The Power of Communication - Pastor John Hagee

[Music] what is communication the Bible is a book of clear communication it says thou shalt not lie thou shalt not commit adultery thou shalt not steal thou should not use the name of the LORD thy God in vain you should not have any other gods before me you shall do no murder you shall not bear false witness I'm gonna ask you something what part of thou shalt not don't you get people say I don't really understand the Bible it's not difficult if you would read it the Bible says righteousness exalts a nation but sin is a reproach to any people the Bible says pray for the Peace of Jerusalem they should prosper that love you this is a very profound book about communication it's a communication that is impossible to become confused the Bible says this is so simple that a fool cannot err therein yet there are a lot of people with PhDs that can't read it that don't read it that misunderstand it when they do read it any communication can be twisted st. Paul wrote to the New Testament church I would not have you ignorant brethren or you even say the same words this way I would not have you ignorant brethren same words just a twist we have developed communication systems that permit men on the earth to talk to people walking on the moon yet we have a situation in America where husbands can't talk to their wives mothers can't talk to their daughters fathers can't talk to their sons across the table in their own house why their faces are buried in cell phones and computer games hello those things should not be at your kitchen table nothing should rob you cases with your children problems and differences in a marriage and family or business are not dangerous but not being able to openly communicate about those problems is very dangerous communication is giving your partner the freedom to discipline to disagree with you completely without you flying into a rage or pouting or sulking for a week Christians don't lie but they Belt they do communication is when you and I as husband and wife can honestly tell each other who we are what we want how we feel what we love what we honor what we esteem what we hate what we fear what we desire what we hope for what we believe in what we're committed to and then only then can we be a person because until you know how I feel and are willing to accept that we've got a problem husbands and wives are often riddled with insecurities and insecure people are dogmatic people if you're someone who can never be wrong you just can't be wrong you're too emotionally weak to allow anyone to disagree with you let me say this in the kindest way that I can you are an emotional Hitler if you demand that your wife or husband agree with you and everything you're denying them their emotional and intellectual life he or she will have an emotional breakdown or they'll get a divorce to save their sanity but they're not going to stay married to you because that is not a long-term operation there's a medical fact your deep feelings will be expressed or you will explode it's been explained like trying to take a beach ball and hold it under water a large beach ball you can wrestle with it you can move it here you can move it there but eventually it's going to at the top all of your deep-seated emotions that are not expressed or sooner or later going to erupt this is very important why is it important to your communication because you are not a stone statue you are in a constant state of emotional and physical change every person here is in the process of change husband said oh I know that my wife is always changing her mind let me tell you men change their mind as much as women do the first principle of communication is is if I expose my emotional nakedness to you as a person do not make me feel ashamed do not make me feel foolish or I'm gonna continue to talk to you but I'm never going to tell you how I really feel deep in my soul again and that's what communication is the second communication killer is the lack of honesty you twist the facts until they are compatible to your prejudices or to your point of view the third communication killer is angry explosion psychologist dr. Henry Brandt says quote no nakedness is quite as emotional as psychological nakedness a fourth communication killers tears this weapon is mostly used by women although some men I know have used it very effectively you're saying don't tell me my shortcomings I'll cry the first bed after marriage he turns on the waterworks she teaches the new husband don't you go beyond this line or I'll cry communication stops then on her part control begins is manifested by manipulation by domination by intimidation which the Bible calls which breath ouch why because if you're not in control you're beside yourself with rage that is not emotionally nor spiritually healthy you need to stop in Jesus name [Applause] the fifth communication killer is exaggeration how many of you know people who exaggerate a six-year-old boy ran into the house screaming mother there's the cat in the backyard that's as big as the lion the mother said calm down I've told you once I've told you a hundred times stop exaggerating now go to your room and ask the Lord to help you stop this exaggeration problem you have he went into his room ten minutes later he came out and the mother said well what happened the son said well I talked to God about it and he told me the first time he saw that cat he thought it was the lion - seven steps to effective communication employ the Ezekiel method of communication communicate with empathy is to feel another person's problem not sympathy empathy is you feel for another person by experience of their crisis meaning you have experienced exactly what they're experiencing therefore you can have empathy but you haven't experienced exactly that you can have sympathy but not empathy never walk into a home where a child has been taken and say I know what you're going through that is the dumbest thing you can say you don't know that unless you've had a child that was taken the best thing you can do is wrap your arms around the people that you love and hold them and hug them and say I love you and I'm here for you