Doing THIS Will Save You 30% - 60% of Your Annual INCOME Guaranteed | Anthony ONeal

how do i take basic christian principles principles morals and address your appetite anthony the first thing you should look for in a woman is not if she love god if you like looking at her booty what's happening no captain so nearly 52 of marriages in the united states of america are ending in divorce within a matter of they say within a matter of two to five years so once they get married recently uh one of my family members actually just walked through a divorce um and this particular family member of my was only married about a year and a half and i i i'm very big on wealth building and i think honestly one of the key ingredients to building wealth is having a healthy partner is having a solid partner with you because that's the key ingredient like i can't wait i got money now but wait till she come yeah boy was she walking through i'm gonna be wealthier it's not gonna be my wealth we ain't gonna be wealthier but also here's what i'll also learn is that if you get married to the wrong person you can lose all that wealth instantly so today we're going to really be talking about how you can save 30 to 60 of your annual income this is a crucial way so if you're single married um or thinking about getting married this is a show that you need to be dialed into because i got uh some amazing people in the building today that are expert in this space expert in saving you single people married people all of us people 60 of our income well anthony what do you mean by 60 income well i ain't going to answer that yet stick stick to this dial in because i'm let them answer this question because we're going to go in deep because i really do believe you know this this is a money show right and we got to hit all angles of what impacts our money and partnership does and before we get into that show y'all do me a favor hit that like button i know you liking this video i know you see me good looking self you know what i'm saying hit the like button and can you join the family hit that subscribe button please y'all we are on a mission to hit 500 000 subscribers this month on youtube uh youtube we're trying to hit 3 million downloads on podcasts we're already at like 1.4 1.5 man y'all we are growing extremely fast i want to thank y'all for being part of family and y'all don't forget you guys i want y'all to check out my friends over at churchill they are the number one mortgage company in the united states of america if you your family member you and your spouse are looking to get into a home y'all i get it we're in a recession by 0.9 that's really nothing we'll talk about that later on this month okay but now is a good time to still get a mortgage i understand that interest rates are high uh but at the same time having a mortgage closes that wealth gap i would rather you get a mortgage than a nice car because that's a wealth building tool so my friends at churchill they understand my message to understand what i want to do and how i want to position you to help 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your behind in a house if you got the money you got the savings go get a mortgage because that's how we start closing that wealth gap but how do we alex how do we save 30 to 60 percent of our annual income how do we do it we're going to talk about it right now we got the pastors the one and only all been from jacksonville florida passing his beautiful wife i call them the johnson's man y'all are in the building man what's going on fellaini what's going on family for me and you was that we was at the uh kiana shining news wedding yep and we won't name drop all the people who's at the wedding uh but me and you and some other name people was at the table uh you were at the table with the with the wives you know with the y's my wife wasn't there but his wife was and the other wives were at their own little table but at the men's head man we was talking absolutely we probably sat out there alone we did the wives were gone uh we set up about good six seven hours and you said something that shook me and said i gotta eat you on the show you never said this because when you said it i've never heard it before you said anthony i can show your people how to save 30 to 60 of their annual income by simply getting married to the right person and staying married to the right person absolutely let's let's get straight into it what do you mean by that generally no one goes into a marriage a relationship anticipating a divorce right so while you're wealth building while we're trying to galvanize and grow get assets we generally accumulate all of this wealth not thinking when the person leaves divorce they're at least going to take 30 percent of that that's the trouble let's not even talk about the trauma that follows after the trouble the doctors are gonna have to pay the psychiatrist are gonna have to see yeah so all of that associated with a divorce because the divorce is considered similar to a death there's a separation so you're talking about emotionally you're talking about financially and what we generally don't do is put in preventative measures do the proper maintenance going into the marriage okay let's say here's what we're going to do okay prime example no one buys a new car without considering first the maintenance you're gonna have to put into it absolutely i value your car yes but we don't assess that we don't associate it when it comes to a marriage so how do we assess though i mean because i'm single so y'all talking to me don't worry about them right now y'all talking to me help your boy out you've known me since i was 24 23 years old you know what i'm saying years you know what i'm saying one of the top leading churches in jasmine florida in america i mean one of you know i'm just connecting i ain't going to name job but the bishops of bishops know this man you know what i'm saying when the bishop of bishop y'all know what i'm talking about coming to jacksonville ain't coming to this man so i need to get some of this wisdom that you have what what as a single person what are some things we should be putting into place before we do get married to save us this kind of money because man you're right my boy is getting divorced right now and he called me emotional i was like bro what's up he was like bro i'm probably at about 45 going i'm like what do you mean it was like bro 45 of what i'm going to see a month is gone now he said now i got to pay child support because his wife is getting the children then he has to pay alimony then she gets a portion of everything that they made from the house and is selling he sold they sold one car and i'm like what so she keep a hundred percent of her income and get 45 of his income and i'm like is that that's not even i mean i is it fair that's that's industry standards right that's industry how would she get 100 of her income because she had a job so is is her income calculated into the 45 percent she's getting or do america or do the court system not care about the brothers well i i and again please hear me i'm not biased as it relate to gender okay okay but often times oftentimes when it comes to divorce separation it's not that her she's not accumulated or not considered in the assets right most of the time most men want to be a protector you want to be in charge right sometimes being the boss caution [Music] it costs you so and and in other words this and then again this is no indictment against your brand at all