The number one reason why your toxic partner discarded you | The Narcissists' Code Ep 762

what is going on beautiful people welcome to another episode of The Narcissist code I'm your favorite self-aware narcissist Mr Lee hammock better known as mental illness across all social media platforms this your first time to see my face I hear my voice I'm a clinically diagnosed narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise awareness for NPD get more people into therapy and also validate the victims survivors and thrivers ah upset disorder said toxic people say toxic traits today's episode is going to be about the number one reason why narcissists discard you the number one reason why narcissistic people discard you from the perspective of a diagnosed narcissist then this is my own perspective my own reasoning this is not like this is my from my point of view before what happened to today's episode make sure you hop over to Amazon check out my self-love Journal Lee hammock self-love Journal I love me um it's available on Amazon right now and whatnot so let's hop into today's episode so for me in my own mind and from what I've studied what I saw before um and it just in my own life the number one reason that narcissists that people discard you is because whatever Supply they get from you Runs Out has run has run out has run its course you know what I'm saying and there's a few different ways that they can run its course like I said it's just whatever Supply that they get from you it just it just it's just exhausted it no longer it it exists but it's no longer in you know in full flow like it used to be like you know how like let's just say like a boy you know how you got a water hose on like they say you turn the water hose on right and the water holes the the line is laid straight forward like the water hoses lays flat on the ground straight forward you know from the spigot to the uh to the end of the hose you turn it on the water flows freely and so that water is Flowing freely is the Supply right it's the supply that they get from you whatever whatever the supply is it could be uh sexual Supply it could be Financial Supply it could be emotional Supply it could be whatever Supply that they're getting from you it could be cheating Supply it could be just just not being alone to supply whatever Supply that they're getting from you the family Supply the personal uh the Personal Image Supply whatever Supply that they feel like they're getting from you they are going to you know whatever somebody feel like they're getting from you they're going and if it gets cut off or there's it slows down this is the hose right here y'all so the as long as it's flowing freely they will have you they'll they will keep you around in their life in whatever capacity that they have you right now you know as long as their their supply is Flowing freely they will it will have you going through there through that right there but so just imagine that hose gets a kink in it you know what I mean so now the hose isn't laid flat out right so now it has a kink in it so now you can see you can noticeably see the water start flowing little slowly the water that's coming out the end of the hose is Flowing a little slowly now you see what I'm saying to whatever Supply they got something has gotten in the way either uh or there's a blockage in the hose it could be laid flat out but now there's a blockage in the hose like there's a rock or some dirt now that's in the hose or in the system right now and whatnot so that happens that that can happen as well you know so you see this Dynamic so now the flow has happened and however this flow has stopped or shut off or or just diminished it could be the perfect image that they had of you has shattered the Love by me phase has ended and whatever it could be some emotional Supply that they were getting from you but now the emotional supply is cut off because they don't view you in The Perfect Image anymore because you are a flawed human being and that's just not me talking crap about you we are all flawed human beings nobody is perfect y'all nobody no human being on this planet right now currently is perfect I know y'all gonna say well I'm as close to perfect if you're saying I'm as close to perfect as possible as I can be I mean if you just say I'm as close to perfect as a human can be well you might need to uh take a look at myself a word narcissist Sundays uh series because you might be a little on a nursing Spectrum rather I'm just just joking but seriously that's the number that's one of the main reasons right there y'all it could be that whatever it could be the perfect image they have for you has shattered they're like they just don't if they don't view you in the same light anymore and that's not your fault right there you mean because they don't view you in the same light it's not your fault you know and I just I tell the people all the time just because they don't view you in the same light it's not your fault like whatever happens like you're not a perfect person like doing any Love by me face the narcissistic person look it creates this perfect image of you in our heads so it's our fault that we pray this perfect image of you so once it shatters and once your flaw is revealed the flow stops it could be Financial Supply it could be like I said well it could have slowed the hose up it's a financial Supply you cut them off financially or they they were supporting you financially and they whatever happens y'all Financial Supply it could be money whatever the money supply is they if they if you cut the money off especially if you got one of these bum narcissistic people out here you cut the money off you cut them off you see what I'm saying the hoes the the spigot the water is not flowing as freely anymore you see what I'm saying whatever it is could be sexual Supply so y'all not y'all not clapping cheeks no more the flow has stopped whatever Supply that they are getting from you has either wouldn't has either slowed down to a damn halt or slowed down to a slow drip or or or it's completely cut off the supply has been cut off you know it could be the supply of being able to be in control of you you see what I'm saying and all all of those things following the umbrella of Supply so for me to me you know so if they can't if you start setting boundaries and you and they can't control you as much as they used to guess what why would they be with you you know what I'm saying if they can't