Why You SHOULD NOT Follow Your Passion - Do THIS Instead | Tilman Fertitta

a lot of people talk about self-awareness being a really important thing and i agree being able to understand yourself and maybe there's a lot of people that don't think it's age specific that are still trying to figure out what am i good at or what is in my dna so how do we help those people identify those gifts that they've been given you know if it's james harden you know certainly that dna helped him get to the nba no question about it and then he perfected but what are some of the signals that we can look for well and i've talked about this in the book is that god gave us all a gift but you've got to find out what you're good at because he did make us all special in our own way everybody has something that they're better at than everybody else or they're better at i agree with you okay so so how do we figure that out i think that you have to sit there and look at yourself in the mirror sometime and say what am i good at you might be a great poet you might be a great author uh you might be a great athlete or you might have a great voice or you might be great at taking an engine apart and putting it back together you might be the greatest painter that doesn't even need tape that can paint this line in this room but we all have a talent we really do so some people are great people people we're where they're great charm and so they're great salesmen so so and some people are great academias but keep me locked up in a room and i'll figure out any issue for you find out what you do well so it sounds like you're saying there's got to be a bit of trial and error you got to you got to try stuff you got to do you can't just maybe guess or wonder or hope you know and once you figure that out what are some of the signals is it uh let's go back to you a comment you just made what i think was was interesting struck a chord with me he said a lot of entrepreneurs in my family but none is success successful as me so how should we be measuring success and let's make it into the context of that level let's say i'm you know just getting started or maybe i'm you know where i'm at right now i'm pushing reset and i'm on the second time around how do i measure success you everybody has their own barometer for measuring success when i was very young okay i told myself when i'm 35 i want to own my first jet i told myself i want to be in the forbes 400. well so let's go back how much is the jet cost that you were talking about here you know you got to remember my first jet was a citation jet that i paid it was used that i probably paid 700 000 for but that was also 25 30 years ago okay and what's that worth in today's money so 700 000 you know probably three million dollars let's say okay and then uh it's not like i have two g5s today so i've definitely upgraded it so to be able to afford a three million four million dollar plane um what did your income needed need to be well i had i hadn't gone public yet i was still a private company and just like i'm private again today i owned 100 of my company but but i think i was making about four or five million dollars a year at that time okay and so i mean life was not bad at all life was good and why did you decide that the plane was such an important benchmark because i truly i i hate it flying commercial and i haven't flown commercials since then just for the record you know just the aggravation and where you sit and you get stuck in a middle seat or whatever you know just jacked with the airport and then you sit on the tarmac and i just said this is this is not good and then i was trying to grow my company and and so honestly i was opening a restaurant in austin texas and the last flight out of austin was at 8 30 in the evening so i couldn't even be there really for the dinner hour because i had to get on the plane and come home so i'm going over to the terminal but yet i see down this road austin jets you know sales rentals whatever and i just walked in there one day and started talking to him and next thing you know a few months later i had my own chat yeah i just got a little flash of um elon musk you know and elon here in la uh he's got a company in hawthorne not far from here and he hates traffic and so you know instead of uh he's a problem solver like it sounds like you're a problem solver he's decided he's going to burrow underground build a tunnel underneath all the traffic so it sounds like that's what you were trying to do well see i don't i don't need to go underground because i just use a helicopter to get to the airport [Laughter] so you're a problem solver the the benchmark the goal for the airplane was less about vanity and more about just solving your problem just had a efficiency thing time was valuable you know all the hassle of that um that's a pretty big goal though let's face it i mean yeah but you know when i was 21 i won my first cadillac selling shackly vitamins direct selling and so i always had goals just like about that time is when the ford 400 came out list the fir came out for the first time like 40 years ago so i i knew that i just had goals and i said i want to be on that list one day so you're ultra competitive then the ultra yeah this is sport yeah this is sport are you an athlete growing up yeah through high school but one good enough to go to the next level and you real you recognize that though oh 100 you have to recognize what you're good at and what you're not because you're originally from texas right still from texas and uh what sport was big growing up was it baseball was it football football yeah yeah yeah did you try sports oh yeah i always played them all the junior high in high school i guess what i'm getting as i'm always curious about where people come to that you know to recognizing it's that fork in the road right like you just know you just know i'm not quite big enough i'm not quite fast enough uh just not quite good enough to take it to the next level if if and that is god-given talent and size and everything but if i was good enough i would would have played professional football or whatever yeah all of us yeah yeah we love sports up um it's fascinating to me though you know um it's another question i think a lot of people on the show always ask is you know zooming out a little bit from sports and maybe looking this more as a metaphor for other things how long do you give with quotes this great idea before you cut bait you know there's a period where and i think there's a book about this right this thing can grow rich book i've i read in high school i think and the the analogy is you know you're three feet so it's the the gold rush in the 1800s and you're three feet from discovering the next gold right but then you quit just a few feet away and a lot of people do that right so how do you know when to keep digging three more feet to get to the gold or when to you know cut bait and go on to the next uh dig well that's kind of an it's a great analogy but you don't know if you're three feet away or 300 feet away and which that isn't what's happening in the real world in business you know if you're getting better and a little closer yeah and that's what i want to know is like what are some of the signals like how do we know is it just you just know i mean i'm am i almost there is this business that i'm trying successful do i feel a lot smarter doing it am i more confident in doing it and you just know it's not like oh if i just happen to dig three more feet i'm gonna hit the pot of gold because but you should know if you're three feet away or 30 feet away or 300 feet away and i think that's where people have to evaluate themselves and say am i close and if i'm close i'm going to keep punching but if i'm not close i really got to go try something else i mean we were just sitting back you know chopping it up reminiscing about the good old days and all that you know tracking my roots where i came from

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Length: 8min 11sec (491 seconds)

Published: Fri Sep 24 2021