What's up whats up what's up. It's your man Chazz Ellis. Once again giving you the information that
you ask me. I did a video about how to keep your woman
happy and then I got a flood. I was listening to yall, I was listening. I got a flood from you telling me that they
wanted a video about how to keep a man happy. I was listening to everybody. I couldn't answer all those dog on questions. Hundreds of yall in the PM said give us one
about how to make your man happy. I didn't answer alot of them because Iwas
going to do this video right here. Some of them I told you I was going to do
the video. Some of yall I didn't answer because I was
going to do this video right here. So it wasn't like I was ignoring you. I know what you wanted, I made the video. Ok. So what I did here was I created 5 secret
ways to keep your man happy. The reason why I call them secret, they are
not really secrets necessarily, but they are not the obvious ones that you already hear. Which is basically feed them and f them. Those are the ones that you hear all the time
that's not in here. That's not to say that those don't exist and
that you don't need to do them but those are the obvious ones that you don't need to hear. So these are just some things that alot of
women don't know that are kinda like the key to a man's heart. Some dudes might not even want me to give
this information out, but still. But these are like the keys to a dudes heart. The way to get in there. To where he just doesn't want you there but
he needs you there and that's the biggest thing that you need. Anyway, first thing you want to do with a
guy is steal thier independence. Now I know you are like what. Yea, steal their independence. Here's what I mean. You want to be the person who knows where
everything is and why. You want to be the person that is... Here's the thing about a man, If you'll do
it and we really care about you, and don't mind you know our business. We'll let you but once we get used to you
doing it. That means that we can't really do it ourselves. We don't want to do it ourselves. So, that gives you a certain amount of power
because you know where things are. If you go to any office even thought the boss
might be the most powerful person in the office because they have power given to them by the
command structure or whatever the most powerful person in almost any office is the secretary
because that is the person that everybody is going to ask. If you've ever had a secretary, you know good
and well that there is nothing that you can do without asking her. You actually have to ask her for permission
to do shit. You're in charge but you have to ask her for
permission to do shit because you don't know how to do it without her. You are like aw well, I would go get these
files and do this with them but I don't really know where they are, I don't ever use this
copy machine. So I have to actually ask you if I can make
copies. I'm like hey can you make me some copies,
I can't make them on my own because you might have been there two or three years and you
haven't touched that copy machine the whole time. It would take you 15 minutes or so to even
figure out how to use that particular one so you have to go ahead and ask her. You might not even know how the coffee maker
works. YOu are like hey man, If you drink coffee
you may be like, "hey I don't even know how to use this." I have to ask her to have a cup of coffee. Because she is the one who knows how to make
it. So that is power. Alot of times when you take over alot of aspects
of the dudes life, like, even if he's giving you the money. You are paying his cell phone bill. You are paying his car note. You are doing this that and the other. I'm not just saying baby the dude but as much
as you can take over and take that independence where he's not the one doing alot of stuff. That gives you more power. Plus, if he ever tries to cheat on you or
something like that there is alot easier for you to find out because you are the person
that pays bills now. You are the person that he gives his money
to get this that and the other done. YOu go into his account and do this that and
the other. So you already know everything that he is
doing. You already know how much he is supposed to
have for this and that. So he leaves and goes somewhere you know. If his credit card statement says something
you pay the credit card bill so you know. That's why alot of women actually do that. Alot of brothers out there, you think your
girl is actually being nice. No, they're hijacking your independence. Good for you smart move. Win friends and family over. That's number 2. That's kinda like the public displays of affection
that I was talking about with the woman, when you do the women. But just a little different for men. When you win friends and family over. Basically, you are showing them how much you
care about them on a regular basis. Like for instance, Say there is a fight on
or something like that and he's like "Man, I'm about to go out and I'm going to watch
this fight on saturday." You can be like "Hey babe, you know you could
do this fight over here if you want to, you can watch the fight and I can make wings for
you and your friends. So yall can watch it over here if you want
to. " So he's like "Okay cool." So he brings his friends over, you make wings
for them, you are bringing him drinks and bringing him food and stuff like that. What do they say. Damn you got a good woman. You got a good chick right there. This is a fact. I've seen it this myself. I have a friend of mine. Who really has a good chick and they had got
into an argument and they were going through a little rough patch. They have been in a few arguments and they
were going through a little rough patch or whatever. Well he goes out with us. A couple of his friends. We go to a few parties and stuff like that
and chill with him and everything . I mean like I said he was going through a super rough
patch with his girl. They aren't really speaking and stuff. She's a good chick in general. But anyway, so this other girl starts talking
to him and he's like kind of you can tell he's on the fence about it you can tell he's
kind of like. Yo maybe I should deal with this girl or whatever
cuz that's where people catch you alot of times at a point of weakness. But anyways, he's kind of thinking like I
don't know, maybe I should. The craziest shit happened. My other homeboy who also will remain nameless. I was almost going to say his name but I'm
not going to because other girls also talk to him. But anyway, my other homeboy who was notorious,
