The MAJOR KEY That TRIPLED My Income & Helped Me BREAK FREE From The "Hustle Mentality" 🤯

one of the key ingredients to success is therapy I gotta start operating like I'm already married if I start thinking about 10 Generations down if I start thinking about five generations down that's how the black wealth can change that's how the black family the black communities will change if I'm a good Steward over the generations coming behind me when was the last time you looked in the mirror and you looked at yourself in the soul and you said hey you have to get better at this now before we hop into Today's Show be sure to like comment and subscribe now let's jump into the video if [Music] if you've been listening to me for a while you hear me say that a caliber of your future will be determined by the choices that you made today and I would say about five years ago I made a choice that impacted my life in a way that I didn't know was going to impact down the road about five years ago I made a decision to jump off of social media and to really unplug from the world for the first my wolf like the last two or three weeks in December at the time I was at a particular location it's where I couldn't really do exactly what I wanted to do because I had other people that I had to report to so I think until like two weeks off and then I would take then I realized that hey why do that at the end of the year Why not start off your birth year um one giving back to God unplugging and just really recalibrating yourself so I started doing that in July I was born July 1st 1984 and so July 1st of every year when I was working I would take off the first two years and then when I transitioned when I transitioned from working to now being on my own I was sitting down with one of my mentors and he was talking about Anthony one of the greatest things that he has ever done for one himself and two for his family was he took 30 days off and inside of those 30 days um he would spend a lot of time with his wife he'll spend a lot of time with his kids but then he will also spend a lot of time with just himself and for himself he would spend about a week in isolation to where there's no music there's no sex he's a married man there's nothing that is unclean he will only eat certain things and he recommended to me to do like a silent Retreat and I remember I did a silent Retreat for like one day like okay I went from like 8 A.M to 8pm with Noah with no activities no music no cell phones no nothing and I gotta say I was like man the first few hours is a little difficult because let's be real how many of us have actually woken up and we've turned over and the very first thing we do is we go to Instagram we go to Facebook we go to tick tock we go to social media but we don't go to God we we don't go to our spouses we we don't go to things that fulfill us things that that that fills us up to start our day off productively we go to the world and we consume the world and we wonder why our days start a certain kind of way and he was like he was like man I would highly suggest Anthony that you do that you take a whole month off last year I tried it struggled a little bit was still working but still emailing my team we're still talking to my team and so this year I literally told myself and my team in January hey I am going to do 30 days off I'm going to take away and you all are going to take off at least two two and a half weeks and I gotta say y'all I didn't call them for two two and a half weeks then talk to them not one time um because I wanted to honor them and their families in their time off but I'm gonna be vulnerable in today's show and talk about why I did it I did it because I started feeling depressed in certain areas I did it because I started feeling the anxiety in certain areas of my life I did it because I started feeling the competition spirit in certain areas I did it because I was so consumed right with with with with things on the outside that was impacting me internally that was then coming out of me that I started noticing like yo I don't really like this and if I don't get this under control if I don't see what is the core of this of this then this is not going to be good this is not going to be healthy this is not going to be watching me moving forward I have a whole business I have people on my team who are depending on me and my brand and my healthiness and if I'm not healthy they're not going to want to work here if I made bad decisions um it could impact them and their families and their Futures and I said yo you're going to spend this 30 days and you're really going to just step away see your family and you're going to isolate yourself and you're going to literally sit there and you're going to get canceled and y'all I want to start off Today's Show by saying this show is really going to be about mental health and the things that I've learned regarding to myself that I believe because I did this for 30 days because when I went to my silent retreat the only people I could talk to was the Pastoral Minister that morning and then my therapist threw better help that afternoon y'all feel so refreshed like I'm excited about the year 39 going into my year 40. and I want to thank today's sponsors of this show because I didn't want to add nobody else to this show I didn't want to have any of the brand deals on here I didn't want to do nothing else because I really I told my team say hey man I really want to just talk about what I learned how God impacted me how I left some things at the silent Retreat that I learned about myself that I did not like things that my my the Pastoral staff was helping me understand from a spiritual perspective and then things my therapist through better help was helping me understand just how I'm I'm processing things and on the last day I got with my emotional coach that really really helped me to understand why I'm feeling certain things today is about how our mental health is impacting our wealth building how mental health is impacting our career advancements how mental health is impacting our relationships whether that is romantic whether that is plutonic or whether that is business I have really learned that everything around it surrounding My Life starts up here it literally starts in our minds and if we really want to be wealthy if we really want to get out of debt if we really want to be married if we really want to have better marriages better and healthier relationships if we really want to accomplish the things that we know we're supposed to accomplish it starts here and I'm going to encourage you today by the end of the show as I'm being real vulnerable things about myself that I've that I've learned about myself that that I'm going to be progressing to into the future if you have been nervous if you have not really taken therapy seriously you need to check out therapy and I've partnered with an amazing group called better help who who who I believe is one of the best out there when it comes to pricing when it comes to cost and when it comes to therapists all you got to do is go to anthonyoneal.com forward slash betterhelp uh it should be somewhere up on the screen or you can definitely find it in the show notes if you're listening to this on um podcast uh because I really want to make sure that you get the help that you get the things that you need up here fixed and done because if you don't get this fixed you're not going to be the man you're not going to be the woman that you really want to be they're not going to accomplish the things that you