We're Having A Baby | Life Update!

hi everyone oh my goodness so today's video i thought that we would just do a big ol life catch up update because there have been so many things that i haven't been able to tell you guys so i thought that we would just catch up over lunch and dish it all out huge thank you to hellofresh for sponsoring today's video honestly they have been dream partners to work with i love hellofresh been using them for years they've gotten me out of so many recipe ruts and i've learned a ton of new recipes so for today's lunch we've got middle eastern chickpea bowls on the menu i've actually cooked this before and it is absolutely delicious so let's get started all of hellofresh's meals come with pre-portioned ingredients which means less prep and less wasted food cooking and prepping the meal is quick and stress-free as well there's no decision fatigue you just cook the meals that are already planned and it takes me around 20 to 30 minutes to finish cooking each meal they're also extremely flexible you can change delivery days or food preferences or even skip a week if you need to hello fresh is also given back to the community they've donated over 4 million meals to charity in 2020 and they're gonna continue to step up their donations during this time and there we have it our finished dish and now i have brought the man of the hour yeah hello guys lovely to see you all again kind of this looks delicious babe thank you yeah this looks great it's a treat [Music] oh my gosh if you guys have not tried hellofresh yet take this as a sign to jump on it go to hellofresh.com use my code 12 gen m for 12 free meals including free shipping what a deal what tail so we've got a lot to catch up on i guess we'll start off with the biggest category which is we're gonna be parents we're gonna be parents it's the most amazing crazy thing to happen every day i keep pinching myself to think that it's actually happening like no jen's pregnant honestly it's such a relief to be able to finally just like say it to you guys it's been something we've been hiding for almost four months now and i feel like some of y'all caught on but you guys are very respectful you know it was only like maybe three or four comments surprisingly i was getting are you pregnant that question more often in 2020 so when you weren't programmed when i wasn't i'd never help you manifest it thank you guys as of this moment i am 17 weeks pregnant the baby is as big as a large onion i've seen the app and you can see like a 3d version of the baby and your baby is now growing ears and like what is happening every day my mind's getting more and more blown and just finding out what vegetable size it is even that it's like i'll never look at an onion yeah each week has been really exciting to see how the baby's progressing everything is good baby's looking nice and healthy uh amniotic fluids are right as rain i couldn't have asked for a more smooth pregnancy honestly yeah you've been like you've had no morning sickness or i've had like a week of morning sickness yeah but that's really nothing yeah i just felt like i was carsick for a couple of hours a day and i was like oh no is it going to get worse but it literally faded after a week my heart goes out to the pregnant woman who are just trooping through and chucking along through the first trimester oh i couldn't i couldn't imagine well even for for me just as a man who i feel so um i get helpless in a sense that you know you're the one that has to go through i can still drink i can still do whatever i want um and you're the one that has to go through such change it's you know very admirable um and it's you've done so good as well obviously the trying to process it i think that's probably the biggest thing most people kind of struggle with um but you've done so well babe like every day you just i can just see you becoming more motherly and more excited and more like accepting it and more at peace with them i think like the biggest thing with pregnancy is really accepting the change that is going to happen from the from the mental side and also the physical change that happens from your body when we found out it was such a shock for me i guess for us but yeah cause i feel like you've always been like a radical acceptor like anything if a situation presents itself you just accept the situation and you move on but for me i'm like wait it wasn't supposed to be this way like was it supposed to be like this yeah yeah i was always under the impression that that it would be quite difficult for me to get pregnant especially being someone with pcos well that's what was very surprising wasn't it because to kind of go back a little bit we you know me and jen have been talking about you know having kids one day it'd be great pre-quarantine our lives were quite crazy you know they weren't really the typical you know parenting lifestyles you know we're traveling a lot for work and you know it was something and i feel like there's a part of us that didn't want to get too excited with the idea of being parents just yet because we lose that sense of adventure and that kind of lifestyle we have but then quarantine happened and we lost a lot of that and obviously with the you know a lot of sad things going on in the world but for us actually as a relationship as us individually and kind of looking inside more and all these kind of things that led us to the end of the year where we thought hang on a minute like this year's been great for us and like the things that we thought we'd struggle with we've improved with and um and that made us you know i think both individually and as a couple to feel like we're kind of somewhat ready like having that conversation yeah i think your logical thought process was like we start kind of trying slowly now in a year's time we'll get pregnant exactly yeah because if you think about conception it's actually really difficult to get pregnant you only have like maybe like a window maybe like three or four days where the woman is actually fertile and then for the sperm to travel light years away like it's only inches away from us because we're huge but being this like microscopic creature like trying and hoping to implant an egg it's actually a miracle if you think about it it just happened so naturally it was the first time it was the first time the first time and one thing i would say i mean who knows how much this is a part of it but we did it in sedona which is the energy vortex of like the world and it was there was something in the air there and even though i had a feeling when we you know when we conceived um our kids gonna watch us one day being like i can't believe my parents are talking about the day i was conceived yeah i mean there was a feeling that wow this could be it and i think you know for me internally i'd kind of like thought if this is it um you know again accepting it in my mind and kind of getting excited with that idea and obviously you thought like in a year's time yeah i wasn't thinking about that at all i was like whoa vacation we're relaxing i was not tracking my ovulation whatsoever i didn't have any apps like the only change that i did was get off birth control so i feel like i went in just