notorious for cheating on women. Notorious for having sex with every girl he
could possibly his hands on. I mean this dude don't care. This dude done had s*x with his brother's
girl. I mean this dude don't care about anything. He goes, "Man, dude I wouldn't even do that
if I was you. You got you a good one man. YOu don't want to lose that over this chick. I was like I was in shock. I was thinking the same thing but I was like. You know, I'm a regular human being. This dude right here, he didn't seem to have
any morals to me. But even being who he is he could look at
the situation my friend was in and say, look I don't want you to mess that up. That's what I'm talking about when I say win
over friends and family. It gives you leverage for when you are not
there. Friends and family will look after you. Friends and family don't want to see nobody
else in his life because they feel like you are so good. They are like man that's a good chick right
there. She let us come over and eat and stuff. You know you do stuff for his mom and his
family and stuff like that. They're like, they don't want him to break
up with you. They don't want him to go no where. They are always going to be vouching for you. Like naw, "your in the wrong,", even if he's
not. They are going to be like "naw your in the
wrong for that one." So, get those friends and family on your side
and you do that by just being nice to him in front of them. Making sure they see how much you care about
him. If you can do stuff for his friends and family. Not really as much his friends as his family
because the friends thing can get kind of weird so. But like for his mom, his sisters, brothers,
and stuff like that if you can do nice stuff to help them out. You know within reason. That's a good thing to do. Win over friends and family. Number 3. Be a partner in his dreams. You need to be a partner in everything he's
doing. When he tells you that he wants to do something
that's when you need to spring into action and start saying well how can I help you. What can I do to be a part of this. Listen to him when he tells you about his
goals. Because if you don't believe in a persons
goals and you don't believe in a persons dreams you don't need to be with that person because
that is just going to turn bad on both of yall. Because they are going to get mad that you
don't really believe in them, then yall are going to break up because that is going to
be something you constantly fight over. If he told you he's going to be a rapper and
you don't think that's a posibility and you don't want him to be a rapper. You need to get somebody who doesn't want
to be a rapper. Or, you need to believe in him being a rapper
or you need to tell him what it takes for you to believe in him. Like ok, here's what it is going to take for
me to be on board with this whole rapper thing. You're going to need to cut a demo. You're going to need to do this and that's
all being a partner in his dreams. It's really just telling him. Hey, here's what we need to do so that this
is a realistic goal. Here's what we need to do. Don't tell him that it's not realistic. Tell him what you need for it to be realistic. Because what happens is, if he can't meet
those things alot of times he wants to stop doing it on his own. Because it's not meeting the things that makes
it realistic. But you have to do your homework and research. I'm not telling you to tell somebody it's
not realistic because you want to be a rapper and you don't have a deal yet. Because you don't know. You are not a rapper yourself. You work with him. Like i said be a partner. You ask him what do you think is a reasonable
goal this year as far as your rap career. What do you think is a reasonable goal for
this many years. You get him to lock himself into reasonable
goals and you help him achieve those. Then if he's not achieving them that he's
not on the right path. So that's another thing like, that makes you
indespensable to him because you are part of the dream. You are a part of his goals. Here's one that alot of people don't know. They think they do but they don't. Number 4. Compliment. Alot of people feel like they should give
women compliments all the time. Like that's a big thing for women. Compliment, compliment, compliment, compliment
but alot of women don't realize that that is a big thing for men. The crazy part about it is, the way you feel
about us tells us how we value you. Here's what I mean. You have to make your man think he's the biggest,
best, sexiest person that you've ever dealt with in your entire life and the craziest
part abou this is, if he doesn't feel this way, it doesn't become a reflection on how
he feels about himself. See that's how women are in general. If you make a woman feel like she's below
you in some kind of way or that she's not the best you've ever been with or whatever. She's not the top, most women that messes
with thier self esteem, where they feel bad. You know they kind of don't. I know alot of women who are in that situation. They are getting beat by dudes and stuff like
that because they don't feel like they can do any better and they feel like he could
be with somebody better if he wanted to. Well men are generally opposite. Usually when men feel like you are like"Oh
uh, our s*x is pretty good but I've actually been with somebody who is alot better than
you. That man then goes out and says ok well I'm
going to be the best to somebody. Maybe not to you but to somebody else. So that's more likely for him to cheat on
you but here's a crazy thing also, it devalues you. If you are like "I've had better org*asms
with somebody else. Well that means that if we were to break up
tomorrow and you were to go out there and sleep with somebody else, if they gave you
a better orgasm it wouldn't matter because you aren't with that first dude that did. If you were with somebody with a bigger P*nis,
well you said you were with someone with a bigger p*nis before but you aren't with them
now. So that means that that doesn't matter. You see what I'm saying? So, it takes away alot of your value. When a guy feels like he's not the best. Not just, se*ually, but just in general. When a guy doesn't feel like...when he feels
like you downgraded to him. What it makes him feel is like if you downgraded
to be with me then I'm the guy that would take you. I'm just the dude that would take you. You would want to be with better but you can't
be. So that's basically saying... I can leave whenever I want to and I can come
back because no matter what you have that's better than me it's not going to stick and
