Why I broke up with Bob Wells from Nomadland and Cheap RV Living #bobwells #nomadland #cheaprvliving

hi everyone today i want to talk about a little sensitive subject but i get asked this everywhere i'm at whether it's at an rtr or on the set of film in nomad land invariably the question comes up uh what about bob you know why'd you break up with bob you guys were like two peas in a pod you know what happened was bob mean to you what did he do to you was there another man so um i thought i'd clarify everything and i'm only going to say it once and that's it all right everybody wants a cookie cutting cutter answer but i don't have a cookie cutter answer um our relationship was complicated and bob is a very complicated man so how did i meet bob i met bob online like most everybody i was typing you know i was having a rough marriage and i knew i was getting uh going to be alone soon getting rid of my husband um so i would ask bob all these questions online and he was kind enough to answer them so then i uh left my husband and uh i was living in a shelter and i left him and i left him with the clothes on my back and my chevy van that was it in fact my income was i was two thousand dollars in debt and i had no income so i left my abusive husband and started typing to bob moore i had so many questions but i didn't know that metaphorically speaking when i jumped off that cliff and divorced my husband i was jumping right into bob's big strong arms so one day bob was driving through town and agreed to meet me that was the first time i ever laid eyes on him he was strong and rugged and extremely intelligent and emotionally mature which i really appreciated about him so bob gave me the talk about the joys of being homeless or not being in debt for a house that i couldn't afford and he was right i couldn't afford a house we had a great lunch and we said our goodbyes but um i was smitten by him i really was he was so cute so back to the shelter i went but there definitely was a spark so bob in the future he let me know that some people were gathering and we would be having thanksgiving and of course the first rtr and uh my thanksgiving was going to be in the shelter probably with chituna and if you don't know what tuna is that means the chef ran out of chicken and he's mixing it with tuna and maybe some macaroni and cheese and it's like it's a tuna sandwich it's terrible so i think i i went back and there were eight whole people that lived in their vehicles but you know society makes you think you're odd and this was the first time this was getting normalized to me that people actually live in their vehicle and they actually enjoy that so that was really important you know society makes me feel like i'm the crazy one because i live in my van well not true um we had a great time and of course i played it cool shy and demure but um and of course i like to stand back and watch and see how people interact with each other so i watched bob and how he interacted with the others and especially those less fortunate than him and i saw involved all the makings of a truly great human being and that means uh boyfriend material of course it means boyfriend material so at that time bob gathered people together to build me a bed and i think swanky knew what was going on between bob and i and god bless her heart she gave me the talk and i got to see who she really was a strong empowered woman and now i had two great role models i had bob a great role model bob the homeless guy living in his van and swanky who is talking to me all the time about how she was going to kayak all the 48 states but these were two really strong and like i said bob was very emotionally mature people and so was swanky but uh sure enough as soon as the bed was made another shelter called and said boy have we have a shelter for you you know and they did i uh wasn't i had uh needed a lot of medical attention quite bad and uh you know the hospital was patching me up the best that they could uh but i really missed bob so i'm gonna make a quick side note um about the haircut okay so i had bob on the one side telling me all about the joys of homelessness and then i had the shelter and all my social workers and the doctors saying you know you have a traumatic brain injury and severe ptsd you'll never be able to live by yourself um or maybe you're getting an apartment you know they had a very firm idea of what my life was going to be like and i kept looking over at bob so between the stress of it all well i did a little britney spears and just chop chop chopped um and pretty soon i found myself well i uh put myself in the uh ward you know i was almost catatonic but it felt like there were two worlds fighting for my soul but uh yeah it was between bob and his nomadic life shelter and all the doctors um and i cried and i cried and it's like i i couldn't make sense out of all this because the two worlds are so opposite you know none of it made sense bob was happy and uh you know and i'm not saying anything bad but the people in the shelter uh most of them were drug addicts or alcoholics and uh you know over here it was fine you know so i just couldn't make any um uh sense of it so um after a while bob calls me and uh he invites me to the second rtr and the sparks ignite once again and he was wonderful to me we had lots of long locks long long walks and i can't blame my braces and lots of talks and this gave me a clearer picture of who bob was and what he was offering me and what this lifestyle offered me um he got a group together put the solar on my roof he ordered the fridge and he never ever pressured me for anything he never pressured me for sex he never pressured me for money he was the perfect gentleman all the time well so some men in a position of power would use that you know bob never did bob never treated me that way um he was nice but i had to go back to the shelter and finish my treatment and lawyers were working on paperwork always put paperwork so somehow bob and i decided to be boyfriend and girlfriend when i had to go and he would write me these wonderful love letters every day and i cherished each and every one of them um and i got another pass from the shelter and i could go back to bob and that's when things really heated up again i never uh had been happier in my life uh than with bob he really was good to me but after a few weeks the phone rang and i had to go back to the shelter something big was going on so once again we said our goodbyes back at the shelter there was a war going on between my social worker and the doctors judgment day was coming judgment day the va found all of my paperwork all of the doctors notes from the early 80s the attorneys were sure that i was going to get 100 percent service connected on my first try so what does 100 service connected mean it means even though i was thriving in the shelter environment it was the best possible environment for me everyone agreed you know but i would have so much money coming in i would have to move into an apartment by myself and here's what happened between my relationship with bob it came off to me like bribes give up the nomadic life terry um that was their idea i was told uh looky looky we found you a beautiful beach apartment in belmont shore and it was really a beautiful beach apartment in belmont shore bribe number two was all the treatment that you need your medical costs will be a hundred percent paid for but you need to go through all these therapies and they were right i really didn't need all the therapy they just wanted to see me get stronger and stronger every day bribe number three came along uh we know you can't take care of an apartment good news we got you a caretaker someone that can do your shopping for you clean the apartment for you whatever you need and whatever challenges you have you will have a caretaker so that was great bribe number four incomes all the money just like they said i got a 100 service connected on my first try but um it was you know first they get your service connected and then they uh they see for loss of use of and they wanted to go after for a traumatic brain injury uh because i had special challenges they wanted to lock the caretaker in so i'd have to stick with the apartment for another year and uh go through all the treatment programs which i could only see was helping me but um it was going to make me financially independent for the rest of my life and i'm like but what about bob i really love bob i mean i loved everything he had to offer him personally like i said his emotional intelligence is amazing but then the fifth bribe came in and i couldn't say no could you say no to this this was bribe number five was a service dog complete with training i could take miss lucy anywhere she would be my constant companion but you have to stay here in your apartment while you and miss lane miss lucy go through a lot of training that was it bob's fate was sealed i took one look at miss lucy and i had new emotions emotions i haven't felt in the longest time i knew i knew miss lucy she would lead me out of all the uh depression and all the tears um it was three years since i left and she was a little puppy and her little antics made me laugh so hard um and i knew that miss lucy would be the key to my emotional wellness and i couldn't give up on her which meant for the first time i wouldn't give up on me i had purpose in my life i woke up in the morning every morning feeling blessed because my little snuggle butt was right there so i'm sorry bob i'm not mad at you you didn't do anything wrong um that is why when we were we were filming nomad land i ran up to you and gave you a huge hug i couldn't express myself with words i couldn't tell you what happened um you were the best part of my life during those three years i was going through hell and you threw out a lifeboat for me um but honestly lucy taught me how to doggy paddle and that was a lot more fun bob so from the bottom of my heart i cannot thank you enough and bob i will see you down the 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Published: Sat Apr 17 2021