Tune into Your Soul Clock: Secrets to Less Stress and More Joy

[Music] hello and thanks so much for joining us I'm Maria tamas Keegan I want to welcome you to this show where we share a little bit of wisdom a little bit of wit and some wonderful expert guests who help women navigate career and life challenges and changes and most importantly to let you know that you are not alone each week through our conversations we share resources to encourage women to be more confident resilient and brave in their career and Life Choices we stream live weekly every Thursday at 10: a.m. Pacific Time on the e360 TV network uh where you can find us on your favorite streaming channels like ROK and Apple TV and Amazon fire and we go live s simultaneously on uh YouTube LinkedIn and Facebook where you can interact with us and if you prefer to listen to your shows while you're on the run we're also on all the podcast channels so if you find something inspiring today and you want more of it please subscribe to your favorite Channel leave us a comment share your favorite episodes and help us create more ripples around the world for women so today I get to host a journey into uncovering deeper joy and serenity in our professional and personal lives we're exploring a compelling question is your soul clock trying to tell you something joining us is Mary Beth Greg an international coach speaker and author whose life's work has been dedicated to empowering individuals to break free from The Daily Grind and embrace a life of intention and happiness with her extensive background in leadership development and her personal adventures in the culinary arts and dancing Mary Beth brings a rich perspective on how to weave joy into every aspect of Our Lives lives we'll dive into how we can live more intentionally moving beyond the automatic reactions to what life throws at us and towards a more thoughtful fulfilling existence we'll discuss practical strategies to dismantle limiting beliefs delegate responsibilities and truly listen to what our hearts our soul clocks are trying to tell us so Mary Beth also shared her insights in her latest book it's called how to soar with a broken wing finding tiny moments of joy every day which has already touched the lives of many so whether you're feeling overwhelmed or just looking to bring more happiness into your daily routine today's conversation is going to offer you some valuable lessons so let's get started welcome Beth thank you so much for joining us oh I'm honored to be here I really am it's it's so joyful to be with you and to talk with you and your your audience um I'm super excited and um before we get into things one of the things that you just said about we don't have to be alone and thank you for this work that you're doing because so many women uh I think feel that way yeah and we don't need to yeah that's so true true that's so true it is why I do this hope hopefully there's one nugget out of every episode is going to hit one woman that and it's GNA make a difference right and then it's all worth it right absolutely y all right so our audience of busy women who work hard to balance careers and homes and families and lots of lives what I call life's upside down moments uh might React to what life throws at them react right you talk about living more intentionally so let's dig into that for a minute how do we do that AB absolutely and there's such a difference between reacting and responding in responding we we take more control so many people that I know um not just the people I'm coaching but at the end of the day we get depleted you know we look back and we just just have been firefighting and at the end we like what happened you know this is not feeling good it's not nurturing for us and one of the things that's really important that I found is we we have to be aware of what's happening and I I'll talk more about that later but this ability um and it's a choice and I think that's the key it's a choice because in every moment we get to choose how we want to feel how we want to respond uh and and not and not be the victims you know we're on this hamster wheel and we want to get off and we don't know how I was thinking about one of my early jobs way back then and um I was usually the only woman at the table and I would talk about something and nobody would respond and then it was someone else in the room would come up with the same idea and and I didn't say anything I just zippered it up um but at the end of the day I was really upset when I went home and like why did they do this to me you know and and feeling more like the victim but it was a a reaction I didn't I didn't allow myself to take responsibility for how I came across and looking back Maria it was um it was this is a realization that came a while ago I'm the one that showed up small I was talking in a tiny little voice and not being heard and how I reacted to that was to be anger and blame them right right yeah oh boy that one hit home yeah yeah yeah yeah it took me a long time though that was a long time to realize I me too and as I think about um why that is we weren't taught to play Big absolutely right yeah I I can still hear my father's voice sometimes you know little girls don't do that right right so little girls are seen and not heard I had three older brothers they were seen and they were heard yeah yeah right yeah so we we hold so much of this uh inside us so let's talk about let's talk about that for a second um and I think it is one of the things that keep us on that hamster wheel you were talking about right right we keep going through the motions talk about that for a minute absolutely um and because we get hardwired you know just what you were talking about I always heard children should be seen and