want to accomplish quick pause from today's show you see life is a roller coaster of highs and lows you see when we're sewing we're on top of the world when we're winning it feels like we can conquer and challenge anything that comes our way like we could win but let's be honest we're going through tough times and we're navigating through a storm it can be overwhelming it can be depressive and it could be hindering our ability to be the best version of ourselves you see over the last two three years I've learned the transformative power of therapy you see collaborating with a therapist can equip you and I with the insights and strategies to empower ourselves helping us to face life hurdles with Newfound confidence and power behind us I want you to consider therapy and while you're considering therapy I want you to consider my friends over at better help a top tier online therapy platform known for its accessibility adaptability and affordability I call it a Three A's you see by filling out a concise questionnaire you will be connected with a licensed therapist who resonates with your unique needs the key word there was your unique needs moreover the flexibility of changing a therapist if it's not working out for you is easy with better help and you can do this at any time because we want you to find the best therapist that's going to help you progress and move forward in life investing in our mental health is a step towards a more enriching life investing into therapy is a step towards you Building long-lasting Wealth and to facilitate this you can get 10 off your first month by visiting Anthony o'neal.com forward slash therapy again that is anthonyoneal.com forward slash therapy or you can click the link in today's show notes but the key thing here before we get back to Today's Show start your journey towards self-empowerment today and let's together resume our path to personal growth let's get back to you what did I learn over the last 30 days what what what impacted me over the last 30 days especially during that three day of isolation and three days of Silent retreat here's number one that I learned I said verbally that I desired to grow a company that is going to impact the world but it never really sat down and literally wrote out the plans on how my company was going to impact the world we've all said man I want to do this I want to do that I want to do this and I wrote little things here but I never really sat down and strategically wrote out the plan what are we going to do how are we going to do it when are we going to do that and as I was sitting back I was also even reading I was reading um a book uh what is it called um I'll even put this book in there hold on I got an audible because I started listening to it on Audible and hold on let me go back to my books no it is called uh family wealth family family wealth see how it's it's trying to play uh family wealth keeping the wealth inside of the family and it is a phenomenal book and as I was listening to that book uh the they studied families who've passed down generational wealth past 10 Generations I'm gonna say it one more time this book study families that passed down wealth 10 Generations 10 Generations not one generation not two generations I'm talking about I want to put this in a picture for you it's me going back to my great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great great grandfather that's that's 10 Generations like I know who my teeth grandfather was before my time and that what they learned was the reason why the main reason why they were able to pass down that much wealth is because they had a strategy from the very beginning on what to do they wrote it all down they didn't write down just a goal and a vision and said hey I want my children to pass this down to their children what are we going to do what are we going to do by the time I'm sick I wouldn't have this by the time I'm this age I want to have this by the time um I am at this season in my life I want to be here okay if you're how are we going to get there how are we going to get there how are we gonna get there and they wrote it all down and here I am the goddess teaching you all how to be wealthy how to get out of debt I'm teaching you the steps on how to get out of debt but I really have not sat down about myself and thought about okay when I turn 80 when I turn 90 when I get to this season this is where I want to be at and I want to go backwards I had to literally write it down literally I had to write it down and I felt so bad because I was like man God like I'm teaching everyone else how to write down their Vision I got my vision but I haven't gone that far I mean I got my estate plan I thought I was good but God said but that's good what are you working towards where are you going well what are you doing you don't bought the cars you don't got the real nice house what is the strategy for when you're 90 not just the money wise but what are you passing down what is the what is the plan that you're passing down to your kids and I'm like well God I ain't got no kids he said that's the problem you're only good he said you you're not really you're thinking about your kids when it comes to money but you're not thinking about your kids when it comes to knowledge and wisdom yeah you you're leaving them in the same plan yeah you got some money to set aside but the reason why in this book The Generation went 10 years is because they passed down way more than wisdom they passed down intellect they had a strategy from the very beginning and so one thing that I learned while I was in isolation while I was in therapy while I was talking to the pastor while I was talking to my emotional coach while I was talking to myself was that Anthony I got to start operating like I'm already married I got to start operating and thinking about my great great great great great great great great great great great great great great grandchildren if I start thinking about 10 Generations down if I start thinking about five generations down that's how the black wealth can change that's how the black family the black communities will change if I'm a good Steward over the generations coming behind me so I'm literally while I was um when I finished one of my therapy sessions with my better help therapist I literally went back and I started writing down notes to my children and to my grandchildren and to my great great hope I'm saying this right what's my my children's children is what my great great yep that's my grade that's my grade so I'm already writing notes to my great children and watch this I gotta go back to my state planner my state attorney said listen I want to specifically leave something to my great grandchildren then I want to specifically live some leave something to my great great grandchildren and what am I leaving them not just money but I'm leaving them a letter I'm leaving them a strategy I'm leaving them the plan I was in therapy and I broke down crying and this is why I really love therapy because they help you understand what I'm playing this good therapists help you understand why you're thinking and what you're thinking they don't tell you you're thinking wrong they don't tell you that you're thinking right what they try to do is have you answer your own question by helping you understand why you're thinking the way you're thinking and one of the reasons why I never really took that where why I never really went there is because I don't want to think about dying I I don't want to it took me I cannot be real and honest