Weird Unspoken Rules We Follow and Why

rules are imposed in order for a society to function properly besides the known rules like wearing seatbelts we also follow some unspoken rules in order for us to be accepted by others however when you think about it some of these unspoken rules are actually quite ridiculous yet we follow them anyway here are the top 20 absurd unspoken rules we follow every day number 20 turning down the volume when navigating it's a common thing to do when we're having trouble looking for someone or something while driving we instinctively reach out to the volume to help and set it down to low allowing us to think and focus on the matter at hand quite strange but is it really effective well according to a study done by the John Hopkins University turning down the volume isn't actually absurd at all as it can actually help some drivers to focus and concentrate those who listen to the radio or talk on the phone experience decreased brain activity in the visual parts of the brain while those who focus on driving experience decreased brain activity in the auditory parts of the brain so if you can't hear yourself think try lowering your radios volume that trick might just work for you number 19 going to the same spot even if there are many seats available in a lecture hall or loads of parking slots to choose from we always find ourselves sitting or parking in the same spot some may say it's just plain muscle memory or simply a habit but according to psychologists this is an evolutionary trait this behavior although a bit weird is perfectly normal as it is within our human nature to seek familiarity within our surroundings we're just more comfortable and secure when we're in a familiar place don't believe me try sitting in another student's regular seat or take someone's usual parking spot and observe them most likely you'll feel weird and they'll feel annoyed that they don't get to take their usual space number 18 taking all the groceries in one go sure you can do this if you have around four to five bags to carry but what if you have more than ten bags why is it so important to be able to accomplish this task in one trip yes time is money and every minute spent taking multiple trips from your car to your kitchen is time wasted but is it really worth it bringing in multiple bags in one trip may cause you to trip spilling all the items onto the ground and forcing you to collect them one by one which costs you more time my advice just stick with two bags at a time better yet have someone help you out it's way easier than trying to bring them all in one go number 17 facing the door in an elevator try this and turn elevator and face towards the wall chances are you'd probably earn some curious glances from the other passengers why is there a rule that you must face the door upon entering an elevator apparently there is one such rule howbeit unspoken one reason according to most people is that it's more convenient as it allows you to leave that elevator quickly another reason is that most of the information you need such as the buttons you need to press or by the door so it's just logical to face it upon riding the elevator but what would happen if we place all these buttons on the wall would people still stand facing at the door or would they face the wall this time no one really knows but would you number-16 holding the door open for other people do you ever hold the door for others behind you some demon is common courtesy but in reality there are several psychological reasons behind this unspoken rule according to a study done back in 2011 the reason why people hold the door is to minimize the collective effort to open the door if everyone held the door if there was someone close behind them then over time you would have the door held open for you about as often as you held the door for others resulting in minimized effort between everyone holding the door all in all it's just applying the golden rule do unto others what you want others do unto you in our everyday lives number 15 waving at other drivers we rarely communicate with other drivers and when we do it's usually some form of road rage one form of communication we can appreciate in the car though is wave etiquette you know the various situations in which you wave to strange drivers for their driving actions it's a form of acknowledgment more than anything it's like the road version of saying thank you and letting them know that we appreciate them for their simple act of kindness for example you have the pre wave which is done before pointing your car into a lane so that you can build up some goodwill before merging there's even the apology wave for when you're taking too long to pull out of a park spot and thank other cars for their forced patience whatever the wave just remember that there's no reason for it we just have great manners number 14 letting people out before you get in it's mostly an unspoken rule when riding an elevator or commuting on public transport let people disembark first before getting in there is no psychological more social reasoning behind this it's just that by doing this we create a semblance of organization as well as a voguing discipline from other passengers sure some of us lead busy lives and we need to get moving as quickly as we can but if we take time to act out this one unspoken rule I'm sure we'll all be able to move to where we need to go faster number thirteen nod when someone points at a meeting nodding is a form of acknowledgement and it's used mostly when we agree with someone's opinion amusingly some of us do this even though we have no idea what other people are actually talking about this is very prevalent during office meetings and presentations where co-workers and colleagues often not in agreement especially when something is being highlighted by the presenter even if it's a pointless mean we do this almost unconsciously and the trigger is when the presenter taps his pointer or finger to the board it acts as our cue to nod in accordance to what they just said maybe we unconsciously truly agree with them or maybe we just want the meeting to end so that we can go back to our cubicles to take a quick nap before we resume working number 12 men don't ask for directions it's a very common scenario male drivers getting lost after driving for miles why because no matter how lost we may be we refuse to stop and ask for directions there are many reasons behind this according to psychologists one is that we don't like to be taught as we would rather learn from experience for males being taught or in this case being given proper directions is similar to admitting defeat something a lot of men don't want to do another reason is that we want to win not in the literal sense but that we want to triumph over this challenge by ourselves even if the cost of getting lost miles better to just swallow our pride everyone number eleven waiting for others to notice you tipping had an accommodating barista serve you your favorite coffee giving them a tip would be a great idea but hold on for a moment better wait for them to see you dropping that five-dollar bill in the jar or else it wouldn't count as the tip right for baristas it doesn't really matter as long as they see some money in that jar but most customers only give their tips once the barista sees them doing it the most popular reasoning behind this unspoken rule is that baristas will offer them better service next time since they know who gave them a tip besides