You Will Never Look At Life The Same | Jordan Peterson

[Music] sit on your bed one day and ask yourself what's what remarkably stupid things am i doing on a regular basis to absolutely screw up my life and if you actually ask that question but you have to want to know the answer right because that's actually what asking the question means it doesn't mean just mouthing the words it means you have to decide that you want to know you'll figure that's out so fast it'll make your hair curl there's no better pathway to self-realization and the ennoble meant of being than to pause it the highest good that you can conceive of and commit yourself to it and then you might also ask yourself and this is definitely worth asking is do you really have anything better to do and if you don't well why would you do anything else if you orient yourself properly and then pay attention to what you do every day that works and I actually think that that's in accordance with what we have come to understand about human perception because what happens is that the world shifts itself around your aim is you're a creature that has a name you have to have a name in order to do something you're an aiming creature you look at a point and you move towards it it's built right into you and so you have a name well let's say your aim is the highest possible aim well then so that sets up the world around you it organizes all of your perceptions it organizes what you see and you don't see it organizes your emotions and your motivations so you organize yourself around that aim and then what happens is the day manifests itself as a set of challenges and problems and if you solve them properly then you stay on the pathway towards that aim and you can concentrate on the on the 8th on the day and so that way you get to have your cake and eat it too because you can you can point into the distance the far distance and you can live in the day and it seems to me that that's that makes every moment of the day supercharged with meaning that that's how because if everything that you're doing everyday is related to the highest possible aim that you can conceptualize well that's the very definition of the meaning that would sustain you in your life well and then the issue is well back to Noah well all hell is about to break loose and chaos is coming it's like when that's happening in your life you might want to be doing something that you regard as truly worthwhile because that's what will keep you afloat when when everything is flooded and you don't want to wait until the flood comes to start doing that because if your arks half built and you don't know how to captain it the probability is very high that that you'll drown ask and it shall be given you seek and ye shall find knock and it shall be opened unto you for every one that asketh receiveth and he that seeketh findeth and to him that knocketh it shall be opened that's some pretty optimistic again but but again I think it's a description of the structure of the existential reality and and by by which I mean when I'm in my clinical practice and I observe and this is also the case with my students is let's say people's lives aren't what they would like them to be and so then you ask why well forget about tragedy and catastrophe because that's self-evident and we're not going to discuss that although the degree to which you bring about your own tragedy is always indeterminate but I would never say that every terrible thing that is visited on a person is something they deserved I think that that's a very dangerous presupposition especially because everyone gets sick and everyone dies but one of the main reasons that people do get what they want is because they don't actually figure out what it is and the probability that you're going to get what would be good for you let's say which would even be better than what you want right because you know you might be what wrong about what you want easily but maybe you could get what would really be good for you well why don't you well cuz you don't try you don't think okay here's what I would like if I could have it and and I don't mean I don't mean in a way that you manipulate the world to force it to deliver you goods for status or something like that that isn't what I mean I mean something like imagine that you were taking care of yourself like you were someone you actually cared for and then you thought okay I'm caring for this person I would like things to go as well for them as possible what would their life have to be like in order for that to be the case well people don't do that they don't sit down and think alright you know let's let's figure it out you've got a life it's hard obviously it's like three years from now you can have what you need you've got to be careful about it you can't have everything you can have what would be good for you but you have to figure out what it is and then you have to aim at it well my experience with people as being is if they figure out what it is that would be good for them and then they aim at it then they get it and it's strange because they don't mess it sass strange thing it's not quite that simple because you know you may formulate an idea about what would be good for you and then you take ten steps towards that and you find out that your formulation was a bit off and so you have to reformulate your goal you know you're kind of going like this as you move towards the goal but a huge part of the reason that people fail is because they don't ever set up the criteria for success and so since success is a very narrow line and very unlikely the probability that you're going to stumble on it randomly is zero and so there's a proposition here in the proposition is if you actually want something you can have it now the question enemy would be well what do you mean by actually want and the answer is that you reorient your life in every possible way to make the probability that that will occur as certain as possible and that's a sacrificial idea right it's like you don't get everything obviously you obviously but maybe you can have what you need and maybe all you have to do to get it is ask but asking isn't a whim or today's wish it's like you have to be deadly serious about it you have to think okay like I'm taking stock of myself and if I was going to live properly in the world and I was going to set myself up such that being would justify itself in my estimation and I don't mean as a harsh judge exactly what is it that I would aim at and so the issue is not so much the blindness of others even though there's as much blindness among others as there is as there is for you but the issue here the advice here the description here is you should be concerned about what's interfering with your own vision first and you should leave other people the hell alone in relationship to that and so if you're a mode of being in the world is if you would just act better things would improve for me or if you identify the evil and the catastrophe is something that's outside that someone else needs to fix or that someone's response someone else is responsible for then you're not going to fix that and you're going to remain blind to the things that you're doing and not doing that make things not go well and so it's just better to think alright I'm probably blind in many many ways and maybe there are some ways that I could rectify that because it's highly probable that you're blind in all sorts of ways I mean it's it's in fact it's virtually certain and so it's just more useful to think how is it that I'm wrong in this situation I'll tell you something that I learned to do when I was arguing with my wife which happened quite frequently because when you actually communicate with people you find out that there's many things that you don't agree on and that's because you're actually different creatures and so if you're actually going to have a truthful conversation then you're going to find out that you don't see things the same way and then you can either pretend that that's not the case and gloss over it and then end up in a 30-year silent war or you can or you can have the damn fight when you need to have it and see if you could straighten it out so now and then we'd get in a situation where we were at loggerheads we couldn't move and you know it would spiral up into hate speech let's say because yeah everyone laughs because they know they manifest plenty of hate speech towards those they love so one of the things we learned to do was when we hit an impasse was to separate and to go our own ways and to go sit and think okay look we're at this unpleasant situation we can't figure out how to move forward I'd always think course it's her fault obviously it's her fault least 95% but maybe there was something I did that contributed like 5% to it

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Length: 10min 1sec (601 seconds)

Published: Mon Jan 13 2020

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