Ultimate GUIDE to be a high level man! - Justin Waller

Justin welcome to the show man glad to be here dude I I gotta say man it's it's you know with the internet there's so much noise out there today there's so many people that are putting out content it's never ending stream of you know podcasts and clips and things like that and so it's funny when you hear somebody you just tell like oh that person gets it and you know they end up you see them all the time because I think truth is truth and when people hear it they know it and so few people are willing to say what needs to be said these days and I think one thing that I love about you is you know you're not so worried about the outcome you're just going to stand in your ground you're going to say your truth and people gravitate to that because so few people are willing to do it these days yes very true but you know what I actually think it is I think most people although they feel it and think it want to say it but they're not in a position to be able to say it and I think that's what's really special about being able to get yourself in a position where you can say what you actually think put yourself in a position in your life where there are no repercussions or if there are repercussions you're willing to pay for them and I think many many people find themselves in a position where they so badly want to speak and they can't so when they come across someone that does they feel like they're speaking for them and so that would be my goal is to feel like I'm speaking for people that can't I think that's really important and it's really important to me and I think that's what resonates with people when they believe that you're speaking on their behalf yeah so well everybody I mean we all you know want and it's been more difficult than ever to find people to look up to who do you listen to and and so I think you are doing that I think that you know a lot of younger men especially I'm a men's coach that's what I do with my day job and uh you know I coach almost 400 men and they're looking they want to find people that they can count on that they can look up to that they can trust that um whose opinions are their opinions like you said and so I think that is a valid point that you know it's not that the younger generation doesn't want to speak up it's that they're not in a position it's there's so much negative repercussion and if you've never spoken up on the internet and had people come at you if you're not ready for that it will dest destroy you like absolutely it's if you're not ready for it you do it one time and you're like man this ain't worth it I'm not doing that again I actually think that's the ultimate test if you go online and you make a video and you start to see the negative comments that come in are the people that attack you for being who you are I think that's the ultimate test to see whether you'll make it or not because you have to withstand that storm it's coming you could be the pope and still they'll find something to say about you negatively the trolls will but you know one thing I like to do every now and then I'd say about once a month I'll take a bad comment and I'll DM that person directly I'm going to create bad comments now and I'll reach out and say hey I see that you don't like me or you're not a very big fan of mine I just want you to know that I hope you're well I hope you're killing it no no sweat from me just sending you love and I'm telling you now like 99 out of a hundred in fact I had it happened to me the other day a guy said something like you're a clown or or something like that and I sent him a message like that and about three or four texts later he signed up to my school group that I just opened last week and he's in my actual group and so a lot of times those people are just hurting man yeah and I think it's our job particularly especially if we're strong and we're confident in what we're doing and confident in what we say and who we are is to be graceful with those people understand that there's other people that don't have it quite as well as we do and maybe they're just not on that part of their Journey yet I struggled for a long time now I didn't hate on anybody online but you just never know what a guy's going through and maybe how you could turn their day around by loving them anyway and being graceful in that moment with them well yeah I remember when I was more insecure but I was you know trying to look confident that's when I would go on and fight with people online right I remember when I was in that position and so now when people come at you it's exactly what you said though is happy people aren't going on the internet and dming strangers so if you can have that level of empathy and you have to detach yourself and go this has nothing to do with me right 1,000% yeah and in real life I don't know if this is your case I'm sure it is the same but 99.9% of the interactions I have in person are great they're positive every time it's very rare that you'll have a negative interaction in person it's because people in person they're still kind of a fan they're still kind of want to there's a part of you that they want to be where you're at and maybe they're mad at themselves that they aren't there yet and so online it comes off as like they're upset or they they don't like they call you a clown but really they're kind of reaching out they're kind of trying to ask hey man somebody help me attention's currency so any attention on every level there's gradient scales that people will they can go from disliking you to well let's say hating you to slightly disliking you to you start to grow on them to liking you and then becoming a true fan of yours and I don't find myself like really spending a lot of time thinking about that outcome for myself but every now and then when I see somebody hurting I know they're hurting cuz if they're talking [ __ ] about me you know who we should really be worried about as influencers the people that don't say anything at all M that's who we should be worried about and to your point on what you said I don't think it's just normal people out there that are hurting there's a lot of influencers and I hate the word to be honest yes influencers people with big big social media accounts they're hurting too because