10 Signs You’re Dealing with a Sociopath

[Music] hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about 10 signs you're dealing with a sociopath now let's begin number one polarizing language the language of a sociopath can be a giveaway sociopaths talk a little differently than most people they flip-flop between polarizing extremes one moment they're positive and supportive they complement you to the ends of the earth they boost your confidence and they ask for your trust but the tables may quickly turn before you know it the same sociopath is tearing you apart they're insulting your character they're capitalizing on your vulnerabilities they're blaming you for everything they can this extreme language is a huge red flag most people can be positive and negative but no one flip-flops as often or as intensely as a sociopath why is that well because sociopaths don't mean the things they say their compliments are shallow and their insults are calculated they say the things that they say to control you to manipulate you so if you're easily charmed a sociopath will be a close and charismatic friend if you're easily intimidated there'll be a monster that never leaves you alone whether your friendship is a dream or a nightmare just pay attention to any polarizing language because you might be dealing with a sociopath number two forced gratitude gratitude is a dangerous weapon in the hands of a sociopath they use gratitude to trap their friends in bad relationships they use it to push uncomfortable favors and unnecessary risks well just take this situation your friend wants a ride to the airport this weekend but you have plans so you turn them down instead of respecting your space your friend says this you should be grateful i'm friends with you at all think about everything i've done for you you owe me wow they use gratitude to threaten and manipulate you they act like they are the best things in your life they treat you as a powerless individual inferior and desperate but that's not true the truth is they're trying to take advantage of you they're leveraging your friendship against you normal people don't manipulate their friends if you know someone who does they may be a sociopath number three proximal fear does your friend make you feel happy or do you feel worse about yourself when spending time with friends you should feel happy safe and comfortable your stress should melt away your mood should brighten and your self-esteem should climb higher yet some friends create tension and negativity in your life on rare occasions you may even feel scared of them if you feel fear around your friend they could be a sociopath you may not be able to pinpoint a specific sign you can't remember any language or behaviors but your instincts tell you that something isn't right those instincts may be all the evidence you need chances are your brain has picked up tiny threatening signs from this person they're too small to remember on their own but together they project an aura of fear and intimidation don't pretend this tension is all in your head if this person wasn't scary they wouldn't scare you it's as simple as that while fear doesn't prove that someone is a sociopath it proves that something isn't quite right and that's a good reason to be skeptical number four unorthodox behavior does your friend do strange things how often do you think i would never do anything like that most of the time sociopaths blend seamlessly into the world around them they keep a firm grasp on their social circle but every once in a while they make mistakes and those mistakes can leave you wondering to identify these mistakes use the ninety percent rule the ninety percent rule is simple when you notice something strange just ask yourself would ninety percent of the people do something similar alright let's try an example one day you ask your friend for a small favor you expect a simple yes or no answer but instead they erupt like a volcano they scream in your face they attack your character they may even get physical in the aftermath you think to yourself was that an appropriate reaction would i ever react that way this behavior fails the 90 rule a sociopath will try to excuse their extreme behavior they'll say things like i was just tired or work has been stressful lately but those excuses only work so many times if they continue acting strangely then your friend could be a sociopath number five targets of blame sociopaths are pretty selective they don't manipulate everyone they meet instead they carefully select one or two victims who they manipulate over and over again these people are called targets of blame a target isn't chosen at random a sociopath picks a target who they feel superior to they may be wealthier than their target stronger than them better looking than them for some reason the sociopath feels powerful around this person that power in their eyes justifies their cruelty they think they have a right to bully this person in any way they please but why do sociopaths enjoy hurting others that suffering gives them a sense of satisfaction sociopaths feel the most confident in themselves when other people are suffering if you're dealing with a sociopath don't give up you can handle a sociopath without making the problem worse most people do one of two things they either surrender or they fight back both of these solutions can worsen the issue sociopaths want to get an emotional reaction out of you that's how they know they have power over you whether that reaction is sadness or anger a sociopath feels like they're winning so don't react tune out their comments and focus on yourself if you stay calm a sociopath will feel powerless and give up number six intentional tardiness are you chronically tardy you seem to oversleep every morning you're always running a few minutes behind you're always rushing and frazzled everywhere you go it's a bad habit but most of the time it's normal tardy people know that their lateness affects others if you're always late you feel bad about making people wait you apologize and you swear to do better the next time even if you don't sociopaths on the other hand choose to be late they like to make people wait for them they intentionally waste people's time in their mind tardiness is a power grab the person who shows up first is the person who holds the least power so how do you tell the difference between accidental and intentional tardiness well accidental tardiness is rushed and apologetic you can tell this person tried to get there as quickly as they could but when a sociopath is intentionally late they're calm and casual they act like nothing is wrong because they got what they wanted number 7 deceptive identities do you know someone who uses fake names maybe they tell stories about lives they never lived many sociopaths diffuse their identities they enjoy lying to other people to a sociopath it's fun and thrilling so they frequently deceive people about the smallest things a sociopath may talk about a trip that they never took they tell stories about extraordinary experiences like skydiving or mountain climbing and most of the time people eat these stories right up but what happens if you call out a sociopath a sociopath doesn't feel guilty for lying so they won't apologize or take the blame instead they'll add more lies building a more complex web of deceit and if that doesn't work they'll turn the conversation on you they'll accuse you of doing something wrong they'll make you feel like the bad guy even if they're lying through their teeth number eight destructive risks sociopaths love to take risks but they rarely risk their own resources instead they take advantage of the people around them they'll freely risk your time your money or your safety even though they aren't willing to risk their own alright let's say your friend wants to invest in a risky business venture but they want to use your money they aren't willing to put their own money on the line that's because your money to a sociopath carries much less value so they have no problem throwing yours down the drain if you know someone who doesn't respect your resources they could be a sociopath number nine manipulative jobs sociopaths can succeed in a variety of careers but some fields have more sociopaths than others these career paths are typically challenging and social in these fields you're put in a position of control and that's where every sociopath wants to be so what fields attract the most sociopaths the big three are politics sales and law in these positions manipulation and deceit can work in your favor but there are many other fields where a sociopath shines the medical field for example doctors have a lot of power sometimes they're the gatekeepers between life and death to a sociopath that amount of power is a huge draw number 10 malicious grudges does your friend insist on getting revenge when something goes wrong do they hold a grudge grudges are a very common sign of a sociopath a sociopath will stew on any mistakes and wrongdoings they aren't willing to forgive and forget instead they want to get even so why is revenge so important to a sociopath it's all about the power if someone wrongs a sociopath they feel personally insulted they feel like the balance of power has shifted so they carry out their revenge to steal that power for themselves revenge in the mind of a sociopath is not quick and harmless it's elaborate cruel and humiliating the sociopath wants the other person to suffer even more than they did so nothing is off the table they may sabotage their career they may embarrass them in public to a sociopath revenge is more than justified it's necessary hey thank you for watching top thinking be sure to subscribe because more incredible content is on the way

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Length: 11min 12sec (672 seconds)

Published: Wed Jan 06 2021