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[Music] people say you can't change your career at 30 that's when you're meant to be settling down you can't change your career at 35 you should have had it figured out by then oh my god you're not married at 38 what the hell are you doing with your life who comes up with this stuff I have no idea but this stuff played so many people that I speak to so many people open up to me and say Jay I just don't know how to change is it possible what do you think this guy was before he became who he is he's to be a PE teacher right sports teacher at a high school how about her she was a telemarketer for two weeks how about her she applied to be a funeral director it's incredible what happens in societies that were clouded by the noise the noise of family expectations the noise of our parents the noise of our brothers and sisters expectations I grew up in a family where you could either be a doctor a lawyer or a failure right those are my three options anything else would just count me as a failure I would have felt so basically I felt right I'm standing up here in front of you all as a failure I lived as a monk for three years I committed career suicide I turned down two amazing corporate job offers when I graduated from business school I shaved my hair I wore robes and lived out the gym locker for three years and I did that because I thought I was going to do something meaningful helping back the world and it was one of the best experiences of my life but more than becoming a monk one that trained me to do was drop out of the rules people told me if you come back in three years you never get a job they told me if you become among people gonna think you're weird forever no girls ever gonna talk to you people told me they were they were like well when you come back to real life like will you even be able to talk English that people just really weird it out right okay I think monks speak English and there was so much different noise that I was hearing when I made that decision and the funny thing is from having not been for four years now I'm in one of the most incredible periods of my life that I can ever imagine and so much of that is based on the fact that I decided to do something different so many of the times our expectations are driving us in a certain scenario we focus so much on life in what we want to be as opposed to who we want because we've always been told that life and jobs and careers are like boxes and containers there's only a finite number of options there is no formula there is no pattern do you know what you're passionate about if you know what you're good at and you invest in that people say follow your passions I say forget that invest in your passion if you're passionate about something go and become the best that I go into a course on it go and learn from the best go and find a mentor who's gonna make you incredible at that trade not only will you be criticized and grow you'll be able to find new things about yourself that you never knew don't trade who you are for who you think the world needs because the world needs you to be you and I mean I was a 19 year old kid and I was miserable I was in love with my high school sweetheart we were that couple that was really annoying so we went to school together we signed up for classes together we shared a u-haul on the way to school together we lived in the same dorm together we walked to class we walked to breakfast in the morning and walk the class thing I mean we were just joined at the hip and we were completely crazy and pachu ated in love and then halfway through the first year of college she discovered beer and other boys on the same night and she cheated I completely fell apart I stopped going to class I barely ate anything certainly nothing healthy I stopped studying I just stopped caring about the world literally couldn't get out of it and I never thought about until years later at weeding changed my life because I was still reading there's one thing that's brought me through everything and I happen to pick up the school newspaper and I opened it up and there was this full-page ad it was this perfect white sandy beach turquoise water big green palm tree and across the top of the ad it said escape students needed for summertime jobs in the Dominican Republic so I escaped I went down there and one night my friend Kevin and I we hopped into a car after dropping off a client so we're going down this road 85 miles an hour in this car and the windows were open and that air was coming in that amazing humid if you've been in the Caribbean that just gorgeous amazing humid air is coming in and then we came upon a corner we take that corner 85 miles an hour in that corner became the turning point to put my feet on this stage for you today Kevin grabs the wheel he goes hold on and I brace and the car starts sliding sideways and that weird slow motion thing happens Kevin's gripping the wheel trying to make the corner and all sudden smack when I came to I looked over and Kevin is screaming the top of his lungs kiai car burn the key on the car and I look over and a whole big chunk of his head is open so I pull myself out of the windshield this car and he's screaming over here and I stand up eventually on the hood of the car and I look and I know it's all this blood on me and I remember just looking down and that slow motion things happening I just thought did I even matter I start seeing all these images of my life when I'm surrounded by people that I care for there's a cake in front of me here's my friends singing my mom leading him and that goofy saw there's my sister just swinging and smiling right next to me and it makes you wonder did I love did I love openly and honestly and completely or did I hold back is that one time I got hurt and just I was about to pass out I notice a glint like a sparkle some shiny a reflection in the blood going off the hood the car and it made me look up and there was this bright big beautiful moon that night and I just immediately felt this connection if like I knew I was gonna be okay and I felt like the big guy upstairs reach down to me and handed me life's golden ticket he reached down said here you go kid you're still alive you can still love and matter but now you know the clock is ticking mortality motivation I got is a 19 year old kid people say why you so successful Mike I got mortality motivation when I was 19 that's a blessing most people don't get that till they're 60 don't worry Kevin and I we both survived see I'm still here yeah it's okay I made it but the one thing that I took away from that entire thing was that moment and those questions because I remembered them and I thought about them as I was healing us like what was that about why did I feel so unhappy with that moment cuz I thought you know in the last moments of life there must be this transcendence and I was not happy and I realized it was because of how I'd been living my life and I wasn't living to my questions I knew I got those questions did I live did I love did