they're hating people left and right you see that more and more now it's just it's this thing that for whatever reason gets a lot of attention now well so people kind of get addicted to the negativity of it all yeah but you know what my problem with that is number one you're also insecure and number two if you have to hate on somebody to become relevant then you need to find something else to do or raise the standards of whatever your content is and I don't say that to hate on them I'm just saying that it's not the path because if you're pulling negativity onto the internet to grow your brand what do you think your brand following is going to be yeah it's going to be those types of people my life is too good in real life to worry about some [ __ ] talking [ __ ] to me on the internet yeah like it's just too good bro yeah and so I take a lot lot of pride in being graceful with those people and I think it served me well because holding hate on your back is heavy I want to go with a light heart love the people that love me the ones that don't they cannot like me but it's not going to change my reality I built my reality and there's not some [ __ ] on the internet that's ever going to change that or some individual that's just hurting that day yeah well and people are attracted more than ever to people that are unapologetically whoever they are because so few people are willing to do it so your or the brothers right they are people gravitate to them one way or another and to you one way or another because what they're seeing is this Unapologetic person just being them and not necessarily caring what other people say about them obviously they are assure of themselves otherwise they wouldn't be able to do what they do because so many people fall as soon as the attack comes for them you see so many people in you know uh actors are famous for this they'll try to stand up for a second or athletes but the second they start getting a little bit of negative push back they completely flip their opinion and it's every single time it just makes you lose respect for them right and so I think that quality of just being unapologetically yourself is what attracts people to everything you're doing a th% I'll add something to that actor and athlete thing I was walking with a girl through La recently and people I mean anytime I'm in public people want to take photos of course and what she said to me was you know the difference between you and a pro aete that was placed for the Dodgers are like a movie star he said these people walk up to you and tell tell you that you change their life that's completely different from I saw you in a movie or that's completely different from it's arrogant that like you do because it's like first of all it makes you feel very good about your it makes you feel very cool it makes you feel very appreciated in the work that you do especially when most of the time you know you can get a thousand positive comments and see five negative ones those will be the ones you remember just human naturewise just neuro programming up here you're looking for the negative that's what sticks to you you take the good ones for granted but those interactions where somebody stops you and says hey man I was going through a breakup or I was at a bad place in my business or I needed to quit my job and I finally did and it was because you helped me make that decision thank you and there's not any better work you can do no it's a different level of uh contribution that you get to do you know I was speaking this morning to a group of real estate agents and this was kind of the irony of like being you know quote unquote an influencer or a content creator right I'm speaking tomorrow in front of five 6,000 people today I go to this event and they screwed up which hotel it was at so they were expecting 300 real estate agents and they had six people there when I spoke and I gave them everything I had to those six people by the end of the talk there was like 11 but it was It was kind of sad because this guy had a full buffet and everything the was really set up he just put the wrong Hotel on there and so but I poured everything into them and to your point I had another appointment that was ending pretty much right after that one to do a podcast I was on another podcast and so I was intending to be done about 9:50 so I had 10 minutes to get to that podcast but there was you know of these 11 people that were there at the end of my talk like five of them were sitting there with my book waiting for me to sign it and you know get a picture and I'm like you know what I'm going to pour into these people like I I appreciate that like they're going to that book and it's going to change their life in some way and so I ended up being 15 minutes late for that podcast but even though there was only 11 people it's like that is you never know what I said in that room today might have changed one of their lives and that's why I gave everything I had as if I had a room of 5,000 people in front of me th% you know I don't really believe in karma itself like in the very literal term but what I do believe in is that if you go out into the world and you do kind things for people and you genuinely love people and you give yourself to them them in a very genuine way it's not karma that's going to make you have a better life it's that inside your heart you know you deserve and have good things coming most of the time when people are doing bad things they know and expect to get that Karma because they understand that they have it coming they understand that they did that thing they shouldn't have done and if something negative happens to them they deserve it whereas I like to try to live my life from the place of I've put so much into so many people and given G them my time and I've done the right thing even when it was hard whether it's somebody stopping me on the street or a business deal or employee or somebody have just a generic relationship in if I can feel good at the end of the day about how I treated that human being then I can walk around number want peace in my heart but then with the expectation and lack of surprise that good things are happening for me because I have nothing inside of me telling me that something negative should come because I've done nothing to feel