The Law of Responsibility & Communication

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in the same way notice that husband's ought to love their wives as their own bodies he who loves his wife loves himself after all no one ever hated their own body but they feed and care for their body just as Christ does the church I want to talk about the law of responsibility and communication now I don't know what your first car was but I can tell you very vividly what my first car was it was it was an acura integra and I was in love with that car I've been in love with something and wanted it really bad I guess nobody else just me huh ok I mean come on I wanted that car so bad I mean I would dream about that car right you know I mean I had the outfit that I wanted to wear when I was finally able to get the car I'm out was I was in love with that car and I remember that my mother made a deal with me she said ok well if you can come up with the down payment and if you can show that you can can handle the car in terms of paying what's old on the car of your month she said ok then I will help you to get the car cuz I just you know gave year after year my best speech on while to get this car and it started in high school and ultimately got the car when I started college and I never forget I loved that car but I went into buying that car only with the mindset of why can make the minimum payments it's no big deal I can make the minimum payments and the most important thing was not the payments it was how good I was gonna look in the car hey and I remember I mean I got the car and I was proud and excited to drive the car had the mix tape that you know I wanted to listen to when I rode around town and on college campus and and that kind of thing but then I remember that it was time for the car to be serviced and then I went back to my mother and said okay all right all right all right I gotta gotta get the car serviced and so I took it to the dealership and they said that the service the car was gonna be X amount of dollars mom I don't have that and she said well no that's a part of the responsibility she said you mean to tell me you didn't factor that in you were so focused on the outside and how the car was going to look that you didn't think about not just only paying the minimum payments but also the maintenance on the car so well yeah you know well let's see I need your help she says no no I can't help you with that she said that is your responsibility and the reason I tell you that story is because many people approach marriage the way that a teenager approaches shopping for their first car just like like me you know they were so teenagers often are so focused on the exterior of the car like I was while really showing no concern for the long-term maintenance that is often necessary often that's how people approach marriage see the thing about it is this immaturity will cause you to enjoy the pleasures of something without assuming the responsibility for it teach pastor it's even more in mature to get rid of something or to reject something simply because it needs maintenance or because it breaks down now if you've ever owned the car or if you've ever owned how's that you understand this you understand that you cannot sell your car or move every time you have a problem and likewise whenever there are marital challenges the answer is not to reject your spouse certainly the answer is not to go find another one the answer is to assume the responsibility for fixing the problem and sometimes assuming the responsibility it doesn't mean that it always have to assume responsibility when it's your fault right we always say what it wasn't my fault but when you're in a marriage or a team you're both winning when you guys assume the responsibility so it doesn't matter whose fault it is yeah that's good so many the reason we're starting here is because so many relationship problems are due to shallow thinking and irresponsible attitudes right and the truth is you can't have a marriage without having maintenance hello you can't have a marriage without having maintenance you can't have thrills without responsibility you can't have fun without faithful devotion and if you believe you can that line of thinking is immature and unrealistic this is why God says what he does in Ephesians chapter 5 verses 28 through 29 we read a moment ago when he says in this same way husband's ought to love their wives as their own bodies because he who loves his wife noticed that loves himself after all no one hated their own body but they feeding care for their body just as Christ does the church the point that God is making here is that we assume responsibility for our own care we don't wake up one morning and just assume that somebody else is gonna brush our teeth we don't lay in the bed and say okay well somebody's gonna come here in a minute and get me dressed and put my shoes on and all that kind of stuff no we assume responsibility for caring for ourselves and likewise God says we are supposed to assume the responsibility for caring for the needs of our wives and so I want you to hear this when you get married and single people don't turn me off and just think wellness is just for the married people no because this is this is going to help you have a proper understand how to do it if you want to get married even if you you got married and realized you didn't have the right understanding that's why we shared on last week that if you do it God's Way