you buy a car men will not marry you a man that cannot deal with the fact that you are any money now is not the kind of man that you should marry a man that cannot deal with the fact that you're going to be great is not the kind of man that you should marry you should marry a man who is confident in his being a successful person and is excited about buying someone else who will be successful so he will be the successful husband or a very successful wife a man who is willing to help you grow and groom you imagine that you don't have to work a mother walking on eggshells around that's not the kind of man you marry and the truth is that these things are dealt with before you even get married so how do you solve this problem or how do you even avoid getting into this problem there'll be a distraction for your life information information read the right books get counsel bible says that multitude of counsel there's safety get counsel if you're in a relationship don't try to beat the system if there's a system in your church don't try to beat it don't say i don't do counseling we understand each other let's just go there may be things that you're not seeing i always tell my girls listen it's important that we miss who you're going to marry because you're in love i'm not so i can see clearly so if he's telling you those silly things he tells you those sweet nothings that are simply nothing he can't tell me come in love i'm not going to be giggling he says everything he says is funny it's not happening so you need someone who's neutral someone who has their head screwed right that can tell you oh this is not no this man is going to be he's not not going to be secure he won't allow you to do this they're men who promise their way so don't worry when they're getting said you're not going to work i need to sit at home and you have dreams you have goals so there might be a distraction get the right information get the right information and if you're single stop praying stop praying for your husband if you're married pray for your husband okay i have a book um kyle prayer journal praying for your husband some of the resources i'm going to talk about the link is going to be in the description box so you can click on it and just get it listen start praying for your husband some women don't know that tomorrow they're going to be really great iman is okay with you now you don't in fact you don't think your man is insecure because there's nothing to be insecure about so you start praying now you start dealing with things that can possibly happen and you pray that your husband will be great in his own right okay so get the book praying for your husband it will really really help you whether you're single or married i encourage you to get those books and then get information we have a lot of messages about my husband pastor kingsley and i some free resources on youtube um some on our website ldmwpk.org it's just any topic you can imagine has been dealt with so get information get information if you're going to have a great marriage you need to get information okay so that's the first distraction the second one second distraction is your health certain attacks the same way certain attacks men in their finances is the way attacks remain in their health satan comes for your body and the truth is if there's anything wrong with your body then god can't use you to fulfill everything that he needs you to fulfill you need to be alive you need to be healthy you need to be well you need to be strong when i'm talking about your health i'm not just talking about your physical health i'm also talking about your mental health you need a sound mind you need a sound mind and the problem with your mental health is sometimes people don't even see deteriorating but it is so if your emotions are all over the place if you've had trauma of some sort talk to someone make sure that your health is in place a lot of women don't know that it can be a distraction once you are sick you can't do all the things you're supposed to do if you're in the hospital today in hospital tomorrow hospital day after your running test it will drain you of money it will drain your energy it will drain you of your time and you need those three things to succeed in life you need those three things you need your money you need your time you need your energy to succeed in life so the effort and the energy that you would have put into doing great things writing books doing meetings organizing seminars doing stuff that you could be doing now you'll be spending and running after hospitals and doctors so don't play with your health because it can actually be a distraction it can keep you from doing what you should do and one of the things that i think um a lot of us don't do is rest okay let me speak for myself i don't rest and i've learned that the hard way i've learned that if you do not rest your body will begin to break down now god showed us a precedence in the very beginning when he created everything created the heavens the earth and everything in the earth and he made man and then he blessed man and bible says then god rested on the seventh day and he made that day holy now i don't think that i know i know that god was not tired but god had to do it to show us a precedent to show us that it's important that you rest that there must be one day that you shut down so that your body can recover so that your mind can recover so you need to give yourself a loan time you need to give yourself rest time you need to give yourself recovery time you need to reboot pretty much reboot so you need to take time away a lot of us don't do that we play with our health i remember i said a lot that when people say after a single rest i said oh i will rest and we get to heaven i pray that you don't get to heaven sooner than you need to get there so rest is so vital what you do about your health you exercise you eat clean drunk you know drunk when we're growing up um a lot of us thought that by time i'm older i'll buy buy shower ma i'll buy any kind of skit i want i'll buy 10 person and i'll finish it because my parents are rushing everything by the time you get older you're like you can't eat everything you don't eat everything there's certain things you stop eating when you're 35 the certain things you stop eating at 40 certain then you stop eating at 50. they're not a sign of status if anything they're causing your body to deteriorate you need to be careful what you put inside your body get information get a regular checkup at least once a year i recommend at least once a year see a doctor and do a checkup especially if you're over 40 you must get a checkup eat clean exercise exercise doesn't have to be anything boring it doesn't have to be something you spend so much money on you don't have to go to the gym all the time you can do something you enjoy i enjoy walking i take long walks every day and what i did for myself was that i started um because i could make excuses about work working out or walking so i would wake up in the morning and be like oh sad today i don't want to go anywhere i'll just lie down draw it's just today then i started tying into my prayer time so i must pray so i realized that i'm going to pray anyway so i might as well