like I deserve it yeah you're expecting good things to happen instead of bad things to happen it's like planting a bunch of seeds like you expect them to grow and as long as you water them they will well this is a little secret of life that people Miss is if you plant a tree that you're never going to take fruit from you're going to get fruit from a whole another tree and so plant those seeds every chance you get uh we talked a little bit about people suffering and I think it's such a fascinating concept right like men in general one of the things I love that you talk about you do talk about you know what it why it's hard to be a man in today's society like some of the you know difficulties that are out out there facing men maybe speak to that a little bit what are a couple of those things that are just challenging and why are men having you know more challenges than ever yeah so a couple of reasons the the one main reason I see is that when we went off the gold standard we went from a man being to wake up go work his ass off 40 hours a week and be able to provide for a family women didn't really want to go into the workplace it was a necessity that women went into the workplace because that man's hard work could no longer pay to provide for that family so I think that's one major thing that happened is like the man's ability to completely take control and take charge and pay for you know supporting his entire family went away and I have nothing against women working in fact I'm a big proponent of women yeah you're you have entire construction management team my whole team's women they're they're very good but by and largely I think a lot of cases most men if you were to ask them they would love nothing more than to make an abundance of income to be able to take care of their family and feel more masculine in that role the second thing with that being a situation where the normal guy cannot do that paired with that and I think even worse is social media mhm Women Marry a guy they get their big day right but then they're still on social media so they're comparing their husband against a lot of times a photoshopped not as rich as he says you know saying all the right things camera crew edits they're creating this whole vade around him and she's comparing her husband to him and I think a lot of times when women see that again and again and again they start to wonder what their other options are and they start to take what that man is doing them for them for granted and in regards of young men that are not even approaching marriage you know like a 22y old guy he's competing against me mhm my inbox on Instagram proves that he doesn't have a shot he doesn't have a shot for another eight years and what I would tell him is to get to work because more than likely you're going to want to marry down anyway but just the fact that so many men are even having trouble having sex yeah I mean at all I think Chris Williamson told me uh on our podcast we did a couple months ago he said over 50% of men ages 18 25 have not asked a woman out in person in the last year th% and the world changed a lot because of the way that a man can be perceived by approaching a woman but I honestly believe this you can take the same woman have two different men say the same thing to said woman and man a she might react in disgust call him cringe call him creepy man be can say the exact same thing and if she interested then he's Charming oh yeah and I think that's the case for social media in general if somebody likes you they can take the same things you said and make you a hero for it or they could call you a clown or cringe or whatever they want to call you and I think a lot of men are facing that today and so instead of walking up to that young woman and introducing himself he doesn't want to face the rejection or the risk of being a creep mhm and so I think that that's one of the things that are harder for young men today dating apps just as bad Instagram just as bad I think they say like 5 10% of men get 90% of the women on the dating apps yeah and the reason that's such a problem is because we're guys you know you bring a four in here right now with a big butt or big boots bro I I'll bend her over that table right there I don't care now she thinks that she's on my level but I just did it cuz it was a random Tuesday and I got nothing to do right and so now she thinks that she's up this hierarchy and I hate to put numbers to it but this a way that people understand it she thinks she's here when most of the time the guy that does that would never actually date her MH but because there's so much access to so many men and so many women on such a large scale it creates this kind of dissonance between where people should be and especially like in kind of like the hierarchy of how how the mating strategy works and that becomes dangerous as well because now you have girls that are probably not in the league of a guy like you or a guy like let's say Keaton or whoever or leave me out of it they think they're in that League because that guy slept with her but the truth of the matter is he just got nothing to do on a Tuesday night sorry it's just it is what it is y and now and now she won't give the normal guy a shot because she's been with the big boss she's been with the the successful guy and it's bunch of [ __ ] you know I I I think that you know if you get married you should probably just get off of social media I actually totally agree I it's funny I'm I'm like I'm going to give this everything I have for the next whatever two five or 10 years but then me too like by the time like when I finally decide I'm going to settle down or whatever I'm going to disappear like you're not going to see me because if I'm truly going to be into that person and be fully committed to my marriage I know how social media works I know how Instagram works I know when somebody likes your photo from 6 months ago what they're trying to say they're throwing a beacon out you know oh man you open your phone girl lik right and all it is is her face cuz she likes every photo right and she's like okay bro are you going to that's that's their version in real life that's their version of putting thems in your space yep you know exactly they're like I like your photos boom boom boom boom boom if