and vulnerable with you um um it took me about three months to complete my estate plan because every time I open up that estate questionnaire I was crying I was emotional I'm sitting there thinking my God am I about to die is this why is this heavy on my spirit and I'm like no no this is what you got to do hell I'm right for me I'm like man I don't have no kids I don't have no wife I don't have no I don't have nothing like and I broke down and in therapy she really helped me understand why I wasn't really thinking like that it was because I had already did this day planning and I don't want to think about death anymore but that is the most selfish thing I can do you can do that is the most self-esteem is because what we're doing is what we're saying is kids I don't love you enough to think about you when I'm going great grandchildren I don't love you enough because I don't know who you are I probably will never meet you and when I broke down in therapy I was like yo Anthony you're still a little selfish a little bit I got that stay plan but I wasn't thinking about the people in my family I would never have the opportunity to meet I wasn't thinking about what what Legacy do you really want to leave but what the great great grandchildren that they would never meet you physically are you thinking about them now I'm I'm I'm I'm journaling I'm writing down my mistakes and what I learned from my mistakes I'm gonna pass that down I want my kids to read it I want my kids to take that journal watch this write down their mistakes what did you learn from those mistakes take this and pass it down by the time it gets to that fifth generation they're learning from me my wife my wife and our kids they're learning from all of our mistakes what they learn from it how they maneuver from it that is going to help them build more wealth that is going to even help them get through marriages that's going to help them build healthy relationship that is going to help them Advance their careers that is going to help them do so much more and inside of that journal I wrote one of the key ingredients to success is therapy it is so important to me that everyone on the neatness Network all over the the other podcasts and shows they get three free sessions of therapy everyone on my staff and on my team they get one free every single month as long as they own the team because here's what I've learned if you're not really addressing the issues of what you feel internally then then you have a problem and for me I'll be real with you that last year the last two years have been the hardest years of my life because I still got to show up one and be a leader of my company two I gotta be a personality that is attacked every single day on on some type of Channel blog or YouTube video or Instagram I'm called I've been called more than I can even count by some of these racist white people I've been called a sellout from black people I've had videos tell me where Anthony came from over here and he's switching he's a seller he's trying to do this like I got people who ain't never met me got all these opinions about me and I see it and I'm like yo I need help watch this I don't need just prayer I go to church I go to the baddest Church in the world but I've also learned that prayer is the the first start practicalness is next God gave that therapist the skills the anointing and the talent to help us with this body with this mind y'all see everyone on social media the nice houses the nice cars and and man let me tell you right now people in my shoes are some of the most depressed some of the most hurtful uh some of the most insecure people on this planet even if they are driving a Lamborghini even if they are living in a three million dollar house they still going home crime you know how many times I don't cried in this house you know how many times I don't cried like God what did I do what I don't deserve this I love people this person's saying it's about me this person's saying not about me can I be real with you do you know how many times I've cried even after I prayed you know how many times I'm broke down I said well God bro what what God I'm speaking in tongues that's why I took off 30 days what is one takeaway from this from this from this time today we want to have very first thing that I've learned that I would do forever I will always take time off from you from people always because if I don't take care of this I think I'll give the enemy the room to say stuff and to put stuff in my mind that is not healthy and I refuse to be to have success I refuse to build the kingdom I refuse to help you all get out of debt and to build your own table and I'm home depressed and miserable because I refuse to take time off for myself what is the very first thing that I really want you all to learn from Today's Show number one take some time off get the heck off of Instagram Tick Tock social media and get away step away and really start thinking and sewing into your mind sewing into your personal health and get therapy get therapy I've grown so much man while I was away I I realized that Anthony I do desire marriage but there there were still some things inside of me that was not healthy for marriage that I had to get rid of a desire um a bigger company but there are some things inside of me as a leader that I got to get better if I'm gonna bring home more people then I got to elevate as a leader I and I've said this before and I'm gonna get into the next thing that I've learned while while I was in therapy is that the greatest enemy to Our Success is our excuse and I think the greatest enemy to you all being successful all of us being successful is all the lame and a dag on excuses we make up I hear so many excuses from people and I've learned to just shut up these in these days and time I've told so many people hey man you need to do a budget hey man you need to go see a CPA hey man you need to go get your taxes done hey man you need to go do this hey man you ain't gonna do that and I hear excuse after excuse after excuse and it gets me frustrated the hardest thing we can do it and it's so funny we're quick to give everyone else opinions on what they should do oh he should did this she should have done that see if I was there if that was me I would not I would not but then yet you broke but then yeah you're going through the same issues but you quick to tell someone else about their stuff you quick you quick to have an opinion about somebody else and you've got all this hell going on internal that no one knows about but God and you and what what I really learned was the hardest thing in life is to look in the mirror and to tell yourself you suck at this it the hardest thing to do in the mirror is to look in the mirror and be like you know what you need to shut up and work on you you need to shut up and work on this you ain't got no more time to have opinions about somebody else and when I was there on the three-day sabbatical we had to spend one hour every single day sitting in front of a mirror we couldn't talk we were allowed to bring our Journal sit the journal right there and every time we looked in the mirror and we saw something that we did not like about us we had to write it down we had to write it down then when we wrote it down we went to the therapist that afternoon and we talked about what we wrote down I was in tears because I had a long list of things I didn't like about me but here's what I also learned you shouldn't love everything about you because if you love every single thing about you that means