but sometimes i would say to single people don't ball and you're on a budget hey say it again i'm writing that down don't bother go if you're on a budget oh my god because what you're going to do you're going to give the court you're going to give the wife you're going to get a lady an indication of this is what you can't afford and you cannot afford it you're dating outside your price range oh my gosh you're talking about you're the finance guy and correlate the two together when you're dating outside your price range when you're doing these things so now he's accumulated his wealth together yeah yeah and now he has so much associated with it now she has the trauma he has to deal with oh my god and that's just a portion of divorce god forbid if there's children involved but he had children involved and he got child support now but i so now you're talking another so so here's here's what my wife and i generally try to do and and i'll let her jump in at any time i will tell anybody that that's single every single person that's listened to me it's the correlation of writing a book drop an outline drawing outline before you get married for yourself for yourself for yourself but what are you giving me you want this is what i want this is what i desire but now don't hold that to a standard of the person you're wishing and praying for look at it realistically and weigh your pros and cons do you want too much early in life [Laughter] do i want too much early in life before i get married give me an example of what too much may be i want my when i get married i want my husband to be able to take care of all my needs oh sha baba she oh my gosh that's too much that's too much it's it's too much because you don't even know what you need oh do you think as a woman that is too much i wasn't saying as you mature your knees are going to change as you perfect but what but wait this is what i hear from ladies this right here from lady says display from ladies he need to pay all the bills and i just need to be able to go out there and get my hair done get my nails done he do i don't we don't do 50 50 over here it's 100 and i do whatever i want this generation of women are wanting a man who made six figures or more there is no 50 50 and it's like they get to spend all the man's money and that's why i have a problem when you're telling me i got to give away 45 of my money when i made all the money and provided you this life and you get to take 45 when you go let's see maturity says we're gonna have a bit of a better life when we build together how we you ain't doing that but but we are going to do something well we should be you should be okay it should be though all right so there's the for me so for me that that's the evolution of one sided of what you see the man doing protect me and there's also that i'm i'm i'm watching this okay and i was looking at one of your broadcasts i'm seeing this that there's another caliber of woman that's bringing up absolutely that says keep your money absolutely i don't want it absolutely i'll take care of myself see i don't like that woman and that one's dangerous too so there's and this is not just gender-based this is this is what's dangerous because when you build that outline and you won't demand to take care of you right that's a need yeah as my wife just said it'll evolve right the other asset is i'll get my own money uh only thing i need him for is sexual but then there's another need that's called emotional oh so then it had to be a balancing between the two yeah so as as a woman as a man as a man i have to figure out how do i level up touch my emotions yeah write these things down this is what she want and listen communicate yeah as a woman how do i man down when i have so much money and i'm running everything and i say it's a benefit in us building together because when we got together which our money has been together since 90s yeah we've always had our money together since 96 96 wow hold on i'm sorry because we were broke but anyway let me just put that out there we were broke now so put five dollars in five dollars together hey you got ten you got dinner you go back before the broke yeah so yeah [Laughter] but when we got together i had mine he had his mm-hmm right so i didn't need you you're right except for sex if i wanted that oh yeah she told me that yeah she told me all i needed was sex yeah she told me that yeah all i need for sex i had my own car making money you know which is a whole nother problem so he was an independent woman yes we were dating absolutely so i had to learn how to balance that because i'm an alpha female okay okay he's an alpha male yeah but then now we're going to be like rams just putting heads wow we're not going to get anywhere something has to give so god give me wisdom on how to still lead and be strong yeah but submit to whatever the plan is oh my god so that's where i found my strength okay and working the plan wow so i don't call us experts i call us experience and making mistakes yeah so now what took us almost 30 years now to continue to learn yeah we can cut a single single person's time short yes we can cut the marriage person time short yeah cause there's marriage keys there's preventative measures that we have that are put in place that you can practice and they're practical there's nothing difficult communication draw an outline you're single drop an outline if you won't if you want tall dark and handsome don't go date short light skin with curly hair so let me let me just let me just keep it about let me let me can i just keep it real keep it 100 you said we're at the table we're at the table real relevant and relatable he started this conversation not me so you're trying to tell me anthony's saved i'm a booty guy hey so are you trying to say that as a christian man it is okay for me to desire a beautiful woman god-fearing woman respectful woman career-driven woman alpha woman with a nice little booty it's okay first of all for everybody that's listening and has attended church as a pastor let me apologize to you oh whoa whoa cause we taught you wrong whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa the original biblical principles of marriage it wasn't even what you liked right it was what your family arranged yeah leave your family leave your mother and your father and cleave to your that was there was no dating they was just cleaving this cleveland so now that we're living in this modern day which means we create a new appetite yeah now we got to teach from the principle of how to address your appetite how do i take basic christian principles principles morals and address your appetite anthony the first thing you should look for in the woman is not if she love god if you like looking at her booty but that booty gonna drop no it doesn't have to it doesn't no no it doesn't no that's not true that's not true basic principles your booty does not drop if you take care of yourself come on bro as as god as my wife i'm not saying this because she's here yeah i'm telling god honest truth i bought her a nike outfit uh-huh don't you look like that in 1999 she's still wearing it she still has it today yeah i'm i'm trying to say she keeps it as a collectible she still has on today so nobody can tell me as you get older it drops no watch this we all have appetites what do you eat yeah what you have in your digestive system no i'm not i'm not talking about the health portion right health life happens i got it yeah but if you can intentionally take care of