they're really really hot and like have millions of followers they might only like three that's enough because even they understand their status you know and well and people you know something that I've been uh studying a little bit is we used to we used to believe that value was what you provide or value is what you can bring to the table value is what you truly are what is special about you now people are more focused on attention what's loudest instead of what's valuable and so what's getting the most attention a lot of the guys on social media for example or even the women on social media looks like that's what you should aspire to but in reality none of that stuff's valuable that's not really what brings happiness and and joy in life and so it's there's this confusion of people they don't even know what to ire to they don't know what to go for because we're propping up what gets the most attention as opposed to what truly has value right and I think it's going to stay like that for quite a while and I'll tell you where my heart actually breaks my heart breaks for the young girl Seven 8 grade ninth grade high school she is going to associate her value of followers like the rest of her classmates but unfortunately for her her value and her follower account is often tied to the amount of skin she shows on social mhm which inversely hurts her with the ideal man she's of she wants because the man that knows exactly what he wants and has very high standards he's not going to put up with it well you spoke about this and Andrew speaks about this quite a bit but you know what makes a that value for a woman especially is that not everyone can get her that not everyone has access to see her in skimpier clothes you know and so women have been sold this lie that uh the more skin show the more attention I get that means the more valuable I am and it's the exact opposite and unfortunately those young ladies get lied to because it doesn't mean that I wanton to go on a date with you it simply means that I put you in the bucket that does not create a long-term relationship and they believe because you continue to see them because they're stunningly beautiful now now I'm talking about adult women by the way they believe because they're stunningly beautiful and you continue to see them that you don't see what they're doing M so if I was with a girl and taking it very seriously and she had her cleavage all over the Internet let's say I directly look at that as marketing like she must not be done looking because she's still marketing to the world her assets it seems they're still for sale and so it's just food for thought for any young woman which by the way I have a huge heart for her that group I just started there's women in it and I care about them I have three sisters you know and you know I think women have it just as hard as men in a very inverse way I agree very inverse way even though I coach men we talk about all the problems that men face today women's are just as big there if yeah they are they have the exact same amount of issues right and so they're faced with things that we aren't faced with and men are faced with things that they certainly are not faced with and I think it's just a really huge misunderstanding right now and it's going to take probably some kind of hard shift to change that what do you think what is the response what's the answer to maybe TR to you know change the tide a little bit I think that we need to create a situation where the average man can do a lot better for himself I talk a lot about bluecollar workers the people that actually make Society work if it were up to me and I had some kind of let's say political power I would want to sit down list out every job in the country and put a real value to it we live in a world today where a girl can shake her ass on only fans and Instagram and make more money than the guy that built this house it's it's inverted it's backwards even the money that influencers make it's unreal it is completely unreal and then here we are with a world full of people that are building roads to handling trash the mail Roofing cleaning the size and they're being told that they don't have value they're not important they're not getting propped up anywhere on that that make the world go around no offense to the Instagram model but that bimbo can't make it to the mall without a road or a car or a guy that built the mall itself hung the steel did the electrical poured the concrete and I don't even blame her I actually blame us as a country it's almost in a way there should be a certified payroll to and and there is there's certain projects B and Davis projects and construction where they they say how much you have to pay sure but but I think by and largely we have our value of job description versus income way off and I'm by no means a socialist the market gives what it gives but in a lot of these scenarios it's so far out of balance the common guy doesn't have a shot and so what I see happening could get substantially worse as more more and more women are willing to share a high value man and I can tell you as a person that exercises my options that that's a real thing and I don't even have to lie about it yeah in fact they contribute and help and it's not me bragging about it nor promoting it I'm not I'm not I'm just simply saying that if something doesn't change where the average guy can have a strong relationship and she can look up to him and be proud of him for the hard work that he did in the field all day mhm bring back and pouring his life's energy into supporting that family then it's going to be wrecked for quite a while yeah I know there's some you know people that are close to me and I think they there's been some frustration because anytime we're in a room together everyone wants to know what I'm up to right because I travel a lot and I'm doing these cool things and I do podcast with people like yourself and and I always have this feel who I look up to is like my brother-in-law who just grinds works his ass off takes care of my nieces nephews takes care of my sister my brothers that go to work and you know that really is for my whole life I've looked up to these people um you know my I have this guy he's kind of my right-hand guy for my real estate team for 17 years now and he's