12 Habits That Changed My Life

so just about one year ago today I came up with this brilliant idea to attempt to do 12 30-day experiments an entire year filled with different self-development practices things that I'd been neglecting putting off or hadn't yet even thought of the idea wasn't to make all these habits stick all year long but to simply try new things and push myself to do things that I hadn't done before and let me tell you I learned a lot I screwed up a lot too so I quit sugar took cold showers woke up at 5:00 a.m. every day so I'm running on like five hours of sleep probably meditated for one hour a day this fly was definitely testing me on this meditation I didn't get it journaled I don't really have any any struggles to write about until I did try to build three habits at the same time honestly I have not felt this good in a long time I quit caffeine I've been thinking about this moment for the past thirty days oh my god stop I counted every single calorie tried intermittent fasting today scheduled each minute of my day I did breath work I did not expect to get as emotional as I did and I tried math every day for 30 days so Natalie and I have been doing math for two weeks now above all I definitely am feeling some effects from Italy milk it's making me much more manic and just willing to do demonic [ __ ] minimalist I'd like to I have never done meth I will never do meth it was not a 30-day experiment that was captain Sinbad he's got an amazing YouTube channel that you should definitely check out he talks about self development but again yeah no I didn't do meth make no mistake about all these experiments they were largely a selfish practice I was trying to better myself but along the way as I shared my learnings with all of you I started to see thousands of you attempt the same experiments and share your own progress online so I think it's fair to say that we all collectively learned a lot about how to tackle new challenges build habits and most importantly to try to push ourselves to do things we never thought we'd have the courage or willpower to do so as the Year winds down and as I finish up my last 30-day experiment I wanted to break down all of the things I learned the good things and the bad the areas where I completely screwed up so you guys don't have to make the same exact mistakes that I did now my big picture goal my big vision for next year is to combine all of this into an actionable course to hopefully help you guys change your own lives so if that's something that you're interested sign up for my newsletter down in the description below I'm gonna notify you guys when that is available but in the meantime let's just get right into it so I distinctively remember thinking to myself early on I'm probably over committing here do I really want to commit to doing one 30 day experiment back to back to back for an entire year but then I said screw it let's just give it a shot and see where things end up so I didn't know what I was getting into I didn't know what challenges I would yet face but I just got started and that's probably the best advice I could possibly give you is don't overthink things don't try to think through every hypothetical future problem that you'll face just get started use that motivation and inspiration that initial spark to try something new and then trust me you will figure out those problems when you get to them but that's not for right now right now is to just take action and I can tell you firsthand that I made a lot of assumptions about building habits that I eventually realized were wrong like back in 2018 when I suggested if you're able to develop this one habit this month and a new habit next month and so on for an entire year that's 12 new habits that you've developed and brought into your life that as it turns out was a bit more ambitious than I had thought it sounded great in theory but completely impossible in practice it was difficult enough for me to keep these habits going for 30 days but to layer them on top of each other and stack them on top of each other over the course of a year was it was absolutely unrealistic and the disappointing side of that was that I'd learned firsthand just how difficult habit change truly is but then on the positive side I realize that you actually don't need 12 habits to live a really good life the sentiment behind my original statement is that it's better to start slow and steady and take things one thing at a time and that has definitely been proven through my own life experience build just one habit at a time instead of trying to tackle five in one month if you focus on the right habitat can cause a ripple effect throughout other areas of your life you just have to choose wisely where to start for yourself so if I were to pick three habits that have changed my life the most I would choose exercise eating healthy and working on my business and I would count working on my business as a habit because it was something that I had to build into a routine that I had to do every day regardless of how much money I was making and for all of these habits that that was the greatest investment I made was to work on them when I didn't feel like it when I didn't have the time when I didn't think things were actually gonna work out when I showed up and just did the small things each day that's when I saw the biggest growth in the long run it wasn't from journaling daily or waking up at 5:00 a.m. when I built the habit of exercising on a regular basis back in college that changed everything for me that was the spark that led to so many other positive changes in my life he was just doing one very simple thing on a regular basis now the three habits that