you are not going to keep it because you can't. So you want to make somebody feel like they
are the best in every possible way because like I said, If you aren't making a guy feel
that way it does devalue you to us. That's just how men think. Number 5. Give him a feeling of ownership. If you make him feel like his family belongs
to him then he feels like he's responsible for them. Make him feel like
you guys belong to him and like you need him. I see women every single day. I mean every single day that tell me the same
old crap of " I don't need a man for nothing." These are women who have a man. "I don't need a man for nothing. I don't neeeed you. I don't neeeed you to help me do nothing. I pay my own bills, I cook my own food, I
do my own thing. I'm independent, I'm sexy. ah. and they do this thing and you see them
like a couple months later and maybe even a year later and they'll come up to you with
thier lip stuck out like "I can't believe he left me for somebody else. He left me. I loved him and I don't know what we gon'
do." And you're like well you are really crying
hard for somebody who didn't need this dude. You didn't need him. Maybe that other girl did need him. So basically, you're being an asshole. Because he left you for a chick that might
have needed him. It's kind of like...There is one piece of
pizza on the table and I'm like hungry as hell and you are not hungry and you pick that
piece of pizza up and eat it. That is an asshole move. How are you going to eat the pizza and I'm
hungry and you are not? So that's kind of how it is when you sit there
and say "I don't need a man to make me happy. I don't need you in my life. I don't need you, I'm good without you. I can do bad by myself. When you say all that nonsense, what you are
telling a dude is basically, I don't need you so if you want to be with somebody who
does. I can't really get mad because you are a jerk
if you get mad because somebody takes something that they need and you don't need. Keeping things you don't need is really a
jerk move. So you have to let him know that you need
him and that you guys, your family, belongs to him. Like hey, I'm here with you because there's
ownership here. I'm with you, I'm yours no matter what and
you are mine. No matter what. We are together. So you have a responsibility because of that. Because I'm here for you. I'm there for you. I'm here. I belong to you. You have responsibility. We need you. I need you. You openly admit that because alot of times
you would be surprised, you make a person feel needed, they feel a certain amount of
responsibility. When somebody feels responsibility to something
they feel ownership. It's like I'll wash my car but I'm not going
around washing everybody in the neighborhoods car. I'm washing what belongs to me. It's mine. You would pay for your own place to live but
your not about to pay somebody elses rent. It's not yours. It's like if you are living in an apartment. You don't paint the walls in an apartment. You are like I'm renting this mug this aint
mine, this is your apartment. So make them feel like he owns it, make him
feel permanent, make him feel like I can't do with out you. Because if you make somebody feel that way. Yea some people might take advantage of that
situation but that's somebody that didn't care about you in the beginning. We are talking about somebody that does care
about you. When you make that person feel ownership,
they are are going to treat you better. They are going to be more attentive and more
active in your life. And a Bonus one. This is number 6 actually. It was 5 ways and I thought of a bonus so
put this down there as a bonus that way we can still keep this one 5. Put your best foot forward. that's one of the last things that I have
to tell you. When I talk about that, putting your best
foot forward that's just letting your dude know and letting other people know that you
treat him right. Letting him feel like, letting him feel good
in public but also coming out dressing nice. Looking good because you want to attract attention
from other people. That lets him know hey I've got something
good. You want to treat him like a king in public. That's something major, I said this to guys
too. You want to, as a woman, you want to be the
person to get up and make your dude a plate in public. Alot of people sit there and go. I ain't doing that I aint making you no plates. He can make his own plate is his legs broke. I'm going to tell you something about your
friends. This is like the last thing. Let me tell you something about your friends. They will tell you that nonsense but I've
actually dated more than one girl who said "he can get up and get his own plate, his
legs aint broke." Now they have never told me that in the privacy
of our own home. They get my plates, get my food, get my drink,
do all that other stuff, just like anybody else and they tell thier friends that they
do differently. You know what I mean. So actually alot of women are playing it off
to a point where it kind of makes the man feel downgraded a little bit. It kind of makes him feel like when he's in
front of his friends, once again this goes back to winning over your friends it make
him feel likel, you know, you are making him feel like he's not really a man in front of
his friends and stuff like that. Go ahead, it doesn't take from you to do something
nice for him. You are doing it because you want to. You feel like he's worth it. If you don't feel like he's worth making a
sandwich for, you don't need to be with him. Chuck that the dueces. If you don't feel like he's worth making a
sandwich for you need to chuck that situation the dueces. So, you could put your best foot forward in
public. You could make him sandwiches you can get
drinks for him. You can do all of that stuff to make it seem
like you are being a good woman to him so that people can see that. If you don't feel like he's worth that you
need to chuck him the dueces. Because that's not going to work anyways. Alright, hope I was able to be of help with
all of these things. If you try that, I think it would pretty much
work on any dude. Hopefully I was of help. Any questions or anything like that you can
either give me a pm that's a personal message. Or you can leave a comment in the comment
box or you can also leave me a message on askchazzellis on facebook. That's the quickest way to get to me right
now. That's got the quickest turn arounds so AskChazzEllis
on facebook. That's probably the quickest turn around. Alright, it's your man Chazz Ellis, Peace.