not heard yeah and and you know I I took that in from my wonderful loving parents and of course you know School especially Catholic school and that's what that's what happened uh and I was you know the the good little girl um and didn't feel that I had a choice and I think that's that's where we get to make decisions understanding we do have choices uh taking 100% responsibility for how we feel one of the things I'll talk about in a little while is the power of questions where we get to ask ourselves oh this is how I feel how else can I feel how else can I respond and that's where we jump from the react to the response because things trigger us off right right it'll be um a voice tone that triggers us or this is a good one when somebody's talking to you and pointing a finger what does that take you back back to school where you did something wrong even though you didn't know it and though so that's what gets hardwired in our brain and we need to be aware of that and that's how we can start to go from react to respond you know I love that um we have choices we always have choices I I didn't always believe I had choices right uh and it took me a long time from moving through childhood where I had no choices right right um into adulthood where I still thought I didn't have choices and then realizing that I do and then figuring out so what choice do I want to make right right absolutely y right and that's the intentional part right that that's it that's the intention which comes in and and I think also giving ourselves permission that we do have that choice right right and I think yeah now go ahead I was say I think that that that becomes the the first step is like we feel something's off and we say to ourselves you know what I'm done I need to do something different maybe not don't know what it is but that permission has to come from here yeah and and having the Curiosity to explore something different so I I was talking to a client just the other day and she was talking about uh all of the things that she had been doing and and they weren't getting her where she wanted to go so when I asked her what what do you want that's different than what you have right it was a question she hadn't thought about and it's it's pretty simple right it's like you get to choose what you want absolutely and you get to choose whether you go for it or not right right and then but but things things hold us back things stand in our way right yeah mostly us mostly us right mostly us yeah we are we are our biggest obstacle right many times we are yeah and and it's also about um I think understanding that that we we do we're allowed to have joy right we have this within us and sometimes we've forgotten about it you know this just Joy at looking little things um a kid jumping into a puddle right the Joy on their faces is in their whole body and you think sometimes gosh what happened to us you know that that where is that Joy I have friends in uh Florida they have this lovely such a sweetheart four-year-old grandchild and they had taken her to the zoo they sent me a video and what happened was this elegant giraffe came over and put his head down towards her she lit up with such Joy it came through the video and you know I thought gosh you know we still have that within us we have to let it out you know again giving our so permission to to let it out to let it be so let's talk about that for a minute because I I know I don't let it out enough for myself right um it's like I'm I I'm doing doing doing talk about this to my clients and I don't take my own advice instead of being right being more just being in the moment being intentional making a choice to have fun right why why don't why don't we do that more and and I think again you know we get into um uh we practice something else we practice doing not being one of the and then it's just it becomes automatic yeah um one of the things that um is interesting that I I talk that into my book is in the morning the first thing that I used to do was get up and think what do I have to do today you were you know just talking about that and I did a shift in terms of when I get up in the morning I ask myself how do I want to be today what comes to mind and whatever word that is I just say okay how do I want to be today and it could be calm it could be curious it could be um let let me go explore whatever that is and I just put a little sticky note on my computer or you know on the refrigerator to remind myself I get to choose to be today not just too oh I love that and and it helps to make the to-dos a little easier yeah because you're coming from a different place right right so if you choose to to be calm right or you choose to be happy right then you're coming to the to-dos from a different place totally instead of the I have to right right you turn it into I get to I get too yep yeah is just a it's just a slight change onew change right and but it's a it's a shift in mindset it's a shift in how it makes us feel right and I think that's that I get to is where gratitude comes in yeah you know with all the things that are going on and when we sit back and and you know think a little bit like gosh I'm really lucky you know I'm really grateful when we when we um I mean I kind of stopped watching the news at all um which is a relief a lot although I'm still aware of what what is happening and how you know just that we can talk like this that just that you know we do the work that we do it's really um I really am grateful for that and um what one of the things that I think comes up is what can we let go of you know when we're have these things of like oh I'm so upset I'm so stressed how can we let go of that because that gets back to choices again right right and what do you want to feel