yourself right no anthony's not gonna drop it's not gonna drop because you and that booty gonna go to the gym together absolutely we'll keep it together on purpose she better and not only for myself right because i know it's what you like oh my gosh but you have that level of communication yeah you talk to you talk to your relationship like you talk to your money absolutely and here's the reason why i love this conversation is because people say man it's like it's it's money and relationship absolutely because it's like if if i'm happy with my wife then we can grow more correct we can build more we can accomplish more so how do we really start having that conversation as single people to really feel comfortable and say you know this is what i desire this is what i like you know and this is what i'm going after because i think sometimes watch this we settle absolutely always then when we settle absolutely we're in the marriage depressed discouraged turned off now we're looking at other ladies looking at other men then we step out now we're getting divorced now we've lost money now we're spending money now we have headaches depression issues drama that's pulling us away from building wealth and divorce oh this is so good because it's all around money i was studying and they said most people who get divorced within two years they are living paycheck to paycheck because of the debt absolutely absolutely so we got to go back to helping these single people in the very beginning right identifying and really i don't want to say you know getting over what the church taught us but really identifying okay what what does god want for us and not just what the church told us what environment taught us what our mother and daddy taught us subconsciously what we saw as a single person and married to but that's there's two things you get every day yeah a chance and a choice that's good there's two things you get everything a chance and a choice the chance we get is the opportunity but the choice we get has to be intentional so i'm taking intentional steps to develop a better relationship to develop you talk about it every week to develop more money how we're going to do this so we're intentional with that so i'm gonna even say this and you told me i could be real you say this i wouldn't even start with somebody that appeases you physically sexually find somebody that calls you to have a mental orgasm oh i'm sorry i'm sorry i'm sorry a mental orgasm in other words i love talking to you so much it turns me on ah so just in case the body breaks down yeah you still turn me on mentally come on when you say what you say when you speak what you speak oh i'm i'm in love with that because as long as you can talk to me i will figure out the money part oh yeah absolutely because i don't want to have money but no communication that's right see then we're in a problem because what i'm gonna do is i'm gonna turn into a typical man or a typical woman i'm gonna spend my money at the strip club with the woman that's gonna lie to me that i'm gonna be there for two hours and she's gonna get all my money and yeah instead of coming to somebody that turns me on that gives me an orgasm yeah that says oh say that again because most people think that yes i'm a pastor but we have business ventures as well too so we sit down and start talking about business yes so with the companies that we own oh matter of fact we're on the way to you uh-huh on the line with one of our office managers and we hung up we was like okay let's do this that's right this is the next step so let's take this and expansion what are we talking about how we gonna expand what oh you talking about turn me oh talk business to me talk dirty to me talk money that's been one of my struggles though you know it's like for me i'm like man i want my wife to to to and you said it better mentally have a mental orgasm right i get so attracted when i can meet a woman that she is her business iq she's an entrepreneur she knows how to run stuff she i like a strong powerful woman but i like a strong table y'all about to get me in trouble my own show you want to see me get mentally turned on have a mental orgasm be a strong entrepreneur mental woman who knows how to still be feminine yes oh yeah that oh yeah girl get over here right now i love you right what let me love you right i'm like god you better hold me tight but guess what else that does when she ticks you off yes when you're angry with her you remember the orgasm i can remember that oh you make me well you know what no i'm gonna find somebody to talk to me like that i'll say that you made me sick but i can't find nobody else like you ah i cannot tell you over almost 30 years how many times i said that about her for real oh i want a divorce no um you know what i don't know i don't think so do what you just did show anthony what you just did what you said can't nobody do it like that all the ladies had that boy please every woman that i know that's confident has that error or that aura about herself yeah that says can't nobody do it like me right but how do i find somebody that appreciate what i'm doing because when i can come in and i can make sure the house is right and and they're cleaning and the food is repaired i'm helping you run business and i'm treating you right in the bedroom you got to do more to throw money at me yeah now you're gonna make me shout now listen listen y'all we we 21 minutes into the show but i got before before i run this next um talk about this next uh sponsor today show you guys man i i wanna know have you ever had a mental orgasm before that is such a good word i want you to leave it in the comments below let me know have you had a mental orgasm for you deep spiritual people orgasms no have you ever dated someone that mentally turned you on and mentally but was like yo what hey how are you i think i've only had that maybe once um and i was young and i screwed that relationship up yeah i i own that i i did um but we could talk about how to grow past that oh i'm we're gonna talk about that we definitely talk about that but you know what you guys um one of the cool things that that i really promote within our brand you all know this is that if you're really gonna build wealth with your spouse so if you're married watching right now watching this right now or single uh you gotta have a savings account you got to set aside some money you all saw my show the other day how i was able to purchase my dream car the bentley continental um and now i'm saving to purchase my dream home my goal right for me when i get when i propose is to propose what they ring and also with keys that's good you know what i'm saying i want to propose with the ring and also like hey here's here's keys to the home and i'm saving for that now i've already saved actually i already have a separate savings account for um my wife's future wise engagement ring but i just opened up another savings account uh within prize pool to where i'm just saving money just put down towards my dream home and so i would encourage you all to where we save for three reasons one for emergencies two for small purchases and three for big purchases and i really want to encourage you to go with the prize pool go to anthony.com for savings it's 100 free and they're giving about three percent of the apr between the guaranteeing you point 30 but then also to giving away 20 000 a month in grand prizes weekly uh cash camp grand prizes when we did the math it's like close to three percent you get