stand up and do a prayer work so i'm getting the two done at the same time see that's that's the good thing about multitasking so that way i work out in the morning because i'm exercising and then i pray as well because i must pray i must talk to god and then that fresh hair just that fresh air just hits me in the morning and my head is clear i'm good to go so it's important that you exercise you eat clean don't eat everything that come any joke that passes no three things no it gets to stage where you start to turn some things down okay so it's important check ups rest and then soul touch it's something i call support you need to cleanse your soul of negative emotions negative habits things that will keep your soul polluted you need to find time and cleanse yourself like a cleanse of some sort i have a book called soul perch um link will be there so you can get it and help you know work work with it it's a daily almost like a daily devotional so help you pudge some negative emotions like unforgiveness anger pride envy all these things clog your soul and so they affect your mind fear the bible says that god has not given us the spirit of fear but of love power and a sound mind so i know that his sound mind is essential when your mind is clear your thoughts you know your thoughts are filled with clarity you can think clearly so important people don't know that when they lose their minds you know sometimes when i see women who've lost their minds we saw those we say those things they become cliche but i mentioned a lot of women who they literally can't control what their mind puts out you don't want to get there when you look into their lives you realize that oh there's been some unforgiveness there maybe their husbands hurt them and they couldn't get past it or someone betrayed them and they couldn't get past it and they started suppressing and suppressing and one day their mind just could not take it anymore you just shut down them you don't want to be there so it's important that you make sure that your body is fit because only if when you're alive that god can use your body and that your mind is healthy because then you can possess thoughts and you can work with clarity okay so that's number two number three is so important number three so important identity a lot of women lack identity now i'm going to try to put them together because identity and self-esteem um are kind of very close they're not necessarily the same thing but they're very close so um i'll talk to i'll talk about identity but the self-esteem is an offshoot of your identity so your identity talks about who you are and who god says you are um your self-esteem comes from having confidence in who you are and whom god says you are so i'll give you an example and the truth is that that's what satan is always after your identity is one of the things he's always after so um when jesus was baptized you know the story jesus was baptized if you don't know the story then you read it really really talk it's very interesting so jesus came to be baptized and he saw his cousin john the baptist and they had this whole conversation about no you baptized do you do no you do no no you no you know you another kind of thing and then jesus now says you know what i'm not going to argue with you so that scriptures are fulfilled you baptize me it's okay it's cool so he baptizes him and as he does as jesus is coming out of the water the bible says that the heavens open and then the dove the holy spirit is sending like a dove comes and then the voice was heard in heaven and the voice said this is my beloved son in whom i am well pleased and he says hear ye him and so there was a clear announcement from heaven that this is god's son the very next thing the bible says bible says that from there jesus went straight away into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil and so jesus was there and he fasted 40 days and 40 nights and then satan came to him and said if you are the son of god turn this stones into bread and a lot of times we make the mistake of thinking that what satan came to do was to tempt jesus because he was hungry the bible says jesus was hungry yeah after 40 days unfortunately we won't be hungry but that wasn't the issue and you will know that that was in the issue because satan's tricks are pretty much the same it's just that we don't watch closely and you know what they say about history when you don't pay attention to history it has a way of repeating itself so the same temptation that satan went to meet um adam and eve with was the same temptation he came to jesus with so he said to adam i said to eve rather he said to eve he said did god really say that you should not eat this fruit was still about food and she said no he said we can eat everything but we should not eat of this and this and then said uh he didn't he's just saying because if you eat it he knows that you become like him and she didn't know quotes were that god had already said i'm making you in my image i'm like and so we're already like him and so they feel that test work fully ah another thing about god if you feel that test we must pass it even though we're not moving to the next class when jesus came jesus had to go through the same exam they went through so he was there in the wilderness and then satan came to me and said if you are the son of god excuse me god just said it a few minutes ago that this is my beloved son in whom i'm well pleased so how are we here again on this identity issue that's the first temptation that every human being must face and if you don't pass the satan will keep using it to distract you because if you don't know who you are you will you just allow yourself to be tossed about anything they bring that's what you are anything they say is raining that's what is anything involved if you know who you are if you know who god has said you know nothing will things that are not important won't appeal to you so they are fighting on twitter you can deactivate your accounts like me and be okay you will not die there's somebody's posting on instagram i have ten likes if you don't have likes it's okay put your message out there and move on you're okay you won't die but you know what you don't have that sense of identity you don't know who you are then anything anyone throws at you you know you will just accept it so so satan said to him if you are the son of god then change this and jesus said i know we are really going with this do you understand so i'm never going to answer i'm just going to tell you that it is written and what is written cannot be raised and so that settles jesus knew who he was it was oh it's always a battle of identity most times if you know where god is taking you you won't do some of the things that you're doing if you know that tomorrow you're going to be the president of a great corporation some of this i don't want to say but let me just say some of these string boys that are following you about you won't even talking to them you may want to allow them give them the time of day so you are sleeping with this sleeping with us sleeping with everything then tomorrow god now says you can be preaching simon sister we've all seen you now do you understand you'll not have to deal with