5 ways to get back at a narcissist or toxic person | The Narcissists' Code Ep 831

so what hurts a narcissist the most from the perspective of a diagnosed narcissist y'all if you're new here my name is Lee hammock I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and welcome to another episode of The Narcissist code my podcast y'all um if you're new here like I use my platform to raise awareness for NPD get more people into therapy and also validate the victims and survivors and thrivers of this disorder toxic people toxic traits and whatnot yeah and we that's what we're talking about yeah what hurts a narcissistic person the most a toxic person the most oh my goodness y'all make sure you join the newsletter already if you haven't y'all subscribe to the link is in the description of every podcast and video I do but the funny thing about it is y'all um the thing that's going to hurt a narcissist the most is literally one of the things that's going to set some narcissist off is actually just a thumbnail of this video the thumbnail is going to hurt a nurse and say I'm in some self-aware narcissists Facebook groups and they always share videos like this and nobody ever watches the video but they share the thumbnails like oh lee hamburgers pandering so the thumbnail of this video is going through sets of narcissists off which is going to be hilarious to me because they always like yeah it's just give take love hey but the thumbnail how to hurt a narcissist like he's giving away the secrets he's letting people know how to hurt us yeah and y'all know I'm not out here because could you hurt how did her The Narcissist it's not the most difficult thing in the world yeah could you physically hurt them like they might have physically hurt you yeah you can retaliate that way but the I heard a narcissist is literally the number one way to hurt a narcissist want to do the number one ways is just to make them feel shame yo shame is a great and I say great I mean great provocation with narcissists it is one of those things like shame is shame just damn near destroys narcissistic people it is one of the greatest forces in a narcissist's life that drives us literally out of our minds it's just one of those things that drives us out of mind so bringing shame into the life going to the Viewpoint of a narcissist hurts that narcissistic person I promise you it does it seems like it seems like it's like well how do you do that yeah shame it doesn't take much to introduce shame to into a narcissist like it just really really doesn't you can just exposing them blah blah I mean we wasn't going to Greater detail or some other ways to bring shame to him but yeah shame is what narcissists are trying to avoid a lot of times it is bringing shame into their life divorcing them brains shame into like breaking up with them brain shame into their life you've been posting online that they don't take care of their kids brain shame into their life telling their friends and family brain shame into their life you know telling your friends about how they treat you brain shame into their life them not making enough money you making more money you having more education you looking better that type of stuff brings insecurity and shame into the narcissist life y'all so brain shame introducing the shame monster into Enlighten the life of a narcissist brain shame into their life it's just one of those things right there y'all you know another way to hurt quote unquote hurt a narcissist is literally just the posters they just posted stuff uh literally the other I I keep harping back to the thumbnail because it's absolutely true I think y'all don't understand how fragile narcissist a lot of narcissistic people are like y'all think it's extremely hard to hurt a narcissist is absolutely not narcissistic people including myself are extremely fragile people it's not hard to hurt us at all it's not hard to Rattle our ego make it make us question our Worth or our value it's not hard at all y'all so the thumbnail it's like it's gonna It's Gonna Hurt somebody's gonna watch a video like yo don't let it trigger you um but yeah another way to hurt a narcissist y'all is to you living well just live where yo this seems super simplistic but you living well hurts a narcissistic person it really really does you know what I mean it really really does like you living well in your glow up Journey makes that narcissistic person feel a certain type of way like they probably didn't think that you could do it without them but guess what he did it didn't you guess what he made it in you guess what you graduate you did you did everything they said you couldn't do everything that they tried to hold you back from everything they try to make you feel guilty about he did it didn't you you know what I'm saying you see how that works right there it's in that space in that situation you did it living your best life without them hurts a narcissistic person if they find out about it if they see it if they hear about it but this is another situation right here y'all this is another thing that hurts narcissist blocking him coin no contact y'all it just they goodness blocking them and going no contact absolutely hurts narcissistic people it's just one of those things it just does so they might not even get to see your living well Journey they might not get to see your glow up Journey they might not get to see you thriving and living in abundance without them or just just thriving and living life and happy without them they might not get to see it but they feel it because if you block them they can lose their damn Minds because if you block them guess what they automatically they automatically think that you shifted and you move it under somebody else even if they have somebody else they can hurt their feelings they can put that could be on their mind y'all even if they have somebody else and you block them no warning they just wake up block one day they just peek at your stuff to see if you still in the same place they're unhappy and single and then they can't find