7 Daily Habits of Happy Successful People That Changed My Life

[Music] today we're going to be talking about seven daily habits of happy people happy men and women and I'm really excited about this video so let's just get to it it seems kind of simple when you think about it but happy people do what unhappy people don't do so if you think about people that you know that are unhappy and you think about how they spend their times and you think about what would be the opposite of that then you're gonna find some pretty healthy happy happy habits in that type of thinking I used to be somebody that was very unhappy and in my personal life when I began to realize that I was codependent and that I was unaware and that I was unconscious and that I didn't have the wonderful childhood that people wanted me to believe I had when I finally realized that there was stuff below the veil there was stuff below the surface that was valid my world was blown right I didn't know that all of these unconscious patterns is lack of self-love this lack of self self-esteem this fixating on other people that's looking for validation I didn't know that those were habits of unhealthy people unhappy people and as I recovered more and more and more and more I became happier and happier so the first thing we have to understand is that happiness sounds so cliche dear ones and I'm sorry but I'm gonna say it your happiness does not reside outside of you so let's talk about so many things that we can do every day to help us be more happy happy people take time out for themselves unhappy people are enmeshed they're codependent they're minding everybody else's business but their own and they fear being alone happy people don't mind being alone happy people like being alone I'm not talking about isolating and being afraid to be around people I'm talking about people who are genuinely how be and you are able to be alone and can dip their foot in the pond of lots of social activity and who also appreciate and want to also be alone so that they can self reflect their unplugging from technology their unplugging from the internet their unplugging from Instagram and Facebook and they like it so people who meditate people who take walks people who are totally ok with being by themselves right this is a habit of a healthy person and a happy person number 2 people who are unhappy tend to and this might sting a little bit you know I know because I think if I had heard someone say this when I was before I was recovered I'd be annoyed but I'm happy people have a victim mentality right when I was codependent I thought the problem was my ex-husband all he had to do was change and I'd be happy right if people would just do what I wanted them to do I'd be happy I had no idea at the time because I was below the veil of consciousness I had no idea that what I was doing and how I was thinking was wrong right so in that is a victim mentality like what are you doing to me why are you doing this to me I didn't know that I had a right to set boundaries I had a right to say adios I had a right to go into therapy I had a right to take care of myself all right to love myself I didn't know that I was waiting for validation from the outside I was looking for permission to feel my feelings and to be who I was and so on that unhappy people have a victim mentality now this could be a victim mentality that is you know it's not their fault right you don't know how to protect yourself right but it's important and I think it's worth talking about in achieving and understanding that the happier you become the less of a victim mentality you possess so a habit of happy people is to release this idea that their happiness is tied to something outside of themselves they are in the habit of making themselves happy they are in the habit of happiness ownership they are in the they are in the habit of saying if something makes me unhappy then how can I instead be happy it might be I need to set a boundary with my narcissistic sister it might be that no I'm not going to that holiday party I don't enjoy what happens there you know it might be you know no I'm not going out to dinner with that person or it might be I'm going to end this relationship right but one of the best habits of a happy person is that they take ownership over their level of happiness one of the things number three one of the things that I did so often when I was unhappy was I kept looking outside of myself for a state of happiness or something outside of me was going to finally or someone was gonna Pat me on the back and saying you're okay here enough right all goes back to abandonment trauma seeking my mother's approval marrying a man who is just like my mother seeking her approval through the relationship so messed up so holographic so below the veil but as I began to get healthier what I began to do is I became more self reflective my level of self-awareness expanded when you're codependent you have very little self awareness when you're our narcissist you have zero self awareness you don't want to go there right it's always someone else's fault that you are the way you are and it's very difficult if not impossible to heal from and so self awareness is huge so a habit of a happy person is milking their level of self-awareness through self-reflection so if you want to be happier it's really important that you consider because spending time not only being alone but being self reflective that you journal that you do what I do what I do is at the end of the night right before I'm turning into bed I rewind the day in my and I asked myself could I have been any more truthful could I have been more authentic could I have been less