- Okay, quick lesson. If I did this throughout the entire video while talking to you, what impression would you
get other than I'm a psycho? Studies suggest that 93% of
all communication is nonverbal, and a lot of that is unconscious movements that you don't even realize you're doing. And even if you do
realize what you're doing, you might not know what
impression that you're giving off, and this video is about to tell you. Here are 10 things you didn't
know your body language means. (birds chirping) Number 10 is eye contact. As you likely already know, keeping eye contact with someone while they're speaking is simply polite. After all, nobody wants to
be talking to your forehead while you're looking down
at your phone or your feet. Notice how big that is there? But your eye contact
with someone tells more about you than if you're
being rude or not. Locking eyes displays confidence and will actually make you appear more honest with whoever you're speaking with. If you find the person you're conversing with continues to glance downwards, at times avoiding eye contact, especially when they're the one speaking, this can be a sign that they're looking for understanding or empathy from you. Lowering your gaze is often an unconscious and subtle way of calling out for support and can bring out a paternal
response from those who notice. Or they're just straight up
lying to you, he he, right? I would never lie to you,
just lookin' to the side. Number nine is shaking hands. Whether it's at a job
interview, greeting a friend, or even meeting your significant other's parents for the first time, a handshake can tell more about you than anything you say out loud. A strong, firm handshake
will show that you're confident and committed, while a weaker, limp fish handshake will
make the other person see you as potentially distracted, submissive, or even that you don't care
about being in their presence. This isn't to say that you
should grip overly hard, you know how some people
try to break your hand or, you know, shake vigorously
or anything like that because it can reflect dishonesty. Instead, make the contact
brief with a firm grip, keep eye contact, and shake
from the elbow not the wrist. Hey, nice to meet you. If you want to seem sincere and loyal, cup the other person's hand from underneath with your free hand. If you want to appear dominant, cover the shaking hand from above. And if you want to seem like a psychopath, kiss 'em on the hand
and give 'em a big hug. Love you. Number eight is standing. People can tell things
about you consciously or unconsciously even when
you're just standing still. How you present yourself, even when standing in an empty room, can give away your mood, determination, and how important you are,
at least according to you. If your goal is to appear
approachable and humble, then stand with your legs closer together and avoid rocking or shifting
your weight too much. Usually when someone's
fidgeting it means that they're either nervous or eager to leave. This can happen when they're
completely unaware of doing it. If you want to stand out and
have everyone in the room say, you're the boss, stand
with your feet apart about as wide as your shoulder length. If you need to display
power and dominance, place your hands comfortably
on your hips like a superhero, just don't stand there looking
up at the sky thinking, who can I save? Number seven is walking. Getting from point A to point
B might only take a few steps, but you may be surprised
at just how much you've told anyone about yourself
without even trying. The first thing to be mindful of is the speed at which you're moving. Obviously, if you're running, people will think it's an emergency, but if you walk briskly and purposefully straight to your destination, you will appear reliable and productive. To accomplish this, walk heel to toe and let your steps make a little noise. You may come off as busy and
unapproachable in that moment, but you will also draw respect as people notice your determination. If you want to give off a fun vibe, try adding some bounce to your step. Studies show people who
smile and bob up and down as they walk are seen as
fun, positive individuals. And if you really want to seem fun, skip, skip to my lou. (laughter) Number six is sitting. Whether it's a meeting
or at a dinner table, how you sit can speak
volumes about your character. It's fairly well-known that you should sit up straight to both
encourage good posture as well as show respect
to those sitting with you. But what about your legs? Have you ever wondered what
you should do with them? Well, usually, if your legs are crossed, either near the floor or
one hung over the other, then you will appear insecure or timid. If you place one foot behind the other, this will make you look afraid or nervous, as if you're hiding a part of yourself. To display dominance,
spread your legs wide, taking up space, meaning that you consider
yourself a powerful person. For those who want to appear
confident and in charge, but have clothing that
prohibits such a position, it's best to keep your feet side-by-side with your back straight,
spreading your arms instead. Again, don't overdo it. Don't just be like, I'm
spreading my legs and arms. Look at me. Number five is crossing arms. If you're like most people, standing tall and sitting
straight with your arms folded commands power and respect. And while looking like the genie from Aladdin can definitely do that, it also sends out a few more messages. For one thing, folding your
arms while someone else is talking makes it seem like
you're closed off to them, like what they're saying
isn't getting through to you. Similarly, if it's an active conversation, you'll come off annoyed
or angry with them. If you're smiling with folded arms, it can seem like you're
not listening at all. La la la. It can also seem like you're distracted by a more serious matter, or it can appear that
you're being dishonest, protecting the truth with your limbs while saying lies with your mouth. Sure, you'll look confident, but it's best to keep
your hands at your side or in your lap while you're
discussing something. Number four is nodding. Uh huh, yeah, this is next. What would you say if I
told you you could shorten other people's sentences
by simply nodding? Well, say what you want, I can't hear you. Nodding your head is pretty
much the universal sign for yes, I agree or I understand. But how you nod while
listening to someone speak can reveal more than how
interested you are in their words or at least how interested
you wish to appear. Three slow nods while
making strong eye contact will tell the speaker
you want to hear more and will, thus, cause them to speak more. One quick nod or a series of quick nods without looking them
in the eye will convey that you'd like to move
on from this conversation. Finally, a few small nods
combined with a smile will show the speaker that
you not only understand, but that you appreciate what they said. Number three is touching hair. This, this one doesn't apply to everyone. While it's most definitely
not a 100%-of-the-time sign, it's common that hair
touching is a playful invitation and reflects
a desire for intimacy. Often when we're with someone
that we're attracted to, we groom ourselves
without even knowing it, running a hand through our hair, or moving it away from
our faces to let our potential partner get a
better look at our features. This doesn't mean that
someone touching their hair is necessarily a signal that
they're flirting with you, but it very well could be. Sometimes it signifies
that they're simply open or wish to be taken more seriously. Other times, if they're holding their hair or keeping it in front of their face, they may be feeling out of place. It's as if they're trying to hide behind the curtain that is their hair. Obviously, again, for
me that's not possible. What you see is what you get. Number two is hand placement. Whether you're the kind of person who talks with their hands for emphasis or prefer to keep them rather still, how you present them could be subtly giving away something about you. For instance, if your
hands are in your pockets, behind your back, or otherwise
purposefully out of view, this could indicate to others that you're lying or hiding something from them. If your hands are out in front of you with your palms more so upward and visible, this symbolizes openness. Open hands makes it look like you're ready to hear out whoever
there is in front of you and embrace their point of view. It's a sign that you're
humble and friendly. Alternatively, if your hands are clenched into fists or turned away, this can reveal your refusal
to change your mind or accept other's opinions or also that
you're about to hit them. Oh, come on, pally, let's go. And number one is body facing and leaning. When you're listening to someone speak, be mindful of your body placement. Human beings have a
habit of slowly turning their bodies toward what we want. You may not know you're doing it, and the other person may read you without being consciously aware
of it, but it's true. If you want to be in that
place with that person, you will face them with your
whole body, when possible. If you find yourself
pointing your chest towards the door or to someone
else in the room, then, clearly, you'd rather be elsewhere. Leaning away from someone
can mean that we disagree with them or that we are
repulsed by them in some way, while leaning into them
shows that you like them. And now you know what leaning means. Video's over now. Video's over. I'm trying to tell you
video's over, goin' away now. Bye. (simple slow jazz music)
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