on your money for letting it sit inside the savings account so don't just open up a savings account put money into it especially during a recession time because with the cost of inflation yo you need your money to also be gaining money while it's sitting there for emergencies or while it's sitting there to purchase a home so go to anthony o'neil dot com forward slash savings you guys and i promise you this much you will thank me down the road but pastor one of the things i've been doing i'm not like you and your amazing wife here like i can't teach i can't teach people how to get like how to get a man how to get a woman um i just recently launched a um quiz on how to really maximize your single season so i'm teaching single people how to how to build wealth while they're single you know how to really start taking care of their mental while they're single and and i i i built this quiz it took like six months um to to do it i'm curious before we go back into to this why do you think it's important for single people you and your wife well i think it's important for single people to really maximize their single season like really not just focus on getting the man and woman but really becoming the best person individually before you look for that matter so i'll say this and then you can elaborate on it when you come into the marriage most times you hear marriages like 50 50. see what i'm saying but it's not 50 50. it's my 100 and his 100 which gives us that total a yeah because if he comes in with nothing but i brought my 50 if it's 50 50 in school that's still an f zero plus fifty zero plus fifty is an s it's an f so we still fail so it's important that you become whole and one with yourself i'm not looking for someone to complete me right because i'm coming in whole to the relationship he needs to come in whole to the relationship and we build one forward and even just taking that analogy if you come in with 50 that's an f if you come in with 50 that's an f yes how do you go from two f's to an a hey cause you can't teach me because you weren't passing in the first ah i think i know it all and i can't teach you because i wasn't passing on so we have two failing people two felon people i want to teach you how to be whole let me try to be whole well i'm going to teach you how to behold it does not matter let me put it this way as say for a single mother i don't care how much you want to put into that son of yours you can never take the place of his father can't that's correct okay you could put 100 in him yep but there's still a vacancy absolutely you cannot do that absolutely so give it all you can yeah and i'm not telling you you don't do it yeah be a dog at it but at the end of the day yeah there's an element that's missing yeah same thing correlation with marriages if she is 50 and i am 50 two failing people are failing each other yes but if you look at it from what she just said you're a hundred and i'm a hundred yeah then we use multiplication yes because one times one yeah yeah it's one yeah yeah yeah yeah you're already whole right we're not in competition with each other we're not trying to complete each other right i'm already whole so when you're broken i'm home and when both parties are whole that gives somebody grace to be broken oh my gosh listen y'all just set me up right here i'm put like this if you want to be at a before you get married go take my quiz it's 100 free go to anthony o'neil um and we spent six months creating the results for you it's 30 to 40 pages we've combined the enneagram and disk assessment specifically for you so there's like so many different answers so once and be honest on the quiz okay because it's going to help you this is not to get you a man or woman that's their job they're going to help you get that and save you some money i want to help you be at a so when you meet your other a right that's going to help you get married and really start building true wealth and it's going to save you brothers thirty to sixteen percent like annual income and ladies now you know i wanna say this no ladies ain't paying that much so don't be trying to play us brothers like that ladies ain't gonna be dropping out no money like that so here's what i say about the money and you can correct me if i'm wrong i'm not beyond correction it's related to that men pay 30 60 of money right a woman it costs her 30 to 60 percent of emotions i can see that absolutely i can see that absolutely it drains her she feels less than a woman yeah she feels where does she miss the mark right how does she go into the next one right generally she doesn't spend properly on the next item because she spent poorly on the last one so as a men wear mine is money yep as hershey's mind is emotion she's a mind is trauma yeah and a woman is set up to carry yeah she has a wound yeah so she carries the seat of that wound for years and it grows so many girls watch this the sea just like a baby in the womb it grows so whatever it is he gives me whatever cd plants i'm going to produce for him right right whether it be good or bad right positive or negative but isn't a seed designed to be let go of so how come how come and i'm just asking from a male's perspective if you walk through that season how come it's so hard to let that seed go that may not be the first time we've been through that so now it's just all building buildings and how many mothers let go their sons they generally don't no my mama still treat me like i'm 15. that's a good one i'm modest i am my i'm the pastor of my mother i'm her pastor all right and to this day yeah she's still you okay mom i pay people are you okay man but that side of her she she can't let it go and i'm not saying that in a negative connotation but as women as you said as for a man we detach easy you know why we detach easy because we never had to carry anything that's connected to us when it comes to an umbilical cord so as a man we can detach so we say stuff like you still holding on to that right all right and you're mad cause she's still holding on to it i'll be out and we're gone i'm out but she does she has no idea how to let it go unless she's intentionally taught this is a part of psychology of growing emotion that's how you let things go and as a man i have to respect the fact yeah that she doesn't know how to let it go and let me help you walk through that and sometimes it's harder for us to let go because we're so busy being strong so we can move on to the next thing that we don't have that space in life to grieve that's good that's good i was recently dating somebody and she uh recently got out of a situation with you know her her ex and i'll never forget you know like she was still there mm-hmm well yo this has been a while how come you ain't i was i was in engagement you know what i'm saying three months i was what's good who's next you know i went to therapy you know i'm like okay and i still go to therapy and there still was some healing that i had to do but i wasn't allowing my past as a man to be like we said we're done i'm moving on ladies we're done well maybe he may come back so there there are things that generally you teach people how to manage money right sometimes we have to teach people how to manage triggers oh yeah so whatever happens in a relationship yeah that looks anything similar to a relationship that didn't fail yeah or failed now becomes a trigger so if you don't know how to manage trigger wait a minute whoever the young lady was okay okay that's not bob that's anthony it's