helped me out the most are for me and I heard from you guys in the comments over the past 12 months the things that have really helped to change your own lives and I took note and even tried many of them you guys said that waking up at 5:00 a.m. doing intermittent fasting and journaling everyday were absolute game changers and I believed it but as I tried those things for myself I learned they didn't help me nearly as much which is really important because we often hear what's worked for others especially those who have achieved some level of success and we think that's the reason why they became successful the truth is that there are hundreds and hundreds of factors that go into someone's success some that are controllable others that aren't some are completely arbitrary and others might happen to work for that person but not for you I think the results of the one experiment that surprised me the most was waking up at 5:00 a.m. every day I was so certain it would change my life for the better and I would be crazy productive and efficient during this time but it ended up being a complete nightmare and ruined my sleep schedule and thus my productivity but this was a valuable lesson first it made me more confident in my current schedule instead of feeling like I was being lazy for waking up at 8 a.m. or 9 a.m. or even later on some days I realized I was just giving my body what it needed which was sleep and I learned how much I value flexibility well I love to have a structured routine my days and weeks vary widely and there are just gonna be days where I stay out late and the next morning I need to sleep in so yeah waking up at 5:00 a.m. every day it might work for you it definitely did not work for me it didn't work for Natalie either that was definitely my least favorite it's actually selfish like I didn't choose to do this challenge but because we share the same bedroom the same bed you forced me into this misery for 30 days I hear all the time from people who say they're not sure what they want to do with their life they're stuck they're bored they're uncertain of what their passions really are and if you find yourself in this position the best thing that you can do is to take cold showers that's my name okay we're not exactly I don't think cold showers are really gonna help you out that much to be honest but what I will say is experimenting trying different things getting curious tapping around and playing around with other people's passions that's really what's gonna help you the most the reason I took cold shower is every day for 30 days wasn't because of the physical benefits whether it reduces inflammation reverses muscle soreness or heals a chronic illness I'm not really sure if that's true but the real reason I did it was to embrace what Julian Smith calls the flinch it's about a habit of doing something that is hard just because the other side is better and because the next there are limitless ways that the flinch infiltrates our lives and prevents us from doing the things that we really want to do in life for me at the beginning of the year I was flinching pretty hard when I was thinking about whether I wanted to do these 30-day challenges to begin with for you it may be starting that blog or trying photography for the first time but the more we push ourselves into discomfort seeking discomfort as my friends that yes theory might say the more we open ourselves up to a world of possibility and for you it might start with taking cold showers seriously go take a cold shower right now I'll wait we got plenty of time [Music] there was something else that I got from taking cold showers every day and it was the same thing I got from quitting caffeine these two experiments were really about deprivation by proactively removing something from my life every day for 30 days I grew to appreciate it even more and I also grew more resilient I realized that if I just had to I could live without warm showers and coffee but thankfully I don't have to live without coffee I'm not gonna do it I could do it if I wanted to it was like I just already proved that like I showed you guys that I could do it why would I give it up I don't want to I'm not gonna do it I can't do whatever again [Music] no matter what kind of luxury you're used to if humans are good at one thing it's adapting and I personally learned that by pushing through these moments of deprivation and pain it made me much stronger than I otherwise would have been as dr. Clair weeks once wrote strength is not born from strength strength can only be born from weakness so be glad of your weaknesses now they are the beginnings of your strength as physical strength can be built upon a scrawny frame so too can mental and emotional strength it takes work though encouraged to face these failures and shortcomings the only real way to strength is through pain I'm going to break down all the practical things I learned about habit change in my next video but I do think it's worth mentioning just how truly difficult it was to do each of these experiments back to back to back to back to back to back I was really hard on myself to stay consistent and keep up with each of these challenges and stay committed every single day when he when he missed a day I actually was kind of like why you know like oh you said you want to do slang and you don't do it my life but I guess I didn't understand the commitment oh like it's something that it's self imposed so like why even with my desperate loyalty to these challenges I failed a lot I miss days like when I was journaling every day while traveling at the same time we'd come back at the end of a long day 11 o'clock at night and I'd scribble down a few notes into my