instead right right absolutely choosing what you want to feel instead right all right so let's talk about let's talk about this some of us walk around with the weight of the world on our shoulders right and we feel the need to do everything ourselves right nobody can do it better than I can right right ourselves right and be perfect at it right now I call myself a recovering perfectionist for decades now right uh and I still have to catch myself on it but how do we think about that differently right and I think it starts with so I'm a very practical person and one of the things that I've come up with is a way to start to do that and I call it the ABCs so the first thing Maria is to be aware that's the a to be aware of when we're feeling that way which is not nourishing not helpful not joyful uh that stress and and figure out start to figure out like where it is is it in my chest is my neck tight does my my throat get tight is is it in my stomach where am I aware of this let's just call it stress for now put a label on it and where's it coming from what triggered me to feel this way so that's the first thing to to be aware the second thing is to take a breath to just sit back for a a a minc and just take a breath and then the third one which you you actually talked about a few minutes ago is the sea to understand we have choices to get curious about how else can I feel how else can I not be perfect um why do I have to be perfect where does that come from and that c also goes into curiosity which helps us to come up with other options because I love that the you know again we're we're feeling you know oh I have to do this nobody can do it better I've got to get it done and to sit back and say how else can I feel about this what else can I do and that's where these the power of of questions come in um one of my favorite um musicians uh is Leonard Cohen and he has a song and he and I I I never forget this it's so powerful there is a crack in everything and that's how the light gets in so we have to allow ourselves these cracks and we don't need to do it all we don't need to be perfect that tightens us up a lot and I think that also limits our choices and our curiosity and our it limits our creativity as well and when we you know allow for these cracks the slight comes in you know we get aha I never thought of that I love that Leonard Cohen is an an old favorite of mine as well right and that's such a great line right and and there's nothing there's nothing wrong with cracks cracks are good exactly right and that's what it tells us right it's okay to crack right doesn't mean we're going to break in half right we're just going to let a little light in and that's where that's that's where the ideas come from the insights come from right and we need those things so that we can start to think about things differently so that we can feel differently we can choose differently right absolutely and that's where we can start to let go you know and that's a big one I think all of us you know no matter what we do or who we are it's hard to let go and that goes in with the perfectionism as well I have I have a little let go Char uh jar here on on my desk I like that um you know let go and let God is my phrase um and and and I have to I have to remember that I can't keep harboring things that keep me stuck right or or that's where I'll stay and I don't deserve to stay there exactly nobody does right right we don't deserve to say stay stuck where we don't belong right right right totally yeah and and that's I think that's that's really a key nugget because that's going back to giving ourselves permission right that we deserve that we really right we deserve to have what we want right we deserve to feel better yeah we deserve to have choices we deserve to give ourselves permission and Grace right as we don't do everything perfectly we are not perfect we're not supposed to be exactly right that's how we learn all right so let's um so much of this that we've been talking about um drains our energy right it drains us it it keeps our emotions uh down right I believe emotions need motion so that they they don't get stuck anywhere where um but when we just talked about letting go so your best advice for letting go of what drains us and those em emotions that keep us down and find things that nourish us us instead what's your best advice about that I think one is to be aware you know which we talked about right so again when we're in that reaction mode we're not aware we're just doing doing doing right um and the the second thing really is what you just touched on is giving ourselves permission to do something differently um one of the things you know that I I picked up a wonderful book this year it's called Remember Love by Cleo Wade and what really came to mind for me in the O in the love it talks about tender times and that word tender really jumped out at me I was like wow we who talks about being tender um especially to ourselves and when you what you know where this is going is being aware of our selft talk we're so hard on ourselves um and when we can understand that that selft talk is it's deaning us it's draining us uh again take take a break do a pattern interrupt uh do something to get out of that and to be more tender with ourselves uh because you know we hear so much about self-care which is so critical um I think self-love comes first and selft talk is in there so just to adopt a more tenderness and give ourselves a pet on the back you know I I uh was mentioning before um when we before the the program started that I had some stress Busters to share and and one of which is when you're again got to be aware where you are is is just to sit and hug yourself um you know especially when we're alone I'm I'm