God's Way works amen and so God is very clear that when you get married he expects for you yes you to assume the responsibility for meeting your spouse's needs now let me clarify something because on last week when we dealt with the law and priority we dealt with how the Bible also reveals that there are some deep needs somebody say deep needs that there are some some deep rooted needs and all of us that only God can meet and so we dealt with those needs on last week now today when we talk about needs when I'm talking about those deep needs that only God can meet we're talking about the basic needs that all of us have there are some fundamental basic needs that a woman has there are some fundamental basic needs that a man has and when you're married it is your responsibility to to really care for and meet those needs in your spouse this is why in Ephesians 5 and 29 it says just as Christ does the church so so so God says all of this husbands love your wives as you do your body and into the ends by saying just as Christ does the church meaning your attitude and in your heart and your mind if you're gonna do this right has to be sacrificial yes meaning meaning none of what we shared on last week none of what we're gonna share today and even in the weeks to come will work if it is just about you if it's about you then it's going to be really hard for you to be sacrificial in a marriage and want to meet your spouse's needs but that is God's expectation now your willingness to assume the responsibilities for caring for your your spouse's needs listen to me will determine how well you and your spouse communicate in the relationship let me say that again your willingness to assume there was possibility and caring for your wife's needs will determine how well you and your spouse communicates in your relationship now there's a ton that we could share about communication we could do a whole series just on communication alone but what we want you to understand that is fundamental and foundational as it relates to communication is this men and women are different a men and men and women speak different languages this is where the Mars and the Venus philosophy comes from but our different languages listen to me comes out of our different needs are you following me so if you're gonna learn to speak each other's language then you have to start by understanding that we have different needs men have needs that are different from women women have needs that are different from men but here's the thing we communicate out of those needs meaning that as we communicate to one another we are communicating out of those different needs that we have so ok let me explain it this way when we were house training our dog we had to teach our kids that when when Teddy began the bark that it meant that he had a need the need was maybe he needed to go out and use the potty or the need was maybe that he was hungry but we had to train them to listen to his barking because he was not just barking because he watched the bark he was barking because he has a need listen to me men they're oftentimes I don't know why my wife is barking I don't know why she's nagging I don't know why she's saying what she's saying wait a minute she's saying it because she has a need and she's trying to communicate to you out of those needs so what my wife and I want to do this morning is we want to walk you through those things to help you number one understand the responsibility that that we have to assume the care of those needs and our spouses but then also to ultimately help you communicate better so we'll start with we'll start with the lady's needs tell us I'm gonna help you okay this morning already I'm the woman's basic needs the first basic need for every woman is security the number-one need that we have is the need of security we need to know that we're safe and secure in every area of our lives good and it's the husband's responsibility to do that when a woman feels secure she's much more vulnerable she's open she's willing to give more but they have we have to be secure okay now here are a few basic things to help your wife become secure the first thing if they care for your wife more than anything except God more than anything except God okay your wife wants to be attentive he wants you to be attentive to her knees and her once and desires so a good way to understand this concept is imagine that you worked for a boss or you worked in an environment where your boss was selfish deceptive demeaning just was was a really mean person always concerned about himself instead of the health of the company or the employees now would you feel very secure in that environment no you wouldn't you know you would wonder it any day I could lose my job but imagine conversely that you worked in an environment with the boss who was very attentive to your needs and that his main question every day was what what can I do to help you become more successful in your job do you do you want to raise do you you want more vacation time or do you need more resources for your department now imagine how you would feel in that environment you would feel what more secure you would feel like you were valued that kind of environment is every employees dream we're men similarly that's your spouse's dream that's your wife's dream that you would have that level of care and concern about her day to day needs very good the second area to help a wife feel more secure to show constant love and affection