again you don't say where satan is going so he's not really about what you are doing now it's about your future it's about dealing with who you are if you can hit that your confidence that's your self-esteem then he would have won so if he can't get you to stop thinking oh this is who i am he's really after your identity and your self-esteem is after who you are and your confidence in the knowledge of who you are let me tell you something else that was very interesting for me um jesus was in jesus was speaking to nicodemus and bible says nicodemus came to jesus in the night so he had seen jesus in the temple um speaking and different things long story so anyhow the gist is that he now came to meet jesus in the night and then he said to jesus he said no one can do the things that you do except god be with him and i don't know but i think jesus must have laughed this one's not laughed and said because jesus next answer didn't seem linked to what the guy asked the guy said no one can do what you do if god is not with him so basically what he was asking show us the way now guys show us what you do and then jesus laughed and said to him except a man be born again so jesus was saying to him it's not really about what we do it's about who we are except you be and that's interesting because we are not human doings we are human beings god needs you to be a to be a being i don't know to explain that but god needs you to be to understand that you who you are your worth your identity once you understand who you are you understand who god has created you to be you understand where god is taking you and you're confident in that you won't be moved by everything that is jumping around i've heard people say things like um you say you're a christian but if you can take jesus off that song we will pay you swan so and so now that would be a temptation because you don't know who you are if you know that you're god's child and it means that these things they want to give you already belong to you you won't sell out you won't sell out but usually the problem is that we don't have that confidence look at jesus reading um in the temple where he says that he went to the temple and he read as his custom was on the sabbath day and he read to them he said the spirit of the lord is upon me because he has anointed me to preach the good news to set the captivity you know open the eyes of the blind and to declare the acceptability of the lord and they said that it wasn't just he said then he returned the scroll to them and then he said today you see the scriptures fulfilled in me do you know that it wasn't the fact that he read the scriptures because other people had been reading he wasn't the first person that was reading temple it was the normal thing different people were called to read but it was the way he read it there was a confidence then jesus had a healthy self-esteem this is a 12 year old boy that his mom was asking him dude they lost him for three days they were looking for him everywhere when they now found him jesus said why are you looking for me didn't you know i'll be among my father's business i've known this other preston conquer what i might have you're 12 my guy 12. your father is looking for you you know but he was so confident in who he was and he said after that day he went to when you beat them he didn't give the wildlife gimbal it was clear that from the beginning for as a 12 year old he had such a strong sense of identity he knew what he could and could not do if you look over jesus life i said i don't want to preach someone on identity but it's just so important because if you don't know who you are satan will distract you you everything everything that that is ruining you where so we are now opening our breasts you open we are opening our sketch you will open we are now wearing a ring backward you yeah we are now dressing as men you dress we're dressing as women you dress we're marrying men you marry we're marrying women right you don't no sense of identity you can't say i'm a christian and this is what i stand for this is what i'm going on this is where i draw the line so they say oh they're sleeping around to get jobs this is not me because i know who i am they say ah if you don't go on saturday you will not pass you know that your case is different it may happen for other people but not with you you know there's a confidence and you can't be easily distracted when you know who you are i always tell my i always tell anyone christmas say oh that's me but not you what that's me but you can't because you know who you are is a sense of identity if you don't know who you are sitting will distract you or bring options your way if you know you are near the child of a king you can't marry a riff raff come right as anybody just talking anyhow just because you have sweet words you will know that you can only marry a man who is worthy of your son that is worthy of you a king in his own right so if you don't know who you are they can bring you shin gum boy looking for a better world i don't know that's what my mom used to call them chingong boys i'm not chewing gum chin gum boys okay so the next thing so remember first thing marriage if you marry wrong it will distract your life second thing your health if you're always sick it will keep you from achieving the things you need to achieve the third thing is your identity if you don't know who you are you settle for less than you deserve now to deal with that you need to study the word of god if you study the word of god all through scriptures you can see who he was written clearly in christ you are this in him you are this everywhere in the new testament describes who we are the ultrasound describes god but the new testament describes who we are and the interesting thing is everything you see that you read about jesus you have the potential to have it you know why because bible says we're joined heirs so jesus is just my big brother so anything i see in his life can be reproduced in mind so that helps you when you study the word you spend time praying when you're praying god shows you who you are clearly shows you this is what you're supposed to do with your life this is who you're going to marry this how many children you're going to have it just helps you be focused satan can't distract you because you know where you're going you know the plan you have the blueprint clearly and that comes with identity and self-esteem um i read a book recently called one thing i think that if you get it will help you to settle the identity issue and to know what's really important in life hey people so if i have never invited you to be a part of praying pastor m let me apologize officially and let me take this opportunity to invite you to be a part of a very growing family on instagram so if you're on instagram please follow me at pascal mildred and join me 3pm every day west african time to be a part of what we do it's just a time where we get to learn about the word of god have fun talk about real life issues and just connect with each other so please be a part of it every day of the week monday to saturday 3 p.m with pm praying with pastor m god bless you [Music] [Applause] [Music] you

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