Wife Has Affair, Husband Wants Divorce (She Now Plays Victim Card & Wants Pity)

guys welcome back to strong successful male so for today can I over this story about this woman who is pretty much desperately trying to get her husband back in his good graces and not divorce her after she was having an affair for several months with his guy who in the beginning was just a friend and basically had an affair for several months was hooking up with him when the husband was away at this job very stressful job very demanding have gone through a hard time which she'll admit she's hooking up with this guy she's hooking up with him in his house the husband's house and the bed the couch you name it you know and eventually guess what husband finds out and he pretty much he's done with her and the reason I'm doing this guy's is that through the whole article you're gonna see because this woman posted this and looking for counsel and advice but most importantly pity you're gonna see the whole time she plays the victim card she you can see that was me you can pretty much hear though the world's tiniest violin playing which is going through this whole thing and I'm doing this guy's because for those of you that do relationships or for those of you that in the past and relationships I'm sure at least once you've been in a situation where woman screws up maybe she cheated maybe she had an affair who knows what she did and instead of just owning up to it she's screwed up instead plays the victim card and tries to twist things to make it out that it's the guy's fault that she did whatever she did and so just owning up to it you made me do this do you weren't paying attention to me you made me feel this way so I had to go hook up with your best friend or whatever happened to be okay and this happens quite often and it's right here and so I want you guys to you know pay attention to this as I go through the article and I want you to understand that every for you guys that do relationships in dating at some point something's gonna happen when she's gonna piss you off or do something obviously not cool and I don't want you guys to get sucked into a situation where she uses pure manipulation to play the victim card and has you then apologizing for her screw-up which a lot of guys do now I think a lot of guys that follow me and this point wouldn't fall for it but some law is law a new people to the channel I don't want that to happen to you guys so I'm gonna go through this story you'll see exactly what I'm talking about here all right the title is and it's a pretty stupid title that she wrote says me 36 year old female with my husband 39 year old male need help after an affair starts all saying hello I'm reaching out to you as I have been reading this forum for a few days and hope you can provide some much-needed advice both my husband and I are in our 30s and married for almost eight years we have no kids together here's the background story a couple of years ago due to his work my husband was away for a few months and during that time I developed a romantic relationship with a man who was up until that point just a friend well that's how it all starts up just a friend and then next thing you know she's banging him on the couch during that time I was intimate with this man and he even brought him home as well when my husband returned home there was an opportunity for us to relocate to another city and at that moment though I had an option to relocate by myself to a different part of the country mm-hmm I mean the conscious decision to follow him and hopefully be able to put it all behind a few months went by and we had a weekend trip plan to go back to the city where I had the affair I arrived a couple of days before he did and one night out with friends I met with the man I had an affair with was extremely weak and was intimate with him one last time oh so she was out with friends and just so happened to run into the guy that she had the affair with yeah [ __ ] she probably reached out to him saying basically hey I'm gonna be in town and one thing led to another please says here this time this was purely sex and in my head I was still only emotionally invested in my husband oh how nice so she's emotionally investing her husband basically saying she loves the guy so this was only about sex so therefore was okay god sakes my husband had a strong suspicion about this and confronted me with the question at that moment I really wanted to spare him the pain and thought it was best to deny everything yes I'm sure that that was her number one concern that she doesn't want to hurt him so she's gonna lie about hooking up with this dude on that trip and also the many months while he was away on the job busting his ass providing a living under a very stressful environment I'm sure it was all about she just wanted to spare him the pain not that admitting to the husband would she did what she did and the him potentially saying hey get the hell out and you're on your own [ __ ] poor her again I know what most of you are thinking I consider this less this instant as a relapse but knew who I wanted to be and I didn't want to lose my life partner she didn't want to lose her life income and yes we are all thinking what she thinks were thinking because we know she's full of [ __ ] at this point I stopped all contact with the other man and blocked his number on my cell phone however after a few months he reached out to me via social media and she says in parenthesis we weren't connected on social media before this point and told me he was diagnosed with cancer and I was going through a rough time at the beginning I ignored his messages but at one point and I know I shouldn't have felt terrible for his situation and started talking to him again strictly as a friend she's pointing that out to try and help him through the situation at present we're looking at a timeline of almost two years this is the beginning of our four-month affair over a year since her last section counter and maybe six months since I learned about his illness so she's this is this is a perspective from the present time here but notice that guy reaches out to her she can't say no and you know blaming oh well since he said she's sick then I that I have to if she truly cared about her husband like she claims she did she would a tell the guy no matter what and be not have any contact with this guy regardless even if he is sick she can say hey I'm really sorry about that but I can't talk to you now I have to move on it's what I did was wrong you know but no she's gonna keep talking to him a month ago while preparing to move back to the city we're all started my husband was already there and I was in the other city taking care of the move one of my last days at work my phone started blowing up it was my husband who I don't know how and read all the Facebook messages I had received from this other man and realized about the affair says in parentheses the other man mentions understanding my choice to move on with my husband despite him wanting a life together with me I don't know how the husband just so happens to find her Facebook messages you know women are extremely clever so when I use stories with the husband selling suddenly discovering something typically it's because the wife either wants to have him find it so she can then start the process of ending it or just wants to create a whole lot wrong because we all know women love drama okay women are drawn to drama the way moths are drawn to a flame that's why they love to watch shows like these these reality shows but all this turmoil and drama they love it that's why women hang out with other