towards her a woman can never ever hear how beautiful she is or how great she is from her husband right before he walked in because you know we were gonna talk about you look at me like a flower a woman develops and blossoms in an environment that is healthy and thriving but if it's neglected or missing a negative environment I'm not gonna blossom your wife's not gonna blossom amen so one of the main responsibilities for husbands is this we are called to be gardeners right we are called to cultivate and create the right environment for our wives to flourish now I know some of you thinking well does that mean we can't have difficult conversations absolutely not there will be need for four there will always be a need for straight talk or our corrective conversations but but you earned the right to have corrective conversations with your words of affection yes that's so good let me say that again you earned the right to have corrective conversations with your words of affection so so if I'm always if I'm using superlatives and and and and every time I come to my wife I'm saying something negative or or I'm deconstructing as something she's done oh you always do this so you always do that what's going to happen she's gonna put up a wall of defense which then means that the next time I want to say something to her chances are she's probably not gonna receive it right but if I'm if I'm always lavishing upon her how beautiful she is words of affection and affirmation then when it's time for words of Correction she's gonna be more apt to receive it amen your wife feels secure is to just demonstrate consistent faithfulness Mimi and I Matthew 5:28 Jesus says but I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart see looking at ladies as they walk down the street that's perfectly normal for a teenager before a grown man is unacceptable come on so here's the main thing that we want you to see in Matthew five that Jesus is dealing with in it's this old ovary is not just an actus an attitude yes let me say that again adultery is not just an actus an attitude and I want to drive this home because many men have said to me but see I didn't do nothing and even if you feel like you didn't do anything the problem is you're still carrying that spirit of adultery in your heart right or that spirit of unfaithfulness it is detected in your attitude and your wife can pick up on it every time every single time they can see you when you're not looking so don't ever compare your wife with anyone okay don't even point out women on television don't compare them to women in magazines there was one woman that I was like okay cuz she is kind of flying I have a girl crush on her cuz she's super cool but outside of that actually no don't ever do it don't it this honors her makes her feel insecure when you're constantly saying man look at her or comparing her to even your friends wives oh she cooks all the time why don't you come home and cook every day it's those things that make your wife feel insecure so set up set up set up she'll say like what watching Oh [Music] [Laughter] all right so the next area to help your wife feel secure is to demonstrate your dedication to provide financially okay in Genesis 29 part of the reason rachel has is so much in love with Jacob it's because she's willing to work for her uncle for 14 years before even marriage could you imagine ladies 14 years no kiss nothing he just I'm gonna work for you because I want you 14 years so what Jacob provides to her in those 14 years is that he's willing to provide financial provide for her financially and that makes a woman feel secure because there's a connection you know the number one reason for divorce in America is because of financial issues and so this notion of how money is handled men what you do with it all of those things go a long way in making your spouse feel secure because finances is the one most important area of security for women yeah and there are lots of ways that you can demonstrate that you are committed to providing for your wife financially and providing for the family financially and I want to stress this it is not about who makes more money right because that can get maybe any marriages caught up yeah and it's not about that it's about the fact that you want to demonstrate the Alliance that you want the family to be provided for amen regardless of what you contribute financially to the family and so there are lots of ways you can demonstrate this consistency and their faithfulness in this area one of the things is as simple as praying for God's favor and blessing to be upon your family how often do you as a husband and wife and even as your family if you have children how often do you all come together and just pray God we want your hand on our family we want you to do something significant through our family to cover our family even if you haven't even yet started saving for college you can begin to pray in that regard and that will go a long way in the heart of your spouse to know that you really want us to be taken care of financially another thing is to aggressively seek the best employment let me tell you what doesn't work lay it on the couch talk about yeah i filled out some applications I'm just waiting on my shift that doesn't work I mean getting out there and getting after it and aggressively seeking the best opportunities that come you whether you have it or not that communicates a lot to your wife about your desire for her to be secure in