but don't ever say something foolish like I know what you're going through Ezequiel in the third chapter said I said where they said what was he talking about he was talking about a concentration camp of Jewish people in exile in Babylon they had just become slays Babylon had gone into Israel and taking them into captivity they were now refugees of war they'd lost their homes that lost their freedom they'd lost their destiny their hope David said they sat down and wept when they remembered Zion meaning Jerusalem Ezekiel wanted to communicate with him so he set where they said God said if you're going to speak to those people you go down there where they are and you stay where they are who wants optimism from an armchair quarterback who owns glib words of wisdom from a long-haired prophet who has no scars on his back so Ezekiel became a captive he went down to live with the Jewish people in captivity he let the blows of humiliation that they were experiencing become his he looked at the world through their eyes he felt what they felt and it changed his point of view from a point of ministry the fact husbands and wives can can communicate with this very principle of seeing it from their point of view as they boss sometimes you need to look at something from your employer's point of view as a counselor that's a good thing to do one of the most dramatic marriage counseling sessions I had many years ago when I was still doing this is this Ezekiel message a husband had a little appreciation for his wife who was taking care of three small children without any help on a crowded house so I said to him called him by name I said why don't you see it from her point of view why don't you sit where she says why don't you choose one day just any day and stay home all day with three of these small children and you cleaned the house you wash the dishes mop the floors you wash and iron the clothes you change the diapers you potty-trained this little guy you got right here he means it answer the phone go get the groceries and when your wife wife comes home at 5:30 look as fresh as the Daisy have a rose in your teeth and have the hot breath of passion in both of your eyes he looked at me like I was insane he said you can't be serious I said look one day John Wayne just one day do it I lost him he wouldn't found another counselor think about it I said where they said you don't really know how it is until you see it from their perspective I think doctors are wonderful people in the past few years of my life I've seen more of them than I want to but I think every doctor should be sick just once and admitted to the hospital where he works under the name of John Doe to escape the Messiah Complex to experience the joy of some female Ironsides aka nurse walking into your room at 4 o'clock in the morning sticking a six-inch Lindell in your behind and it ricochets off your hip bone and says are you resting well for 40 years hagee ministries has taken all the gospel to all the world and to every generation together with your support lives have been changed and stories have been rewritten by the power of the Word of God as a new decade begins it is time to write a fresh chapter together to forge a bond that will continue to bring souls into the loving embrace of Jesus Christ partner with us today and become a part of blessing those in need and changing the lives of the ones you love for decades to come you help families find reconciliation bore witness to history in the making and have seen troubled hearts discover the peace that only Christ can breathe for your support this month you will receive special resources that will bless your life and bring you closer to the Word of God send your gift today call the number on your screen or visit jhm dot org slash love there's a classic prayer Lord helped me to never judge another person until I've walked in their shoes for two weeks have you ever watched people walk down the street and pass a real Becker with a tin cup I'm not talking about some millennial dude that's too lazy to work I'm talking about somebody that really needs help watch the people that give the silk stocking crowd will walk by him but the blue-collar people will help him because they know what it feels to need something and can't get it it may not be much but they'll give it to me one of the dumbest things you can say in the hour of another person feeling is I know how you view you can't possibly unless you've experienced exactly that to communicate with compassion compassion is transmitted through touch there are 60,000 new Urlacher neurological endings in your hand did you know that Jesus touched people with his hands touching is powerful touch is the magic wand of intimacy I want to say that again touch is the magic wand of intimacy one touch is worth a thousand words in the rat race of life don't get too busy to touch to hold to hug your children your wife your husband the people you love I do that every day when I see my kids saw their 50 I'm still hugging [Applause] success in marriage is more than finding the right person success in marriage is being the right person you being the right person one does not find happiness in marriage but happiness but they take happiness into marriage if you're not happy when you get married believe me changes are coming changes are coming there are times in every marriage when tears become a language of their own and words are too feeble to convey your feelings when compassion expressed in silence embraces the best and when all of the beautiful words in the world weigh less than a single act of love no cord or cable can hold as tightly as love's compassion with a single thread of all the music that reaches highest into heaven it is the beating of two hearts that love each other they're the angels of God come and live in that house my love Jesus Christ so loved the world that he came to the earth to sit where you sit to sit where you sit to sit where you sit to feel why you feel why do we pray to God the Father in Jesus name think about it the answer is because Jesus is the only person in heaven who knows how a human being feels he came to earth and became a human he was a minority hated as a