alone a lot and um you know I get hugs when I see people but most of the day it's like oh just let me take step back and hug ourselves um celebrate ourselves point do we not do that even if it's it's just a little thing like last week I made this great pot of um Moroccan tomato soup I'm like damn that was good you know I I did a good job and I I really enjoyed it but again that that selft talk is really really critical you're so right about that you're so so right about that I W and and I catch myself I talk to my clients about this all the time how if we if we could just when we are being hard on ourselves imagine stepping outside of ourselves turning to face ourselves and speaking to ourselves as though we were our best friend that's tender right right that's compassionate totally giving permission giving Grace if we could if we could think about doing that more often you know what would I say to myself catch yourself be aware right right catch yourself when you're being hard when you're speaking to yourself harshly right when you're not cutting yourself a break right and step outside yourself and just turn around and say something tender something uh you know that that is you know you're doing the best you can right now so give yourself a break right yeah I love that that's great that's a great exercise to yeah flip it around and like we flip it around and look at ourselves right yeah yeah and you know some people use the mirror to do that I know Louise uses the mirror a lot right so yeah do mirror work right look at yourself and speak to yourself differently how would you like you know if your best friend were speaking to you right now how what would you like her to say right yeah yeah very powerful yeah yeah and those things do nourish us when we I love your idea of just giving yourself a hug right right right nobody has to see it right right but when you when and do it with intention right to exactly truly soothe yourself right so that it it matters it's not just a oh you know exactly but it really matters you're really saying something to yourself that that sues you yeah totally yeah and oh I just love that I'm gonna borrow that if you don't mind no oh no please do I I don't know where it came from probably didn't come from me so yeah borrow away you know we I I I I am mentored by everyone I read so too um you know I don't necessarily um and I just I I read something this morning I printed it off because yesterday I had a conversation with a client and we were talking about exactly that and I when I read it I went oh that said it so much better than I did I'm gonna remember yeah right the next time I meet her to to clarify what I meant yeah so yeah all the time yeah I'm I'm gonna pick up the word you just use which was clarify um one of the other things that I do uh again to figure figure out what what's happening and what drains us and what we love is it's a it's easy little exercise you draw three um faces three circles and the first one you make a happy face the second one just a neutral face and the third one an unhappy face and under each of those circles write down what does bring you Joy you know what makes you happy is it is it listening to music is it you know going outside and looking at the bird um picking up the phone and and talking to your best friend or a family member you know whatever that is but make a list of what nourishes us right or work what you know whatever that is the second thing is neutral again it's it's about awareness uh what's okay we don't mind you know like um for me I don't mind ironing or you know something like that but just make that little list then the third list unhappy face is where you really start to dig in a little bit what's draining me what's sucking the joy out you know is it being with someone um who's so negative and at the end of the conversation uh I have nothing left is is that something that you want to do not really but you feel obligated so that list of things or people um you when you get these three list you can start to shift right I want you to do more of what makes me happy what brings me joy what nourishes me and might have to make some hard choices with the with the unhappy face but at least it's a start so again at the end of the day it's like you know what I was more intentional because I figured out you know these things I need to do less of right right and again goes back to choice right Absolut and if you did less of those things that drain your energy and you know spent less time with a person who drains your energy right and more time you know with your grandchildren your your children out to you know lunch with a friend whatever that is do more of that or you know what what makes you happy in your career you know do more of that right the things you're passionate about right uh and less of the things that drain you it it it literally shifts how you see everything it things that drain you right right right it just shifts the way you think about things right right yeah and know we deserve more we deserve more of the Jo do yeah right right and when we when we notice how we're feeling when we're spending our time more time doing the things we're passionate about the things that bring us joy the things that are fun uh we we notice that our emotions are elevated our spirit is elevated the the the just the the atmosphere we create around us for other people is different it is totally and it it impacts Everyone We Touch when we feel that it it does because you know energy is not something here it is we put it out everywhere our impact right our impact of our it's that ripple effect I talk about yeah yeah I'll talk about at the end when we talk a little bit about Legacy but uh what you were just saying one of the things to identify