the family to be secure financially another one is to just be a hard worker and a lot of people think that that means that you have to earn a certain amount of money and it doesn't mean that at all but but women can see a hard worker regardless of whether or not they're earning six figures or earning minimum wage if you're working at Walmart or Target or at McDonald's you can still display the characteristics of being a hard worker because that will communicate a whole bunch into your spouse about man he really wants us to be taken care of and then lastly regardless of how much money is earned if you would take the lead in leading the family and being a good steward of the resources that God gives you a meeting that you know what let's create this budget let's make sure that we're tithe and doing everything God's Way and you know what I know we we want to do this but if we saved a little bit more here we can do this at a later point those are things that will help communicate that you really want the family to be secure financially amen so second to security what's important for women is open communication yeah women have a tremendous need for detailed honest communication we don't want a brief synopsis every one or two days about how your day went you know we want detailed communication about what's going on in your life and in your mind I remember I used to be like what you're thinking you're sitting there what's going on in your mind he's like a long day I'm like blood and that was just a way of connection for us particularly because men communicate in headlines right women communicate in details so so for man if you say how was your day this is the whole bunch frogs oh it's good it's good it's good really what do you mean was good I got my meetings went well that's a whole bunch right there that's a whole we want to know who was at the meeting wanna see now women on the other hand they communicate in details right so it's like you know I went to the store the other day you know who I saw I saw Jenny and guess what Jenny was wearing that dress remember that dress that I thought that I wear but then when I tried it on you said that it didn't look good on me and then Virginie was rockin that dress you know made me really think again I probably should go back and try to find that dress but you know what I shouldn't because Jenny had it on but anyway Jenny told me that her and Bruce it did you know that that and the kids I haven't seen them and 13 will like but that's the difference in the communication stuff and so it demands then that that you understand that just as my wife said their desire for that level of communication man is not necessarily because they're trying to pry but but that's because they want to get connected and stay connected and understand what's happening in us so if you've ever been to cities like New York or Pittsburgh or San Francisco then you recognize that really to get anywhere you have to cross bridges and that's what open communication does yes in the marriage right it is it is really the bridges that allow your relationship to go to healthy places so open communication is not just a one it's a need yeah it's not that we're trying to grill like pass just said we need communication because it helps us become MPhil part of your life and so God created Eve to be a helper how can we help if you won't communicate so so after the communication the next area you have security communication and then the last one women is leadership okay regardless of who your wife is how much money she makes she wants her husband to lead Wow this does not mean dominate or abuse it means lead men you are supposed to lead in every area spiritually with your family finances disciplining the children and one of the complaints that we get from men often is she expects so much and what's interesting is right on the backside of that you know she wants so much we often get me in saying but I'm the head God gave me the authority right right but while God has given you the authority you can only exercise that authority if you're willing to lead right so so having authority without leadership right without being willing to lead is like having an engine without a car to put it in a basket teach pass I remember before I was even married I was I was going out to lunch with a cup-like with some co-workers and some were single summer married we were all kind of sitting around and I remember I don't know how marriage came up but I was like oh I just can't wait to get married and the merry gentlemen' was like I could never see you married and I was like huh what he said you're too independent headstrong I couldn't imagine you submitting to anyone and I said that's interesting because I do those things because I have to I don't want to I want to be led so men no matter how independent your fiance is your wife she needs you to lead we got we got a couple Amen right up of the year right all right now and a little bit of time we have left so now let's go to the other side all right all right my wife walked the ladies through through their knee so man I need your help right up in through here all right this is this is not the place to be silent right because I want to I want to talk about a husband's basic needs let's jump into it the first most important basic need that every husband has is honor yes thank you see man if you don't say anything then we're gonna give our wives suggestion that oh that's not true right honor is a man's