When Did Someone Force a "It’s either Me or Them" Choice on You? - Reddit Podcast

when did someone try to force a it's either me or them choice and how did it go it's me or the business I'd lost my very comfortable sales job and I wanted to try being a self-made man after four years of covering all of our expenses house insurance vehicles vehicle insurance groceries vet bills Gas Utilities and Recreation so that she could pay off her school loans she was unwilling to cover our bills while I tried I had a big enough Severance to still cover our bills for nearly a year and enough savings to use half of it to go in 15K with my brother on Startup funds and still have 15K in the bank she wouldn't even hear it said I couldn't do it and that I'd fail it's been 7 years last year my brother and I made 350,000 I left her and didn't look back nothing feels better than being told you'll fail and then proving that you won't not my story but a story of a bird we used to own a large [ __ ] to that my mom brought for my dad truth is the bird ended up loving my mom more than anything would scream at everyone else and pick out its own feathers over stress while not being with my mom 24/7 I guess cockus can get really attached easily he'd have think it got so bad that my parents ended up giving the coatu away to some family acquaintance the guy loved the bird and would walk around town with it on his shoulder and stuff eventually he got a girlfriend but after several months the bird was being jealous and a bit of a seword to the girlfriend the girlfriend had finally had enough and told the guy it's me or the bird the guy picked the damn bird actually what probably happened with your mom and the bird is that that the bird fell in love with your mom and was getting jealous or protective over her when others would approach this happens because if you pet a bird anywhere else than its head it mistakes the petting for love and affection and it causes the bird to perceive the other as a mate look it up if you don't believe me my ex-girlfriend said I had to decide between her or my cats she lost one of my cats had a reaction to meds for a toe abscess and chucked up in her shoes and she went ballistic they weren't even expensive shoes but old ones that should have been in the bin ages ago anyways she objected to the amount of money I was spending on vet bills my money and not hers by the way we weren't living together and didn't share any bills or finances I'd had that particular cat since I was a kid so there was no contest he finally died last year just short of his 26th birthday lying in the arms of my current partner who spoiled him rotten in short love me love my cats 26 is an incredibly ancient feline the oldest I knew was about 20 and that thing was the most frail animal I've ever met a very well-preserved Kitty follow on comment my husband's cat is a complete butthole she has never consistently used a litter box and hates everyone but him in a hissing biting sort of way after a few years of living with me she's finally accepted me as well and is only somewhat nice however he has had the cat since he was a kid over 15 years now and I would never ask him to give her up we do come to compromises like she mostly lives in a crate so she doesn't make the house a mess but it's a huge crate with platforms and things to play with he has to clean the crate but we both get her out so she can run around and get attention I know one day she's either going to pass on or get really sick we're prepared and we have a plan in place of what we can afford and at what point we have to let her go my point is if you marry a man with a cat you marry the gosh Dar cat too I told them to choose between me or their substance use they chose the substances she told me it was her or my car not in the normal sense of she wanted me to sell it money for me at the time was tight I wasn't struggling but couldn't afford many luxuries and needed new tires for my car but she wanted to go on a shopping trip when I say needed tires the front had turned into slicks when I said I couldn't afford to give her money because I needed to put it into my car and explained to her it was a huge safety issue she gave me an ultimatum I chose my car and safety my ex-wife once asked me to pick between her and our daughter I told her she hadd lose and she ended up getting the help she needed with the postnatal depression good man also that's great that she got help explain please why was she wanting you to choose I understand she had depression but what exactly was she asking for she either wanted to leave or for us to give up our daughter for adoption she felt incapable of being a parent and even after treatment she didn't really bond with our daughter for several years my dad's girlfriend witnessed me being bullied and mistreated by her brother and denied it for years I told my dad it's me or her I don't have contact with my father anymore my dad came over and told me to to choose between my fiance and mother of my child or my family I'm now married with three beautiful children and couldn't be happier I still occasionally hear from my parents but we rarely respond I'm not the one missing out on my kids lives not my problem to expand my dad hates my wife for unknown reasons he's made up every excuse in the book from she's too picky to she's the reason I don't go to church my family didn't start going to church till I was in 8th grade and I stopped going sophomore year I didn't meet my wife till