3 Strategies to Stop Overthinking

thanks curiosity stream for sponsoring this video has anyone ever told you that you overthink too  much if you want to purchase a new item say a new   case for your phone you end up searching for  almost all brands navigating different styles   trying to decide between a hard case a silicone  one or a d brand skin before rethinking your   decision all over again if you feel like  it's hard to make even a simple decision   the process of making big decisions in  your life will generate even more stress   and indecision and hispanic takes its toll on you  you'll feel incapacitated to act and to choose   the overthinking and over analyzing of  every single situation in life is called   analysis paralysis and you know it's basically  affecting all of us in the era of information   but where does this analysis paralysis come  from how does overthinking really affect you   and which areas of your life it's affecting so as  you know some of my videos really try to deliver   some suggestions and solutions to help you solve  some problems in your life and some of them like   this one really can't do that because i'm not  going to help you how to stop overthinking   or how to stop over analyzing but my goal here  today is to show you how it works why we do it   and some steps in a good direction for us to  at least mitigate a little bit of the problem   okay so one of the main culprits of analysis  paralysis is the paradox of choice there are   thousands of options for the simplest choices from  the yogurt brand you're eating to the show you're   watching in the evening to the next book in your  collection so the paradox of choice stipulates   that while we might believe that being presented  with multiple choices or multiple actions   actually makes it easier to choose one that we're  happy with having an abundance of options actually   requires more effort to make a decision and  will end up making us feel unsatisfied with   our choice this feeling of unsatisfaction  really has a lot to do with perfectionism with   a tendency to engage in social comparison and  sometimes even with low self-esteem so this   is how it works the paradox of choice starts with  your raised expectations the positive experience   a certain opportunity will present and the fact  that you believe that picking the best choice will   generate positive feelings as you notice more  options you are faced with opportunity costs   as you pass up the opportunities that different  options afford you're assessing a wider scope of   options as picking one over the others may have an  impact on the positive feelings you wanted to feel   as you're picking your option  you're already anticipating regret   so going back to those opportunity costs  thinking that maybe you made a poor choice   the thing is you'll never know because you've  already made your pick so the problem is that   now the fourth stage is self-blame as you consider  the other possible options that you didn't choose   you regret your choice and you blame yourself  for not picking the best option again so in the 50s herbert a simon argued that there's  two big groups of people so for people who are   trying to choose for satisfaction you're basically  trying to choose something that is acceptable   according to a predefined criteria while  for maximizers you're trying to basically   optimize your choice and find the best  possible outcome in the situation at hand   pressure to maximize and the idea that you  will always have to look for the perfect   choice is one of the things that feeds  analysis paralysis we live in a culture   where it's usually bad to settle for something  it's usually bad to choose what's good enough   however in the very popular study doing  better but feeling worse the paradox of choice   it is stated that as the number of choices  increases so does the required cognitive work   required to compare those options as well so  when following a maximizing strategy the more   choices you face the greater the potential to  experience regret having chosen sub-optimally   overall people who search for the best choice  engage in way more self-comparison than people who   are trying to find an acceptable result this is  then further aggravated because maximizers tend to   you know they engage in upwards social comparison  so they try to find something who is better off   than them and then tries to find what choices  did that person make to be in that point in life   so they interpret this as they're not in that  point in life because they didn't make the   exact same choices so they haven't been making the  best choices which really aggravates the problem   you know so they look to that person for  inspiration inevitably comparing their choices to   the choices of that person and feeling overwhelmed  by the idea that if they don't choose as well   they'll never achieve the same things you know  this information is pretty powerful and it says   a lot about ourselves the authors of the  same study i've just mentioned conducted a   research to investigate whether maximizers were  happier or less happy than sufficers and they   concluded that besides always searching for  the best options people who tend to maximize   present higher degrees of anxiety  and happiness and even depression so if you feel trapped by this behavior  it's really important for you to know that   you can change your mindset to benefit from a  different perspective this at least can help   you reduce the impact of analysis paralysis  in your life so the first thing you can do and   this may sound very simple i know is to really  practice sufficient more and maximizing less   if you feel burdened by analysis paralysis  prioritizing satisficing should be your   main tool to daily choices in life remember  the examples at the beginning of this video   you don't have to pick the best yogurt in  the supermarket the best show on netflix   you don't have to constantly go to the list of  the 100 books you need to read before you die   to actually pick the next book on your  tbr learning to pick a book by its cover   when needed and leave your maximizing skills for  complex life decisions is really really important second things be very very aware of comparison  so we're all humans right so when you evaluate an   experience you're always comparing it to someone  else and this is how it works so you're usually   comparing the experience to what you hoped it  would be you're comparing the experience what   you expected it would be or you are comparing  the experience to other experience you've had   in the past or to experiences that other people  have had in the past so we then judge an option   an event or even a relationship based on these  mental constructions never really stopping to   consider what's in front of us and appreciating  and accepting things for what they truly are   so practicing gratitude and being more aware of  this constant exercise of external and internal   comparison it's important to check in with  yourself and really tap into your standards and   values instead of standards of comparison also try  to rethink your perception of regrets we tend to   feel regret whenever we make a decision that then  has a bad outcome but sometimes independently of   the decision the bad outcome was going to happen  anyway so the experience of rewriting a decision   because we experience the negative emotion after  a decision influences many people to avoid making   decisions at all and increases your tendency to  overthink in most cases so basically although   it's very difficult to defeat analysis paralysis  and overthinking in general at least you know we   can pat ourselves on the back and you know give  ourselves some grace because we can slowly change   our mindset and our perception about these things  and that's really helpful even if it doesn't   really help you in completely removing the problem  and because you know i struggle with all of these   problems as much as you do you can actually  find me in a series called questionable advice   and this is where vanessa hill from braincraft  actually guides me through the process of   rebuilding an old habit of mine which i completely  abandon specifically because of analysis paralysis   you can watch questionable advice on nebula  an ad-free streaming video platform built by   independent creators like thomas frank ali  abdull and study for success and it has a bunch   of content on productivity sciences technology  history and so much more and if you're more into   classic documentaries your nebulous subscription  gives you immediate access to curiosity streams   entire library of documentaries for instance  you have what is reality a documentary where   neurologist david eagleman reveals how our  brains piece together reality and what we can   do to expand our perception of the world around  us if this sounds interesting and believe me it   is you can access both platforms for fourteen  seventy nine dollars a year so to access a   discount and become a part of the family click  the link down below and start learning today i really hope you've enjoyed today's  video stay tuned for the bloopers   and i'll see you next week bye guys so daily choices choices trusses  they also tend to search for the best   no no and hispanic takes its toll  on you you feel very incapacitated this panic takes its toll on you you'll  feel incapacitated capacity capacitated   incapacitated incapacitated you feel you'll  feel incapacitated and hispanic takes its   toll on you you'll feel incompetent and  hispanic takes its toll on you you'll feel   incapacitated to act and to choose  how does overthinking ever ever   the overthinking and the over analyzing  of every single situation in life you

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Published: Sun Oct 03 2021