Jewish person he was rejected he was criticized he was betrayed by his friends Judas and Peter he was falsely accused by the church in the state the church says is a heretic he's a drunkard he's the demonized teacher the state says he's an insurrectionist too dangerous to live he was physically abused he was beaten he was crucified he was murdered by the state although he was innocent so stop whining about no one understands me oh yes they do Jesus the Son of God he understands you talked to him about it he knows what you're going through thirdly communicate with love the Bible says Ephesians 4:15 speak the truth in love say that with me speak the truth say it one more time speak the truth in love nothing improves your wife hearing like the sound of praise proverbs 31:28 her husband rises up and he praises her husbands do you praise your wife well once twenty years ago you know maybe she could figure it out about wouldn't happy I'd tell her are you as courteous to your wife as your the next-door neighbor is it more natural for you to complain rather than to compliment you don't have the right to complain until you first compliment and all the ladies said all compliments should be public all complaints should be private very private the more truth you speak the more love you should convey truth dislike a two-edged sword be careful how you handle it when you're approaching your wife or your husband or someone else forcefully allow for reaction time remember you've had the advantage of thinking about what you're going to say how you're going to prepare your speech you've you've pondered it in your mind you've gotten his or her reactions you've said if he says this I'm going to say that if she says this I'll say that mentor to you rehearse it counterpoint point counterpoint point counterpoint any when they walk through the door booth you've taken him or her by surprise don't be at all surprised if they go and come back an hour later and said yeah no no no we're not doing that because he's now ahead of time to think about it don't say you promised finding out you bushwhacked him while ago you bushwhacked her while ago step 5 pray together and for each other the Bible says don't let the Sun go down on your wrath say that with me don't let the Sun go down on your wrath do you know how hard it is to pray for your spouse when you're truly angry with them hello share the details I thought about leaving this out of my sermon because of my wife I hate details about a conversation my wife wants details to the IMP degree how was your day it was wonderful what happened after you left the house who'd you talk to on the phone did they talk long were they happy were they man [Music] it's been estimated that in the 24-hour day the average woman has 30,000 words to use the average man speaks 10,000 words the man goes to work he uses his ten thousand words when he comes home in the evening he's out of words she's just warming up when you walk through the door [Applause] lastly communicate by listening the first duty of love is to listen say that with me the first duty of love is to listen God gave you one mouth in two ears the message listening is twice as important as talking listen to your children listen to this poem take a moment to listen today to watch your children are trying to say listen today whatever you do or they won't be there to listen to you listen to their problems listen to their needs praise their smallest triumphs praise their smallest deeds tolerate their chatter amplify their laughter find out what's the matter find out what they're after tell them that you love them every single night and though you scold them be sure you hold them tight and tell them everything's alright and tomorrow is looking bright take a moment to listen today to what your children are trying to say listen today whatever you do and they will come back to talk to you [Applause] can we stand together how many of you in this room can say pastor today there's not guilt communication in my life or in my marriage and I want it to be better and I'm willing to do what's necessary on my part to make it better if that describes you would you slip your hand up right where you are most of the people in this building right now those of you who are watching by television you can join us in this prayer because there's no distance to prayer no distance in prayer God can bring together that which is broken that which has been injured the words that separated you can bring you back together again pray this prayer with me Heavenly Father in the authority of Jesus name I ask you now to bring an environment of love into my home into that's so rich it's so pure so strong that I can speak to my wife I can speak to my wife can speak to me and that we can speak to our children we can speak and we can speak to those that we love with absolutely with total forgiveness with moral and spiritual strength from this day forward I'm going to let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to you O Lord my God my king and my Redeemer give the Lord a shout of praise at the house of God [Music] when you open your mouth and speak in faith believing God's miracle working power explodes bringing about a new beginning biblical proclamation is a supernatural power that's available to every believer Thank You legacy partners for helping us take these truths to all the world stay tuned pastor Hagee has a blessing just for you for over 30 years our mission has been all the gospel to all the world and to all generations looking to the future we see a generation that needs this message more than ever vision 2020 is an initiative to equip Hagee 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you are a child of God that you are victorious that your tomorrows are without limit that you have the grace of God that forgives your past and the anointing of Heaven to go forward into the future may your life be filled with this unexplainable peace because Jesus Christ is Lord over every crisis and over every dimension of your life receive this blessing in the authority of Jesus name Amen and amen [Music]

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Published: Sun Feb 16 2020