number one need it's just greatest need as a matter of fact in the Old Testament book of Esther in in a bigger spiritual way and also in a smaller practical way that's what the entire book is about you know Vashti is removed from being Queen because of a lack of honor Esther is is recognized and elevated to be the Queen because of honor and this is why I want to show you something in Ephesians 5 and 22 it says why submit to your own husband's as to the Lord this means that the standard in marriage that a wife is supposed to follow particularly as it relates to honor is that she is supposed to honor her husband as unto the Lord or honor her husband submit to has been literally to honor to reverence as she would the Lord and let me tell you why this is so important because that word honor it literally means to add weight to or to esteem to a high level it communicates value that word honor comes from a time when when people would wake oins on a scale and the coins that were significant in value they were heavier they were weighted and what that means then is that when you honor something you value it you you value the weight Indian Orton's that it has in your life this is why when you look at the miracles of Jesus and look at his ministry very closely you will find that every miracle every breakthrough that Jesus performed happened in the life of people who honored who he was Wow the Bible even says that he could do no miracles in Nazareth and you know why because he grew up in Nazareth and they saw him as a commoner in this in this is Joseph's boy they didn't honor him they didn't they didn't put weight of value on what was was on his life and because of that they couldn't receive a they couldn't be a part of the miracles and the breakthrough because it is often tied to honor and so there there many of you that have high expectations for your husband but whether or not he rises to that occasion is connected to how you honor him this is also why demeaning and disrespecting a man can be devastating yes I remember one when when we were dating I remember we were going somewhere and he said okay let me tell you now the moment you disrespect me in public it's over and I was just like okay that's not even my personality but I just thought it was like wow that's just that was that important to him so ladies the yelling out in public or disrespecting him unacceptable that is not honoring him Amen yeah that was game over for me amen but because honor is honor is that important to a man and he may never tell you this but that's why I'm here on this stage telling you a man this morning so could me give you a couple of practical ways you can honor your husband number one allow him to fail boy is quiet I know Derby you you with me a lot more right Aniston you with me you wouldn't me we right here what does this mean it means any woman can honor a man who always succeeds but truthfully there is no such man right it doesn't matter who he is how credentialed and and and you know how successful he is there will be times in all men's lives when we will fail and the real test of honor is how you respond when we do fail every husband is bound to fail in their lifetime right but the difference between a great marriage and a marriage that struggles unnecessarily is how the wife honors the husband when he fails if you dishonor him when he fails and you ain't nothing and your mama well nothing and I told you you know if you go if you go there when he is at his lowest moment it will create a wound that some men will carry with them the rest of their lives let me tell you this if you will honor him listen to me even when he knows he should not be honored yes he know better God will use that in a powerful way to touch his heart but the other thing is it will deepen his love for you in ways that words cannot describe so allow them to fail number one let me give you another practical way honor him listen to me where you want him to be not where he is let's go good that's good honor him where you want him to be not where he is let me show you this in proverbs 31 and verse 23 it says it says this it says her husband this is the virtuous woman is respected at the city gate now proverbs 31 is a very popular passage in the Bible and a lot of ladies look at it to study the characteristics of a virtuous woman but often we skip over this this verse in addition to all of her accomplishments the Bible literally says that she is responsible for a husband's position of honor her husband is honored at the city gates because of her right what what are the city gates represent it means it represents the public sphere right she's not running out saying this joker right here anybody know now she's literally honoring him in the public sphere and that's a part of the characteristics that make her a virtuous woman so if you could imagine this imagine you had a bottle with a cork in it if you pour water in that bottle what's going to happen to the court the courts gonna rise the cork is going to rise to the to the highest level of the water keep pouring water in the cork is going to keep rising the reason I'm teaching you this is because men will rise to the highest level of which you honor them yep that's good if if you just kick them when they're down you know I should the marriage in the first of my mama told me I should in the marriage you know if you do that that they will just stay at that place right but if you honor them pull pouring that honor and praise they