junior year he selfish and has called my kids stupid the last time I went out to dinner with them he told me this great story about how he was telling a waitress that she should be my wife and that there was just the small problem of my current wife but she could be gotten rid of he's just an awful guy who's really grazed at hiding his true Persona from the rest of the world I see through his BS and he puts on a front to make everyone think I'm the butthole for not seeing him anymore my wonderful in-laws have more than filled in for their absence he also hates them and is rude to them he told another waitress that I was dating some awful bride of Satan bimbo turns out that waitress has known my wife for 15 years my wife is one of the nicest sweetest people that I've ever met she goes out of her way to accommodate others my dad has basically convinced all of my local aunts and uncles and cousins that we're terrible people so I never get invited to family events so in short dad is a prick my wife is not I have three beautiful kids and I don't give an f about him either we open up our relationship or I'm breaking up with you we opened our relationship ship and she broke up with me anyway I need to test drive all the cars or that one car on the lot I like to look of before I sell the car I own right now can I do that for a few months that's usually what ultimatums about open relationships mean I'm not even against them but people are seriously dishonest as Frick a lot of the times they ambush people with them out of nowhere when I was four my Dad decided to buy pulped orange juice I took one Sip and was disgusted by the pulpy bits my mom usually bought pulp free for me I told my dad I hated it but refused to get rid of it I told him it was me or the orange juice next day I came into the kitchen and in the fridge as a container of high pulp orange juice my dad walked in and told me I needed to get better at picking my fights it's been almost 15 years and even when I come home he makes sure there's a bottle of extra high pulp OJ in the fridge now jokes on him now I actually like it that's definitely one of the more light-hearted stories in the grouping also I'm not sure if the joke is on your dead it kind of sounds like he won anyone in the comments agree I once had a best friend and a girlfriend who hated each other while my girlfriend hated the dude she encouraged me to be friends with him the guy couldn't stand her so much he put me in the position where I had to choose one and say goodbye to the other I've been married to the girl for 10 years and never talk to the guy anymore Easy Choice much happier this way I can't imagine having a guy friend give me an ultimatum over a girl what the heck is wrong with him we had a drummer Scott tell the rest of the band that it was him or me me they kept me and we renamed the band scottf free it's either me or the beard you'd better believe that I kept that beard not so much for the sake of the beard itself but because making that kind of trivial ultimatum is a major red flag fun fact the man with the world's longest recorded beard died when he stepped on his beard by accident and broke his own neck I've legitimately heard someone on my team break up with a girl during a game of DOTA on voice he was using open mic and she was like get off that stupid game take me out to dinner in this horribly entitled voice after about 10 minutes of him being calm and saying things like it's okay baby just let me finish this game I'll get punished if I leave and her just not understanding she issued an ultimatum if you don't turn off that game right now and take me out to dinner I'm leaving and he just typed in chat pause please need to break up with my girlfriend and everyone LED and he paused and the guy just went freaking ballistic like this is my apartment you stay here on my dime I buy you all your food I give you money to go shopping you don't get to issue ultimatums to me when you don't have crap without me get the freak out of my apartment this relationship is over then it was lots of her crying and yelling and bringing up all this crap he did wrong in the past as if that was going to help and eventually he just said sorry relationship's over I don't care bring a truck and one of those dbag bar guys you love to go home with so much to get your stuff tomorrow see if any of them are willing to clothe feed house and do the deed with you and everyone on CH cat just went whoa and we were typing everything that was happening to the enemy team he eventually got her out of the apartment and boyed that it sound like the guy had a world of pressure off his shoulders after the game ended I befriended him we still talk on seam sometimes he really ended the relationship and ended up just putting all of her crap in a storage locker when she didn't come to get it for a week he has a new girlfriend now who apparently isn't as awful she made me choose to obey her every whim or she'd leave turns out it was a power play I called her Bluff I chose life My Crazy Girlfriend said I was obsessed with my GameCube and said she'd leave if I kept it in the games or sell it and she stays currently I'm living a happy life with my GameCube controllers games and my other consoles and games I don't know what happened to her was her name Sega Saturn I worked at a care facility where I couldn't keep my own personal cell phone on me but would carry around a work phone as I worked with clients my friends and family all knew that