completely like no expectations just chilling it wouldn't be a hard conversation when you said when you went off birth control and said but having kids said you know but in a year's time it was great and then i said you know it could happen like first time because of this because of that still good and it did so anyone out there is trying to plan for you know but it's you it's never the perfect time there's always something that it's just amazing you know like i think throwing us into that situation i think this is a good time to have it and talk through your experience when you first found out honestly it was just pure shock and obviously a lot of fear because this is like the ultimate life transformation everything will be different and i think that's you know some people embrace that i'm like a creature of habit and structure and routine and i like to know what's going on and so with this i didn't know anything about motherhood or or babies or child rearing and and i had just planned my whole 2021 schedule and i was like yeah this is going to be this kind of year excellent and then when i when i was pregnant i was like like none of this makes sense anymore you know or i have to i have to start anew and i think that was just the biggest shock that i'd overcome i was also really afraid that i would lose my sense of self because as a mother it's a lot of responsibility that becomes your identity yeah especially someone that's so you're very efficient you're great your work you're very logical minded and those kind of things that don't necessarily sit work well with the shock and change of having a kid but then you apply what you've you know how you've approached your work ethic and your life and put that into motherhood yeah unstoppable be amazing and it's my job is there to be the one to deal with change if anything bad happens and we use our like what we've learned more than anything as a couple if we put our strengths together we are unstoppable we couldn't be more ready i think it's like i think it's so exciting i think this is why we were meant to be together because i really appreciate like the reassurance and the confidence you have going into this i would have accepted it but i wouldn't have had this confidence a year ago before kovid because i would have thought i was losing some of my my identity and my sense of freedom and my adventure and i was always so excited to have a child but i think me learning my bigger purpose in life is to try and make a difference and try and help other people's lives be as happy as mine and there's no there's no more tangible way than a child it doesn't get bigger than that and i don't i think it took that year to figure it out what's like the one thing you're most excited about becoming a parent part of it's kind of being a kid again i've always cherished like my childhood and like going outside and playing and and you had no fear in the world and i'm just so excited to watch these first moments and just to see this the smile on this child and like going to the park and doing like just kind of normal stuff but seeing every little kind of life-changing moment from their first words to their first steps you know little things like teaching the kid manners and like thank you sir and all these little things that to see the best parts of us and putting that into the child and um i can't wait to see that it's i just can't wait to see their little face what about you i would say the same thing because i feel like even if you do the same thing over and over if someone that you love is experiencing it for the first time it's like you're experiencing it for the first time as well also i'm like really excited to be able to have like a completely like free-flowing conversation with our child when they begin to like talk and and like get their own personality i'm also really excited to see what their personality is going to be like because they say that like when we're born we already have like a set map of who we're going to be so i'm just really really excited to see who they're going to become and uh i forget i think it was like will smith who said this parenthood is about providing the the proper soil and the nutrients and the trimmings for the plant aka the child but then the plant's just gonna thrive and grow and be whatever it's gonna be and so i am just so excited to see who they're gonna bloom into yeah and i think we align with a lot of our values and our principles of how we want to raise our child you know like and everyone's got their their different ways and there's no right or wrong i think we do want to avoid you know obviously the world we're in social media things like that but very aware that i think the younger you are and you get into the world of social media the more likely you are to have you know comparison issues and mental illnesses all these things that you know the world we're in it does enforce that and you know i think you want to try and make them feel as much of a normal child as much as they can you know we're aware they're going to grow up in la and i think a lot of families and a lot of parenting styles there is a lot of fear and based a lot of um do this don't do that and these kind of rules and beliefs of like you've got to do you've got to believe in this you've got to go to this type of school you want you don't be creative don't have this kind of job all these kind of things that i don't think is good for a child again each of their own but i think us allowing that child to be who they want to be i think that's something that we're really aligned with yeah i think so too ugh that was absolutely delicious clean plates but yeah we've got so much to talk about our new upcoming chapter as parents ben is actually doing a video where he's gonna be doing like a q a yeah i'm gonna do one on my channel so if you haven't been to my channel yet you know come to my channel wherever i've got a point and uh you're gonna do extended q a on there as well i think there's um you know such a big chapter i think there's a lot to say and it'll be weird to kind of just do another cooking video i know right we want to dive deeper into this and then we also have another update don't worry we also have a new huge update which is we are moving we're moving we're moving i'm gonna miss this home so much i know this is and just silver lake in general it's such a great area but you know having a family now we want to kind of uh just the new chapter kind of a new place to settle into and we'll we'll bring you guys along with us so definitely so like be prepared for the moving vlogs it's going to be pretty chaotic uh moving forward yeah so lots of boxes for the next few weeks but um yeah it's all going to be worth it and we appreciate your patience with it all guys and exciting times ahead isn't it no god having a baby having a baby you're gonna be such a good dad you're gonna be the best mom too i will try my best but we watch modern family and we realize i'm phil and you're claire i know literally by the textbook but yeah i hope you guys enjoyed this little life update and uh we'll see you guys in the next one bye guys you

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Published: Fri Apr 09 2021