not bob if she doesn't manage that trigger your actions look like him so the first thing she does is retreat he or she retreats back to protection mechanism yeah and say here's how i do it that's why i think it's great that people should take your test yeah because when you go to your physician your doctor they ask you to check off do you have any headaches do you have blurry vision so in other words they want you to do a proper assessment of yourself before you go and they diagnose you with anything and i think what we try to do is we say we're diagnosed i'm ready for marriage no no no have you taken the test absolutely absolutely you're taking a test so now you're you're saying you're ready for something that's going to evolve yeah yeah yeah because she is not the same person i'm married no no no no no and i think that's why i came up with the quiz is because i was like man so many single people are rushing to the ring but they're not rushing to become just better individuals and healthier individuals so that's why we literally i mean i talked to experts professionals for this this particular quiz so go to take it you guys i mean this is it's not about that i want you to take it it's free it's gonna help you out um um you said something man that i mean you was on alive and you said something that was just so good and i forgot how you said it pastor don i was like he gotta say that i don't i don't remember neither because you were dropping so much so much that day and i was like no i should have wrote it down but you were saying like man how do i say this because i don't want to be rude to anybody but i'm not better than no man but i am different than that oh okay i know what you're saying um and there's a call i know what you're saying yeah you know what i'm saying like i cannot just date anybody you know what i'm saying absolutely right but i think that there are a lot of men watching this who cannot just date anybody because of their assignment their calling um that's my phone [Music] okay i turned it off um i'll call her back later um how do we as men who really do desire legacy building our spouse and even for women ladies i mean we're we're in a different generation absolutely these ladies are building wealth they these ladies are starting businesses fortune 500 these ladies are making two three four million dollars a year and then meeting god is only making fifty thousand dollars yeah you know what i'm saying like like how so take away the gods because i want to be fair because these ladies are winning oh yeah and you know if you're single making 4-5 million come holla at me hey listen we can make this thing work girl you're saying stuff that is so good oh you said so much i kind of want to jump in i don't want to cut you off but even while they're gaining all of that wealth male or female god is so strategic he orchestrates a gap that only certain people can feel um so everybody that made six million dollars yeah god created a gap that either man or woman is supposed to feel yeah yeah yeah so my job as the searcher as the hunter and that doesn't matter male or female yeah if i see something in you i'm not intimidated by your 20 million yeah i want to find out what your issue is i want to find out what's in your life that i can solve value do i bring to the table but wait a minute though because a strong woman would say she don't need you yo showman said she i i dated someone said i don't need no man i even had one tell me i've never dated a man that made me just want to just shut up and i'm like see when you tell a man you don't need them you know what i'm saying i'm like well then that's not the one that i want to date because i know i need my wife so you know what that says to me and my wife can correct me you know this says to me that says to me is you need him you just been protecting yourself for too long what you pay by that you've been your own alarm system and your own watchdog for too long i don't know man no no you're hungry you're all right you're fighting right now i'm not here to fight you so is it the man's responsibility to break down that that guard if he's the right one if he's the right person for her he'll stand the test of time and to show her she didn't even know what she needed prime example we were in the process of moving somewhere and uh i was i was bent on i want to stay on the water yeah i took my i want the water put me on the water yeah because i just wanted the serenity of the water when we were moving so our agent came to us and i was like bae i want this house not knowing that the house was on the golf course i didn't even know i wanted to stay on the golf course we bought the house i said oh oh i didn't know i wanted this i didn't know i needed this until somebody else broke me down and said no you need this in your life you just don't know you need it and it feels good to rest in his strength it feels good to say that that's not my strength but i'm relying on you for that yeah before i had to come up with the right way to get to a certain place but now that i'm older even though i'm only 25. she's still 25. but i follow him we will literally be walking in the airport no matter where we are and i will be on my phone watching his feet and i'm following his feet because i know he's going to lead me in the right direction before i had to leave my own self that's not always fun because sometimes i would get lost and have to figure my way out sure but now that rests on him so here's my question because he all the strong guys are hearing he said i hear you and they're hearing you too saying i hear you i'm a good man but what is it is it solely on that good man to break her down or does does there have to be something inside of her absolutely that says you know what i'm going to take a chance and let this man leave absolutely or is it no woman stay strong and he just busts the wall down no and i believe that if i'm working and he's working i'm not focused on him working yeah i'm working on myself but he's also working and we're both tearing down the wall that's why it's great to build together so you you're talking about that that's so good because you're talking about bringing two coaches together yeah two simultaneously different coaches yeah she doesn't need he's looking for he doesn't need she's looking for it right so how do we take that and build wealth yeah how do you take down if if you bought a piece of property somebody else saw damaged property but you saw something i can reconstruct yeah i saw it cause you see something and he sees something or she sees them that's my assignment then i'm gonna be patient enough intention of know you know what that's my assignment we're gonna work together to do this i know what god showed me i know what i felt in my spirit and it takes time it takes intentional because remember now she said when we first started dating i don't need you for anything but this yeah but by the time now it's oh i'm following his fleet i'm following his feet so there's an evolution that comes with that so whether you're single looking for somebody don't make the mistake and say i think i say i do one time yeah yeah you have to say i do every day correct to the new person you intentionally will marry somebody different yeah monday tuesday wednesday thursday they're not crazy it's no different than i we have a few other stocks that i that i kind of invest in yeah and i tell my son because he's on this dark thing too and i know how you feel about him that's another thing