just as good as they come that dude cares about me more than I care about me and he grinds all day every day behind the desk making sure everything that I make a mess of gets put in order and gets taken care of and that dude will never get a single award or a single recognition and he doesn't need it but I'm like that is a man that's and then he goes home to his four kids and his wife and he supports them and he takes care of them he has a calling in his church he is the guy in the community he puts together trips with the neighbors and [ __ ] that's a man that is like what makes America so amazing and there has to be a way to kind of give more credit I'm saying this from somebody that gets more credit than I deserve that like we have to start somehow recognizing all those people in a way that that is what becomes cool again you know and that's what we aspire to is becoming like that because if we keep aspiring everybody wants to be a YouTube Star wants to be the next you know the next podcast super interviewer or whatever it might be we just leave a gap in the people that really are getting the work done I completely agree I believe there'll be a day I hope for a day where you cannot put out a course you cannot create a brand without proving that you became a millionaire in that business I had a deep conviction inside of me I wanted to do YouTube in my mid-20s so bad but I felt like an impostor because I was still struggling to build it mhm I'd make a bunch of money and then try to scale and lose it I'd make it lose it I think I have it under control thought I was a big boss and then I'd lose it again you know and these these things would happen over and over again and I just you know finally let go of it and I said I'm going to make a commitment to not go online until I am liquid multi-millionaire now one thing that I think is very important for me to say on top of that the higher I get up in the social media World m the broker I realize I am worth millions of dollars I got 300 properties I got huge construction companies I make millions of dollars a year but then I run into Dan fleshman outside and he's like yeah we own a bank or whatever the hell they say right and so I think that that's the fair thing to say as well especially as people that have influence it's like yes I did really really well I'm a millionaire not a billionaire you know I'm way more like you than you think I am and I honestly believe that there's a bigger gap between zero to a million for an individual than there is from 1 million to 10 and 10 to 20 I agree I really believe that because so many things in your life change like I continue to get wealthier and I'm proud of that because it's a game but I can tell you it doesn't change my life very much a private jet is not that much better than commercial yeah they say a person that has a million doar or more net worth they did these random surveys and they asked them if you could roll a dice and you either 10x your money or you lose it all and have to start at zero how much of a multiple they'd have to get before they would take the role right and it was seven times is where that hit where people finally the survey shifted that people would take it as a 7x but at 5x no for because they know how hard it is to go from zero to a million that's much harder your life's going to change a lot more in that time frame than going from a million 10 million or a million to 7 million or whatever it might be you know how you know how I always explain it I explain it like you're on a Runway and you go to take off and they burn I think a plane burned 60% of its fuel on a takeoff oh wow or some some it's some crazy number I that might not be right but it's close to that and most of the effort from the plane is getting it off the ground I look at that as the first few million but then when you get to 30,000 ft you're really just cruising your competencies are in place a lot of your teams are in place you begin to get some sort of status and that completely changes everything because then employees are coming to you yeah opportunities doors open you you didn't never deserve to be in the room deals are there and these things they continue to happen and so like even I'm in this place where it's like I'm watching my wealth compound and I think to myself how much easier it is to multiply wealth now than it was to even get myself in the POS position to watch a compound Y and I think that's what happens is most people try to get that plane off the ground and even me myself you're duck you're duck taping the wings you're trying to figure out you're going sideways you nose dive you crash off the Runway and bounce and then you get up there and it and it almost you feel this level of guilt because you're so trained and you're so used to work being painful that's what the peak of my career I literally shifted to do this other thing completely cuz I was like I was kind of bored with it I I was a little bit addicted to the to the takeoff you know and to all that stuff and are we all all Entre are yeah and it's because it is more fun right like you said it almost feels guilty when you're just like this has never been when now it's like you just touch [ __ ] and it's like money money money and and the thing about that is another reason it's so easy to do it is because of the position you're in yes but then also you don't have the downside risk of that business failing because if that business fails you still have a nest egg of that first thing you built to generate that first million anyway I tell people all the time I like don't worry about making a million dollars worry about creating a system that's going to spit you out millions of dollars a year so like people get so caught up in like making this certain amount of money and they want to hold on to it I don't care about that I care about the system that's going to get me there and I think that's the hardest part to build because you have to be able to have the staff to get that plan off the ground the engine the engineering everything that you have to engineer around that business to create that new life for yourself that is the thing that's going to get you there it's not going to be this one side hustle where you hit like a little lick it's just not ludicrous is getting ready he is