your profile and you realize they blocked hey hey can you see your girl's profile real quick man then she deleted her Facebook oh man no I can still see I'm still friends with her damn she must have blocked you damn really oh it's just crazy well dang huh yeah no contact blocking hurts narcissistic people of course y'all use the discretion when doing all of this stuff because everybody's life is going to be different in these situations but yeah exposure another thing to hurt narcissistic people exposing them exposing them to for who they are who they actually are to the world breaking that that kind of shielded reputation that that they might have that hurts a narcissistic person it just really really does y'all it really does that hurts and artists being exposed to hurt breaking their reputation breaking this Perfect Image hurts narcissistic people more than more than anything y'all and all of this stuff brain shame to nurses y'all all of it brings the shame into their life but yeah exposure sucks like I've cultivated this reputation for a long time and now you're gonna expose me oh hell no blink blink you know blink blink Blinky Blinky bling what's that uh uh Lego Batman yeah exposing them yeah of exposure the fact that you could expose them hurts them and bring shame and paranoia into their life y'all because if you could expose them they're always in the back of their mind thinking of them this person's gonna expose me you know what I'm saying in another way y'all to quote unquote hurt a narcissist to get back at them is literally y'all he's gonna sound it's gonna sound super complicated super complicated they want making them be viewed as a bad person that's one of the main ways to hurt a narcissistic person right there y'all is making them be viewed as a bad person because narcissists we have this chronic crazy people of the world we see it's kind of like we see the world in black and white you're either all good or all bad in that same that same uh the same standard applies to us in our own lives we're either all good or we're all bad and we don't want to be viewed as bad people because that destroys us internally it brings it sucks us into this void Eternal like internally that we feel like we are bad people and we shame ourselves we put ourselves it's kind of like you know when you um are a kid right and you in the classroom and they tell you to go sit in the corner and put the dunce cap on you know that that feeling right there where you're in the corner your back is to the classroom you're sitting in the corner on the store I know most of y'all mostly y'all might be too old for the Dutch Captain the real life shaming um but dead it's just that's that feeling you go sit in the corner and you feel like you're a horrible horrible person and when you get into that into that feeling that you're a horrible person it could drive you into this depressive state where you just it is yeah it's like falling into a pit of the a dark dark pit like and you keep falling you keep falling you keep falling and this is the kind of crate and this is the pit right here y'all the pit is started off as just a person-sized hole just deep enough for me to fall into but the deeper I fall The Wider it gets like I can't touch the size anymore it's that dark y'all it's that dark lord you know to be viewed as a bad person it feels like it takes you back to your childhood it kind of it's like it takes you back to your childhood when you used to get in trouble and things like I'm just telling you it makes you feel like a bad bad person and you beat yourself like the narcissistic person beats themselves up you know and all of this stuff to all together makes narcissistic people feel like bad people you know being shamed being uh rejected like so according to rejection hurts narcissistic people um but exposure like I said rejection is blocking all the other stuff but all that stuff hurts narcissistic people y'all that's why you're saying like it you know and you're not trying to cause pain to the person like this is not about causing the pain because all of this stuff just requires you to live your life and move on you know this requires you to set boundaries healthy boundaries and if you want and sometimes you heal out loud there's nothing wrong with healing out loud just be safe when you're healing I mean by healing out loud is like telling maybe telling your story to a group of people or something like that posting your story online trying to reach more people to help and things like that so it just gets into that space where it's not very difficult to hurt in our system it really does require very little energy very little anything just you living you rejected them you saying no to them hurts narcissism you rejected them you exposing them you bringing shame into them you making it feel like a bad person it just yeah it all hurts just so bad I know so so bad you know like but we don't want to hurt them like we're empathetic people y'all yeah you don't you don't have to seek out to hurt them because again seeking out to hurt them means you expose them to their wife or their husband or whatever the situation is you know expose them to their job expose them on social media like you're not seeking to hurt them this is how life goes about you know again y'all the thumbnails the video is gonna set some people off which I it just got again it's not me trying to be antagonistic it's literally just me spreading information to people hate that well certain certain people is it anyway y'all made it this far make sure you like And subscribe to the channel help support the channel or not but just liking the subscribing anyway y'all mental illness is out peace what is going on beautiful people thank you so much for making it to the end of my video watching it all the way through y'all if you haven't already go ahead go ahead and hit that subscribe button y'all turn on notifications so you don't miss a 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Length: 11min 29sec (689 seconds)

Published: Sun Aug 20 2023