yeah yeah not even gonna get into that that's a whole other conversation so he started the process he was looking at it every day i said stop watching that thing yeah i said it's gonna be like watching grass grow it is it'll frustrate you right so if you take the mentality and say okay i tried this today she ain't changed shane change you're watching grass grow instead of stepping back look at the big vision and say bro this is a beautiful painting yeah i see the change that's happening but you have to intentionally it's like watching your money grow yeah or trying to get out of debt yeah no it doesn't make me weak to say i need him it doesn't yeah that's a bomb right now what's that that's sad that's a bomb i can do it all by myself and i don't need anybody yeah like just sit back and process that that doesn't make me weak because i need your help i can actually get more done you actually and i won't be as tired oh my gosh so okay evaluate the pattern so it's not just a woman said i don't need or a man that's just for any single person please as much as possible like you do a credit check yeah do a family credit check check the card i preached a message once called check the carfax wow has it been damaged has it been in an accident before yeah has it been overutilized has it had proper maintenance yeah do you have the paperwork that's for it all that's going to be entitled to what you're going to get in the next vehicle in the next relationship in your next money venture this is what we're bringing to the table some people bring it up today but i am the table fine be the table right right right right right table need maintenance too absolutely absolutely so what we're talking about saving 30 to 60 one of the things my mentor told me said anthony you need to have your wife sign a prenup from a spiritual perspective as pastors of the gospel what's y'alls thoughts on prenumbs why you just looked at it straight at me i don't know that most women would agree with me but these are my thoughts okay these are your thoughts yes so i would not have had a problem with signing one when we got together okay if we're saying i keep what i came with you keep what you came with okay however from this day forth what we build together is ours and then y'all decide what that split is yes do you think do you believe that split should be 50 50 i would be okay with 50 50. my personality is if i built it once i can build it again that's my personality but if you built it with him you didn't really build it but my brain helped build what we have so if i had to rebuild that's why so basically they should get another man right and build it again build it again that's what they're saying let me tell you what's happening i'm gonna do it by myself but we're gonna got one let me just make it plain what you're saying he says is it biblically wrong to have a prenup i personally think we do the bible damage when we try to take all the biblical principles and imply them to today's knowledge hear me when i say it it's like saying the bible says don't get on the internet right the bible doesn't even address the internet come on man like the bible says uh uh don't be careful don't speed yes no there's a law right that's now right so i think sometimes i think the only spiritual side about a prenup should be prayer and whatever you all decide together then that's what we'll do yeah man because there's so many there's so many different ways and go about it if if she's wealthy and he's nothing and then you don't know the mentality of a person you know mentally how they are and i found this out just through business and church that sometimes people are addicted to ambition so then they act one way and then when they get it and you didn't protect yourself so i'm kind of you know just like saying do you put insurance on your car yeah yeah i do well you don't have no faith yeah i have faith so i put insurance on my car right right right right so that's why i say for me the only spiritual side should be prayer and a communication with each other when it comes to that and prayer should be insight insight wisdom what is the best way to do this how do i handle this can you guide us correctly how do we be fair with each other uh you should do that so just in case divorce does happen which we don't want it to happen no no there should be preventative measures in place right that we prayed about when things are good right right that says hey it's in black and white see if i had a prenup [Music] and she is like my sister you know what i'm saying thinking i mean if i build it i can build it again and she's she got all this money all right listen i'm gonna keep what i came in with you're gonna keep what you came in with and i'm gonna give her just we're gonna put it up front we get x amount x amount you get x amount i get x amount um and whoever keeps the kids get probably a little bit more for kid support you know what i'm saying uh but there's no lawyer stuff there's no going to court stuff like i would literally lay it out to the t because i think that goes back to saving 30 to 65 a year oh absolutely absolutely because here's what i've learned i've i've mentored so many people they were so happily in love in the beginning [Laughter] five years later they can't stand each other so let me tell you one question i asked when we do any type of advising or counseling number one question i ask why do you want to get married yeah 99.9 percent of people say that so then my question is if you get married because you're in love why didn't you marry the first person you love jesus if you got married cause you're in love you should have married the first person you loved go back and marry them because in that case you're cheating them wow so if you haven't taken a proper assessment of what marriage looks like yeah you that's the correlation to somebody coming to you and saying listen i want to invest my money and you said go invest in whatever oh did you find any broker and say i'm investing that yeah no no no you have put stuff in place you've done your homework you know church you know these people that says hey this is where you put your money yeah they're going to give you the best value for your home so you've done your research yeah if we don't do our research we have people just putting money i just want to get married i just want to do this yeah no you're foolishly casting your pearl before swine yes and you don't know your value yes and knowing your value sometimes we let people cheap in that because they secretly want what we want and want what we have yeah and you go oh you got to be careful doing that you asked me that i'm late why do i marry her it's because i chose her i don't really know about this whole thing falling in love no such thing you know what i'm saying like i i can't just fall in love you know what i'm saying from my understanding of bible in seminary school you know from the from the great bishop rudolph mckissick junior jackson my brother my brother you know one thing i learned really listening to him was like if god said husband love your wife the way christ loved the church christ chose us and he chose to die for us i'm saying well pastor the reason why i am getting married to this woman because i chose to die for her so that we can be together so now i'm going to mess up your theology because i'm going to throw a monkey wrench in what you just said okay throw it if you're going to die for her right right when it comes time to split the money uh-huh are you