you don't you don't have no room per se for growth for improvement for involvement things were not horrible but the things these were things I need to work on let me ask you this question put this in the chat why don't you be real with me be real with me put in the chat put in the chat put in the chat put the chat put in the chat or if you're listening to this on podcast jump over to YouTube or start on my Instagram let me know um be real when is the last time you just spent 10 minutes looking in the mirror and you just were real with yourself I'm not talking about your weight I'm not talking about your hair ladies I'm Brothers I'm not talking about you know your beer I'm talking about when was the last time you looked in the mirror and you looked at yourself in the soul and you said hey you have to get better at this and when we did that exercise to make sure that we did it at the silent retreat they had mirrors lined up and we're all next to people I heard tears I heard people you know blowing their nose out because we all were in their emotional but here's the thing that I love and here's why I'm so passionate about this and I got to go on because I just feel this in my spirit that's the only way to true growth and Improvement there there were husbands in there crying there were wives in there crying at the end of The Retreat we were all able to just really just dive in and we can't say who was there and we can't say what we talked about because we all signed ndas but man just the testimonies that came out of there just just the just the men and here's the sad part all older men in their 50s all older ladies in their 50s I was the youngest one in there you know why because most of us younger ones we think we got it all together is what we say I'll worry about it next year ah I put this off I'm gonna say this right now I'm going every single year and if you're married if you love someone they're going to get you behind somewhere and get in front of the mirror because if you really want to be the best husband if you really want to be the best wife if you really want to be the best father when is the last time you spent some time to work on you Anthony O'Neill is a flawed man I would die a flawed man but dag on it I'ma get better imma get better imma get better because I know this is going to impact my money got no money I'm feeling I'm feeling this way I'm feeling this way if you're liking Today's Show let me know and let me know because I'm coming from my heart today I'm coming from my heart number two here are some things that I want to talk about some of my goals and this is like a personal show hopefully my journey the last month that I've been on can inspire you all uh when I was on my sabbatical I spent some time to really just write down just some personal goals some business goals and just some life goals and some health goals that I really want to do um man um I'll be 40 next year and when I was on my uh 30 days um you know I have my my yearly check-in that I normally do thank God for the most part I'm good but I'll be honest with you all I mean I've gained the gut since covid and since um since um starting a business there's been long nights that I have not been able to work I may not work I have not been able to sleep due to work I remember when I hired my first full-time employee um I I couldn't sleep because I was nervous I was like yo I gotta make this money because I I it's not just me anymore I got this now we're up to I mean a 10 10 team members on my team and I know that if I don't make the money they don't eat and it's not just them it's their spouses it's their children um it's their families and because of that I stopped working out as much as I was working out man I mean I was in my best shape in my life during that time and one thing I looked in the mirror man I looked at my mirror man and I saw a very unhealthy gut and my doctor said uh the weight around your gut for black men right is one of the things that really really causes health issues and it was like and you're in that because all of your weight right around all of your weight right around your your waist that's that causes health issues with inside of men you weigh about 184 at about a five seven and a half Anthony you should be right around 165 to 170 on the weight and you need to get rid of that body fat because that stomach could cause some breathing issues it can cause some cancer issues um and he was like man you're you're good now but your body is telling me that you are the body of a uh close to a 57 year old body and I'm like wait what you know I walk around breathing you know sucking in my stomach so people don't really see the stomach and um so one of my goals this year is 39. is to truly eat better uh because what I don't want to do is go into my 40s and I'm having major health issues because what do we know this if we are not really being wise with our health issues now it's going to cost us more money in the future and so I'm really getting uh specifically I'm going to be sitting down with a individual to help me identify a plan on on how I can eat better and sustain eating better I'm getting back into the gym on a daily basis on a better basis adding more cardio to it getting off of the sugar because diabetes runs high in my family and so that's one of the goals number two is um you know I I've I've identified a certain number that I want to have in my bank account I was on Fox and Friends here a couple of days ago and they asked me um is it true that we can no longer retire that if we retire we would have to get another job and I told them that you know it's really about the question is not about is that true the question is have we positioned ourselves to where we have the option to work or not work I enjoy doing what I do I I get excited about doing this and so one of my goals is I told this to my pastor my best friend Stephen Chandler I said bro I remember him I remember calling him during my sabbatical Stephen Union Church ask Stephen um Stephen correct me if I'm wrong in the chat bro I called him and said bro I'm done I was on the verge of buying a house a brand new house that was going to run me a couple of million dollars right a little close to 3 million um I was gonna buy that and I said yo I'm done I sat down and I went through again I went through a number and I said I'm gonna I'm gonna go ahead and pay off the house that I'm in now uh I'm not going to trade any more cars um and I'm I'm strategically setting aside a certain amount of money into investment accounts into real estate that will generate me at least one million dollars a year that I can spend off of because I have no debt right and so now my goal is all right be strategic be wise so this way I can have a certain amount of money by the time I am 45 in an account to women I do have a wife when I do have kids I don't have to work as hard as when I'm working today because I already have this kind of money generating for the rest of my life at least a million dollars a year thank you I told my I told this my pastor my best friend he got to hold me accountable to it I got the cars that I want I'm done only way I made a new car is if I uh by God's grace I don't want to say that if something happens do I have to get a new car I will but I got the cars that I love that I enjoy I don't need I don't need nothing else I got a house that's big for me and my dog cool great literally I just put grass in the backyard you know I'm like okay let's just fix this house up pay it off sit still sit tight you know