codependent if I thought that I was could I have been kinder could I have been less reactive I'm looking for things in my day to help me better understand myself because I believe in the power of self correction I'm pretty good at not demeaning myself and degrading myself if I noticed through self-reflection that I could have done better I'm pretty good at that it took me a while to get out of that shame cycle and like going to no self correction is good as soon as I see that I've done something or I've gone down a rabbit hole or I've said something I didn't want to say I get back on the horse because it's all about self awareness and self correction and if you want to be happy you've got to be willing to do that right so healthy people and happy people spend time self reflecting number four a daily habit of happy people has to do with what they put into their body if you look at unhappy people and unhealthy people and you look at what they eat very often what they eat represents a lack of self-love right and so we're all on a journey to try to return back to the love that we are you know in my opinion evil is a lack of light and anything and anyone in any situation has ever happened to you in your life that has pulled you away from the light in my opinion is evil and what we're trying to do is return back to the life that we are that's really the goal in my humble opinion that's the journey and the more able you are to love yourself even when it doesn't feel natural to love yourself you are moving further to your life so sure you might have you know a box of chocolate in your house and be great to have that for breakfast right okay maybe have a piece or two pieces but make sure that you also eat some be healthy make sure that your entire diet isn't unhealthy make sure that you are reaching for something that is nutritious that is going to fill you at a cellular level that's going to enhance you that's going to allow your body to take care of you in its in the best way it possibly can so a habit of healthy happy people is that they eat well and they honor their body number five another daily habit that I have developed and it took me a while to get here is mindfulness it's all about staying present in the now what I teach in my 12 week class my 12-week breakthrough coaching program I teach people how to stay present in the body rather than dissociate the me if the body what a painful emotion shows up right so well what I'm trying to teach is this idea of staying present you've got this you yes you might be triggered right and chemicals might spew into your bloodstream that make your heart race and make your palms sweat right and you might want to feel like you're crawling out of your skin that is an autonomic response to a stressor and it's not your brains fault that it has that response to a stressor now before I was much happier I was reacting to the past and I was reacting to the future so I had this anticipatory anxiety about the future and then I just had this this really heavy sad remorseful just empty anxiety from the past and sometimes I would just ruminate right and I used the the the word the the term I pronoun I loosely because it wasn't me I was on autopilot who I think I was I was not my mind was just ruminating it was triggered and I'm I find my consciousness my awareness my level of awareness which was limited paying attention to this movie in my head and my body's freaking out not my fault not my body it's not the memories fault it's not anxieties fault it's not the autonomic nervous systems fault the brain is wired to remember painful events from the past so that we can avoid them in the future that's all part of it's a defense it's a survival skill that's built into the brain and it's fabulous once you understand it before I was as happy as I am and I still have to practice happiness but before I was where I am today I was not mindful I was reactive and so a habit of happy people is practicing mindfulness so it's really interesting because to be mindful is to be empty of mind right I drive along the highway with my husband and I look out the windows and I am just loving the sky and loving the birds and loving the trees and loving whatever I say like I'm not kidding I'm in awe of this planet of this world of quantum entanglement of lavash I'm just in awe the earth is hanging out in this atmosphere you know at no scaffolding I mean if that's not enough to blow your mind I don't know what it is but anyway I digress um today I practice mindfulness so Anthony will say to me what are you thinking about and I'll say nothing and it's like how could you be thinking of nothing and I say because I'm appreciating everything and in my state of appreciation I am one with everything I don't have to have thoughts I can just look out at the trees and just be appreciative be in a state or a flow of appreciation and gratitude for everything that there is because as long as I'm breathing I get to appreciate through the human vehicle which is the body and that's pretty damn cool um so one of the habits of happy people is practicing mindfulness now before I could get to the state of empty mind and yet full of everything I started practicing meditation and if there was a camera in my house people would probably think I was a wack up because when I first started meditating I would meditate I would meditate and I would put like 20 minute you know heart chakra meditation on or a 30 minute pineal gland meditation on that would sit up on my couch because that's where I started meditating and if I heard my mind ruminating was like what put my earbuds back in and went back down then I realized you know what it takes my mind about 20 