The Psychology of Lying: The Last Of Us — Why We Lie — Therapist Reacts!

what happened we found the fireflies turns out there's a whole lot more like you really people that are immune there's dozens actually joel straight up lies to ellie he doesn't do the thing that heroes do which is sacrifice the thing that is dear to them for the greater good of humanity he's already lost one daughter and he's not going to lose another but he goes so far with the lies in order to make sure that she doesn't turn back anytime a damn bit of good neither he makes her believe that there's other people out there so that she doesn't feel the pressure that if they don't find a cure that she has to go back and search for it they've actually they've stopped looking for a cure joel knows that ellie would do the right thing even if that means sacrificing herself when you take a look at ali's personality traits she's positive and sacrificing and will take risks to keep people that she cares about alive her personality set would be that hero who would die to save everyone else i'm taking this home i'm sorry and he knows he knows that she feels really bad and guilty survivor's guilt because she's still there but also because she believed that she was humanity's hope and so to hear that is really crushing because that was ellie's identity that's what she's been fighting so hard for and she wakes up with everything that she had hoped for gone wait and this is probably one of the most heart-wrenching scenes in the entire game for me because we take a look at marlene and she isn't just this villain she made this choice but joel already heard her message to ellie's mom in a while since we spoke i need you to know that i've kept my promise all these years despite everything that i was in charge of i looked after her here's a chance to save us but she has to give up this girl that she has taken care of since she was little sacrifice this girl that she has raised like her own daughter i'm not about to kill the one man in this facility that might understand the weight of this choice also that dichotomy of they told her to kill joel and she says that she wasn't going to because he's the only other person that would actually understand all the pain and hardship she's going through let me go you just come after her and it's such a understanding but selfish reason we kill marlene so that we can make sure that ellie's safe because she would continue to fight for a cure and ellie may choose to go with her willingly when she gets older and if she ends up finding out what the truth is and so joel makes sure that all of those avenues have ended so that he can keep ellie and be able to fix that mistake that wound of losing sarah the beginning of the game and it goes a lot to that desensitization because i don't believe that the joel at the beginning of the game would have made these choices but he's gone through and seen all of this brutality and lying and death because he's seen so much it doesn't cause that much of a reaction inside of him and that's one of those interesting things that happens to us when we've gone through something over and over again it doesn't cause that same fight or flight or danger response and so i think that that also comes into play of why joel was able to make this decision to be able to protect ellie at fully any cost he's still that very protective father figure that will sacrifice anything for his child such as the people that he decided to leave on the side of the road because that would slow down and risk their own chances of survival for sarah but this killing of people that were actually no immediate physical danger by his own hand is definitely one step further than where he was before he has finally found that joy and that hope in being able to have another daughter figure in his life his own feeling of protectiveness has overwritten that need of protecting everyone else and i think also that he probably doesn't feel the same amount of goodwill towards the rest of humanity because he's seen us at our worst people are usually very good and kind but when there's a scarcity of resources it does bring in our fight or flight and often most of our negative traits will come out i'm still waiting for my turn ellie her name was riley and she was the first to die and then it was tess and sam none of that is on you in that moment when ellie talks about the story of how she feels so much guilt because she ended up living when her friend died that is kind of that proof to joel that yeah she would completely go back and probably make that choice to die swear to me that everything that you've said about the fireflies is true [Music] i swear okay that's why he doubles down and makes sure that there is no doubt in her mind not just to keep her safe but because he can't lose her he lost his daughter she was taken from him and there is no way no matter what not even if ellie wanted to is he gonna allow it to happen again well usually in the hero's journey the hero makes that choice to sacrifice to give up the thing that is most dear to him joel is different in this case he shows that feeling of that anti-hero that he's going to do something for himself there is no way because he has lost a daughter already that he's ever gonna let this happen again no matter what and you can understand it when people go through a very intense trauma often they will be exceptionally protectionistic and controlling about everything so that that never happens again even if that's at the detriment to everything around them because that fight or flight has been activated and it resets the wiring of our brain and it's really hard to let go because when we allow risk and danger even getting close to something a situation that is similar to that it sets off our brain into all of that panic and anxiety response joel feels so much joy with ellie she shares so many of the character traits that are similar to sarah also and i think because of that as well he can't give that up even for the rest of humanity do you feel that joel did the right thing or should have he made a different decision what would have you done if it was the person that you love that would have to go under the knife and die in order to save the rest of humanity i think that many of us would say that he probably did the wrong thing keep one life for everyone else but how many of us would make the exact same choice let me know in the comments below joel and ellie use their mental acuity psychology and wits if you want to make sure that you're prepared for the zombie apocalypse you should check out today's sponsor brilliant this is where you can gain an understanding of the basics of computer science physics quantum mechanics game theory and everything you need to bring out the brightest strongest you brilliant is the online interactive stem learning platform with a growing catalog of courses specifically crafted to help you learn concepts by working through them through visual hands-on ways and all the lessons are 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Channel: Georgia Dow

Views: 88,009

Keywords: psychology, psychotherapy, therapy, self help, life coach, psychotherapist, self improvement, reacts, reaction, the last of us, ellie, joel

Id: 9IJ7p_IG1TI

Length: 9min 15sec (555 seconds)

Published: Wed Jun 15 2022