we're we're doing this we're doing this podcast at uh Keaton's house and they're they're having ludicrous playing here at the at this house tonight so if you guys a little background that's just that's just a little little soundtrack for our podcast here for you but so you said something uh I didn't want to you kind of glossed over it but you said something that intrigued me earlier in the podcast you said most men want to probably marry down go into that a little bit why how come you I don't recall saying that however I will say this that's probably true that's probably true I think I think that it's not that they want to marry down it's that you want there to be a dissonance between you and her she needs to look at you like a superhero and a lot of people say you need to be equal partners and all this other [ __ ] but statistics show that doesn't work if you can't be the superhero and it's not that you're saving her a lot of people try to twist this like there's something wrong with her and you have some God complex or something like that no no no no man wants a woman that he can't say from a castle on a dragon true the most genuine beautiful part about loving somebody is feeling like you made their life better because of the work that you put in you swep them away there's a song by The Dixie chicks called Cowboy Take Me Away yeah that in a girl's honest heart in her Primal heart every girl wants the superhero to come save her and whisk her away it's every every fantasy fairy tale they ever told that's what happened everything and and so these women read this for a reason and they're telling women today which is another very difficult thing that women are facing particularly as they get to what Rolo calls the wall which is you know they have the 19 to 27 or 26 range where it's like the party years yeah that's their Prime but then but then unfortunately for women and another unfair thing about nature for women is they're on the clock at 27 they're like okay I need to have kids or I'm not and a lot of women mostly in my opinion because the the way the Dynamics are set up now they have to turn their head to that Primal urge to have children and become a bad [ __ ] instead and I believe that's mostly because they don't have a man in their life that they feel like could be the superhero and create that dissonance between them in order to make that a reality they're trying to create it almost for themselves because they're just they know they want it and they're not getting it I call them Phantom penises now if you're a high status enough dude and I've had this happen myself I'll walk into a meeting yeah girl have a hell of one of those right she'll be a bad [ __ ] you know tell me about her company tell me she made six figures last year and I'll hold back from like giggling and telling her that's cute and you know congratulate her and everything but by the end of the date by the end of the interaction that soft side comes out mhm you know and they tell you the truth they have to have this hard shell on and I'm not saying it's because women are less I'm simply saying that although men and women are equal in their importance to the world world they're important in completely different categories and I think it's a shame that women are being asked to be a female version of a man because they've been sold this lie that they've all bought into that's not equality equality is a woman is her best and a man is his best and they're in their role correctly where they create the most value and a woman you like you said it you know you can have the girl the woman with the most masculine shell on but when she really breaks it down she just wants a guy to be that for her so she can be in her beauty and her feminine and be able to flow and I think I think what makes Society so hard right now is that that expectation especially over the last 10 years of that young lady has risen to the moon have you heard the six sixes no so I think it's uh 6 months from the last relationship six pack AB six inch dick uh six figure income and and then yeah six foot tall and a 600 horsepower car now great to in those categories right however when you have a gam of women across the board that have let's you six foot tall um there's something called the female delusion calculator have you heard of this yeah I've seen it they ask girls of they're non-negotiables and they put it into the calculator and it's like oh congrats one out of 13,000 guys fits your role 00111 one% and look um it doesn't behoove me to sit here and brag about me hitting certain statistics are you hitting some of these certain statistics I'm talking about normal good people with good hearts that want to have a relationship or a family or children they want to contribute to society we've set up a scenario where that's next to impossible for them yeah and I'm not just talking about the man I'm talking about the woman because the woman whether she actually feels that way or not or she's getting pressured into that or not and I think pressure from the world is actually one of the major indicators she wants to love the normal guy somewhere in her it agitates her not she can't she's almost not allowed to even if she wanted to because there's always this shiny syndrome thing in her way that the guy from Two Towns over that has an Instagram and let's say he's got 10,000 followers because he's a fitness dude you know or she has this vision of this guy and then there's this guy over here he has an insurance company he lives three Towns over but he likes her photos or DM every now and then he just wants to sleep with her but you understand what I'm saying it's like even the guy with no followers she she almost can't give him the time of day you know and I think that's more of a pressure and in in a a socioeconomic thing where women are competing I think that you know men compete yeah and they girl Flex on other women 100% look he took me on this vacation or he took me here he did this and well they even to the point where I was watching an interview with a bunch of you know women that were kind of in the dating world and they they said that they will absolutely when they meet a man stalk the last couple xes that he had to see what trips he took her on because they're comparing it to what this guy's going to do