minutes just to calm down and I realized it was automatic like this is not my mind these are just taped recorded messages this is the subconscious crap this is the you know the inner critic crap this is not my stuff it's the inner critic it's a you know it's not my stuff so if I would do meditation and sit up and I still heard you know all discrimination I was laid back down again put my earbuds again again and again and I would go for a 40-minute meditation or a 60-minute meditation eventually I went for like two hours where I would just be laying there and I'd be listening to these meditations and I did this over and over and every single day I did it over and over and over until it got to the point where the minute I put my earbuds in I was out I was either asleep or I was in some other state of consciousness whatever but using meditation as a tool and I have an entire playlist on in on YouTube that you can tap into or you can listen to me on inside timer as well but you know it was all about teaching me to reduce mental chatter and so now because I have a meditation practice which is how I take care of myself one of the ways I take care of myself when I'm out and about my mind isn't filled with all this craziness that's why it's frustrating to me you know when members of my family of my friends come to me they're like this you know how are you so chill and I'm like start meditating like I don't like to meditate I'm like okay I don't know what to tell you but meditation changed my life so if you're listening to this video you don't like my friends and family maybe you'll listen maybe we'll actually try it if you do let me know how you do another daily habit of happy people is that they're not complaining about what they have they're grateful for what they have and they also in other words how that translates to dollars is that they don't spend more than they make if you think about unhappy people that you might know who are in debt you know we just had someone in our family just got in so much credit card debt trouble it was ridiculous right and he was unhappy and he was depressed right and so people who are happy they feel secure in their life right so you got to be responsible so you know that's like an umbrella that's like an umbrella term or umbrella umbrella have it like you have to be responsible so happy people are responsible right but how we break it down into a daily habit is that none of us should spend more than we make now I don't care if you make $20,000 a year or you make $500,000 a year or five million dollars a year if you want to be happy then you will be financially responsible you will feel good about managing your money and you will feel good about what you have and you won't complain about not having which is really hard to do when you don't have it's really easy you know to not complain when you have right but it's difficult to not complain and to stay in a state of gratitude and abundance right and to be mindful when you don't have but I can tell you as someone who has studied the law of attraction and I teach the law of attraction in my master class I can tell you that you cannot attract abundance from a state of lack and it's very difficult when you are lacking and you are don't have you're not making the dollars that you want and it's difficult to survive I can tell you when I first got divorced and I was living in my little house it was beat up and it was run down and I didn't have health insurance right and my ex-husband lied about how much money he made I didn't get alimony I was terrified how am I gonna take care of these three little kids I didn't have a job but I got certified I got three different certifications I became a sports nutritionist coach fitness trainer and a couple I have enough one other other certification and I just went and looked for a job and I was lucky enough to get hired by this wellness center that was had a gym and but the thing was that I had you know I didn't have clients when I first started there and it was like your clients don't come in you don't get paid so there's no job security but I knew that I had to focus on what I wanted I knew that I had to think about and try to get myself into a vibrational state that matched my desired outcome so if I wanted more dollars I could not focus on what I didn't have I had to milk the feeling of having and so what I played with that so what I began doing was when I wrote out a check now we do online baking right but when I was writing out a check I would write smiley faces on the cheque or I would write thank-you on the envelope that was me sending gratitude out into the universe right and just saying I'm so grateful that I have the money to pay for this bill now there were times where I can only send in ten dollars to whoever I needed to pay for the month but I still instead of complaining wow I don't have enough money to pay the whole bill I tried to change my attitude and I shifted it to I'm so grateful I have ten dollars to spend or ten dollars to send my kids and I didn't go to the movies I didn't buy my children and more video games right I wasn't taking them to the book store I was going to the library everything was free when I was walking to the library with the kids I'm so grateful that I have a public library that I can walk to it was like changing everything that could have been a negative into a positive a habit of a healthy person is somebody who is okay with not spending more than they make and who is being financially responsible because when you're not that creates stress and it's just a downward spiral it's a rabbit hole and you will be much happier in the long run if you practice responsibility