what I'm saying I'm like okay cool build the business that's gonna be a part of the assets that's coming in I'm going to be investing a little bit more into my investments accounts I'm sitting on my CPA and we're going through a deeper tax strategy on how can I get there better and I'm going to be in buying more real estate that will generate me a million dollars a year by the time I'm 45 that's in six years and I'm gonna I'm literally going to on my personal side I'm Gonna Act broke a little bit because of the strategy because of the goal and what's the goal it's not about the the money that I want to set aside it's about I want to be in a position to where I can go and sit down at my kids first day of school for the whole day and I'm not stressed I want to be in a position to where if I don't feel like getting up and making content no more I Steward it this season very extremely well that I'm now in a position to do that I'm going to come up with this plan right and this year sometime this year I'm gonna I'm gonna put out this study that I did I gotta write it down and make sure it's the calculation is right for you all but I literally asked myself it was a couple questions said number one Anthony what do you want to do monthly I literally wrote her down do you want a private stuff do you want to be able to golf every day do you want to be able to do this like what what are all the things you want to do and I spent the whole day and I looked up okay what are the costs what what will that cost me what what will I do how will I do it and so when I wrote it all down and I'm being honest right I mean I went through and I looked at the math and this is going to go above some of y'all's heads but I'm Dreaming for the future right I listed it all I would like a chef to come in and cook for me and my wife especially for the first you know I'm saying year we have kids I would love to be able to have a chef come in cook for us for the whole week so where my wife don't have to cook I don't have to cook we can spend time I would love to be able to hire a live-in nanny to help my wife uh with the kids um as we are both raising um our kids with some help so so my wife can rest like I wrote all this stuff down this is just goals and when I added it all up it's gonna go over some of y'all's head but I just believe in challenging some of us right thinking about the future um it's going to run me about close to 48 50 52 000 a month to do what I really want to do for my wife I get that number it's like what that's crazy you can say that's crazy I'm speaking about what do I desire at the season of life that I'm in so many in math I was like okay cool great that's not hard I just gotta bust my butt and make the Right Moves and I can go from there and if I said okay cool if I take this out take take like five things out it went down to like thirty two thousand dollars cool great so now I know okay you need to have a strategic plan how to get there this is the number you need to have this is what you need to invest so that way your residuals your compound interest is paid out yearly at this and you don't touch your principal or whatever you have invested you have that I'm thinking about future some of you all understand Anthony I I all need on fifty thousand that's cool that's great I remember 15 years ago I was thinking the same thing I remember uh 20 years ago man that Bentley's dope but that's too much money I never get one of those and I got one today we all say things that I don't need I don't I don't but when things change when circumstances change when you're in a different level a different season of your life so does your thought process so what I'm going to do is come up with a a strategy come up with a list of questions to ask you all and then another form is going to be like okay how much is that and then I'm also going to show you okay this is what you need to have invested so you can live this life the reason why that's important to me is because while I was on Fox and Friends the average uh retired individual is making uh four thousand five hundred and sixty five dollars pre-tax money a month okay pre-tax money a month their average expenses was forty two hundred dollars a month average expenses broke out to housing uh Transportation health and food housing being number one Health being number two uh transfer food being number three Transportation being number four and when I was looking at that and while I was on Fox and Friends um here just a few weeks ago I was like wow that's no money like okay you got a 200 maybe 200 200 and some change um as a cushion what if life happens that that's no money at 60 65 years old you don't work all this time and all you got is enough to live you don't have enough to Joy you didn't put in work building somebody else's company you don't put in work and work like a Hebrew slave and all you guys a little bit of money to enjoy when they're saying that the average 1665 year old is going to retire but about 80 to 90 000 in their investment accounts that's sad but here's the true sad part that some people are not gonna like we were not being strategic When We Were Young and we didn't maximize our youthfulness our youngness is that even a word like like we didn't maximize That season so for me while I was there it meant I spent some practical time on okay cool great what can I do to get more money in my pocket and then two what can I do to get more money in my team's pocket I don't want to be the only person in my company and and sometimes it bothers me I'm not knocking no one else but when the owner is coming out with the you know everything that he loves and of course the the teammates would never make as much money as the owner of the company because they didn't put in half of the work as the owner right they did they didn't stress they didn't lose alone nights um and every CEO that I've talked to have had to come out of their pocket personally to cover payrolls sometimes and their team members didn't even know like so I agree with that but at the same time while they won't make as much money as me I want them to make a lot of money to where they can enjoy their life and do what they want to do but I got to put the plan together I got to give them something to do that benefits the company more to make more income but then in return because the company is making more income so are you so pretty much my strategy is everyone on my team gets a portion of the company's success on top of their payroll so Michelle she gets a portion of the success of the show CJ and Alex get a portion of success of one of our programs like my strategy is how can I help people I want everyone on my team to get the six figures I got two of my team members right now making well over six figures I'm trying to get everybody over six figures and as the company grows I would love to get uh some of my team members in the seven figures I gotta get CJ there first he's been with me since I was a little kid that's about God you know what I'm saying so it's like I broke down goals on how do I do that watch this that that impacts the company in a great way doesn't take away um from the authentic side of Who We Are but they could benefit what here's number two we can get from today's show what goals are you working on what what is your strategy of what you're working on or what are some of your aspirations I told you all my hopefully I I inspired you to think big because let me say this oh let me say this too well we may go over we may go on time with this one this is good this