I matter as soon as I got those were the questions I'm gonna evaluate myself with at the end of the life it gave me the power of what my late mentor Wayne Dyer taught the power of intention that breath you just took feel it what a blessing that is you got that life what a blessing is you got that breath that means you still got something inside you got to work for it you got to contribute for it you got to give for it you got a lead for it you got a love for it because you still have something not just in you you're still here for a reason and now you just got to earn that blessing Noor my parents biggest frustration was that I was epically lazy and if they handed out gold medals for being lazy I would have won I assure you hands down because even though I was a slightly chubby kid growing up in a morbidly obese family in Tacoma Washington I always knew two things about myself one day I was gonna be rich and I was gonna have six-pack abs like those are the two things is that kid that was you know jiggling his belly thinking one day I'm not gonna have to suck in my gut when I left for college my own mother who'd always been my biggest cheerleader quietly assumed I was going to fail for these two guys that were successful entrepreneurs and bodybuilders happened to walk into a class when I was a teacher and they were just starting a technology startup and they said hey we need a copywriter why don't you come be a copywriter and so I was just young enough and just dumb enough and I went all-in they literally put me in the room with all the computer servers but starting from there I knew I could wow people because I was willing to grind it out and we all have a superpower and my superpower may be the willingness and ability to endure suffering I had suffered a lot I hadn't taken a day off in like six and a half years because I was so hell-bent to get rich and then I realized almost eight and a half years in I had finally had enough I had hit my breaking point from suffering and I got so mad and I was so unwilling to do it anymore and I turned to my partners and I say I'm completely miserable I quit I realized the reason I was living the cliche of money can't buy happiness along the way had become so myopically focused on this promise I had made my to myself as a kid that I never stopped to ask why do I want to get rich the questions you ask yourself will determine the course of your life I had been asking myself what do I need to do to get rich and it left me really unhappy so I changed the question and I started asking what would I do and love every day even if I were failing life is too short this is your one go-round so what are we gonna do we're gonna build a company that's predicated on value we're gonna build a company that's predicated on passion I started thinking about my mom and my sister but they were profoundly overweight I started thinking about my uncle who ate himself to death when I was 12 years old and how much that scared me and it made me sad and it made me sad to see that there were millions if not more than a billion people that were in the same kind of abusive relationship with food that my mom and my sister were so I said I don't know if it's a big business but I know it's a big problem and that's the problem that we're gonna solve and so we decided to build a totally new kind of company we started quest nutrition in 2010 just as we were coming out of the Great Recession I was wearing a hairnet and a lab coat every day and my employees were former gang members ex drug dealers felons we were in Compton and we literally told everybody in the neighborhood I don't care if you've been convicted of a crime I just want to know if you're willing to bust your ass to change your life and if you are you're gonna get an interview and I'm not gonna ask for your resume I don't care about your resume your resume tells me where you've been it doesn't tell me the price you're willing to pay to become somebody new every belief that you have is a choice I choose to believe that human potential is nearly limitless and this was the belief that changed my life because once I realized so it's not about who you are today it's about who you want to come and the price you're willing to pay to get there and a promise e the day that you're willing to pay any price you'll achieve what you want to achieve if you truly believe that human potential is limitless what do you want to become and what price are you willing to pay to get there gives you better sex increases your good cholesterol gives you more friends gives you more meaning engagement life satisfaction and happiness if you have a Purpose Driven Life it adds years to your life you live longer let me share two stories with you Story number one we're interviewing one of those schoolteachers she says the first year I taught was heaven the second year I taught was hell I had five boys that second year and they were incorrigible and there was one kid in particular he was impossible one day this kids in the doorway of the classroom and he's kicking and moving his arms and making noises and I lost it he's she said I'm shamed to say these words but I walked towards that kid with the intention of kicking him thank heavens he got up and ran away I kept walking I went to the principal's office I said this is it it's him or me and the principal took the kid ale she said I felt terrible so I went to to my colleagues and poured my heart up and they said to me you are not the key to every door and as she sent those words she burst into tears in the invar and we waited a long time and then she looked up and said I hated that those words you can't be the key to every door she said so I decided to become the key to every door instead of pushing disruptive kids away I began to seek them out I began bringing them into my world I read every book I could find I kept notes I ran experiments I kept notes on the experiments and then she kind of pulled herself up and said today I am the key to every door when there's a disruptive troubled kid in school is give her to me so Assoc seems to know what to do with them that's a profoundly important story it's a story of transformative learning when I have a higher purpose I find the energy and the courage to go outside my comfort zone now the second story's a lot closer to home I once had a daughter she was single she was living in Washington DC she had reached that point in life where she said there's none not a good man left on the earth and then she found one and she got really excited relationship grew and then one day our phone rang she's talking to a mother and I know what's going on this guy just dumped her this daughter's the firstborn child many firstborn children share a common characteristic if they're miserable they want you to be miserable too and she said I'm coming home this weekend no her mother hangs up and says you're the father you go to the airport and pick her up oh so the next day I go pick her up she gets in the car and she doesn't say hello how are you she says that no-good dirty Don about