you know on the that the happy face list is what what are the little things you can do every day for me when I start to feel stressed I'm going to turn on some Latin music and I dance in my office right oh there you go because when you move you know these are stress Busters even if you get up and look at this guy it changes your brain chemistry and it fires off off you know the the the happier endorphins and things like that but just that little bit of movement and I read somewhere I don't know who remember said it but like you can't be stressed and dance at the same time you can't it's impossible your brain your brain doesn't work that way unless you're perfectionist in terms of oh I had these steps wrong but you know if you just allow yourself you know your your your heart to get into the music yeah um sing as they say to dance like nobody's watching right exactly yeah to sing uh that's that's another thing I'm not very good at um but again we do these things and these are this really starts to pull our stress down we get more in control um a friend of mine uh talked about blow bubbles get a little jar bubbles when you do that again you're you're laughing you feel like a kid but it also does something to um change your your internal chemistry when you're doing that to reduce the stress yeah th those are some of the little you know stress Busters that we can do every day that doesn't cost anything that helps us again be more intentional about how we want to feel how we want to be and that's we we keep coming back to that word all of these things when we do them intentionally right right right when we when we uh when we plan right so the three lists your planning these are the things that make me happy so now plan to do more of those right how do I incorporate more of those it's a plan right right it's intentional it is and then when so when you so it's not hard to be intentional you just need to be intentional about the things that really help you right that LIF y that make you feel better that because it will affect everything else in your day right even the even the stressful stuff right right you'll see it differently right you'll feel it differently yep yeah this is so good and affects us and others you know either it's in person or you know on the phone or in a in a you know a zoom meeting boy do you pick up on energy so quickly yep yeah I I I remember a few years ago pre-co I was in uh New York down in SoHo and I had a client down there and I had some time so I thought oh let me go into this one store lovely store I walk in I almost immediately walked out it was I felt this negative energy in terms of the you know the people working there were in the back they looked at you like what were you wearing you know who are you kind of thing and I was like I turned around and walked that but that that's the energy that we feel and that that we give off yeah yeah absolutely the Ripple you were talking about yep y so we talked about this a little while ago I'd like to revisit it for a second uh or two um playing small I catch my clients thinking small playing small I catch myself doing that um and maybe we don't feel seen or heard you talked about that in your corporate days uh what do you say to us when we when we are playing thinking small and playing small I think it's important to figure out the why why we're doing that what's what's Our intention behind it and again does is does that serve us and does that serve others um marann Williamson has that famous quote about we we're not here to play small that's not why we're on this on this planet that's not who we're supposed to be and it you know it also deprives others of our gifts and I didn't realize that for a long time that when we play small we're not allowing our goodness and our gifts to go to other people and and I think that also relates to um give giving we're givers most of the time and don't feel we really should receive when we do that we really deprive others of their joy in giving to us of of their time you know of their energy whatever that is we just maybe that's with the perfectionism too we we've got to be the givers we got to take care of things and everybody um and again a step back why why do we feel that way and really do some deep dive into that that the the power of that intention you know the Simon syic book uh about the power of why that's the first place to start to really understand you know why am I doing this you know when I think back around why did I feel I had had to talk in such a tiny little voice was because I didn't I I didn't have enough courage number one I didn't have enough um self-esteem and I didn't think it was my place yeah so when I finally understood that and it's like yeah but that's not why I'm here you know I'm here because I have all this this great things to give and and you know if I hold that in it does de deprive other people yeah that's such a good point and I don't think we give ourselves credit enough especially uh women right we don't give ourselves enough credit for all of our wisdom all of our experience all of our human skills all of our technical skills uh all of our accomplishments right uh all of the value we bring and the impact we have when we put all of this into play and because we don't think highly enough of ourselves and all of that we play small we tend to uh negate it um feel you know that impostor syndrom uh I'm not good enough I don't know enough right and we keep ourselves stuck where we don't belong uh and we keep playing small yeah so understanding why is such a good place to start why do you think that is dig under that a little bit right and then you know uh bust the myths right of that totally yeah because the it's so likely that it's no longer true if it