will rise to the level of that honor and praise this is why every almost every American sports team in some way shape or form to have cheerleaders even when the team is down the cheerleaders on the side you can't do it and that goes back to something I said earlier man we are called to be gardeners for our lives meaning to to cultivate a great atmosphere in an environment for them to flourish but ladies here's what we desperately need from you we need you to be our cheerleaders you can do it you can do it until a cast here's the next example cover his fault to reflect his strengths if you're gonna honor him this is the big one cover his faults and reflect this strengths this does not mean that you shouldn't be able to have real conversations and talk about needs and challenges in the relationship you ought to be able to do that one-on-one but when you get into the public sphere everywhere else even in front of the kids and certainly to your parents and to your friends and in the public sphere you cannot expose his weaknesses amen you cannot be his kryptonite no you gotta quiet one of the things that I want we were talking earlier one of the things that I do intentionally just out of respect and honor I call him past at all times just because I respect him in his role now I'm not gonna call him van just when I'm just out talking because I respect him now at home I just call him hon but I just never call I just call him pass out of respect in his role so just honoring him everywhere you go that's important you know and I didn't ask her to do that I didn't say you have to do this but it is honoring and the main thing is as wife every man wants to know that he can totally trust you right right even even with his deepest weaknesses you know but that's what it's about it's about cannot be completely vulnerable and open and trust you and as a man kind of dis robes and shows that to you if you expose that you may never see that side of him again right as a matter of fact let's go back to the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 and notice what it says in verse 11 it says her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value she brings him good not harm all the days of her life teach pass pass so let me give you the final two things as we're running out of time here three biggest needs of a man number one is honor gave you some practical ways that you can always honor your husband but here's another one physical intimacy and then there they are they they woke up hey gentlemen I live right there right physical intimacy why ladies listen to me physical intimacy is a powerful force in a man's life now listen to me wives you are God's only legitimate resource for satisfying your husband's physical intimacy needs a man but listen to me why is this puts you in a very very important place now often there are women who understand the intensity of a man's you know Drive for physical intimacy but often they don't want to meet that need as often as a man desires it and however you are in your own marriage I just want you to understand this there are two important things that you've got to understand when you reject your husband's desire for physical intimacy when a wife rejects her husband's need for physical intimacy you're not just rejecting that need you're also rejecting him so if I'm sleepy I'm rejecting you so you can't separate the two but here's the here's the bigger thing here's the bigger thing yeah I just think wake up wake up wake up here here here's the bigger thing no listen to me wives when you refuse to meet this need it leaves your husband vulnerable yes the temptation outside of the marriage that's real I want to read this scripture to you I don't know if they could put it up or they got it up they'll put it up on the screen 1st Corinthians 7 in verses 2 through 5 want to read this the Apostle Paul says this he says it is good for man to have a wife and for a woman to have a husband sexual drives are strong but marriage is strong enough to contain them and they provide for a balanced and fulfilling sexual life in a world of sexual disorder wow that is the world we live in the marriage bed must be a place of mutuality the husband seeking to satisfy his wife the wife seeking to satisfy her husband marriage is not the place to stand up for your i'm i well alright marriage is a decision to serve the other whether in bed or out abstaining from sex is permissible for a period of time if you both agree to it amen amen and amen and if it's for the purposes of prayer and fasting but only for such times then come back together again why the satan has an ingenious way of tempting us when we least expected yes so good here's the last thing kindred fellowship what are what are the needs of your husband the biggest needs cuz we communicate on to these needs honor physical intimacy kindred fellowship what does that mean when you marry a person you don't just marry them you marry everything that made them who they are right and this is critical not just for wives but this is really critical for husbands because it means wives that you also marry the things that your husband enjoys right invisible intimacy is not the only thing that your husband is looking for he's looking for a best friend when I was growing up I don't know if you remember there was this dog called my buddy my buddy my buddy you know and had the kid taking the buddy you know what that's a picture of that's a picture of marriage that's what your