five minutes later she takes a breath and I say you problem solving a purpose finding we're finally pulling in the driveway she takes another breath I say it again she said what are you talking about and she said this is the real world I said boy they get a taste of the real world right then we're in the house I pull out a sheet of paper out of my file and it says Robert Quinn life state she looks at it and then she grows quite a quiet and she looks up and says when you feel bad you read this I said no when I feel bad I rewrite it's been rewritten hundreds of times yeah I can hardly understand some of this stuff he said yeah it's written to a custom heights audience one person then the first miracle happened she said do you think I could write one of these I said I'm sure you can she went in the bedroom for a day and a half she worked on her life statement the miracle was I did not have to suffer she cut on the plane she flew home to DC a couple days pass I get an email she he called me all this will be interesting and she says so I wrote him this letter and I'm reading this letter that she's attached it's incredibly vulnerable hope honest and then at the bottom it says and my roommate said I can't give this down now that's an interesting thing why can't we give this letter to this guy you don't tell some guy that talked to you that you know like here's how you feel and then she said what my roommates don't understand is that what he thinks doesn't matter whoa wait a minute a few days ago what he thought caused her life to shatter now she's saying what he thinks doesn't matter she's saying this is who I really am didn't know this a while ago now I know it it doesn't matter what other people think you see when you clarify your purpose you take back your external locus of control where you worry about what other people think and you take it in turn focus you don't become insensitive you don't become rebellious you become sin you become power now here's the interesting thing in the next few months she began to be promoted her career turn why this was a dating breakup why is her career taking off because when you find purpose and meaning and what you're doing in one area of your life it grows in every area of life because you are one person that company had a woman coming in with the same dresses on body looked the same but it wasn't the same employee this was a woman now full of leadership for the first time when someone has that meaning and that integrity things start to change the research says when you give up self-interested goals where most of us are mostly done and you take on contributed goals you function differently the biology changes the thought processes learning accelerates you grow more the only thing that I'm left to conclude is you and I are designed to P be purpose seeking mechanisms you've been shaped by life you've had bad experiences and good experiences and both the bad experiences and the good experiences are there to teach you something about you and if you look very carefully at those you can determine what your purpose is every person in this room can clarify the purpose of their life become the key to every door [Music] mic scream grenade out and jump down and boom two snipers were providing overwatch for the other platoon that were trying to maneuver and unbeknownst to Mike and those guys an insurgent had seen where they were firing had snuck up next to the side of that building pulled out a hand grenade pull it and threw it up and that thing came right up boom and hit Mike on the chest Petty Officer Mike Monsour took the entirety of that blast in his face in his chest he lasted for another 35 minutes before he passed away on the medevac bird out the kicker of this story is there was a stairwell right next to mine right next to him and all he had to do is jump down that stairwell to save his own life but he didn't he turned and jumped on the grenade sacrificing himself so his two brothers could both go home and hug their wives kiss their children and fight another day once you think to yourself what would you do for 70 years United States Navy SEAL team we've been pushing the envelope we've been setting the bar we've been setting the standard for what the team life is and how you should live are you really committed to yourself physically because we all know when the going gets tough the more in shape the more focus you are and what you eat and what you consume the better you are I spent 15 months in the frigid waters of the Pacific Ocean to the mountains of Afghanistan on seven different occasions and to the shores of Haiti doing missionary work with my church and what I've learned in this incredible journey are a few undeniable truths about what enables us to succeed now truth number one is you got fear in your heart always and you can't defeat it everybody's like well that's a bummer the problem is ladies and gentlemen is you're wired for fear right part of our life we have it in what we do for a living right you talk about fear in your lives and your personalized with your family folks we've got fear period so what you have to learn to do is embrace it truth one the second one is self-confidence is huge it's important and you got to forge it every single day the third one is you got to live with purpose if you don't have purpose in your life you don't have momentum you don't have anything driving you forward anything pulling you out of bed every single day and the last one and the one I learned that left an indelible mark not only in my heart but in my soul on those beaches across the street the street over there there's nobody does it alone there's not a single person in this whole room right now that can raise their hand and say you know what right I've done it by myself not a single person out there has helped me not a one we all need help so as a result of that you have to recognize that you have to live what I call to you you have to be 100% focus that everything you think about everything you do is with someone else as with a team amen right we've been giving everything we are to our communities to our families to our children but more importantly we're willing to give everything we are and potentially everything we will ever be for the man that's next to it this is the team life this is what my mission here is today is to help you understand this standard to help you redefine your understanding of what that mission might look like for you are you working on are you working on it right now did you work on it today are you gonna go work on it tonight because I tell you what those three things you're on the road commitment I've worked with every kind of person there is on this planet we all bleed bread what I care about is there's something that gets you out of bed every morning there's something that you have faith in that's bigger than yourself there's something that you're willing to sacrifice for another human being that's powerful

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Length: 24min 42sec (1482 seconds)

Published: Sun Apr 19 2020