going to die for her that's in writing already you know what i'm saying i mean but at the same time though i think that i i literally because clearly in the beginning which is why i want to do it up front because it could be me i'm human who could be who could turn crazy uh it could be her you know i'm waiting all this time but definitely gonna be me i'm gonna be real with you so it might just be hurt i'm gonna be i'm jesus but what i'm saying is i literally would be like hey babe here go x amount of dollars go hire you your own attorney and you all put whatever you want in there and here's my goal i never want to have to use it i i will say this a lot of people don't even a lot of people don't believe this but i i carry a concealed weapon i had a concealed weapon to protect me and my family what's my prayer i never want to pull it out right i nev the moment i pull that out i am scared i never want to i want to go to my grave and i never shot that gun at any human being only at targets of practice and that's how i feel about the the prenup i never want to use it but if it does come to place at least i know i have something to fall back on to protect watch washington right me her and our children because i've watched children fall out over divorces because they're watching their mom and dad argue over money over this and i mean it should be such a smooth transition so we can both move on with our life and our kids can can be in a healthy position and i think prenumbs do that because here's the thing too if you don't sign a prenup you are signing a pre-nut the state and the state is going to lead with the lighting if you take if you take the analogy and let me add another layer to that so the children not only have to deal with it in an immature state yes they also got to deal with it when they become adults oh man so you're talking trauma yes and trauma has not transformed is transferred yeah yeah yeah so now it's passed on to the next generation yes and the next generation yes so i totally agree with you with the carrying of the concealed weapon yeah i have one yeah i carry it yeah they tend to never use it so i have people we have classes in place yes we have keys in place they say hey listen yeah yeah this is what we're going to do right to protect yourself right and the truth be told some single people don't even need to be married no sir nope you don't know you don't need to be nope and it's okay okay that's okay it literally is okay don't be pushed by modern day markets yeah for somebody to push you into an assignment so good that's going to cause you to lose 30 percent of your income man this is we got like 10 more minutes left on this show you guys and and and while we're talking about wealth within married couples i would encourage you to get life insurance oh absolutely absolutely um i just partnered with an amazing company man that makes it so easy to get life insurance you can get up to a two million dollar policy without no medical paperwork so you can have a two million dollar policy a one million dollar policy a half a half a half a million dollar policy today within a matter of 11 minutes and very very very affordable you can go to anthony dot com forward slash ethos and they will walk you through a whole step-by-step process and y'all i got i got more than two million well i probably shouldn't have said that on myself yeah edit that one on out you know um i i have a life insurance policy uh because i want to make sure that my family is taken care of um i want to make sure that my life whenever i do finer taken care of i want to be able to sow a seed into my kids uh whenever i do transition it's almost like we're talking about prenups and stuff like that it's like yo you got to put things into place and here's the thing i really i really don't want to use my life insurance i really don't you know i'm saying gotta be here me i mean just prolong my life but i'ma have to use it one day i'm gonna die and i want to make sure that my families and my loved ones are taken care of and here's the sad truth nearly 80 of african american people do not have life insurance we have gofundme and we have the church yes and the church is raising special offerings to help such and such berry such and such then we get on go fund me to raise it no no no no y'all listen go to anthony.com for ethos get 50 000. get enough just to cover your burial get enough just to make sure that your family doesn't have to sacrifice and and they can mourn you with joy knowing that you've crossed over to a better place um and they're very very very affordable and if you have kids and you don't have life insurance you are one selfish parent if you have a loved one a spouse and you don't have life insurance you're once some special selfish spouse take 11 minutes you have to go to no doctor no blood work you can get up 2 million right now today go to anthony.com forward slash ethos you know we got about eight minutes left eight minutes left pastor and and man this is this show has been we talked about a little bit every time i mean just a little bit of of everything let's talk to the the married couples and you all have a course and you all have a curriculum that you all offer to really keep married people married i'm curious one what do you all really specialize in that why is that course so special and two what are some of the things that you all are seeing that's that's causing the divorce within the married couple is it sex that's one of them that's one that's one like okay wait is it like is it bad sex or is it no sex what is it [Laughter] so for me not for you you happy i'm talking about for the people and that's what so it's twofold well i'll just still with one side there's a script in the bible that says the songs don't open my love before it's time all right so what happens is generally we open our sexual life before time so we create an appetite absolutely so we're 13 14 15 16 years old creating appetites yeah 20 21 20 unless you're married and you're a virgin let's be real you created an appetite yeah so now when you've got married i need my wife to perform yeah to fulfill my appetite so now i judge our sex life based upon your it's all about past experiences so i won't get into too much of my details but i had been around the corner a few times i feel you understand so she hadn't been around the corner a few times uh so i was like hey hey hey what's you ain't doing what's going on here yeah and i was like listen i can't compete with all that oh no this is conversation y'all have to have a that kind of a real conversation like yo i cannot do what you've experienced what i know how to do and you can teach me the rest of the way but i cannot compete with the 60 70 80 90 100 2000 and what i did was i prayed i was like god i need you to gift her teach her how to do this he said she's not the problem you are and he took me to that scripture he says you're comparing her to stuff that you did in your past and you're gonna have to entertain this and have a real conversation with her about it yeah yeah yeah and you both watch this gonna have to grow together in your sex life yeah yeah yeah so now it's like okay let me decrease and let her increase oh my gosh so sex is one communication is another money is another letting outsize toxic sources is another so there's so many keys that we talk about and doing it that that we take oftentimes we take communication from people who really want to be us yeah yeah yeah so they give us bad information yes girl if