I was pretty unre able when I was at work because of this but for some reason my boyfriend couldn't understand it he'd get annoyed at me for not responding to his texts or calls to the point he had drive by and make sure my car was at work he once left me a voicemail implying that he intended to self-d delete since I wasn't there for him he insisted in the message that I had to choose between him or my job after I got him checked out I broke things off as gently as possible it wasn't so much that I had my dream job but more that we didn't have an emotionally healthy relationship for him and his possessiveness was going to kill him you can submit your own stories to be featured here on the channel the story submission link is in the description below and if you want to listen to some viby music in the background check out easy mode also linked below and subscribe boyfriend wanted me to move in but was allergic to cats he said I could either prove I loved him and was ready for an adult relationship by getting rid of my cats or we were done we'd only been dating for 4 months I tried to explain that throwing out pets I'd had since high school was a jerk move that I wasn't willing to make after a few months he said I was a silly child who loved useless disgusting animals more than humans we were done I suppose it's hard to empathize with a cat if all they bring you is problems and itchiness I'd hate life too if I couldn't pet any animal within reason I tolerated even having the conversation because he told me he was allergic which is a valid reason to have qualms about pets but by the end I don't even think he was allergic just a jerk trying to pull a power maneuver years later it turns out I'm allergic to cats I laughed in my doctor's face when he told me to get rid of them a girlfriend once told me I had to become a Christian or we could break up we broke up shortly after that yeah she would have to be a terrific lay to make me want to lie to myself like that and ironically knowing that she was that good at doing the deed would raise questions about the degree of her faith to the religion I was joining Paradox when I was 16 I got home from school early release from my last block my father was upstairs in my bed drunk bottle in hand and passed out he woke up and calmly I asked him to get up and take a shower or I'm out he told me to go and F myself and proceeded to drink while talking and arguing with himself over some alcoholic delusional bull crap completely forgot my presence I packed some stuff and called my very dear childhood friend to come get me her and her mother helped me buy a Greyhound ticket to get out of states to my sisters about 6-hour drive to the South but a horrible 12-hour bus drive I phoned my sister when I was an hour away talked to my mom as she begged me to return I IM ipated shortly after and spent a year with my sister working and getting crap done only thing I regret is being the youngest while All My Siblings moved out in a similar vein I was the last resort for my dad's bull crap when I left he focused on my mom things were always absolutely terrible for all of us but since he know longer had a selection to choose from the only person he could bully was her she passed away 2 years ago from melanoma after a long grueling few sick years stuck alone with him before moving out I came back around and aided and took care of her during treatments and sickness until the day she passed but still man I regretted leaving him alone to destroy her mentally and physically double-edged sword I guess glad I left to save myself from that situation but I still can't forgive myself for letting her go through that alone one of my best friend said if you end up with her we're done he didn't like my girlfriend and that was his good right but try to force my hand and you'll have another thing coming to you I've done that to my best friend I'm talking best friends since diapers like a brother to me he was starting things up with this girl who had a reputation substance problems restraining orders stealing from everyone around her that sort of crap I told him that if he was going to trust me on anything it had to be this luckily he chose me she's now in jail for trying to kill one of her boyfriends not me but my husband his ex fiance is allergic to dogs and refuses to take medications her doctor suggested she told him it's me or the dog his dog is his number one love he chose the dog I'm really happy because then we met and I love dogs so it's us our two dogs and two kids living happily Ever After College roommates agreed I could get a cat and then they changed their minds the cat was behaved and used her litter box they didn't give a reason but said she had to go I moved out it's either me or your dogs I chose my pups no regrets my exboyfriend said it was him or my dog he refused to move into my place if he was living there too I chose my dog he was potty trained and overall a good dog but he didn't like my boyfriend and therefore my boyfriend didn't like him my mom gave my biological dad's mom the ultimatum of either going to rehab and getting clean so she could see me when I was born or choose her smack needless to say I have no relationship with my dad or his mom some guy I was seeing told me I wasn't ladylike enough he said I swore too much announced when I had to pee called him dude and generally acted like a guy I guess he wanted me to change but but I dumped him instead I met a chick that acts just like you 10 out