ever was right it's no longer true right and now you get to think about it differently and and create right then we get into how else do I want to feel what else do I want to do right um and you use the word impact before what is my impact when I'm playing small when I am not when I'm just giving and not receiving what's what's that impact and one of the things that's so important is we don't ever spend a lot of time thinking about my impact on others and everything that we do everything has you talked about that ripple effect yeah and we never know I I um I was guess it was a couple summers ago I live in this little town by by the ocean in New Jersey and this store opened up that made the best Quant in the whole world and they're unbelievable you're you're just drooling thinking about them it was always a line out the door and I wanted to get one for myself and my daughter and the line was out the door and when they're done they're done there was this young college kid in front of me and we slowly get into this tiny store and he goes I'll take eight of those and 12 of those and 10 of those and and all the raisin ones you have so I get up to the counter and I must have gone oh and I get up to the counter and I said do you have any more raisin and he goes no I'm like oh so disappointed not the end of the world but I go here's the point of the story I go outside this young man's standing there and he said to me it's sounding like you really want one here take one of mine a and that that kindness right let me go back to tenderness that kindness I don't forget but he didn't realize the impact of that right at all and that comes back how do we want to choose to live every day you know with kindness right yeah yeah y intention Absolut intention how do we want to make others feel absolutely how do we want to feel ourselves right right yeah it's wonderful and spend some time doing that you know one one of the other things that that I that um is so powerful I want to pass this along is when we start to feel in a place that's not nourishing stressed or whatever set set your timer five minutes you get to be stressed for five minutes you get to be angry for five minutes you get to be I feel sorry for myself for five minutes and while that five minutes is taking off most of the time you start to laugh because you can't stay there knowing you got a timer knowing you have a timer that's really that's a great a great tip yeah that's a great tip I love that give yourself permission to be angry for five minutes minutes set the timer and Watch What Happens exactly I love that I love that yeah I would be setting the timer and going yeah that's a waste of my time exactly that's what happens yeah that's a waste of my time all right we talked about Soul clocks um in the beginning in my introduction so how can we listen more to our hearts and make better decisions for our career careers and our lives how do we tap into what you call our soul clock to hear what it's trying to tell us right and I think the first thing is that we have to get still we have to take some time I mean I meditate every day um I started doing this about 10 years ago and it that was just such a lifesaver and people say oh I can't meditate whatever just have some quiet time again five minutes uh usually I'll do this at the end of the day and just let this silence just start to drop in when we start to do that we start to listen what what's what's going on that's one way to do it the second thing is when we're when we're um doing an activity that really makes us happy or makes us not happy listen again get quiet and listen what what is our our heart trying to say you know I think we all have had times in our lives when this little voice inside of us has talked to us to say don't do that and we go ahead and do it and most of the time it doesn't turn out right that's that's our soul talking to us and um I I go back to the movie U my cousin Vinnie uh where Marissa is this famous scene she's getting fed up because they're not getting married and she's standing on the porch tapping her feet at this rate I ain't never getting married you know this is her biological clock our soul clock is is also trying to tell us something not that our soul has has a Time attached to it it it's forever it it is however this this voice this comes from our heart is giving us messages in terms of what are you waiting for why are you waiting to be happy why are you waiting for Joy oh I'll wait till I retire or I'll wait till I get a new boss or I'll wait till you know I find a new job or what whatever that is and in the meantime we are losing out on joy and happiness and our our soul and our heart doesn't want us to do that so to to you really stand back back and you know I can't use the word aware enough I guess of what's happening and to really listen and dig deep on that because these messages I think keep coming up you know this job really isn't for me this this environment is really toxic why am I still here I don't need to be here and I think that's a good example of our soul saying to us we can get out we need to do something that is going to embrace us and lighten us up not not pull us down yeah the question comes to me if not now when when exactly what are you waiting for what are you waiting for yeah that's that's what our Soul's saying what what are you waiting for and you know that's a hard question to answer because it takes us right out of our comfort zone totally every time totally every time yeah and that's a that's an uncomfortable place to be so yeah it's um it takes it takes uh some some wisdom and a lot of courage courage yep because that's all about fear yeah exactly right and what do you want to feel instead yeah yeah yeah and support going back to what