that was me yes oh man i wouldn't why secretly they want to be in your spot when it leaves with girl if that was me just don't listen don't even don't even which is why when people ask me relationship advice my very first response listen i am not a relationship expert this is not my expertise if i was in your shoes this is what i would do but again i am not qualified to talk to you about this because it ain't working for me and most of us most of us give information based off of our own knowledge yes without considering the person's history exactly if somebody showed me that that woman stole from the grocery store yeah i don't want to know what she stole i want to know why she stole me because i'm yeah she stole that's the law yeah you want to go deeper i want to go deeper if she told me she stole because her kids are hungry right we can fix that i can fix that yeah because i know why you did it right right even she said i stole because i'm a klepto right i know why you did it and most of us don't take time to dive into the why before we cast judgment onto what should happen even if we're talking and we're coaching and you're saying okay well my wife isn't having sex with me why why i'm so good why isn't she is it because you ignore her all day and then now when you get into bed that's when you all touch your feelings again oh i love you babe but she's never heard from you the entire day since the mo like what why is it well she doesn't want to talk to me we can't communicate why is it because you're always hollering or degrading when you're speaking to her there's a why behind it and when we can work through that when we take the marriage in for maintenance when we take the car if you take your car in to be serviced like it should be you won't have any issues out of that and if you bought a car you can't afford you're in trouble in this maintenance time so we just i have a vehicle bring that down to the mirror so i have i have i have we have a vehicle one of our cars it's a toy yeah whatever the toy it's a toy yeah um so i went to get some maintenance done on it this is fine the guy was told me he's like hey the light bulb out right so i'm like cool it's under warranty he was like no your light bulb not under warranty so i told i said hey listen change the light bulb no well i had never had the light bulb changed in this particular toy absolutely when the guy brought me the bill and it had a comma in it yeah i thought to change the light bulb he said this it blew my mind he said pastor the bulb didn't cost anymore that much it's the labor he said would it cost you to get to the broken piece yes sir that's what caution so we tell people no matter what we charge to help you it's cheaper than divorce no matter what it is ah it's cheaper than divorce ah that's that's on relationship and financial side absolutely what i charge y'all to teach you how to stay out of debt it's cheaper than you getting into that thank you it's gonna save you money and time right and headaches and opportunities because if the right woman comes along okay let me say this anthony it is too late to prepare when an opportunity comes it's too late when the right woman comes but they hadn't taken your course and they're getting debt free so she's there yeah but you got the mindset but not the skill set all right it's too late it's too late so that's why i would say pay whatever he needs yeah and again it's not for us trying to right that's not why we're here to pay to do anything because god has blessed us right but it's like i don't want to coach i don't want to do this every great person has had a coach everybody has when you said you went to counseling i thought that's great every great person that has somebody to pour into them yeah well i don't want to pay for it then you don't want what's the return on investment yeah yeah roi yeah you can't do that you can't think i want to be wealthy yeah what i first want to point to yourself facts won't happen and i want god send the opportunity whoa but you ain't prepared for nothing facts and you don't realize the part isn't the problem yeah it's the labor oh my god y'all we have hit the hour of this show oh my goodness this has been absolutely amazing if if my tribe want to learn more about you how can they follow you well no more so listen you can follow us on every platform um under instagram is pastor don j okay it's phaedra johnson it's marriage keys marriage keys marriage keys with an s okay okay um and i think is that on all streams right instagram instagram facebook twitter twitter if you just want to follow us as a church it's the house of prayer house of prayer but we do it we have businesses real estate trucking we god has blessed us to have streams of income yeah to build wealth not just in the church realm but in the business realm yeah to help people in every aspect that's why i told you getting people getting into debt is a choice yeah yeah that's financial and mentally and relationships yeah god has blessed you yeah to help people to make another choice yeah and a chance to get out of it that's right listen we're gonna drop all their information in today's show notes so make sure you all go check them out check out the course if you're married um and i promise you you will love them if you're ever in the jacksonville florida area uh go check them out powerful church doing great things in that beautiful city um yeah can i say one thing shane for blog yo um i'm gonna scoot away when i say this yeah my wife does what's called wife coaching wife coach not life coaching wife wife coaching teaching them how to be wise teach them how to be wife for not single or married absolutely you want to talk i'm talking about from the bedroom to the bank account bedroom to the bank she probably didn't want me to do it but i just did it anyway fellas you want sex to increase i'm just uh okay you told me to be yeah we need we probably need to bring that back not a life coach your wife coach you can't do what you don't know yeah we definitely drop her information we're just gonna drop her information you know but listen man i i i will i will happily make that investment hey girlfriend i need to go see this wife you and you gonna save me 60 of my money get her right from the bedroom to the bank account my god i feel the spirit oh my god listen we are over time be guys oh my god we love you all so much thank you all for rocking with us today man make sure you all check out the information in today's show notes if you are single please take my uh free quiz it doesn't cost you an entity quiz and get the results so that way you can really really learn more about yourself so you can get that a so you can be 100 so when you meet your a your 100 you two are together and make sure y'all really rock with them because i mean they are proven proven you know i'm very careful about who i bring on the show to talk about marriages and relationships but today was actually good we we really um correlated money and relationships today and one of the key things to building true and lasting wealth is your partner and you got to select the right partner from the beginning i want to see that divorce rate going down absolutely not up absolutely and uh this these are the kind of conversations we need to be having to start that conversation going down so check out today's information today show notes and we'll see you in the next show peace out [Music] [Music] you

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Published: Mon Aug 15 2022