journal and be like well there it is i journaled that's that that counts right and then I'd feel immediately guilty for not really showing up for failing to commit to my challenges and that started to weigh on me in way that was probably unhealthy along the way I was open and transparent about these failures but I still put a lot of unnecessary pressure on myself to follow through even when things weren't working out part of that is because of my desire to want to make a really great video the other part was my ambition and drive to do things the quote-unquote right way and this is what happens to me all the time when I try to wake up early or if I try to build a habit I try to start exercising eventually something's gonna happen you're gonna get sick you're gonna travel you're gonna go on vacation and you're gonna get jet lag and you're not gonna be able to keep up with the same exact routine that you've been trying to build this was just a reminder that I need to put my health and my wellness first above this religious dedication to an arbitrary challenge managing my own crazy high expectations and not getting too hard on myself when things weren't going according to plan became a challenge in and of itself I had to continually remind myself that this is just a part of the process if I wasn't getting the results that I was looking for or if I kept failing and messing up that was okay it's okay to fail and that is something that I'm continuing to learn but the older I get the more I realize that putting this kind of crazy pressure on yourself to be perfect if that's even a thing is probably not going to make you happy in the long run so if you did the math at the beginning of the video you'll realize that I actually failed to reach my goal of doing 12 30-day experiments I fell one short and did 11 you see at the beginning of the year I didn't have a plan for what I wanted to do for all 12 months I just got started and as I got started a lot of the early ones were really excited I had like a nervous excitement about quitting sugar and doing the cold showers or quitting caffeine like they were really fun to me and as I started to check these off the list I found that there were fewer and fewer things that I was really excited to try hence why I ended up only doing and I stopped a little bit sure and that's kind of what I'm taking into this next year that even if you do make a commitment to something and you really give it a shot you don't always have to follow through this with Seth Godin calls the dip even when you battle through those really difficult parts then you realize that is it something worth continuing it's something that you truly enjoy or is it something that's worth quitting so you can dedicate your time to other things you're really interested and passionate in so next year I'll probably do a couple 30-day experiments but definitely not definitely not nearly as many as I've done this past year truthfully it was just exhausting in the long run and of all these experiments that I played with this past year there were a few that actually stuck like quitting sugar well obviously sugar is still a part of my diet it's a much smaller role the second thing was meditating while I don't meditate every day I wish I did I do meditate a lot more often than I was and the final thing was scheduling every minute of my day I still continue to keep track of my calendar and schedule things out on a 30-minute basis and even though I didn't implement and bring all of these habits into my life every single day going forward there was something that I learned from each and every one of them and the only way the absolute only way for you to find out whether the work for you is to give it a try for yourself so a couple things before I wrap up here if you've got any experiments you want me to try next year I'm probably gonna be doing a couple more let me know in the comments any ideas you have do not say try meth for 30 days I'm not gonna do it I don't care how much you guys bully me the other thing I would say have you tried any of these experiments yourself or other ones that I hadn't tried I would love to hear from you guys about what you've learned about habit change and experimenting like that would certainly help me out a lot and I know it would help other people in the comments below who are trying to build habits for themselves thank you guys so much for watching I can't tell you how crazy it's been over the past year the growth of the channel just the community how amazing and polite and respectful people have been in comments it's just so cool to see people genuinely excited about self-development and trying a lot of these things for yourself like it means the most to me when I get comments from people who say that my videos or the ideas that I've talked about on the channel have helped them in some way like that to me is just it's mind-blowing I'm incredibly fortunate and I will never be ungrateful for what you guys have given me so thank you so much for everything that you've done to change my life this past year thanks for watching and I'll see you next time

Channel: Matt D'Avella

Views: 4,939,412

Rating: 4.9471765 out of 5

Keywords: habits that changed my life, habits that will change your life, change your life, daily habits that changed my life, healthy habits, healthy habits that changed my life, life changing habits, how to change your life, healthy habits that will change your life, habits, changed my life, habits to change your life, habits of successful people, daily habits, Matt D'Avella, minimalism, habit building, 12 Habits That Changed My Life

Id: kRr9LQ7mZ_A

Length: 17min 42sec (1062 seconds)

Published: Tue Dec 24 2019