of 10 would marry again well crap find me a man who thinks like you there are dozens of us literally dozens I gave my former boss an ultimatum once I could either have a vacay or I'd turn in my keys I hadn't had a single day off in over a year and worked nights weekends and holidays I got the vacay I pulled that once my grandmother offered to pay for a trip to Europe to make up for past offenses never missed a single day of work was never late always worked overtime hadn't even asked for a raise in 2 years the plant was going to be shut down for a week and a half during Christmas and I wanted an extra week and a half after that break unpaid of course I asked for that in August he delayed until October when I said I was going and just needed to know if I'd have a job when I got back I had a job when I got back not me but a mate and I were playing Warhammer 40K his girlfriend was there being bored they wandered off and she gave him the ultimatum it's either 40K or her he came back in and she didn't what is a mere mortal woman compared to the glory of serving the god emperor of mankind I can kind of get this actually at this point I have such a critical mass of wargaming Miniatures and terrain that giving up my hobbies means losing or at least selling literal thousands of dollars worth of stuff regardless of whether she was worth it it's just such a hassle to give a major hobby that you've had for years up also who would force me to give up something that brings me so much joy I've had two superiors tell me that if my wife ever told me to choose between the military and her pick the military you being home more often will aggravate the problems you have not fix them Source they're both divorced now I've always stood by if you're the one that makes me choose then you're the one that goes I told my best friend she could either hang out with her new friend or me but she couldn't do both her new friend was a mentally unstable former roommate of mine who attacked and threatened everyone in that apartment with a life before being committed to hospital for several months as soon as she was released she came back to school found me and my friend and became fixated on spending time with my friends and going to the school clubs that I went to my best friend told me that anyone who dared give her an ultimatum like that didn't deserve to be in her life I just Shrugged and explained that her new buddy put me in therapy and I was considering a restraining order I was sorry but I wasn't willing to allow that girl back to my life she threw a fit about how dare I say something so manipulative she spent the next week trying to trick or forced me into going to social events where both of them would be I went no contact with both of them a year later my former best friend tracked me down to apologize that she didn't know how crazy and mean my old roommate could be she wanted to patch up our friendship but by that point I didn't trust her anymore that's pretty lethal to any relationship a few years back my mother said if I continued dating my girlfriend it was proof I hated her I guess I must secretly hate my mom because I ended up staying with my girlfriend now wife who was a saint and is liter loved by everyone else in my life I didn't mention that my mother has severe issues but perhaps you could figure that out needless to say I don't come around very often I was at this party a couple of years ago in the backyard in the city and everyone got quite wasted we were out on the street as well when this group of kids 10 to 12 years of age came up and threw water balloons yeah I know at us and some of those that didn't explode we threw back at them which obviously made them mad an hour or so later I came into the backyard from the toilet downstairs when I saw almost everyone from the party gathered up and then one of the big brothers to these kids around 25 years old we were 16 had his sand on this girl's face and was pushing her up against a wall and obviously I wasn't just going to stand around doing nothing so I pushed the guy away and as he started to leave he flew back and threw a forceful punch right at my face so I went out for a few seconds and stumbled back I had this liquor bottle in my hand all I could think of was smashing it against that freaking idiot's head and I started approaching him when my crying girlfriend who witnessed everything came up and blocked me and obviously as drunk and mad as I was I kept saying that I wanted to smash him with that freaking bottle and that's when she said it was either her or the fight and obviously I knew she said it to keep me out of trouble and I loved her so I picked the first I had a friend who was saving me even though she had a boyfriend and chasing off girls who showed any interest I started dating someone without telling her and was given the choice between her my at the time best friend and my new girlfriend needless to say choosing my girlfriend was the best decision of my life we're still dating 4 years later and are as happy as an oyster I have one real hobby a liveaction RP full contact buffer sport called ampgard every weekend about 40 or 50 of my friends and I get together and hit nerds with sticks ampgard was my only social interaction and it is a damn good workout to boot the girlfriend got jealous of me skipping out for 5 hours every Sunday I don't think there's room in your life for ampgard and me she said oh honey I don't think 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