this is this is good this is my first time recording since I got bad so y'all got time today y'all got time today um um um stop praying for a house so stop praying for a car yeah stop praying for for for for for for like oh my God God I just prayed at you let them approve my house man where's your faith at I was praying while I was on the way I said God by 45 I want my company making 20 million plus a year that's a stretch nah they say God Yo God I just man God just you know we made x amount last year God just let us make that again no no no I said God I want to make 20 million dollars I want 20 million by 20 by the time I've turned 45 I want at least two millionaires on my team and everybody making six figures on the court Plus that's a stretch I need God for that to happen can I say this some of y'all gonna read this wrong some of y'all get upset with me when I say this but I don't count I don't need God to get a house I need a budget God gave me the money I'm giving him back his 10 percent so the 90 that I'm stewarding I can get a house I don't need God for that he gave me the resources he said here you go now Stuart the 90 well if you're praying for a house that means that you're over you're above your means that's what it is I've never prayed and said God I hope I get approved for this house because I already know my money's right I ain't got no debt I'ma get approved if you're going to prayers that God please God please God please God please God please God I know I know I know I don't make enough money to buy this house but God please let him approve me for the house heck I'm about to say something else I'm talking about God please I I know I know God you know the Bentley you you know the BMW guy you know the Mercedes you know that's my dream car guy please let them approve me please let me improve man I ain't never I've never ever ever ever I'm blind rewind I have prayed I have prayed I have prayed I remember when I first moved to Jacksonville Florida and I prayed that they'll prove me for this apartment complex you know why I prayed that prayer is because I was only making 38 000 as a youth pastor 38 000 use Pastor was only 942 dollars um every two weeks how much was my rent 850. I couldn't afford that apartment I was praying and asking God to put me into something that I could not afford with the resources that he gave me now I couldn't afford I could have afforded the apartment down the street that was only 500 a month that was only 400 I think it was like 470 a month at that time this is back in like 2003 when rent was crazy cheap you know what I'm saying but I was praying God please God please and one thing one thing that I was challenged while I was on my break is stop praying and asking God for the things that you already could do because he already gave you the provision to make it happen start praying and asking God for the things that only he can do only he he can do I I am going to need God for this company to making 20 million dollars I am going to need God to position this company to help other wealthy people I am going to need God to to impact the world with the network I don't need God no let me play this I need God for everything in my life because some of y'all can be in my comments now you need God I need God for everything in my life but I'm not saying God please get me to a house I can't afford I'm saying God God give me give me this so I could be a blessing and I and when y'all hear me say the Bentley some people may comment about that when when y'all hear me say um um 50 000 a month what I need Hey listen that's just that's just my aspirations that's just my goals that's what I want to do down the road I'm not there today no but down the road I want to be in position to where I can really enjoy my family as a black man I want to be in position to where as soon as my child is born I'm starting my legacy there with wealth with information with with the presence of being in my child's life when I get married I want to start the marriage off in a healthy way I I want to be there with my wife I want I want to get so deep with each other because of my presence that's what I Inspire to be so I want to make sure that money is not that problem here's number three here's number three here's number three uh that I really learned and we're gonna go down to uh I'll probably end on number three I'll probably end on this uh yeah I'll probably end on this yeah that's what I'm gonna do because we already have at about 46 minutes and I don't want to keep you all too long you know you know today on today's show um did y'all know that one in six people have experienced a major depressive episode in their life 26. one to six one in six people in their life have experienced a major depressive episode one in four people will struggle with mental health period as I was looking up and just really learning more about how important mental health is over the last I'll say about two or three years I wouldn't say I won't say close friends but I would definitely say individuals who are who I was um who I was building relationships with that could have became a close friend um committed suicide one of them was 23 the other one she was 20 like 7 to 28 then the other one was right at 30. three within the last three years and as I was doing my research I don't know if y'all know this but suicide due to mental health it's the fourth leading cause of death among 15 to 30 year olds and as I was diving deep and this is why I'm very very big with mental health when it comes to when it comes to better help and and why I am all for that and while I'm all for therapy which is why this show is sponsored by better help this is why this show is important for you to get there when it comes to our mental health right it's it's um certain cultures and religions believe that those with mental health problems are possessed by evil spirits and and it bothers me that people will sit here and say that because I'm battling something mentally I'm I'm I am I I have a demon inside of me and I've heard it I've heard people say you know what man just pray it out nah that's a lie bump that nah bump that um no no I can't stress this enough of how important your mental health is and and I can't stress this enough I think this month I really learned and I really want to thank better hope I really want to thank uh better help of of really providing me with an amazing and amazing therapist that has I've really grown a great relationship with and um she's really helped me out and as I was doing some research work today so uh because again this is the foundation of the show is money um I did some research and and and I want to read it as we close out Today's Show according to the money and mental health policy Institution poor finances often lead to stress and anxiety that can further impact our finances so there was a cycle of money and mental health problems and it starts so the very first one is not the cycle is not addressing your mental health problems not going to therapy and really getting to the root of the problem what we tend to do is identify and hurt um I I am feeling something so we try to replace it with something else and then what what happens is those mental health problems make it harder to earn money to manage our money and spend it what we end up doing is spending it on other things because we're not willing to ask for help and then what happens there when we're not really willing to ask for help when we're not earning as much money when we're not managing the right money due to our