you said about we're not we're not here to be alone get support I mean right you know um to to to have a coach or a trusted trusted colleague or friend or Mentor you know they're there people want to help us yeah if we if we allow ourselves to receive that's such a good point if we allow ourselves to receive because we're all especially those of us women who are uh strong um doers High Achievers you know we are used to doing it ourselves they are and it's not easy to open ourselves up and be vulnerable enough and say you know I could use some help here I don't really know exactly what I should do next I would love to talk to someone who's maybe been where I am and is where I want to go and and kind of maybe get some insights about what that path might look like for me yeah totally yeah yeah you know you touched on something uh earlier the word legacy uh it's not just for the Rich and Famous is it no it's not so why is Legacy important do you think well that you know it's um again our our impact and we we tend to think of Legacy as you know well that's not for me that's for rich and famous but you know even my little Quant story that that young man's Legacy was one of kindness and what you know I think the question is what do we want to leave behind um every day it doesn't have to be oh I did this incredible achievement I mean it could be it's more about how we go through life and how we want others to feel about us when we're together yeah and that that's you know you can't put a price on that or you can't um really have that be uh it and it's not a um a material thing you know this is this this energy again and how do we want to be thought of you know when we're like 95 years old or we're Betty White we're 100 years old looking back on our lives what do what does that Legacy for us need to be and then we can start to shift our our behaviors and our thoughts and our feelings in that direction so we get to design our Legacy yeah I love that uh reminds me of one of my my biggest mentors Maya Angelou who said she she never knew she was a mentor but right um she has mentored me for years and I love what she said people don't remember what you said people remember how you made them feel feel yeah absolutely that's one of my favorite quotes as well yes Ian it's so good yeah all right Mary Beth I would I could talk to you all day I say this to so many of my my guests at the end of the show I just love these conversations so but I I really need your help to wrap things up here okay help us just give us some key takeaways that we can leave with I know you've got some some tips as well leave us you know like your three best ones okay so I think that for first one is to allow ourselves permission to be joyful that we deserve it that we need to be aware of when we're not nourishing ourselves um to to be tender to to have that selft talk and that selflove really be part of our daily to be to be I think that's another one and to to to let go to let go of what doesn't serve us anymore and to and to know that we're not alone when we're doing this that there's so many other people and especially women this same situation and to be open to to receive that's so beautiful thank you I I would truly have loved this conversation I feel like I'm talking to a kindred spirit yes absolutely I have a tendency to invite guests who are Kindred Spirits so we can have conversations exactly well that's that energy flow right and I and I just pray that they they help other women like they help me every time we have this conversation so I know that uh there are some uh people out there watching and listening who are going to want to know more about you and to get in touch with you so what is the one best way for them to do that Mary Beth I think through my website um it's the International Center for Women's leadership TI iwl docomo forget about Mary Beth's book you can find uh a special offer in the in the show notes uh for for you to get Mary Beth's book as well her latest one it's a goodie Mary Beth thank you so much for being here with us thank you Maria from my heart and I feel a kindred spirit as well and yeah I think the people that watch your show also are in the same energy field and um wanting to be happier and wanting to be more joyful I think so too yeah I think so thank you again thank you and for those watching and listening I really appreciate that you are a part of this community so if you and enjoyed this episode please subscribe leave a comment pick a star let us know what you think how you feel about it creating and sharing resources for women is just one of my favorite things to do and another favorite thing is being a career and life coach for women navigating challenging times and helping them get unstuck uh explore new possibilities and find Harmony in their career and life so if something in this episode resonates with you and you'd like a fresh perspective reach out let's chat the links to connect with Mary Beth and me are in the show notes below and then let's meet again here next time next Thursday and every Thursday at 10: a.m. Pacific time for another inspiring conversation because you know what I believe it's our time to thrive so let's Thrive together till next time I'm Maria tamas Keegan helping you turn transition into Triumph [Music] [Music] [Music]

Channel: María Tomás-Keegan: Transition & Thrive With Maria

Views: 37

Keywords: Maria Tomas-Keegan, Transition and Thrive, Professional Women, Career Transition, Stress Reduction, Finding Joy, Leadership Coaching, Living Intentionally, Work-Life Balance, Personal Legacy, Soul Clock, Life Coaching, NLP Training, Emotional Wellness

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Length: 55min 57sec (3357 seconds)

Published: Fri Apr 26 2024