women that they call frenemies because always made drama there and something to talk about you even notice you get a bunch of girls together big group there's drama and then so you split them apart and what do they do the girls are then talking about the other girls drama drama drama and of course women love the bad boys because the bad boys always give them drama always something to keep them through mind going their heartbeat heart racing all that stuff so I always question I question this when she said he's just happened to find this I think she led a trail for him to discover this but nevertheless found it and this is where it gets interesting and you're gonna hear that the violin being played from her perspective I've since moved back to the city where my husband is luckily our rental apartment has two bedrooms so we agreed to take each take our own he told me he doesn't think being able to move past this and is seriously considering divorce good for husband but we also both agreed to first take care of our finances and be able to make this as amicable as possible well that's how it should be and that's probably his idea here we go this is here comes the violin what truly devastates me is knowing I brought him so much pain during a stressful time in his life on the work front I don't know what to do to help him well leave him the [ __ ] alone that's what you can do to help him and he wants space he wants to move on leave him alone and I don't want to hear this crap about what truly devastates me how I've brought so much pain if you want to bring him so much pain you have been hooking up with a dude for four months in your husband's house and then having another hookup later on in time and then talking to this guy behind his back all the lying and cheating and manipulation and the [ __ ] so I give me a break here but let poor her right he has been avoiding me like the plague which I understand and have been trying to give him space he has gone through great lengths to not see me at home he goes out to dinner until late so he makes sure I'm already sleeping when he comes home and over the weekends he just disappears for hours at a time can you blame the guy this guy is just biding his time taking care where he's gonna take care of us he can get out you know why would he want to be around his wife when she's done all this you know come on here but again poor her the victim I'm constantly worried about him and think something could happen to him and I wouldn't know it because I'm trying to give him the space he needs and not ask where he is she has no [ __ ] right to ask him where he is she has no right to ask for anything every day I stopped myself from texting him to see how he's doing so the last couple of days I left him two letters on his nightstand to hopefully be able to open up communication between us I would like to at least be able to take some of that pain away from him give him an output for his anger rage sadness whatever it may be it is unfair for him to be in the situation because I put him there and I feel horrible that there is not much I can do right now to help him in any way possible the best way this woman could help him is is leave this guy the hell alone period okay there's nothing she can do okay in fact by her trying to talk to him and say how sorry she is and make up a bunch of [ __ ] while she did it and no doubt manipulate him and to think that it's his fault cuz that's gonna happen leave the guy alone that's it anyone watching this and you've been in this situation or you ever get in a situation you let you screw up like this own up to it you admit what you did don't twist it around to blame it on him because it wasn't paying attention to you or he was away or some crap own up to it okay you know you did wrong all right and then you give the guy space and he doesn't anything to do with you and that's it he doesn't anything to do with you okay you don't the woman in this situation shouldn't deserve to have him give her a second chance she doesn't deserve him to you know give her what she wants right now no way please help me I need to understand how to approach him she won't back down though I hope that with time we may be able to push through and come out on the other side in our relationship I respect his current course of action no she doesn't and my ultimate goal right now is to make this at least a bit easier on him that is not her goal her goal is to make this easier on her that's why she's doing all this this is not this has never been about him it was never about him when she said that she didn't want to tell him that she cheated on him because she said she didn't want to hurt him no she knew I make it hard for her she want to screw up her meal ticket now she's saying I want to make this easier on him but complaining that he will talk to her anything to do with her again this is about her this is about her whining and complaining and playing the victim and wanting pity what advice would you be able to provide for me at this time and again she's addressing people that have form probably women and I said before what I said I'll just say one more time leave this guy the [ __ ] alone give him space if he doesn't anything to do with you that's it respect that's the only thing you can do just slightly and I do mean slightly redeem yourself leave this guy alone and what happens happens and that he wants to end this in divorce and you make it as easy as him for poss as possible okay because you screwed up but this whole thing that you know you feel so bad and all that no you don't you know or playing the pity card come on it's about you it's about the woman writing this she wants pity she's you know once people feel bad for her playing the victim and I gotten the guys this is why I'm doing this video aside from the fact it's a good lesson here you guys get in a situation like this because there are guys here that are married or in relationships or date understand this situation arises where she does something hopefully not to you as bad as this but it could happen we all know this don't fall for this victim crap don't fall for the manipulation of twisting things around to make out to be your fault you're the reason I did this no okay you don't you don't fall for that you walk away and woman cheats on you guarantee guys she's gonna do it again it's best just in this situation and move the hell on so even if it costs you money and divorce depending on where you live it's best to move on otherwise you're always gonna be wondering what the hell's she gonna do next sleeping with one eye open is not fun so alright guys that's it for today be sure to comment down below let me know about what you think about this let me know your experience is where you've had your girlfriend or wife or fiancee whatever screw up in some way maybe like this and how she twisted things around and make it out to be your fault and make you feel bad about and played the victim let me know about that because this will help out a lot of guys you don't have as much experience not get into that situation alright guys and be sure to like the video share with your friends and right and I'll catch you next time [Music]

Channel: Strong Successful Male

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Keywords: strong successful male, better bacelor, coach greg adams, ams, alpha male strategies, corey wayne, why did she cheat, why did my wife cheat, wife has affair, why did she cheat on me, mens advice, mens dating advice, mens dating coach, mens health

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Length: 15min 10sec (910 seconds)

Published: Thu Jul 16 2020