husband ought to say about you you're my buddy because we go everywhere we do things together and and that's one of the most important things that he is looking for can I tell you one of the greatest tricks ladies that you can play on a man is is to be interested in what he's interested in when you're dating and then the moment you get married you don't have interest in that stuff anymore there are a number of marriages that are struggling unnecessarily because he thought that you really did like the stuff he liked that you liked going to the gym yeah you know he really did oh man we can work out together he's dreaming can't say every man's dreams is for his wife to love the stuff he loves if you could if you could get in a men's huddle and hear them talk about their wives one of the coolest things that a man will say is oh man we went to the game together my wife and I or or whether the football game or whatever it is that he really likes to do wow man my wife went hunting with me oh we had a blast because that's a big deal for us so I loved basketball for an example my wife doesn't really care about basketball at all but one of the coolest things is when she watches basketball with me I really enjoy that I enjoy that when we go to the games together and she can't even pronounce the names of the players she's like no what did they just do is that her is that a four point I'm like a four point in a basketball but the mere fact that she's there and we're enjoying it together that means a whole bunch like when I go skiing not my favorite thing to do yeah yeah but I enjoy it and the fact that we do it together it means a big big big big deal she doesn't she complains a lot but you know but once again it's about finding that kindred fellowship and I'm not saying that you have to love everything that your husband loves but I am trying to make you aware of how big a deal it is and to find that commonality right and if you can it'll deepen the marriage bond and it will make sure that the devil doesn't get a fill-in amen you know how a fair start affairs don't start because somebody woke up one morning and said you know I just think I'm have an affair affairs often happened because these deep needs in a woman and in a man go neglected for so long and you know what the person speaks to went when often the fair happens they speak to those needs I've said across my wife and I prayed for couples in LA I can't believe he did it with her and I could she's not even at a track it's not about that every time it's about the fact that you know what she honored him oh you're so strong oh you're so great she's soldered it it's it's it's about the fact that physical intimacy sure anytime anywhere it's about the fact that kendra fellowship wow your wife don't want to go to the game with you I ordered a game with you yep well I guess that's not my thing okay that's fine if it's not but the enemy will find somebody else the thing it is yes and I want you to hear me as as we close the main reason and I know there's some of you who may feel like well this is not you know it's not kind of Sunday morning message I'm looking for and you know that kind of thing and I pray that your heart is open to receive what we're sharing with you this month because while it is different it's necessary let me tell you why yes because a lot of the things that we end up reacting to in society crime and and our kids and a lot of the things that we spend so much time praying about and even trying to address reactively in society all comes back to the failure of the family yes it has been scientifically proven psychologists have studied this I mean all manner of scientists have studied this that if you really want to understand the ills in society every single one of them go back to the failure of the family the overwhelming amount of men that imprison you know the highest percentage of them in prison grew up in families where fathers were not there yes you want to understand why our kids often failing in school of what crime is so high it ultimately goes back to the failure of the family doc created the world he created birds bees the animals trees then he created Adam and Eve and everything else in society was built upon the family civilization society and everything in it did not come until God created Adam and Eve because the family is the foundation that's why the enemies after the family the way that he's after it because the enemy knows that if he can destroy the family then he can destroy society and we know what he wants to do he only has three goals to steal kill and ultimately destroy and so our prayer is that something that we share this morning that it would encourage you to lean in to your marriage or even if you're single to have a better understanding of how things ought to function not by the world standards - by the Word of God because the word works if you work [Music] [Music] [Applause] [Music] we hope you enjoyed this message for more resources visit the warships NRC Seaborg and been moody horn you will also find Van moody on all social media platforms again we thank you for your support [Music]

Channel: The Worship Center with Van Moody

Views: 635

Rating: 5 out of 5

Keywords: worship, faith, word of God, HUB, community, unify, build people, salvation, resurrection, van moody, Pastor Van, The Worship Center, TWC, Jesus, Relationships, Dating, Marriage, Single

Id: r33VPooscRA

Length: 48min 24sec (2904 seconds)

Published: Wed Oct 31 2018