they want to know how much he loves her yeah right well news flash whoopy uh I'm just going to go where I have business so you can get on the plane or not and I think that's a major thing that men miss you need to be on your mission yeah I don't chase women I don't teach pickup I talk about intersexual Dynamics because it gets brought to me a lot it's it's very tied to masculinity because I want to see the guys win but I also want to see the women win but you'll never hear me talking about this is what you should do to get women in fact my pickup line is just introducing myself it's it's horrible because I believe so much that if you become that guy women will come to you I believe in gravity I believe it in absorbing women through who you are and you're going this way and they just jump in front of you chasing women I almost think about as two magnets that you try to put together that repel one another you should always be trying to become the man that women want yeah I mean it's the if you want to up the quality of woman in your life you have to become a better quality of man that's it I mean that's you're going to attract in whatever you are and it's where people get frustrated is when they're very ambitious but they're lazy right those two things don't go very well well together so those guys get super um you know super depressed about their situation with women but it's like at the end of the day you just ask yourself a question why would a woman date you like what caliber of woman would want to be with you and if you can't be real about that and honest about that because any guy that has made himself the asset if you have you know a great life and you do provide and you do create safety both emotionally physically and financially then it's going to be pretty easy to attract women into your life now you're going to have to decide at what level you want to find one and just one or whatever else it is but women are going to be accessible to you I think I was going to ask you a question earlier kind of about like you know why are so many men not dating or you know especially the younger generation I I see you know people that I've coached or that have come to me that are in their early 20s and and it seems like they're a little bit clueless to this point that you're making of like guys all you have to do look you're not going to be able to compete with Justin you're not going to be able to compete with the guy that can fly her to Dubai but you got to start working on yourself to improve yourself every single day because the more you become that asset the more women are going to look at your potential and the second you have the potential to be what they dream of having then they're attracted they'll be attracted to the potential you don't have to already be there but as a 21y old 19y old whatever that might be you do have to have the potential in their eyes of being that for them 100% you're completely right about that and and at that age I know that you're full of testosterone and your mind kind of works in in One Direction but if you could focus that on becoming the man that you want to become you're absolutely right women will see that and they will get in your way there's no need to chase women there there's truly not I don't think at any any level there's any need to chase women if all you do is focus on the man you become women are going to be the least of your worries you have an interesting relationship with Andrew Tate I think it's something that people always talk to you about I'm sure who's Andrew Tate he's a guy that was on the internet yeah I think he went to prison or something smart handsome that son of a [ __ ] yeah yeah I know well what's kind of been cool or fun is to watch people not know what to make of this guy right and you too I think you guys are very similar this way um but people just don't know what to make of it and I love watching it because again a person that's tapped in can recognize truth when he hears it and people don't like that and so people will try to do anything they can to tear those people down um you've kind of had an inside view of kind of you know who that person really is and I think I just would love to hear your opinion of like something that you've learned that people wouldn't know by having friends like that that are so sure and confident in themselves and unapologetically who they are and constantly doing the work to better themselves that's one thing I love about Andrew Tate is he's constantly obsessed with becoming a better version of himself and he's not afraid to share those wins publicly no and and I think that the way that Andrew goes about it is a is a beautiful way to go about it I think he goes about it two ways one is motivational and one he pisses people off you know so he can go from hey you could have this life that you want to hey you [ __ ] Brokey are you tired of being a little [ __ ] yet and different men and I think people don't understand this especially very soft people that sometimes men respond better to things that will make them angry MH versus things that will pull them up well I had a guy that I'm coaching right now he sent me a text literally today when I was at the gym and he was like making all these excuses for why he can't continue on in the program and I said dude when are you going to choose yourself you're just full of excuses and that's what I said and he came back he's like hey man can we talk I I do want to do this I need I need your help right but it was like I had to hit him in a way I said dude you're just full of excuses when is enough enough when are you going to actually Choose Yourself and to your point men need to be talked to a different way sometimes to moate them differently right and I think he he does a really good job of encapsulating all of those things I think he touches all of those particular points I don't really touch calling people broken [ __ ] as much like it doesn't feel as good on my heart that than he then I'm assuming it feels to him sure but he also knows the importance of that trigger and I know that that trigger is out there so I don't personally feel the need to do it you know I look at us and I and and I truly believe he looks at us as a team you know a lot I think for that reason he covers that base and I