This video is meant to educate you and
perhaps warn you in case you are doing any of these things. Isn't it better to actually get corrected
and improve yourself so that you have better success? Rather than doing things
over and over and over again that you are not noticing are actually making
other people dislike you. But you're not aware of it because you
haven't ever thought about it or nobody has corrected you. So this video is here to help you. Maybe raise a little bit of awareness on some topics that really does make oftentimes
affluent people dislike you and maybe not want to befriend you. For those of you who do not know, my name is Anna and I run
an online finishing school called School Of Affluence. That's where I teach
women about high society, how to navigate successfully in it and
also how to become more elegant and refined. If you want to start
that transformation, just visit www.SchoolOfAffluence.com. This is probably one of the most common ones because a lot of the times when newcomers or people who are in affluent circles,
they navigate and they might feel deep down, a little bit insecure. So to be able to raise their own
value and they appear more confident, they make this brutal mistake of trying
too hard to impress and especially start with the whole
name dropping game, big no no! This is such an old trick in
the book that never works, but in case it really does make people
around you annoyed and especially affluent people. Affluent people oftentimes don't feel
easily impressed by these things, they easily see through whenever you try to
do this. Because a lot of people are doing this, so maybe it impresses an
average Joe out there in the wildness, but definitely not somebody who is
more experienced, well-traveled, and international.
They have seen in a heard it all. So don't try too hard to impress. Truly just be yourself and even if you
have very interesting names that you could drop around and make
everybody really impressed. Make sure that that information reached
the people in another way and not from your mouth. Now, the second point, usually come from a very
particular type of person, but perhaps somebody who is a
little bit more opportunistic. I'm talking about asking question
after question after question, without talking anything about yourself, you're just there interrogating, interviewing, chasing for some source of information
and you're not sharing anything yourself. This is extremely intrusive and
especially with people you do not know. It also comes across as very
aggressive because you appear as a very opportunistic person who seem to be
chasing something or wanting something out of the other person by continuously
asking all of these questions. Now I do speak about in my
online training program, the importance of showing interest in the
person for networking reasons. But the thing is that there is, a limit to how many questions
you can ask and this is what you really have to pay attention to. You don't want the other person to feel
uncomfortable or to be put on the spot. You also don't want them to feel
like you are after something. Don't want to make them feel that
you're with them for the wrong reasons. So when you are curious and when you want
to ask a lot of questions, it's okay, but just alternate it
and blend it out somehow. Make sure you reciprocate by sharing
your own stories and make them ask you questions that you actually answer. So it's a very natural back and forth
situation without you being too much, what can I find out about you type of attitude. This third , quite important pets peeve,
I know of a lot of affluent people. You have to understand one
thing, affluent people, they're not better human
beings than the average person, but what affluent people have is that
they oftentimes have more wealth, more power, more status. And for that reason, they require more
privacy and safety than the average person. So a lot of the
times affluent people, they do not like it when you
have their contact details. And you share these contact details to
other people for whatever reason it is, even if you're doing
the affluent person a favor, without asking for their permission first. It's really important you ask for
permission whenever you're giving out somebody's contact details,
even if it's social media, email, especially through
phone number and address. Respect people's privacy and respect the fact that people want to be the decision-maker and wants to be in control over how their
confidential information is being shared. Number four, I don't know if
you have watched my video, Are Elegant Women Stiff and Boring? If not, you should definitely watch it because
it really touches upon this subject that I'm about to raise, things that make affluent people dislike somebody. If somebody is plain and simple, stiff and boring, there are of course affluent people who
are boring and the stiff themselves, but the majority are actually quite normal
people. And nobody likes a person who is dead serious the entire time,
never smiles and never laughs, never opens up in any way. What happens with these stiff and boring
people is that they ended up not having much success in high society.
Regardless if you're a man or a woman, the key to success is
truly networking, right? And if you are somebody who have very
bad people skills and you are boring and you're not inviting and you're not
sharing anything positive about you or can vibe it on a happy and outgoing energy, then it's going to be very challenging
for you to network in high society. So I do recommend to,
if you feel it touched by that start thinking about how
you can spice yourself up a bit because you will need it on this journey. Another kind of persona that is a little
bit similar but might come across as a bit strange to you that I mentioned this, but a lot of the times, affluent people
don't like it when you're out there, little miss perfect, little miss nice, you are this little nice girl and
you are a little perfect little angel. Not saying now you have to, you cannot be nice, you cannot be polite and you cannot
act with good manners, absolutely not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about when
you are kind of being very plain in terms of just
there as a nice girl and you have nothing to say. There's no kind of, there's
nothing interesting about you, there's no depth. You just somehow trying too hard to
be perfect and this perfectionism, it makes you appear very
plain and very, very boring. So a lot of the times affluent people,
they do like a bit of personality. They do like somebody who can maybe be
a little bit of a character or have some form of edginess to them, not in big doses. I'm not talking about you becoming this
super flamboyant persona that it has to be center of attention and acts
like a clown, absolutely not. Of course, we're talking balance
here, talking about that it's important to add those little
touches of personality of who you are, of what's unique about you and so on. And not just trying to fit into some form,
very rigid form that is, "hello, I'm this little nice girl and I'm here
to say yes to everything that you asked me for." You know, that's not really
what affluent people are looking for, so they will definitely not like you
that much if you this little Ms. nice and perfect girl. Okay. Lastly, ladies, and this goes out to all the people with
a bit of a narcissistic traits in them. Even if you're not a narcissist, you might have inherited a few traits
from perhaps your family or somebody else, or maybe you have developed it for
some reason. But listen, ladies, people will not like you
if you have no curiosity, if you are lacking any form of
interest in the other person. And this is so basic, but it
really needs to be reminded, because I'm sure, you've been in a conversation
with somebody and you can see, you can spot in their eyes that they are
just dying for you to stop talking so that they can talk instead and
get to say what they want to say. Meaning, they couldn't care less what
you say, what you think, who you are, what you do, blah, blah, blah. All they want to do is to talk themselves
and have their words said and being heard and being seen., very narcissistic. But unfortunately this is
still a very common behavior, but this is probably one of the worst
things that put off people the most. You do not want to go that direction
because you want to have success in high society after all. We all have goals that we want to achieve
and for this reason, I am offering you these type of videos and I also have
my own life finishing school where I really teach women in-depth on
how they can perfect their skills and refine themselves and really achieve
success in high society. Because sometimes it's about mastering very
fine things that can truly pivot your success and make you achieve the
goals that you have set for yourself. If you haven't watched my video, Things You Should Never Tell
Affluent People. Then make sure you watch that video now
and I will see you in that video.