around money and also learn to as best you can I've been there and I know it's people are in even worse situations that I was in I hear you I feel you I honor you my best advice to you I know how hard it is and I know how hard it is my best advice to you is to milk a feeling of gratitude be grateful for your hair grateful for your eyes grateful for your teeth grateful that you can breathe whatever it is if you're walking grateful that I can walk just try to milk this sense of gratitude regardless of where you are right now okay number seven is probably probably my favorite and that is that one of them one of the best daily habits that you can adopt if you want to be a happy person is to learn to let go what I mean by that is this okay in my book codependent now what I talk about some codependent Commandments right and these are anchoring thoughts and I want to share some of those with you so that when you are bumped up against a narcissist or you are dealing with someone who is just like irritating you or something's going down and your family and people are talking about you or you're being accused of something you're not guilty of whatever whatever right this is what I want you to think about I want you to know that you have to like everybody and not everybody has to like you isn't that free that's freaking awesome no you don't have to like everybody and not everybody has to like you it's okay if people don't like you think about how many times you have spoken poorly about someone so you know what someone's going to speak poorly about you that's okay let it go the less energy you give it the more you go yeah it's okay she could talk about me yeah it's okay yeah it's not true but you know what she's allowed to lie about me it's totally fine it's okay yeah when you become nonreactive you are not locking yourself to that dynamic you are free guess what they don't jack with your vibration so if you're up here and you hear that someone said something about you and you remember this video you know and you say it's okay it's okay I'm gonna let this go they're not going to be able to pull you down um a quick story when the first time that I remember doing this I was going through my separation with my ex-husband and divorces are horrible that just is you've never been through it pray for someone that you know that's going through it because they need your prayer Oh Lord well my ex-husband sent me a bunch of text I don't know 20 or 30 texts one day while I was at work right and I hear my phone going off in a locker in the locker locker locker back then he and I were like we would lock horns I was - I was I was past being afraid of him there was a time where I was so afraid of him I was I was you know kneeling down between the toilet bowl on the tub and he was yelling at me right it was about money of course narcissus loved to play mind games about money whatever I digress at any rate once I moved out of being afraid of him I became this I became angry and the anger made me feel empowered so what would happen is I would fight him so he said something nested in me I was like oh yeah and I said something back but I was stopped dear ones always dog and I remember the day that I got a bunch of text and I opened my phone because I had a flip phone at the time and I looked at it and I said codependent no more I'm not texting him back click and I shut my phone and I put it in a locker and I vowed from that day on to not engage and that taught me so much I could have started out my day like this and he could have texted me and I ended up here because I engaged so that's my little story about learning to let go it's not easy but I think when we understand that we are going to be challenged as human beings to let go we are going to be challenged to turn towards the light and away from the dark people are going to come into your experience you're going to be challenged they're going to want to pull you into their layer of darkness you have a choice now you you want to identify a negative person don't engage just let it go and if you can develop the language like yeah you're allowed to talk about me no that's not exactly true but I'm sorry she said that or wow that's interesting she totally made that up or you're entitled to your faulty perception of me it's totally fine you know I get it I don't like everybody you don't like me it's fine right even if you never say it out loud if you develop these these mindsets you're not going to be pulled around by your nose anymore you're going to be able to maintain your vibration and you're going to make you're going to be able to maintain a higher state of happiness and you deserve that we all do my name is Lisa Romano I'm the break through life coach and best-selling author and I've created a 12-week break the coaching program that can help you become less reactive manage your emotions process painful emotions and learn to live your authentic life now so if you're codependent if you've come from dysfunctional home if you've dealt with toxic shame if you've suffered abandonment if you've come from you know a narcissistically abusive relationship if you're struggling to do with your children so many of us especially as codependent parents we are codependent with our children if you want to teach them how to not be codependent by healing yourself then this 12-week breakthrough coaching program might be for you if you want to listen to one of my books to free you can do so by clicking the link below and check out my facebook support group nameste everybody until next time bye for now

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Length: 25min 22sec (1522 seconds)

Published: Thu Dec 19 2019