might cover some of the stuff that you know I often say my ideal version of a man is someone that can hold a baby and slit a throat in the same day but what I'm really getting at is there can be an a compassionate side to masculinity yeah Andrew probably won't talk on that as much but I can tell you he's wonderful in person yeah uh Tristan has his own attributes and things that he brings uh actually probably one of the wisest guys I know just Super Hyper intelligent guy but has a big heart and and and he's very good with people as well he's very very good with people Andrew's a little colder you know he he he's a little slower to befriend somebody which makes him a lot more valuable he's he's more scarce I think he knows that he's like stupid intelligent himself well that's what's funny about people that I mean anytime you blow up like that on the internet you're so intelligent to be able to pull that off to be able to do that right there's a level of intelligence and social intelligence just you know understanding social dynamics and people and you know attraction all those different things that is just otherworldly and a th% get that without you know and and I think you have to have all those different things you know somebody said something to me the other day they said for a guy of your status and level to be able to go on podcast and get asked about Andrew every every time and not have an issue with it which I genuinely do not I love my I love him like I love both of them like we're like this you could ask me about them the whole podcast I'm not insecure about that you know and I think that's something special that I bring to it that maybe some people wouldn't be able to handle you know feeling like they were sitting in a shadow or something like that I [ __ ] love that guy bro that's a good point man it's like so many people wouldn't be okay with that I know who the [ __ ] I am I remember when Charlie Murphy uh remember the Chappelle show when Charlie Murphy would go on and I went and listened to standup one time and he's like you know cuz he'd always be like Charlie Murphy and he's like the way they would say it was all crazy and he's like people come up to me every day and they say Charlie Murphy and he goes people ask me does that bother you and he goes well sure as hell beats Eddie Murphy's brother all day long you know but like most people would never be okay with that but it is it's true it's like when you are securing yourself and you you know you want your buddies to be propped up at all times and you have to pay attention this is one of the things I've learned about friendships man you really got to pay attention to how people's energy is when you get propped up and they're not I don't mean to cut you off but it's an honor to do that for my friends yeah I love that loyalty has nothing to do with extrinsic loyalty is inside you you knowing that you're loyal to that guy you knowing that you're one of few men on the planet that can stand inside his fire and be his friend like that so for me I take that loyalty very personally because it's not so it it is about Andrew and T but it's really about me doing what I know I want to do as a as a person that is vowed to ride with them till the end yeah most people they'll you know allow people to talk negatively when you're not there but then they'll kiss your ass to your face and what a good friend does is if you're not there he he your back to the end and to your face tell you what you're doing wrong words we can't say yeah yeah yeah well I wanted to see the best advice you have for young men and then the best advice you have for young women to navigate this crazy ass world that we live in I you know the book I just came out with it's called B1 it comes from the Marcus earliest quote waste no more time arguing what a good man should be B1 and then the subtitle is how to be a healthy man in toxic times we really live in these weird toxic times like we talked about earlier with social media so what's your best advice to young men because it's a lot of the people that look up to you and are following you and then what's your best advice for young women that uh as well yeah great question so for young men you have to understand and accept that life is going to be very very hard but that should make you excited because if you can dedicate yourself to doing the work that it takes to separate yourself from everyone else you have a very unfair advantage on the other side it's beautiful you have an abundance of choice you have complete freedom in your life you can say what you mean not go around it in a certain way you can live your own Truth for young women don't buy into the things that Society is telling you you need to do understand that the things you do today could cost you the man you're looking for tomorrow and I'm not Downing you for having a business or an only fans account or a big Instagram with you and a bikini just take into consideration if that's not actually where your heart is then you can get it another way and find yourself in a position What in in getting it what you actually probably want if you're honest and that's a good relationship with somebody you really look up to and call your hero at the end of the day yeah the guy that you want to have his children consider it at least I think anytime you're trying to get that outside validation you know you're doing something it's going to cost you down the line and I and I think that the most important thing about that for young women is that a man that meets you after you've not done some of those things not because you didn't know because you chose to go against the grain you chose to think for yourself you chose not to get pressured into something he'll respect you and respect equals love in both directions so stay true to yourself don't get pressured into being somebody you don't want to be uh because it could cost you everything that you actually want that's what I would tell a young girl dude Justin thank you so much for your time man excited to party tonight and to speak tomorrow and and just get to know you some more so thank you again all right man I'm glad we did it thanks

Channel: Jimmy Rex

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Length: 48min 10sec (2890 seconds)

Published: Sat May 18 2024