mental health issues it causes a deeper Financial difficult causes a deeper financial problem within our families or within ourselves then financial difficulty causes stress anxiety and it makes it worse when we got bill collectors calling us and so what's happening is we have the cycle we have it starts with you know we have mental health that we're not willing to address now mental health comes over and it causes problems with making it harder for us to earn money to to save money to invest to build and because we're not willing to ask for help when we're not willing to ask for help now we're having financial difficulties when we're having financial difficulties that it causes stress anxiety depression and all that and now we just got a cycle of this thing going why because we don't want to go see therapy listen uh Christian people uh us deep Christian people yes we're going to pray like it all depends on God for sure that's the first thing I'm doing is I'm getting on my knees I'm asking God to give me the wisdom the intellect the power the knowledge to get out of whatever I'm in when it comes to my mental health but got dag on it gets you behind in front of a computer get you behind in front of a therapist and dive deep into what you want to do because God bless that therapist to understand the Mind God gave that individual the anointing to be able to really help you understand the things of this body the mind of this body yes God lives on the inside of us via spirit but he still gave us a heart we can pray all we want but he also gave us medicine he also gave us a doctor I'm not saying God cannot do things but he also specifically said hey yes I could do it but so can that person I live inside that doctor I live inside that therapist I'm giving them the power the anointing the strength the wisdom to help you get better so all these financial difficulties that you're having is not because of a demon it's because of you in the church we gotta stop saying pray now don't get it twisted I'm a Christian I love God I believe in Jesus Christ the son of God which also means I believe in demons I believe in spirits and yes sometimes there are spirits that medicine cannot get out of it is the the power of God it is the power of prayer it is the power of getting in front of that word and changing internally spiritually but there are a lot of things that has nothing to do with the spiritual attack it's just us in our minds it's us and our emotions it's the enemy triggering us thinking it's the demon but really it says no I need to get some help and as I was studying this 46 of people with debt watch this also have a mental health diagnosis let's go deeper 86 percent of people with mental health issues and debt say that their debt makes their mental health issues worse let's keep going people with depression and debt are 4.2 more likely to still have debt at 18 months compared to their counterparts without debt those with debt are three times more likely to contemplate suicide due to their debt what are we saying that if we're not taking care of our mental health that that if we're not taking care of our brain our mind our number one asset which is our mind whoa let's go back y'all hear me say this again um if we're not minding our business because our mind is our number one business if we're not feeding it if we're not um taking care of it if we're not providing the mind with the correct nutritions that it need if if we're not giving it it's oil change ahead of time our mind if we're not um um putting the right stuff into our mind our mind is going to lead us astray we're going to start thinking about suicide I've been there when I was 18 19 years old we're going to start spending money that we should not be spending because we we're not willing to ask for help and to address an issue in this study as well talks about how sometimes ladies when they're feeling depressed when they're feeling things they tend to go towards food um TV television or um they call it window shopping and window shopping turns into shopping then when they get a little bit better they realize they just spent so much money and they go in their closet and they're seeing shoes clothes hats bags you name it sit with the tags on it then I'm going to get a little bit better from there they're like dang what did I spend my money on and so what I'm telling when what I am telling us is do not be ashamed to spend some time buy yourself get into the bag get into yourself when I say the bag I'm talking about the bag is your brain when you can get into your brain you'll get into your bag when your brain is healthy your bag is bigger oh that's good when your brain is healthy your bag is bigger and I know for a fact that my company is going to grow I know for a fact that that I'm going to make more money I know for a fact that I'm going to have a healthier life because I'm willing to admit the fact that Anthony Bernard O'Neill still needs help I know for a fact that there are still errors inside of me that I need Improvement on and the areas that I need Improvement on only a therapist can really help me walk through the process only a spiritual advisor can help me walk through it through the process I'm gonna end with this last section when it comes to the importance of mental health one of the main reasons why I told my team from the very beginning because I've always been big on Mental Health one of the main reasons why I offer my team therapy at least once a month um at least at least at least once a month because if we're not right mentally we both see it on our jobs if we're not talking to someone who by law they have to shut up if we're not getting what's really on the inside of us that we're scared to tell someone else or we're a little nervous to tell someone else because we don't want them thinking about us differently we don't know what our spouses are going to say we don't know what our parents our friends our loved ones are going to say um you know I know that there are certain things that go on in my team's life that they don't want me to know there are certain things in my life I don't want them to know we all we all are there right but I want to give them a spot a place a place that is safe a place that is secure where they can put all their stuff out and start thinking about and walk through their process because here's what here's the study says financial stress Mental Health does impact employers and employees and I'm gonna give you four things and if you can identify these four things you need to hit the link in today's show notes and you need to go see better help you need to get a therapist if you're if you aren't starting to notice that some of your daily tasks are not being completed you need to look into mentally why they're not being completed if if you are normally on it if you're normally sharp and you're starting to realize that the quality of your work the quality of your presence the the quality of your job is off a little bit you might need to see what's going on mentally if if you're starting to notice that you know uh your relationship with your co-workers what's your with your which with your boss or with your leader is starting to be a little distant like you're starting to be a little annoyed by them you're starting to be a little you need to see what's going on mentally maybe something that they said or that that they did and he didn't really understand what they was what they meant and maybe it sparked something inside of you and it kind of pushed you back and really it wasn't