control you like they used to they might not want to be with you anymore you know what I mean if they cannot control you like they used to they very well um okay I can't control this person I'm out of control they got boundary set they don't look at me the same way anymore if they don't respond I can't trigger them you know I can't trigger them anymore on purpose they're not reacting to my abuse the way they used to they're not reacting to my control that they used to they're not giving they're not blowing up and screaming and yelling and cussing with the same combination that if I do the same combination of things that I used to do that right there is it the supply has now run out if the same combination of things that used to set you off no longer set you off then the narcissistic person very well might um just discard you like within Supply whatever Supply they're getting from you once that runs low or runs out or they have to put too much energy into getting that from you then then then they more more than likely will discard you so when I say discard I know if a lot of people are new to my channel so when I say discard um what I mean is like a lot of people get discard everybody everybody gets emotionally discarded right they disconnect from everybody emotionally at some point or another but not everybody gets physically discarded when I say discarded I don't mean that they will physically break up with you or get rid of you or move on to the next person that doesn't always happen but they will all almost always emotionally discard you or get rid of you or something along those lines you know that that's just kind of part of the the dynamic that exists when you're dealing with a narcissist or a toxic person they will almost it definitely emotionally discards you and over before we cut the video short I know people are going to ask him so Lee is there any way that we can we can unkink the hose or Supply if there's any way we can unclog the line on Supply you can start back giving them what they want or what they were asking for but they won't view it the same way anymore it won't it won't be as you know once you know how cold that FR you know once the first water that comes out the hose when you turn the hose on how cold and fresh it is I don't know y'all I don't know how old you are we used to drink out the hoes um back in the uh early 90s we used to drink out the water hose you know that when you first turn the hose on their first bit of water they hit you how cold and fresh it is dead happens right there you see what I'm saying how cold and fresh that that first bit of water is that's how the supply is like it won't be the same after that once you let the host flow for a little while the water gets kind of getting it kind of gets warmer and whatever it's not as cool as it used to be and whatnot you know so that happens right there so you might not ever be able to get back that whatever Supply that you're getting lady kettle on maybe he's going to scratch you okay he's gonna scratch you whatever Supply that they're getting from you or whatever it won't be the same anymore so you can start like if you cut the money off or you cut this you cut the sleep you cut the sleeping with them off you cut the financial off you I mean I said Financial if you cut the the love off the emotional connection whatever if you cut it off they think that you can cut it off they think that it can be turned off at any time so they won't trust it again yeah will they come back to you sometimes yeah they might come back to you but it doesn't it won't last you know what I'm saying because it's not like it used to be which happens a lot of times in these toxic relationship spaces it's just not likely it's just not how it used to be you know what I mean so some people want to just figure out how to turn the supply back on because y'all love them so much and I understand that Dynamic y'all understand the space well hold up Lee there you go we we were rocking we were rocking with you until you said you understood love you demonic Jezebel spirit you do not understand love you robotic you robotic meat sack you don't understand hately you don't understand hate let me beat y'all to the comment section before y'all start saying that type of stuff y'all um before y'all say that before y'all start saying that type of things because I know I know it yeah it always comes it almost always goes but yeah that's to me y'all that's the number one reason the narcissists that people discard you whatever Supply that they're getting from you is shut off or you know it's shut off or it's really really low because that happens so yeah that just happens so much because that person if you turn it off and turn it back on they can't trust it you see what I'm saying it's not gonna be as cold as it used to be in this and it's that it's in this Dynamic and whatnot you know so this happens quite a bit what's up man all right good job thank you good job um but that happens a lot y'all so I asked my kids my wife is if y'all don't know my wife had a surgery the other day so she's uh on demand at her friend's house and you know she's a stay-at-home mom so she they told her she can't pick up my daughter so she can't be here with my daughter my daughter is she's a pick up pick up princess you want to be picked up all the time so wife is healing she's on the man so I got the kids and they sick and coughing and my empathy is being tested I love my kids um but seriously yeah but I'm gonna cut this thing short y'all like I said whatever Supply that they get from you is cut off that's one of them that's probably in my mind that's the main reason that a lot of narcissistic people discard you and get rid of you that's just the way it is y'all anyway y'all if you haven't hopped on Amazon get the self-love Journal check it out check it out check it out um also check out joining the joining the channel memberships um it has new new perks and stuff like that I'm adding here come in the upcoming weeks um the join button is on the front page of every channel if you're watching this on if you listen to this on Apple Apple Spotify or my in podcast form you just hear my voice uh subscribe to my um give me a five star rating if you haven't already if it's possible here in that five star rating or subscribe to the Spotify like And subscribe for more as always peace

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Length: 11min 43sec (703 seconds)

Published: Mon Jun 12 2023