that there's really no reason why you should wait for them to notice you first saying thank you and leaving a tip regardless of them noticing should do the trick another strange social phenomenon is the fact that we only really tip if there's money in the jar in the first place if it's empty we know no one else has and think we shouldn't be tipping because we should act like them it's called social proof and it's the reason why most baristas will fill the jar money in it from the start number 10 nodding when you meet someone familiar met a friend or relative in the street but don't have time for a casual conversation just smile and nod and throw in a casual hi and they'll do the same to you guaranteed as I said earlier nodding is a form of acknowledgement by doing this simple gesture you make the recipients of your nod feel loved psychologists who believe in the power of acting out this simple gesture as this creates a positive ripple effect wherein the positive effects of a simple smile and nod can be passed through friends of friends no one wants the feeling of being ignored after all so the next time you come across someone familiar brighten up their day with a smile and a nod trust me you'll feel better yourself too number 9 the last piece always goes to the owner when a friend treats you it's okay to take let's say a slice of beets or two but do not dare touch the last slice as it's always reserved for the one who bought it it's mostly common sense as you wouldn't want to offend the one who bought you food by eating the last piece sure they might not care at all or they may even let you have it but you will probably be branded as that gluttonous friend they won't invite the next time so unless the one who bought the food openly told you that you can have it just decline and all for the last slice for them it's kind of saying thank you without openly expressing it number eight wait behind the ATM's line when transacting on ATMs you'll notice that there's a marked line on the ground if someone is currently using the ATM you shuld stay behind that line but why for one it's some sort of security for the person currently using the ATM you wouldn't want the person behind you to see your PIN code lest you risk getting swindled by them again there are no rules behind this but if you value your privacy as you value others privacy then you'll learn to respect and abide by this unspoken rule at ATMs number seven speeding up when someone passes you it's an open free way and there are very few vehicles on the road suddenly a car zooms from behind passing you and leaving a few meters distance between your vehicle and theirs what do you do if you're one of those drivers who take it as a challenge you would unconsciously rev up your vehicle and try to overtake them why does this happen well according to research conducted in 2013 in the UK this is mainly due to macho culture surrounding male drivers the research also shows that this macho culture of taking on challenges from other rival drivers is responsible for almost twenty four percent of head-on crashes in the country so if you value your and your passenger safety put down your machismo for a while and abide by the road rules number six don't talk to someone wearing headphones if you see someone putting on their headphones it's their way of telling everyone not to talk to them plain and simple there's a reason why they dawn their headphones and it's because they don't want anything to do with the people around them sure some idle chitchat between strangers is nice but if you see someone put on their headphones stop and don't bother to interrupt them don't even dare tap them and try to start a conversation because it's very rude respect their privacy it's simple street etiquette number five keeping your mouth closed when chewing food everyone knows that you need to chew your food before swallowing it in order for you to digest it properly but do it with your mouths closed because chewing with your mouth open is definitely a no no not only is it annoying for those unlucky enough to notice you doing this gross act but it's also downright rude it can also ruin the appetite of people around you as they're likely to notice the sticky unrecognizable mess of whatever you're eating so if you don't want those around you to go crazy please keep your mouth closed whenever you're eating number four no one eats until everyone's food has been served feeling hungry if you're in a group you might want to wait a little while until all the food has been served eating ahead of the group may seem improper and rude or is it there's nothing really wrong with eating first especially if you're hungry enough to wolf down a plate or two however most people see it as being disrespectful to the host after all they're hungry as well but they put up with their hunger for just a bit more so that everyone can enjoy their meal at the same time but if you're really really hungry ask for the hosts permission first by doing so you won't be disrespectful to the others try not to eat with so much gusto though number three taking several round trips before getting the condoms yes buying the condoms can be a bit of a nerve-wracking experience so what would you do if you need those condoms simple do a few rounds around the store and discreetly take one when no one is looking it's definitely embarrassing to be seen buying condoms especially if your friends or god forbid your relatives see you but do know that condoms are just like any other products in the store that you can buy there's nothing stopping you from buying them other than yourself thinking that this might harm your self-image you could try this unspoken rule or you could just buy them online your call number - knocking on wood don't want bad luck affecting your everyday life just knock on wood all the bad luck is supposed to be driven away by this symbol act what is it really effective the origin of this act dates back to our ancestors where pagan Europeans believed that knocking on wood repels evil spirits from ruining their good luck others say that it's a way to appease spirits that live in trees giving them good luck in return however no one can vouch on its effectiveness it just became a habit of ours to knock on wood to prevent bad luck whether you believe in good luck or not doing this really won't hurt anyone it's a knock away number one leaving a space between urinals all men should know this one's simple unspoken rule always leave a space between yourself and other people using the urinals unless you really need to pee sure you can take the urinal next to another person but it will truly be an awkward encounter rubbing shoulders with a male stranger who is also holding their genitals is as awkward as it gets it's best that you wait unless you're about to leak as addendums to this unspoken rule those using the urinal should never start a conversation nor look around face forward at all times because no conversation should be had in this kind of place once done wash your hands and leave no point staying in the loo unless you want to poo which of these unspoken rules do you religiously follow do you have someone spoken rules I didn't include in this list let me know in the comment section down below thanks for watching [Music]

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Published: Mon Feb 19 2018

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I've noticed the urinal rule. I'm still not quite sure how seriously I should take it!