them but it's you because it's something you have not addressed and here's the last one if you are all of a sudden want to seek employment somewhere else if you're the type of person that you know every year two years you're looking for a different place to go and we're going to put this into a perspective so y'all can understand why employers like myself why we we see this stuff and why we try to avoid it is because every single year watch this every single year it cost me the employer the employers your boss your leaders your companies thirteen thousand dollars goes into the drain because of yourself not being mentally where you should be and I want to put this into a perspective that you should understand which is why I tell my team yo listen use that I would rather spend 200 an hour a month on helping you be good I know if you're married I know you and your spouse ain't perfect all the time I know you upset with your spouse I know you frustrated with your spouse I believe you probably even thought about walking away from your spouse at a certain time I don't want that to happen so let me help you out because I know one thing if you're married and you're going through hell at home and you come here I'm going to feel that If You're Going Through Hell with your kids I'm gonna feel that if I'm dating someone how many let's be real how many of us have been through a day this is so good how many of us have been dating someone and we we broke up with that individual we got into an argument now we're not talking for two three days we don't we don't call it in sick to work or we don't start to work and we're real quiet or we don't come at work and we're not quiet but we're very short and we normally they have to go lucky the talkative people the energetic people but now we got a little attitude now we're very short now we don't want to talk nothing wrong with that we're all humans all human but at the end of the day that employee still gets their check we can't say yo you ain't really do a good job yo you ain't really give us quality yo you had a little attitude so here's gonna go here's a eighth of your check no you still get that and we lost out on the money the employer lost out on the money that's not fair and that's not what you want your brand your character to be known for and on the flip side I don't want to show up like that with my team I don't want to show up and I got an attitude and I'm I'm nasty to people because now they don't want to work with me because I'm not willing to sit down get therapy get help and understand how to control my emotions and here's the thing too what I've learned is life is about 10 what happens ninety percent on how you react and the problem that I've learned with us is when I've learned even my last 30 days with my therapist I gotta learn how to better react to certain things because that's the truth to how we can progress and how we can get better you know what I'm saying you understand what I'm saying that didn't make any sense I probably start all over that you know what I'm saying do you what I am I am saying you know like like how how I really just want to be real I really do we're already over an hour so today it's good I think I'm gonna go back to an hour so because I'm just speaking real for myself I'm just I'm just speaking real for me and we got to get there you guys we we gotta get there I've been there I've had to apologize to my team for having an attitude I've had to apologize to my team for not making the right decisions sometimes and I think I think I think the only thing that we can do the only thing that um the only thing that we could do is really really be better and I'm in the show with this I'm I'm going to end the show with this I think black men black black men we have to seek therapy and the reason why we got to see therapy is because if we're going to be the leaders of our black families and our black homes and I always all about black black black what is that something black black I like that song um uh if if we're going to be the leaders of our homes man one of the things that I've been challenging myself is I want to be the healthiest version of Anthony by the time I get married and the only way that this black family will work and will rise and will make an impact the only way that this black family uh will be a strong black family it starts with me as the head of the black family it starts with me admitting the fact that um due to our history due to some of the things that I've been through I have to get help I got to get therapy sex can I be real with you good sex I'm talking about a good old good sex let's be real that ain't gonna help me get better chica had a big old booty she can she can know what to do in the bedroom that is not going to help me get better being around my guys going to strip clubs that's not going to help me get better drinking that's not going to help me get better I've never smoked a day in my life but smoking that's not going to help me get better the only way I'm gonna get better as a black man is when my spiritual connection with my heavenly father Jesus Christ and two admitting the fact that AO you got to get some things better and you gotta be therapy I'm gonna be going to therapy even when I'm 67 years old because as I evolve so will other issues come up that I didn't know was there and I would rather attack those ahead of time and not take my wife and my kids my staff my team my family my community through my hell because I'm willing to ask for help what the heck and I think men when we get right when we get therapy when we can start getting better our Queens our sisters our spouses will follow suit that's what I'm saying so listen we gotta get better we got to get better so listen I'm gonna drop better help in the in today's show notes uh go check them out you're gonna get 10 off I'm gonna get 10 off of your first three sessions um if if you're unwilling to get that help then I think that you're selfish and I think you need to grow up and one thing about me is I'm proud of the work that I'm doing now as a single man I'm proud of the work that I'm doing now as a leader you know with having 10 10 team members you know I I want them to see their leader growing and evolving I don't want them to see their leader the same me I don't want them to see me the same way I was when they first joined my team I don't want them to see me the same way I was two years ago if I'm not growing if I'm not evolving what the hell am I doing what this company is never going to surpass my mind my evolvement and so I just want to encourage you all get the help that you need get a therapy you need black men black Brothers listen we got to step up to the plate Brothers period white black Hispanic it starts with us and so I just really want us to um get there I'm back boy back a whole month off I got so much I want to say so much I want to do uh but I don't wanna I don't want to go too far and my producers are looking at me like hey bro we're over an hour we're about to lose this drive I need you to hurry up uh and so we're about to get get going man uh this this last part of 2023 is going to be amazing and um click the link check out better's help information below you'll get 10 off and yo be honest let me know what you think about today's show leave it in the comments I gotta go it's your boy Ayo love you God bless you we'll see you next month peace out [Music] thank you [Music]

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Length: 71min 11sec (4271 seconds)

Published: Mon Aug 14 2023